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0:00Welcome to Dr. Davina's Dots, the show for anyone who loves inspiration. Every episode blends uplifting messages and the soothing sounds of jazz, so you can connect the dots in your life.

0:18Hello and welcome. I'm so glad you're here. Go ahead and get comfortable. Your time to slow down, relax, and reflect starts right here, right now, on Dr. Davina Stats. Alone isn't always lonely. Sometimes, being alone isn't the problem. Sometimes, the problem is that we've never really learned how to enjoy being with ourselves. There's a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely. And sometimes we use those words like they mean the same thing, but they don't. You can sit in a quiet room by yourself and feel peaceful and you can sit in a crowded table and still feel disconnected. Sometimes being alone is the best way to get reconnected with yourself.

1:09When was the last time you spent time with yourself without trying to feel every moment, without background noise, without rushing, or without reaching for your phone? Maybe learning to enjoy your own company isn't loneliness at all. Sometimes it's where we experience true connection, fulfillment, and peace.

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13:22Maybe learning to enjoy your own presence changes the way loneliness feels. Because when you begin to appreciate your own company, being alone stops feeling like loneliness and starts feeling like peace.

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30:54Dr. Davina: You are listening to Dr. Davina Stats. Maybe part of the reason being alone feels hard is because we've been taught to always stay connected. And somewhere along the way, alone became uncomfortable. Some people never really learned that they could be good company. Most people are taught to find comfort outside of ourselves first. But what if some of the comfort you're searching for can also be found within. What if you learned to sit with yourself for a few minutes? What if you learned to be with yourself the same way you'd sit with a friend? What if you learned to spend quality time with me, myself, and I?

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42:49I want you to choose a few quiet moments alone just to reconnect with yourself. Take a walk outside, make your tea or coffee, and stay present while you drink it. Put your phone down for a while and just let yourself breathe. It's okay if the silence feels uncomfortable at first. Sometimes peace feels unfamiliar before it feels comforting. But with time, you'll learn to sit with yourself and not feel lonely, but feel fulfilled, content, and completely whole. And if the reflections from this episode resonated with you, my book, Living, Loving, and Leading for an Audience of One, was written to remind you that you don't have to constantly search for validation or approval from others.

43:35And sometimes, peace begins when you learn to enjoy your own company. You are listening to Dr. Davina Stotz.

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59:52Dr. Davina: Thank you for listening to Dr. Davina's Dots, helping you connect the dots in your life.