How to Change Your Life One Decision at a Time with Laura Day

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0:46Laura, thank you so much for coming on the podcast. It's so nice to meet you in person. So excited to get this time with you. I obviously am, you know, so deeply attracted to people who are intuitive. And we were just talking about my daughter and I feel like she absolutely is. You guys are just on different frequencies, you know. Or maybe more of the same frequency than you think. No, you two are on the same. The different frequencies are the rest of us. So how did you, at what age did you know that you had this gift? So I didn't really become aware of it as a gift because I come from an entire family where our unique neurology really isn't a gift.

1:26I mean, you had to remind my mother to put on clothes. I have two siblings who suicided and my mother. So I didn't expect my brain ever to be normal, but I didn't realize that it was useful until I was in my early 20s. And I saw something on television about these experiments that were being done with extrasensory perception. So things like viewing a remote location or going inside the human body with your mind for diagnosis. And I thought, well, doesn't everybody do that? It never occurred to me that the whole world wasn't exactly like I was, which probably explains why I was unpopular at the third grade lunch table.

2:11And so I became a test subject. And I kind of, because I was so young and really didn't have much of a life anyway at that point, got passed around. And, you know, researchers would say, oh, well, can you do this? Can you look into a machine and see why it's not working? Can you predict? How did you get connected to these people? I saw something on TV, like those nerds, they called them cable. I don't even know what they'd call them now. This cable nerd channel, because I'm kind of a science nerd. And I saw this and I called them up and I said, I can do what you're talking about. It's all, it's all.

2:45So this is my first book that's older than you are. Still look beautiful. It's like pages are shallow. And actually, I know you're married to an Italian. It's one of the two books that are in Italian. It's called The Sestadono in Italian. But you've been friends with Demi Moore for a really long time. Really longer than you've been alive, young lady. Unbelievable. Yes, a really long time. Before I had lip injections, people used to say I looked like her. You're so cute. Before kids. Before, I mean, like really, really long time. But anyway, so I called them up. And the stories in the foreword of that book, and this is many, many decades ago, and I learned about myself from people who were interested in this phenomenon, in extrasensory perception, what the media calls psychic skills.

3:32So I really came to it through science. Oh, it's so interesting because you think that so many people would say, well, science can prove that this is not real. You know, I think we separate those two things so much, right? But if you look online, actually, you see there's a lot of conclusive research that everybody is able to predict the future, to view a remote location, to have conversations with someone at a distance. These are common abilities. Sure, you have to have unique neurology to do it to the degree I do it. But that unique neurology really gets in the way of other parts of my life, like crossing a street safely or being at a dinner party or remembering who the vice president is.

4:14Please don't ask me. We don't want to talk about it anyway. Good, good, good. But one of the things I always say to people on my Instagram is that your pathology can become your potential. And really, thankfully, that's what happened to me because the same thing that made it impossible for me to go to medical school has allowed me to work with these billion-dollar companies and, you know, using what's really defective neurology by what the common judgment would be. Incredible. At what point after you discovered that this could be used for, you know, good, were you able to like pivot this into a career for yourself?

4:58Actually, one of these groups, I did it on the condition of anonymity because my father was a doctor at Cornell at New York Hospital in New York. My grandfather was still practicing in Kansas City, Missouri. My great-grandfather had been a surgeon. This was not something I wanted to be known for. It's like being known for body odor, you know? Well, so many people I know who are intuitives were practicing. Even the one that I work with all the time, her family, she's an adult mother. Her family still doesn't know that's what she does. Oh, yeah. Well, it was, I mean, it was hard after my first book came out.

5:30But what happened was because I was young and pretty, they broke a contract with me, one of these groups. And it wasn't a written contract. I just always did it on the condition of anonymity. They tried to exploit me and they televised one of the experiments with me in it. So I had this instant following. And I didn't really even have a name for what it was. I was doing, but I had, you know, all these people who were finding me, and this is before the internet, like this is the early eighties and saying, well, can you do this? Can you find oil? Can you predict what, what styles are going to be cut next season?

