Porscha: From Hollywood High to Tyler Perry’s ”Divorce Sisters”: Making Your Passion Your Paycheck

20:31Porscha Coleman:you designate like a few weeks and that's it i wish it was a few weeks so how about this we have 16 episodes per season eight days eight days eight so you're working so your hours are insane hours are insane but the blessing of it is that you knock it all out and then you're good done yeah so we have three weeks one week is pre-production fittings wardrobe rehearsing doing all that second week you're shooting and by then we wrapped in the first season nine days he even cut it down to eight in this season eight days wow all right okay well that's good i mean Can you get it done? Imagine. Yeah, whatever.

21:03If I already did a season and it's eight days and I'm not going to come back till next year, that leaves nine months for a baby. There you go. And all the time window to get it done. So it's just strategizing different things and seeing what you want. But I'm just glad that you have actors that have been there, done that, that literally are telling me, don't choose to not do it if that's what you want because you will look up and regret it later on thinking that your show is going to be here forever or that this moment's going to last. Everything is going to come and go, but your babies are with you forever.

21:30Porscha Coleman:This is true. maybe this is a manifestation i don't know maybe next time i see you yeah you might never ever know you never know and you have so many things going on so you're telling me that you have an edm yes let's talk about that i'm so excited i have an edm project that i'm doing right now which to me i've always loved edm and dance music and now i'm just like this is it i found a great producer my writing team is amazing and it's like this dance side is like the porsche like i've always loved festivals like even in Vegas here, EDC is big. Like I really do love how dance music makes you feel.

22:01I've done Afrobeats, different stuff, but the dance music and the dance space is beautiful. And I mean, even venturing into the DJ space. Okay. You know what I'm saying? Who doesn't like a girl DJ? Come on. Everybody loves a girl DJ. Everybody does. It's so hot to me when a girl can put on their headphones. So sexy, yes. And then just get in there. Yes, I love it. Get in there and get down to it. It's like, I look at Calvin Harris and like Tiesto and all these like different people that are in the space where it's like, people love them. I mean Coachella just wrapped up and when I'm sitting here watching Calvin Harris and everybody go and like, I love how people react to the DJ.

22:35To me, as someone who doesn't drink. It's all about the DJ. Everything is about the DJ. All about the DJ. I don't care. Especially if you're not drinking and the music is awful.

22:43Porscha Coleman:Done. I'm not in now. I'm out. I'm done. Me too. The first thing I do when I go somewhere, I'm like, who's the DJ? If I know the DJ's good, I'm there. If not, I'm like, I'll pass because being sober and having bad music I know people around you is like a horrible combination. The absolute worst combination. Yeah. So you are doing all these things, right? And you also have a business that you that you run to. So like I do. How do you have first of all, how do you have enough time in a day to do all this? And like where, you know, where to where are you getting all this? And you're a ball of energy.

23:15Porscha Coleman:Thank you. You're walking in. You come in. You're like, oh, is this every day for you where you feel like you're excited? You're just excited to be alive. I am. And I think it's a beautiful thing when you can, whether you're having a good day or bad day, I just operate in the space that it is. If you're having a bad day, you got to switch it. Switch your mindset because certain things are going to happen and you can't adjust quickly sometimes. And I think the quicker you can get out of that space, the better your life will be. Absolutely. You can't. There's not many things we can control. We can.

23:41Porscha Coleman:We can control how you feel. I can control how I feel. I can't control what someone else around me is doing, but I can control the reaction to it. I can choose to disengage or I can choose to take it in and prioritize my peace with it all. So I really think that running your business is like you kind of have your control. So even when I'm like doing my work, it's like my business is hiring me. Portia's not working. Let's talk about your business, what you're doing. Of course, it's entertainment. So it's a booking business. So I have two, one in L.A. and then obviously one here in Vegas. And it's basically all things entertainment.

24:08So I can, under my own business, employ DJs, writers, artists, producers. So everything that I do under the Portia helm, I'm hiring people under my corporation. Love it. So it's like, if you're doing songs for me, good. Porsche Entertainment is employing you. Porsche Inc., I got all of that. And it's like, I'm even doing a lot of AI stuff in the space of technology. So even, you know, stock shares, business. Like, I'm a tech nerd. That's the funny thing about it. It's like, I'm so nerdy and techie. Yeah, it's huge right now. I love going to all the CESs just to watch where technology is headed.

24:38And it's like, that's what I want to be. If I can be rich and successful, I would love that. I'd be more rich and successful over famous. Famous just kind of comes with the territory, but I want to be stable. I want to be secure. And I want to know that I can wake up being happy to choose what I want to do. You know, because when you're still grinding, you have to still take everything and every job. But as an actor, you know, a lot of people have to settle for certain roles that they don't want to do because you're like, oh, the money's bad. You got to. Getting in a space where you don't have to do that and you can be selective where you put your energy and your time opens up businesses or AI, just things to be creative.

