Her "Baby Daddy" Destroyed Her Life

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1:17Okay, servers, depending on the area. And Buffalo Wild Wings is honestly kind of expensive. You can be making some money. What would you say you bring in on average? Because I know a lot of that is tip-based. Let's think average on a monthly basis. Well, I haven't really gotten a good consistent average because I haven't worked there like that long. How long have you been working there? It's been like a couple months, probably like two. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. So what did you bring in last month? Probably about like$1 ,200. Yeah. No. Yeah, I know. I mean, maybe, but total? You're talking aftertips and wages?

1:52Yes. What's the minimum wage in Oklahoma? It's$2.13 an hour. No, no, no. What's the minimum wage? $7.25. $7.25. So if you don't make that after. Yeah. After tips then. Okay. So, okay. Wow. Yes. I mean, I just started. You live alone? Well, I live with my dad. Oh, okay. I live with my family right now. I just moved to Yukon. From where? From Weatherford. It's about an hour away. Why'd you move? um well i had a couple situations going on with my kid's dad so he showed up at my house and he wanted in he was being on the door and the windows and stuff and it really freaked me out we had been broken up we've been broken up for a year now so like that was only a couple months ago yeah and he has a new girlfriend and everything and so i figured the best way for me to be able to move on was to kind of like get away and so I moved to UConn because my dad lives there.

2:56I know you have two kids currently. Yes. Are they both his as well? Yes they are. So you moved away what's the custody agreement? We actually don't currently have one I am in the process of working on it we kind of both are I don't want to talk too much about it because he's kind of like keeping the kids from me right now so you don't have them no it's really actually it's heartbreaking it's terrible yes that is heartbreaking i am so sorry yeah um i've been begging to see them and he won't let me see them and you can cut this part of the conversation off at any time just let us know but like how has that conversation and relationship gone where it's just like okay he's keeping them from you it's our relationship has been awful um basically ever since i've known him uh like i said i was 18 when we met and he was 38 he already has three kids before me three before you and he has another one on the way with someone else that's being born today oh my goodness yeah so um really like my mental health has been really messed up because of this because i put everything into him you know i was 18 we met i'm only 21 i had both my kids before i turned 21 and um he's keeping them from me right now because he's scared if he lets me see them or take them that i won't bring them back but i've never done that to him you met him in 18 you did not meet him younger than that No, it was 18.

4:28Yeah. That's a lot of people do get, like, think it's sketchy. It kind of is sketchy. I didn't meet him until I was 18. But when you do the whole, like, time, because our daughter and everything. Well, the age gap. I'm just thinking, like, grooming and stuff like that. I mean, technically, yes, you're 18. You're an adult. Stuff like that. I'm just. Honestly, personally, now that I've been through it, I see it more. and like i wish i could have like seen it then but i see it now and it's really like it's been a struggle every day like this is a it's bad so he was banging on the okay so yeah so there's some fear and you moved home with pop.

