Armchair Anonymous: Summer Fling

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25:38I ended up pushing my flight back a week and Jack was going to come to Paris for his summer holiday. instead of going to the south of France to see his family. So we both kind of changed what we were doing so drastically because we felt as though we had to see it through and have a romantic week together once he gets back after the weekend. And is he French? Yes. So now I had the last weekend with my best friend in Paris, and we went to a well-known techno club. Whenever we go to the club, we call the friends we make collecting Pokemon because you kind of make these raw and open-hearted connections, have an amazing night together, form a misfit group, release them back into the world after, but then always have the lessons that they taught you in your back pocket.

26:21So we met these two really amazing guys and I really hit it off with one of them. We'll call him Henry. We danced all night together and then as a group we went to an afters club. I made out with Henry and we talked a lot, but I didn't go home with him because I was excited in anticipation of seeing Jack, the reason that I had decided to stay in the first place. So Jack was getting back from the festival Monday. I said goodbye to my best friend and grieved her for the day while I waited to meet Jack at the train station, had my giant hiking backpack and all my stuff to go move in with him for 10 days.

26:56Oh, you guys are going to go straight to sleeping in the same place. Wow. Yeah, I was going to stay with him in his apartment. He had never physically met before. Oh my God. The train banter was very successful. I'd also been bouncing around for three months. So I think I was primed and ready after going hostel to hostel to spend some time in someone's apartment and just people in general. So, yeah, I'm at the train station, nervous and excited at the same time. And I finally see him for a second. You have to get to know each other's physical bodies after just texting. So we reach out for a moment and then he grabs my hand and we go to his beautiful apartment in the center of Paris.

27:36Oh, my gosh. We immediately get right into doing all the things we said we were going to over text. Afterwards, I was thinking, oh, this is perfect. Exactly who and what I thought and was hoping this experience would be. Then the next morning, he goes downstairs to this Asian restaurant next door to get takeout. And I'm like, yes, that sounds great. I don't feel like cooking after moving all my stuff and then having crazy monkey sex all evening. Even though we had talked about how fun it would be to cook together. We eat and start watching this reality cooking show that he threw on. We had talked about the parks and rivers nearby his apartment, the botanical garden and going to have picnics and eating amazing cheese and wine and reading together.

28:15Just like all the things that I like to do, but would be so romantic to do with someone who could show me around the city. So looking forward to it. The conversation was there. The sexual energy was there. But over the first two days, I kept gently asking like, hey, do you want to go for a walk? Do you want to go get some stuff to make dinner? Do you want to go to work? and getting him to do any of the things he had advertised to me and said that he also liked to do was kind of like pulling teeth. But every time he would say, like, it's too hot, I don't feel like it. No, but you can go if you want.

28:47It was just, like, very off-putting and a little bit depressing, not what I was expecting. So the libido starts to drop, the conversation gets a little less exciting, and he just wants to lay in front of the fan and watch the Sam cooking show. Oh, wait. How many days left when this is starting to happen? I was starting to get a little bit. They call it the ick now, right? Yeah, yeah. On like day two. Oh, two early. It was just becoming a little bit triggering because I've had an ex-partner that struggled with depression and masking their personality. So I was recognizing the signs a little bit.

29:22And it's so difficult for everyone involved to be this intimate with someone who's struggling with mental health. But I'm not invested in this guy. I wish him best and we were getting along. But at this point, I would rather stay in a hostel and literally be alone than feel obligated to stay with him and just feel alone. The third night, I went out to a bar with my other friends and he didn't want to come, of course. So then I ended up meeting a third party who's separate to the other two guys in the story and sleeping with him in the park. Oh, wow. In the park. Wow. Nice. I had been out all night.

30:01I slept at his hostel. And then I rolled back up to Jack's apartment in the morning. No questions or cares. And I decided that I wasn't enjoying my time. And not only that, but I felt as though I knew he was struggling somehow. And if I were to stay, that I would feel like I was using him for a spot. I can accommodate myself. I don't need to be somewhere that I'm not feeling happy. So I showered and got my stuff together and sat him down to have a genuine conversation. It was pretty straight up asking, are you OK? Like, are you struggling with depression? You aren't excited or even neutral about doing anything with me.