25:10Like I have shops that I run online where I have clothing stores. People don't even know it's even me. I know. it's so big right now. Like, it's huge. If you don't know AI,

25:18Porscha Coleman:if you don't know tech, you are going to, I said this yesterday, you will be left behind. You have to. And you need to be multifaceted and be able to switch because technology is evolving so quickly that yes, you're right, being an actress is great. It's amazing. It's good. But how far, like how long, you know? Exactly. And then, you know, you really don't know where your next gig's coming from or whatever, but to be able to be multifaceted and have a tech company and have this and have that, have your hustle going on, you really are unstoppable because if you're acting with God tomorrow, you can fall back on something else.

25:49Porscha Coleman:And you can have that because that's the thing. You can't control acting. I can't control when the next season's coming. I can't control when the next job is going to get booked. As an actor, you got to wait to audition. That's all you could do. You wait to audition. You send a cell tape in. If they hire you, you're hired. If not, what are you going to do? No, at least I know every day I get checks online for just being Portia. I get paid when I'm posting. I get paid when I'm going lives. All that's good. But if I can know that I'm getting paid because I'm running an online store with merchandise and clothing that has nothing to do with the Porsche brand.

26:17That is the beauty of being a businesswoman, an entrepreneur like the Oprahs and let's say even Rihanna, like the biggest music artist you can imagine. But her biggest sell is her lingerie, her clothing, her makeup. That's a brand. And that's beautiful that a woman can take her likeness and do something with it. And that same thing that like what you're doing, it's like you're multifaceted. You didn't just say, okay, I want to do one field here. I got my degree, but look at the passion and how you manifest itself like this because why? This is another love and passion that can not only cut a check, but fulfill a desire that you have.

26:49If you didn't have a desire to do this, you wouldn't be doing it. Yeah, absolutely. I agree. Yeah, but you have the luxury to do it because you can afford to also do that based on your hard work already prior.

26:58Porscha Coleman:So it's a beautiful thing. Absolutely. Are there ever days where you're like, because I know for me, like I'm pretty much like high energy all the time too. I walk in, I'm a force, but there are definite days where I'm like, fuck, I do not want to do this. Do you ever have those days? The burnout, it happens. It for sure happens. I think once you get done like doing shows like you do with Tyler, those weeks are like you come down off such a high. Your battery's draining. Because it's draining. You do long hours, but you do like one take. So you got to do, imagine like 200 pages a day. Imagine taking a book and memorizing 200 pages and you are on a go like this, maybe with a 30 minute lunch break.

27:33It's a mental, like, it's mentally challenging. But to me, I like to be challenged. So if it's not a challenge to me, I get bored. Yeah, for sure. But it's a mental mind fuck. It's a mental mind fuck. So when all of a sudden you get done, you're like, I just want to sit and not move. And then after like two weeks, I'm like, so when are we coming back? What's next? What's next? And then I get antsy again because I like what I do. I love what I do. So for me, it's always the next opportunity to to shine because I feel like I'm prepared. So to me, it's not hard work. If you're prepared to know your shit.

28:03Yeah, it's really not hard when you walk in the door, knowing your job, knowing your role, knowing your lines and anything in life is about preparation. Absolutely.

28:10Porscha Coleman:100 everything is preparation what about so you're in the public eye people have a lot of opinions i'm sure they say things they don't really know you how do you channel that negative bullshit where people are painting a picture of someone you're probably not oh i see i love that i call those the haters i love that hi haters i i we love that you know you made it if you have a if you ain't got no haters you ain't doing your job you ain't got you ain't doing your job i think haters are beautiful because why you must have something they like that's so true or see i love it because i use that energy that negative energy to propel me forward you have to i love it it's beautiful to me it's like well what are you saying that you don't like i don't care if it's an outfit if it's your hair if it's your makeup whatever the case it is if someone has the time to go online to concoct a paragraph it makes something about you i'm like it's so funny how bothered you are about me but you took the time to actually celebrate can you just scroll i mean you could scroll next Why would you sit there?

29:04Porscha Coleman:Why would you spend the time? And even, like, would you ever go on someone's page and comment or give unsolicited advice? Never. Ever. Never. I would never do that. I never think in my mind, I wake up, I'm going to go hate on somebody today. And I'm just going to give them unsolicited advice. Like, who the fuck has time to sit there and come up with this bullshit? Losers and people who ain't making no money. That's exactly what it is. People ain't got shit to do. Unsolicited advice. I hate those people. They just fucking give you all kinds of shit. You're like, thanks. And then even as an actor, they take these characters so true to life.

