How to Stop Outsourcing Your Inner Work and Achieve 7-Figure Success with Lucy Shahjahan: An EOFire Classic from 2021

0:01Boom! Shade the room, Fire Nation! JLD here and welcome to Entrepreneurs on Fire! are brought to you by the HubSpot Podcast Network, the audio destination for business professionals with great shows like the Gold Digger Podcast. Today, we're pulling a timeless EO Fire episode from the archives, so the giveaway may not be active, and we'll be breaking down how to stop outsourcing your inner work and achieve seven-figure success. To drop these value bombs, I have brought to Lucy Sahajan and the EO Fire Studios. Lucy is an international relationship coach who teaches women how to be their own soulmate before attracting their life partner.

0:34She's the founder of Soul2SoulGlobal, a seven-figure business. And today for our nation, we will be talking about the key ingredient to success is to surrender and put your focus on your mindset. And wherever your heart is right now, don't muck around. Now is the time to get yourself out there and go for it and so much more. And a big thank you for sponsoring today's episode goes to Lucy and our sponsors. Online Marketing Made Easy podcast hosted by Amy Porterfield is brought to you by the HubSpot Podcast Network, the audio destination for business professionals with a focus on online business, including digital courses, list building content, and more.

1:10Online Marketing Made Easy breaks down big ideas and strategies into actionable step-by-step processes. A recent episode that will help you get more results with a whole lot less stress is on four ways to avoid burnout. Listen to Online Marketing Made Easy wherever you get your podcasts. Leveraging fractional staffing might just be the key to unlocking growth for you and your business. Get started today with an exclusive offer from Belay. Download their latest resource, The Power of Productivity, for free. Just text FIRE to 55123. That's F-I-R-E to 55123 to get started. Lucy, say what's up to Fire Nation and share something interesting about yourself that most people don't know.

1:54Hello, John. I am so excited. Hello, Fire Nation. I have been excited for this all week. And I guess one of the things that people don't know about me is I always take action before I really know exactly how it's going to play out. So an example of this is when I was 34 weeks pregnant, I had this hunch that we need to move to California. We were in New York at the time. Now, that does not seem like a rational thing to do, 34 weeks pregnant, you know, no house to actually move to. And I said to my husband, but I'm just really feeling that we need to be in Santa Monica. And he's like, okay, so what would that look like?

2:36And so long story short, we miraculously got our place rented in a really short window, because obviously you don't want to be flying too much longer after 34 weeks. But I just jumped and we didn't have somewhere to actually move to. We just did short-term accommodation and people thought we were crazy. They're like, what are you doing? Like, could you not just wait till you have your baby? I'm like, no, this is how I live. Like heart led, what feels good. Let's just see if we can create it. And so we did, we moved and, you know, first place we looked at, boom, we moved in and everything just fell into place.

3:13So that's what I, I wanted to share that not everyone knows that, you know, when things don't seem possible, I'm like, yes, let's go find a way. That's fantastic. I love stories like that where you're taking this leap of faith and you're like, you know, this, this parachute is going to open on my way down, but you know, we'll see when it opens, but I know it's going to open before I hit the ground and fire nation. That's what life is all about. And what this interview is all about, as I mentioned in the intro is how to stop outsourcing your inner work, fire nation and achieve seven figures success.

3:46And where I want to start, Lucy, is with the fact that entrepreneurs are absolutely notorious for holding themselves back from success, mostly because of their mindset and their lack of inner work. They're willing to put in the work in all of the areas, except their mindset and inner work. Break this down for us. Oh, it's such a juicy conversation, John, because I feel, especially when I was living in New York City, which is almost like the capital of entrepreneurs. It's not. There's lots of places, But there's a lot of that hustle frequency, a lot of that, like, I've just got to make this happen.

4:20And, you know, pulling these all nighters and trying to get the best strategist and all this kind of that fight or flight energy. And not enough of this, hang on a minute, like, is my heart actually dialed in with my dream? Am I really believing on a cellular level that I can go and have a lot of success in this area? That's just being skipped over. It's like, oh, yeah, yeah, I'll get to that. And honestly, I feel like that is the foundation that everything needs to flow from. And so just from my own journey, I was one of those people like clutching, grasping. Let me just connect with this person, that person.

