Becoming the Real You Through Human Design with Emma Dunwoody

22:31Emma Dunwoody:But the moment there was something I was really excited about. You were all about it. Like you couldn't break my focus if you tried. So I was always trying to build consistency, like build this consistent focus. But when I came to human design, I discovered I'm a manifesting generator. So I'm not meant to be consistent. in the masculine ways. The masculine way is this 24-hour energetic cycle. Ours is a 28-day. Then if you're a manifesting generator, you're going to skip from one thing to the next to the next. I'm also an emotional authority, so my consistency looks very different to everybody else's.

23:04Emma Dunwoody:And then I actually realized that I have the gate of focus. So the thing is, the moment I'm focused on the correct thing, I'm an immovable force. So once I started letting go of the things that I just not lit up by, all of a sudden my focus was my superpower. And I literally, I'll focus on something for a really short period of time, smash it out, it's done, move on. That's how I am. So again, it's like I understood who I am at my energetic core and just stopped doing the things that I thought I should do. And now I have to see if you have the nine. You do. You have the gate nine in your Saturn.

23:41Emma Dunwoody:So, you know, a lot of that and in the gate in the line five so line five often gives us like solutions it's also leadership energy and in satin so when you focus on the wrong things or when you allow yourself to get distracted by the small things that don't matter that's when you're going to be hit with the biggest consequences yeah that's happened and still does that's what I talk about in therapy all the time I'm like why we was cute my therapist this week was like you need she's like there's I'm setting up businesses right now like we're I'm raising I'm about to raise money for another for a brand that we've had for a while and but there's like you know annoying things that I need to do that are not for me and number you know things that I get really avoidant by and I put off and whatever and she was like you need to make these things romantic she's like once you get to the other side, you're not going to have to do them.

24:35And you can only just be like the fun, creative person making these decisions, like do what works for you. But she was like, in the meantime, like make it, put on music, light a candle, make it romantic. Yeah. She's like woo yourself into getting that done.

24:46Emma Dunwoody:Yeah. And I think there's like, there's a lot of value in that. You know, if you can't literally give it to someone else to do, then you want to make it fun. You want to make it, and I'm looking at your profile now, because this will often give us like a lot of clues into how specifically. So you're aligned too. So there is a really important piece for you that you have to follow what's easy. So once something gets hard, you really want to think, okay, am I trying to push something, force something? You've got the gate 34 in two channels and it's the shadow of force. So where am I forcing this?

25:19Emma Dunwoody:Where am I actually not in my strength? My strength is I allow it to come to me as opposed to me chasing after it. So yeah, again, it's, you know, are there places that you can let go of it? Are there places where you can delegate? And if you can't, then you want to have as much fun as you can with it. So fascinating. I think the other piece, sorry to interrupt, but the other piece is like, how can you do these things in relationship? Because you're aligned, aligned four. So if you were doing them in relationship, that would always be fun because relationships, good relationships, aligned relationships for you are going to make, you know, anything that you do more enjoyable.

25:55Emma Dunwoody:I love working. I hate being at home working by myself. Yeah. Sucks. Yeah. Like I'm happy that we all can like make these like easier schedules for ourselves post COVID. But I'm like, I literally sit at my desk and I'm like, where is everybody? Yeah, exactly. The line four needs a buddy. It's like you just you just need a buddy. Yeah. And I was saying that like earlier this morning, too, I was like talking to a friend of mine. I was like, the first thing I want to do with this company is I want to find my person. Like I want to find my CEO so I can only be creative. I just want someone to tell me what to do, but I want that to just be like, I want that to be my person.

26:29Emma Dunwoody:Yeah. That's literally, like, that's me. And my person is sitting over there. She literally is the COO of my business. She runs everything in the back end. I'm like, can I just be the show pony? Yeah, just make you the show pony. Yeah. Like, this is literally what I want to do. And that is the role of the visionary. Like, that's what we're, as visionaries, that's what we're here to do. We're not here to get into the nitty gritty. We're here to be out the front. And I think that's a lot of where we focus with human design and business, really helping people to step into that visionary and to attract their tailor.