29:36Porscha Coleman:Oh, I'm sure. I'm sure. This show has brought so much love and hate in the same time where there'll be people online who are like, I don't like her. I don't support her. And they're like, so wait, you don't like the character or you don't like her? She's just acting. They're like, if you dislike the character and now you hate her, she's doing a damn good job. So I love that. It's like, you don't know me personally. So that's the thing. Like, I'm a tech nerd. I don't drink. I don't smoke. I love astrology. I love donating blood to Children's Hospital I'm an animal lover like everything that people may not think that I am is like what I am so I don't care what your opinion is you don't know me was it hard though at first at first when the comments would come in you know it's so weird well here's the thing but you grew up in this yeah but I grew up pre-social media so being in like I love it being a millennial we got the best of both worlds playing outside no computers no internet to all of a sudden being in that 6th, 7th, 8th grade where I'm like oh it's a big bulky computer what is this and then you have to take computer class.

30:32Do you remember all the Macintosh?

30:34Porscha Coleman:That Macintosh thing. Girl, that Macintosh was so bold you had to press the button. What about the floppy disk though? That fucking thing. The floppy? That floppy and then finally you went to a hard disk. Girl, we went to the floppy disk but then what about the AOL, the dialogue? Yeah! And those chats. We've been in those chat rooms too. Girl, my AOL chat room. I still have an AOL email address. Me too. I still use it. I still use my AOL. I'm never letting go of AOL. I believe it is just a blessing because why? We come from a time AOL was so beautiful. It was a more innocent time. Remember when we'd be on AIM and you hear the little AOL instant messenger?

31:16I live for the pop-up. Me and my friends talk about it all the time.

31:19Porscha Coleman:I felt the love. Literally this one guy that I used to like so much, that was our way of communicating was on AIM. Every time I heard that I had a sound that I knew that was for him, I'd be like, that's him. Like we come from a great time. We do. So we were socially aware. We had communication skills. Yeah. Now it's like kids are so awkward. They are and they hide behind the screen. They hide behind the screen. So to me, when you get a comment from a hater, I'm like, who are they? Some little random, either kid or some weirdo guy who's like 70 behind a computer acting like he's somebody different.

31:55It's like, it's kind of creepy to know what kind of people might be behind there. so I don't really take it to heart because they don't know me personally. I am more offended by someone who tells me something that I know because you know me as a person. Obviously, yes, and then it hurts more. But a hater, I'd be like, if you don't, I love going back in and trolling. Do you go back and comment back? Oh, sometimes. Oh, yeah, depending on what it is. Because guess what?

32:14Porscha Coleman:Give me the best one someone said to you and you gave it back. You have to, give me a good one. Again, something about the show. I think the best people will come in and say something, and Instagram is a good one, right? Facebook is like whatever. They have forums, pages, all that. But when you go on Instagram, why is it always somebody that has a private page, four followers. I was just going to say no followers. No followers. And they follow 2 ,000 people, but they got four followers and they got a private page and their little picture looks crazy. So what I'll do is I'll screenshot the picture, enlarge it, because you know, on the camera, you screenshot it, post it back on their page and be like, you're hitting on me who?

32:49Unblock yourself and show your real face because if this is really you, you need to have a seat. Yeah, or say it with your chest. Like say it with your chest. And then what they do is they'll comment, but then they'll like try to block you from like posting a comment I'm like don't hide now you got my attention let's talk that's so funny like I don't care like I can be petty like that too it's just to me again if you don't have haters you ain't doing your job yeah this is absolutely so true because they're never successful like you're never seeing somebody that's on your level come to your comment box people don't do that they don't do it

33:15Porscha Coleman:people that are winning don't have time to sit there and give unsolicited comments or advice I don't have no time to come and be like I can't believe you're doing this podcast why would you name it that oh you ain't shit like who like what the fuck are you doing? Go get a job. Get a job. Get a fucking job. Get a job. A nine to five job because we're doing real jobs. We don't got to wake up to clock in. But you over here behind your desk at your job, enemy. Have a seat. Girl. That's why I just say have a seat. I love it. Did you ever, was there ever a moment where you were like, I don't want to do this anymore?

33:46Ooh.

33:47Porscha Coleman:You know what? I think the only time that really happened was during COVID because I can imagine everything shifted. Right? Especially here. See in Florida, we didn't think it was a real thing. Oh yeah, y 'all was out partying in Florida. See, I was in LA during COVID and even LA was like, we were shut down. I know, here too in Vegas. Every time I would go look at Florida, I was like, they live in they best life. Florida and Atlanta. Y 'all was partying. We were doing everything. Y 'all was spreading the wrong to everybody. Yeah, we definitely were. Y 'all was spreading it. We were giving it to everybody.

34:11It was not a real thing. Miami didn't care. And I was like, dang, like LA was like, you had to be six feet. We had to walk in. Here's the dumb shit. How do you walk in with a mask?

