In short
How comedy and math overlap as empirical, instant-feedback “feedback loops,” and why people feel stupid when they’re actually being taught badly; includes advice on learning, validation, and career “destination vs route,” plus a brief Porsche Macan ad.
Guest
Matthew Broussard, comedian and creator of Monday Punday. Background: former financial analyst in private wealth management; started doing open mics after college; comedy cost him his finance job (Oct 4, 2013) and he rebuilt with college gigs within ~2 months. He tutors math (College volunteer org), including calculus/linear algebra.
Key claims
Stand-up is “extremely empirical” like math—hypothesis/conclusion in a heartbeat—so comedians iterate with real-time audience data. Feeling stupid is normal; the mindset should be “I haven’t found a way to learn this yet,” not “I’m dumb.” Social media can distort goals by optimizing clicks/likes like a “local optimum.” Vulnerability/humiliation trains comedians for acting and builds community.
Notable examples
tutoring calculus concepts; “seven different ways” to learn; airport dog paperwork “Let me speak to your master” story; suffrage momentum inspiration; Comedy Central footage repurposed into TikTok/Instagram during the pandemic.
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Chapters
Tap a time to open that second in VOFrom Finance to Comedy
1:40 to 5:30
Matthew shares his transition from financial analyst to comedian and the challenges faced.
“And when they reached out to us and asked if I would be comfortable to talk about the new Porsche Macan, well, let's just say I already owned one.”
Internet Impact on Comedy
5:30 to 8:10
Exploration of how the internet has changed the landscape of comedy and the challenges it presents.
“So I was kind of burning the candle at both ends and through some mistakes on my part.”
The Vulnerability of Comedy
8:10 to 14:00
Discussion on how vulnerability and humiliation play roles in comedy and acting.
“That might be a route, but even that's becoming less of a sure thing.”
The Need for Validation in Comedy
14:00 to 18:31
Explore the balance between the need for external validation and the fear of failure in comedians.
“The benefits outweigh the risks, which is why you do it.”
Adventures in Driving a Porsche Macan
18:31 to 20:46
An entertaining recount of a driving experience in a Porsche Macan, highlighting its features.
“We interrupt this episode to have an ad with authenticity.”
Math Tutoring and Personal Insights
20:46 to 22:46
Discussion on tutoring math, personal experiences with math education, and teaching methods.
“There's this volunteer organization I work through, College.”
Redefining Math Education
22:46 to 25:08
Insight into improving math education through visual and engaging methods.
“What good mathematicians, I believe, possess is the ability to hold big pictures in their mind and manipulate them, which is a good gift and it gives people some abilities.”
Embracing Stupidity in Learning
25:08 to 28:04
A discussion on the importance of accepting ignorance and the learning process in math.
“There is nothing ironic about that, which is as a kid with ADHD in high school, I struggled to read.”
Learning Through Feeling Stupid
28:04 to 30:25
Embracing feelings of stupidity is key to effective learning.
“And the first read will always feel, I'll feel like an idiot.”
The Challenge of Understanding Concepts
30:25 to 31:49
Revisiting complex ideas can lead to better comprehension over time.
“Because what might unlock it for me might not for another person.”
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Vulnerability in Comedy
31:49 to 34:20
Vulnerability can enhance connection and relatability in comedy.
“It's like, it's like when you're bad at swimming and you try to swim, you get across the pool.”
The Shift from Edginess to Authenticity
34:20 to 37:16
Comedy evolves from offensive humor to genuine vulnerability and self-awareness.
“To me, it's my favorite part about comedy is when you can share something that you're embarrassed by.”
Ambitions and Aspirations in Comedy
37:16 to 41:46
Comedians navigate aspirations within the industry while remaining true to their craft.
The Importance of Live Comedy
41:46 to 42:01
Live comedy fosters human connection in a digital age of isolation.
The Unique Experience of Live Comedy
42:01 to 43:24
Explore the differences between live comedy and theater, emphasizing audience interaction.
Growth Through The Iceberg Metaphor
43:25 to 44:35
Matthew discusses viewing his career as an iceberg, focusing on visible achievements versus hidden potential.
“Um, I think of my work like an iceberg, right?”
Destination versus Route in Life
44:36 to 46:28
An exploration of the difference between focusing on the destination versus the route in achieving goals.
“i like finding different angles to it and to me what the iceberg represents is i still haven't cracked it yet.”
Optimization in Life Choices
46:29 to 48:28
Discussion on optimization and finding the best path in life while avoiding pitfalls of short-term metrics.
“They have fixed routes, but not 100 % clarity of where they're going.”
The Dangers of Social Media Feedback
48:29 to 50:24
How social media can corrupt the creative process and influence comedians' decisions.
“You're going to do a lot of things that are...”
Navigating Ethical Standards in Comedy
50:25 to 52:05
Discussion on maintaining personal standards and ethical values in the pursuit of success.
“You're right, because even your act can be, even in the room, be corrupted by just trying to make those people laugh as hard as you can.”
Memorable Moments in Comedy
52:06 to 56:00
Matthew shares his experiences performing on Conan and other significant moments that shaped his career.
“Revisit your earlier self and what your old standards were, but also don't be so precious.”
The Boldness of Comedy
56:00 to 56:44
Explore how comedians express political honesty and connect with audiences.
“And again, I put it out there knowing it might not make a splash at all, but it also might really connect.”
Childhood Memories and Personal Projects
56:44 to 58:06
Matthew shares memorable childhood experiences and creative projects.
The Drive for Personal Accomplishment
58:06 to 1:01:01
Discussing the intrinsic motivations behind personal achievements.
“You said it was my personal best for this run, that it was familiarity, there was a learning curve that got you there.”
Identity Beyond Achievements
1:01:01 to 1:03:05
Matthew discusses the importance of separating identity from accomplishments.
“That felt very good to hear you say all that.”
Daily Validation and Productivity Hacks
1:03:05 to 1:04:09
Exploring techniques to boost productivity and self-affirmation.
“So one thing that really helps me every day is when I sit down, I have a to-do list, and I write a list of all the things I'm doing well.”
Transcript
Automatic transcript. May contain errors.0:00My love for math and my love for comedy and science, I don't think they're separate entities. I was not an artist by training. I think an artist creates things whose value is measured subjectively. Stand-up comedy specifically sits at an odd intersection in that you could almost not qualify it as art because every decision I make is focus grouped in real time. It's empirical. It's extremely empirical. I think that was my draw to it.
0:25Simon Sinek:And instant results. Instantly. Like math. The math, the solution is revealed in that moment. Yes. And comedy, the solution is revealed in that moment. Hypothesis, conclusion, in a heartbeat. In a heartbeat. In a heartbeat. I was surprised when I invited a comedian on the show that we would spend so much time talking about math. But it's to be expected. Matthew Broussard is a former financial analyst who, let's just say, got forced into stand-up comedy. I found his work on Instagram a whole bunch of years ago and am a huge fan. He's also the creator of Monday Punday, the official name of his channel that is chock full of comedy and, thank goodness, not much math.
