How To Leave A Bitchboy

0:00Sunday morning, Father's calling. do do do do do do do do every sunday's father's day that was pretty good right is this thing on okay daddy gang i know it's a sunday it's a little disorienting you're probably like what we it's not when we hold on i thought you abandoned it have no fear. On Father's Day, I thought it is time to return to my children. Now, here's the thing. I have a Father's Day gift for you. I think that's actually completely backwards because as the children, you're supposed to give your father a gift, but I'm not in need. I don't need a fucking six pack. I don't need, you know, a new grill or a blowjob.

0:49A blowjob would be nice, but it's okay. I'm going to give you a gift and the gift that I'm giving today is Sunday sessions are officially making a motherfucking comeback. Boom. See, let me explain why they went away because I have seen a lot of you in my DMs. Where are you? Where are you, bitch? The interviews are great, but like, let's hear a little bit more of you and from you and give us some advice. And it's been hurting me in my soul. I feel like a sinner. I feel disgusting. I've felt horrible about myself. Don't worry. It's been eating me alive. Matt has to listen to it almost every night.

1:27The Sunday sessions, just shut. Okay. Then go and do the Sunday sessions. This is why I couldn't for a little bit. When I signed my new deal with SiriusXM, I was launching two live radio shows that are every single day of the week, Monday through Friday, the Daily Dirty and Dialed In are on air. OK, and I didn't want to be a piece of shit and just like take too much on. And then everything kind of sucked. And it was like half assing everything. If I'm going to do something, I want it to be great. So I paused on Sunday sessions because I needed to make sure that I was capable of giving it my all.

2:03Now that these beautiful shows on Sirius XM are up and running, you guys are loving them. One is advice. One is pop culture. Boom, boom, boom. I figured now that it's up and running, I can finally return to the homeland, aka this motherfucking couch. And I can give you guys advice. I can tell you about my life. We can gossip. We can talk shit. And it's a safe space. So happy motherfucking Father's Day. Sunday sessions are back in session, bitch.

2:56Now, I thought what better way to kick off a Sunday session than take a little trip. Then take a little trip. Cover your ears if you don't want to be a part of this. Because you little brown nosers, some of you have said you've missed taking a little trip. A little trip. A little trip that I like to call. A little, little, little, just a little, little, very, very small. But it's just a little quick trip. Little quick trip. One, two, one, two. A little thing I like to call.

3:32Questions of the mother. I don't know if that's going to sound okay. Of the mother. Fucking week. week questions of the mother the mother fucking week questions of the motherfucking week bitch dan derota dan we made it we're in fucking france bitch questions of the motherfucking week you bitches are in fucking need you guys are like things have been not going well we're kind of regressing daddy gang and i was reading these being like bitch he did what and you stayed Bitch, he fucked who? Bitch, you fucked who? Yeah, no, we gotta get together. Okay, question one. Hey, daddy, so I have a boyfriend who keeps a diary.

4:16Well, that's already fucking weird. I love the shade of like, my boyfriend, it's a diary. Like you could have called it a journal, but the shade. What man has a diary? Is it pink? Then you have your answer. You need to break up with him. Okay. Hey, daddy, so I have a boyfriend who keeps a diary. recently I read it and found that he writes about how he gets off to girls I confronted him about it and he just got angry saying that it was an invasion of privacy I love a gas lighter we recovered from that but now about nine months later I have found the diary again and he is still writing about getting off to other girls and now questioning if he loves me help I don't know what I should do now we've been together for over two years and I am so heartbroken right now okay um the toxic in me needs to just like quickly give you a little hint when you snoop never reveal your source you know what I mean because obviously you said you found it again he clearly took the diary hid it in another cubby somewhere he didn't think you're gonna find it and then one day you were doing the dishes and it was next to the fucking dish soap and you were like the diary still fucking exists.

5:24So one, never reveal your sources because when you find some shade, you got to know it's going to keep going. So gather information, right? Never reveal. Secondly, if we're not being toxic, I'm concerned on this Father's Day, I feel like I can be a little extra honest, right? Like you guys don't want me to cradle you and pretend you're young toddlers. We're fucking adults here. Okay. So I can be honest. We can crack open a cold one and have a fucking beer with your father and I can be like so he hates you maybe doesn't he hate you but he doesn't love you men are so fucking lazy think about this they're so fucking lazy the fact that this man takes the energy picks up pen puts pen to paper and is writing about other women and then in the fucking second paragraph is like also I don't know if I love my girlfriend it's it's gotta to end.