5:19Okay. Yeah. You're far from your kids now. Were you seeing them very often? Before that, I had them all the time. Actually, I had them every day. Before this, so when we first broke up, he actually got arrested for domestic assault and battery in presence of a minor. Against you or someone else? Against me. While I was pregnant with my son. We had just found out I was pregnant with my son. and um he got arrested for that and we broke up and um we were broken up for a while and we got back together for like a week we broke up again and they revoked his bond because he well he wanted to talk to me I'd left his house and he wanted to talk to me so he asked me to talk to him he didn't want to talk to anybody like in front of everybody inside so he asked me to talk outside it was raining it was cold i was pregnant i was 18 weeks pregnant at this point so i sat in the car the door was open no shoes on my phone was inside and he drove off with the car door open and i fell off on the highway what the fuck yeah it's bad wow pregnant too okay so i mean i think okay first of all i there is absolutely no defense not even close yeah i know not even close when we're going into the court situation obviously we're probably going to hear another side of the story just because i i don't want to be someone who's just like you know i am not the court yeah but even just let's just assume just for the sake you're the only person here that everything you said is 100 the truth and there was nothing else at all and there's no excuse for any of that crap anyway violence not even close wow sounds like uh you should probably have those kids and it sounds like that's probably the direction that it'll go but wow that's i'm so sorry you've been through all that well it's so much worse that's just the beginning this last year has been the worst year of my life 100 wow i um after that happened you're only 21 yeah no it's awful i could only imagine like like sometimes i think there are probably people that are double my age that have not even been through i haven't this this my kid's dad has put me through like because i mean after that happened his bond got revoked and we only had the one car he told me it was a christmas present before that all happened and he left and he took it was it in his name or yours um he never even changed the tag into anybody's name so then it when he left i couldn't do anything about it well i walked everywhere that winter while i was pregnant with my daughter okay so like it's yeah okay again this is assuming that everything you said is 100 true and correct and it will be corroborated as so in the court of law yeah i'm gonna need you in that situation then to definitely get custody and then we're gonna need you to probably do some sort of restraining order and then there was one at one point it did get dismissed though because the way that it works is like oh sorry the way that it works is like he's from gansas city so that's where he ran off to when they revoked his bond well they couldn't serve him as papers and until they serve the papers you have to continue to go and i didn't have a car and it was like 20 minutes away so you have to go every two weeks and see and so it ended up getting lapsed over and dismissed.

8:57I didn't get a car until February this year. That might be something we're looking at again, though. If there is violence and, you know, constant communication reaching out. Sorry, this is not how I expected this to kick off. So you said you bring in$1 ,200 last month? Was that the number,$1 ,200? Yeah, but that's not normal for me. Like, before this, I was a manager at an Arby's, and I made double that. is there an arby's in the area um there is and i have been asked to go over there it's just i've been i was feeling out serving at buffalo wild wings you know sure because i just started all i'm saying is if we're building a life and then the kids come back 1200 it's gonna be hard to live off of even in a low cost of living area that's gonna be well i've definitely 13, 14 a year.

9:48I've definitely been making more lately, like, but it's just really inconsistent. I've been thinking about doing something else, obviously, because the area that I live in is way more expensive than where I'm even from. Sure. But what I was going to also say is child support. We should probably seek that as well. Again, assuming everything and anything that you've said is correct, we're only hearing from you. but it doesn't matter either way if any kind of abuse or anything did happen. There's no excuse for that regardless. I want to make that crystal clear. But just assuming anything and everything you've said is the truth, yeah, we need to do restraining order.

10:27We probably need to have some child support and stuff like that because this is going to be hard for you to live off of with two kids. Now, did you all plan on having children? No. Okay. Wow. So, I mean, I guess that kind of probably explains why you're in debt, right? Okay, so we didn't have a lot of money. There's just been craziness in life. Well, I opened the credit cards originally to, like, help with my credit. And then I got pregnant with my son, and my kid's dad didn't help at all. Like, he disappeared. He left the state. he like I still had my daughter and he wouldn't he didn't buy anything and like so one of one of those credit cards the whole day is just to buy baby things for my son so that he had everything he needed before he was born and so like I'm in this hole and I feel like I'm drowning but it was all just to like make sure that I had like what they needed you know and they always they've never gone without like even now like my numbers are messed up with my kids like how were how were your uh your parents in this situation um they're a lot more supportive than they used to be like because in the beginning there was a lot of he says he say she say but then my kid's dad he left and he quit helping and it was very obvious like he didn't get my kids he didn't get my daughter or anything for Christmas, even though he was here.

12:05This dude sounds like a complete piece of shit. It's not, yeah, he's not great. But I was, like, I was so, like, we had created a family. He needs to be an adult. I mean, what, he's, like, 40-something right now? 41, yeah. Be a fucking adult. My goodness, this man. Oh, yeah, I go through it every day. Like, I beat myself up because I should have known. No, don't beat yourself up. You were 18 and this dude was basically 40. Yeah. I was just, you couldn't even drink yet. So I don't know. People always ask me, what high yield savings account do I use for my own money? Some of you know by now it's SoFi.

