5 Ways to Breathe That Ease Anxiety, Induce Calm & Boost Performance | Jessica Dibb

0:00I've been having fun starting off these conversations with five true false statements and we will unpack these along the way in the conversation later. First, how you breathe can be as important to your health as what you eat or how much you exercise. True. Because breathing is a natural thing, it's impossible to breathe in a way that's not good for you. False. Just a few minutes of intentional breathing can shift your state of mind more than a cup of coffee or a glass of wine. 150 % true. Ah, that's a strong one. All right. The right kind of breathing might help you feel better in the moment, but it won't have any kind of a lasting benefit.

0:42Absolutely false. Okay. And our last one, breathing exercises alone are all you need to make big changes in your health and life. A qualified false. Okay. We'll circle back around to that and unpack these in our conversation. so what if breathing in a very particular way could shift your state more quickly and powerfully than coffee or wine want to power up just breathe this way want to chill out breathe that way want to drop into deep focus and unlock creativity yes there's a breath for that too but it's even bigger than that i mean what if the greatest medicine for anxiety stress and disconnection wasn't a pill or practice or procedure that need to be invented or taken, but something you're already doing, but you're not even aware of, at least most of the time.

1:33What if the simple act of breathing in a very particular way could radically affect your physical and mental health and even potentially bridge divides between people that seem impossible to cross? My guest today, Jessica Dibb, has spent decades studying and teaching the transformative power of what she calls conscious breathing. As the founder of Inspiration Consciousness School and author of Breathwork and Psychotherapy, Clinical Applications for Healing and Transformation, she's discovered something remarkable. Breathing may be the only human experience that truly transcends all boundaries of culture, belief, and background.

2:10She's witnessed profound shifts in people from all walks of life, from medical students to members of Congress to Naval Academy and Midshipmen, all through breathing. What unfolded in our conversation was extraordinary. Jessica revealed these five distinct approaches to breathwork, each unlocking different dimensions of human potential and well-being. And when she shared the story of what happened in a room full of leaders from vastly different backgrounds who simply breathe together, well, it offered hope for healing even our deepest societal divisions. So excited to share this conversation with you.

2:44I'm Jonathan Fields, and this is Good Life Project.

2:52Before we dive into really breathing, conscious breathing, so many of the things that you explore and share, curious just what your path to breathing was. Thank you for that lovely question, because I think every person's path is critical. And I just want to say, Jonathan, before I begin, that it's really a joy and an honor to be on here with you, who is someone who has dedicated so much energy to creating things, this podcast that brings so much enlightenment and educational and elevating content for people on the planet. So I just really want to tell you how grateful I feel to be with you. Thank you for that.

3:41The earliest memories I have in my life, I remember looking at my parents and feeling how each of them had so much love inside of them. And they had so much creative potential. And they were amazing people. And yet somehow I could feel that there was fear that kept them from expressing that love and that creativity 150%. And I just remember feeling like I wanted to be a force, a source of somehow helping that to change. And then I saw it in myself. I saw it in my siblings when they came along after me. And so by the time I was five, I was really looking for kind of a key, you know, to unlock that fear.

4:37and I remember when my mother took me to the Danish Royal Ballet and under the stars, it was an outdoor in New Hampshire, in the wilds of New Hampshire, and I thought it was the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen. And I just thought, that's the answer, beauty. So I went into ballet thinking that the beauty of ballet could really change the world and give everybody this access to this love and creativity. I went to New York. I danced at Lincoln Center. I was very privileged to dance with Rudolf Nureyev and Margot Fontaine and people from the Bolshoi. But of course, by the time I was about 14, I just realized this is not a universal medicine.

5:22And that was when it really hit me that what I was looking for was a universal medicine. So I left the traditional school system and I was part of a founding your own high school movement. And I was studying a lot of different things. And then I got interested in yoga. I moved into a yoga ashram for four years. We were doing intensive breathing practices every day for hours and hours. I knew that breathing could make a difference. I knew that I could get energized. I could help myself go to sleep. I could change my body temperature. I could focus. I could calm. All of these things could happen.

6:08So I thought I'll go to medical school and I'll get a degree. And then that'll validate. I loved science. I loved school. And I really thought I love medicine. So I thought, well, I'll get this degree and then I'll be able to teach people how to do these things with this validation. However, I had had a son at that point, and he was very small, and I really felt torn about going to medical school because I just really knew that raising him was one of the most important vocations of my life. In the middle of all of this, I'd been going to a holistic healing center, and somebody had suggested that I do breath work with the founder of the clinic, who was also a breath worker.

