Why Falling Madly In Love With Yourself Boosts Your Booty and your Bottom Line with Allana Pratt

0:02Who's ready to rock today, Fire Nation? JLD here and welcome to Entrepreneurs on Fire, brought Brought to you by the HubSpot Podcast Network, the audio destination for business professionals with great shows like Finding Founders. Today, we'll be breaking down why falling madly in love with yourself boosts your booty and your bottom line. To drop these value bombs, I are brought to Alana Pratt and EO Fire Studios. Alana is an intimacy expert, author of six books, and the host of the edgy podcast, Intimate Conversations. She's a go-to authority for those ready to heal from heartbreak. And today, Far Nation, we'll talk about how a healthy intimacy with an ideal match can literally attract more success.

0:42We'll talk about the sabotaging patterns that we have that repel both money and love and how to overcome those, the shift from mindset to heartset, and so much more. And a big thank you for sponsoring today's episode goes to Alana and our sponsors. The Product Boss, hosted by Jacqueline and Mina, is brought to you by the HubSpot Podcast Network, the ideal destination for business professionals. The Product Boss helps you take your physical product sales and strategy to the next level to create your dream life. With episodes like, Can I Have a Successful Product Business as a Side Hustle? Listen to The Product Boss wherever you get your podcasts.

1:19Now that's a sound I could get used to. It's the sound of another sale on Shopify, the platform that simplifies selling online and in person. Sign up for a$1 per month trial period at shopify.com slash onfire, all lowercase. Go to shopify.com slash onfire to take your e-commerce business to new heights. Alana, say what's up to Fire Nation and share something that you believe about becoming successful that most people disagree with. Well, what's up indeed? I was thinking about this question because I've read that cussing actually improves your health. So given I'm an intimacy expert, I was going to say the more vibrators you have, the higher your net worth, but that's kind of a joke, but not really.

2:06Deeper though, John, here's what I've understood over the years. Successful people are not exempt from pain and struggles and uncertainty, and they have to keep doing the work on an ongoing basis. There's this belief, I think, that there's like this utopia, some crest at the top of the hill, like all of a sudden you're successful and it's smooth sailing. But in my experience, that's not the case. And very few leaders, successful people, I believe, have the courage to share that vulnerable truth in real time of the struggles that they're going through right now. And unfortunately, I think it perpetuates this epidemic of loneliness and addictions like what's wrong with me.

2:49And I think what's great, if we can be more authentic, if we can share about our real, vulnerable, transparent, honest truths in real time to be an inspiration for other entrepreneurs. Fire Nation, as you know from the introduction, we're talking about why falling madly in love with yourself boosts your booty and your bottom line. And as you can tell, we're going to stick to that topic with Alana here today because you are, Alana, an intimacy expert. Explain Explain exactly what that is and why you wanted to become one. Yeah, well, I certainly didn't plan to be an intimacy expert. Dad wanted me to take over Pratt's Pharmacy, the little drugstore with a big heart.

3:33And mom was an ESL teacher and wanted me to be an underpaid teacher like her. And I was like, hell no. So I went to college to study business, but I failed quantitative methods. And so after two years, I quit. And my uncle, Phil, he drove this semi down to LA once a year. And so once a month, actually. So I said, OK, I'm going to use all the dancing that I've done since I've been five years old, and I'm going to make it in Hollywood. But I failed. But I did end up getting a job dancing and modeling over in Japan. And I spent four years there. And then I moved to New York. And I graduated cum laude from Columbia.

4:11And I interned at CNN. And then I found personal growth. and people started to tell me things that they hadn't even told themselves. And then I moved to LA and I said, okay, I'm going to be a coach. And I coached Lisa Gibbons through Dancing with the Stars. And what I realized through this whole journey is that, especially with Lisa, that it was our core intimate relationship with ourself that was our key to success, our key to having joy in our expression. So I just decided to call myself an intimacy expert. You know, intimacy, into me, I see. It's derived from the Latin word, intimus. That's like inmost, innermost.

4:56And to me, intimacy is about our relationship with our whole self. You know, not just the pretty impressive parts. It's really about learning to accept our like wobbly, insecure parts, you know, and stop hitting ourselves over the head with a two by four with criticism or bullying. everybody that you're fine when you're not. And soon as you develop this relationship, you develop more trust in yourself and trust in the universe so that you're willing to go for your dreams, even if people think you're back crazy and you learn to keep your heart open. Even if you lose it all, you learn to get back up again.