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30:31Your book, which congratulations, your book is out. Thank you. Human Design Made Simple, which is a gift to all of us, right? Because if you're in your 20s and you're listening to this and you're like, maybe I don't have, you know, the privilege to stop the job that I'm doing right now because, you know, people have to pay rent. But this is really good to understand fundamentally who you are and start advocating for yourself within your workplace, shifting roles, or if you're thinking, obviously, you know, if you're unhappy in your job, what your next job looks like. So talk to me about like the process of decoding, you know, if I'm at home or if I'm reading your book, it's like, what do you hope that people really take away from this?

31:14Emma Dunwoody:Well, ultimately, like our big grand plan is that human design goes mainstream. And the whole idea of that is that we stop trying to be who we're not. we all ultimately are a tiny puzzle piece in this huge puzzle that is the human race so what it's going to help you do like the book itself is going to break down all the macro parts of your design meaning that all of a sudden you're going to understand okay this is what I have energy for this is the way I'm designed to make decisions and it's going to give you the opportunity to even discuss that with you know your boss where you work like if you're a projector you're not designed to work nine to five, five days a week.

31:56Emma Dunwoody:You're just not. So you're going to burn yourself out. But you'll also tend to be the person that works two hours a day and does just as much as everyone else. So it helps you actually understand how your energy is designed. You know, as you said, advocate for yourself. Like, could I, like I, I knew a really successful salesperson that would work two hours a day would be the leading salesperson, but just went out for coffee the rest of the day. Like, you know, you know, meetings, client meetings, But again, that's how the projector energy works. So in the inner career space, it's also going to tell you, you know, when to jump and when not to jump.

32:30Emma Dunwoody:If you're a generator, manifesting generator, a projector, you're always waiting for something external of you to say, it's time. It's time to leave. It's time to move on. Instead of thinking, should I, shouldn't I, what should I do? And ultimately, when you start to experiment, the book's broken down to make it so simple that You can do one experiment at a time. So you'd start with your type, for example, and really understanding how your energy is designed to operate. And there's just in the book how to experiment. What does that actually mean? How does my day change? And what you're looking for is, well, when I do these things, when I experiment with these things, does my life get better?

33:09Emma Dunwoody:Because if it does, then you're like, brilliant. I'm just going to keep doing more of it and get better and better at it. Do you have an example of an experiment today? Well, I would say authority is one of our most important because our authority is how we make decisions. And one of the big things with human design is about moving from the head to the body. So our body, mind, spirit is always guiding us in the right direction. Our subconscious mind is always making decisions from the past. It's looking to the information it already has to make decisions. But yet we're conditioned to make logical decisions.

33:43Emma Dunwoody:Think about it. What do you want? What should you do? Think about the future. whereas human design is all about okay your authority is intrinsically always guiding you so the one of the first experiments I recommend everyone do is just experiment with your authority so for me personally I'm an emotional authority so being a manifesting generator I've got the fastest channel in the design things I want things to move really quickly and they often do however for me to make the best decisions I need to sleep on it so any big decision I need time I need to go slower. And when I started doing that, I was like, wow, I've stopped doing that saying yes, waking up with regret the next day.

34:23Emma Dunwoody:Now I'm just like, I'll sleep on it. I'll come back to you. And all of a sudden I'm doing less, but receiving more. So for you, are you sacral? Let's have a look. Yeah. So you're sacral. So here I am slowing down. I want to sleep on it. You're every second, every moment, your gut saying, uh-huh, I got energy for that. Uh-uh, I don't. Your mind doesn't know why. And it's really important that you don't try and, you know, push your mind to know why. Because ultimately what your body's telling you or authority's telling you is I have energy for this. This is the next step in my evolution. This is the next step in my path because I've got energy for it.

34:58Emma Dunwoody:But if I don't and you're just like, or you move away from something, then you really need to say no. And often the challenge with a sacral is they know what they do and don't have energy for, but they're so used to overriding it. So then they get straight into their head, you know, they reason and then they make a different decision. So for you, it's really important just to trust the gut in every moment. Just go with, yep, I've got energy for it. No, I don't. And then all of a sudden you'll just notice that you say no a lot more than you used to. And when you do say yes, it's a bigger leap. That decision will get you where you're going faster with greater flow.