6:17You deserve so much fucking better. The fact that he's still writing about these women and now he's adding you into it. I think you have your answer, but I will empathize with you a little bit. There is nothing worse, honestly, than finding something out about your relationship, not just by the source of the person you're in the relationship with, right? Like whether you find out they were cheating through X or you find a diary, sus in general, sus. But if you find a diary and they're writing things. No, that wasn't an invasion of privacy. I'm sorry. He's writing about wanting to fuck 10 other women and that he doesn't love you anymore.

6:50Like, yeah, I think you're privy to that information. You fucking bitch. Not you, him. Last thing also is when you are engaging in a healthy relationship, you won't have the overwhelming feeling that you need to look through their things. Snooping isn't something that feels like, okay, he's finally a sleep or he's finally in the shower like let's go for it so um case closed you deserve better let's keep it fucking moving okay question number two hi daddy I'm 34 and single and I feel like my friends are always with their significant others a holiday weekend is coming up and not one of them invited me anywhere I just feel like I keep being the one to make all the plans they make comments like I'm so glad I don't have to go out anymore and honestly that makes me feel bad because if I had a partner I'd obviously love a Netflix night too anyways I just feel incredibly lonely do I need to make a whole new friend group first of all completely sorry that you're feeling this way because especially I think as you get to the later half of your 20s early 30s later 30s 40s I think anyone that's in their single era and they're around all their friends that are in relationships if that's the case, you just feel like shit sometimes.

8:08Not to say it's all the time, but sometimes you're just like, fuck, I just wish I was on the same wavelength as my friends. That's life. That's completely normal. So I want to validate you. I don't think you need to get a whole new friend group, but I would say, have you expressed this to them in a way that is positive and not like nagging? Like instead of being like, you guys are always with your partners and I never get to hang out with you. What if you go to them and be like, guys, I love that you're all in such happy healthy relationships I you guys know that's what I'm also looking for but I miss you guys and so I'm wondering if we could start to do more regular hangs or obviously I know your guys schedule may be a little bit better busier than mine with date nights and stuff so like you let me know whenever and like I'll be there but I love you guys so that's first is just like acknowledging it to your friends so that they don't think that you are holding this resentment have the open communication and then if they're assholes obviously sure get new friends because whether you're in a romantic relationship or not your friendships shouldn't just become like completely irrelevant like those are like the core foundations of probably how you found this great relationship and who you are today so you can't just completely neglect your friends but what I would say is I don't think it would hurt to get some new friends and something that I've been talking with my single friends about recently is they've all been saying something they love about their friend group is everyone knows a single girl, especially in your thirties.

9:31I feel like there's this beautiful camaraderie women who are single in their thirties. You want to hang out together. Cause let's be honest in your twenties, it's a little hard to make friends weirdly. Cause everyone's kind of like, you're kind of transitioning out of college. You're trying to figure your shit out. You're trying to figure out your job by 30. People are a little bit more confident in who they are and they know what they want. And I feel like so many women are like, wait, you're single too? Oh my God, let's go out for drinks. And so one of my friends who is single asked some of her friends in relationships, do you guys have any single friends?

10:04And they were like, wait, yes, this girl from my work is single. I'll connect you too. They've now connected on text and now they go out every weekend together. And it's a fun dynamic that they have because they have this shared experience. And so I think you need to put yourself out there and recognize sometimes you need to build relationships with people that are at the same place as you doesn't mean you can't have people that aren't but why not have a good single friend so that way on a Friday if everyone's at date night you're hitting up Bridget being like Bridget you ready to go downtown and suck some dick and then Bridget's like yeah bitch I want to get fucking tag teamed with you that is the kind of relationship that you're looking for something's in the air today we're so fucking back.

10:45Okay. This one is so, this is a tough one. All right. I'm currently dating my best guy friend and happier than ever. We've been friends for three years and recently started dating a few months ago. I'm so beyond happy, but is it normal to sometimes feel like we're just friends? He was in a relationship previously, so I was constantly having to suppress any feelings until he was single and we would have a chance to date. I don't always feel comfortable being outwardly affectionate or romantic with him help. Okay, this is tough because I'll be honest, I have never in my life dated someone that I was first friends with.