6:12Can you look, can you find a primary tumor? Like all of these different things. And I was so overwhelmed because I mean, one of the problems with my neurology that it helps me as an intuitive is that I don't really have normal boundaries. So I was so overwhelmed trying to do what everyone asked me, you know, in that very ADD, whatever the light, wherever the light's on, that's where I look, even if it's going to blind me. And that's really how I learned. I learned by people making demands. And I didn't, when my son was a baby, my marriage fell apart when I was pregnant. And we'd been together for 16 years, which was since I was 16 years old, two years after my mother committed suicide.

6:57So it's like, in a sense, I was still stuck in my childhood. And every morning when I woke up, I would predict currencies. This is before the euro. This is when there were lots of currencies. for this currency trader, just like as a good morning. My son at my breast, cup of coffee, the phone back when we had actual phones kind of stuck here. And for 10 minutes, I'd predict currencies. And - Like what level of accuracy? Obviously accurate enough because he, you know, one morning I said, listen, I can't do this anymore. I've really got to find a job. I'm no money. He has lots of money. And I've signed away, you know, like I'm in trouble.

7:41And he said, I'll pay you anything you want. You make me a lot of money. And that for free up until that.

7:47Laura Day:Well, I had no idea. And so I said, so I, he did. He was as good as his word. He paid me a salary, life insurance, health insurance, which ultimately screwed me my divorce because it showed I could make a living, but whatever. And that was really the start. And I like working with companies. I mean, I teach civilians how to do this and how to do it in a group. So they're really able to exchange with people who've been studying this for 40 years. Because again, I'm 67. So the first one of these boot camps I did was 40 years ago and they stay together. But I like working for companies because if you're wrong, they fire you.

8:28Whereas people are impressionable. People have a way of trying to make the information fit. And intuition should be verifiable immediately. And you verify the future by making a timeline from the past. So it should be accurate and it should also be actionable. I mean, if it's not something you can do something about, better just enjoy your food. You know, if you're going to die in 10 minutes, just enjoy those 10 minutes. But companies are great because they, I've worked with - I want to talk about who you've worked with because like, Well, I would never reveal. No, but we can say it's been car company.

9:05Oh, yeah. I mean, as a young woman, I worked with designers, which I loved because it was so much fun. And I had no idea how to do it. Well, actually, I was a white shirt, navy blue blazer. Okay. Yeah, I didn't have much creativity. But you were consulting with them to predict what fashion trends and what items would sell best? Some fashion trends. but more like if a delivery would arrive on time, because if a delivery, if you cut something or if a pattern would be cut, so if it would be ordered, they'd ask me in ways where it wasn't just a yes, no question because you want more than two variables or if a shipment would get there in time or if a retailer would pay, always a problem.

9:53Of course. And who else was doing it and how to make it stand out uniquely? Because it's interesting. There's a kind of telepathy in a lot of industries where without cheating, everyone kind of does the same thing at the same time. And it's weird. That is so fucking true. Pardon me. But like we see this in fashion all the time where it's like we'll make something and then someone else. And I'm like, we all energetically were on the same plane and got to the same thing. So my husband experiences that too. So I'd be the outlier. So I'd be the person saying, you know what? Make it tie on the side instead of the back.

10:29and we'd be the only style. Or I love obviously working with venture capital because there's so many companies that there's no memory involved. And a lot of the time, the investors don't even know what the companies are doing. So if a company is well-funded and if there's competition or if an initial public offering is worth the money to back, I like things that are facts or I worked a lot with new drugs and that I do for free. I started actually with Dr. Larry Waits, who was an AIDS researcher, again, back in the maybe early 80s, I guess it was, late 80s, who was amazing. I mean, he was the brilliance.

11:12And I was, I don't know anything about what I'm talking about, but he was, I remember him especially. But we would, he'd give me a drug. They were always things like K95 and then a patient sampling. And I'd say, well, it'll have renal effects in this amount. I love working with medicine. And that's something that I do pro bono. I really love, you know, working on medicine, especially for underserved populations, like at the time gay men were definitely nobody cared, you know, except for these wonderful researchers. But, you know, intuition is an idiot's gift. You pose it a question or you give it a target and it comes up with information, whether the target is where oil is on a map.