35:36So it's so funny when things come up multiple, like I had a conversation today about following my gut. It's just so interesting how that always happens.

35:47Emma Dunwoody:And this is the thing, I think the other thing that's beautiful about human design is the detail in which it breaks everything down. So one of the things about you is you actually have what we call a lot of mental definition. You've got the head defined, the asana defined, and you've got a channel to the throat. So your thinking is a superpower. You've got this very clear pathway, the way you think. And it's almost frustrating to you that why doesn't everyone think this? Why doesn't everyone else see this this way? And it's because not that many people actually have mental definition. So you have this superpower and it feels easy for you to use it as a decision making tool for you.

36:23Emma Dunwoody:But it's not. It's a gift that you give to others. It's how you might use it in the business to build strategy or you actually have a channel the 4323 which is called genius to freak so which is so fascinating because what genius to freak okay so i'm going to explain don't worry i was like did i just hear you correctly but and this channel i see so often in highly successful people and what it's all about is that you have this ability to take in such complex information and then you can actually say that doesn't matter that doesn't matter. That doesn't matter. And simplify it down so that people can understand it.

37:05Emma Dunwoody:Now, and that's the genius. You know where I'm really good at that is with when my girlfriends bring me relationship issues. Yep. Well, and that's your, so here, this is a perfect example. So superpower, 2343, that's a superpower of yours. Then your line four, you're always going to be good at relationships because it's a lot, it's how you move through life. Your relationship. through my 20s but yeah well but it still taught you a lot because your line four is always the relationships is always creating safety in your life so what you learn in your 20s was this doesn't make me feel safe this doesn't make me feel safe this doesn't make so they're the things to get rid of right but yeah so that's how your your how your profile the two numbers that you have play into your superpower of the 2343 because you bring it directly to relationships but the so the genius is when you take the time to actually clarify, make sense of, get rid of whatever that thing is.

38:00Emma Dunwoody:So you create the genius. But if you speak too soon, if you jump on it, you're like, it makes, you know, it's clear to me in my head. But if you just jump on it and try and spit it out before it's quite ready, that's when it sounds like freak because everyone's like, I don't understand what you're talking about because you're still in the complexity that everyone else doesn't understand. But to you, it's clear. Does that make sense? Yeah, yeah. I often find that that's like how the conversations go with my husband and I. Yeah. Where he'll be like, oh, I am not like, you know, time will pass. And he's like, no, I now I understand these things.

38:30But it's and I'm always telling him that things aren't I'm like, you're overcomplicating that. Yes. Yeah. It's like he told me so funny. Two days ago, we were talking about dogs and I was like, I love Cane Corsos. I've always wanted a Cane Corsa. And then I went to a adoption event. just we have three dogs they don't need another dog but we went to an adoption event because I was like oh I'll network the dogs and post them on Instagram and you know tell people that it's here and there was a conicorso and now he's at our house I love and again that's the sacral

39:00Emma Dunwoody:response right there you know like the mind goes we do not need another dog this is no it's a it's a no there was no we we were far past even being rational yeah but but this is the thing you know When you think about, to you, that was just a dog. I'm sure it's not just a dog, but you know what I mean? You didn't have any great attachment. But that's actually the way you create success in all areas of your life. This is how we manifest. We set an intention. I want this particular type of dog. And then because you're not attached to it, it just goes out. The universe does its work and then it guides you through your authority.

39:34Emma Dunwoody:You're like, oh, here's your dog. This is what you wanted. And it's exactly the same with business or relationships or whatever it is. when we actually realize that there is this easy way where we can set an intention, follow our design, follow our authority, follow our strategy. And then all of a sudden it just shows up in our life and we just have this clarity like, okay, well, that's the thing. And it's that shift from forcing, chasing, hunting stuff down, making things happen to actually magnetizing whatever your definition of success is to you. God, that's so incredible. Yeah, it's pretty cool.

40:08I've noticed I've been able to do it a lot lately and it feels really like a beautiful shift into like my age too now because I'll be 39 next week and I'm like, okay, I've like, you know, I did 10 years of being 20 and that was really interesting and I feel like I set everything up, I'll set everything up in my 30s and now I'm like, I really feel like I'm calling it all in. Like the work has been done and now I can, I can call it in.