11:27I've always just gone from it's an attraction and then romantic. So I want to just like put that out there that I don't have complete experience with this, but I know my friends do. My first thought for you is I would assume it's completely normal that to transition from being friends you have had a completely platonic relationship the entire time you've known him your entire life and so to now be able to like openly be at a bar with your friends and be able to like hold his hand and kiss him that's gonna take some like almost like learning new muscle memory and I would encourage you you can even say it to him like oh my god I feel like sometimes when we're in public we still almost go back to like being friends and I want to feel like we are in this relationship I love you this is so fun so I'm okay if we like ramp up a tiny bit on the PDA and so maybe you are holding hands on your way to dinner and you are having a quick kiss at the bar obviously don't be that annoying couple that's fucking tongue down throat but you know what I mean I think feel comfortable to lean into the things that you're clearly wanting but again I would let him know you're missing out on that now not to be a skeptic but I have to be honest my biggest concern of all of this is sure try the PDA see if it works I do think it's a little bit of a red flag that you're like have you ever been in a relationship with someone you just feel like you're friends with no and again that's just my experience but what I'm worried for you with is were you so attracted to this person because it was this forbidden thing right you just said he had a girlfriend you couldn't be with him finally you're together like was this someone that you were at an arm's length like you're so close to him but you can't have him so there's this forbidden nature that has almost been your entire relationship with him you can't have him but you know you're in love with him and he's always giving you eyes at the bar and you always kind of knew there was something but he's in really like that's intoxicating that's addicting actually and so all of a sudden I'm worried that are you now at this place in your relationship where you finally gotten the guy that was always forbidden and it's kind of like it was kind of more fun when it was forbidden and now we're here and I'm like you kind of do still feel just like my friend like that's do you know what I'm saying because he's always been your friend and now that he's supposed to be more and he still feels like your friend like you should have been finally you're able to be together let's rip each other's clothes off let's fucking go for it oh my god I love you so much it feels like you're kind of like huh so I think you need to look at yourself and be honest with yourself about how much of a narrative did you create in the build-up to this this is a really random note but it's almost similar I feel like to work relationships, like when it's this forbidden thing and someone's gonna either have an affair or it's not an affair, but it's so forbidden and you're not allowed to be together.

14:22And then you like fuck once, but then it's like, now let's go into reality. Now let's live together. And you have to know that I'm shitting and there's bodily things and it's not as sexy. It's like life is not constantly sexy, but when you're in a forbidden situation, it's only mysterious and sexy. And that doesn't last very long. I know I kind of left you with a lot there, but I think you have to figure it out for yourself and either one is going to be fine, but don't live in this limbo and a lie. You don't want to be just like with a best friend. You need to be physically and romantically connected to someone, um, in order, in my opinion, to maintain a romantic long-term relationship.

15:24Hi, Alex. I have been with my boyfriend for four years on and off. He has cheated on me about five times, sweetie, with random women each time he was drunk. This last time I caught him, And he bought me a ring after and promised he was going to settle down and propose to me. So I stayed with him. It's now been five months and the ring is still on his nightstand. I know I should leave, but I've lost hope in myself to set boundaries. I don't think I'll find better. He's rich and good looking. And I feel like even the poor guy, I feel like even the poor ugly guys cheat. So true. So what do I do? Oh my God.

16:09That's so annoying when they're like actually fucking ugly and busted and like below you and you're like, and you're still cheating. It's a, it's an insecurity thing. Don't get upset about it. Um, okay. Holy shit. Let's talk about this. I have been in situations where I'm in a relationship and the guy is successful and good looking and all the things. And I have just completely lost my self-worth and I have completely lost myself. and I'm convinced in those moments, even as shitty as he's treating me, as much as he's cheating on me, I don't know if I can leave because there's gonna be nothing else out there.

16:47And I've already invested so much time into this person. Like maybe it's gonna get better. Maybe it's gonna get better. When you are asking yourself in a relationship, it's gotta get better, right? Like it's gonna get better. Eventually it's gonna get better. It's literally only gonna get worse. Unless it is mutually agreed upon and there's therapy and there's like actual genuine effort from both sides equally, which is so fucking rare, if you keep asking yourself this, it's probably never gonna get better. What I would say to you is it's so much less lonely actually just being alone because you have this straight path forward.