30:36He ended up opening up and saying yes. And he had been excited about the idea, but that he was struggling and he was sorry. Can I ask one quick question? So he just came from a Berlin festival. Yes. OK, so he probably went fucking hard. The dude was probably rolling on Molly for three days straight. And you're dealing with the very predictable depression that follows three days later from the dopamine deficit. That could have totally played a role. He probably had zero dopamine left. That totally relates to what he responded. I think it was cute with the language barrier. He was like, you are like a light in a jar too high on a shelf for me to reach.

31:12Oh, wow. That's so romantic. Yeah, it's kind of beautiful. Even though it's depressing. Yeah. We together decided that I would leave and we would still be friends. and we are still friends to this day. And sometimes we have a cheeky sex. Oh my God. Is he happier now? He is happier now. He told me that he generally struggles with depression. So I immediately went to go put my stuff down in a hostel and just like re-centered real quick. And then very quickly remembered Henry, the guy that I had met at the techno club a few days ago. And I texted him and asked if he wanted to go on a date. So I met up with him in the park that same evening.

31:50The park is your spot. The park that you had fucked in? And the park is everyone's spot, like in Berlin and Paris. And we did have wine and cheese. And he laid his head in my lap. And we talked about his job in the French military and childhoods and interests and dreams. And it felt like we were walking into space with conversation. It was very romantic. He said I could come back to his place and that he had drove. And when we were going to his car, we pulled up to his motorcycle. And I was entranced by this. We rode to the south of Paris. It was my first time on a motorcycle. You're in a movie now.

32:26Shaka-la. Yeah. I didn't know we were going on a motorcycle. So I had a mini dress on. It was like blowing up in the wind. It felt so right and free. And I felt so safe with him. And very proud of myself for not staying in turmoil with Jack out of any obligation. I just felt like I used my past experience to propel forward and learn from it. So I was able to spend the next week living with Henry. He quickly brought me back to my hostel the next morning to get my stuff and he brought it to his house. And we truly had the summer fling, like falling in love experience despite the expiration date.

33:02He was on his break in between getting a promotion in the military and I was going back to the States. So it was kind of a great sweet spot for both of us. We had some of the best and most athletic sex of my life cooked together. We went for runs in the park. All the things you were promised, you did end up getting. When we departed, it was very sweet, but I feel like he truly raised the bar for my physical and emotional relationships. I keep throwing myself fully into the summer flings because it's corny, but it is also like collecting Pokemon like you have the love of life that they teach you in your back pocket for the future.

33:36Oh, that's great. I say go as hard as you can until you shut it down. Just do what you want to do. When you get married and you have kids, you want to be a little lame bit and go like, oh yeah, I did it all. Yeah, I'm working on it. What an exciting summer. Thanks for telling us that, Hannah. Yeah, thank you guys so much for having me. I'm such a fan of the expert on experts day. I really appreciate you guys giving a platform to scientists right now. Oh, that's so nice. Our pleasure. Have a blast in Berlin. Yes, enjoy. We're jealous. Take care. Bye. Hello. What fake name are we going to say? I was actually going to see if you wanted to pick one out for me.

34:12I immediately want to say Sarah because you look like my sister-in-law, Sarah. You do look like Sarah. And I love Sarah. So we're off to a great start. Okay, perfect. I love it. Okay, so you had a summer fling. Well, maybe you've had multiple summer flings, but you have one in particular you're going to tell us about. Set the stage for us. What year was this? This was actually last summer. This is a fresh fling. Yes. So my best friend's getting married. It's a bachelorette party. We're all college friends. So we're going down to her future in-laws beach house. It's like a yacht club in Siesta Key, Sarasota area.