1:03Simon Sinek:This nerd at heart taught me an invaluable life lesson. At various times, we all feel stupid, which very often results in us actually believing we're stupid. I, for one, always thought that I was bad at math. But as Matthew explained it to me, I'm not stupid. I was just taught badly. In this episode, we talk about curiosity, finding good teachers, and mothers. This is a bit of optimism.
1:36Simon Sinek:This episode is brought to you by Porsche and their new Macan. And when they reached out to us and asked if I would be comfortable to talk about the new Porsche Macan, well, let's just say I already owned one. That's actually my car. So the simple answer was yes. So I discovered you on the Instagram because comedians pop up in my feed. Apparently the algorithm knows I like funny things. And so you were randomly thrust into my day. And I went down the Matthew Broussard rabbit hole. Like you like one and all of a sudden. I'm in your face. An hour later, I'm like, shit, I should start work. You are exceptionally smart.
2:18Simon Sinek:Thank you. I appreciate it. I have to imagine that somebody has said to you at some point, you're too smart to be a comedian. What are you doing with your life? My parents have definitely said that. I was, I've, yeah, my parents didn't want me to pursue comedy. I was told from a very young age that I had above average math skills specifically. And that was a very employable skill to have. and that skill was luckily fostered quite strongly and I was able to learn. I was also very curious. I was pretty self-motivated with it. I went to college for it and it really wasn't until I tried an open mic that I even conceived of the notion that I could do anything else with my life besides use math to make money.
3:08Simon Sinek:Because you talk about math principles in your comedy sometimes. So we know that you know math. You also seem to like science and you have an exceptional grasp of other things, I guess it's part of memory. I mean, we were having coffee when you arrived, and we're talking about the oxidization of coffee in a metal container. I mean, the fact that we're having this conversation is ridiculous. And it went beyond, tastes better, not in metal. You know, like the point is, is, is I'm so curious how you picked the path of greater risk, more joy, perhaps. That's a question, I guess. Yes. Thank you. Like, is this a conversation about do the thing you have aptitude for versus follow your, follow your dreams and follow your passions?
3:59I, so I was, I think, more pragmatic about it than most. I had my first job out of college. I was working as a financial analyst, but not Wall Street, like easy hours, not the craziest pay, nine to five. I made spreadsheets for the most part. I didn't feel a sense of pride in what I did. It was private wealth management. My job was to make rich people richer, and I didn't have a product I created, so some part of me felt a little empty doing that. Perhaps if I had been an engineer or a coder and there was an actual product I was creating, I could have taken more pride in that. but I started doing open mics and I saw just just for fun just for fun yeah well I mean I I thought wouldn't it be cool to do this full time but I knew the odds were very low and I said let's try it and the information was muddled at first but there was an overall positive trend that I might have been towards the higher end of aptitude for a beginner and I I told myself, just keep noting where you stand against the ranks and how that extrapolates towards a career in this.
5:05But hold on for dear life to the career path you've worked very hard to have. Because I was still young, but stepping away from that could hurt. And I mean, I could never potentially get back to the same level that I was on track for.
5:19Simon Sinek:So you were parallel pathing it until one path revealed that this is a risk worth taking. Yes. Well, what actually happened was comedy cost me my job in finance. So I was kind of burning the candle at both ends and through some mistakes on my part. Because comedy happens late at night if you're an open mic guy. Yes. And in California and trying to trying to do more and more. And it was because comedy was going fairly well that I was trying to move and trying to do more than I should have been doing. I ended up fairly losing my job and that was the worst day of my life I think it was October 4th 2013 I was in California I didn't have a place to live I was staying with a friend everything I own was in my car and had to figure out like what I was going to do and I said well this is uh you know my bank account is now my shot clock so let's really go for it and uh honestly not that harrowing things kind of worked out within like two months I started booking college gigs yeah I'm always fascinated by people who, I mean, show business is a hard business.
6:21Simon Sinek:And I'm curious if the internet has made it easier or harder for you. Because yes, exposure is easier. I mean, case in point, here we are because of the interwebs, because of social media. But at the same time, there is so much. There are so many open mic night, you know, little, some talent too. There's some talented the people but there's so is it better worse or just different challenges there's a lot to unpack their comedy is stand-up comedy is the beauty of it is there's low barrier to entry yeah the horror of it is there's low barrier to entry right meaning you are fighting through swarms of people an actor at least gets goes through acting school and has some audition process hopefully musicians have to have the aptitude to play an instrument or sing uh anyone can do it and now anyone can post it online comedy is like anyone can stand on the stage and perform yes and there's also no training for comedy besides getting on stage and performing there's no school or class you can go to you have to to to be good you have to be on stage a lot but to be on stage a lot you have to be good right so it's a very difficult track to get started in uh the internet though the interesting thing with the internet was i was very fortunate in the early days of my stand-up I was favored by the industry, Comedy Central, Conan.
7:45I got put on a lot of shows, which was nice. It didn't translate into having a fan base. Those were the waning days of media. Not for me, at least. Some luck, some recognition, but I wasn't selling a ton of tickets off of that. Social media wasn't the way comedians were exposed back then. And then the pandemic hit, and then that was really the end of that. Those things don't make stars anymore. I've never been on Netflix. That might be a route, but even that's becoming less of a sure thing. Things changed for me on the business end when during the pandemic, I realized Comedy Central was asleep at the wheel in terms of copyright issues.
8:23So I went back. I took my half hour. I took my Conan set. I took every set I did on television. You pulled that footage off of YouTube and started cutting it up into Instagram reels and TikToks. And that's when people started knowing my comedy and sharing my comedy and recognizing me. So it was an interesting lesson. And rather than say feeling defeated by this, looking at it as an opportunity to use that footage to, you know, I believed in this thing I'd already done. And then I thought maybe if I can just get people to see this, I could start making an audience for myself. And that that worked to an extent.
8:55To an extent.
8:55Simon Sinek:Why is it? And obviously, that's where that's where the wheat and the chaff separate, because you get more likes, you get more forwards. The algorithm favors you. You'll do better. You'll get it. You'll get a following. i have a theory which i'm that i think comedians make great actors you know you look at people who with backgrounds in comedy that became great actors you know jim carrey um robin williams um jamie fox these are comedians michael keaton michael keaton really was a stand-up was he really yes uh uh tom hanks started doing comedy not a stand-up but that was So all of these, especially the ones who did stand-up, Michael Keaton didn't know, especially the ones who do stand-up, I think they have the ability to become great actors because they get, this is my theory, because vulnerability and humiliation are something they're attuned to.
9:49Simon Sinek:Like they have been, every comedian has bombed, every comedian has been humiliated, every comedian has stood there knowing that it is going incredibly badly and you have to finish your set. and what a great actor has to tap into is the ability to be that vulnerable, that sort of to persevere and comedians just have a good training to be good actors. Comment. Can I disagree? Of course. It's a theory. It's a great theory. Theories are to be tested. I think you're right and the beauty of comedy is the humiliation, is the vulnerability. I really don't think great comedy can last very long without that, without that typically vulnerability that makes other people feel less alone.