4:57It was all very like busy and fast and a little bit jarring when I look back at it. Very jarring. And there wasn't this grounded belief and flow and surrender. And I wasn't putting the priority and focus on my mindset because it was almost, and I think it's approaching entrepreneur life backwards. I think that what shifted, especially in my life was when I said, hang on a minute, am I aligned with this vision? Am I truly feeling resonance with it? Am I feeling worthy of receiving it? And so it's what I've noticed a lot, John, is there's this real masculine approach of do, do, do, do, do, just achieve, achieve, achieve.

5:41And it's not being connected from this really grounded, all knowing foundation. So to answer your question, I personally think it is the most key ingredient, no matter what you're setting out to do with your beautiful, delicious business, dream, whatever it is, this is like the mechanics. This is putting together the engine to make it go the distance. Fire Nation, the one thing that I really want to pull out of what Lucy just shared is this one phrase. Am I aligned with this vision? When's the last time you've asked yourself that question? When's the last time you've looked in the mirror or you've just sat down in a quiet place and you've asked yourself, am I aligned with my current vision?

6:25And for some people, they're going to be like, wow, I don't even know if I have a vision whatsoever. Or there's going to be other people that are like, wow, I'm really not aligned with this vision. I don't remember when I got out of alignment, but I just know for a fact that I took a second to actually think about this question that I'm out of alignment. And this is the time, Fire Nation, to get back in because the longer you take out of alignment to get back in, the harder it is. Believe me, you're like off of this track going 1 % off the track, but over time, you're way, way out of alignment.

6:55And Lucy, you have a phrase, your internal GPS. Break it down for us. What is your internal GPS or what is our internal GPS? What does that mean? And what happens when you're able to turn that sucker on? Honestly, I use this metaphor, this vision all the time, but when you were just talking, I see two different highways, like sliding doors. And one of them is like the plan B, let's just see if this is going to work out highway with a GPS that is not properly plugged in. It's just relying on hope and let's just make this happen. And then the other highway is the dream highway with the GPS, your inner connection to your inner world, all plugged in, dialed in, driving that car in the top gear, knowing all those gears in and backside, front and back, inside and out, knowing exactly how that car works and what it's capable of and sitting back in the driver's seat, just trusting, knowing that everything is plugged in.

7:57So when I talk about the inner GPS, it's about you being plugged into your inner world, into your heart space. So really getting out of the head, the logical brain, overthinking, analyzing, collecting all this data and actually dropping down into your inner world to get a bit still, to get quiet and to just, again, it comes down to this feel word, really feeling, am I aligned? Do I believe I can have this? And then once you do get quiet enough to hear that inner world, to listen to the whispers on your heart, that's where you get the downloads from the divine or the universe or whatever you believe in, right?

8:40And you start to get the next steps given to you without all this hustle. It's just like, ooh, I'm really feeling that I'm aligned with whatever this vision is, right? But instead of trying to, well, I guess try so hard, you're actually able to receive the next steps. And so when I just think of my own inner GPS, when I'm really plugged in, things feel effortless. Things start to flow. I start to receive those opportunities that I would never have gotten had I just been hustling and grinding, going down that wrong highway. And not dialed in. Does that make it clear? It makes it clear to me. And there's a couple of things, Fire Nation, that I really just clicked with when Lucy was talking.

9:23Number one, that phrase. Wow, I loved it. The downloads from the divine. I mean, to me, that's so clear. It just feels so right. And who wouldn't want to download from the divine? I mean, it just makes all the sense in the world. And that next follow-up she had, which was, are you ready? Are you ready to receive the next steps? And the answer for a lot of people is no, you're not ready. You're not ready for that next step. And that is your own fault because you haven't taken the time to sit down and do the things that Lucy and I are talking about here to receive those next steps. And once those next steps are given to you, you know, are downloaded to you, then it just becomes so clear.