34:47So we go down. We're having fun. It's the first night. We all have our different outfits on and we have the theme going, everything. I like to drink tequila. And when I drink too much tequila, my friends tell me that I get my tequila goggles on. They're helpful. Well, they're deceiving. They're deceiving. Well, I think they're helpful in that you shouldn't be so picky. Why? Because. Why are we hung up on like, oh, you didn't have the perfect nose. But when you have a good amount of tequila and you're like, yeah, I ain't give a shit about all that stuff. I mean, it's the irony that the glasses do the opposite.

35:20They make your eyes really bad. Well, exactly. Which is kind of like healthy. That's my point. Okay. Yeah. We're going to agree to disagree on that. But for a fling, sure. Go on. Yes. So we're going out to this club. It's a very well-known club, so I won't say the name. And when we walk in, it's just our bachelorette party. And I'm like, you know what? It's fine. We can make it fun. It'll be great. So we're having like dance battles with this other party that came in and like, we're just having fun. And then I noticed that one of the bouncers keeps like looking at me and I'm like looking back and I'm like, guys, I don't know.

35:52Like, I think he's giving me the eyes and they're like, absolutely not. You cannot do this. They don't have their tequila goggles on. But in my head, when I have something I want to do, I'm going to do it. so we're flirting and he's like do you want to go out to my car and smoke a cigarette and i'm like sure why not we're on vacation we're having fun i'm one of the only single girls in the party so i'm like who cares so i go out we're smoking a cigarette in the back of his van which he also lives in oh which is important in the story do you want to revise do you want to revise I was even going to say, do you want to come out and smoke a cigarette in my house?

36:35So we go out to his home and we're sitting in the back and we're smoking a cigarette. One thing leads to another. We do have a quickie in the back of his car before going back into the club. This guy's got a mate. He's living in the parking lot of the club and he's allowed to leave during his shift and entertain in his van and then return to work. This seems like a dream. So we go back in and all my friends are lined up near the pool table and they're like, what did you just do? And I'm like, don't worry, it's okay. Like I'm the chaotic friend. They're very used to it. I'm like, we're still going to have a great night.

37:05So we're still flirting throughout the night. And then I go over to him and I'm like, hey, by the way, like we're about to leave. He's like, great, take my number. He's texting me. I'm not responding. So I'm like, I'm with my friends. Who cares? So he's like, but I really want to see you later tonight. And I'm like, okay. So we get back to the house at like 2 a.m. And all my friends are like, don't go. He could kill you. He lives in his van. And like, we literally don't. He lives in his van. Literally. That's such a deal breaker, generally. It is what they tell you to avoid. Don't get in someone's van.

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38:22Oh, that sounds amazing. I want to do that. Also, I was there visiting my brother once, and I loved old town Scottsdale. It's so walkable. They have galleries and cute little restaurants and shops. The food scene alone is worth the trip. What I keep reading is that it's luxurious, but not stuffy. There's no pressure to do it a certain way. You can explore public art, check out the architecture, go off-roading in the desert, or just sit and watch a sunset. It really is the perfect fall reset. Learn more about all Scottsdale has to offer at unwindinscottsdale.com. We are supported by AutoTrader.

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40:54So I share my locations with all my friends and I'm like, okay guys, if I die, like, you know where my body is or at least my phone. This guy comes and picks me up at like 2.30 in the morning and he's like, oh, can I just park my van at this yacht club? And I'm like, I don't know if I want to do that. I don't want to disrespect like her future in-laws. Let's just drive somewhere. So we're driving through Siesta Key and he parks and he's like acting all fidgety. And I'm like, is everything OK? Like my friends have my location in case you're going to do anything. And he's like, OK, well, if the cops come, I need you to say that you were driving because I don't have a license.

41:30OK. And I said, but you live in your van. So like, how do you not have a license? Yeah. So I'm like, why don't we get out of the residential and like go somewhere else? So we end up going near the beach. It's like a little grove thing. So we parked there for the night. We're having beers. We hooked up. And he keeps telling me over and over that like he's on this reality show. And I'm like, okay. But like he never tells me the name of the reality show. He just keeps referring to himself as his nickname on the reality TV show. Okay. So you're with a very interesting gentleman here. And so I'm like, I don't really care what show you're on.