17:24You know yourself, you know what you want. You start to build your confidence and you're one step away from just finding that right person. When you're in a fucked up situation and they're cheating on you every fucking day, you it is like you're just trying to remember who the fuck you are you're just trying not to have a pit in your stomach you're just trying to get yourself to like even be at fucking baseline not even happy just like awake and okay and not crying that fucking day there's so much energy I think that we don't recognize that we have to put into these situations and it completely depletes you it's almost the point is that people don't leave because it's so exhausting because you're already so emotionally drained that he's hurt you so much.

18:05How am I even going to be on my own? Like, how am I going to do it? No, your life will be better the minute you leave. My advice to you is a man who buys a ring as an apology, it's actually just going to get worse. A man buying a ring because he cheated, he didn't buy that ring because he wanted to give it to you. He didn't buy that ring because you guys had this beautiful foundation that you worked so fucking hard to get and you're both ready to make the next step. No, he bought the ring because he's like hopefully this will fucking hold her over until the next time I cheat and she'll forget and then I don't actually have to give her the ring but this will hold her over don't be the girl that's just getting held over by him fucking up and then apologizing and then the flowers and the girl you deserve so much fucking better you are writing this in you know your answer five other women the minute you accept a ring from someone it is gonna make it harder to leave I'm not saying you can't because daddy gang you know I would tell you even if you have a ring even if it is the fucking day of your wedding I'd rather you lose all that fucking money than go down that aisle if it's not what you genuinely fucking want.

19:12But each step moving in together getting the ring planning the wedding kids all of it each step towards a more formalized and finalized relationship makes it harder to leave. So let him keep that fucking ring on that nightstand and get out while you can. And once he gives you that ring and if you put it on your finger, this man is going to feel so relaxed. This man is going to be like, oh, I'm cracking open a fucking bottle. I'm going to the bar tonight. I got this bitch on lock. I'm about to go fuck and get sucked and have the time of my life tonight because I know now she's never leaving. Now I got her right where I need her.

19:57She's going to stay here. She's going to be my bitch and I'm fucking living. That cannot be you, daddy gang. Don't let it be you. He has shown you exactly who he is. Imagine if you reward his behavior by taking the fucking ring. He's going to be like I've got the fucking best of both worlds I got a wife and I get to go cheat on her and she always takes me back don't let it be you that's something that I feel like when I'm sitting here on the couch giving advice I will admit like I always want to bring myself back to the moment I found out one of my more serious boyfriends was cheating on me and the way you you kind of almost can't like listen to anyone in those moments because understandably everyone's coming at you to get you out and at first you just want someone to be like I know you love him so fucking much like two minutes ago before you knew he was cheating you loved him and you thought that he was the love of your life I so get that so you're so disoriented so you almost need to unpack like yes there's love on your side but he is showing you actively he doesn't respect you therefore he doesn't love you and I think you want to be with someone that loves you how fun how amazing to get to be with someone that respects you and loves you and so it's like validating that what you brought to the relationship is real what you feel is real the love you brought is real but at some point you got to stand up and be like okay I would like to feel loved I would like to feel what I give to someone I want them to give it back to me empathizing it's not easy to leave but eventually it's all within yourself no friend no family member that's also to friends and family listening like you can't make someone leave they've got to do it on their own you can be supportive but to a point like you're gonna maybe it's gonna take him 10 times to cheat but I hope the fifth was enough

