My Pregnancy Story

30:58And I said, you know, this isn't fit. You know, this doesn't fit. This, this isn't fitting. This isn't, this isn't fitting right. And this isn't sitting right. None of this was looking the same as it looked the first time that I tried it on. And so I'm adjusting. I'm unzipping. Like the side of the pants had a zipper. I just went, no, no zip. We don't even need the zip. We'll just, and they wouldn't fall down. They just stayed right there. They just stayed right there. And I was so frustrated. I really was. I was so excited for this work event. I was so excited for the people I was going to meet.

31:37There was so much business to be done that day and that night. And I I didn't want people to know I was pregnant yet. I just didn't. I didn't want this work event to turn also into speculation. Like that is not the way I wanted this to go. I'd done such a good job of only telling our closest friends and family, no leaks, nothing. And I didn't want to also go to this work event and be uncomfortable in my body or in this outfit. So Matt comes up to the room. I am in tears. Shout out to my glam squad. you didn't have a chance like I am I am so I'm a mess and he's so supportive he's like trying to help me like rejigger the thing I got my Spanx literally hiked up to my nipples okay we're about to be late I am sucking in for dear life I'm trying to make this work as we walk out the door but the carpet was going to close at a certain time I had to be there you guys I'm in the back of this SUV, I am laying horizontal in the very back seat so that these buttons do not pop off as they continue to do.

32:46Anytime if I was not standing perfectly straight up and sucking in, these buttons were blowing. Okay. These buttons, all I knew is I was like, okay, I just have to get through this red carpet moment. That's literally, that's it. Because once I knew if I got inside, I knew I would be completely safe from like random cameras and I could just focus on the business. And so here we go. Matt and I get out of the car and he does the thing where he like gets out of the car, shields me as if I have like a skirt on where you're gonna like see the girl's badge. No, just shielding me to, you know, just busto up and really cinch it in and suck in.

33:27I wipe my tears. I have so much powder underneath my eyes. I have like a four inch layer under my eye. I'm like, how do I look? Matt's like, I mean like the gleaming sun. You know, as a girl, when you have like too much makeup on and you're in the sun and it's hitting you, he's like, you've never looked more gorgeous. I'm like, shut up. And we get out of the car and my button bursts. The godforsaken button just bursts. And I am like putting it back in. Burst. Putting it back in. Burst. I start trying to suck in so hard, you guys. I'm wiping away these tears. My PR woman comes over. They're ready for you.

34:13You got to get on the carpet. Let's go to the carpet. I'm so emotional. I'm so hormonal and I was not prepared for the energy of a red carpet. Okay. The energy of a red carpet, it is very loud. It's intense. It's intimidating. It's a lot of things. Okay. And the last thing that I wanted was for me to get on this carpet and for those buttons that couldn't stay secure for the life of them to just boom, just a big boom, boom, hit them with the belly, bam hit him with the button hit a little one two boom flying off hits a cameraman in the eye literally that was i remember that scene from hannah montana when she's with jake ryan on the carpet and she's wearing a jacket and she goes boom she's wearing the swan costume look it up that was i was like that will boom me me i still oh my god in my head you guys i still like a psycho thought that I was going to last until August or September.

35:13I was not ready to announce, okay? And I am sucking in by the grace of God. You guys, here we go. They pushed me under the carpet. I go solo at first. I shimmy. I shimmy under the carpet. I'm not breathing. I'm not breathing because if I, the minute I would breathe, you know what I mean? Hit him with a pop. So we got to keep it, we got to keep it tight and we got to keep it locked in. And that girdle, I don't know what brand it is, but I'll shout you out at some point because my God, the girdle, the girdle came through. Honestly, I don't know what happened after that. Like I blacked out a little bit.

