22: Nadia Asparouhova - Ideas that Infect

23:00But yeah, I think it's relevant to anyone who's paying – if someone who is consuming or paying attention to what's happening on their social platform of choice, I think there's always this deeper story of – it may not always be apparent to someone consuming information who is affiliated with whom. And when they see two people talk about the similar idea or support each other and they might think, oh, wow, that means multiple people support this idea. It might also just mean they already know each other and they're supporting each other. Right. And so, yeah, it's useful to like know that and be aware of that.

23:30Yes.

23:30Nadia Asparouhova:Yeah. Another another frame on this would just be like if something's happening in a public square or public venue, you should probably be like a little bit wary of it being just like one independent actor. Random. Right. Yeah. And maybe that's the update that people need to have. Like it used to be that maybe if someone's making an official announcement or something, you think, oh, this is like an official polished thing. And but that's kind of true for like all public interactions, no matter how. even like the stupidest random reply on it's like a lot of these have just been like very very workshop on the back end yes there's one last kind of foothold that i think is useful to set up a lot of the rest of the conversation which is around legibility and illegibility you have this frame around flash floods that i thought was really interesting around like what the 2010s internet started to do you say even the most charged topics climate change gun control israel Palestine can only sustain themselves on sugary bursts of mimetic spread for so long.

24:24Nadia Asparouhova:While these examples are thought of as hot political topics, when we consider how they've evolved over long timelines, it's remarkable how little progress gets made, despite their ability to attract short-term attention. It's not so much that these ideas refuse to spread, but that the fire burns itself out quickly. We are throwing twigs and leaves into the kiln when what we really need are a few big logs. And so you're starting to point at this notion that like maybe massive mimetic spread or instant legibility isn't so helpful. You wanted to talk about kind of both illegibility around people and ideas.

24:57Nadia Asparouhova:And there's a few quotes I wanted to read kind of back to back as I kind of saw these connect. You say the in-group is whomever affiliates with the in-group and it might contain people from many different in-groups. Quote, this part of Twitter is, you know, this part of Twitter. If none of this makes any sense, that's the point. And then a separate section. How do creators preserve optionality? How do they maintain separation between themselves and their ideas and avoid being consumed by demand? One approach is to resist definition entirely, which seems like the obvious answer but is actually hard to pull off well.

25:27Nadia Asparouhova:And then you say the patient zero of seeing like a state was Venkatesh Rao, who published an essay about the book called A Big Little Idea Called Legibility in 2010. Rao focused on Scott's notion of legibility or the process of simplifying complex systems, which can make them easier to manage, but also distort them in undesirable ways. Legibility caught on is a buzzword in tech, especially among those like Rao, who took pride in being illegible. And then one final quote, just to give it all to you. You were talking about Curtis Yarvin. There was actually an interview, I thought it was interesting, you were talking about Dwarakash about how there's actually some of this in like prophets or even like historically influential people where they have a illegibility that allows anyone to come take their ideas and like try them on for themselves.

26:14Nadia Asparouhova:You're talking about Curtis. You say, back in 2016, not everyone who disapproved of Yarvin was concerned with his views on democracy and monarchy. In fact, many people were unaware of his core thesis at all. Not that they could be blamed. Yarvin's writing style is notoriously circuitous, making it difficult to untangle what he's really trying to say. I realize that's a lot of different ideas there. But, and this I think is largely a seed for antimemetics, but why is this type of illegibility an important tactic for people who actually want to get their ideas out there in the modern world? Yeah, it's not the only, it's, I think as you point out, it's sort of, there's sort of a tension between legibility and illegibility.

26:55And if you're too illegible, then just no one pays attention to you. And if you're too legible, then your ideas can feel kind of watered down or overly obvious. and so I think of it more as this sort of like sliding scale between, you know, when do I need, when do I want people to sort of dig a little bit deeper and in some ways I think withholding a little bit or making it a little bit hard to understand or uncover can intrigue people more and make them want to dig in more. Yeah, it's bait, it's bait. Yeah, Curtis is I think maybe a master of this, probably not intentionally,

27:27Nadia Asparouhova:but just because his writing style is so... You don't think it's that intentional? I think he is just, he is who he is. I say this with love. But he just, you know, can't help himself and is very, very verbose both in speaking and writing. But it means that then you kind of start to like dig and pour over all the little sentences. What did this sentence mean? What did that sentence mean? I think like the Bible is like probably almost like classic examples of this, right? Where there's so many different ways to interpret it that have given rise to entire religions. It's because, you know, yeah, different people translate in different ways.

28:00Some parts of it are ambiguous, but like it creates more intrigue for people to just kind of dig in and try to understand. And I think there's some concern that, you know, do people even have the attention span to be doing this today? Probably less so than before, but I don't think it's died or gone away entirely. I think people are still kind of hungry for, yeah, just something that challenges them a little bit and makes them work for it a little bit.

28:25Nadia Asparouhova:Hmm. Hmm. Okay. A lot on ideas to pull apart and a lot related to the book and how you think about the different shapes of ideas at a super high level. And this was probably a little esoteric, so forgive me, but do you think is more accurate to say that ideas are created, discovered, or assembled? Um, and maybe as a bailout, if that's not right, the right way to think about it. Are we, at the very least, are we recycling and like reassembling them or are we actually finding or creating new ideas? I was going to say none of the above. Okay, cool. I'm trying to figure out what the right word is.

29:06I think we're just infected by ideas. So I, yeah, I subscribe to some sort of like microbiome version of understanding ideas and how their influence on us. And I think ideas have their own entire ecosystem and world that they play around in. And, uh, and we are just the hosts that they kind of live in. And when you get infected by an idea, then the idea needs to express itself and it's speaking through you in a way. But I, I, I think we have very little agency around which ideas take hold of us and obsess, obsess us. I think it's maybe a little bit different from the dynamics around, you know, how do you choose which ideas to spread or not spread?

29:47But when someone's really infected by an idea, they're just going to like go out and spread it. So yeah, I think ideas are kind of just lying around waiting to be picked up all the time. Like there's a lot of dead knowledge is sort of how I think of it. There's so many books out there and there's so many things that are unread, so many pieces that are just sort of like lying strewn about and sometimes someone just picks it up and it clicks in just the right way and then they go off and they, you know, are spreading it. You mentioned the Venkatesh and his essay on legibility, which came after he read Seeing Like a State.

30:23And that was sort of a spontaneous discovery for him. Like he helped me Seeing Like a State into becoming a popular book in tech, but he just kind of randomly picked it up because his wife had it assigned from, you know, her master's program. There's no real reason why it had to be that book versus another book, right? There's so many books like that, that, you know, someone has not just sort of like picked up, reframed in just the right way and then spread through a system. So yeah, I find it sort of reassuring to think of it as we're just sort of governed by these ideas and, you know, whatever comes through me and what I feel like I can really feel it when there's something that I just like have to talk about and have to do.

31:02So then I don't, you know, I'm not the kind of person that's going to make a list of like 200 ideas and be like, which ones should I work on today? Or which ones seem the most interesting based on this matrix of, you know the things I value and care about most I just think you can like feel it when you care about something and if you haven't found something you really really feel then just go keep doing stuff until it like hits you yeah it is it's funny how in a in a world where we

31:26Nadia Asparouhova:debate how much is determined ideas feel like one of the least determined things of just like there's so many examples of yeah maybe a certain technology or an area a domain to look in or even a company, like some of these things can often show up all at once, but you also hear so many stories like the, the seeing like a state story, which is just like, nope, just pure randomness, which is, which I think is kind of optimistic. One, one quick thing on this around if ideas do infect us and they are kind of something else, there's been this criticism that I think if my read of the book was correct, you, you would disagree with this, this criticism from Ted Gioia, pardon my mispronunciation, as well as like W.

32:09Nadia Asparouhova:David Marks, this sort of like death of new culture kind of frame that comes out of a lot of the mainstream internet of the 2010s. This idea that we're like at the end of culture, kind of like the end of history. And so I, my sense is that you disagree with that. Is it a mechanistic problem? Like what makes you so confident that there actually are so many more examples of the unturned book or whatever it might be. Yeah. I mean, maybe it's just like cope for me because I don't want that to be true. So I'm trying to find a way that's not true. But yeah, I really hope that we can cope with a more optimistic view in the future because that would just be sad.

32:46Otherwise, my vague sort of thesis on this is that, again, if we think about sort of like living knowledge versus dead knowledge and, you know, living knowledge is the stuff that is actively in circulation being talked about. Dead knowledge is kind of just waiting in the wings. We have like an infinite amount of dead knowledge. Even if we stop creating anything new right now and just try to process everything that's ever been created in history, like there's just an infinite amount of stuff that we could spawn entire movements and trends and whatever off of. So I don't think there's any shortage of stuff.

33:16The question is just sort of like, where is people's attention being trained?

33:20Nadia Asparouhova:Which maybe would be that like Marx would, that would be the criticism is that we're actually just returning to the same kind of like mainstream culture and over and over again. Yeah, it's because, you know, So maybe it's a market that needs a little bit of guiding hand intervention to just sort of nudge people looking at the right things because we're just so rat-like at this point. We're just like looping on the same pieces of stupid living knowledge over and over again. So that's one sort of perspective I have of just, you know, it's there if you want it. But for some reason, people aren't looking at it.

33:50So how do you get people to start looking at other things? but then yeah I think I think the other part of it is that I think it's entirely possible that we are actually consuming tons of great culture right now and we're just so completely um fattened by it or something that like we don't even appreciate it anymore so it's like you know having this big table of pastries or something I think it's sort of like Marie Antoinette or something is all the cakes and the pastries and the foods and whatever we're just like oh god it's like another pastry like I don't want this yeah we've lost our taste yeah I think like it's Maybe it's because if you think about, I mean, so a common critique is that movies are terrible now and they are kind of terrible now.

34:31And, you know, you can look at all the data if you just look at movies and say like, yes, tons of them are remakes and sequels now. But if you kind of zoom in and say, OK, where are good stories being told in sort of like a visual format? A lot of it just moved to TV shows, right? There's like the quality of TV shows now today is like so much better than it was when I was growing up. It was just, you know, sitcoms and not much else. So, you know, amazing stories are still being told. They just got repackaged into a different format. But then somehow I think people just can't appreciate it because you watch an amazing new TV show like every week.

35:03It's just like there's so much glut around this.