34:21Porscha Coleman:but as soon as you sit down you can take it off you can take off the mask to eat listen the COVID perspective is a whole other conversation you think the plane the mask on the plane we're all breathing the same air you think when the food comes take it off I'm like you realize you're still sitting right here right this makes so much sense all that propaganda is a whole other conversation for a different day but that time I think it was a little shift because it was a year and a half of like it was a long time nothing so you're like if everything is shut down what do what do i do outside of entertainment because i was early in doing business stuff ai was happening but not as big maybe five years ago so it was like well what next yeah and when they start saying we got to do self-tapes which means put yourself on camera and send it to us i'm like so i got to change my whole place up to record myself to send to you to hope that you watch it and like it oh wow yeah the burnout happened oh yeah because even now we don't really go in rooms like i booked tyler's show off of a self-tape i sent in a role for a self-tape i got the call back two days later and i was in person with him after but everything now is putting yourself on camera to where cast members are sitting and just watching your tapes wow so how do you not get burned out when you're not walking in a room anymore to be like hi i'm portia here's my scene take a listen to what i have to do you're not doing that anymore yeah so you do get a little like depressed hired of self-taping wondering do they like you what do they think of your tape that they see it like you don't get the feedback you used to get when you walk in the room and they're like hey i like you can you try this can you try that it's like now it's just send it in and yeah we'll see if we hear from you yeah so yeah you i from 2020 2021 it was a little burnout but i think the whole world felt like that but i can only imagine in your industry like what it really was like but y 'all was partying and had mimosas y 'all was good we were we were living our best life but that wasn't a real thing it wasn't a thing but technically now is it a thing no it's not a real thing i was right all along that's why i never got the covid test or the shot i know i wouldn't do it no i'm lying i got one that's you did i got one I'll tell you why.

36:16Porscha Coleman:Why? Because I was going on a cruise and they made it. They made you. But then I realized that you can like sketch the whole thing. So the second one, I just wrote it in. Listen. Sorry. But it was not a real thing. I knew I set it in the way beginning. I'm saying right here on record, that was a mess and it was a lie. It was not a real thing. I'm sorry. And here's the crazy part. And I'll say this on record. I fell out with family over that. I know. Me too. My family. I remember my mom not wanting to see me. I'm like, I'm your daughter. She didn't want to see me. And then my uncle told her she was playing Russian roulette by coming to see me and the kids.

36:49Who says that? Tell me why my own brother said, you're trying to kill our mom. You're trying to kill our mother by not getting your shots. I was like, first of all, I'm not asking my mom to come to my house. She's just five minutes away, so she just comes in and outs. But outside of that, why are you telling me what to do? You live in a whole other state. I'm not in your house. You don't pay my rent. I can choose to do what I want to do with my body. It's the unsolicited listing. Unsolicited because it's your family, right? and I will tell you even on record I remember in 2021 later having to go do a movie and it was in Hawaii and there was girls on set they took the shot their periods skipped two girls had miscarriages a lot of them were having fertility issues and I was like that's not coincidental and I just I always stuck to my guns I've never been one to be like oh let me go get flu shots let me go get all these shots I don't do all of it either I don't get sick I take my natural herbs I don't do it and even when that came up but was like so you're just gonna pop up something and say we got to get shots just to to do something right now it's like I'm gonna take my time if I decide to I'll do it myself I never did it and I'm so glad that I didn't because too many athletes are passing from myocarditis and heart inflammation and even people now are saying that they regret taking all the shots yeah and I do not so like I said to the family again they know who they are it was kind of like this thing where you're gonna hurt us and you okay cool I don't gotta be around you no problem and here we are going right into restaurants COVID where yeah it's not it wasn't a real thing like you hyped it up just to get the money out of people because here's the thing and this one it comes down to business would you do something for free knowing that you can't sue

38:21Porscha Coleman:later on if something bad happens would I do it for free because that's what happens when you go to get a shot what I just signed a waiver saying this is free this is elective you walked in to do this and there's nothing you can't sue us you can't come back and say anything after if something happened no i wouldn't do it you wouldn't even go into a business deal like that no no but people were doing it left and right you did it and then now there's repercussions but there's nothing you could do about it even just in business you don't do something that you can't have some sort of recourse after to go back and get it something bad happened yeah i didn't that's why i well i came i said to one and then i was like i only did it for the cruise the cruise line i get the cruise lines was going everywhere and they made you do it yeah i just never felt like someone making you do something even certain jobs yeah i know a lot of friends that were actors as well like they got fired over not getting the shot but here we are now it's not mandatory so they're trying to go back and sue for certain things saying but dang did i really have to do it oh businesses made you do it but i feel like they were also involved in the propaganda of what was going on to be honest so i'm happy i did not and i and i'm grateful that i didn't because now look it's not a big nothing it's not a real thing it's not a thing so i know flora wasn't tripping on it because y 'all was outside y 'all was outside and i remember even my brother said this what are you gonna do and they come door to door and force you like with a gun to go get a shot and i was like this is not happening that's not happening but keep watching cnn believing that never so i have so i have a question you brought like you were talking about actresses growing up as a child actor or actress singer you hear like a lot of these stories coming out right now terrible so i'm going there yes i'm going about it um what is your perception on that were you ever i don't want to make you like put yourself out but were you ever faced with anything that was like inappropriate or you know indecent because now all of these it's all over netflix all these shows like from disney too the the guy from um oh my god what's his name from nickelodeon and the guy dan yes he was on that show what was it all that well no there was another behind all that but he started on um oh my god it was it was nickelodeon though i think he started with um He was doing that show with like all the high school kids.