42:07I'm here for a good time, not a long time. Like, let's just figure it out. We fall asleep in the back of the van. I slept in his home. Wow. What a gentleman inviting you to stay over. Yeah, he didn't kick you out. I know. I don't know how he's going to make you breakfast in the morning, but let's see. The bride's sister texted me at 4 a.m. She's like, are you alive? And I'm like, yep, I'm still good. I'm great. I'll be home soon. So he takes me back. Fast forward a little bit. We're at brunch. and all of the girls are like, okay, like, tell me about it. Like, we're all together. So I'm just like going through it.

42:40And I'm like, he kept saying he was on some reality show, but like, I don't know what show it is. I'm like, well, this is his nickname. Like he keeps saying this is his nickname and that's all he's referring to himself to. So we looked him up and he was on Redneck Island. Okay, I never even heard of it, but I feel like I know exactly what the show is. It's pretty self-explanatory. Yeah. Wow. And I was like, yep, that's him. I remember those tattoos. They're making fun of me. He calls me while we're at brunch and he's like, Hey, you want to hang out at the beach today? And I'm like, no, like I'm with my girls.

43:11I'm over this. We're going to have a bachelorette day. So then we ended up going out that night. It was wig night, which all the bachelorettes are doing. I have an eighties rocker mullet on and like all the other girls have like long curly hair and I'm like, whatever. So like, I'm going to stick out like a sore thumb. So we go back to the same club because it was the best club. And I'm like, okay, maybe he's not working tonight because he was working yesterday. I walk in, there he is. And I'm like, ah, shit. So we see each other. And then he's like, hey, like, I'm going to get us a hotel room tonight so we don't have to stay in the van.

43:48And I'm like, no, like I have a flight tomorrow morning at 4am. I'm just going to go home. We end up leaving that club, never talked to him again. Fast forward a week, the boy part of the trip is going down. And like, we all went to college with them too. So people are engaged and married and like dating the whole group. And so they all know the story because we're all friends and the girls told him. So they go to the club and they asked for this man by name, because I know his name at this point. And they're like, Hey, is so-and-so here? Like, we just want to take a picture of him. The manager looks them all dead in the face and said, we have never had anybody with that name working at this club.

44:25Oh my God. He was just posing as a bouncer. So no wonder he's able to go out to the parking lot. When they told me that, I was like, who did I sleep with? Ew, that's so scary. And then so he went also back the next day. He wasn't working the next day. He went back there. Yes. Oh my Lord. If I were you, I would have had to watch as many episodes of that show as possible. Yeah. Did you do that? It's actually funny. I've never even looked up where to watch it. I'm like, I need to bury this in my past. But then when I saw this prompt, I was like, I have to do it. Okay, listen, I'm going to watch it.

45:03He is on a reality show, and yet he's still pretending to be a bouncer. He's a man of mystery, Monica. This is hard for me. I guess I have too high of an opinion of people on reality shows. I think you do. You got to remember, I was on a reality show in a one-bedroom apartment in Santa Monica, and my license was very much in jeopardy of being revoked. This is fantastic Yeah this is really fun You accidentally had sex with a celebrity Yeah you fucked a famous guy Yes Could I do a quick shout out So my sister she's my best friend And we have like weekly debriefs About Armchair Anonymous I told her that I submitted for the prompt She does not know the full story This is the first time she's gonna hear it She said Don't tell me if you get on it Just give me a shout out So this is my shout out to my sister Lauren Oh, wonderful That's so fun, shout out Lauren Hi Lauren, oh well that was lovely Thank you so much, it was great meeting you Thanks, great to meet you too Have a good day Bye

46:21And I'm like, yeah, I wish my voice was. Sick voice is cool. It is cool. What name should we come up with? And I feel like it should mirror your voice a little bit. Phoebe Buffay. Phoebe's good. It was Holden Caulfield's sister in Catcher in the Rye. It's got a really good literature history. Okay, so Phoebe, you had a summer fling. This is very recent, just a month ago. This summer? Yes. Brand new press. Hot off the presses. So to set the stage, I went to Europe with my best friend and her boyfriend this summer. And we did a couple different things. But one of the pieces of the trip was going backpacking.