10:35Here's what I think separates stand-up comedy, and potentially why I'm not as good of an actor because of being a stand-up comedian. If you were giving someone a massage and they were just completely silent, would you know what you were doing? You might be good at it, you might not. What if they were telling you that's the spot, go harder there, and even moaning, or going ow when you hit bad spots, which person do you think you would give a better massage to? The vocal one. I like, if I can be a bit long-winded here, my love for math and my love for comedy and science, I don't think they're separate entities.
11:11I was not an artist by training. I think an artist creates things whose value is measured subjectively. stand-up comedy specifically sits at an odd intersection in that you could almost not qualify it as art because every decision i make is focus grouped in real time it's empirical it's extremely empirical i think that was my draw to an instant result instantly like math the math
11:37Simon Sinek:the solution is revealed in that moment yes and comedy the solution is revealed hypothesis conclusion in a heartbeat in a heartbeat in a heartbeat and then you can iterate endlessly I didn't I'll change the same way yeah I'll change one word and I'll try a one three different words in the same joke and go okay based on a lot of data noisy data but data I know this word is the funniest and that's not the whole process obviously you have to trust yourself more than that because there's too many variables but uh that process is really wonderful to me and I think it allows uh maybe not most artistically inclined people to be somewhat better at stand-up because someone tells you when you're good and bad um the reason i struggle with acting especially film acting is because i don't know what i'm doing well or poorly and when my brain hears silence it panics and thinks it's doing something wrong i think theater actors um the other side of that is standard comedians and theater actors also have had lots of time knowing when they're doing well and knowing when they're doing poorly and then then it starts to become craft yes and uh uh unconscious competence, the highest level of the four.
12:43Yes. So that's very neat to me. And just looking at it more of a science and empirical feedback loop.
12:51Simon Sinek:Little end narcissism, not big end narcissism, but there's a little end narcissism to that, right? Which is feed me, feed me, feed me, right? I think a lot, yeah. I think a constant need for validation, yeah. And is that an insecurity or is it a bug or a feature? sure oh uh both uh yeah i i think if i could properly validate myself without external sources i don't think i would need to do stand-up comedy i think it's a need for validation i think it's a it's a it's a whole uh and i think it's probably common in other entertainers and potentially even business people yeah would you would you agree that it's something some of them some of them i think the ones that are more money driven the ones that i've met that are very very money money driven for them the amount of money that they can achieve or the stock price they can drive whatever it is is a direct validation that they're good smart etc um even though there may or may not be that correlation it's the only yardstick they can find it's it's and it's an and it's an empirical yard stick and it's a measurable yardstick it's a it's a yardstick that they can hold up to somebody else and be like see right and somebody goes i disagree they're like but you're wrong because here's what it says on on the spreadsheet yes so so this plays to the trope that comedians are all a little broken yes yeah i don't i don't i think that's broken is maybe over overstating it overstating it but but but the but that need for that need for external validation but who doesn't have that i guess it's just is the need for validation higher than the fear of failure and i guess for comedians that's because I think a lot of people, I guess a lot of people are very afraid of standup, but to me the result was so juicy that it was worth falling on my face.
14:42Simon Sinek:Right, right. Yeah. The benefits outweigh the risks, which is why you do it. Do you get a rush out of speaking publicly? Is that like, you must enjoy it. I think there's no avoiding the adrenaline. Standing in front of huge audiences sometimes, there's no avoiding the enjoyment of the adrenaline. and I think what separates the good ones from the mediocre ones is for some the adrenaline translates into fear and anxiety and for the good ones we've learned to translate the adrenaline into presence and energy and focus and it's all about you so the adrenaline is my friend yes it makes me better at what I do but I mean of course of course it feels good nobody can deny that And of course, I like it when I get it.
15:32Simon Sinek:The question is, do I need it? And I don't. What is the part of what you do that is the most satisfying? So I am driven, the hard thing for my work is, and you make the difference between sort of the scientist and the artist, you know, the empirical versus the subjective, which is, though I have empirical metrics, you know i have views of videos and i have forwards and i have you know book sales and those things are indicators to me but the thing that that drives me is is impact what means the most to me is that i'm undoing everything jack welch ever did like i want to reverse everything that man broke in capitalism the why yeah yeah but like i have a i have a i'm chipping away You know, and like the people that drive me and inspire me.
16:28Simon Sinek:So like all the founding members of the American women's suffrage movement all died before the first one voted. None of them lived to see a woman vote. The reason that inspires me is they still never gave up. It was never in their grasp, yet they continued because their metric was momentum, not result. They obviously wanted the result. They would have preferred it happened in their lifetime. Of course, we know all these things. But the ability to measure momentum and have the peace of mind to know that upon my death, others will take this torch and continue without me, and that means my work was worth it.
17:11That, to me, is super inspiring. That's very noble. That's really wonderful. I think my ego is too strong that I need to see it and get credit for anything I'm a part of. So I'm not a good person. But that's lovely. It's like generational starships. I read a lot about it. Like in sci-fi, it's a common thing in sci-fi. A spaceship will take off towards whatever other star, and the original inhabitants know they will die before it gets there. But the children's children might see the new world.
17:43Simon Sinek:Don't get me wrong. There's no nobility here. I like instant gratification. I like results. Like, you know, I like all those things. You know, it's not an either or, it's a both. And the mindset, the infinite mindset that's required to have that has some very different standards, which is I have no choice but to rely on people, need people, trust people. I have no choice. I can't be a lone wolf. Then it would never work. Right. And so, and again, not better or worse. And I think the opportunity for all of us is to understand where we're selfishly driven, totally fine, and where we're not. Not.
18:31Simon Sinek:We interrupt this episode to have an ad with authenticity. This episode is brought to you by Porsche and their new Macan, which is my actual car. I had it before they called. I didn't want to make some ridiculous over-the-top car commercial. So instead, we went out to a closed track to have a little fun. And just to keep me humble, they brought along race car driver Patrick Long. And if I'm really honest, it did get a little over the top. So I'm not going to lie, right? So I have a Porsche Macan 4, an electric Porsche, and it has three modes. It has comfort, sport, and off-road. I thought the off-road setting was a joke.
19:19Simon Sinek:It's a freaking Porsche. It's a race car, pedigree. like they put it there I don't know in case there's some wet leaves on the road and you know but we're now about to do an off-road test here where I'm going to drive up an extremely steep dirt road and so I think we get that we're going to come down that that's ridiculous I'm about to eat my hat so basically the radar is um flashing because it thinks I'm going to hit another car That's how steep this road is that I'm going up. Where's my handles? The fact that I'm going up a hill and I can't see anything but sky, and I'm convinced that I'm going to go over the top here and die, but here it goes.
20:02This is amazing. We're about six, eight stories up in the air right now.
20:07Simon Sinek:This is ridiculous. I'm just looking straight down at the ground. This is so ridiculous. It's wild. Ridiculous. That's so wild. That was incredible. I'm not going to lie. I thought the whole thing was a farce, and it's not. Like you said, the grip, I feel like there's these claws or, like, a spider, how it sort of just grabs whatever it can as it's coming up or down. That's super cool. You did a great job there. Oh, thank you very much.