40:30Porscha Coleman:It wasn't high school musical. No, I know what you're talking about, but he started. Yeah, his name was Dan and he started where he was getting a lot of these people and actors on the shows. And some of them fell victim to that. I never did. And I'll be like so transparent and so honest. It's like that is a time where I was involved in. I remember auditioning for all that. I was like 10 and they wanted like 12 years old or 13. So I remember I was a little young at the time for the show. And there was a lot going on. I'll just say it. Like I said, and in a lot of ways, I always think, let's say my mom in an instance because I never felt victim to staying out late at the parties.

41:05I'd always come, but my mom was like, I was going to say your parents. You got to go. I mean, that's what I, this might sound terrible,

41:10Porscha Coleman:but where were the parents? Exactly. I think a lot of times, even when you hear the stuff that Dan did, parents kind of drop the kids off. The parents kind of. I'm not dropping my kid off. If I ain't got no kid, I'm not dropping my kid off nowhere. I don't even let my kids sleep out. No, and I think, and I agree with that too. There's like a dad there. I'm always like, let me see the dad. Or is there a creepy uncle? I agree to sleep out. I think that's fair. And even as a woman, the discernment in a certain way, not saying that, you know, I hate to say it. We love men, but certain men are creepy.

41:38Yeah, they are creepy. They're weird. And you never know what can happen. And I feel like that is one thing that my mom, I never did. I slept at my uncle's house. My cousins were there and it was like one place. That was it. I never slept. We never did sleepovers. I just wasn't allowed to do that. So I didn't think anything was weird about it until I started seeing stuff later on where I'm like, dang, that was happening to certain people. Your parent was controlling the situation. So she was controlling that narrative. And in a way, I'm grateful for that. And I saw I'd be at the parties and, you know, the kids would be drinking.

42:08I could name several Disney stars that were there and they were 13, 14 years old getting drunk, getting plastered, taking stuff. I saw all of that. I was just never the type of person who was like, oh, I want to do it. I've never had that person. If I see you walking off a bridge, have a good time. That's not me. I'm not a follower like that. But I witnessed a lot of things. But the molestation or any sort of touching. I never saw that. And when I saw this come out, I felt so bad for certain people that I know that we're dealing with a lot. You know, that we're that we're drinking too early, that we're having sex early.

42:42Like, I remember going to a couple of parties and I'm like, where's so and so? And they're like, oh, I think she's in the room having sex. And I'm like, I was a girl. I was such a late bloomer. I was a virgin. I was like, 25. Good for you. Like, let's just say that. I was very late to a lot just because I was just never that type of personality, but I saw so much. And I was just like, why are kids doing something like this? Why do they have to feel like they have to feel validated by doing certain things just because certain friends do it? And hearing later that what Dan was doing to get in and to be liked by certain kids is sad.

43:13It's very sad. And it's sad because it could have changed a lot of trajectory for certain people and their careers could have gone one way versus, you know, another way. so I'm glad that they're bringing that to light but I think it starts with your with your home yeah I agree I because you know there's a lot of parents that you look and see the parents were having a good time hanging out that meant that the parent was down like yeah if you liked Dan because you thought your kid is going to be successful and be rich because of they're hanging out with him but behind closed doors you're waking up on the couch and Dan is filling you up yeah no as a parent you have a responsibility as well because that kid is your responsibility for 18 years.