35:05Nadia Asparouhova:You don't think about it ever again. Yeah. And then, you know, yeah. And so, you know, yeah, it's I think it's still there. Maybe it's just that, yeah, we just have too much good culture or something and we can't see it. Totally. Okay. Okay, that's a great setup for talking about antimemetics, which is the theme of the book, as much as I think the book is about a whole bunch of other things. It's a really empowering idea, in part I think because it is an antidote for what you just described, which is like ideas that actually have to linger more. Two quick quotes. One in this kind of really empowering metaphor you have around the mimetic city and the antimemetic city.

35:42Nadia Asparouhova:You say, antimemetics are just as old as mimetics, but they've only become perceptible as people seek refuge from memetic overload an overwhelming barrage of ideas replicating peaking and dying at the speed of light memes to predate the internet but became more visible after social media sped up their rate of transmission an ant crawling across a floorboard is less noticeable than a fly zipping through the air which i think actually is a really great way of explaining to the way that both memes and anti-memes actually got like totally blown out and warped in the internet land. And then I love this example you give of taboos, where you say taboos have no moral valence.

36:20Nadia Asparouhova:They are not innately naughty or bad. And conversely, taboos that become widely accepted are not necessarily good or right. A society that allows its longstanding taboo on racism to erupt into genocide is mechanistically indistinguishable from a society that allows its longstanding concerns about the ethics of slavery to erupt into a concerted push towards abolition. Because every taboo, regardless of its content, is an existential threat to the network. We must be careful about what we permit to enter its bloodstream. Hopefully that gives people a pretty good idea. If you want, maybe it would be helpful to give like a kind of brief primer just on how you think about the definition of anti-memes.

37:00Yeah, so brief definition of anti-memes. Anti-memes are ideas that are self-censoring. So that's in opposition to memes, which are ideas that are self-propagating in the Richard Dawkins sense. So a meme wants to spread, wants to jump from person to person. An anti-meme for some reason, even though you do find it interesting and compelling in the moment, for some reason you're suppressing and holding on to it. And the just sort of TLDR reason for that might be that this anti-meme is perceived as being highly consequential either for you personally if you spread it, for a network. If, you know, you might harm your own network if you go around talking about ideas that are a little bit too controversial or taboo or whatever.

37:42And so you're kind of like holding on to it.

37:44Nadia Asparouhova:Is there a, like a Marshall McLuhan medium is the message-esque thing here where it's actually impossible to separate how an idea spreads from the idea? Is there an intrinsic shape to anti-memetic ideas or is it actually totally situational all the time? Yeah, I think I lean much more towards the feeling that it's dependent on the network and on the carrier, you know, the person that is receiving it and choosing to spread it or not. I think the innate qualities of an idea are maybe one piece of it. Certainly the way that you choose to present the same idea to different sets of people can change the way in that it's spread, even if you're fundamentally transmitting the same thing.

38:28So I don't think it factors in zero amounts, but I think if we take the idea that anti-memes are often suppressed because they're consequential, then the second part of that sentence is, okay, consequential to whom?

38:40Nadia Asparouhova:Is it consequential to me? So cognitive biases being an example of antinemes where it's like, if I acknowledge that this thing is true about myself, then, you know, it would just destroy my entire life. So I'm just going to keep pushing it down, pushing it down. If I share this taboo that if I say this thing out loud that no one is saying out loud, is that going to make me look bad? Is that going to have devastating effects on my group of friends, you know, like info hazards or the ideas that you maybe shouldn't share because they can harm a society? So, yeah, I think these two things are fundamentally intertwined.

39:12Nadia Asparouhova:Do you think there are, would it be right to think that there are two, basically two types of anti-memes and that they are the, as you said, the kind that either we don't want to see or relate to or fully sink into with for ourselves and those that we don't want to share? And obviously there's some overlap there, but not always. Yeah. Yeah. I think broadly, I think about them as, are they being suppressed on an individual level or on a collective level? And there's obviously some relationship between those two things. Not always. Not always. Yeah. They're kind of two different categories. You talk about immunity, really cool metaphor, but broadly around like almost thinking about these ideas as viral spread.

39:52Nadia Asparouhova:And one of the main premises is that we have varying levels of immunity to different types of ideas over time. There's an idea in the book where you talk about the early spread of ideas in the context of like comparing group chats, like small rural American towns that are like first exposed to ideas with cable television. And they have like really low immunity because they've just like never been exposed to that level of information. You might even think about all of us when the Internet really rose to prominence, like similar. Oh, my gosh. As we talked about, like we're now in late stage information blast.

40:26Nadia Asparouhova:And it seems that we're becoming almost like numb in immunity that is so overwhelmed that it's like, yeah, just like turn off everything or non-receptive. Why don't all ideas become antimemetic eventually in this type of information environment? It's kind of like the TV show example. It's just like, yeah, every TV show is good and like I don't think about it for very long. Yeah, I mean, I think immunity is just one piece of what defines something as antimemetic or just in the sense of, okay, when someone receives an idea, does it bounce right off of them? Or is it something that is really gripping and they pay a lot of attention to it, but then they don't spread it?

41:05And I talk about a couple of those different vectors in the book. But, yeah, I would say someone is immune to an idea. It's not necessarily that would probably make it not really antimemetic. It would just sort of make it more inconsequential, right? Because you receive this idea and you're sort of just unimpressed by it. Or you just think like it's not, yeah, this is of no relevance to me. I don't think about it very much at all. It's just like, you know, versus maybe like transmission rate or something where it's like, okay, I'm receiving, I'm thinking about it. It's actively infected my body, but then do I choose to actually spread it on to someone else or not?

41:41So, yeah, I think it's like a slightly different behavior to feel like I'm just sort of immune and I don't care about a lot of things. That puts it more in this like dormant category I talk about where it's just sort of, yeah, not that interesting to me.

41:53Nadia Asparouhova:And the critical idea of an anti-meme is that it actually is consequential. Yes. Got it. On the other end of that quadrant, you talk about it, I can link to, you have super memes, which are these sort of like you describe them as this like black hole of absorption and attention. And you specifically talk about like a specific kind of, or maybe the majority of super memes that have this like, they trap us in a state of permacrisis that never fully escalates or resolves and thus becomes like black hole-like. You say fixating on the next crisis is a recipe for perpetual distraction and then also if we pledge our attention to every super meme that comes our way we will lose ourselves in the process what prevents super memes from just like literally taking over all mindshare like if they really are this and i think increasingly it feels that they are gaining more and more mindshare i don't know if that's a symptom of the internet or something else around our discernment or or whatever but it seems that at the very least the current incentives of media and how information flow works wants just like all attention to go to a few super memes?

42:55I think it's totally possible. I was a little scared. I mean, I guess maybe on the flip side, the argument I make about super memes is that there's always, just like memes, anti-memes, whatever, there's always been a super meme that, you know, governs people's minds. So it's almost as if, like, we just need something really, really big to dedicate our lives to, right? And so historically, it was war of some sort where everyone is just expected to drop everything you're doing and just give yourself to this group cause. And then they became more like culture wars after the Cold War where we kind of – there's, yeah, the battle of ideas.

43:29And there have been many waves and iterations of culture wars well before the ones that we've had more recently. And then, yeah, maybe – so super memes are still – there's always something where it's like I crave something bigger than myself. I crave something that I want to lay down my own identity and my own life for and my own resources for. So they're probably just a feature that needs to exist. I think what's different about today is that it's not, we don't all agree on what the super meme is. And so, yeah, it used to be, let's say, if it's like a war, then, you know, everyone knows that they're giving themselves to the war.

44:03Now it's like, oh, you care about the climate crisis. I care about population decline, whatever. I think people generally don't have enough space in their heads to really truly give themselves to many super memes at once. because by definition they're sort of totalizing in that way. They'd have to think about that more. But yeah, I think they all always exist, but it's sort of like we have this open-air market now of super memes versus in the past maybe there was just like one that we would rally around.

44:34Nadia Asparouhova:Yes. You kind of talk about this urge to break out of the cycle and shift the conversation from ideas to action as a way to maybe get out of the super meme vortex. You also say that throughout human history, societies have instinctively recognized that the most challenging ideas often hold the greatest significance. I think it's a really good like encapsulation of why the anti-meme idea is interesting and maybe some of the tension there. One thing I was wondering about in this context, especially around how do we have ideas that produce action outside of the super meme vortex, is it almost a case for more narrow ideas?

45:11Nadia Asparouhova:I guess my view would be like trying harder to care more about ideas that lead to action that are more narrow or whatever, like is a little bit of hard advice. Whereas is there something intrinsic about anti-memes that makes them more likely to produce action? Like, like what makes an idea likely to be upstream of actual action in the world of problem solving? Hmm. It's, I mean, when I think about it, I can think about ideas that turn into actions across memes, super memes, and anti-memes. And so it's like they almost become, yeah, they do that all in their own different ways, right? Like we have plenty of examples of how memetics have driven people to do all sorts of crazy things.

45:58Whereas with, yeah, maybe it's just the shape of each one is a little bit different. Yeah, memetics are, again, just sort of, I think, unthinking, kind of like firing the gun and deal with the consequences later. So there's just not a lot of maybe like contemplation involved.

46:12Nadia Asparouhova:Actions almost intrinsically linked to even receiving the idea at all. Yes, like they're very, very closely tied to actions. Whereas with anti-memes, it might take a really, really long time to unearth whatever this, you know, individually or collectively suppressed idea is. But once it's unearthed, then it's like things start to move really, really quickly. But they move maybe more deliberately because it's sort of, it's something that had been suppressed for so long that it's perceived as highly, highly valuable. when you get like one piece of anti-meme versus like a thousand memes. And then super memes are kind of have this risk of being trapped in a rumination kind of loop where you're just sort of like thinking and thinking about the inevitable.

46:48I talk about how super memes often have like an apocalyptic or vague quality to them where you're just sort of like, okay, 30 years from now, the world is going to implode. But, you know, there's no real. So I think like in the context of just, you know, the importance of action as a way to sort of break that loop when I was talking about with super memes, it's mostly because super memes can just turn into rumination because there is no fixed end point. And if you really force yourself to say, okay, well, what are the really concrete steps I can take here? That can help sort of like ease the part of your brain that is just sort of like going in circles.

47:19Nadia Asparouhova:Yeah, maybe that's the making it narrower part. Yeah, yeah. I think for a super meme, it's really helpful to concretize. One maybe tangential piece of this would be vibes, which you also talk about. And like, I don't know if it's a third thing and like there's some memetic aspects of it and some anti-memetic aspects of it, you compare it to like the Mitch Hedgeberg Bigfoot. Like, oh, Bigfoot's actually just blurry. Like that's why you also say vibes are like the sun, which is like you can feel them, but you can't really pin them down. Like you can't look at them. Are vibes even like ideas? Are they a different thing?