40:36Emma Dunwoody:Yeah. And you're getting close to a really cool transformation. It's like your Uranus opposition, which happened in our early 40s, is the Uranus opposition. Okay. And it's all about internal revolution. I've never heard about this. Everybody always talks about your Saturn return. Yeah. Saturn returns, like it just kicks you in the butt and you're just like, oh my God. Why isn't everybody talking about this? Because everyone should be so excited to, I mean, I feel excited to be in my 40s. Okay, describe it. Your 40s are the best. That's how I feel. I just turned 50 and my 40s were epic and I do feel like my 50s are going to be even better.

41:11That's how I feel too.

41:12Emma Dunwoody:I'm always just like, it's just going to get better and better. Yeah. So Uranus opposition. So the planet Uranus is revolution, uniqueness. It's, you know, a bit crazy out there. It doesn't care. It's all about who am I and how am I going to impact the world? And in our early 40s, we go through this Uranus opposition, but Uranus is a really slow moving planet. So we often will have like two and a half years in, hit our peak at around 42 and then two and a half years out. And it's this moment in time where all of a sudden we go, and not necessarily in your case, because you've done the work already, but it's this time where people wake up and go, hang on a second, this isn't what I want.

41:48Emma Dunwoody:This isn't who I am. And they're also like, but who am I? So it's the time where you really start to look at, well, what is my uniqueness? What, you know, what is, who do I want to be? How do I want to impact this world? And when you're in, you know, not kind of resisting letting go of the old conditioned version of yourself, when you're with it, it's this great time of really working out like, who am I? Like, what is my uniqueness? Who do I want to be in the world? So it's a really, really cool time. That's so funny because I felt this really cool shift happen. Yeah.

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45:47So what is it like knowing your chart and then doing human design as this must be like an interesting, it must be really interesting to know yourself that well to then be able to teach everybody else. So how do you practice your own design, like with the way that you've set up your business and how you work?

46:06Emma Dunwoody:Yeah, look, my entire business is aligned to my design. You know, like we have a really big business but we have a core team of three of us because the last thing I want is a huge team I'm not interested I'm a manifesting generator I want freedom I want to be able to travel the world I want to turn on dime I want to change my mind I want to do this do that so the whole business has been set up in alignment with me and one of the cool things that's just happened recently is we again following my strategy and authority I'm like we need to make our own chat bot. That's what we need to do. And as soon as I mentioned it, my team, again, two manifesting generators, one of them with mental definition that's already building something that you didn't even know, you know, what it was.

46:47Emma Dunwoody:And I'm like, hey, we got to build this thing. And she's like, I think we're already building. I'm like, okay, cool, let's do it. So we build Maggie and we put all my human design IP in there. We put all of our business strategy in there. We put all of our marketing, you know, strategy, everything in it. And all of a sudden we now have this tool that basically gives us the freedom to do what we want, when we want, because she helps us build the business and she's now helping everyone else build their business. And we had no like goal on the strategy to go, hey, we need to build this thing that is going to increase revenue, but it's not something that any of us have to be present for.

47:22And it just showed up, you know, and it just

47:25Emma Dunwoody:happens over and over and over again. My book, I declared on my podcast a couple of years ago, okay, I think I'm ready to write a book. Then a friend of mine introduced me to a book agent. Then I happened to be in Spain. The book agent was in London. At this time, I'm like, oh, can I just, I'll see you on the way back. I'll drop past London. Got to meet a couple of publishers. One of them was one of the imprints at Penguin. Signed a publisher. You know, all of a sudden the book was done. Like it just, like every step just showed up. And it's because I'm following my strategy and authority. And that's just happened over and over and over again.

48:01Emma Dunwoody:Because for me, business isn't something that I want to work in every day. I just don't. I want freedom. I want to be traveling the world. I want to be available to my kids. So ultimately my entire life has been built around my design. And it's crazy because I can't not be me. And I have definitely got to that place and people will say, wow, you're really the same person no matter where I meet you. You're the same. I'm like, yeah, on the podcast, you know, as a, you know, teaching inside my HDX community, here with you, I'm just the same person. And I think that's the beauty of human design is it means that we just take off all the masks.