12:04And I really like things where they can be proven or disproven because, you know, the only difference between psychic and psychotic, you know, you're seeing and hearing things that nobody else is, is that your information is right. Otherwise, it's just a form of mental illness and you need better meds. That's incredible. Wow. I've never even thought about it that way, but it's true. It's really incredible.

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15:22you know i was really fortunate as traumatic as my childhood was and it was i had an abusive father a manic depressive suicidal you essentially raised yourself and siblings too right yes but as traumatic as that was, I was also surrounded by physicians. So I had some good psychiatry. I also was pushed academically and in a socioeconomic group, even though there wasn't food, we definitely were in good schools. So I mean, there were fortunate things. Most intuitives, intuition doesn't kind of show you the light. Good sociopaths are intuitive. It just gives you data. and I think that that's really important and what I focus on with my students more than with my companies is you know yeah you can understand it you can learn about it you can read about it but what's really important is to do it correctly because that makes a change in your life and life is hard.

16:25So you've been doing this for 40 years like how is your how is your relationship with your own intuition changed over the course of these 40 years? Like, and what do you do to practice yourself to, to, you know, like harness your own intuition and its accuracy? So you are your, I am my own worst intuitive. You are your own worst intuitive because you avoid what you avoid. You're afraid of what you're neurotically afraid of. You're not, I'm not great at reading myself every once in a while I am, but really I'm so lucky. I have my bootcampers. I have 45 years of students. And when I have a question, I ask them.

17:04Oh, wow. You know, so I read in community. I don't really read myself. Certain things I can read for my husband, like business I can read for my husband. Health, I can't because for me, if he has a scratch, he's going to bleed to death. You know, I'm histrionic that way. What I do to practice is really more practicing having a healthy life. you know, what I call taking care of the mammal, getting enough sleep, making sure I have interactions, you know, making sure that I don't just live in that non-local disembodied sphere. As you were remarking how long Demi and I have known each other, because like, this is, you know, both of us were really young back then.

17:51And she wrote the foreword to my first book. But she used to - This was a big deal at the time, huh? Yeah, because back then, you know, now we use intuition and people go to psychics. And now I was talking about it. Practical intuition, doing it in a verifiable, applicable way was a huge deal. And, you know, the combination of Oprah and Demi, of course, made it, I don't think it would have been the success it was, frankly, without their help. Demi is now a New York Times bestselling author, FYI. Inside Out, her memoir. But I totally forgot my train of thought, ADD in action. In the same way. I want to talk about, so how many books total have you come out with?

18:33Seven. And so we have three here. We have Practical Intuition. The Circle. The Circle. And The Prism is your latest book. Yes. And I'd love to talk about, you have such a beautiful, very intense childhood story, you know? And so I love that this book really also, you can see it on the cover, but it talks about really healing your past to like move into your future. And I think that's such a, so many people say so stuck in these childhood traumas and, and live their life from like a victim mentality, which is just, I really just feel like cuts off any sort of like your abundance abilities. And so what are some of the, you know, it's seven steps, but what are some of the steps in the prism that you, you know, that you're most proud of to tell people that people can practice on a daily basis to kind of, you know, live in abundance in a great mindset and get more in tune with their own intuition so they could just live a freer life?

19:27Oh, well, there are a couple I love. I mean, I, you know, I remind myself because I mean, we all, you know, hurt hurts, but I remind myself that, that if I make the injury, the hero, I'm not the hero of my own story. I love that. And I want to be the hero of my own story. I love that. You know, and it's hard not to ruminate. I think that one of the most powerful pieces of the prism is the fourth ego center, your heart, the work on telepathy, because your heart beats a hundred thousand times a day and it gives off the strongest electrical signal in your body, not your brain, your heart. And most people have had a conscious experience of telepathy, of knowing and even experiencing what someone else was thinking or doing over a distance.