10:02It's like this fog has been lifted. And I'm speaking from experience. I mean, the first 32 years of my life was a foggy experience of just like not really knowing why I was in the current reality that I was living in until I had that download from the divine, the idea, the aha moment to start this Entrepreneurs on Fire eight years ago, 2 ,700 episodes ago, that became clear. The fog was lifted because of that. And Lucy, let's shift this specifically right now to female entrepreneurs because you know that female entrepreneurs need to break the glass ceiling. And you know what they need to do to break that glass ceiling.

10:42Talk about that. Absolutely. And it's not what you think I'm going to say. It's not do more. It's actually, wait for it, because this is cool. It's about resting and receiving these messages. And that seems really counterintuitive. I remember myself when I was first starting out as an entrepreneur in New York and thinking I had to do all these things and pull these long nights. And if someone had said, oh, you just need to rest more, I would have laughed. I literally would have laughed and said, what are you talking about? And not listen. But when you prioritize this getting yourself into alignment each day, basically turning your inner light on and feeling activated and feeling energized and inspired before you even start your day, right then you're putting yourself into a frequency where like I said before you're able to actually it's almost like the universe just opens up all these doors for you because you are an energetic fit and I think this takes me back to this event that I led uh John in New York with an amazing powerhouse called Fran Hauser and she helps a lot of entrepreneurs she's an angel investor.

11:55And I had this event with all these amazing women. And it was so interesting to hear that many of them felt really held back by this glass ceiling. And you know what the common theme was, they were acting like a woman in a man's world. You know, it's not fair that I'm not getting paid the same. I feel like, you know, my boss isn't listening to me and I'm doing even more than the men and I'm not getting paid enough. And all these kinds of conversations were happening. and fran and i broke it down we're like listen that's coming from lack that's coming from not enoughness energy you're not standing in your full self-worth you're not standing in and owning your power as a woman in the world it's a very big distinction because fran is she's just doing so well in her career and she's also very feminine i mean she wears dresses but that's not what being feminine is.

12:47She's feminine because she's plugged into her power and she's being a woman in a world, in her world, where there's a lot of men. And never once has she felt held back or intimidated by these men. She holds her own. And so what I want, you know, you beautiful listeners to hear in this conversation is that this is about self-acceptance. This comes back to one thing, it's self-worth. It's you, as we mentioned earlier, really prioritizing this mindset work to build your own belief muscle in the amazing greatness that you have inside of you and the deliverables and the outcomes that you get and to really harness and build some momentum from within to feel like, whoa, I am amazing at what I do and I do deliver.

13:32And then coming from a place of non-attachment. So if you're not getting traction in a certain company that you're in and they're not seeing you, then why are you staying there? And it really goes deep, John, into you're trying to actually please either your mum or your dad and get their approval and you just keep replicating these dynamics. And so that is coming out of lack and scarcity. So in order to really break through the glass ceiling with the least amount of output, it's first and foremost about getting that you are enough right now, not because of what you do, but because of who you are.

14:07and when you're walking around in that greatness and that knowing and that belief in yourself it's magnetic and men feel it and they want it I say this firsthand this is not just some nice idea that I'm sharing with you I'm working with amazing professional women all the time that come to me and they're scared to cultivate and activate their feminine power because they're like well how am I going to show up in the boardroom and you know how am I going to be in this this man's world And I said, we're not doing that anymore. We're ejecting out of that paradigm and we're going to bring in and dial up your essence and who you are.

14:47So it doesn't matter what boardroom you're in or how many men are in the room. You're sitting there with this inner reverence for yourself, knowing that you deserve whatever it is that you put your mind to. And that when it's dialed in and you do the work and prioritize the work to really ignite this fire within yourself, that translates as pay rises, promotions, opportunities, people wanting to be around you, people wanting to hire you. Does that make sense? It makes all the sense. And Fire Nation, eject out of that paradigm. I mean, there's a lot of great things that Lucy just shared, but ejecting out of that paradigm to me, it's just like, why not?