48:38Emma Dunwoody:We love, trust, and accept ourselves as we are because we're like, oh, what a relief. I don't have to make all that effort anymore. And I know for me, I was really challenged early on with detail. I really thought, how can I possibly create success when I just don't care about so much of the detail. And of course, I call in a profile that's a 5-1 profile. So she's all about detail. In fact, then we call in the other member of our team and she's a line one as well. So my team has got what I don't have. And it was really funny. I was talking to a projector about business and building a team and she's like, so I need a manifesting generator on my team.

49:17Emma Dunwoody:I'm like, no, like we would fry your brain. The way we work, like everything's done at the last minute, you know, like Taylor's always talking about how she needs time pressure and I hate time pressure, can't think straight. But the thing is, is that we now have this well-oiled machine that we're all really operating from our authenticity. So, you know, yeah, it feels great for us. We're three manifesting generators that other people would be like, that's intense. That's way too much. Like, how do you do all of that at once? Like, it's easy. Whereas let's say we have a projector a visionary, they're going to want, and maybe a manifesting generator, but their team is going to be built by people who are really good at being guided because that's their skill, you know, whereas especially for me and really deeper into my design, I'm, you know, my leadership style is alpha.

50:05Emma Dunwoody:So I sit outside of the group. I'm kind of like, I'm just going to go over here and do my thing. And I also have this team that are very initiative driven and they're quite fine. They don't need me to tell them what to do. I don't micromanage. Whereas there's a lot of other people if you're building a team, they'd freak out with the lack of hands-on that I am with them. I'm just like, you do you, boo. So again, the beauty of human design is that we can create a business or even relationships, understanding relationships. We can build it in a way that we're designed to be our most authentic self and the people around us can also be valued for their most authentic self.

50:41I really want to do this for my husband and my kids because I feel like I can optimize our relationship and how I parent my children. I know, what have you noticed? How have you been able to like apply this to parenting?

50:52Emma Dunwoody:Yeah. So like inside our community, we've done a lot around parenting because I've really, and I've got two manifesting generators, so they need so much freedom. And my youngest is a two-four like you and two-fours, they can't stand authority. They can't be told what to do. They want to do it their own way. They don't want to learn from teachers. They want to learn from their peers. And it set me free because I'm like, okay, I am not going to try and force you to obey the system. I'm going to instead empower you by following what lights you up. So for him, music's a really big deal for him. So every time he wanted to learn a new instrument, I would just be like, okay, cool.

51:33Emma Dunwoody:How do you want to learn it this time? And when he got a piano, he's like, I just want to get this app. and I got in this app before he even had the app in 24 hours he taught himself how to play the tune to Harry Potter now yep 100 % just by the sound of it and and didn't know how to play a piano so again knowing that line too just let him work out let his natural talent god now I'm thinking I need to do this so bad for my daughter because she has autism and she's so fucking smart. Exactly. And in my opinion, and it's just my opinion, but I have really good results around me. Like one of the big things for you with her to understand is that she's perfect.

52:15Emma Dunwoody:The system is broken. Totally. And when you understand that she has her own unique way of showing up and being her, I mean, maybe she's a projector. And the moment all this energy is like trying to push her forward, she's like, whoa, back up, you know? And then when you go deeper into what specifically her gates are, then you can really understand like what's going on. And I think ultimately when we're raising kids, well, in fact, in life, we see the world as we are, not as it is. So, you know, I was raised in a very strict family. This is what you do. This is where you go. and when I first started where my kids were quite little I'm like well you have to have rules and you have to abide by them and you have to and then over time especially once human design came into my life I'm like oh whoa like that's only teaching them or at least conditioning them to be someone that they're not so instead I'm going to step back and say okay well really getting to know my kids at a really deep level.

53:19Emma Dunwoody:And I remember my eldest, he probably was about 14. And I was talking to him about his incarnation cross. Now, incarnation cross is, you know, really linked to our genius, to our purpose. And it's not something that we do. It's this aura, so our energetic bubble that we walk around in all the time. It's always doing this work. And I remember explaining to him that he's the cross of the sleeping phoenix. And I was saying like, these are people that help people rise from the ashes. And, you know, having this big conversation, he just looked at me and he said, so mom, does that mean I need to learn how to rise from the ashes?