47:54Nadia Asparouhova:Are they like kind of like super mean-esque and that they can just be looked at in a bunch of different ways? I think it's a little bit like when we were talking earlier on about the relationship between stories and ideas And so maybe vibes are more in the story camp of, um, they're the, the package that enables a certain idea to spread. Right. And so it's, um, yeah, you're taking something memetic and you're just trying to spread an idea without it being able to be sort of exploited, I guess, in a sense. Yeah. You make a great point about that. Yeah. Right. Vibes, you, you, you said something along the lines of like, they're the, some of the most important things we have, like most sacred even.

48:30Nadia Asparouhova:and like they're almost like coated in the shell of protection because if you could exploit happiness or whatever. Or love or community, yeah. And again, the thread guys on Twitter are posting. Yeah, that's sort of a resounding theme. I think vibes is a very trendy term now, but we've had a version of vibes for everything. Yeah, like how do you define love is still not really answerable over thousands of years. Totally. Yeah, maybe there's some kind of frame here that says vibes and stories and maybe even what you're calling super memes are all kind of containers for other ideas or more small ideas or more narrow ideas.

49:10Yeah.

49:11Nadia Asparouhova:Or delivery mechanisms for them. Yeah. You briefly brought it up earlier, but I think what's really compelling about the book as you talk about how ideas show up and how they spread, and particularly against the backdrop of what we were talking about earlier of how the internet is shaped is like a plea to return to the comments and actually participate. There's a paragraph I really liked that I almost kind of felt like a thesis statement of the book where you say, a fragmented public narrative doesn't require us to retreat indefinitely into our fortresses. If anything, it is an invitation to engage more deeply with the causes we care about most.

49:45Nadia Asparouhova:What seems like scattered noise at first is actually a patchwork of dense networks. Within the context of these smaller networks, it is easier, not harder, to make progress on interesting ideas. We can island hop the mimetic Galapagos. We can scale our capabilities as a network. And you also kind of talked about the temptation to retreat, which I think is like, if for no other reason than exhaustion, like I think a pretty reasonable thing for people to feel, and I think a lot of people are still feeling. There's a couple of fragments of ideas on that. One is just like we can't hunker down indefinitely in the cozy web.

50:23Nadia Asparouhova:You say, if our attention is truly ours to spend as we wish, There should be nothing wrong with retreat, but retreating from the chaos only protects ourselves. It is akin to fleeing to gated communities or to the suburbs to avoid the dangers of cities, burying ourselves in the comfort of local community while avoiding the hard work of getting things done at civilizational scale. Taken to its logical conclusion, the divestment of all members from public spaces destroys the integrity of those spaces. And then there was one last bit that I really thought was interesting. It's Jenny O'Dell's Doing Nothing book.

50:58Nadia Asparouhova:Standing apart in O'Dell's eyes is a commitment to live in permanent refusal, even when actively participating in public spaces. But I find it exhausting to imagine standing in permanently defiant position, hands on hips, feet apart. How can I learn to act decisively from a place of ease and confidence rather than bracing against a constant perceived tension? And my sense is that as much as this is a call to arms, you're also tapping into like that last bit is pointing at something a little different than just like donning the metal armor it's a little bit more open and generative and like ready to participate i'm curious what that demeanor to the extent you've done it and i think you are certainly participating in the public internet and you just wrote a book like the extent you are doing that what does that feel like it feels yeah i think i think you captured it quite well i know the times in which it has felt not that way, has felt much more defensive and more just like insecure, I think, where you're kind of assuming a hostile environment or you're assuming that, yeah, bad things will come your way if you speak out loud.

52:07And I think that's sort of the, why I feel somewhat unsatisfied by calls for like attention activism and stuff, because it's sort of assuming that you're in a hostile environment versus like the Tai Chi sort of feeling of, you know, how do I learn how to redirect this energy and move it in ways that feel more positive? So I think that's partly why when I try to look at any of this stuff, it's trying to just understand like what is going on. And eventually I might kind of, you know, weigh that against my own values and say, you know, like, what is my thesis here? But especially like with this book, for example, like I really didn't want it to be a book about how Web 2.0 is bad and social platforms are bad and we made all these mistakes and, you know, what do we do about it?

52:54That to me feels like being very defensive and very tightly held. And instead I wanted to say, okay, what is happening right now and can we just start to maybe start from a more descriptive model of just observing all these different behaviors? And then from there let's say, okay, now that we have a little bit more vocabulary, a little bit more of a framework, what do we actually want to do with this? What do we think is important? And I think that's kind of a style that has followed me around in a lot of the writing that I do of let's just start by getting taking a look at it. Everybody calm down.

53:25And then and then we can kind of decide from there. But yeah, I think that's true for relationships and interacting with people in general is just sort of when you're sort of assuming the worst of someone else. It's like you're coming in it already with this idea of like what you think is going to happen versus trying to be a little bit more open and just sort of. Yeah, it just it can make a really huge difference.

53:44Nadia Asparouhova:Totally. Yeah, it's like a scared dog. Yes. Expecting to get kicked, but. Totally, totally. And there's something really empowering there, which is like, it goes back to the beginning of the conversation, which is we're really new to the internet. Okay, we made a bunch of mistakes, but like, are we going to give up on this like amazing public square for idea generation and sharing and creative movement, like all these different types of things. And I think that's kind of how a lot of people feel. So I really appreciate your, like that other demeanor feels so much more than the Tai Chi metaphors.

54:15Nadia Asparouhova:It's really good. I want to talk more about how individuals can actually impact the spread of ideas. There are two kind of core frames you use that you talk about in the book. The first of which I really love is like the truth teller or the tip of the spear. I'll read a bit from you first. A truth teller is an individual to whom we assign the burden of bringing our shared fears, doubts, and taboos to light. Truth tellers are to anti-memes what Girardian scapegoats are to mimetic behavior. In the memetic city, a society that is overwhelmed by memetic rivalry resolves its tensions by blaming an individual who serves as a hapless stand-in for their pent-up anger, frustration, and violence.

54:52In the anti-memetic city, a society that is overwhelmed by suppression, unable to express its full range of desires, or acknowledge hard truths that are nonetheless necessary to keep growing and evolving, revolves these tensions through the role of

55:07Nadia Asparouhova:a truth-teller. In both cases, the individual, wittingly or not, is a substitute for the group's desires rather than representing their own, which I thought was like really, really, really cool. There is – it feels like the key idea here is that like selflessness or not even necessarily explicit selflessness so much as like not being – like not having an agenda for yourself. you say the truth teller is the opposite of the shameless uh shill like can you talk about that like tension i guess i'm pointing out like are they inherently selfless is it just about not having an agenda like what enables these people to speak so effectively to represent the group i think it's about standing apart from the network a little bit um and not having not having skin in the game maybe.

56:00So it's not necessarily that they're selfless and a lot of truth tellers can be seen as sort of selfish in a sense where they're sort of like I'm just going to say a thing out loud and whatever see what happens. But yeah in contrast to maybe like the shameless shill who is sort of trying to get attention all the time by saying the most extreme thing possible they have a relationship to this network to their audience, right? They are trying to get points, they're trying to gain status reputation, whatever. And so that's why they keep just escalating what they're saying. The truth teller sort of says, I don't even know what this network is.

56:32You know, I'm just sort of wandering in here. Yeah, just pure chaos, injecting a little bit of chaos into the network and everyone. And but I think because they are have no prior attachments or relationships, they could be perceived as more trustworthy because it says, well, you know, why would someone say that if if they yeah, if they have no other relationship to the network. So

56:52Nadia Asparouhova:You say they will happily shout an uncomfortable truth into a crowded room, then twirl off while everyone else hashes it out. It's like I imagine like lobbing a grenade. Yes. Do you think it's important for them to have any accountability? Or is part of what enables this, as you say, like the lack of really caring what happens to that community at all? Yeah. I can probably, if I sat and thought, it's always a little dangerous to say no accountability is good. I'm sure there are counter examples, but my first instinct at least is that it's good not to try to tamp them down. You know, because, you know, if you go too far in the other direction, then you're just kind of like a crazy person shouting.

57:32Right, right, right. You know, things about, you think about the people standing on the street corners talking about sort of the inevitable collapse of society and whatever. And so, you know, everyone just tunes that person out. So if it's that far in that direction, I think people, the network will already sort of like self-check against whether that's interesting. It has to be just a little bit of truthiness enough.

57:55Nadia Asparouhova:There's some credibility. Yeah. And there's something there. And again, with this idea of, you know, ideas are infecting us or we're not even necessarily in control of what we're sharing or not sharing. They're uncovering something that an idea that is already familiar to that group of people that is just being suppressed. There. Yes. Yeah, and so like the go-to example I used here was just the kid saying that, you know, the emperor has no clothes, right? It's like everyone already knew the emperor had no clothes. They just needed someone who had no other relationship to say it. But you can't say something else completely random.

58:25Nadia Asparouhova:It's such a great point. You talk about this more in the context of companies or at least smaller groups where like they'll bring in this interesting person, as you call them, whether it's an academic or kind of a person who's a writer or a sub-stacker or something. There's another paragraph that felt very like Bill Campbell-esque. You say, because they have the unusual visibility across the organization, they could observe and express the hidden collective desires that others cannot. Very much the emperor's no close. The executive, because they would be a tyrant. The middle manager, because they would risk losing their team.

58:53Nadia Asparouhova:The entry-level contributor, because they would endanger their job. While interesting persons may run projects on their own, their true impact is not always measurable through the company goals and performance reviews. The real purpose of an interesting person is to shepherd anti-memetic knowledge into light. I and many people I know have served this role inside of organizations. One friend ruefully told me his job was to be a hood ornament, soothing the nerves of executives and offering candid and witty insights. By the end of my tenure at one company I worked at, my formal job title was simply Nadia.

59:24Nadia Asparouhova:Is it lonely being Nadia? Yeah, I think like less so maybe over time. but I think anyone who's in a role where you are always kind of the person standing apart a little bit. I think earlier in my career it started to feel like, am I just really disagreeable? You know, I got a lot of advice. You'd be trying to figure out how to fit in more. And so, and I think, you know, I wouldn't say I'm the most agreeable person. So it's like maybe there's room for improvement there. But I think over time I've come to see that, oh, this is actually a, this is itself a defined role. You kind of just need to be okay with being that person that is, yeah, standing apart.