15:27Why would I not, if I have the choice to push that button, to eject out of this paradigm, why would I not to push that button? Why would I not take control of my life and do just that? And Fire Nation, if you think we're even close to done dropping value bombs, you got another think coming. As soon as we get back from thinking our sponsors, Lucy's going to rock our world. Expectations are at an all-time high these days for sales leaders and sales teams beyond your daily cold calls, the relationship building, and actually closing deals. You're also expected to leverage a slew of different tech to-dos.

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17:40Text FIRE to 55123. That's F-I-R-E to 55123 to get started. So Lucy, we're back. And as I was kind of teasing before the break, we have a lot of important stuff to talk about. Number one is the difference between the masculine and the feminine energy when it comes to business. That exists in the world that we live in. So break this down for us. Absolutely. Look, it's about the same thing for our beautiful male listeners that we need to balance the two. You can have women that are too in the feminine in that they're not grounded in that fire in really taking bold action because the bold action is the masculine.

18:22You can also have men that are way too much in they're masculine and rah, rah, rah and beating their chest and they need to turn up their feminine as well because the feminine, when we break it down in its simplest form, is the heart. It is sitting back and receiving. The feminine is deeply trusting but again, you can overtrust. People say, oh, I trust, I trust. No, no, you can be overtrusting with no discernment as much as you can be not trusting at all because you're so in the masculine where it's, you know, you need to have everything. Basically, I break it down as you need to see it to believe it, whereas the feminine is believing it to see it.

19:06And so this lives inside of all of us, this beautiful, it's like this yin and yang, this masculine feminine. And honestly, it applies for women as much as it applies to men. And, you know, the men that I, I mean, look at Tony Robbins. He is this giant light. Whether you like him or not, the man is powerful, right? He takes up all of the space. His voice sends to the back of that huge big stadium. But he's also really operating out of his heart space, moment to moment, feeling his audience. So in order to have the longevity going down your path, whatever that is, or even if you were at the beginning and you're in COVID right now and you know there's this thing you've always wanted to do but you keep putting it off until air quotes you're ready, then dial down the masculine just a little bit.

19:58Stop getting the spreadsheets out and coming from this whole like, this is what it's got to look like and this is what it's got to be and looking for the proof up front because you're shooting yourself in the foot. It's about spending more time, allowing yourself to activate your imagination and really going to the end, like what would it feel like already having this career off the ground? Like what does it feel like making that kind of money from creating big impact? And that is the feminine, John, allowing yourself to go well beyond your mind and connecting into the divine. And it's that surrender word, John, that for me really, really embodies walking down this feminine path.

20:45It's not this wearing a dress and a freaking floral headband, right? That's not the feminine, okay? Our men, the ones that I aspire to that are doing brilliantly, they have their feminine dialed in. Look at Richard Branson. He loves what he's doing. And one of his biggest traits is he wants to have fun. That's the feminine, the play, right, the fun. Yet he's also, he takes big, bold risks. he's visionary but what I love about him that really speaks to me is his currency is freedom fun play that's the feminine fire nation what would it feel like making big impact and generating big money like I love how Lucy phrased that of why would you not put yourself there like why would you not think about that future so you can then start being magnetized and drawn towards that?

21:41What would it feel like? Think about it right now, making big impact in this world, generating big paychecks, a lot of revenue. How would that feel? Now, Lucy, there's good support and there's bad support. How can entrepreneurs, how can Fire Nation, our listeners here today, tell the difference between the two? It's really simple. I mean, you've got to look at your life and say, am I starting to get traction? Am I getting momentum? How quickly are you seeing these results? Are you feeling stretched and inspired with the support that you're getting? Whether that's working on strategy, whether that's hiring the best coach to stretch your mindset, whether that's bringing on someone for PR, you've got to have enough self-respect and self-worth to be checking in, not just going, oh, here's the investment and you guys will go and do a good job.