20:42Simon Sinek:Do you still do math? Yes. Yeah. Like, for fun? I tutor. Oh. Which is great. At what level? I'm lucky. There's this volunteer organization I work through, College. So I greedily go for kind of the classes at very much the end of my range because those are more fun than going back to the earlier stuff. But College, a lot of like engineers, calculus, calc 2, calc 3, linear algebra. Wow. Those are the fun stuff. I'm trying to do something. I think it's like maybe like a partial differential equations this semester and I'm like really having to catch up between sessions on stuff I didn't learn that well the first time so it's amazing how opposite we are you don't like math um I don't dislike it I I don't have an instinct for it like I can I can I never I'm very proud of this actually I've managed to go through all of high school and college and never took calculus so I don't know anything about calculus I don't know what it is.
21:41Simon Sinek:I understand algebra. I understand geometry. And trigonometry, you start to lose me. Trigonometry sucks. There's some bad stops along the way. It's like a series. There's going to be episodes that are duds, but you look at it in its entirety. Calculus, I know nothing about. Calculus is a function. The function is you put in X, you get a Y, right? And you can get a curve with that, right? Yeah. Calculus is just, well, how steep is that curve? That's it. And what's the practical application of calculus? The steepness of a curve would represent oftentimes the speed. If position, building a position, the steepness is the speed.
22:18So the application is physics and things like that? Physics, chemistry, a lot of stuff. Finance, and then speed, and then acceleration. If you go another level deeper, it's acceleration. But if you reverse that process, if you have the graph of speed, then you take the area underneath it, and that gives you the distance. That's basically calculus in a nutshell.
22:38Simon Sinek:I have to say that's interesting. Now, this is what I'm really passionate about. If I could restart and didn't have to do comedy and wanted to do another dream, it's that math education is – we're doing it very wrong. What good mathematicians, I believe, possess is the ability to hold big pictures in their mind and manipulate them, which is a good gift and it gives people some abilities. but what I think is needed is just making those pictures. Those pictures don't exist. Those videos don't exist. There's concepts I learned in college that I thought I knew, and I went through the process, and I struggled to learn them, and I applied them.
23:21And then now, 20 years later, I'll see a 10-second video on YouTube, and I go, that's what that was? That's what was happening? You never showed me that. You never showed me in three dimensions with colors and moving images what was happening. And now that I see that, everything I did is unlocked. If you just had those visuals, not everyone's going to understand math. But if you had the proper, we're teaching math with a static image drawn on a chalkboard. It should be done by the people at Pixar. It should be dimensions of time, three dimensions of space. And yet we're limiting to zero dimensions of time, two dimensions of space.
23:56Simon Sinek:Here's what I'm taking away from this. This is, and light bulbs are going off, right? And now I realize we're actually more alike. which is what you and I both do is we take complex ideas and we make them that people understand it either so that you have clarity or you can find the humor in the thing right because it's the kind of same thing right which is you're you're you're pointing out the absurdities of life the absurdities of your mom you know and and you it's presented in a way like what makes a great comedian from an okay comedian is that you're presenting it in a way that there's that I can relate to the story, which is why I find it funny.
24:33Simon Sinek:It's not just the story, right? It's not just the funny thing that happened. The telling of it matters. And math and adjacent subjects have always been for those who have the math mind, quote unquote. It never occurred to me that it was just being taught badly. It's being taught horribly. That if you taught me math the way you tell jokes or the way I explain an idea, because people think that I'm joking when I say this, but I think of myself as an idiot. And I mean that 100%. There is nothing ironic about that, which is as a kid with ADHD in high school, I struggled to read. I struggled to study.
25:20Simon Sinek:I couldn't learn by rote. And so I still got to pass high school. So you have two options, fail or figure it out. So what I learned to do was be really good at asking questions, get really good at listening. I had to attend class. I couldn't cut school because if I cut. And when I was in college, I had to choose professors who were good at explaining because I could never rely on the book to catch up. Yeah. Right. And that skill of learning to survive and turn my ADHD into an advantage rather than a deficit gave me this capacity in the future, which is when I hear complex things that people are trying to explain to me, I have no fear.
26:02Simon Sinek:I can't have any fear. It's a survival thing. It's not a courage thing. I have no fear to say, I don't understand. Can you explain it differently? and then they'll try again. I'll say, is this what you're trying to say? And I'll say it in simple terms that I can understand. Yeah. And I go backwards and forwards and backwards and forwards and backwards and forwards until I be like, and I'm drawing little pictures and using metaphors and analogies simply because my little brain is trying to understand this complex thing that you're trying to explain to me. And eventually I understand it because I've boiled it down to something very, very simple.
26:30Simon Sinek:Yeah. So simple that not only do I understand it, but I can then tell somebody else and then they go, got it. And I get all the credit, which is not fair, for being the, but I was just trying to understand the complex thing in the first place. And where it fails is when the person's trying to explain it to me and they can't, then I can't understand it because I don't have that analytical kind of mind that just understands sort of math and equations. People don't understand it quickly. This is, I think, the great myth of people who... No, no, no, people do. People can do math in their heads very easily.
27:02No, no. This was said by someone else. I think it was said by Matt Parker of Stand Up Maths. But he said that anyone who studies math is constantly bombarded by frustration, but you embrace the frustration. You know that you're going to feel pain and you're going to feel anger. And then in one moment, all of those negative feelings are going to snap to positive feelings. And that's the moment of understanding. And what people who pursue any kind of field of study know is that you have to look it in the face and not back down. That's the moment where –
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27:36Simon Sinek:Where can you adjust? So like when I look at financial information like for the company, right? I always ask the finance person, show me a chart and a graph. Like show me – I want to see the visual. I want to see the trend. I want to see the profit and loss done in pretty pictures because then I can understand it. When you just show me huge spreadsheets of number, I just gloss over. Sure. I struggle. But some people like they look at those huge spreadsheets and they're like, ah, you're one of those people. No, I mean, well, the analog for me would be I'm constantly trying to learn new things in math.
28:09And the first read will always feel, I'll feel like an idiot. But I know, like, you should feel stupid. Feeling stupid is part of it. And admit that you're stupid. Admit you don't know. And I will look at one thing, read it, and go, I don't like that. And I'll look up seven different ways of explaining it. Until the seventh one, I'm like, this time I get it. And I'll also have to read it over and over again. I don't think that it's necessarily some people just inherently get it. they're just willing to admit they're stupid and like you're saying i love it keep simplifying it until there's one aspect of it you get and then what's the next thing you can add to that what
28:41Simon Sinek:you just said was absolute genius i no no no too much but no no no what you just said was absolute genius which is a perfect like which is what we do when we feel stupid is we watch or read the same thing over and over and over again to try to understand it each time blaming ourselves for being stupid what you're saying is and this is the genius show me seven different ways to explain it until i understand it right which is whether it's a leadership concept or a financial concept or a scientific concept or any kind of concept that you're struggling with it's okay to feel stupid it's okay to maybe reread it once or twice but then go seek out and and this is where the internet is the greatest gift it's wonderful which is you can go down a youtube rabbit hole yes and have And you can start, you can hit play and be like, yeah, and you can hit play until somebody, somebody, it makes sense to you.