46:54I had gone through a breakup earlier this year, so I was kind of manifesting like some hookup or a spicy makeout or something on this trip. But when we were backpacking, I was like, oh, it won't be then. It'll be like at a Spanish club or something like that. So we signed up for this group trip. It was with a bunch of strangers to go hut to hut backpacking. So it's essentially like little mountain cabins and they have a bunch of cots. And so you're sleeping with a lot of strangers and then you backpack during the day and you do like group meals so you don't have to carry any food or tent or anything.

47:28So it's kind of like bougie backpacking. We sign up for this group trip and my expectations are very low. I've done group trips before and it's been entirely women and maybe like one random middle aged guy. But when we got there, there were three guys in their 20s and 30s and my friends and I were scheming. We're like, OK, maybe one of them will hit it off. We'll see what happens. And so we got on the trip. We take our little taxi up into the mountains. And the way it was set up was we stayed in a hotel, a hut, a hut, a hostel, and then a hut, and then another hotel. So it was different combinations every night, kind of all over the place, but really fun.

48:08So the first night we were in a hut and there was like 30 people. I'm trying to suss out the vibes. One of the guys and I seem to be vibing with each other a little bit, but he's very artsy, very in his head. And I was like, I don't know if this is mutual or not. So I'm just filling out the first few days. The second night that we're in a hut, it's like Charlie and the Chocolate Factory style. It's like one long mattress and it's my best friend, her boyfriend, me, and then this guy who we will call Ryan. And we're like kind of nudging each other in our sleep, but without really acknowledging it.

48:45I'm like, I wonder if I should make a move. I'm like, no, it's too risky. He might be fully asleep. I don't know if these bumps are intentional. So I don't do anything. And then the next day we are in a hostel and I kind of dropped a clue to the group earlier. I was like, oh, I'm going to go for like a nighttime walk this evening. If anyone wants to join, try to go see the stars because the sun set really late where we were in northern in Spain. So you didn't see the stars until like 1130 p.m. So I say that a few hours before the end of the evening and then don't really bring it up. And then it's an open invite to the group.

49:23And then later that evening, we're both getting ready for bed at the same time. And we both walk out of the bathroom at the same time. And I was like, oh, hey, Ryan, do you want to still go for a walk tonight? And he's like, oh, yeah, sure, I'll go. And so we go for a stroll. But then it's so beautiful. I'm like enamored by the mountains. I'm like get distracted and I get too nervous to make a move. So I'm like, okay, maybe the next day. I can't tell if he's flirting. He's just very polite, very friendly. And he had also gone through a breakup earlier this year after like seven years. So I was like, we're in the same boat, but maybe he's not at the same place with healing from his last relationship.

49:58So I was taking it safe. And then the next night is our last night in a hut and we called it the pizza hut because they have like fresh pizza when you get there. Don't you want to take this trip? It's amazing. Everyone should go. It's called Picos de Europa. So we get to the last hut. And again, it's like 30 people, a bunch of strangers coming in. There's trail runners. There's young, hot people everywhere. Older, hot people. And one of my friends was like, Kelsey, instead of Ryan, like you should go after this guy who's like openly talking about his open relationship with his wife. And I was like, oh, maybe, maybe that.

50:36And I'm like, no, no, no, we'll wait and see. And so we get these assorted cot numbers and it's numbered for a locker and then a cot for you to sleep in. And you're like right next to each other, maybe two inches of space at night when you're sleeping. My friend like grabbed me randomly key number seven and then her boyfriend had grabbed key number eight. And then she's like, put it back. And then Ryan came up to the hut later and happened to grab key number eight out of the 35 beds that there are. So I was like, okay, that feels kind of serendipitous. And so we're going to bed and there's like a random old man snoring super loud in the corner.