35:46I remember they were like, Matt, come on. Matt comes on. I said to Matt in the car, I said, look at me in the eyes right now. You need to match my energy. Okay. We are going, we are going business. We are going professional, business professional, not business casual, business professional. He's like, okay babe sure whatever you say I'm like we're gonna keep it tight we're gonna keep it we're gonna keep it serious we're gonna keep it quick we're just gonna keep it right here okay we're gonna keep it right here we're gonna get in and we're gonna get out I also told Matt I was like you know what if all hell breaks loose which it might and if these buttons have a mind of their own and there's belly on the carpet imagine being in this car with Matt and I well I'm down if and I'm laying down horizontally.

36:34If there's belly on the carpet, Matt, eyes are closed. I need you to pivot, stop, drop, roll. Oh, we got to get out. Just do something weird. Just do something weird. Honestly, I said in that moment, Matt, you got to get in front of me. You got to get in front. You got to you got to block the shot. You got to back it up. Take your moment. If anything, Matt, shove me out of the way. Shove me. Get the angles. Get the one-two shot. Take me to the ground. take me to the fucking ground literally anything just get me out of there and Matt is like Alex and I'm like I know I'm being so fucking dramatic but it felt this way to me okay so he's trying to stay calm for me honestly guys I remember I was on the carpet sunglasses they're like take your sunglasses off I'm like oh you want to see this powder babe you better back up sir Frank give me a little flash because my god I don't know what's worse the girdle or the powder I am having a mental breakdown on this carpet and then all of a sudden it's over and we exit and I'm looking for my publicist because I use kind of blackout on a carpet I'm like what happened what did it was I was it okay is I'm on my button she's like you're fine you're fine.

37:52Later that night, she texts me, you're all good. No pregnancy rumors, nothing from the carpet. The only rumors that actually came from the carpet is just how miserable my husband and I looked. I said, babe, that is a win for a win for a win. These people, you guys are dissecting Matt and my body language together on the carpet saying, this looks like an arranged marriage. This relationship looks like a business deal. I was like, Carrie, Carrie, come in and listen real quick. We did have a deal. Oh, this was more than a business deal. This was a protect me at all costs, husband. So to see people overanalyzing Matt and I as we are earnestly trying to hide this pregnancy, I was so relieved that they were talking about our dynamic, our supposed marital issues, and no one was talking about a potential bump.

38:58It was a win for the Cooper Kaplins that day. Matt and I went to bed holding hands and we were like, we survived another day. Honestly, it is sad though, guys, to take a pause from all the jokes. It is really sad and just insane how crazy this industry is. You read those things. And Matt and I are like, no one in our life, our closest friends, our family is wondering those things. But then it is crazy to see the internet be like, oh my God, like they're on the rocks. And we're like, wait, we are? Like what's happening? And so I think that is an odd part of the job that I don't enjoy. But like Matt and I are good.

39:40No one needs to worry. Matt and I are great. And I will say, after that event, which was such a success, thank God, we unveiled multiple new exclusive shows with Unwell and YouTube coming out with our partnership with them, which has been amazing, and our partnership with Google, very exciting. But I remember getting home that night, and Matt and I, we kind of looked at each other, and we just both felt it. And it was almost like we both knew. we knew that that was the last event i would probably be able to go to and to hide this pregnancy it obviously had gotten too crazy i'm sucking in for dear life and to literally any woman who has been pregnant before you know that that's not even a thing you literally like you there's no such thing as sucking in but i was trying girls okay i was trying um and so matt i remember him sitting me down and he was like alex i love you so much and i know that we had this plan and you had this vision in your head, but maybe it is time to announce so that you can just start living your life again.

40:49Like this is not making you happy. It's causing you so much stress. And I started crying because I've never cried more in my life, but he was so right. Like the minute that Matt said that, I just felt so much better. Like, of course it's so romantic and it's lovely to keep it a secret, but I was starting to lose it. I have so many work things coming up this summer that are obligations. And if I ordered one more dress that was gonna make me look like a loofah, you guys, you got the dress. Oh, the layers. Cause you, once it gets to a certain point, you can't just do like a big T cause then it will still show.