1:00:08And then I think it brings me a lot of, yeah, clarity and fulfillment. Do you have a sense of how this shape can, like if we have this sort of, what is it, a truth teller inside of a company?

1:00:21Nadia Asparouhova:and then like the extreme example of just like the guy on the sidewalk or like the guy on Twitter just saying crazy, like out there, but interesting stuff. Like, is there a frame for how we should think about how these people could show up in more parts of society and networks in like different orders of magnitude of groups? Where do you feel that we need more of it? This maybe is going to where we're going to go, but like one frame here would be inside of a effective altruism, inside of what you call an ideal machine or inside of an institution or inside of a, I don't know, like a local, more local version of an online community inside of the dark forest collective.

1:01:02Nadia Asparouhova:like my sense is I'm almost, maybe I have this wrong, but like I'm almost imagining like the very, very defined group and the truth teller inside of that. And then just like the public speaker, but it actually feels like, at least in how you describe it, so much of the importance here is like, it's the person who can bring clarity to some sub group, but that sub group could vary in the end pretty dramatically. I think there's probably informally, a lot of communities end up having a role of someone who is the, you know, tell it like it is person that is sort of respected. If you think about like the village elder or something like that, where they'll just come in and drop their wisdom and, you know, whatever.

1:01:42Um, which is probably a little bit different from a truth teller in the sense of, I think a truth teller again has fewer, doesn't necessarily have a clear relationship to the network and has this more like eruptive quality of there's something that is being suppressed here and i'm gonna dig it out versus um someone that is people a leader that people maybe go to to um say things so i don't know that every community always needs one or needs to have it all the time i think also the the truth teller role can be very transient where it's like um i talk about like greta as an example of this with her u.n speech and um you know greta continues to exist but greta is her her speech was sort of this like just rupture in that moment of time that then set off a lot of other conversations.

1:02:31But if she just kept doing that over and over again, at some point it starts to make sense. Yeah, she isn't really that anymore. Yeah, she's kind of evolved into more of like a stable character, right? But I think it's a little bit of a destabilizing mechanic to sort of speak the truth on something.

1:02:45Nadia Asparouhova:Yeah, on that note, you have this reference to Lewis Hyde's book on tricksters, which feels like the right kind of like there's a part where you're kind of lamenting like where these things go, both in the context of our ability to tolerate cringe and like how much that allows this, but also the like moral ambiguity part of it. You say the erasure of trickster figures or the unthinking confusion of them with the devil. This may be his hide or the unthinking confusion of them with the devil only serves to push the ambiguities of life into the background. We may well hope our actions carry no moral ambiguity, but pretending that is the case when it isn't does not lead to greater clarity about right and wrong.

1:03:25Nadia Asparouhova:It more likely leads to unconscious cruelty masked by inflated righteousness, very cancel culture-y. Like, it's a little bit like the last question, but to the extent you think there are levers for it, are there ways we can actively use cultural norms or adjust the Overton window to tolerate more of this type of speaking from truth tellers? Or is one potential failure case of a society or of a subculture that we like create environments where these people can't say anything or they can't be heard. I worry about that. And I don't, I don't have a great answer to it. Um, I think we were in a, it was harder to see where truth tellers would fit in maybe, yeah, three to five years ago.

1:04:08Um, cause it really, I think that that quote from Hyde points to this, you know, this, yeah, the, the sort of like culture of cruelty and this, you know, where you just sort of not seeing and thinking like that, that really, that was what we were just in and coming out of now. It feels like things are changing a little bit and maybe we are rebalancing again to a place where people can speak their mind. And so, you know, maybe that'll, that'll just continue. But I, I think it's just, I don't have great answers here, but I really hope that we don't forget that there's an important role to be had for people that can just sort of remind us of what direction we're going in and shake things up a little bit.

1:04:49Nadia Asparouhova:Yeah. Yeah. I think there's also having the mental model is helpful, even in looking at a person or someone saying something and trying to decipher, are they a shameless shill or they have some ulterior motive or are they actually just trying to? Yeah, I think that's really important. The other archetype I guess you described is the champion. Another Yarvin reference. you say somewhere the first line of unqualified reservation reads, the other day I was tinkering around in my garage and I decided to build a new ideology, which is very, very Curtis Jarvin, but I think points at some of this. You also give examples of, we talked about Venkatesh Rao, the scene like a state kind of thing, or Nick Camerata and Janice that are a little more like first follower-y.

1:05:38Nadia Asparouhova:If truth tellers are like this detached, sort of non-self-interested observer, it seems like champions are sitting somewhere between like cult leader and first follower. Is that the right way to think about it? Like, can they exist anywhere on that spectrum? Like, is Yarvin coming up with an ideology in his garage, in theory, and the person who just gets really excited about something that is overlooked? Are those both champions? I think, yeah, champion is probably closer to a first follower in the sense, yeah, I wouldn't think of Curtis as a champion because it was sort of the people that took his ideas and then ran with it.

1:06:19I'm not sure who the champion was for Curtis's ideas and maybe that framework doesn't apply to his particular situation, but I think of champions as people that are sort of pounding the pavement, right? They're the boots on the ground. They're the apostles or something where it's, okay, I am now infected by a CD and I'm going to go run off. And, and, and yeah, actually that makes me think like with truth tellers, I don't really think of them as being deeply infected with an idea. They're kind of just like spurting it out. Yeah. It just like passes through them. That's they're more like the prophet.

1:06:51Right.

1:06:51Nadia Asparouhova:Yes. Yes. But then the, the champion is the one that like it hits them and then they're now they're really infected for a long period of time and they're going to go off kind of running, running around and trying to make a thing happen. Right. And they will do that no matter how persecuted they are. All the, you know, a good champion will just like whatever they face. Yeah, shoot with the arrows. Yeah, just like I got those guys. So, yeah. There's another idea that kind of circling some of this, which is the role, and it's certainly relevant in the champion's premise, which is like how important is the individual or like the great man of history?

1:07:28Nadia Asparouhova:There's one excerpt you say, in a highly scaled and distributed marketplace of ideas, which issues we make progress on, the historic moments that come to define our story as a civilization depends almost entirely on the quality of our champions. Tell me who your champions are, and I will tell you who you are. And so it's almost like we have, and this maybe gets at where the next thing we're going to talk about, but like there are these ideas that you almost describe as infecting someone. Then there is the champion who you clearly in that language describe as like pretty fundamentally paramount to the way the world goes.

1:08:04Nadia Asparouhova:And then there's also a broader thing around institutions and idea machines and all that kind of stuff. Is the right frame, I guess, to think about it is almost like it is the great man of history, but the great man of history are infected by like these crazy ideas. Or like, yeah, how do you think about the individual's role and how much weight the sort of great champion has on things? I always thought of it a little bit more as great, great prophet theory. And maybe now after everything I just said, it's great apostle theory or something like that. I don't know quite how specific to be about it.

1:08:36But in contrast, at least to sort of great founder theory where it's this idea or great man theory where someone is impressing their views on the world. I see it more as you are just a vessel for some ideas really infected you, but it's infected you so hard that you're just like going to town and spreading it. So I think the individual is important in terms of where it situates in the network of an individual is capable of having this level of discernment and nuance that the collective simply is not. And that's why these two things work really well in parallel or in some sort of symbiosis with each other.

1:09:11But the role of the individual is very important in the sense of how does it contribute to the greater collective. But then when you look at sort of like where do ideas come from and why is this person so obsessed with this particular thing, I really don't ascribe a whole lot to someone's maybe like active choice around that. I think it's just sort of –

1:09:30Nadia Asparouhova:They're genius or whatever. Yeah. It's just kind of like – because you see ideas come from just like the craziest places. Like, I mean, when you look at stories of, you know, how is some new creative idea or invention or innovation, like it's often from really random things. And it's often from someone being able to synthesize two different ideas or two different fields and say like, oh, what if we cross over this thing with the other thing? But it doesn't, yeah, like they can just come from anywhere and then suddenly someone's just kind of like off to the races with it. And I have experiences myself with my own work where sometimes I'm like, I don't know why.

1:10:05Like the things I think I've poured the most effort into, I really couldn't tell you. I could have never predicted that I would have cared so much about this or that idea. But it just like it just gets lodged into your brain and then off you go.

1:10:17Nadia Asparouhova:But ideas also need a vessel. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. I think about you hear it like so often in music. There's like the in the Get Back documentary, Paul McCartney is just like randomly strumming on his bass. And then like the song comes out of nowhere. You see it happen. And there's this guy, Benjamin Lavitude, who wrote When We Cease to Understand the World. It's a kind of crazy novel about a novel historian thing. Anyway, he has this line where he's talking about writing and he's like, even in the case of fiction, he's like, it's like, it's less like creating something. It's more like picking up flowers off the ground.

1:10:49I love that.

1:10:50Nadia Asparouhova:But you see that pattern everywhere across ideation. I think your frame on it is really, really right. That brings us to the last thing I mentioned, which is how do these go bigger than the individual? And I think there's, it seems to me that there are kind of like two ways to think about this. There's the like historical view and then there's the like, what is the modern internet native version of it look like? And you've written plenty about institutions. I want to read a couple of things on that quickly. social institutions, whether media, academia, or the political machine, are the bottlenecks through which all ideological demands must eventually pass.

1:11:26Nadia Asparouhova:To truly change culture, one must master control of these institutions. We've certainly seen technology internalize a lot of that recently. On that note, it's also the right time for tech to transition to a cultural institution building phase after several years spent recoiling from public backlash, which signaled its maturity and inevitable expansion beyond its humble roots as a niche industry. For those who ask, why would anyone do this if there's no financial ROI? Tech's place in the world has shifted dramatically. Building an idea machine is about influence, not financial returns. Where do institutions as we traditionally think of them play a role in the modern kind of like internet native, dark foresty, lots of big broadcasting individuals?

1:12:12Nadia Asparouhova:Like it's pretty easy to model a world where like there are very explicit gatekeepers and set distribution patterns and foundations that are the Davos elite or whatever. Maybe the answer is, is, is where we're going, which is you need new shapes, like the idea machines you talk about, but like in the traditional sense, I'm curious how you think about the role institutions still play. I think they just look, well, there's a few different levels of this, the one to the, the first quote that you had mentioned, whether we like it or not, our world is still governed by a lot of institutions that are old and have been around for a long time as much as I think there's a lot of interest in creating new institutions, but we also have to respect the ones that currently exist.