22:37No, you've got to keep checking in. Does this feel good for me? Does this feel aligned? I'd say every couple of weeks, it's not about just looking at the stats. It's about, does this feel like this person is adding something significant to my journey? It's keeping it simple. It's either a yes, a hell's frigging yes, or it's a no. And the thing is we can waste a lot of good time and investment in just waiting and waiting for someone's potential because apparently they've got some good testimonials. No, don't shy away from your own intuition and your gut instincts to check in. Does this feel good for me?

23:14Yes or no. It's very, very simple. So let's talk about our relationship with ourselves. How does our relationship with us, with the core, with ourselves impact our success, both in business and in love? I mean, it's everything, John. I used to really have, I was born with this confidence. I'd walk in a room and people are like, you're so confident. So I was like, okay, I'm really confident. And I get to 30 and I'm like, if I am so confident, then why can't I hold onto a relationship? Why am I not where I want to be taking these big risks and using my talents? It just wasn't adding up. And that's because I'd been living with this external confidence and bravado and jazz hands, everything's great.

24:05It's fine. And being a real people pleaser, overgiving, no boundaries. And I was not honoring the bigness of who I was put on this planet to be. I was shying away from it. I was almost like, oh, I might get rejected if I step into that. And that's what many of you are doing right now is you're too scared to dream really big. because you're like, well, that's ridiculous. Like that could never happen to me. Or what will my parents think? Or that feels greedy. And we put all this stuff in the way. You're not actually really sitting back into the magnificence of who you are. And you're not actually accepting yourself at a soul, heart and soul level.

24:41And I just speak for me personally. I was almost, I was rejecting my bigness that I am really sensitive. I feel deeply. And I kept wanting to fit in. And I was making that more of a priority than actually just getting quiet enough to be with myself and go, hang on, you're not like everyone else. Your feelings are your superpower, Lucy, and you keep trying to dim your light so that you're just like everyone else. So I was personally rejecting myself because deep down, I felt misunderstood as a little goal. I felt like I was too much. I was too big. I was too deep. And so from feeling that rejection and that abandonment, even though I have the most amazing mom, I wasn't feeling emotionally understood.

25:27And so I, in turn, ended up abandoning myself and rejecting myself. So when you ask the question, you know, how important is this relationship with ourselves? The reason it's so important and significant and vital is that what is success if you're not accepting yourself? You're not going to enjoy the journey. You're not going to enjoy the money in your bank account because you are tapped into this lack energy and proving energy. And that is why we see people burn out. That is why we see people that no matter how much money they've got, they're still not fulfilled and happy. And this is purely because they are operating out of this lack of self-worth.

26:09And when you do the work to love and accept yourself on all levels for exactly who you are and who you're not, then you start to dance with life. Then you start to enjoy the present moment and you enjoy the unfolding and the journey instead of rushing to the destination. And the only reason you rush to the destination is because it's that fight or flight trying to prove. And so I got present to that, John. I was like, oh my goodness, I am literally trying to prove myself right here. Like I'm seeing success as like my way in. And it was putting me further and further away because it was from the outside in instead of the inside out.

26:50And now having just committed to this process of who is Lucy and who does she want to be in the world and accepting myself exactly as I am, I'm having more fun than I've ever had. And it's not determined by my bank account. It's determined with the relationship I have with myself, you know, and that impacts everything from our personal intimate relationships to our friendships, to the way that we mother if you're a parent. It really is the nucleus that everything else is born from. Fire Nation, something that I'm really absorbing from everything that Lucy's sharing here is that, is your finger on your pulse?

27:27Do you really know at the core your vision, the direction you're going in, what you want so that you can actually get there? You need to have that North Star to be pointed in the right direction. And Lucy, you shared so much value with us today. How can our listeners connect with you to learn more about what you have going on? Any gift or call to action you have, share it now, and then we'll say goodbye. Absolutely. So my website is soultosoulglobal.com. And I have a book coming out called Don't Shoot My Vortex that launches at the end of January 2021. And so if you go to my website, soldasoulglobal.com forward slash book.