6:54And I will never forget in my first session. Now, breath work, by the way, is a spectrum of breathing practices. So the kind of breath work I'm about to describe is at the one end of the spectrum. I call them human potential breath work practices, where you just go really deep to the core of your sensations, your feelings, your awarenesses. You access muscle memory and cellular memory. It opens up expanded states of consciousness. But I will never forget after that first session, I opened my eyes and I just thought, why isn't the whole world doing this? And I realized at that point that conscious breathing was a universal medicine that everyone could do, that it transcends culture, belief system, religion, politics, you know, anything we could come up with.

7:49And I just became dedicated to what would need to happen with breathwork in order for it to be accessible as it really in its true nature, which is it's the medicine of the people. It belongs to everyone. So where do you go from there, though? Because you have this, I would almost call it a mystical experience in the context of breathwork done in a very traditional setting where it comes through a lineage that's been passed on oftentimes through generations and generations. And it's often also wrapped in larger cultural teachings or community, which is not mainstream for most people, which is not something where people are like, oh, this is a quote, legitimate approach to managing all sorts of different aspects of who I am from health to mindset, things like that.

8:40So how do you start to bridge the gap between first having this experience and being affected by it and then deepening your knowledge and then finding ways to eventually turn around and share this with other people in a way where they may still raise an eyebrow, But they're like, okay, like I'm open to this and I can understand how this might be quote real. You know, I was just, and it was like a mystical experience by the way, that time, because I'd been doing breathing practices that had created all kinds of state changes and trait changes. You know, I had practiced them long enough that some of them had created trait changes.

9:20But this was definitely like an opening into an expanded awareness, the plane of possibility, as Dr. Dan Siegel calls it. And I, so I really felt committed to do exactly what you just described. Like, how can this become accessible through culture, through, you know, different ways of looking at life, different political orientations, religious orientations, atheist orientations? I am telling you, Jonathan, I just feel that we are all uniquely an expression of the creative life force, if you will, or the source. And yet there is something that we are unified about. We all arise from something together.

10:09And some people call that the divine and God, and other people might call it the force, and other people might call it biochemistry. But whatever it is, it's that thing that makes us be able to imagine a bigger life than just what is this body doing. It has to do with connection. And I just became very committed to having an approach to breath work that had the science, the philosophy, innovation, ancient understandings, new emergent understandings, poetry, I mean, health, all of it. I just really want, and the arts, I just wanted all of that. So if I would have been a doctor, as a pre-med major, I was majoring in cell biology.

10:58I loved cell biology, and that would have been what I would have gone into. So the science part of it was always very fascinating to me. And I felt that a lot of the breath work at the time was so mystically oriented or expanded states of consciousness oriented that people were just, it was helping them feel greater possibilities than how they were currently living their life. But the language around it felt to me non-specific, if you will, or just it felt like it was creating its own culture, so to speak. And that wasn't what I wanted to do. I wanted to create language that would allow each person to approach this and find their own place of homeostasis with it, find their own place of harmony with it.

11:50Because, like I said, breathwork is actually a spectrum of breathing practices, from simple regulating, relaxing, cortisol regulating, to awareness practices, which might be called mindfulness, of course, by many people, to therapeutic interventions that have to do with addressing respiratory distress or temperature in the body or energy levels or inability to focus. and also to character building. Like how do we develop greater empathy for somebody by breathing? How do we develop greater compassion? How do we become more empowered? Like these are other parts. And then there's this breath work that's like, how do you go to the core of what you are and release the gifts that you are?

12:40So, you know, I can only say that I was interested in the science. I was interested in the philosophical underpinnings and finding out if there were indeed philosophers that had talked about the potency of breath in terms of a foundational way of relating to life. And there are. The poetry that comes down through the ages through many different lineages. There's one poem by Rumi in particular that almost speaks to this very thing that you and I are talking about, about how does it not get associated with a particular culture? Just this very beautiful poem by Rumi as translated by Coleman Barks, where I'm now going to paraphrase, but it essentially says, not Sufi, not Hindu, not Buddhist, not Christian, not Jewish, not any religion.