41:28So you gotta go multi-fabriced on this thing. Okay, I was coming in box ready and I'm ordering things for the South of France. I have to go in a couple of weeks for this event. And I'm like, I look insane. And every single outfit was going to be a loofah. Like, oh, really? Like, you're not fooling anyone, bitch. It just wasn't going to be enjoyable and it wasn't going to work. And so I said, you know what? You're so right. What do we do? Should I just upload one of my mirror selfie nudes? Honestly, fire. And he was like, well, you could do that. But why don't we also just take a photo in upstate New York this weekend?

42:02And I was like, OK, great idea. Matt and I were going to be in New York City for two straight weeks for work. And so Matt had planned for us to go out of the city for the weekend, you know, so the bump could get a little fresh air, get a little privacy. And he was like, where we're staying is so gorgeous. Let's just take a picture there. Literally upload it that weekend. OK, so we got out to upstate New York and I remember we took the photo on Saturday. So that would have been May 16th, Saturday, May 16th. And then the next morning I woke up, I was in bed and I posted it on Sunday, May 17th. And I was very upset that my dogs couldn't be in the photo.

42:42It really, guys, the aesthetic would have been so much better if Henry and Bruce were just a little, I literally considered asking my mother to fly the dogs across the country so that they could participate in the family portrait. I don't want the judgment. I just want you to know how much I love my dogs. Okay. Obviously we didn't end up deciding that because it was excessive, but I needed to work through it. and Matt held my hand and said, that's insane. But I did think about Photoshopping them in. Yeah, that kind of fucked. That upset me. But anyways, the photo was cute, I think. We didn't really put much thought into it and we threw it up on Sunday morning.

43:15And I will say, guys, when I press post, I felt so much relief. I felt so free. It made me so excited to just lean in and be able to connect with other women over this, to be able to start to finally wear cute outfits and like own the bump and take pictures, not be stressed being out in public. And so I am really, really happy that I made that kind of sporadic decision. And I didn't wait until August because now I get to share all the fun and the not so pretty details of my pregnancy journey with you guys. So here we go. More story times. Let's talk about that first trimester.

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46:02No account or overdraft fees. You can get your paycheck up to two days early, plus get an epic welcome bonus when you sign up with eligible direct deposit. Sign up for SoFi checking and savings at SoFi.com slash call her daddy today. SoFi checking and savings is offered through SoFi Bank and a member FDIC Terms Apply. Who wants to talk about their first trimester? No one? Okay, me either. You know, you can read about things. You can watch videos. But nothing prepares you for anything in life other than just living through it yourself, right? so the first few weeks of my pregnancy I could have eaten an entire family I was oh I was so hungry you guys I was ravenous I felt like a vacuum I couldn't stop myself I would eat everything and anything in my line of sight I remember oh my god this is a sad one and that dinner with Matt we're on like some work trip we go to this restaurant where everyone was recommending like you got to get this one steak, this like Wagyu, whatever, da-da-da-da-da.

47:11And I'm ready. I'm like, okay, let's get the steak, bear down, ready to go. The waiter ends up bringing me my plate. I ate every single piece of bread at the table, did my appetizer, my steak comes. And he puts it down in front of me. He walks away. and I start crying. I look at Matt. I'm like, why is this steak so small? This poor man, my husband is like, it's fine, babe. You can have mine too. He like gives me my steak, his steak. He's like, just have both. The hormones and the hunger mixed. I felt like an animal. I was crying in public over my steak being too small. And in hindsight, it wasn't that small.

47:57like as annoying as it was girl okay crying over being hungry i would have paid let me say this very loud and clear i would have paid to live in that state so i did not need to enter the phase of drum roll please morning sickness you know it's so fun because this is my first baby so i've heard about it oh morning sickness you rub the woman's back, you're like, oh, babe, I'm so sorry. No. No. No, no, no, no, no, no. Oh, my God. I have seen some women now, because my whole algorithm is this, talk about this, and I want to double down for you, okay? I want to be very clear, and I want to say it myself on my platform.

