The Secret To True Happiness: Begin Again Moments

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0:44Davina McCall:This episode is brought to you by Airbnb. I am desperate to get to Greece. Can you blame me? I'm in Greek salad, ocean swims, maybe a donkey or two. Michael and I want to take the whole blended family on holiday this summer and when I told my team they all started laughing because Sally, one of the brilliant people I work with, is also desperately keen to go to Greece. Get this, she's gonna host her home in London on Airbnb while she's off holidaying and staying at an Airbnb in Greece. How's that for strategic? So Sally's hosted before and she said to me that it is just a really totally a totally easy way of earning some extra money on the side, especially when her home's just sitting empty when she's on holiday.

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2:45I'm not very sentimental when it comes to things. So I started by getting rid of big things. But then, I mean, I would have loved it if everything would have gone in a backpack. But sadly, with documents and pieces of paper and bits and bobs, we ended up with 10 boxes. 10 boxes.

3:01Davina McCall:10 boxes. Can I tell you, your whole life was in 10 boxes. Yeah. And I remember when I had one of my biggest paychecks and I had everything I ever wanted, my first thought was how can I get out of this situation how can I stop wanting more how can I not have this big house how can I not have these cars and how can I be happy one of the things that I I felt about your period of needing more was a feeling of control like controlling I need this I've got to control that. And that actually what you did was just a massive let go. Yeah. Did it feel like that to you? Maybe control, but I think I was just so driven to be successful.

3:47I don't know why I was driven to be so successful, but it was just this burning urge to be successful and to have everything I'd ever dreamt of. And then when I did let go, I let go. I really let go. I let go of everything I'd ever wanted. I thought I wanted, but it was not what I needed. We all want these things, don't we? But at the end of the day, do we need them? You don't need a lot to be happy. So when I let go of all these things, every time something left the house, I felt this amazing feeling of freedom. REI has ultralight backpacking gear. So for you gram counters and ounce shavers, we made this ad ultralight with a base weight of just 13 seconds.

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5:31And these are five questions to ask yourself each morning and then just write a paragraph or two in your journal. And my clients have found it really valuable to be happier and more focused and more alive in their days. So the first question is, what am I grateful for? We know that gratitude is the antidote to fear. Second question is, where am I winning? So we start celebrating some micro wins because the human brain has a negativity bias. We're always looking for what's missing and what's not working. This reframes it. Third question is, what must I let go of? And we can talk about one of the great spiritual skills or leadership skills is learning to let go.

6:12Learning to let go of betrayals, disappointments, the past. Fourth question is, what does my ideal day had look like? So you have a little script. So you're setting some intentions. And that brings us to the fifth question, what needs to be said at the end? And the more we can connect to the shortness of life, the more we can connect to our mortality, the more we're going to start to live to the point versus being busy, being busy, spending our days chasing trivial pursuits. And I think if we could just connect to our mortality every morning and strip away complexity and administrivia, and even holding back the love in our hearts, holding back on the things our instinct says we should do, but we're, oh, what if I fail?

6:55What if I'm laughed at? What if I look like a kook? And we just live from that instinct. I think we'd be so much happier in our lives.

7:03Davina McCall:So when you say at the end, you mean at the end of our lives, you know, it's like, how am I going to feel on my deathbed? I turned down a job. I fell in love at 50 and I turned down a job that would mean that I probably wouldn't be able to be with my boyfriend in the evenings because I'd have to get up so early to go to work. Because I thought to myself, on my deathbed, will I be pleased I did that job or will I be sad I didn't spend more time with Michael? And I thought, I want to spend more time with Michael. So it's quite good when you think of that, like, is that what you mean by that? That's exactly what I mean.

7:48Another little mental tool that I use is that thank goodness I'm healthy. But if I'm lucky, I have 25 years left to live, maybe 30. And so I call this my 25 summers question. So when I'm about to make a decision, I say, well, I roughly have 25 Christmases left, 25 summers.

8:13Davina McCall:Wow, that's quite sobering when you say it like that. When you say it like that, you say, okay, I better get this done, or I better do this ethical ambition, or I better take this risk, or I better chase that love story. So I think death is not depressing. Thinking about death is not depressing. I think thinking about death is actually inspiring because then it just sharpens you on what's most important in life.