13:33I am not from down in the ground, nor am I from up in the sky. I am not from any origin story. My place is placeless, a trace of the traceless. I have seen the two worlds as one, and that one called to and know as first, last, outer, inner, breath-breathing human being. So here is one of the greatest mystics of all time, according to AI and the internet, the most beloved poet on the planet universally. And he says in the end, it's not about any culture or any religion or any origin story, that the thing that we're all looking for is happening right here in this breath-breathing human being. So I would say that I also, you know, really cultivated in myself a way of listening to people that I was talking to or teaching or, you know, guiding in some way and really hearing what mattered to them and how I could frame the potential of this medicine that lives in their own chest, you know, to work for them.

14:55You know, that's how a lot of this has culminated in the book that I was asked to write by Norton, Breathwork and Psychotherapy, Clinical Applications for healing and transformation. It was really a convergence of these many different streams of understanding about conscious breathing and breath work. You lightly reference different, quote, use cases for breath, but you get more granular, actually. And you actually describe five different groups breathing. I'd love to walk through those in a bit more detail, starting with relaxation and resetting. Take me into what this category is about. Well, these are all of the most simple breathing exercises that, as you said in the beginning of our conversation, three breaths can make a difference.

15:47I mean, really one breath begins state changes in the brain, but three breaths and you've already got something different going on if they're conscious. Now, we understand that breathing, depending on your orientation to it is an interesting scientific phenomenon or it's a gift from you know the beloved so to speak and whatever it is it's the power of it the potential that lies in it can be accessed both by bringing awareness to it and by inviting it to deepen or change or do some kind of adaptation that can produce a particular result. So once we just bring that awareness to it and do even three deep breaths, generally in that category, the kind of breathing we're talking about is a slightly deeper or slightly longer or slight or both inhalation, followed by a relaxed letting go exhalation, which could again be longer, or it could just be more full, or something like that.

16:59Now, along with that, you might make a noise or a sound, which might help you release on the exhale a little bit more, you might move, you might have an inner visualization with it. But essentially, it's just most people are over adrenalized, most, especially in today's culture. Most of us, we've got way too much cortisol going on way too much of the time, not situation appropriate anymore, because of all the input that we're getting. And so what three mindful, well, three reset breathing will do is bring up parasympathetic functioning more and reduce the sympathetic dominance so that there's a greater balance and people are going to feel more relaxed.

17:47And just for clarification, sympathetic is what we often know as the fight or flight state or now. It's actually been expanded, I think, to four different things, fight, freeze, or fawn. And think, yeah. Right. And parasympathetic is sort of like the rest and digest when everything kind of calms down and settles. you go into more of a relaxed, restorative state. So you're saying that by intentionally changing your breath, you have a direct response on your nervous system, either activating or down-regulating or up-regulating it. Is that right? Absolutely right, Jonathan. And the thing about most people think, and again, I think it's because we live in an over-adrenalized, too high of cortisol way of living for most of us, but most people think that parasympathetic dominance is sort of the goal.

18:35And that's not true. These are reciprocal things. And you and I, we want to be able to optimize our lives by, let's say an emergency happened right now, and I needed to respond to something, I'd want to be able to harmoniously rise to the occasion without getting panicky. And yet, when that was over, why waste our time continuing to be at that level. Let's just flow right back into presence with whatever's happening in the moment. So those rest and rather relaxation and regulation exercises, breathing exercises can be really good for restoring the balance. And that's where we really want to be.

19:17And we'll be right back after a word from our sponsors. Take me into the other major groups. So the next group is awareness. And, you know, of course, the mindfulness movement and Jon Kabat-Zinn and all the Buddhist traditions that have really brought awareness to this have done us a great service because this is one of the two most powerful things that any of us can bring to conscious breathing is awareness, mindfulness with the breathing. As soon as we do that, rather than our breathing just being stimulated from the brainstem, and by the way, the very interesting part of the brainstem that Dr.

20:04Jack Feldman at UCLA discovered, it's a rhythm generator that initiates breathing, what she called the pre-Botzinger complex is in there. And so that will happen whether we're aware of our breathing or not. But as soon as you begin to breathe consciously, you activate the limbic brain because some part of you is deciding that there's a value to breathing deeper. And that's going to get your emotional body, your limbic brain going. but you're also stimulating the neocortex because you've made a decision and you're paying attention to the breathing so now you've got a state in which you've got way more neural global neural coherence than you did before you've got way more resources to respond to life so all of the awareness practices with breathing that you can do whether you don't change your breathing at all but you're just being aware of it, or whether when you change it, that invites, which often happens, longer and deeper inhalations and exhalations, or whether there's a particular practice that, for instance, many of Vipassana or Buddhist lineages like to do, like loving-kindness meditation.