29:34Simon Sinek:And then you'll understand this difficult concept. And by feeling a little less stupid in that moment from that explanation, A, you're learning how you learn. But B, now you have the grit because you're not blaming. The grit, the patience, and the humility. Because here's what we're doing, right? I feel stupid. It becomes a story to ourselves. I am stupid. And then you just, I don't do math. I don't understand math. I'm no good at math. What the story should be is I have yet to find somebody who can explain math in a way to me that I can understand it. That is the correct mindset. Plus some patience, plus rereading it.
30:11Simon Sinek:Like people thought that we were going to be funny. We have Matthew Broussard and we're going to talk about learning uh but no but this is i never want anybody to feel dumb again this is going to be my mantra i'm going to say or we're all dumb we all feel dumb all the time we all but the mantra is don't blame yourself blame the way you're being taught yes and and have patience with those teaching and then you're talking about communication there's two learning takes someone who's patient enough to learn and someone who's patient enough to teach and again i'm i'm very familiar with concepts, can you tell me a different way?
30:50Can you tell me a different way? Can you tell me a different way? Because what might unlock it for me might not for another person. I've been doing something lately that's been something I didn't do in college, which, I'm sorry, the internet comment, I think about that so often of when I was in college and I was trying to understand a concept in one of my harder classes, singular value decomposition, let's say that one because it sounds smart. The only thing I could do was go to Wikipedia and read the page for it. You know who wrote that page? My professor. My professors in college wrote all the Wikipedia pages for the concepts we were learning because it wasn't widely shared knowledge at that point.
31:25Now, if I want to understand that, there's seven YouTube videos I could watch. And perhaps the fifth one is when I really get it because they did a good job with the visuals. I've also been reading math textbooks just to learn things I've always wanted to learn at a snail's pace. But something I didn't realize was I thought I was just not good at reading math textbooks because I'll read one page. think I get it. And the second page, my brain goes to mush. Like the endurance over two pages. It's like, it's like when you're bad at swimming and you try to swim, you get across the pool. You're like, that was easy.
31:54And then you can't make it to the next wall. And then I talked to someone who was a math PhD. They go, that's how it is. One page a day is, is a great rate. It's just that hard.
32:03Simon Sinek:Wow. And, and the people who accomplish it, forget how hard it was or want you to think they're smart. And it's that hard for everyone. I feel that way about comedy. every every line I have that makes the crowd laugh feels like a miracle and it's like I think how rarely I write two jokes in the same day yeah like every every punchline you hear is one day of my life and that was the accomplishment for that day even if it's just like three words they get like a chuckle it's such a it's what's what's who's famous line if you saw the work put into it it would not be impressive at all. Yeah. Yeah. I, I think for me, maybe for other standups, maybe not.
32:41It's just not an easy process. It's laborious, but that's what it takes to make something that's engaging. And I, I imagine you feel the same way about your work. It's just, it's not easy.
32:52Simon Sinek:It's, my process is a little different. I'm curious. I'm curious. Are you good at crowd work? Like, no. Okay. No, I need to learn how to listen better. I think that's the problem. Okay. Cause the people who are good at crowd work, when they're good at it. It's a thing to behold. It's cool. It's a thing to behold. They're patient. They have, that's like a real zen state. You have to be calm. You have to make the crowd feel like they're okay. You have to take what they're saying. Know when to ask another question or know when you have enough stuff to put together. Yeah. And when to have emotional responses, when to try to be clever, when to just try to repeat back what's happening.
33:26I would love to be better at it. One thing that I love about your work
33:32Simon Sinek:is, first of all, super vulnerable. Like you share things. I don't know if they're jokes or if they're true because I know there's some truth, but I also know that, you know, when you get on a good idea, you can play with it. But I just watched a bit about your inability to please your wife. That is 100 % true. Yeah, that is. I mean, like, does she want that out there? I understand that you don't mind. I understand that you don't mind having it out there. There's two players in this game. She was a very good sport about that. For a while, I was like, can we talk about this? She was like, oh, that's a lot.
34:06And then I think at one point she was just like, you know what? It's a good thing to share with people who feel the same way, both men and women who struggle with that. And it might make people feel more comfortable about themselves, more comfortable in their relationships. So it's a good thing to share with people. I love vulnerability. To me, it's my favorite part about comedy is when you can share something that you're embarrassed by. and now instead of being embarrassed by it, you feel a sense of community with other people who feel that. Or even if that doesn't work, then you've made people who don't have that vulnerability feel better about themselves for not having it.
34:38Right, right.
34:38Simon Sinek:So everyone wins. But it is the quintessential court jester, right? Which is, I'm going to say the thing that everybody's thinking, but I'm going to make it okay. I'm going to make it okay. Make people feel less alone. I have to believe that a lot of your bits started conversations that were for good. And it's only because your work, I'm astonished how often you are so vulnerable, whether it's about yourself, your upbringing, even talking about racism and hot topics. You'll go there. And I just find it very impressive. I've so enjoyed, and I can't remember how long ago it was when I first discovered your work.
35:15Simon Sinek:But your work is getting, for whatever it's worth, it's getting better and better and better. Thank you. I really appreciate that. Yeah. Thank you. That's very kind. was that always were you always that kid that didn't mind being embarrassed that didn't mind being vulnerable like so how did you learn it uh kind of through stand-up early on in stand-up i was just trying i i when i started i wanted to be brash and offensive because i thought that was cool andrew dyes clay style yeah and and i i kind of realized later that was more that was not me being tough and edgy that was me actually being weak and insecure needing to put others down to to feel some sense of superiority um did it get laughs sometimes yeah sometimes in front of other people who liked who liked that um i of all people james comey's memoir uh was was uh it really shaped me there was one chapter uh i i can't imagine a less funny person than former fbi director james comey but he had uh i think it was it goes to speak of how not funny people can sometimes have the best observations about comedy um he had a whole chapter talking about the sense of humor of the three presidents he worked under right which is bush uh bush jr obama and trump and he said all three were notably funny guys very funny people bush jr and trump would often make laughter at the expense of others which did not uh equate to good leadership versus obama would make jokes at the expense of himself which would uplift others and bring out the best in them so uh sure maybe but but but anyway moving on moving on ignoring the politics ignoring the politics of of the comment i i get it the idea that and that was that was also for me a great thing of a learning experience in that um if there's going to be a victim to the joke why not me i'm i'm i'm the consenting party right um there's no it's a victimless crime yeah and and and not just victimless it it helps other people i think i somewhat possess a bit of status that a comedian wouldn't typically possess you take a picture a comedian you often think of like a dirt bag someone down and out yeah um uh i've had i think to see me take a tumble is is is is maybe a little more satisfying right because i started falling from a little higher yeah yeah so do you remember the first joke the risk the first risk you took at self-deprecation this new style do you remember it uh yeah i was it was uh uh i was doing jokes about looking like an 80s villain and it was getting a laugh and then people came up to me after the show and you get a lot of great feedback from just drunk people yeah not just empirical feedback during the show but drunk people come up and just really say blunt things and some guy was just like yeah you look like a douchebag and I didn't like you and then you started talking about looking like 80s villain I'm like oh this guy's not bad and I'm like what if we just what if we instead of trying to do that with tricks just say exactly what he's saying and I think I was at Sacred Heart College and I was doing a show and I just said I look like a douchebag i'm guessing you already didn't like me before i started talking and that was like oh i'm cutting straight to the chase there right i'm acknowledging what they think of me before they've even put it together themselves right and now now they're more malleable because i've kind of maybe subverted their expectations and and shown awareness that they're like you take the reins actually if you if you're on top of things you maybe you know what you're doing we'll let you you've taken yourself down a peg in a way that we find satisfying um yeah keep going huh and now it's and and does your mom know the way you talk about her yes uh she's uh fortunately very uh she doesn't mind it she sounds like an absolute caricature i've i've barely painted the picture with my stand-up of how how well she is i've included the parts that are uh digestible uh she likes she doesn't mind anything the crazy part was the i don't know if you saw the airport story oh i saw the airport story that's i i can't stress how true that story is do you want to tell the airport story for those who haven't seen it on the youtube i'll give the introduction i was i was dropping her off the airport and uh had to uh shortly thereafter come back and pick her up uh she went to check in uh they were giving her trouble over paperwork for bringing a dog in the plane and she forgot the i swear to god she forgot the word manager and said let me speak to your master and that was that was where the story starts yeah um she signed off on that i said can i talk about that yeah it's funny it is funny yeah i'm like you're you sure about that she was like yeah the one thing she doesn't like is the birthday card which i recommend uh i can't do it here but yeah a birthday card she sent to my my wife um i i said mom this this note's really funny i'm gonna read it on stage she goes sure no one's gonna laugh and then she saw me do it live and And people laugh at almost every sentence as I read it verbatim.