48:43We got to knock it off. We got to knock it off calling this monster morning sickness because you know what morning sickness it almost sounds like oh a little more a little bump in the road to start your day just have a little morning sickness on the side this is a manhole in the middle of the street that you can fall into and you cannot crawl out of for the entirety of the fucking day i morning sickness my eyes guys morning also mine didn't even really come in the morning. I'm like, oh, babe, hit me at noon and take me to midnight. Hit me with a little 12 hour combo. Boom. Like, are you fucking kidding me?

49:26Morning sickness sounds like you're having your morning coffee with a side of morning sickness. I will fuck it up. Oh my God. No one explained this to me. And it's crazy because now that I'm out of it, you do have revisionist history because now I'm talking, my mom was like, oh, did you? I can't remember if I did. Uh-huh. I'm sure that's how birth feels too. You're like, we all, we forget. We forget so we can survive. I was so miserable, you guys. I was going to my office every day, taking meetings and wanting to absolutely projectile vomit on everyone. People were talking to me about analytics and I could barely keep myself upright.

50:04Everyone, I love you, but my God, in between every single meeting, oh my God, I think my assistants were like, I don't know if she's having a mental breakdown, something's happening. In between every single meeting, I would go into my office. I would curl up on the floor and rock myself back and forth until I had the next meeting. And then they would like knock on my door. Honestly, they now obviously know I'm pregnant. But in the beginning, I think they were like, oh, she's losing it. Oh, she's losing it. Because reminder, no one knew I was pregnant. And so I was trying to be, you know, happy-go-lucky Alex, who skips down the hallway and is cheery.

50:38But deep down, I was hanging on by a thread, Babe, ooh, ooh. And so what no one told me, and maybe they did and I just like didn't listen until it was like applicable to me. I didn't realize this to all the women who are maybe one day going to get pregnant or are pregnant right now or going to look back on this with nostalgia. Here we go. I didn't realize until a couple weeks of living in this hell that in order to try and fight the overwhelming and extreme nausea, you have to eat, which to any rational brain would make no sense, right? Because the last thing you want to do when you're nauseous is chow down and eat.

51:22like but there apparently there's a science to this okay the more that you eat the less nauseous you become throughout the day i could barely stomach anything i will say again and i would love to hear other people's experiences but for me weeks seven to ten were like peak hardest for me when it came to nausea and exhaustion and just overall not feeling great at all um but i do want to talk about anxiety when it comes to pregnancy because I have had a lot of women write in and ask me what my experience has been with anxiety throughout my pregnancy thus far. And here's what I will say. I am not by nature an anxious person.

52:09I have not struggled with anxiety throughout my life. But that definitely changed since pregnancy. For me, where it was showing up the most was, I would say, in that first trimester and a little bit into the beginning of the second, like the time in between doctor's appointments when you go to see your baby on the ultrasound and it is like this incredible euphoric feeling, right? You know, hearing the heartbeat, it's all very fun. then I would leave and it almost felt slowly like a come down where you start to get in your head like we is is the baby still okay like what's going on in there am I going to show up to my next scan and not hear a heartbeat because you just have no way to know in those beginning days right and so that feeling was hard to sit with because I also didn't want to speak it into existence and I know that sounds so crazy to just say out loud but like these are the thoughts that go through your head as a woman and it's anxiety inducing.

53:14It's just like a feeling. There's so much at stake and you're just going through so much mentally and emotionally and physically. And you just want to know that everything is okay and the baby is safe and you're putting your body through all of this and you're still okay. And it's still okay, right? What I will say though is the anxiety was alleviated when I started to feel the baby kick. Guys, it is the craziest feeling. Oh my God, I will never forget. Like my favorite thing to do is just lay down and put my hands on my stomach and just wait to feel the baby. Like, oh, I think head's down by the bladder.

53:55Like, we're good. It's also fun. I remember the first time that Matt was able to feel the baby by putting his hands on the belly because for a while only the mother can really feel it internally. But now I'm at the stage where it can be a shared experience and it's very fun.