1:12:55And I think DC politics is just like the most perfect encapsulation of this where it's like people often liken it to playing a game of chess because like you have just a finite set of players, you have a finite chessboard and the fun is in figuring out like how do you exactly place each of these pieces in order to get the outcome that you want. But there's no sense that you can't expand the chessboard, you can't add more players. And I think that's very foreign to a lot of people on tech where they're just used to like, let's just have abundance and yeah, just keep making the universe bigger. And it's like, no, no, no, you got to play, you got to play this game on this board.

1:13:25Nadia Asparouhova:Everyone there is people who like exited some other game. Yes. So I think in the sense of, you know, if we're talking about like a political machine, like how do you take your ideas and turn them into policy? Like you have to play that game and you have to play with these existing institutions. And I think that's where culture wars get so fiery because there's just, you know, more and more and more ideas that are, especially if we have more and more super memes and, you know, so much competition for like things that we all need to funnel into this like very, very narrow channel to if you want to turn into action, there's only so many policy items that could be reviewed in a session, you know.

1:14:00And so that's a different maybe one way of thinking about institutions. But then I think informally institutions are still changing and evolving and maybe somewhat requires expanding our idea of like what an institution even is. And so, yeah, that piece that you referenced about where I talk about idea machines and sort of trying to diagram out, okay, maybe something is not literal organization or something or an agency or, you know, a very specific institution, but sort of what is the ecosystem surrounding how an idea turns into action. and it involves, you know, there's like a community that is generating new ideas.

1:14:37And then from there, you might start to see an agenda form and you have funders that come in that are funding this agenda. And then maybe a couple of different support organizations form. And then from there, they're creating outcomes. And so it's much more sprawling and kind of decentralized than, you know, let me just go to the Bureau of whatever and file my reports.

1:14:56Nadia Asparouhova:Or even the Ford Foundation. Or even, yeah, any sort of like in the context of philanthropy, like it's not just one. like grant making organization, but it's sort of this sea of ideas that people are kind of swimming around in and then might be funded in different ways, but are all kind of pointing towards a similar outcome. So I think that in itself is, if we loosen our definition a little bit of what an institution is, like that is an institution of some sort because it's these grooves and pathways that are sort of well-worn and being worn over and over again. There's just a pattern of expected behaviors and like a known way of doing things.

1:15:29And that in itself is a kind of institution, even if it doesn't look like a single organization.

1:15:35Nadia Asparouhova:Yeah. I think you do a great, you do a great job of describing a template in idea machines too, that is just like very internet native, not necessarily like technology native, but just like very attuned to how the world actually works today. I think part of that, my sense is, is that it's rooted in ideology. Whereas some of these other things are like more of the container first. maybe I'm stretching. I guess one reading of the book or maybe one of the dominant reading book readings of the book that I had is that you have anti-memes as a source of like really important and interesting ideas that are like under exposed.

1:16:18Nadia Asparouhova:Various ways that those can be a light can be shined on them, whether it be a truth teller or a champion carrying it or just like new context for it to be exposed and that those basically become the ideologies that we can start to build new idea machines around or ideologies around do you think that that is and i realize you wrote the idea machine thing a few years prior but like is that roughly the pattern you kind of the book admittedly is like a little bit more individual focused and like how we all personally can relate to the stuff but is that kind of the flow of how you see the future of in the piece you talk about like what does it look like to have way more effective altruisms or what does it look like to have a way wider set of like very ideologically centric active organizations doing stuff in the world am i am i trying to combine too many different things is that kind of a pattern yeah i see it i'll take it um yeah i think maybe and uh even if we think about super memes again and sort of like how we went from having a single super meme like war to now there's like a competing marketplace of them right and a nice thing about super memes is that they are really good at marshalling talent money and turning themselves into ecosystems right so a meme is something you know small digestible that you kind of like zips right through you and you keep passing around spreads very quickly a super meme is something that is like large and consequential and spreads very easily and so it's it becomes this yeah black hole of just sort of like sucking in all the mind share around it which can be a bad thing if you don't like that particular super meme but like if that's just kind of the way the world works i think that goes a little bit with this idea of you know what if we had lots of different idea machines lots of different ideology centric kind of like ecosystems where people are now pulling in resources they're actively discussing ideas and forming agendas out of them they're creating organizations out of them that's kind of the blueprint for how i think a lot of these super memes have also started to organize you talk about the piece is somewhat repetitive maybe but i think for people who are hearing some of this, like, can you distinguish, maybe you have like movements and communities and maybe even super memes or meme plexes.

1:18:23Nadia Asparouhova:Like there's a bunch of stuff around here. That's like big, hazy, important things. And then you, I think in your piece, you describe a much more directed, highly active mechanistic form in the idea machine. Granted, it can take a lot of different forms and certain things have, have, are better at, I don't know, you give example at the time of like the network state being like really strong in ideology and having less of the things to carry it but to a person listening to this is just like it sounds like a movement can you talk about like how you imagine this stuff having a more robust shape that actually produces outcomes unlike other movements or super memes that kind of get lost in the the fuzziness yeah i think and maybe some of this just comes out how people want to define things um but i think i'm less interested in the definitions and more interested in like ultimately what I think you do a really good job of articulating, even if the language can be fuzzy is like, how do we actually get to more stuff happening from ideas to go back to the conversation?

1:19:20Yeah. I think in my goal with the idea machines piece was to just sort of like diagram out a schematic of like, here, here is the ideal path of how we get from just an idea and turning into an ideology. And like all the different pieces it needs to move through to get to real concrete. outcomes in the world yeah i think movements can movements have a little bit more vibe-y feel um and again i think like it's there's no reason why it can't necessarily be a schematic of a movement as well but when i think about movements i think a little bit more about like the zeitgeist or a moment in time or a trend and there are a lot of movements that fail to go anywhere because they were highly memetic at the moment and they kind of like die down and why does that happen part of it which is i think what i'm trying to sort of answer in that piece is because they sort of fail to maybe they got stuck on the idea side of things and they just kind of fail to get to the point of all right we need to have like we need to organize or we need to have uh specific champions who are taking these ideas upon themselves and translating them into like very specific things we can do i think like lack of an agenda is what kills a lot of movements and and communities of mothers you're just kind of sitting around talking but like what is your actual what are you actually proposed to change and i see this failure would happen a lot with um with with movements um if you can't even articulate where your agenda is, then how can you expect anyone to fund it?

1:20:40Or how can you expect to move towards, um, yeah, more concretized change? So you could probably draw a line somewhere down the middle of that schematic and say like, okay, this, this part is like the idea of phase or something. And then, then the other side is maybe the like action phase. And like, how do you get from one side of that to the other?

1:20:57Nadia Asparouhova:There's a part of that piece you're talking about the appeal to at least some of the bigger versions of this, like EA to like, what if they were more multidenominational? And it made me wonder like so much of this, at least in the kind of like larger scale, is a lot like religion. At the very least, there's probably a lot to learn from religion. I guess the one counter there would be that maybe religions have less explicit agendas, at least at the super high level. But I'd be curious how much of that is like the original memes that, by the way, package in lots of maybe more anti-metic ideas inside of them.

1:21:33Nadia Asparouhova:I'd be curious how you think about the lendiness of religion in terms of its structure and shape informing all these other ideas that we want to kind of move forward in the world. Yeah, everything goes back to religion, right? Everything is a religion. Yeah, actually, when I was doing my research around open source developers, I made a podcast with a friend because that was a mini series that was specifically focused on the relationship between open source communities and religions because we, I mean, you meet a lot of open source developers that are very, very Christian. And, and I think part, part of why that is, is because they're sort of informed by the same, same sort of feelings and, and values and norms around how to conduct themselves in a religious context are the same as, you know, I'm building a community online or I'm managing community and sharing software with people in the world.

1:22:23So yeah, I think you find religion in the funniest places, but yeah, I think this is probably not so much different it's just people dynamics all the way down yeah is you you wrote

1:22:35Nadia Asparouhova:about it probably more a few years ago and it was a little bit more relevant but to what extent do you think we actually need more new forms or mechanisms meaning like new corporation forms like the 501c3 shift to llcs or like stuff like dow's like i think there was a lot of excitement at the time. I think the crypto stuff can be super ideological, but like in some sense, you could read a lot of this and be like, oh yeah, actually, it's not so much about the form at all. It's about the abstract form around getting to an agenda, but like, it goes back to the thing we were talking about at the beginning around group chats.

1:23:10Nadia Asparouhova:Like, new mechanisms actually enable a lot of this stuff. Do you think we're being held back by mechanistic reasons, or is there still like a lot more room to run in terms of what you can do here? I think the search for new mechanisms is a little bit of a trap. I used to be more excited about those things, and then I realized it was a trap. Now I'm less excited about them. Certainly, yeah, like in the case of group chats, like we needed to be able to message multiple people at a time. That's like a just pure technological thing that had to happen in order to enable new behavior. So I don't think it's, you know, zero.

1:23:40I don't think it's like sometimes a new form really is warranted. But maybe if we try mapping that onto the idea machine schematic, I think it's too much on the side of action and not enough with an underlying ideology, right? So if there is some deep underlying need that really, really drives something, or yeah, maybe sometimes they're just happy accidents. I don't really know. Maybe there was no ideology driving the formation of original group chat app software and messaging apps and things like that. But I think sometimes people come in with this idea of like, if I can just create a new legal entity or something, then like everything will be fixed.

1:24:17And yeah, I just, I haven't really seen many examples of that really bearing out. So, you know, I don't think it's never true, but I think probably if you want to think about like where to allocate our mind share, like it's maybe an over allocation there.

1:24:32Nadia Asparouhova:Are there either emergent idea machines that you think are particularly credible or interesting, or on the other side, ideologies and movements that you would really like to see more structure be added to? I don't play favorites. I'll take it. I want to talk about an idea that runs through the middle of the book and I think clearly runs through so much of your work broadly and maybe like your moral worldview, which is attention. I mentioned Jenny O'Dell earlier in that book, How to Do Nothing. I think it's a quote from her. She says, more and more actors appeared in my reality. After birds, there were trees, then different kinds of trees, then the bugs that lived in them.

1:25:16Nadia Asparouhova:These had all been here before, yet they had been invisible to me in my previous renderings of my reality. A TOWI will never simply be a bird to me again, even if I wanted it to be. and then a few quotes from you that kind of stacked up to me in an interesting way. I want to talk about us as magical wizards of attention, capable of waving a wand and transforming our worlds in astonishing ways. That seems a lot more fun to me than playing slots at the casino. Our attention is not meant to be commandeered by others, but it is also not ours to hoard. Near the very end of the book, you say Robert Moses wasn't a superhuman.