12:48I love them. It's great for my checking account needs. It's great for my high yield savings account needs. And right now I'm getting 4.5 % interest on my monies. I love that rate on my monies. So if you want to get a great rate like that on your monies, just check out the link in the description below. I have a paid affiliate link there. You can get bonuses all the way up to$250, and I took advantage of that, and you should too. I don't know. That pisses me off. So I get why you went into the credit card debt. Obviously, your goal now is to get out of the credit card debt. Get out of the credit card debt.

13:23The car you have, is it paid off? It is paid off. Good. I bought it with my taxes this year. Oh, how much was it? It was$3 ,500. Okay, that's definitely very, very cheap for any kind of used car these days. Miles on it, and what's the car in make? It has like$167 ,000 miles on it. What's the car? It's a Nissan, a 2009 Nissan Sentra. Okay. Okay, so we definitely need to get you an emergency fund. We need to get you out of the credit card debt because I want you to have these kids, but when you have these kids, we need to... I need to have a plan. That is a big concern of mine because I always find a way to make ends meet.

14:08The court's also going to have a hard time putting the care of kids in someone who can't financially support the kids, if I'm not mistaken. Well, before this happened, like I said, when I lived in Weatherford, I had a really good paying job and I did pay everything by myself. Like I paid all my rent, my bills. I bought everything for the kids. I never asked my kids dad for anything. I still, even now, like even though he won't let me see them, I still buy everything for them. I do Walmart pickup orders. So we're definitely going to get you. We need to. Yeah. Yeah. We definitely, again, just hearing your side, but assuming, assuming everything you said is correct, we need to get you those kids.

14:50And then we need to get child support from that piece of. $1 ,104 is owed on here. This is an Amazon card. $350 payment. That's actually good. $40 is the minimum. So we're making progress on that. I assume not having rent is helping. Yes. Dramatically with that. Very good. The car you drove down here is that car? Yes. Oi. Oi, oi. Okay. Okay. $30 of interest is being stolen from me on a monthly basis, but you're not making any purchases. I haven't made any since I realized how bad it was. When was that? A few months ago, probably. I haven't made any purchases on any of these cards, unless it was like a recurring by accident.

15:37Yeah, I was going to say, there is one recurring that comes up in another card. But not on purpose. I haven't been using them because it's been stressing me out. Think about it. Yeah, I'm sure. $145 of fees this year. so we probably had missed payments and well was that during the transitionary period or yeah well it was because i didn't have like i was making sure everything else is taken care of like my kids making sure everything for my kids was good that they had everything and then with moving i didn't have anywhere to put all my kids stuff so i had to get a storage unit and And$206 of interest.

16:17At a 27.49 % interest right on this card. So, yeah, it's definitely something we'll want to pay. Your credit score is 467? Actually, no. Since I paid a lot of these, it's gone up. It's 521 now. It's gone up drastically pretty fast because I paid quite a bit. Yeah, because you went from essentially what is zero, honestly, when it comes to credit scores. Well, it was good when I opened them, but you had the missed payments. Yeah, it definitely got me. Pretty good. Those will be on your score for a while, on your credit for a while. So Discover It, we have, yeah, so another pretty big balance for your income situation,$1 ,348.20.

17:00Are you on any government support with this income? I get food stamps. Yeah, I was going to say, because, again, you're making, like, if this continues, like$13 ,000 a year, essentially like that. Well, yeah, last year I think I made like 12. How? You said you had a better Arby's job. Well, because I did take off like quite a bit while I was pregnant with my son. Yeah, that was just last year. Yeah, so. While you were pregnant? Okay. Well, not while I was pregnant, but, well, kind of, yeah, because there was a job transition. Yeah. I was working with my kid's dad, and that didn't work, obviously.

17:39So nothing works with that guy. No, we do not work. I bet he doesn't even work. $36 of interest accrued on this. There was a recurring purchase,$4, but you made a$300 minimum monthly payment. That's good. I am going to critique how you're going about this instead of making decent chunks of payments towards everything across the board, which is what we've seen so far with the two cards. I want you to check one at a time. This is a real good story about Bronx and his dad, Ryan. Real United Airlines customers. We were returning home and one of the Flight attendants asked Bronx if he wanted to see the flight deck and meet Captain Andrew.