40:15And she goes, why are they laughing? I don't like this. What are they laughing at? And I had to explain to her. I'm like, they're not laughing at you. They're laughing at the vulnerability, at you saying things we all think. But keep to ourselves.
40:27Simon Sinek:What's next? What's the ambition? I'm not ambitious enough. Do you have vision or do you just keep doing the thing you love and it keeps going in the right direction? I'm not good about all the things you profess, which I don't have the infinite game. I just have the next special and wanting to just kind of branch out a little bit at a time. Perhaps I'd be farther along if I had a bigger vision. What do you mean farther along? Like, what does that even mean? Be on TV. Be on a TV show. Is that a thing? But you don't want to act. I would love to. I love acting. I just find it challenging. I love acting.
41:04I mean, my dream was to do stand-up and put out specials. okay and i've really accomplished most of that i could there's room but if i if i if me when i started saw where i am now they'd be like you're doing it i'd love to be on a sitcom that's always been my dream okay because those those those perhaps shaped my life more than stand-up did and i shouldn't admit that but like 30 rock parks and rec community uh and then cartoons futurama adventure time those those things hold such real estate in my heart so to be involved with any of those would be the other like the other box to check and obviously i want to keep making specials that would be really cool to keep putting out long-form stand-up content is is is
41:46Simon Sinek:stand-up comedy um could you ever walk away from it i don't think so i really like it i really like the feedback from people and getting to go up there and say things and feeling less alone i think our phones make us feel very very isolated is the synthetic connection yeah these empty calories yeah of of human interaction that make us feel more depleted afterwards uh the human to human part of it uh i'd feel starved it's it's it's it's it's kind of a last frontier right i mean where you can interact with each other and and when i say each other i mean it's it's up and down you know it's it's comedian to audience but it's also audience to audience we laugh next to other we look at each other we elbow each other we point you know it's a it's a it's different than theater theater is a very lonely experience because you sit by yourself nobody can see you because you you can't see anybody you can only see the back of people's heads the script is set the script is set and so it's it's very different than theater and to your point which is where we come for entertainment we do put our phones away and and we have a couple drinks and we're forced to have a couple drinks and forced to order some food because that's the business model and and it is i i don't think comedy is going away and i don't think live comedy is going away yeah i don't think live anything is going away i don't think anything's we we just don't have the substitute for we think that because we can look at something and hear something that it's that it's the same of just even being here in person versus zoom it's just more dimensions it is more dimensions what's next for you how do you look at growth and So I, I, and how do you balance growth with already feeling like you've done enough?
43:30Okay.
43:30Simon Sinek:There's multiple questions there. Um, I think of my work like an iceberg, right? So, um, when I was starting and I was just an idiot with an idea, like literally accomplished nothing, no books, no TED talks, no nothing. Nobody knew who I was. Nobody knew my ideas. All I had was a theory of what the world could be like and what business could be like, which is basically an iceberg completely submerged i'm the only one that can see it and like the ability to explain it to a couple of people so they go oh yeah it's kind of like a tiny bit of iceberg sticking up and so when people pay me compliments what they're looking is what they can see above the ocean when i think about what work i have to do i still can only see what's beneath the ocean and so no matter what i've done or accomplished people will say nice things to me look at all the things you've done and look and i'm sort of always a little bit sort of like taken aback because i don't think about it because what i think is like oh i still have so much to do you know and it's kind of like the way you talked about feeling stupid with the math which is i like learning curves i like difficult problems i like problems i struggle to wrap my head around i like finding different angles to it and to me what the iceberg represents is i still haven't cracked it yet.
44:49Simon Sinek:I've just sort of made some steps towards it. But for me, it's all about what still lies beneath. And like I said, undoing everything Jack Welch did, that's a real freaking, that's a job, right? So that's how I think about career and sort of accomplishment. But I also have a very, very different way of going about sort of my whole life, every performance review I ever had in every job I ever had, every single one of them said, you're unfocused. And I believed it because everybody kept telling me, even growing up, studying, you're so unfocused. And my work is semi-biographical. It's me trying to solve my own problems.
45:32Simon Sinek:And so the discovery of things like the why and the discovery of things like the infinite game helped me understand that I am actually one of the most focused people I know. I'm just focused on a different horizon than most people. And so the way I would describe it is most people are obsessed with the route. I'm obsessed with the destination, right? For example, you walk outside your front door and you see your neighbor packing their car. And you say to your neighbor, where are you going? They go, vacation. And you go, cool, where are you going? They said, vacation. I'm like, no, no, no, no. Where are you going?
46:11Simon Sinek:I told you, vacation. And you're like, fine. How are you going to get to this vacation? And they say, well, I'm going to take 95. I'm going to drive 150 miles a day until I get there. And what they're telling you is the route. And that's what most people have. I'm going to get this kind of job. I'm going to make this amount of money. This is my career path. They have fixed routes, but not 100 % clarity of where they're going. And so the route is everything. I have been very different, which is, let's say we're in California now. Where are you going? New York. How are you going to get there? Don't know.