43:46And you know what I'm saying? So I feel like, thank God I did have a household where my mom wasn't having it and I wasn't out like that. But my personality also was like, I wasn't going to just follow the crew of what it looked like. Cause even by the time you're 20, 21, I was driving by 16. I was emancipated by 16. I was technically legally adult in entertainment, but I just always knew better. And I was like, I don't want to do that. And even now, when I look back at certain girls who disappeared because they either got pregnant or they did certain things where they got caught up with the wrong crowd it's it's very sad but I'm also again grateful that you have the protection of someone who is like that's not gonna be my child yeah absolutely not and this is how we're gonna keep moving so I think I've adopted that same mindset even now I love to hang out like I have celebrities my most of my friends are in entertainment and artists that's just how I grew up I go to the party going to college right there

44:40Porscha Coleman:was in college you knew at 2 a.m come on if this guy was calling you knew he wasn't calling just to hang out oh let's just read a book we're not doing this you are it was called the booty call for a reason stop it you knew what it was you knew so why like yeah come on no different than the guy that was a i think the one agent where he called you over and hey i'm in my robe i want to study lines with you at two or three you're like come on like come on i'm a grown woman i'm an actor but you you you can go to a hotel when he says we're very little and you open the door and he's standing there with a robe, just dig out.

45:12What do you think is going on? You think you're auditioning? The discernment of a woman also you have to follow because the moment you don't leave with discernment is when some stuff gonna go down. You gotta use your common sense too.

45:25Porscha Coleman:Yes, you have to. You have to. You can't do the victim thing. And I'm not saying, look, I do think things happen. Things happen for sure. But I think when you know where you're going and the time, everybody knows that the freaks come out. nothing yeah nothing happened read the weather you know listen after 12 ain't nothing good happening like they say after 12 ain't nothing but open my legs that's exactly what it you are you know this you know certain things after you know men and i grew up with a brother i had a lot of uncles so when you're a woman that grows up around guys you hear them talking you be like oh y 'all nasty and you hear certain things so you don't get played by certain guys telling you certain things that you think is like oh my god he i can't believe he said that to me i'm like girl he lying you know what I'm saying certain things that you hear but as a young girl growing up I think it takes your upbringing and the stuff that you're hearing I think it starts with the parents too it starts with your parents talking to you about stuff it's a very open talk I have an open conversation with my son my daughter they tell me everything they know they can tell me everything I love that and it is an open dialogue about everything why not that's what it should be as a parent it has to be like that I would be that parent it's like I don't care what you have to say come to talk to me it doesn't matter they know it's a safe space they can say whatever they want as good or bad as it is it can go on the kitchen table that's what we spew it all out it should and yeah and they know it's a safe space and we have a great episode about this even in divorced sisters where you know the boy is coming home high like the son on the show is like something is wrong so the mom and dad are trying to reprimand him he's not listening they wake him up out of bed dad is like peeing his cup he's like i'm not gonna pee in a cup he said piss in this cup right now it's gonna be a problem he grabs him throws him up against the wall he makes him you know pee in his cup.

47:04Very next morning, they go in the room. The kid is passed out. Kid is unresponsive. Mom goes down the hallway. She gets some Narcan and it wakes him up and he's like, and he starts coming too. So the first thing the husband asks is like, where the hell do you get Narcan and why do you have it? She said, because I've been noticing some changes in my son. I knew that if something is going to happen, I need to be prepared. So for her to have that, it saved his life on the show. So like you said, the parents discernment, knowing their children and knowing some kids naturally have a personality where they're just a follower.

47:35Yes, they do. They do. They absolutely do. My kids are all different.

47:38Porscha Coleman:Like my daughter, you don't have to worry about her. She ain't gonna do everything that everybody else is doing. She does not. She's not gonna do it. And if she does, she's too guilty. She'll tell me about it and then we're gonna talk about it. My son might take a little risk here and there. I don't know what he's gonna do. But at least he'll be honest about it. He'll be honest about it. It might be stupid. He does some dumb ass shit. And don't you hate to say it, boys? Why y 'all make these decisions? Dumb ass shit. Dumb. And that's the thing. I would love twin boys. I want twins so bad. I'm like, do I want two little dummies?

48:04Hopefully they're smart. But at the same time, certain boy, you'll be looking and be like, why did you make that decision? I look at my son all the time. I'll say to him twice. I tell him, I go, say it out loud.

48:14Porscha Coleman:Say it out loud. Say what you just said to me and say it out loud. And if it makes sense, we'll go with it. But say it out loud. Say that dumb shit out loud. Again, women naturally, I love us. We just, we be so smart. Like a lot of times, even girls in school, look how much smarter the girls are than the boys. all the time. I'd always be like, God, these boys are dumb. They're cute, but just dumb. So when you're raising a child, like you said, as I love it that you're a mom to a son and a daughter, you have to raise them probably differently. Yes, I do. You have to. And they're so different. They are so completely different.

48:43Porscha Coleman:But my son, both the sons, the patients, patients, not there. I lost it a long time ago. So are they older than your daughter? My daughter's the oldest. She's the 18 year old. And then she has two little brothers. She has a 15 year old and then the eight year old. So the 15 year old. Oh, the young ones be the problem though. The young one is the worst. The young one is he, they always say that last child. The mouth, the mouth. This kid rallied all the kids at school, rallied them, and told them we're Jewish, so he told them that Santa wasn't real. The teacher calls me. Oh my God. And says, Levi told all the kids that Santa's not real.