18:16I got to sit in the driver's seat. I grew up in an aviation family, and seeing Bronx kind of reminded me of myself when I was that age. That's Andrew, a real United pilot. These small interactions can shape a kid's future. It felt like I was the captain. Allowing my son to see the flight deck will stick with us forever. That's how good leads the way. So we can just fully get rid of that minimum monthly payment, fully get rid of the interest being accrued on that singular thing, and we'll get there at the end but again i am happy that you've at least clearly awoken to this is not beneficial to us yeah

18:5357 dollar minimum monthly payment with 36 dollars of interest being accrued some dental thing four dollars oh yeah i didn't have any other card and i actually got my wisdom teeth removed and there was like a little fee for something i can't remember and that was the only card i had on me it was just four bucks yeah okay it's like a co-payment i don't know are you on like the uh health care exchanges so you have insurance i have probably care medicaid okay yeah yeah okay okay yeah that makes that makes sense yeah fees this year again probably missing payments 121 dollars we're probably missing a lot of payments for a bit.

19:38And 84 bucks of interest. I can tell you exactly. I've missed two consecutive amongst all cards. Oh, four. Yeah. Okay. I have questions about just the getting in, especially to the second pregnancy and stuff like that, but that's just this is not appropriate for my position. So I'm just yeah. like we had an oops baby the first time yeah so it's like why were we not taking precautions well i did want to get on birth control but he honestly told me he was scared it was gonna make me fat so i've never been on birth control before i met him i'm just talking to him He should just wrap it up. Yeah. He doesn't like to do that, obviously.

20:36He has six kids in at 41. $164 of fees on this one this year so far and$41 of interest. $7 of interest agreed this last month. He did make a good payment and$110 is what you brought it down to with the$40 minimum monthly payment. $110, good. See, what I would have done in hindsight is just fully made sure this card was completely done before paying extra on the other ones. but this one's at 24.9%. Now, Chime, we have a credit builder. Yes. For you, I mean, honestly, I think what a lot of people in your position do, if you're going to use like a credit card, debit card, it's like, you know, I have mentioned them a million times with a Fiz card.

21:15It acts like a debit card, but it helps build credit. It's just immediately paid off like it's a debit card, essentially, but it helps build credit. So that might be something worth considering versus something like this, which you can fall into different fees and interests and stuff on here that I just really don't like. A lot of AT &T stuff on here. Then we're taking care of insurances and then multiple Amazon purchases. So you're just using this to build credit, I'm assuming? Oh, yes. I remember. So I'm also in college full time, so I had to buy books. You are? Yes. I'm a very busy girl. How's college being paid for?

21:56I got it all covered by financial aid. Well, hold on. Via Pell Grants? Pell Grants. Okay, so not student loans. Financial aid. Okay. Basically, it's because I'm poor. Right. And I have kids. How much school have you finished so far? I'm actually in my first semester. First semester community college? It's a state college, but it's a very cheap one for the area. Okay. Well, I mean, it's being paid for, so I don't care. But what are you trying to study? I'm looking into business management. Lovely. Fantastic. Fully, fully supportive. That's great. For my age, I have, like, after my daughter was born, when she was two months old, I started managing at Burger King.

22:50So I was 19. I had a two-month-old, and I was the shift manager. And after a couple months of shift managing, I became an assistant, and I did that for a year. So I really, like, enjoyed doing that and supervising and doing the paperwork side of things. So I figured I'd go a little bit. But do you not like working at the fast food places? I actually have gotten to the point where I don't mind it that much. Like, for a while, I used to hate it and dread it, But now I honestly don't mind going. I'm curious. Why not just work that job then? I understand wanting to get a degree. But if you're already getting those jobs and making an okay living off of it, why not just like go down that path?