46:44Simon Sinek:And so it's very opportunistic. And so when a lot of people, for example, they're offered a job that pays more money, they're like, I'll take that one. It pays more money. And I go, well, will that one help me get to New York? No. Well, then I'm going to turn that one down. And so I realized where so many people are focused on the route, I'm completely agnostic. And if you're focused on the route, that means you're agnostic on the destination. And I know too many people who spend a whole life climbing a ladder only to get to the end to discover they climbed the wrong ladder. This ties back to calculus.
47:24Simon Sinek:Say more. Okay. Multivariable calculus and then the class called optimization. I think about this a lot. you're trying to find the highest point. That's what optimization is. You can walk north or west, right? You're just trying to pick based on two directions. Where's the highest point? Let's say you're walking on a hilly field at night and it's foggy, so you can't see when you're at the top. You're going to know when you're at the top because your feet are going to be flat on the ground. Maybe you're at the bottom, but you're going to, right? So what is the search algorithm? Your search algorithm is you're going to walk around, and when it feels steep, you can feel your ankles bend a lot.
47:57You walk in the direction of the steepness. The more steep it is, the longer of a step you take, right? If it starts to flatten out, then you're near the top. That is what we do mathematically. The steepness, again, that's the slope in calculus. That is actually the math of it. The problem is, what if there's another hill next to you that's higher? You need to wander off the hill to potentially find the highest point. You need to be able to go off that path and potentially explore other ones. So are you finding a local optimum or a global optimum? them uh i think a lot about that when we're and and what we're what we're optimizing for what we're trying to maximize sometimes we look at we're talking earlier about the uh uh empirical feedback if we say oh these these results mean i'm doing well i'm getting a lot of views on my instagram reels that's an indicator that i'm that i'm doing well right what if you get it wrong and a lot of people do what if what if i'm doing well because i'm what if you flip it those views are the measure and now you do everything you can to optimize that.
48:55You're going to do a lot of things that are... Clickbaity things. Bad things, just not in the intention of what you wanted to create originally. Right. And you're optimizing, you're seeing higher and higher numbers and you think that means you're doing better but you have to kind of like get the, like you're saying, the destination in mind. Right. Not the path.
49:11Simon Sinek:So you are more visionary than you give yourself credit because you won't do anything just for the view. I try to keep, I try to, I will obviously be corrupted by all of these things because I will look at the data but I will try to reorient back towards what are you trying to make right and that's just what I deem a quality product based on I hope the crowd laughs and I as long as I believe in it that's what I'd like to keep making this is an interesting question right which is for and I think a comedian is a metaphor for a lot of people right which is I want to do something and I want to be rewarded very quickly to know that I'm good and social media can hijack and corrupt that system yes which we know right it's because of measurement right it's the same feedback loop and it's instantaneous you get a like you get a forward whatever it is you get a view right that's it's it's the same thing as a laugh it's instantaneous and the comedian who's obsessed with the laugh to the point of hurting themselves or hurting others um versus having a point of view or some morality.
50:14Simon Sinek:So what system do you have to not be hijacked by the click, the like, the view? The laughs permitted even. You're right, because even your act can be, even in the room, be corrupted by just trying to make those people laugh as hard as you can. You want to do better than the comic before you and you're willing to do things that aren't your own standards. So what checks and balances are there to ensure that, yes, you're getting more laughs permitted, but there is a framework within which you're willing to operate and you're not willing to go outside even if you could get a bigger laugh. Esoterically, my own moral compass, my own standards, right?
50:50That's harder to measure though. More concretely, the respect of my peers and making other comics laugh.
50:58Simon Sinek:The respect of the peers that you respect. Yes.
51:04Comedians had a moment where someone goes, hey, great joke. You're like, thanks. And you look at who says it you're like i should cut that joke so it's the respect of the peers you respect uh-huh the the yeah the people you look up to uh liking what you you can't also you can't make that your whole thing right because that can also be um uh an unstable solution to this equation
51:26Simon Sinek:right because now you're serving their their moral compass their needs their tastes not yourself at the expense of the crowd and at the expense of your career which is which is the equivalent of I'm going to do what my boss likes. I mean, again, this all translates to math for me. You have three different outputs, right? Respect of your peers, laughs for a minute, and let's say career success. And you need to put weighted coefficients in front of each one of them and then maximize that balanced equation. And then how do you factor in the hard to measure your own moral compass? That's the hardest part.
51:57The one that you refer to as the esoteric one. That's harder, but because that can also, you can also... Is that just gut? Is that just feeling? Is that your wife coming, going? Revisit your earlier self and what your old standards were, but also don't be so precious. I don't owe things to my 25-year-old self. He didn't have better taste than I do now.
52:17Simon Sinek:But see, now this is where math fails, me. Sure, it always fails. Which is we both acknowledge that the esoteric, the intangible, the ethereal thing matters, but it's harder to measure. Nobody else can see it but you. How do you ensure that that thing has the correct weighting, which should be quite a high rating? Weighting, I mean, it should have quite a high weighting. Because we see it in the world, which is when stock price and profit and revenue are the only metric, we see ethical fading happening all over the place. Because the weighting is, like, I believe in objectivity. I don't know. How do you do it?
53:00No, I will steal one page from a great comedian named Mike Lawrence who said something to the effect of, in comedy, you're as successful as the biggest thing you say no to. And saying no to things is really starting to really value the moments I say. I don't want to do that because I don't like that. That's not what I represent. And that's a corruption of what I'm trying to do. And I'm going to say no to maybe it's a branded deal or maybe it's a comedy festival somewhere. uh i guess saying no to things also that isn't answering your question but like saying no oftentimes for for principled reasons is a really good exercise um but do you have an answer how i'm also curious because i feel like we're we're losing our souls a lot of us through
53:50Simon Sinek:that that ethical fade can i do an experiment please i may be able this may or may not work love the scientific method um uh tell me a festival a joke uh uh anything that you were involved in in your comedy career that you absolutely loved that if everything you ever did from this point on was like that thing you'd be the happiest person alive uh my gut instinct is when I did Conan for the first time, I was very proud of the material I chose and I was going to be happy either way because I did it. And then it had a pretty big positive response, which was just icing on the cake. So having both those things go my way, doing the set I wanted to do with no restrictions without having to dumb it down or water it down in any way.
54:43And then also getting rewarded for that. That was one of my happiest moments in comedy, if that answers it.
54:48Simon Sinek:But you've done things before that you were proud of. you've done things where you had control over the set you've done things that had a bump you know um maybe even a bigger bump than conan what was it about that experience that stands out from all the ones that are very similar with very similar metrics that makes you want to talk about it now it was early um it wasn't my first but it was early it was a show where a lot of comics i really respected uh were booked for so when i saw who who did it i'm like those are people i want to be like those are people who are pushing comedy to new places um i also got to do a set that probably would have been very much rejected by any other late night booker and i was surprised that conan allowed i said i said vulva eight times in a row and that was neat to me that the joke had information that people learn people learn things that they didn't know from it while well i think getting decently high laps per minute probably the to really answer your question because it was the first time I did that and it paid off and I feel like I've tried to do that every time since and then I think maybe if there's another time my set uh from 2021 I was wearing a denim shirt with floral embroidering on the back that's the only way I can distinguish the set but I also did material that was bold for the time in terms of politically being more honest at a time where that could potentially get me in trouble and saying how I really felt in a way that I think other people agree with, but were afraid to say.