5:34Fire Nation, I know you're all about getting back up again. And I want to dive Alana next into how having a healthy intimacy with an ideal match, not figuratively, but literally will attract more success. Talk to us about that. Yeah, I'm a bit of a science geek. So on my podcast, I like to interview a lot of quantum physicists. And I spoke at the HeartMath annual conference down in Cancun before COVID. And so the planet is going from 3D, three dimension to 5D, five dimension. And the old 3D way of living is like, I'm good, you're bad. I'm right, you're wrong. I won, you lost. You know, and relationships are more about getting and taking or the opposite.

6:19It's about sacrificing, overgiving, losing ourselves. You know, it's that proverbial, I need my soulmate. And when they find them, they'll complete me and they damn well better be the source of my safety and my worth and my security. But I personally know that created two divorces and one hell of a custody battle. It doesn't work. And so these relationships, when we're in 3D, you know, you're bad, I'm bad, you know, your confidence gets bad, your money situation gets bad, your success gets bad. So we want to move from 3D into 5D. And in 5D, five dimension, this way of living, it's where we go, what's it going to take for it to be a win win for all?

7:02How am I going to take ownership of my wounds rather than blame? How am I going to source my own happiness rather than manipulate and take from another? And what if my partner doesn't complete me? What if they compliment me? And what if even more than that, you're like two holes coming together, not perfect, but whole people taking responsibility for themselves coming together where one plus one doesn't equal two. One plus one equals infinity because you literally awaken the best in each other. You awaken these dormant evolutionary qualities within each other. So both of you are more, more expressed, more confident, more successful, more joyful.

7:44And that of course leads to attracting more love and more money. And if you are in single and not in a relationship in this 5D dimension, you get to partner with your soul. You get to partner with your higher self, your sovereign being. Fire Nation, I hope that you are absorbing this content because this is really powerful stuff, especially, I love that last part, if you're by yourself right now, you're not in a relationship right now, that actually could be a great opportunity to really have a healthy intimacy with yourself. I mean, that is very powerful because a lot of people never, ever give themselves the time, the space, just the opportunity or even the permission to do something like that.

8:27And one thing that's a reality is we all have sabotaging patterns and this repels both money and love. So let's talk about setting ourselves free from these patterns once and for all. I love this, John, especially what you just said about this intimate relationship with ourself. Like, can we be at peace when we are alone? We're alone, but not lonely. This is a really core fundamental building block of our self-realization and our success. So as we move forward into these sabotaging patterns and try to shift them so we stop repelling money and love, the bottom line is that unintegrated, unhealed, subconscious wounds and traumas, they're literally energetically programmed to repel success and love to keep you quote unquote safe, but being safe also keeps you alone and in survival.

9:21And it doesn't allow you to embrace and open bravely, unapologetically to love and success so that you can thrive. And so I've been at this for about 20 years now as an intimacy expert, always growing, always learning. And I found that the core, at the core, people are either able to sit in the fire, stay present, stay embodied, feel emotions, which allows the best of your brain to turn on, which allows you to make great decisions that are aligned with your values, your heart, your truth, or you're not able to sit in the fire and you react and you make decisions and then you regret those and then you feel guilty and ashamed.

9:59And it all comes down to being able to regulate your emotions, not get rid of them, but regulate them, you know, allow them, feel them, evolve them because they will evolve into wisdom, insights. And that way you're always going to be evolving as in your business, you're going to be able to take that next risk and give your gifts unabashedly. And so I really think the number one hack for more love and money is to double down on the solidity and depth and quality of your intimate relationship with yourself. Fire Nation, have that visualization up right now. Can you sit in that fire? Are you one of those people that can do that?

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13:01What does this mean? You know, everybody knows about mindset. Let's just do 10 more affirmations and work so bloody hard in trying to have this positive mindset. But the truth is our rational mind, our thoughts, our beliefs, our stories, we can call this our secondary consciousness. It's a super, super small part of you. You can imagine an iceberg. It's just the baby tip of the iceberg. work but underneath the water is your non-rational non-verbal non-cognitive like your subconscious unconscious wounds and and that's what we call primary consciousness and that plays a hell of a lot bigger role in your emotions your moods your symptoms your reactivity and so we really want to let go of mindset and go to where we can be more efficient and get more effective lasting results down in the body, down in the heart, down in the gut, down underneath with that iceberg.

13:57And so a few positive thoughts, I like to give the analogy, a few positive thoughts are like sprinkles on the top of an ice cream cone. It doesn't really move the dial. It doesn't do any good. It doesn't honor the tremendous wisdom of our bodies, our bodies to bring our own ANS system, our autonomic nervous system back to well-being. And the data, the data proves that traditional talk therapy actually doesn't work. The body has been so undervalued, yet the body, as we know from Gabor Mate, you know, the body keeps the score. But when we trust the body, it literally, and surrender, it can bring us home from horrendous disassociation, level four trauma, all the way back to zero, to stillness, to well-being, to home.