22:19my coworker and I have been friends for a year now but we just admitted to each other that we have real feelings. We constantly flirt at work. We're very touchy feely. And I was so excited finally to lay our feelings out in the open. But the issue is he confessed to me that he has a girlfriend. Guys, this is like actually turning into like a really sad father's day. He told me verbatim, I really like you, but I do love her. Now I'm so confused about what to do next. Why? what like girl come on no I'm so confused about what to do next I really care about him and he makes comments about our future after his girlfriend but it's just been months now and nothing has changed he gets mad at me though whenever I talk to another guy or go on a date I'm sad he's stringing me along but I feel even worse for his girlfriend do I tell her what's happening if they break up do I go for it oh my god okay my first question is why would you want to be with a man who flirts this much with other girls when he's in a relationship like you saying once if he leaves her should I go for it uh yeah to then be the fucking main bitch and know he's gonna have a side he clearly likes the main course he's clearly going for more you're never gonna be the only I'm a little worried that you're interested in this and I get I kind of mentioned it earlier I get the workplace dynamic for people apparently is like you know there's this sexual tension there's this mystery around it you don't you know have to bring your baggage to work it's fun it's like it's I guess fucking hot and you're seeing him in an environment that's kind of high stakes and so it's forbidden but the forbiddenness goes too far when you tell me he has a fucking girlfriend and he's honest about the girlfriend and he says he loves her but he likes you girl okay here's my advice I feel I'm worried for you that you're not seeing how manipulative this is like he is telling you exactly what you want to hear he's keeping you at bay he tells you things about your future but then he keeps mentioning the girlfriend so you don't get a little too comfortable being like okay when's the end date like let's pick this shit up so he's very very good strategically about making you feel insecure making you feel good and then pulling it away really quickly that is extremely toxic behavior so you don't deserve that but this man is never going to leave his relationship for you because let's say it was true love and the minute you guys started hitting it off then he was like I have to go home I have to tell my girlfriend and I'm done with her, like, I want to pursue this.

25:02Maybe. The fact that this has been two fucking years and he's just like meeting you at the fax machine and he's like, hey, Becky. And then he's like, God, my girlfriend was so good in bed last night. I had the most romantic dinner, but I really like you. Oh, you would look so good in red lingerie. Like the fuck? What the fuck? Okay. And I don't think you need to tell this girlfriend. You, how do I say this kindly? Well, I said we're going to be a little bit more like rough around the edge to say you've been being a piece of shit. Right. Like I think we can start normalizing, hating the guy that's cheating, but then also like holding the woman accountable and being like, but, you know, this guy's in a relationship or, you know, he's married or, you know, he's taking, you know what I mean?

25:45Like you as a human being shouldn't want to be the other woman. Right. Like we have respect for ourselves. We want to feel like we are in control of our life and we're being positive and we're not like fucking shit up. Right. So I do think you reaching out to her. It's like, fuck off. Two years, you've been basically having an emotional relationship with my boyfriend. Yeah, I don't need to hear that from you. It feels almost the way that you're writing it a little manipulative because it's you also writing your question. Well, if he leaves her, should I take him? No, I don't think you need to engage with this girlfriend.

26:22I think you need to put an end to this and she will figure out he's a piece of shit on her time. okay she doesn't need to hear it from the woman that wants to fuck her boyfriend my biggest advice to you is you need to cut this off and how you're going to do that is a little bit different than what I would usually say because it's in a work environment so you have to see this man every single day and I don't know how close quarters you guys are but it sounds like you potentially also have to work with him like physically in person so my advice to you is this week you're going to go into work and when he comes over to your desk or whatever the fuck maybe you have a standing desk maybe you have a sitting desk maybe you're in a conference room maybe you're in a fucking cubicle I don't know the fuck you are but he comes over and you're gonna say hey I have been thinking about it a lot lately and I wanted to let you know that this isn't working for me anymore I've thought about it and I feel I honestly feel really horrible and disgusting and I don't like this dynamic of going behind your girlfriend's back and being the other woman and I I honestly can't explain why I've been going along with it for so long.

27:28I obviously like you, but not enough to feel dirty and weird. And I'm removing myself from the situation. And I ask that you respect that and my boundaries and we can keep it professional at work and let's be done with it and let's both move on. And I think that is how you have to handle it. But again, really making sure you're like, respect my boundaries. Because if he fucking doesn't and then he comes on harder, yeah you're probably gonna have to fucking go to HR or some shit but right back in if that happens end of day don't be the other woman because you never get out of it what you want and you never you're always feeling like you're this special prize you're always feeling like oh he likes me so much he's willing to go outside of his marriage or outside of his relationship no he doesn't he actually has you compartmentalized in a part of his brain as this like fun thing that's like this secret and the minute if he had to actualize it he's probably going to pick his wife or his girlfriend over you because most of the time with mistresses there is something that they're not getting in their main relationship that you're filling but it's one part of it you probably don't have everything else that the girlfriend has that that's why he's in the relationship with her you know what I mean and I'm not putting you down I'm just saying the reality is being a mistress is really fucking complicated and you don't want to get yourself in that situation because you build this thing up only if not 99 % of the time to be brought back down and feel like shit about yourself you deserve better questions of the mother okay my boyfriend has a very big issue with my past he found my list of people I have been with and he was pissed he actually broke up with me initially but after a while we got back together the issue now is I feel like he is constantly making judgmental comments about me being easy or having a high body count he always says he's just kidding but how can I get him to stop caring that I was with guys before him we I'm obsessed I feel like every single girl has a list of the guys she's ever been with like how fun I just think it's so fun like I think mine I have mine written in a book somewhere and then I also think I have one in my notes app.