53:55Emma Dunwoody:And I was like, whoa, like, that's amazing. Yes, mate, you do. And this kid, I remember, and in fact, he must have been 12. He must have been even earlier. And he is a kid that, you know, he has kind of had anxiety. He's been around the edge of depression. He's, you know, been in these mental states and he's actually worked himself out of it. Yes, he's used me a lot as a resource. However, he's been very aware that there's this path about him learning how to be sovereign, to be aligned, to have healthy mental, you know, mental health. So now he's this kid that's just like all he absolutely magnetizes the, especially the the boys around him that are lost that, you know, he had this one friend, exactly right.

54:41Emma Dunwoody:I had this one friend when we first moved to Byron Bay, who his dad had committed suicide and Coop, you know, Coop didn't do anything to actively, you know, help him, but he was the person that this kid lent on and he would ask questions. He would talk about it. And he was like, wow, you're the only one that talks to me about my dad's suicide. Everyone else just avoids the topic. But because Coop was really aware of it and he'd done his own mental health journey, like he was just in his aligned energy, helping this kid feel better and move through it, you know, and that we're all doing that all the time.

55:18Emma Dunwoody:And when we actually raise our kids in alignment, then, you know, all of a sudden they trust themselves. And that's what we want. We want to love, trust and accept ourselves. So if we're raising our kids to do that, then we don't have to clean that. They don't have to clean up all the conditioning that we've had to clean up. So fascinating because I am so like, I don't, I feel like my husband are pretty strict. Like we're kind of like, yeah, like my son was like opening it. Like he's not allowed to play with the microwave because obviously he's putting metal things in there, you know? And so I think it's just very interesting.

55:54It'll be very interesting for us to, to find the balance between like how we parent them. Yeah. It was like this morning, he wouldn't stop and he wasn't listening. And so, you know, I picked him up and removed him. I said, we don't do that. You know, and then I got him on to something else, but then he went back to it and my husband was like, looked at him and he was like, and he just, you know, he turned around, and he got scared and he was like, enough, you know? And so he had this moment and I was like, like that to me, I was like, good. Like, there's a, there he's like understanding that authority is there but I wonder listen also he's a baby but I wonder also if if I if we knew like what he I wonder what like a different answer to that would be yeah and by the way him playing with the microwave is extremely dangerous because exactly

56:43Emma Dunwoody:and I was gonna say all kids need to understand that there's boundaries like that like they need to you know he would never raise his voice but we were like he put a metal container in there the other day and knows how to turn it on and I was like that would have been you know yeah 100 % We took the tape off. We tried to tape it. We put the things on. Yeah. Yeah. But it's going to be very, I'm so excited. I think it'd be great. Like imagine if you. To be in like a flow state with how I communicate with my kids. Yeah. And getting it. Like the other thing, one of the really big things to understand is how we best know what's correct for us.

57:13Emma Dunwoody:So the questions that we ask. So I know with my kids that yes, no questions. Questions that are chunked down. Big open-ended questions. They're not good for generators or manifesting generators. They're like, I don't know. but if you're a manifestor projector or reflector just give them a big open-ended question and let them meander through the answer and they'll find the answer so that's really helpful with our kids so we don't actually ask them questions that are confusing them before they even get to the answer you know or what is their with their profile so I knew with my eldest who has a line one that he was going to go internal because line ones go internal so you don't know what's going on so I taught him really young how to talk about how he feels whereas my second son is a line two so he you know how he feels because he expresses outwardly so it's not like he will naturally learn to express himself a little bit more I also know you know I I'm divorced so when we first separated both my boys are line fours and I knew okay the number one thing I need to take care of is maintaining a really healthy, strong relationship, individual relationship with my children because their safety comes from relationships.

58:22Emma Dunwoody:So it almost didn't matter what else fell apart as long as that relationship was maintained. And sure enough, that helped them navigate through. So when we start to understand these deeper details about children, then we do, we parent them really, really differently. Like if you've got a manifestor child, you know, a baby, you're like, wow, this baby is a rock star, like peaceful. It just, you know, it does what it like, it just sleeps and eats. And, but the manifestors are energetically independent. So the moment they get to toddlers and I have a dear friend of mine who has just had this and her little one is I think like coming up to sort of 18 months old.