23:31Essentially. Well, taking the next four years. Well, because they're not necessarily like the greatest paying jobs. Like as a business management, I would want to do more like in like a bigger company. Sure. It also depends where because we've had fast food managers on the show making 60, 80 thousand dollars a year. Well, in my current, like, when I was a shift manager at Arby's, like, the most I've made as a manager so far in my area was$12.50. It was a smaller, lower-income area, though, right? Well, yes, it was a college town. It was a little bit more expensive for the area, but still extremely cheap compared to, like, definitely here.

24:09Yeah, and then we just job shop in those situations as well. Yeah. When you build up the resume. But, no, I'm totally for this college, and it's paid for. It's good. just trying to see what you're trying to do and what you like to do. So there's no balance on that, right? On what? On that Chime. Oh, no. So the way that it works... So you have three debts. Yeah, so the way that the Chime one works is it goes straight out of your account. But you have three debts, though, correct? Amazon Discover it and then the Destiny card? There's one more. Okay, I don't have that. What is it? It's a Victoria's Secret card.

24:48Now we didn't take that one out to survive No we did not We took that one out to make ourselves Feel better Not against I'm not against trying to feel better Not against that Against going into debt for it though Because now you're trying to climb out of it What's owed on that? What's the balance down? Like$248 Okay$248? Yes Minimum monthly payment? $40 yeah okay now this is a cash app you're using a kind of like a checking account um spending an account well so the way that i used to do it at arby's and i kind of have it set up at buffalo is i have like a percentage to my cash app especially since my kid's dad has my kids like i just like for it to automatically be on there asking him money for the things he needs for my kids.

25:40Okay. So I do 15 % on my Cash App. But as a server, that doesn't really work because I don't make anything in my regular checks. But before, when I was making real checks, it was a bigger chunk. Well, okay, so there's 70 cents in here. What are all these Jiffy trips? Be honest, because these are like$14,$13. You can't 100 % tell on my end if we're doing a cheap gas fill-up or if we're going and we're f***ing around with some taquitos. I'm not going to lie. It's probably a mixture of both. Okay. So, taquitos. A KFC tale in the pursuit of flavor. The holidays were tricky for the Colonel. He loved people, but he also loved peace and quiet.

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27:59We're just not doing it. Because your future matters. Your future matters. Your kids' futures matter. We're not f***ing around right now. I know. I've been trying to figure out how to get myself out. It's been so chaotic. Like everything in my life. We are not going to use excuses to f*** around. We're not. Chaos is chaos and chaos sucks. It does. But your future matters. I mean and it just is as simple as that and we're choosing your future over around even in the midst of a storm yeah I feel like a lot of the reason that I do the mindless spending is because like I'm trying to make myself feel better because my situation is really not great no absolutely again and like I said I sympathize with it like truly but because I care about your future it's just like what we need to find are better better coping mechanisms now on the medicaid and everything do you have therapy um i've been looking into therapy i actually we're no longer looking into it we're doing it well i did i have started the appointment um i know they or they um diagnosed me with ptsd from my relationship with my kid's dad yeah i bet yeah um but since i moved there they were transferring me to a different facility.

29:24So it takes a little bit of a process. I haven't heard from them yet. So in all the just chaos and storm and history and all that crap, through that we worked with the therapist to find better coping mechanisms and things like that instead of digging yourself deeper in a hole or preventing you from coming out of the hole as quick as you could be, which will take a big stressor off of you. So, yes, I think as far anyone and everyone should do therapy regardless of their mental health situation, but as far as someone who is like primed for it, yes. We need to make sure that you get the mental health that you need to get through the situation and then get out of it and have an overall improved life.

30:00So definitely take advantage of that and figure, find a therapist that works best for you, fits in the plans that you have. You know, you might have to do a couple of therapists to figure out the one that fits for you. Some people try one, doesn't work, and then they stop. That's not how it operates. You got to find the right one for you. So definitely, definitely do that. That is going to be a major prescription for you from me, therapy. chime this is a checking account but we ended with negative negative three dollars and 45 cents yeah i'm sorry this i get that i get that it's making you feel better but we're not doing we're not i get that i get that and i'll say again that i sympathize with it but we are not choosing a red bull at an oil change over actually having a positive balance in our checking account we're not choosing that yeah so amazon the brahms store yeah taquitos and now dave i haven't seen dave in a long time dave is like a if i'm not mistaken isn't like a cash advance yeah okay we can i'm sorry we just that is i haven't done one in a long time it kind of just caught up to me well it kind of just caught up to me from a while ago.