29:47It's fun. You know, it's a fun little conversation starter when you're with your girls and you're like, wait, how many, wait, what it's fun. It's life. Okay. I remember the men that have been inside of me and I have a husband and that's okay. Like I had a past when I was with them. I didn't know my husband existed. Okay. My first note to you is this sounds like a really insecure or possessive man. Um, I don't have enough information to know, but overall that's not the move I think insecure men have a really hard time wrapping their head around that you were with someone else and that's like really fucking crazy to me like we've all lived we've all had a good time and if anything everyone we've been with prior to has helped us become the person we are today right even the bad fucking shitty boyfriends or the bad hookups they've let you know what you don't like right and so I think someone that's incapable of recognizing a past is a past for a reason it's really immature my other worry is the possessiveness when you're saying he's making rude comments like you're easy I feel like that's a really manipulative thing to be saying to you I always go back to what my dad used to tell me if someone was bullying me when I was younger.

31:05Like, I think your answer next time he says that, if you were just being catty is like, what's your point? I was so easy. What's your point? Do you not want to be with me anymore? He's like, well, no, I'm just saying like, I'm really fucking shocked. Like how easy you were. What's your point? What's your point? Are you trying to put me down right now? Or do you want me to get upset? Do you want me to defend myself? Like you let me know what you, what's your point? What do you want me to do? You want me to leave you want me to call them do you want me to detail everyone for you do you want me to pretend you're the first person I've ever had sex with like what do you want what will make you feel better you little fucking bitch boy with a micro and a fucking half chub shut the fuck up like it's so weak loser energy oh I'm honestly if anything it's like oh I can't even imagine fucking you anymore because it's like you're so insecure how many people have you had sex with rod i don't know what his name is but it sounds he sounds like he's a ben or a rod like how many people have you had sex with should we compare notes like it's so immature anyways um my advice to you would be i think if this man is not willing to let this go and he's willing to ruin your relationship because of your past this is not the person that you need to be with i think it is completely normal in a relationship to talk about your past with your partner.

32:31Obviously not in a way that you're like, ah, me and Gerard used to fucking do that together on Saturdays. This reminds me of that. Like, no, you're not bringing fun, positive things from previous relationships into your new relationship. But without a doubt with Matt, I have absolutely probably talked about every single ex, serious ex that he and I have both had. And we've talked a lot about the things we learned from those relationships or the triggers that we had from those relationships or things that we didn't like about those relationships. Because I can say this just coming from my own perspective, and I don't know if this is obviously for everyone, but Matt and I from pretty early on in our relationship agreed that being super open about our past and our exes and our just like experience with them in those ways allowed us to get to know each other more and grow with each other and be more aware of like oh I know this thing upsets Matt because this happened to him in a previous relationship or he knows certain triggers of mine because of previous relationships that I think is really healthy to be aware of where we've come from and what has created us into the person we are in a relationship today.

33:48So what I do think you could do is have a conversation with him. Sorry, I had to like call him a little bitch boy nine times. But if you were being healthy, you could say this to him. Hey, I have been thinking a lot about how you keep making these comments about my body count. And it's every single time been in a really degrading, derogatory manner. It's not coming from a place of even if you're pretending to joke, it's very obvious. It doesn't feel good. And it feels like there's anger, honestly, underneath it and judgment. And I am not ashamed of my past. And I also am not hiding anything from my past.

34:35So I am more than open. If you want to sit down and ask me anything about my previous relationships I am here I want to be open with you however I refuse to feel like I should be ashamed of things I did or people I was with before I met you because emphasis on it all happened before I met you and I can't continue this relationship if you're going to hold something over my head that has nothing to do with you and if he is like I'm so fucking sorry I'm if I'm trying to get underneath why I was doing that. Like maybe it's because I'm insecure. Amazing first step. And then you say, but babe, I'm like literally here.