54:16Call Her Daddy is brought to you by Airbnb. So sports are usually math territory, but when it comes to soccer, you guys know, you know what? I'm all over it. So safe to say I'm very excited for the FIFA World Cup coming to LA. The last time I went to a global sporting event was during the Olympics. And honestly, the trip became so much more than just going to different games in Paris. I just remember Matt and I ended up booking the cutest apartment one weekend on Airbnb to explore different parts of France. One night after dinner, instead of, I remember, rushing home, we stopped into this tiny little local bar, ended up sitting next to a couple from, I think they were from Madrid.

54:57And we just started talking and somehow found out that they also worked together and they had golden doodles. And we were like, oh, my God, this is meant to be. And then when Matt and I got back to the apartment that night, we opened a bottle of wine, sat on the balcony, talking for hours about all of the random moments that somehow end up becoming the best part of traveling. It was one of those trips where you come home and you just feel like you actually lived in a space instead of just visiting it. And that is what I love so much about Airbnb. During the FIFA World Cup, people from all corners of the world come together.

55:30They're swapping jerseys, grabbing drinks after the match, maybe debating who actually has the best goalie, like whatever it is. And Airbnb makes it easy to stay together under one roof. You get to live in neighborhoods that actually feel local and experience a city beyond just the tourist spots. Airbnb, the world is meant to meet. Call Her Daddy is brought to you by SoFi, the all-in-one finance app where you can bank, borrow, and invest all in one place. Let's talk bank accounts for a second. The average bank savings rate is 0.39 % in interest. You're earning pennies on your savings, but it doesn't have to be that way, Daddy Gang.

56:08With SoFi's high yield checking and savings, the money barely making moves sitting in your savings account can earn over eight times the national average savings rate with eligible direct deposit. No account or overdraft fees. You can get your paycheck up to two days early, plus get an epic welcome bonus when you sign up with eligible direct deposit. Sign up for SoFi Checking and Savings at SoFi.com slash call her daddy today. SoFi Checking and savings is offered through SoFi Bank and a member FDIC Terms Apply. Okay, here is a topic that I do really want to talk about though today. Something that a lot of people have asked me right when I announced my pregnancy was, how did you know you were ready?

56:57How did you know, Alex? Was there something specific that happened? Did something change? And so I do want to talk about that a little bit. How did I know I was ready for a baby? So like I said at the beginning of this episode, for me personally, I am so happy that I listened to my intuition and gifted myself time and was able to be honest with my partner that I wasn't ready to start a family in that moment that we thought we wanted to start a family. Because now having almost a year and a half since pausing, it really granted me so much more than I probably could have ever asked for. And again, I recognize that is not going to be everyone's situation.

57:45So please remember, I'm literally only speaking from my own personal experience. But when Matt and I got married, we had our wedding. There was so much momentum and excitement from that moment. and into the honeymoon, I remember genuinely talking about it on that honeymoon where we were like, we're gonna be ready to try this summer, 2024. And when I changed my mind that summer, it was not because something tangible had happened. There was no big event. I could just feel in my body that I wanted more time and I needed that time. and Matt couldn't have been more supportive. And so we did that. I had a vision of what I wanted that year to look like.

58:34And I talked about it in that solo episode I did. It's called I'm Not Ready for a Baby. I focused on work. I poured into my relationship romantically. I poured into my friendships. And most importantly, like I said, I poured into myself. and also a year later I remember telling the world I waited because I wanted women to hear from me on that topic and hear that it is okay to not be ready or to not know if you even want a baby or it's okay to change your mind and it's okay to express whatever it is you're feeling with your partner all of this I knew was going to allow me to grow and ultimately allow me to get closer to living a more authentic life, no matter what the decision I ended up making was.

59:23And I hope that for the daddy gang, you can see that too, as scary as those type of moments are where you're like, wait, I know I said this, but I want to do this now. It just allows you to prioritize yourself more, the more that you advocate for yourself, the more that you listen to your gut. And I'm not saying sometimes you're not going to go wrong, but I think as women, we can get so wrapped up in what society tells us obviously and you know the timelines that look the best and it's just a crock of shit what do you want what feels right to you that is all that matters and so i did see some people confused saying well i thought that she just said she wasn't ready for a baby this past year why then is she having a baby was it an accident no if you listen to that full episode, if you go back, you hear me say, I made the decision to pause having a child back in 2024.

