Why 95% of People Live Like Victims—And How to Reclaim Your Life | Ep 262 with Dr. Stoyana Natseva Founder of Happy Life Academy

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0:15So Dr. Stojana, you've helped over 100 ,000 people change their lives. I'm sure there's one, two, three different ones that were very shocking where the transformation really stood out to you. Anything that you can share? Yes, I have seen many miracles. But two stories always touch my heart. The first is Tatiana Markova. She had multiple sclerosis. She was very sick. And her family relationships were broken. Step by step, she worked with me. And she changed her mind, her emotions, her habits. Now she is in remission. She also bought her own house, which was her dream. Today she is healthy, she is rich, close to her family and living with hope again.

1:24And the second is Tsetza Dimitrova. Doctors gave her only one month to live because of cancer. She was full of sadness and very heavy trauma. She worked to heal her emotions and connect with her soul. now years later she is alive she is happy she is healthy and she became a holistic therapist in our academy happy life academy because I have nine MBA programs she now inspires other people to heal and to live with love these stories show shows one truth. When you change your mind and your emotions and your heart, you can change your life. It's amazing how powerful the mind can be. And sometimes we think like our mind is in control of itself versus we are in control of our mind.

2:37I know I've suffered from that myself. What do you think is one false belief about happiness that makes people unhappy? The false belief is I will be happy when I get more. More money, more success, more life, more love but happiness is not in the future happiness is now happiness is not when happiness is now it starts inside when you are in peace with yourself life outside come back do you think that maybe social media can create some of this negativity around unhappiness because it's very easy to compare yourself to others like you said about this one thing tell me about what you see with that and and how do you think you know how do you see society being able to maybe not fall into that trap.

3:47Society is like a matrix. Nobody wants you to be richer than others. You know, it's society beliefs. It comes from our family, from the society, from our family stories. I've spoken to hundreds of entrepreneurs and one of the biggest pain points they share is generating consistent quality leads. Most founders spend hours chasing down prospects, juggling outreach, and still end up with missed opportunities. That's why I recommend today's sponsor, PipeDrive, the number one CRM tool for small to medium businesses. Top sales teams are using PipeDrive to close an average of three times more leads per month.

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5:35It's a skill. And we have to see our limited beliefs and support ourselves with new beliefs which support us. If you could give maybe two or three suggestions on how happiness can be learned. So obviously not a whole program or everything that somebody needs to know, but maybe just to get maybe one or two things to even just get started on the path to learning how to be happy. Because I do believe that people, when you get into this trap of unhappiness in that moment, you really don't think there's any way to come out of it. But it sounds like that's not true. Thank you for this question. Yes, with practice of gratitude, we can change our minds.

6:31We can be grateful for the good things in our life, but we can be grateful for the lessons in our life. With gratitude, with meditation, with love, we can grow happiness every day. And I have seen many people learn happiness after pain and after trauma. It is not a gift from the birth. It's also a choice and a practice every day. Wow. I mean, powerful. I want to dedicate myself to practicing those things because it's like priorities, right? This is essential because people think about what I have. It's a limiting belief. I don't have money. I don't have enough love. I'm not enough. Everybody's enough.

7:33Why do you think then that maybe we don't always prioritize? At least I don't think. I don't think a lot of people prioritize happiness. They prioritize, like you're saying, all these other things, thinking it leads into happiness. But what you're saying is that happiness, that you don't need all that, that you can gain happiness, you can learn without having a million dollars in your bank account, for example. When you focus your mind on emptiness, you attract more emptiness. When you focus your mind, your emotions, abundance, you attract more of this. And I think that it is very high cost for this mindset of emptiness.

8:27And we have to focus on the gratitude, on the abundance, the love, and the amazing worth which we live. You know, it got me thinking I really need to reflect upon myself and make some changes. What do you think is the hidden cost of an unhappy life that most people don't even realize, but then it becomes too late? You know, 95 % of people live like a victim. And I believe that everyone is creator of life. and we can understand the amazing power of the creator in ourselves. The hidden cause is very high. Unhappiness makes bodies sick. When we focus in emptiness, in I'm not enough, this destroys our families our abundance our self esteem it seals years of our lives of our life and many people do not see this until it's too late like my father he dies some 65 years and he do not see the beauty of this world that is why we must choose happiness prioritize ourselves today not tomorrow what is one habit that you find when people change they start to really see some results and maybe it could even be something you know a habit that you do in your life number one gratitude and decision i make decision i am creator of my life i am not a victim of circumstances i am creator and i choose with gratitude to live with love and to prioritize myself and be happy i love that you smile a lot i think you know it's funny how like when you smile it really feels better right it's it's got to create you can't be like angry and sad i feel like it's smiling at the same time but something is so simple like that you're very right because it's a neurobiology you can't smile it's a face smile uh it's a yes but uh the body reflect when you're smiling you can't be angry i think that it's a very nice point Please smile.

11:29Because these flows on your body, on your mind, in your mind. So for you, if you could put happiness into one sentence, what would it be? I'm not a victim of the circumstances. I am a creator of my own life. And I choose happiness. I choose abundance. I choose love and gratitude. This has been a great conversation. You mentioned earlier about practicing gratitude, but I'm not exactly sure how to do that. Can you share more about how, like how does one actually practice gratitude? We can be grateful for everything, for the sun, for the food, for my health, for my family. And when you focus on gratitude, I'm grateful.

12:27Then you attract more from this. And when you focus in emptiness, I'm not enough, I have no money, you attract. It's a law of attraction. You choose your, I am, your creator of the life. And we create our life with our thoughts, with our emotions and with our actions. Because gratitude is not the thought, it's emotion, it's action. I'm very grateful for this conversation, to meeting you. And we can focus on our past with gratitude. Gratitude. Because it's a lesson. Lesson. When you see your past, not like a trauma, like a lesson, then you can change your focus of mind to gratitude, to abundance.

13:38Now I'm a person with too many lessons. I'm a creator. I focus my mind on the lessons, on the abundance of lessons, and I am very grateful for everything, every moment of my life. It's a key of change. When you change your mind, then you change your emotions, then you change your actions, you change your life. I'm going to start doing that. I really like that outlook of trauma is a lesson, not a trauma. Yes, because the soul, the soul, choose lessons. I like to choose lessons. Not our experiences in our life are lessons, not traumas that supposedly have to stay with us forever. And then negatively manifest into every relationship and us and then never go away.

14:41and I have experiences, I have family members that have experiences. I think if we took it more of a lesson, what we learned, then we can let go, forgive, and move forward. But this has been great. Dr. Stoyana, how can people find out more information about what you're doing? They can find everything on happylifeacademy.eu. Everything about the gratitude, my MBA programs, books, you can learn everything in this site. Well, this has been an amazing conversation. I've had some great personal shifts that I'm going to make starting five minutes after we stop here. But I think everyone needs to find happiness in a world that is easily full of things that could drag you down.

15:35It's great to have a breath. It's a breath of fresh air to have somebody like yourself talking about how we can be happy and be more positive and live a life of happiness and all the great things that come along with that. So Dr. Stoyana, thank you for impacting the world and dedicated to this and joining us on Founder's Story. Thank you very much. And the happiness is a choice. Choose wisely. Thank you.