49:16Porscha Coleman:And what could I say? I'm like, we're Jewish. Well, we don't believe. But he gathered all the kids though. On the playground. Look at that. He gathered. I think you have a future leader on your hands. Good job. Good job, kiddo. gathered them on the playground, took court, and told them, listen guys, Santa's not real. He ruined these kids' life. But, at the end of the day, Levi, were you wrong? No. But that was not his job to tell them. Then arguably he's like, well, you're lying to these kids. See, I think the young kids are the truth tellers. And that's the one thing I like. Like I said, my brother's 18 years older than me.

49:53And in a way, I was always like the peacemaker didn't always stand up. But now I'm like, I'm gonna tell it like it is. I don't gotta hold back and I think that's the younger sibling mindset yes but you are not

50:02Porscha Coleman:supposed to you did you not grow up where whatever went on in your house you shut your mouth you're not allowed to tell the business in your house and you know what and I never said a word my son you're right and you're right though but that's the thing but again if you think of now how that could be detrimental to a kid because let's say if a kid is going through some issues don't talk about it don't bring it to the school don't tell nobody but then all of a sudden years later that trauma collects later and you're like, see, it started in the household. Every relationship, I guarantee you now, that don't work is a reflection of your childhood.

50:33If you're triggered by something a man tells you and the way he says it, it might have been how your father talked to you or your cousin or your brother. It's all childhood trauma. So it's like, you have to take that childhood and really cultivate it in a way, like you said, as a parent you're only doing the best that you can and what you knew. So your household he's not wrong, but it's just not his job to go tell all the other kids. He rats us out for everything. I know. Something's so good. He rats us out for everything. Telling our parents.

50:59Porscha Coleman:Telling on us to our own parents. Little ones are tattletales. Such a snitch. And little ones, because guess what? It gets them more attention. I realize like little kids tell the most because why? The older siblings are the responsible ones. They're doing stuff behind closed doors. They're a little more sneaky. The older ones are sneaky. The middle one is kind of like he's riding the fence on both but that little one, don't give a damn. because he gonna tell everybody. He got me one time. Lily does drugs. I go, Lily does drugs. He said, go in her car, open up the door. I'm done. There's gonna be drugs in there.

51:29Porscha Coleman:So I go in there and there's a wine bottle in there. He's like, I told you drugs. Told you. I told you drugs. Drugs. Drugs, yeah. And that's her little brother. Yeah. Snitch. Levi's a snitch. Levi is such a snitch. I love that name too. Levi is so cute. There's another celebrity. I don't know if it's Gwyneth Paltrow. I know she has Apple. I think one of her kids, some celebrity has a son named Levi. I love it. I think that's so cute though. So what is next for you? I mean you really are doing everything. What's your like next big, I know you have a whole bunch of different projects, but like is there something that you really want to achieve that you haven't yet?

52:03Is there something like that you're manifesting? I think the next big thing is like tour. I would love to be on a music tour. Like I said, this dance music I believe in. I do. I dance, I choreograph. I've been doing that since I was professionally trained by 11. Like I said, the junior high schools, performing arts, ballet, jazz, tap, modern. I've been dancing since I was young. Did you do MTV The Grind?

52:23Porscha Coleman:No. You know, so here's the thing. So even 106 and Park was a big show like on MTV. I'm not MTV. I'm sorry. BET. And I think I broke a record. At one point I was in every video, all 10 videos in one day on the countdown. Whether I was a lead girl, whether I was a dancer, the choreographer, I was in every video. So I love dance and performance. So for me, the next step is like I want to go on tour. I want to have this dance music. I want to be at the Coachella festivals overseas. opening and dancing and showing my music. Like that's, to me, music is something that you can't always teach. Again, you could teach people how to sing, but the performance side of things, you can't necessarily teach performance.

53:04Even like now, the Michael movie is out. When you think of Michael Jackson, the greatest performer of all time, yes, obviously his dad beat his ass and was like, you're gonna perform, but to cultivate that level of artistry and performance, that's God-given talent.

53:17Porscha Coleman:Yeah, I believe that. I don't, I think that you're, there's no way I could perform. That's just not my talent. You can't do that. Mariah Carey, vocalist of all time. Whitney Houston, vocalist of all time. Prince, these people were destined to be great and to be performers. So to me, yeah, you can learn how to act and you can do all that and you can get a lot of takes, but music is like that instant gratification of being on stage when someone's like, I love your song. I love how you perform. It's like in the moment is it's so beautiful. So for me, I want to perform. I want to go on tour and I've already performed like I went to Dubai in Qatar I love when I tell you I performed at this wedding it was a two million dollar wedding and it was insane just watching the the wealth the culture and it's like I want to perform overseas I want to do weddings and just artistry because they love they love you over there like Americans we're good but go to Germany go overseas somewhere and they love you differently I appreciate you they love you differently so that's the next step that I would love and of course more seasons of our show that movie star I want to be in a big movie as well.