1:00:16It is now 2026, which is honestly probably longer than I thought I was going to wait. So how did I know I was ready after all that time? First, I will say it's honestly kind of similar to how I made the decision to pause on having kids. When I knew I was ready, there was no big tangible thing that happened. There was no big obvious change in my life. I could just feel it. I was ready. And I don't think you'll ever fully be ready for a child. And I think that's also part of like the beauty of it, right? But aside from my gut and my body telling me you're ready and me just feeling it, I also will say, for me personally, having the independence to explore the world, build a career, understand myself before having kids, I believe will make me a more stable, mature, and emotionally ready parent.

1:01:19And I absolutely encourage all women to focus on themselves for as long as they need to discover what they want in life and in a partner. I have always said that here on Call Her Daddy. Never settle. Daddy gang, never settle for less than you deserve. Having a strong foundation, I have to believe, makes bringing a child into this world a little easier. and it makes me so happy that I have met so many of you in person and you have all, whether it's in person or you've messaged me online, that when you choose yourself and when you prioritize yourself, you all tell me, you're like, you can feel it, right?

1:02:05There's such a difference in the quality of what you demand and what you expect and what you find within yourself and in a partnership. And so I will say, yes, I felt ready mentally, physically, and emotionally, but I would be lying if I didn't say a huge reason that I also knew I was ready was because of the partner I chose in life, my husband. I have never felt more sure and confident in our partnership and us as individuals as we take on this next chapter together. Again, I think it's important to emphasize I am speaking from my experience. So I want to add like some women are never going to be ready to settle down and get married and have a baby.

1:02:54And that is their choice. And what a beautiful choice because it's their choice. Some women will be better off as a solo parent. Beautiful choice. Some women will live a beautiful child-free life and then find a great partner when they're 57. There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to how to be a good woman. Every single person has to live the way they want to and to compare all the people around you guys, it's just to rob yourself of true happiness and freedom. And so today, as I'm sharing my story and timeline, If yours looks different, that is okay, guys. This isn't like a guidebook on how to live, follow this step by step.

1:03:39It is just what is right for me and I'm sharing with you. I also think something that has become just really clear during this time is I would not be in the most wonderful, happy period of my life right now had I not lived the life I chose in my 20s. I wouldn't change a thing about the choices I made in my 20s, who I slept with, who I dated. I wouldn't be who I am today had I not had fun and explored and gotten my heart broken and gotten fucked over and fucked and made some mistakes and dealt with the consequences. Like that's what I personally needed in order to be ready for this next phase of my life.

1:04:37But choosing motherhood in my 30s doesn't erase the right to have enjoyed my 20s. It just doesn't. And I want every woman watching today to know you have the right to make the choices that are best for you to live your best life. You can have both freedom and family commitment if and when it serves you. I promise you, you can have both. And as I am definitely going to teach my kid, your body belongs to you and no one gets to make your choices for you. Period, end of statement. I do not believe we should let society and it's absurdly extreme judgment on us as women dictate how we operate, how we move and the choices we make.

1:05:30So I really hope me sharing a little bit of my timeline and how I knew I was ready. And also, again, if there is anyone who's at the place I was at where it's like you actually realizing you're not ready, that's beautiful too. Again, because what do you want? Stop reading what other people are doing. Stop seeing your mother-in-law who's like, well, you're this years old, so you have to do it. What do you want? That is the only way you're genuinely going to be happy in life is if you go based off of what is internally telling you what will make you the happiest. And so it's not for you to copy and paste when you even watch me on here right now telling you this story, right?