51:14And there's like 15 of us in this room. And I was like, okay, it's now or never, I got to make a move. Like it's so beautiful outside. But I was like, I can't whisper because this is such a cramped quarters, like someone's on my group trip is going to hear me ask this guy if he wants to go make out outside. And then it's going to be just weird for the whole group the next day because we had 12 people that were all strangers traveling around Spain together. So I decided to type a note out on my phone as we're going to bed. And so I type out on like this may be way too bold of me to ask. And I might be reading the vibes wrong.

51:47And no offense at all, if you're not feeling the same way, but would you want to wake me up later once the stars are out and go make out outside. And he had already fallen asleep. So he like kind of woke up startled and he was like, yeah, that sounds nice. And I was like, okay, that doesn't sound convincing. And then 30 seconds later, he's like, I'm so sorry. I was just waking up. That does sound really wonderful. We should go do that. And I was like, great. Okay. Then I fall asleep for like an hour. He nudges me awake. And then he's like, do you still want to go outside? I'm like, yeah. So we try to quietly come out of this hut, even though it's like creaky wood everywhere and so many people.

52:27And we walk outside and we're looking at the stars and it's just a ring of mountains around us. It's like you're in a planetarium with the stars above you. And it's just picture perfect. So we're just chatting and I'm like getting distracted by the stars again. And he's like, so did you want to kiss? And I was like, yes. So we started making out and it's immediate chemistry. Romance vibes are very high. We're very into each other. And after a few minutes, I stopped him and I'm like, wouldn't it be so crazy if we had sex in the mountains under the stars, just laying out on these rocks? And he was like, yeah, yeah, that would be amazing.

53:08And I was like, OK, again, he sounds a little hesitant. And then I was like, are you into it? Like, we can totally keep making out if you want. I'm like, have you slept with anyone since your last relationship? And he's like, yeah, I slept with someone. It's not bad. And I was like, OK, what is it? He's like, I just don't think I'm going to last very long. Yeah. Yeah, very, very honest. That's honest and flattering. Yeah, I was like, oh, I'm flattered. And also it's 1230 and we're laying on rocks, so it doesn't matter. Yeah. And then he was like, oh, so I didn't bring a condom. And I was like, don't worry.

53:42I have some. Oh, I love this. You are so prepared. I mean, like a type A kind of. Yeah, yeah. This is very type A summer fling. Yeah, I'm going to be prepared for anything. And it's just funny because people were making fun of how heavy my backpack was. He's like, oh, so this is what you're carrying. And so I run back to the hut and I get the condom. And then we lay down in the grass flipping who's on their back so the other person can look at the stars. Oh, wow. Very respectful. We go back to the hut, sneak in and go to bed. And we kind of fall asleep, sort of holding hands a little bit. And so the next day, we're like hiking with our whole group the whole day.

54:20We're trying to be sneaky about it because we don't want to throw off the vibes of the group trip. And so I don't even tell my best friend that's on the trip with me until like 7 p.m. that night. I'm like, OK, maybe that was a one time thing. And then that night we're in a hotel because it's the last night that we're with the whole group. And I can tell at the end of the night, he's kind of lingering in the lobby. I was collecting money to tip our guides and he'd already given me money. And I walked up to him and I was like, so should I come to your room tonight? And he was like, yeah, yeah, let's do that.

54:52And so I go up to his room and then we have sex again and it's wonderful. And we fall asleep talking about our breakups and it's just like very therapeutic. And I forgot to mention, I kind of like snuck out of my room again. And I was rooming with this girl from Poland. And I just had to tell a little white lie. I was like, I'm going to go hang out with my friends. You can leave the lights off. Like, don't worry. I probably won't be back for a little while. And then I was able to like sneak back in at 5 a.m. And no one suspected a thing. And then we were done with the group portion of the trip.

55:27They're driving us back to the city in Spain where everyone was flying out from. and everyone was flying out that day except for my friends and then Ryan. And I was like, again, what a great coincidence this is. We're going back to the town and we meet up in the city center and we're like, okay, well, we have to do something fun today. We got to like keep hanging out. So we meet up for this like six course lunch and then we go to a beach and it's a topless beach and it's my first topless beach ever. And so we're laying on the beach and it's great. And did you go topless? Of course, you have to.