59:02Emma Dunwoody:And all of a sudden she's like, oh, she's such a handful. Like she knows what she wants and she cannot be swayed. I'm like, Well, she's a manifester. Like they have to be left with as much freedom as possible. So what are the boundaries? What are the rules that are the non-negotiables? Because we all have to have non-negotiables. And then where can she have the freedom to be a manifester? And, you know, like once manifestors get to eight, nine, they know what they want. They know how to get it and they just work it out. So it really is like understanding your kids can help you so differently. I wish I knew this when I was dating.

59:37Emma Dunwoody:Yeah. Oh, my God. Yeah. yeah I was married to a projector and I gotta be honest I'm like okay well there was a lot learnt there and all good things you know no you know not being negative no judgment but I'm like I would rather not be with a projector again what is the biggest misconception about human design do you think I think the biggest misconception number one that it's woo you know like yeah oh it's just woo woo it's like oh I don't really follow astrology it's just it's actually like the science of differentiation. It's, you know, I use the gene keys as well. And I don't, you know, the gene keys work really well with human design.

1:00:17Emma Dunwoody:And like, this is our DNA. This is, this is so, it's on point. So once you start working with it, there's nothing woo about it at all. And I think that the next step of that is it's not telling you who you are. This isn't a behavioral personality profiling tool. This isn't who you've learned to be. This is who you truly are. So when you start operating from that place, life becomes so much easier and you actually fulfill your purpose. You know, your soul's like, okay, finally, we're actually being the person that we came here to be. And I think the thing that bugs me is there's so many people out there.

1:00:58Emma Dunwoody:There's so many memes that are like a projector is this and a reflector is that they're not you're not so if you follow all of these like if you're this type then this is who you are no because it seems like there's so many levels to this exactly there's two over two billion expressions of the human design chart so it's so so unique and I mean we can look at I often use Taylor Swift Swift as an example because so many people talk about projectors as, oh, well, you know, they don't have much energy. They can only work a couple of hours a day. And so many projectors come to me and go, well, I feel like that's a bit of a letdown.

1:01:36Emma Dunwoody:Like I've got a big mission in me. And what do you mean I have no energy to do that? And I'm like, dude, Taylor Swift, don't worry about it. So you can be an energy projector. You can have motors. If you have a defined route center, then you have energy. It's just not consistent. So I think that one of the big misconceptions is that people go as far as type and they're like, oh, like, I don't like that. I feel like you're just trying to put me in a box. And I would say, like, just keep experimenting, go deeper, go further, because you are actually going to find it's the biggest permission slip you've ever found just to be the most authentic version of yourself.

1:02:11So for somebody who is dying to get started, how do you, you know, obviously we're going to buy your book as like a guide to have with us and to dig deeper and deeper. And then how do we get, is this like we can find our chart online?

1:02:27Emma Dunwoody:Yeah, absolutely. You can just go to my website, emmendonwoody.com. Just put all your details in. We're going to give you our free chart. It's like a 16 page, right? It's a big sort of summary because it's so complicated of your design. And if you want to pay 22 bucks, then you can get, I think it's 70 pages or something like that. Amazing. That dives super deep. And we also will send you emails that send you to the right podcast episodes. So you can learn each part of your chart by the podcast, with the book. I mean, we've got so many free resources. Yeah, you just set this up for everybody. Exactly.

1:03:03Emma Dunwoody:Amazing. It's what I needed when I was lost and didn't have any money, you know? So we've set it up so anyone can basically get their design, experiment with it, change their life. Amazing. Thank you so much for coming out. It was so nice to meet you. You're so welcome. I love being here in person. Thank you.

1:03:25And that, ladies and gentlemen, concludes this week's episode of Everything is the Best. I hope you enjoyed it. Please rate, review, subscribe, all that stuff. Maybe leave a comment. Go ahead and follow me on Instagram at Pia Barancini, and I hope you have a fabulous, fabulous rest of your day. Love you. Ciao.