1:06:13But I hope that my story can be more of just like the sentiment and the feeling of giving ourselves as women the grace to live life on her own terms and to grow and evolve as we do it. Who I was in my 20s, oh my God, I love her. I will always be obsessed with Alex in her 20s. I had some of the best experiences I learned so much I learned about my body like there's so much repression guys if you are a woman the way that we feel about our bodies again everyone's different and you're upbringing independent but I was someone who did grow up very very religious and it was like shame and you're gonna die if you have sex before me all of it for me and so I really needed to learn about my body no one told me that after he when he's coming, you're supposed to have also came and enjoyed yourself.

1:07:13Like, no, I didn't understand that. So I had to have partners who disregarded my wants and my needs and then finally found one who actually cared about it to be like, whoa, that's an option as a woman to actually feel safe in your body, to feel safe in a relationship, to feel seen, to feel heard, to feel respected. It's an option to push pause on your personal life because you are such a motivated individual. you are bright, you are intelligent, you're charismatic, and you're climbing the ladder at work. Oh my God, what a concept. You want to wait to have kids. There's no shame in doing that. Or you're young and you've known from a very young age, you want to have those kids.

1:07:50So you're going to do it young. What a beautiful decision. Like we're so fucking judgmental of women. And I've seen the rhetoric online around it of like, oh my God, Alex Cooper, this and that, and who she was back then. And she's selling the load of garbage from, oh my God, I would never, ever, ever be sitting where I'm at. And I don't mean this chair and this career. I mean, I wouldn't be where I'm at with the person I chose as my partner and the person who is sitting here carrying a child had I not lived the way I did in my 20s. I got fucked over. I put myself first. I was hurt. All of the things that you have to go through, in my opinion, to now be the strongest version of myself who is so capable of bringing life into this world now and is so capable to take on parenting because I know, trust me, I've heard from everyone.

1:08:38My God, is it a journey? A journey is actually like a nice word to use. My God, is it more than a full-time job? So ladies, I will leave you with this. Obviously, there's still so much to discuss and get into when it comes to pregnancy. For me personally, like how am I going to handle work? You know, body dysmorphia, mental health, boundaries, posting a child on social media. It's endless. There's a lot. And I am so excited to talk with you about it and keep you updated on my pregnancy journey. I also promise my OGs. I think what's been lovely about this process of podcasting since I was in my early, early 20s, like this is not going to become just now a mom podcast, right?

1:09:28This is another layer to me that I'm going to be exploring in my life. And I'm so excited to connect with women who have also gone through it or have people on who have struggled or whatever it be. But again, guys, women are multifaceted and we can do multiple things, right? So this doesn't need to just be call her mommy, okay? There's a part of it that is, but I can also talk to you about the business decisions I'm making and how I am as a woman navigating business independent of having a child. But now, yes, adding on another level of complexity because I do say complexity because we have a lot of shit as women to think about that men will never, ever, ever have to think about.

1:10:14And so when people make you feel crazy for pausing and questioning, okay, am I ready? Is this the right time? Or am I feeling depleted? or am I feeling unseen? No, no, no. Not only are you not crazy, you are so valid in what you are feeling because of how much more we have to fucking deal with. So, oh, whoa, guys. That was like a long journey. And I hope everyone feels like they got some answers because I know I just kind of like popped out and was like, we're pregnant, guys. Daddy gang, we're having a baby. But thank you guys so much for the support. Last, I will say it has been such a crazy year and I feel so blessed where I'm at with the daddy gang and my personal life and my business life.

1:11:11And there's just like a lot of, guys, it's, what is it? Isn't it like the year of the fire horse or something? I take it back. It doesn't matter, okay? It's gonna be a good year and I'm very excited. and oh my god this belly i can't wait to literally get out of this chair and go heat the upper part of my back because the back pain has started and let me just tell you something i still would pick this over the nausea but like oh my god there's a lot women are incredible the fact that we have to go to work and be pregnant and like it's just a whole fucking thing we we should run the country what a concept um okay daddy gang i love you guys so much i will be back writing more questions that I didn't answer and you guys know the drill.

1:11:55I will see you fuckers next Wednesday. Goodbye.

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