54:16You will. Only I mean several movies but I'll start with one just to be

54:20Porscha Coleman:Listen, you're gonna do it I can feel it. You're just, your energy is so, it's so authentic it's so real. I mean anyone that wouldn't star you as the star How about this? We do our own project and I'll start my own movies because that's the next thing. You can be your own director who cares to direct your own, you can do it Your own projects now, I think that's the wave of the future is like not selling for networks to actually pick up your show and wait for that moment. There are shows right now that are online, that are on YouTube that are on platforms that are killing it because someone believed in themselves.

54:49Patreon, Issa Rae started there on so many different shows. It's like you can believe in yourself and start your own project. And that's what I love about this. Again, the time now is to be a self-proclaimed entrepreneur, director, writer. Do it yourself. If someone doesn't believe in it, do it yourself.

55:02Porscha Coleman:I think that is the message of today's show is that you really can be a self-proclaimed whatever you want. 100%. And you are the spitting image of it that if you want to be an actor, you want to be a singer, a dancer, I mean, you are literally doing that. I hope that you take time and really, really embrace that. Do you ever do that? Take time and like look at your trophy room and say, shit, I did that. You know, I love that. I think when I go back and look at like my IMDB and I see some credits or people like, oh my God, I loved you on this show. I'm like, oh crap, I did do that. I've done a lot already for my, to me, small amount of years on this earth.

55:36You know what I'm saying? Like I have so much more to do, so much more to develop. I feel like I'm just getting started. That used to be my Vice Face headline. Just getting started. it in my mind I'm like but I am there's so much more to do but I already know like I envision it I can see it so to me it's not far-fetched it's just saying how can I get it to happen if I want to perform at these festivals the music has to come out I have to promote the music I have to do the videos you have to do the work and if people love it they're going to gravitate to it absolutely they will it's like people gravitate to authenticity like you said that's what I feel like I'm very good at is being authentically myself and they can smell it if you're fake I can play characters all day long.

56:11That's my job is to portray a fake character. But Portia at the root is the businesswoman, the friendship person who's calling to check on you. Like I'm so discerning. Somebody will pop in my mind. I'll call them like, what's wrong? They'll be like, what do you mean? I'm like, what's wrong? Well, this just happened. How did you know? I feel as a cancer, I'm a feeler. Like I feel other people's energy. And sometimes it gets draining where I'm like, okay, I don't want to feel this much. I don't want to feel everybody's problems. But again, I feel like I can take on a lot of burdens and I can deal with a lot of weight on my shoulders because I think I was born to be that way.

56:43So I'm born to give love and to give support and to pour in other people. But I also had to realize I need to do it also for myself.

56:50Porscha Coleman:Absolutely, you have to fill your own cup. You have to fill your own cup. If your cup is empty, you can't fill somebody else. You cannot, absolutely. And if people want to find you, I mean, I'm sure everybody knows where to find you, but where can they find you? Of course, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, MySpace, I probably gonna check it. but if you say hi I might say hello back it's just at Portia Coleman P-O-R-S-C-H-A C-O-L-E-M-A-N and there's so much to come like I said I'm excited about what the future holds and of course I'll have to just come back and drop more tea on some other stuff part too yes we need to we're just gonna do a show on like just real tea I love it and again thank you so much like I said you have a great platform and I love how you're bringing people on to talk about their their passions their goals their dreams and how being a boss encompasses so much yeah it's you're just not boxed into like Like, you know, an accountant.

57:38I mean, everybody's a boss in their own right.

57:39Porscha Coleman:It's just, what are you going to do with it? What are you going to do with your boss behavior? So you got to be a boss. And I think she's a boss I'd like to follow. Girl, I love that. I love that. Let's coin it. Yes. Thank you. I mean, this episode today, I think every woman needs to watch. If you do not watch Portia, whether it's on this show or on her own show, whatever you guys have to follow, like her. So if you like today's episode, go ahead, subscribe, like, unsubscribe. I don't care. Just do something. Just do something. Something. You know? Come on, you already, don't leave me any unsolicited advice though.

58:08Porscha Coleman:We don't want that. Because if we do, we're just going to delete and block you anyway. Yeah, and then I'm just going to troll you. So don't do it. Well, we'll shout you out exclusively. Oh, well, thank you for coming by today. I know it's not always easy, but thank you for making the time. It's good. I got you. And I'm happy to be here and to be continued. And I would get her shoes, but they're seven and a half. I can't wear them. They're so cute though. But thank you for having me on. I appreciate it. It was amazing.