1:25:53Nadia Asparouhova:He just paid attention to things that others did not. And then finally, attention is how we carve out our personal realities. It is the breathing valve of our consciousness. Using only our minds, we can make the world as beautiful or as ugly as we wish. How have you attuned yourself to the kinds of ideas that you want to see in the world? You mean intentionally? I'm not sure. Yeah. I guess maybe that's the root of the question. yeah like i said before i don't think i'm not attuning myself to specific ideas in the sense of i like i like to be surprised i have no idea what i'm gonna be doing like five years that's kind of fun to me yeah but maybe it's around sort of setting myself up to be able to notice or be surprised yeah i think a lot of people don't realize how much they're cutting themselves off from just serendipity and opportunity and yeah people talk a lot with careers about you know making your own luck or making your own serendipity.

1:26:51And it's so, it starts to sound a little bit like a, you know, aphorism or warmed over career advice, but I think there's something, I think people just don't take it seriously enough. Um, or they think they know what it means. And so then they kind of dismiss it, but they don't really, really know what it means to just be very open and receptive to whatever comes your way. Um, and part of that is about eliminating unnecessary distractions right like and i don't it doesn't have to be in this sort of aesthetic way or you know self-depriving sort of way i think it's just sort of when i look at there's a lot of you know content you could consume or you know just choosing which notifications you let through or which emails you pay attention to or whatever and you kind of look and you're just like is this really really worth me spending your time on or whatever i just keep my brain clear and it's just like it's not that hard to just turn them off or push them away or whatever if you just like there's no real reason to I think we still get stuck in this again it's it's you know everyone talks about attention and yet I just think I still don't think we're taking it seriously enough so sometimes I say things or it sounds they sound overly obvious but like I really just don't like I if if people were doing it then we wouldn't have to keep talking about it but um uh yeah I I think as much as I can kind of keep my mind in a relatively blank slate or just maintain my own resources around attention, then it can be allocated to surprising and interesting things instead of spending that budget on things that are just a waste of time.

1:28:33And I think a lot of why people make not great choices with their attention is just fatigue and you get stuck in this loop of fatigue. And this is true for a lot of healthy choices, right? It's true for eating well. It's true for exercising. When you're just tired and you're stressed out and you, you know, yeah, stress eating is a thing, right? You're not doing it because you actually think that potato chips are better, but it's just like you're in a state of fatigue.

1:28:58Nadia Asparouhova:You're mentally weak. Yes, you're mentally weak. You're physically weak or whatever it might be. And so, you know, how do I just set myself up for success to not have that? And if you can get yourself back to a baseline where you're not fatigued, then it actually becomes much easier to just make the right choices. But I do also, I mean, that being said, I feel like we still talk about attention as kind of a slog to talk about. You know, it's like you should really be paying attention. You should really be putting down your phone. And like it's not – it's the same as being told you should really eat vegetables.

1:29:30You know, it's just – it's very – it's not a great way to – yeah. Like who wants to do the boring, responsible, paternalistic.

1:29:40Nadia Asparouhova:Yeah. It requires a lot of willpower. And so I think part of it is that we don't talk enough about the amazing things that can come as a product of great attention. So, you know, looking at people who are super fit can be a really great motivator to want to work out or something, right? Or people who feel really, really good when they eat healthy, like then you want to feel good. And I think we haven't really looked very much at sort of what is the end goal of all this attention where it's like, oh, cool, I'm in the present moment. Like, what does that even mean? And it's kind of what I wanted to push a little bit more in the book of it's not just about there's some baseline reality that everyone else is tuned into and you're kind of checked out of and you can come back up to this place.

1:30:21This is like an entirely uncharted territory that you can just create whatever you want. And that's exciting. And if you are excited by that, then the prerequisite to do that is getting your attention into sort of like the right place.

1:30:33Nadia Asparouhova:It's above the baseline. That's a really important. I also have to admit, like, the notion that we have less agency over which ideas take us is actually really motivating to have more agency over where you choose to give your attention. Yeah. Like if you treat them as like infectious, it's like, oh, wow, like I'm hooking up my brain to the to whatever Twitter thinks right now or whatever. Yeah. That is maybe still a little more on the paternalism side or whatever or the fear side. But like I do think it's empowering, which is like it's sort of like, oh, I can discover something really great or really not great.

1:31:13Nadia Asparouhova:It's like I get to choose what whether I go to the health food store or the junk food store, but I don't have choice otherwise. And like that is makes a little more that helps you maybe internalize the stakes. Yeah, right. I think people are not aware of what the stakes really are. You've written extensively about the jhanas. You say the jhanas offer a rare glimpse into the extent to which our minds construct the world around us. Maybe getting at what you were just talking about or over like all of the ways that attention can go above the baseline. Can you talk about how the jahna's experience, particularly in studying it now, has made you realize that attention is not something you have, but something that you are?

1:31:55Yeah, just a little bit of context on it. So, yeah, I kind of stumbled into, again, you know, I like being surprised by whichever ideas overtake me. And last year I was writing a piece about a subculture of people that were practicing this form of meditation that put you into these states called the jhanas or these jhanic states. And it's not really like mindfulness meditation where you're just sort of like calm and relaxed. These are intensely altered psychedelic-like meditative states that people were getting into, which were often explicitly compared to psychedelics, but you're experiencing them without.

1:32:34Just using your mind. Just using your mind, right, which sounded so fantastic and strange to me that I had to go explore it. And then as part of my research for that, I tried it and then was and had previously sort of, you know, no relationship to meditation and was just sort of curious trying it out and was very surprised by what I experienced. and now sort of just trying to understand like what is this thing and how does it impact our minds.

1:33:01Nadia Asparouhova:And Nick Camerata, we talked about earlier, an early champion, at least in kind of your part of the world. Yeah, I think he was kind of the patient's arrow for spreading it to outside of these sort of like Dharma meditation communities, but spreading it to like a broader set of people who are more casual like myself. I think there's, so at least within the context of contemplative practices and sciences, I think something that is compelling about meditation versus other things like psychedelics, for example, is that you're doing it to yourself. Right. So with psychedelics, it's like, yes, of course, if you take enough acid or whatever, like something interesting is going to happen to your brain.

1:33:37Like, you know, it's very deterministic and people are sort of unsurprised by that. But they kind of feel like, oh, you know, it's like drinking. Like, you know, I put myself I took some substance that put me into this state. And now it's I sort of yeah, I didn't really have any role to play in that.

1:33:51Nadia Asparouhova:or I would even argue maybe like going to Tokyo yeah like you're gonna have a crazy perspective altering experience that's really new but then when you come back like most people's experience of those types of things is actually you kind of regress back to where you were yes yeah that's a great example I mean there's so many things like that actually in really small ways like if you're um unable to you know or you want to focus better on a work thing that you're doing you put on a certain type of music right and like and so it's always a sense of like something else is helping me get there. And there's very little of you involved there.

1:34:21And a thing that people are often surprised by with this style of meditation is they're like, I did that to myself. And that means I was actually experiencing it in a way that's felt much more like I was an active player in this, right? So like I am, the fact that I am experiencing something psychedelic like right now, it was like, I put myself into that, right?

1:34:40Nadia Asparouhova:It makes it more real. It makes it way more real. Yeah, it's not just that it wears off and goes away. And then that starts to translate into other ways of understanding your relationship to the world where it's like, okay, I'm feeling sad right now or frustrated. And it's kind of amazing that we, many people just myself included in the past, like you just can't take for granted. Okay. I'm feeling sad. There's not a hole I can do to feel better. Maybe I will cope by, you know, eating ice cream or watching TV or something like that. And those things make me feel a little better, but there's no sense of like, oh, I can actually just move around my mind a little bit and feel something differently.

1:35:15Right. And so I think it just opens up this whole thing of like, Oh, how can I, how can I change my relationship to everyone around me or everything I interact with where if, if I just, if I don't want to feel a certain way about something, you can actually just not feel that way if you want to. Um, and, and yeah, move around the little lovers in your mind.

1:35:32Nadia Asparouhova:So tension is crazy. Yeah. There's one, I think it's at the end of your incredible recommend i'll link the how to do jana's post i i the first time i ever read it i literally within 15 minutes i think i'm pretty sure got to the first jana which i think is credit to your your descriptive ability is but it's really you do also do a really just amazing job of being personal direct clear not like there's nothing woo-woo about it like it's just very um it's almost sociological you know in a way that's really cool um but in that piece you say, I don't think the Jhanas made me happy, but their biggest impact was enabling me to realize how happy I already was.

1:36:10Nadia Asparouhova:I just had to direct my attention towards this fact, then update how I thought of myself. Now I embrace and see the joy in life's moments, big and small, much more easily than before. A lot of what you were just talking about. Beyond try the Jhanas, which might be good advice, do you have any other advice for people to help them realize their own happiness or at least just be more attuned to their experience and their feelings? I think it's maybe just an openness again and to willingness to sort of reframe any situation you're in where there, now I, you know, I sort of try this out when I'm in, it's, it's, you know, going to the DMV or you're stuck in like traffic or something.

1:36:48And it's like, how can I make this the most joyous moment possible? And I actually find that it's often quite possible to make it like this, like really happy experience. And that's kind of silly when you think about, like, how can driving in traffic be fun and enjoyable? But, like, it's possible. But I think you have to have this sort of, like, openness and receptiveness to the idea that, you know, your brain, like, wants to go down these grooves again, right? And so it says, oh, you're in traffic. This sucks. Like, you know.

1:37:14Nadia Asparouhova:I know how to behave here. My brain knows to be mad or sad. Yes. Execute the I am mad critical. And then you just kind of barrel down that. And it's, you know, I think one of the other things I realized since kind of starting to explore this stuff is just how much we socially reinforce this in each other too. And in ourselves. Yeah. Yeah. I'm going to feel this way. It even relates to like, I'm always late. Yeah. Oh, now I'm going to keep always being late. Like we take on this. It's really cool how much the through line between attention here in this context maps so well to the anti-meme stuff.

1:37:48Nadia Asparouhova:which is basically, if I'm not overreaching here, it is training ourselves and our attention to not just let things flow to the default path over and over and over again. This idea, it's getting stuck somewhere. It's like getting lodged. Similarly, our emotions, our feelings, it's just like the ball's gonna trickle how it will or I can intervene with attention. Yeah, definitely. Yeah, and I think it's, this is where I really wanted to drive home that like it's not when we talk about the buying and selling of attention online and things like that like it's often just like oh you know this person owns my attention now this person will own my attention or something like that that you can own your own attention but you can also like do cool things with it and you can make crazy experiences not hoard it as you say yeah not just hoard it um yeah I like that a lot I want to talk briefly about your writing and your work.