31:19Yeah. We can't take advantage of that because in general, you're not taking advantage of it. They're very much taking advantage of you. That's how that works. Okay. So that's just, I get it in this situation and wanting, and you know, it's that extra thing. But especially when money's going out that we shouldn't do, like in total with the taquitos and eating out, it was 11 % of your overall spending. so when it comes to that and getting our getting some advances on our money you didn't have to if we weren't doing the spending and extra unknown shopping like Amazon and stuff we don't know what that went to but that's like extra 3.2 % so the extra spending and I get why it's a cope why so we get it but just looking forward, we're not borrowing from Dave to do that more.

32:19We're just not. McDonald's, taquitos from Walmart, because it's only$2.70, certainly not a necessity probably. Dave again, spot me tip? I don't know. I don't know. Is that like a... Okay, so if they spot you money, like... Who? Chime. Oh, okay. So if Chime's spotting you money and there's this extra fees with it, just stop. We're not using it. Use something like the Fizz card, my dude. I get wanting to have good credit, but you are not taking Spotify. I see you're on the student plan. Even still,$5.99. It's your income. Anything that – if we can stop anything, we can listen to ads. It's okay. That's not going to be a bank breaker.

33:11It's just the overall discipline and everything around it. We're changing our habits and we're not, we're not, we're not around anymore. So that's all your accounts. Is there more? No, that's it actually. Yeah. Those two spending accounts, not much money came in. This is not survivable. Yeah. I, you're going to the school full time. Yes. Good. What I might need to do, and this is going to be hard. How much you can, when you get the children back, which you should, if, again, everything we said was correct, how much help is your dad going to be to lean on? Well, they actually just had a baby, my dad and his girlfriend.

33:58Everyone is just popping out, little. Yeah, so their son is, my brother, their son is actually six weeks younger than my son. Well, are they wall sense? They're already in the situation with an infant or are they going to be able to help with yours? Hablas Espanol. Spreys to Deutsch. Condénosque. If you used Babbel, you would. Babbel's conversation-based techniques teaches you useful words and phrases to get you speaking quickly about the things you actually talk about in the real world. With lessons handcrafted by over 200 language experts and voiced by real native speakers, Babbel is like having a private tutor in your pocket.

34:32Start speaking with Babbel today. Get up to 55 % off your Babbel subscription right now at babbel.com slash spotify spelled b-a-b-b-e-l dot com slash spotify rules and restrictions may apply um i don't know honestly like i planned on moving out on my own eventually like in my own place yeah i'll figure out a doubt yeah okay so this was my thought so and then i'll then tell me if it's possible it's like okay we're going to school during the day we're doing a little bit of homework after that but what we're doing kind of in into the night a little we're gonna make sure you can sleep and be healthy but into the night a little maybe picking up an assistant manager position at yeah a place so we can bring in more money i have thought about getting a second job but when you're working who's gonna take care of the kids will your dad that is the concern right now okay we need to have that conversation has that conversation been had Well they have DHS assisted daycare But Well it's good But their dad Hasn't been taking them Because he doesn't want me to pick them up But once you're in Oh my gosh are they just like being That sounds like Do they go outside Is this a safe situation Well obviously from the history It sounds like probably not But like, they're not just being locked inside, are they?

36:00Well, they do get out. It's just like he won't take them to daycare because he knows I can pick them up. And he's scared if I pick them up, I won't bring them back. And you wouldn't. And you shouldn't. It's been bad, though. Like, I mean, just the other day, he pushed me off the steps at his house and took the kids from me. Dude, if for some reason you're watching this, you're a piece of shit. And I really don't like you. I don't really hate people. That's not really an emotion, I feel. But I really don't like this guy. Well, I mean, I was like three months pregnant with our son when I found out he had another baby on the way.