56:18And again, I put it out there knowing it might not make a splash at all, but it also might really connect. And I felt it connecting as a result.
56:28Simon Sinek:Tell me an early specific happy childhood memory, something I can relive with you. Not like we went to my grandparents every weekend, but something specific that I can relive with you. I went a 21, 23 in my 5k on a road race. I've been running a lot and the road race happened to be right in my neighborhood so i knew the path i'd run it most days and i went at best time on a on a course that i was very familiar with so it was middle school like of all the things you did that you could have told me what was it about this run that i worked really hard for it and i got a result i wanted and also might have might have just dipped under one of my rivals prs or something like that so there's a you are competitive yes any other outside of outside of comedy anything stand out from my childhood no childhood or even your even your financial analyst career a happy happy moment just something you loved being a part of something you absolutely love being a part of I do I draw and I sculpt a little bit but I rarely step out of the boundaries of those two media but I really liked I made the sword from Adventure Time I really like Adventure Time and I looked up a tutorial and I got poster board and made like a really big sword and took days to make and lots of cutting and painting and stenciling and when it came out it was the biggest piece of art I've ever made it was large and that was really fun and just a weird thing to do and no one pushing me to do it and no real reason to do it and i did it okay so here's a thread what's interesting in all all three of those things required a lot of work right and it required a lot of self-motivation and there was no particular pressure on you for any of those things other than yourself right it's 100 driven by you and the hard work that you're going to do is going to make that set good or bad and in each one of those cases you're willing to do the work to the point where you find great satisfaction and that you did it your way and you did it for yourself.
58:34Simon Sinek:You said it was my personal best for this run, that it was familiarity, there was a learning curve that got you there. In all of those, there was absolutely accomplishment. But it's not like, it seems to me that you're not trying to accomplish just for the sake of accomplishment. You're not driven simply to win or be the best or outdo others. It's you like, I think the reason you like a metric it's a validation not of you or how good you are or how smart you are how funny you are it's a validation of the work was worth it right and i think even the way you talk to be a talk to me about calculus which is and the way we the way you talk about find somebody who explains it to you in a way that you can understand find a better teacher you're not dumb you just need to find a better teacher which is which is do it's not just about grit because i think the way a lot of people talk about hard work.
59:26Simon Sinek:It's just about grind. You're not talking about grinding. You're talking about being smart the way you learn. And if you accomplish something, all of that effort of learning is worth it. And that to me is the interesting dichotomy, which is, yes, you like the validation and yes, you like the laughs permit and yes, all of that. But all of that is actually a recognition of the hard work that you've done. You even talked about the quotes that you've made here, which is if you knew how hard it was to get here, if you knew the effort that it took to get here, you'd be very unimpressed by whatever the quote was.
1:00:04Simon Sinek:And even the way you talk to me about, like you love tutoring because you want to teach people in a way that helps them access something. And when they get the A on the exam or the B or whatever it is they're striving for. When they understand the concept right there in front of me, that's the best moment. When they go, oh, that's it. It's the epiphany. And it's whatever the spark is that goes, that was worth it. The ethereal part for you seems to be in the ballpark of you will know that you've done good work for yourself when whatever the world's metrics are, look at you and go, that's good. Well done.
1:00:39Simon Sinek:Well, look at your time. and that will inspire you to want to keep learning, keep pushing, keep doing more because you'll discover that it's not the result that becomes intoxicating. It's earning the result. It's doing the hard work to get the result that becomes intoxicating. Yes. Which is the difference between what you're doing and winning lotteries. Yeah. I feel very considered. The results may be the same. That was very astute. That felt very good to hear you say all that. Thank you. can I note a way in which I think we're actually kind of different and I want to see if we could reconcile this yeah and then I have to conclude but yes yes okay I was watching your thing about bios and people putting their biographies yeah and you said I want to be how did you phrase it it's not how I want to be recognized yes you want to be recognized for yourself and not for your work the thing that I said was too many people uh confuse their identity with their job or their accomplishments and you can easily see it when you read someone's bio when it says ceo of or oscar-winning actor blah blah blah and they're telling you a position they hold or an accomplishment they had 20 years ago the problem is those people suffer from identity crises like like without the job without the responsibility they literally have an identity crisis and so i'm fine with accomplishment and i'm fine with ranks and position but that's not your identity and so when I write my bios, I put who I am, then what I've done.
1:02:07Simon Sinek:Optimist and author of. So I want to know, because no matter what I don't do, I'll always be that. That's wonderful. What advice do you give people who are told don't give up on your day job? Don't, don't hold on to it as long as you can, because it's, that's going to be what makes you interesting. You think being a musician or an actor is what makes you interesting. No, the part of you people want to hear about is those salad days and when you struggled so i would say you are you are building who you are as a person through that struggle and and money is a real thing and you need to have a way to pay your bills because if you become financially desperate your art will be compromised instantly yeah any life hacks that you have that help you be more efficient more productive personally professionally anything that you any tricks tricks that you've learned along the way that are now yes um biggest one for me is I subscribe to Gabor Mate's kind of musings about ADHD, that it's a lack of ability to validate yourself, not a lack of focus.
1:03:09So one thing that really helps me every day is when I sit down, I have a to-do list, and I write a list of all the things I'm doing well. And they don't just have to be work, anything. Am I recycling? Am I exercising? Am I stretching every day? Am I creative. What all of it, no back, nothing backhanded. Well, at least I'm not doing a bad. No, no, no. I'm doing well at you're doing great is the name of the document. You're doing great is the name of the document. Write all those things out, then start writing my to-do list. And not only will you enter that task with momentum of feeling good about yourself, the thing you're always driving towards is that, that validation.
1:03:43Um, you'll already have that and you work better when you like yourself. Everyone thinks they work better when they hate themselves. No, when you like yourselves, when it feels fun and you feel good about yourself, you do your best work uh you also then start to get that pavlovian rush that when i sit to open my computer i'm already feeling good because i know it's coming and then i don't dread starting my day i look forward to it that's been a huge hack for me genius thank you i've stolen it for many people i'm i'm i'm gonna start that one uh matthew i could talk to you forever what an absolute joy
1:04:14Simon Sinek:to meet you great it was super fun and it like i said a kind of a personal throw because i've gotten to know you so well from your videos. It's really, it's really, really fun to like sit across from you. I know your voice so well. Yeah. Thank you so much for coming in. Such a joy. So much fun. A Bit of Optimism is a production of The Optimism Company. Lovingly produced by our team, Lindsay Garbenius, Phoebe Bradford, and Devin Johnson. Subscribe wherever you enjoy listening to podcasts, and if you want even more cool stuff, visit simonsynic.com. Thanks for listening. Take care of yourself. Take care of each other.
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That’s exactly how Matthew Broussard approaches comedy - and everything else. A stand-up comedian, math nerd, and former financial analyst, Matthew is obsessed with learning and cracking the formula behind how things work. He treats every joke like an equation, testing, refining, and solving for laughter.
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