1:38:45Nadia Asparouhova:You just wrote your second book or maybe third. I don't know how you qualify the first. You have this, I think it's at the very beginning of the book, you have this like, kind of like what this experience came out of. You say like so many messy drafts before they become finished products, the ideas move faster than I could keep up. I was slipping and sliding all over the place, writing down more and more examples that I came across and cramming them into a big brain dump doc called antimemetics-notes.md, which perched itself mockingly in the top left corner of my desktop for years. Whenever I had some downtime between projects, I would try to refine the doc.

1:39:24Nadia Asparouhova:Each time I would get frustrated by its unwieldiness and set it aside again. You go on to talk about the journey and the motivation to do something that really felt true to you. but like what is the actual process or feeling of going from I'm someone who's written a fair amount and like the idea of writing a book seems completely impossible and in the slipping and sliding feels really right of just like I'm lost in this there's so many interesting ideas like what does it feel like to eventually like summit that hill and start to compress it into something that you feel like you can hold? A huge relief.

1:40:04I mean, yeah, I've written a lot of things now and with every big thing I write, there's always a point where I'm just like, I'm certain it's not going to happen. It's just like, I'm screwed. This is game over. It's the worst thing I've ever written. Yeah, and then you just got to push through it. Yeah, I think fewer expectations is helpful for me. Writing second book has been, was way less painful than the first book. Maybe also because it was, you know, not the first book was kind of more directly a product of a lot of uh research i've been doing and this one was kind of more of a maybe more adjacent or or spans across a lot of things that that i'm interested in but i think also part of it was just like not having not trying to like

1:40:43Nadia Asparouhova:carry the weight of like it's just writing like you know zoom out it's okay like you know um so i think yeah you also mentioned you told almost no one about this yeah well i would assume the first book a few more people knew about yeah i'm not the most talkative about my work in general day to day. So yeah, my friends like to make fun of me for that. Um, but I definitely more people were aware of the first one than the second one. And in both cases, I didn't even know I was writing a book. I think it was just sort of like, I need to get this thing into some form so it stops bothering me. Um, and then it gets longer and longer and then you're like, well, I guess it's turning into one.

1:41:18Nadia Asparouhova:So, and then, you know, it flips a little bit, but yeah, I don't, I, I, I don't talk very much outside of maybe more like formalized context, but I don't talk very much about the work I'm doing in my day-to-day life. That makes it easier? Yeah, I think there's a little bit of just like I like having a wall, frankly. Like, I mean, if you spend all day thinking about something, I think this is true for most people with like their jobs or their work, right? Like I am constantly thinking about it. Like, you know, even when I sleep and I wake up and it's just like there's like this running loop, but I need to have a place where I don't think about it.

1:41:52And so if you're, you know, if you're someone where your job is just like meetings all day, like you don't really want to be doing more meeting like things when you're not working. And for me, it's like if I spend all day just thinking about ideas, like I like having a space where I can kind of be turned off and not have to just be sort of off duty a little bit. But I also think a lot of inspiration that I get and ideas come from just observing other people. And so I don't like so much having – if I'm talking about my own stuff, that means I don't get to hear about what other people are talking about.

1:42:23And I like collecting bits of things from people. So I much, much, much prefer to be listening to other people talk about themselves and the other way around.

1:42:30Nadia Asparouhova:I'm sorry to put you through this. This is okay. You have a great old blog post on the virtues of being basic that rhymes with some of that too. just like turning your brain off still rings true there's a sense here of like this very much being a personal journey you've referenced jane jacobs and i think one other woman about like their style of is very much coming from this like place of personal observation rather than jane didn't have the criteria or whatever she needed she was supposed to have to do what she did and yet she just kind of like went and looked around and it turned out she saw a lot there's a there's a part of this where you say you're talking about just like the frustration and and maybe working on another book that felt less true or less personal you say the creative self-expression is the only way we will continue to make our mark as humans in times of uncertainty and it doesn't come from doing what you think will sell to other people it comes from wanting to express something deep in your soul and then the new yorker review said this about you uh what makes this conceptual muddle appealing rather than a source of irritation or confusion is that she's quite clearly working all this out as she goes along.

1:43:37Nadia Asparouhova:The book never feels like a vector for the reproduction of some prefabricated case. It has the texture of thought or of a group chat, which I don't, I would hope you do. I see as an incredible compliment and very much rings true. Yeah. What did, what did writing this particular book do for you or, or how did it change you? in some ways it felt and you know to get back to the beginning of this conversation you talk about sort of the self-consciousness i have around writing about ideas where the first book that i wrote was about open source software it was a very concrete thing it was an allegory for other things but it was also you know it was very much written like a specific thing this one was by by compare it felt very abstract and so um i think deciding to even do it felt a lot like am I really going to spend like months and months just writing about thinking about ideas like geez like this is why I didn't tell people I was writing this book but I think forcing myself to do it because I clearly whether I liked it I had just been thinking about it for years you don't get to choose back to you don't get to choose yeah and it was like well if I need to exercise myself with this demon like I gotta just grapple with it and so it stops mocking me and so I think that it was it felt good to take a leap on something that where I'm like I honestly have no idea if anyone's going to care about this or whatever, but I just feel like I need to do it and I'm just going to stand behind that and do that.

1:45:01So I always feel good when I force myself to do something like that with writing. And I find that the writing that I do because I think someone else is going to like it is often much less satisfying than the ones where, because, you know, even if no one pays attention to something that you wrote for yourself, at least you know that you did it for yourself. But I actually also weirdly find that, like, same with the idea machines piece where it was like also it felt very abstracted like is anyone really going to care about this um and it was really well received and i think like yeah it's sometimes you just really got to trust your intuition on and not listen but but like that that reflex in itself i think is one of the hardest things for creative people to do in general and um it's why you often like you don't see people with really long careers and creative work because you know they start getting ideas around um what they should be doing or other people are kind of whispering in their ear about it.

1:45:49They get, and it's very, very hard to keep doing interesting, original things for a long period of time. I struggle with it constantly. So for me, it's a, yeah, good, good exercise, good practice to just keep trying to do that even when it's hard. Yeah.

1:46:02Nadia Asparouhova:And there are levels to it too, which is like, maybe you're like, oh, I'm doing this for me kind of, but I've also, I need it to be commercial enough. And it's like, there's always like a way to go deeper. Also, I think the really, really great stuff tends to be not really for anyone else. Yeah. I think it's really true. When we first met, you talked about the many eras of Nadia. You've done a lot of different things, clearly directed by the ideas that seize you, just to name a few. I mean, obviously, all the open source stuff. You went and worked at Substack super early on, very much kind of seeing where we were going around the stuff we talked about in terms of the internet and cozier parts of the internet.

1:46:40Nadia Asparouhova:There was a whole, and it seems to be still writing about it, this whole thing around tech philanthropy and the values of Silicon Valley. some great pieces there obviously all the antimemetic stuff you're still very actively working on consciousness consciousness research which we barely even talked about and by the way a lot of these things are happening simultaneously what patterns have you seen if any and then like what has stayed the same across all these different eras in terms of just like themes across i don't know yeah stayed the same for you in terms of how you work in terms of your attention yeah patterns either in the substance or pattern then like the shape of them i my i i'm trying not to be too um overbearing on it but like they're clearly through lines even where they're they aren't obvious great maybe you can tell me yeah i think well at least in the shape of things that attract me it needs to be something that's it doesn't need to be but the thing the things that i kind of flock to are an idea that i feel no one is really paying attention to yet well not no one but it has to be uh just just the right amount of people right yeah um yeah i think maybe we mentioned this when we first talked but david lang has a piece about scene building and you know what what what causes a scene to take off versus not and you can't have zero people paying attention to it because it's just like it's not going to go anywhere but you have same with the champion by the way the champion can't it's it which makes it more first follower it's like yeah it's actually kindling right yeah which also speaks to i think my skepticism around this idea of like great man theory or great fun it's like you can't really pull something out of thin air there has to be like just enough people paying attention to it um and so you know trying to sort of spot something where it's like just enough interest but it hasn't really, really taken off yet.

1:48:30So I think like, yeah, the timing of a thing matters to me. And when it feels like something that hasn't, that is so obviously true to the people that are close to it, but then no one else seems aware of it and it has a lot of potential for impact, that is always very exciting to me. Yeah, here's the water. Yeah, yeah. Like with, yeah, talking to open source developers, where it's like, oh, everyone thinks that open source software is built as this, you know, big, super participatory community. And then I'm talking to these developers who say, no, that's often not true. And, you know, our lives, their lives are really different from what everyone else thinks.

1:49:05There's a discrepancy here. And it's like, I want to build some kind of bridge between it. I do think I gravitate a lot to that sort of like translatory bridge building type writing. And yeah, I think like a thing people often say is something like, oh, it's, you know, I read this piece and it gave me words for a thing that I didn't know how to express before. And I feel like that's kind of my sweet spot of stuff. whether I like that to be true or not, but I think that's, that's kind of where I end up. But then I think, yeah, the actual, the actual eras are all like pretty, pretty different. I don't know how to, how to tie them all together.

1:49:38And I think I almost try not to think about them too much. Cause yeah. I think that's probably right.

1:49:41Nadia Asparouhova:But yeah. My, my sense is, I don't know, I've interviewed like 20, you're, you're the 22nd person I've interviewed with very little, like, I'm going to do these explicit themes across the different guess and like it just they just keep stacking in terms of patterns and connection and i talked to yancy a couple weeks ago and like obviously there's connection but like i do find that overwhelmingly if if what you're saying is true about the ways that ideas sees us it's very much not isolated or random and so like they're kind of creeping up at up at you or at us in like ways that aren't always legible but i think over time you can like look back at a era or life or whatever and see it's, it's, it's not that shocking.

1:50:27Nadia Asparouhova:Like the dots start to connect. I have a few final questions as we turn the corner across a bunch of different ideas. A meta question about maybe the antimex stuff in the book. Are you, or is some of this trying to like engineer or coordinate our way against human nature? Like put another way, like it seems like Malik is really strong. and you have a lot of seeming hope, or at least you're conjuring hope, that we can overcome this, that we can be better in part or largely due to ideas. What do you see or what do you hope for that would make that true? This might be me trying to hedge a bit, I guess, but I think this is where I try to make the foundation of the book really focus on descriptive observations and saying whether we like it or not, here's what I think is happening.