20:23Or even deja vu is really telepathy. You meet an employer, you don't realize you've been negotiating even before you met the person. So training telepathy is so important. And the trick with telepathy is, A, you can't lie because it's from your subconscious to your conscious to someone else's conscious to their subconscious. I mean, it's a weird path. So one of the things, and it's a really easy process, and the prism is about forget understanding it. Yeah, the understanding's in the chapters, but get what you want first. It'll help you have the energy to understand the rest is what's your wish just put it in your hand like what's what's your wish and as if you were holding your wish in your hand bring it toward your heart and do it as slowly or quickly as you want because what happens is your subconscious but also the world's subconscious circuitry changes as you're doing it you're actually doing a healing but then have the experience of physically connecting with whomever or whatever you want to connect with and rest in it and do it over and over and over again.

21:39I mean, if you think of how often you have neurotic thoughts, you want to do this more than you have those neurotic thoughts. And you can do it without, you know, we're talking, you can do it as a gesture. People don't even know what you're doing. And then you can do the same kind of thing because it's really interesting. It's when you think that everything you do really is a ritual. It expresses something profound and connects. And every place you are is an altar. This chair is an altar. Everything. When you realize that everything has that kind of sacredness, that kind of impact, you choose carefully what you do.

22:18And one of the ways to do this same act, because you really are creating a different telepathy, is to put your hand on your heart, really, or on your chest to be a little less psychic-y, and really feel just the connection, your hand and your chest. People go all, we never do that. Never. It's such an odd thing that we are not, we're taught to study and to make money and to do all these things, and we're never taught to just take a moment to connect with our own heart. The thing that's pumping blood through our body all day. And sending out lots of information. But if you can feel that connection, then you extend that connection to whatever the new job, the love you haven't met yet, or whomever you want to connect with.

23:09And you notice when you meet that connection. Not notice here. The hardest thing to train my students out of is it's not here. It's all five of your senses. Intuition is not a six sense. Neither is your impact on the world around you. It comes through your five senses. So bring that feeling of connection, that actual feeling, and meet whomever or whatever with that feeling. And what's interesting is in that place of meeting, you'll also get information about how to shift. But I think there's too much of this looking inward. You find the same thing looking inward. Act outward. And I remember the question that I forgot, which is what do I do to develop my intuition?

23:56My intuition's all over the place. It's very developed, but it doesn't always work for me in the world. Just Google me. You'll see that. We all have our subconscious boundaries. We attract. We call the same monsters. And so what I do is I do one little thing differently that's not from me, but that's out of my experience that I find. Like you're as an example. Like I'm going to get that dress and I'm going to wear it. It is not the kind of thing I would normally wear. I'm normally pretty tailored, but I'm going to wear that dress and I bet I meet a whole new world just from wearing something different.

24:39And I actually wrote an Oprah, an article for Oprah magazine on the first time I wore red. And it totally changed everything in my life because red noticers noticed me and approached me more aggressively. And I then had to use different parts of myself that I'd never used. It was in one evening. I still have those relationships. That's interesting that you said that you had to use different parts of yourself. That's really cool. Because usually people, you know, you were staying right here and then you got to challenge yourself a little bit. And I look pretty precise. And usually people approached me very precisely.

25:15No, people came up and jostled around and invited me to go out later. I mean, excuse me, this party ends at midnight and I'm going to go out later, but I did. There was a whole different me that I didn't even know was there from just wearing. I actually gave the dress away after my dearest friend who's an agent said, how could you give that dress away? I was like, but it was red. And I was like, it changed your life. You know, it was funny. So when you do something different, you really can get your wish before making the deep inner change. And actually, it usually happens that way. You fall in love.

25:57You thought you were ready, but then you can't drag the baggage through the door of the relationship. So you deal with it. And everyone spends all this time looking for their trauma. Believe me, your trauma is not hiding. Your trauma is right there. First guest at the party. Look for what you want. Yeah.

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