14:50And so over the past 20 years, as I've been trained in different modalities, I've chosen not to be a therapist. I've chosen to be a coach. And I've learned about quantum psychology processes. I've learned about spiritual technologies. I've learned about somatic experiential processing. I've learned about psychedelic medicine to support healing traumas. Not our good attitude. Our good attitude wants healthy love and a lot of money, but it's our traumas in our body that repel love, repel intimacy, repel money. And they also do the opposite. They attract another abuser to survive. And that abuser could be a lover or that abuser could be a business partner.

15:29And in my business, I'm very proud that I don't just teach this, facilitate this. I walk my talk as well. I do my inner work. And the results are nothing short of miraculous for my clients. When these wounds are integrated, that like one woman, she got$10 million in funding. She'd been trying for two years. But after our VIP, bingo, there it was. Another person, you know, a horrible divorce. They had, their spouse had an affair. It was so humiliating. But after doing this deeper work, They literally sit down to the love of their life right beside them on a flight. You know, another couple came to me and there had been an affair that had produced a pregnancy and a child.

16:13And it was on the brink of divorce. But after doing this deep inner work, they now see the child as the symbol of forgiveness and unconditional love and even really tough stuff. Another client, her adult child took her life. And now the grandmother is the mother now of two little grandkids. This is real life stuff that when we do this deep inner work, this intimacy with our self work, we can navigate from challenges into really nourishing lives. So I want people to know mindset's more about coping, but it's more temporary relief. And I really believe true lasting transformation that really occurs in your heart.

16:58It occurs in your body. It occurs so that you can see that red flag and not react and not hide and not avoid and not blame. But no, stay present, sit in that fire, rise like the phoenix and change your behavior. You can stay present to your lover or to your children. When you used to check out, you can stay in your body, connected, heart open with your lover, where you don't know where you end and they begin. and as a business person, you begin to have that sort of like sexy it factor. You just start attracting ideal clients that trust you because you walk your talk. And then they ask to do business with you.

17:36Fire Nation, this is some deep, real, and at times even heavy stuff. There's a lot that I got from this. But the one thing I want to reiterate is it's time to stop undervaluing your body. Surrender and trust your body. It's time. And I want to end with obeying Atlanta because you believe intimacy with our body helps us receive ideal clients in, and I love how you put this, a delicious manner. Tell us more about this. Receiving clients in a delicious manner means that you don't manipulate them. You don't have an agenda. They don't feel like they're being sold to. You're embodied. Your heart is open.

18:16You are living your purpose. And you actually care about them. You want to get up under them. And people feel that in today's world, we smell a rat and we're done. We want transparent honesty or nothing at all. And so as you do this deep inner work and you show up on your videos, you show up on your sales call, you show up in your copy, you show up on Instagram, they're going to feel you more than it's going to make sense in their mind. They're going to remember you over others because something deeper than just the mind is going to be touched and moved. It's going to be their heart and their soul that will remember and trust you and take action to be with you.

18:56So I implore you to be willing to, and it's honest, it can be the hard work, the tough work, the brave work. But the return on investment of doing this work pays dividends monetarily, vocationally, and obviously romantically and sexually. And also soulfully so that you can feel at peace in your skin. Know, not think, but know that the universe has your back and be free. It's your birthright to be free. Fire Nation, I really hope you go back, re-listen to some of these ideas that Alana's talking about that you maybe haven't thought about or considered about before because it's important to challenge yourself when it comes to your beliefs.

19:34And I want Fire Nation to know the best way that they can connect with you, Alana. Any call to action you have, and then we'll say goodbye. Oh, thank you, John. Yeah, I have a YouTube channel with over five and a half million views. My podcast is called Intimate Conversations and my site is alannapratt.com and there's an intimacy blind spot assessment there so that you can figure out why you may be repelling the love and success that you desire. Thank you so much for having me. Fire Nation, you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with and hello, you've been hanging out with AP and JLD today so keep up that heat.

20:09For links to everything we talked about, visit eofire.com, type Alanna, A-L-L-A-N-A in the search bar, the show notes page will pop right up And Alana, thank you for sharing your truth, knowledge, value with Fire Nation today. For that, we salute you and we'll catch you on the flip side. Hey, Fire Nation, a huge thank you to our sponsors and Alana for sponsoring today's episode. And Fire Nation, are you ready to rock your very own podcast? Check out our free podcasting course where I will teach you how to create and launch your podcast for free, freepodcastcourse.com. I'll catch you there. We're on the flip side.

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