1:51:28Right. And what we do with that is kind of up to us. Like if you ask me point blank, I would say we should not try to re-engineer human nature. That's just ill-advised sort of effort. We talked about this with the tension, right, where it's like you can't force someone to pay attention when there's nothing interesting to pay attention to, right? But yeah, on the flip side, it doesn't mean that we have to be totally defeatist about like, and I think that was what I was sort of reacting against in the sort of popularity of Gerard and mimetic desire and the idea that we're just sort of like overwhelmed by this sort of mimetic behavior in a lot of ways right now.

1:52:12There's something defeatist about that to me where it's just sort of like, oh, okay, Like we're just going to constantly be aping other models of, you know, people who we want to be or things that we aspire to be like. And, you know, we're just going to be like mindlessly passing things around because that's the way the monkey brain works. That's just like, yeah, that's just so uninspiring to me. So I want to at least probe a little and say, like, are there other ways of thinking about this that are not so not so obvious? But I would, yeah, maybe stop short at saying like we shouldn't, we should, again, sort of like Tai Chi work with our new miniature and not try to just completely come up with a new way of doing things that no one actually wants to do.

1:52:50Nadia Asparouhova:Yeah. You have a line in some writing about Erbit. To the extent that software is both an art and an ideology, Erbit was a full stack expression of what a compartmentalized world would look like if every group chat became a fortress or a mafia. Yeah. Software as an art and an ideology is a really interesting framing that I'm sure ties back a lot to working in public. But yeah, what do you mean by that? I think, well, not all software, but I think software is underappreciated as an art form in itself. And you see a lot of people who've created interesting software because it is just expressing something they really want to say and they're expressing it with code.

1:53:33right and so it's maybe a more functional or interactive art form but yeah i think that's probably true for a lot of different i think maybe this is a little pollyannish or something but it's you know it's like our art is everywhere to be found everywhere right and so many like you know there's the line about everything around you was created by someone else like every every single little thing around you is something that was someone's like life passion to try to make Museum of Fashion Project. Yeah, we're just surrounded by it. I was talking to a restaurant owner or entrepreneur who's started a bunch of different restaurant businesses recently, and he was talking about how each of these restaurants represented a different era in his own life.

1:54:13You could see the one where he was really into co-working and the one where he was kind of feeling lost and this one where he wanted to create a gathering space for his family. And I've never thought about restaurant ownership as something that could be artistic. How could it not be? How could it not be? Right, because you're spending so much time on this thing. It's a mirror. Yeah, I think software is probably no different than that.

1:54:35Nadia Asparouhova:You, I think, briefly alluded to it vaguely. You've written explicitly that your first book about open source was actually an allegory about democracy. What's your most surprising belief about democracy? Or at the very least, what the most kind of key or central learning you have for the rest of us about it is? well i'm just gonna paraphrase the apocryphal quote from churchill but i i think it still works um that would that would be a less exciting thing to say some years ago but maybe that's the thing that needs to be said now i think we are now in a place where people can be openly disaffected by feeling that democracy doesn't work and i think this is again tying to this defeatist sort of attitude about mimetic behavior was just sort of like, well, you know, none of it worked.

1:55:28We're screwed. And I think it still works. We just have to, you know, it doesn't mean being totally hands off either. It means kind of getting in the arena yourself and participating in it. And yeah, it feels like a very old school thing to say, like, let's talk about our civic duties and stuff. But yeah, I don't know. I still think Like there's just so much left to discover and uncover about it that we haven't even tried or tested.

1:55:58Nadia Asparouhova:You have written about the value of space. Sometimes it feels like I can't think in here because, and I think you even alluded to this in the footnote, that here is some amalgamation of San Francisco and Twitter and whatever. This was also written in, I think, late August 2019. Because people are constantly asking me to externalize my thoughts all the time. I'm not ready to externalize everything I think about. Sometimes it takes years for me to articulate what I'm trying to say. You left San Francisco and you probably had more space in general in a lot of ways. Although now with a baby, I left space too.

1:56:35Nadia Asparouhova:Yeah. How has having at least a certain kind of space or distance changed or enabled you to think and write? It's the best. It's funny. Yes, we are recording this in San Francisco. So, you know, I certainly I like coming back to San Francisco and on paper it feels like I should be here. Right. It's like the most relevant place to my work. All my friends are here. I spent, yeah, I think close to 11 years in San Francisco. So I definitely, you know, put in my time here. But it feels, yeah, just a little close, too close to the rail, I think, in the same way of like I really. I don't like having to, everything I do, every small interaction everywhere I go, having to talk about myself or my ideas.

1:57:20I like doing it in containers where it's like, okay, I know I'm going to be talking about it here. But I think I just need the space to collect all the little pieces of things I'm observing. I'm constantly writing down notes of stuff that I observe, and sometimes they start to form into little balls of ideas that start to snowball. That's how this book happened for sure. And I think I just need a space to be more embodied, too. I feel like now we live in Los Angeles and, yeah, just having a day-to-day with my family where the most important thing in the evenings is not going to another, you know, happy hour dinner or whatever.

1:58:00Yeah, it's like I get to sit and watch my kid eat and play with him and that feels really, really good. I think a long time ago, I wrote something about how thinking about the sort of ideas type work as a similar to sort of doing any sort of like physical activity or a professional athlete or something where it's like you have recovery time, right? And like you have very intense sprints and then you have recovery time. And I don't enjoy just sort of constantly mindlessly consuming information. Like I need to process. And a lot of that processing happens in really, you know, the shower thought kind of thing.

1:58:35Right. Or for me, it's, you know, waking up in the middle of the night and just having flashes of inspiration and stuff. But you need the downtime. You need the recovery time just to sort of process ideas. And so, yeah, I think it's possible to do that in San Francisco, but it's just harder. And so it's really nice to be somewhere where I can have a little bit of that space and distance. And then I can choose to come into the fray like this week in San Francisco and enjoy it.

1:58:57Nadia Asparouhova:Well, I think you've been an effective truth teller for a while. And you were doing so from San Francisco for a while, too. but I can't help but think or imagine that that distance has enabled you to be so lucid and clear and thoughtful in the way you're observing what's happening today, which is cool. You mentioned family. You've talked about being like less afraid to take risks since starting a family. It's like very clarifying in terms of what you know, knowing what really matters, calming. How have your boys, I guess one's a man, but how have your boys changed you? My husband and my son. Oh, gosh.

1:59:34I think there's something really valuable having a stable place to work from that's, yeah, it makes, because, you know, why are people afraid to take risks? They're afraid of the consequences. or sometimes those are material consequences. That's kind of a different question. But for in terms of like social consequences of like, I'm afraid of looking silly or whatever and I'm afraid no one's going to care. And with writing, I found that I am less afraid to take risks when I think about it of like, you know, what are the intrinsic benefits to me? Like I enjoyed clarifying these ideas. I enjoyed working through the process.

2:00:08I feel a lot better now and I'm going to share it and hopefully people like it. If not, like, you know, I did it for me, right? And that just having that frame of my writing has been really helpful. And then I think family is another version of this where like at the end of the day, like, you know, I get to come home to people who really love me and that I love. And like that's, it doesn't really matter sometimes what's happening out in the world because it just feels really good to come home to that. So yeah, and in that sense, it just makes you a lot less, yeah, fearful. Like at least my kid likes me.

2:00:39Like I don't know, knock on wood that stays that way.

2:00:43Nadia Asparouhova:You've written about gentlemen scientists and being funded by patronage and patronage broadly. You say patronage isn't a free lunch either, but there's an important lesson here about building fewer but deeper relationships. I think more people should adopt a patronage mindset beyond the context of online creators. Taking care of people in your life who matter is important. How have you been cared for? Have I been cared for? Gosh, yeah, friends, family. people are just sort of not just there to catch you when you fall, but who also don't care whether you're falling or not in the sense of, um, you know, I think you have to form friendships and relationships that are not just centered around sort of like professional pursuits or interests.

2:01:31Um, people where if you became nobody the next day, like they don't care, they don't want to, you know, I have friends where it's like, I don't talk about work at all. And I find that really refreshing. So there's, there's some feeling, some underlying theme there, I think, around just stability or building a foundation where I think being cared for can kind of, it feels really nice when someone says like, I'm here for you and people who are invested in you just because they think they like you, you know, and there's no real reason why it doesn't matter who you turn into or not. And I think. Yeah.

2:02:07Nadia Asparouhova:Yeah. And I think these often come out in friendships that last over long, long periods of time because you're evolving through multiple errors of each other. And sometimes it's just like, I don't even know why this person is still one of my closest friends. There's no transactional reason for it. It's just because we've spent so much time together. And so, yeah, when I think about caring for other people, too, it's like I want to support people where I just love them and the way they see the world and who they are. and like whatever it is, I want to just be unconditionally supportive of that.

2:02:39Nadia Asparouhova:My last question, it's a quote from you and then a question. But to the right champion, even the most labyrinthine system feels like an invitation to create something extraordinary. Everyone has at least one system for which this is true, which means that all of us have the potential to champion an anti-memetic idea more deeply. You will know it when looking at the problem makes your heart expand with possibilities rather than shrink away when, instead of feeling overwhelmed, you feel a spark of curiosity. The world, after all, is more than just what we inherit. It's what we choose to notice, nurture, and build.

2:03:15Nadia Asparouhova:Everything around us, for worse, yes, but also for the better, is made up of where we direct our attention. If we learn to channel it wisely, we can decide what type of future we want to see. I know I've asked around the question a few times, and you are good at hedging, but where do you think your optimism comes from? I think it is, yeah, again, just like an openness to possibility. I just think that's a really, at least for me, it has served me well as a posture to operate from in the world across relationships, family, everything, and work. And if you always believe there's something else out there, if you always believe that your reality is malleable and you're never stuck in any one situation forever, then how could you not be optimistic about what's possible?

2:04:03It gets me excited to get out of bed because there's always something to discover. If I had nothing, if I felt I just knew what all the answers were, I knew who all the people were in my life and exactly how they operated. I knew what all the best ideas were and whatever. You just come in there with this sort of like arrogance and self-overconfidence. And it's like, well, yeah, you just really get stuck in these rigid ways of being. But like I love that. I don't know anything. And I never feel like I know anything. And I can only talk about like, you know, maybe what I observe or something. But yeah, I just being super, super open to the possibilities is I think a nice way to operate.

2:04:37Nadia Asparouhova:I hope we can all have some more of that. This has been wonderful. Thank you. Yeah. Thanks for having me.