35:15Like I will talk about things with you. I also don't want to like rub things in your face, nor that I would want to hear you rub it in my face of your previous relationships. Unfortunately, the way that he's being so childish and immature in the way he's jabbing at you, I don't know if that's going to be his response. And what I can tell you is sometimes it takes leaving someone to sure, let him go grow up. And one day maybe a woman will meet him when he's grown up, but you shouldn't have to fucking train a man to grow up. That's not on you. Okay. We only have one fucking life. Like he can handle his business and you should yours.

35:53Don't stay with a man that is going to make you feel smaller or less than and ashamed of something that at the time either was a great memory in your life or not a great memory in your life. Regardless, it happened to you. You can't take it back. You want a partner that loves you for who you are. Men are so fucking lame. Like I can't. Are you kidding me? Okay. Next. Father, I've been really struggling with adjusting to so many big changes at once, getting engaged, moving out, buying a home, trying to balance work, staying healthy, nurturing relationships, and being present in friendships and family relationships.

36:31it's a lot I'm in the thick of it right now and honestly I'm struggling some days I feel like I'm barely keeping up like I'm constantly behind and letting something drop I know this is supposed to be an exciting chapter but it's also really overwhelming did you ever feel this way and how did you get through it okay I can definitely relate to this I feel like something I connect with you on is when so many things are going well in your life and your relationships and the things and they're thriving and you're doing a million things and everything like on paper looks like you're thriving. Sometimes that's actually when you feel not as happy almost because you're wearing a million different hats.

37:17You're having to kind of spread yourself thin. And even though it looks like you got it all going on you're only able to pour so much into every little bucket that you actually are just like I can't take this anymore you almost like you're at a breaking point so yes I get it work and life and relationships and friendships it's so fucking much and sometimes I will admit like sometimes I feel like I only have the capacity for friendship and work or work and my romantic relationship or my romantic relationship and family and then I'm like fuck I'm slipping on work like I don't know if you can do it all you know like I don't know if it's possible because in order to do something and feel fulfilled and be happy and doing it to your 100 % like a lot of times something else has to suffer a little bit not in a negative it's just you have to prioritize so my advice to you would be recognizing that there needs to be a give and take and a balance.

38:18And sometimes I look at my life and again, everyone's different depending on their work and everything. But like I look at my life in months. Sometimes I always joke to my assistant. I'm like, I have to see the month view on Google calendar. Like, please do not show me the week. I need to visualize my month because what am I doing? Am I lighter on work? Great. I'm probably going to schedule a bunch of stuff with my family. I'm going to have either go visit friends or they'll visit me. Like I'm going to do more date nights with Matt, like give, pour into my personal. If I know how I have an insane work month, I'm probably going to pour into my husband and make sure that we're good in the midst of chaos of work.

38:56So it's like being okay when you feel like you're kind of letting things go, because really what you're doing is allowing other things to soar and to be a hundred percent on your mind and give your a hundred percent to it doesn't mean it's fucking easy though sometimes I'm literally like oh my god am I being a bad friend I haven't called Lauren I haven't called Chris and I haven't called Jackie in two weeks and it's like no because guess what they're doing the same exact fucking thing because if they needed me they would call me or text me but they're busy with work they're busy with their relationships they're busy with their friendships so everyone's every month in my head we're all playing like who's up who's down what's your priority and that's okay also I think we have to be a little bit more lenient with ourselves like and I am definitely victim of it when you get so in your head if you miss out on something whether it was you had to cancel a date night because you were working late or you weren't able to go to a work thing because you had a family thing or all of your girlfriends went out but you have plans with your partner and you're like fuck I'm missing out on girls night, I think we get this anxiety that comes over us that feels all consuming.

40:09And it almost feels like everything else you don't care about, but, oh my God, I'm not getting to go to my girls dinner. And they're all, I'm going to get pushed out of the group and I'm going to miss out on inside jokes. And they're going to not, you know what I mean? Like you feel like you're losing and you're slipping away when you don't 100 % prioritize something. And I'm here to tell you, if you have the right friends, if you have the right relationship, it's going to be okay. And I think sometimes it also comes down to where are you at in your life? Like I recently just said on my solo episode, work right now for me is the most important thing in my life.