56:05Did everyone, all your friends? No. Look at you! And Ryan was very respectful. I didn't make a big deal out of it or anything. But I was like, okay, bucket list checked. That evening, we all went for late night Spanish dinner. And we're having drinks and talking about childhood trauma, all four of us together. And then it's kind of unspoken that I'm going to go back to his hotel with him instead of my friend's Airbnb. be. And so we're walking back and we just hiked like 45 miles. And so we were a little tired. We didn't really want to like full on go dancing. And we stumbled on at 1130 at night, this like Spanish contemporary dance performance in front of this old town square.

56:46And there are hundreds of people watching and all these lights going off. And it was so beautiful. And then we're there just in time for the finale where this very slow Spanish song started playing. Hundreds of people are singing along and starting to slow dance. And it was like a movie set. Oh, my God. I'm in love. I know. Forgot to say he writes films. I was like, he's going to have to make a movie about this. And then it turns into like a DJ set at the very end. And we go down and we're in the dance circle. And then at midnight, they cut it off. It felt like a very Cinderella moment. And then we were walking back to his hotel and we're just like humming in the streets singing and dancing and everything and we go up to his hotel spend the night together again fall asleep like talking about our lives and childhood and everything and in the morning we go out for breakfast and we're walking around the town and it's really lovely and then we realize that I'm like well I have everything and you're flying out today and I'm going back to my friends to like say goodbye in the middle of the street like it was a movie like with people rushing past us and I put my hand on his cheek and gave him a really soft kiss and I was like bye Ryan turned around walked off and then was skipping and like smiling back to my friend's place and that was that I'm welled up I'm so happy for you I'm so glad you had that was it were you like lovesick after like did you miss him No, it was crazy.

58:22It felt like the most perfect thing that both of us needed post long relationships being over. Let's you know your heart still works. Oh, what a happy story. I'm really moved by that. He is an American. He lives in New York. Call me. You're not going to take him. Call me. I wonder if you guys will ever have another rendezvous. I know we have each other's phone numbers and his birthday was like a week after the trip ended. And so I texted like a vague message where I was like, I hope our paths cross again someday and have a wonderful birthday and everything. And he just kind of reiterated that.

59:00So it just kind of felt like a little bow on top of a little rom-com. Yeah, that's a beautiful summer fling. It is. That is. I feel like I'm on my period or something. Oh, wait, why am I? You are like crying. Yeah, yeah. Oh, my God. You literally have a tear. I was looking at your little face and I was picturing my little Delta being on a trip like that.

59:26I was like, oh, I love this person. She's like Delta. They're all like Delta. Literally, I had that thought, Monica. I was like, man, if I could just see everyone was Delta, I would just love everyone so much. Yeah. Wow, this took such a crazy turn. Okay, wow. So that was all the things that were happening to me. It's good to let out the emotions. You're so sweet. I like that story so much. Yes, me too, me too. Well, thank you for letting me tell it. Yeah, thanks for calling. My period will start soon. This will all be over. Okay, don't know. Guess who's on their period? Me, and I'm not a tear in sight.

1:00:04But I am moved. I do think that was such a special story. Oh, yeah, that was really lovely. That made me so happy. Do you have any shout outs? Yes, my friend Summer, she's wonderful. She also listens to like every Armchair Anonymous episode and we talk about it all the time. Big shout out to Summer. Summer. Summer, we love you. Thanks for listening. Summer Fling. Really ding, ding, ding. Wow. Yeah, it's perfect. Thanks for chatting with us. Yeah. Have a great rest of your summer. Bye. You too. Bye. Bye-bye. Oh, well, that was great. All right. That was fun. That was fun. All right. That was hopeful.

1:00:35Love you. Love you.

1:00:39Do you want to sing a tune or something? We don't have a theme song. Oh. Okay, great. We don't have a thing song for this new show, so here I go, go, go. We're gonna ask some random questions, and with the help of our cherries, we'll get some suggestions. On the flyer, Rindish. On the flyer, Rindish. Enjoy.