21:21So they'll bring awareness to breathing, but they'll also invite that maybe with each exhale, your heart relaxes and opens to all sentient beings, for instance. Or the HeartMath Institute does these kinds of mindfulness, you know, loving kindness kind of heart exercises. So anything like that, or just watching the breath and its different permutations, that will do it too. And actually, Dr. Jack Feldman at UCLA has a not yet published study, which I refer to in the book. We've had a lot of talk about it. I call it mindfully meditating mice because he helped these mice. He wanted to find out what is the source of mindfulness.

22:04And by having these mice breathe at a certain pace for a certain amount of time each day, and then the control group would still react with a lot of fear to an external situation, whereas the mice that had been practicing breathing and mindfulness in a way didn't have nearly the same fear response. So we do know that the core of mindfulness really comes down to the breathing, whether we know it or not. Okay, all I can think about here is how do you train mice to breathe differently? No, he kind of put them on respirator, you know, like little respirator. So it's sort of like controlled their breath from the outside in.

22:47Yeah, they were controlled. Got it, got it, got it. I can't wait for that study to be published. I'm picturing investigators sitting there talking to them. I said, okay, I need you to slow down a little bit here. So this would be an approach to breathing that's really about deepening your state of presence or awareness or mindfulness, sort of like really putting you in a highly attentive and aware state, which could be good for all sorts of different reasons in your life. Yes. And you've brought up a very important part of this whole thing is the potent medicine, nutrient, and teacher in a sense of conscious breathing for having us be able to meet each moment of our lives, which all of our lives are going to have ups and downs, ecstatic and happy times and times of loss and disappointment.

23:40And there's going to be times of fear. It could be personal. It could be collective, as it is for many people right now, and times of great hope and vision and expanded states of consciousness. And what is the one thing that each of us can do to learn to meet each of those and dance with them, you know, as Romy would say. And that really is going to be our ability to breathe with any experience that we're having, to breathe optimally, to breathe deeply, to not hold our breath, to not let our breath get into a panicky state, but to feel our capacity to breathe. It's almost like this is the choice, but it lived experience that there's something that's always here regardless of what's happening out there.

24:31And what's always here has tremendous resources to it. Got it. So we've talked about three different categories of breathing, two, okay. So the third one I just call therapeutic. It's all your practices where you change, for instance, the ratio of breathing. Like you can breathe in and breathe out twice the amount of time, or you can breathe in and breathe out half the amount of time. You can breathe through your mouth, you can breathe through your nose, you can breathe in as one long segment, or you can breathe several segments. Like for instance, one example would be the breathing technique that was developed by a research group that was Spiegel and Huberman and a bunch of others at Stanford, where they compared different kinds of breathing practices, box breathing, which is in for four or in for whatever number you do, hold for the same amount, out for the same amount, and then hold for the same amount.

25:34They compared that and cyclical hyperventilation, which is where you breathe a little quicker than normal to get your energy up. And then you take a long, deep breath and hold it for a second and then let go. Very effective, all of these techniques. The box breathing has been made famous as a Navy SEAL intervention. But what they discovered was that if you're working to reduce anxiety, the most effective breathing was you breathe in a slow inhale, and when you finish breathing in, you take in another little sip of inhale. So it would be like, and then you sigh it out. So you breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth, but it's two segments in and then one segment out.

26:24And five minutes a day for 30 days created trait changes of lowered anxiety and much to their surprise elevated mood. So that would be an example of a therapeutic intervention or like, for instance, a lot of people know about coherent breathing or sometimes called resonance breathing, which is tends to be for most people somewhere between five and six breaths per minute, although it can range from three to seven or three to eight. And you can find sort of your personal resonance, or a technique that I learned, I have a lot of these kinds of practices in the book where you can interrupt an asthma attack, for instance, or you can develop by practicing this respiratory wellness kind of breathing every day, you can strengthen your lungs and reduce the possibility that they will go into spasm.

27:23And then energy, sleep, any of these kinds of things I would put in this category. But it's basically you're looking at your ratio of breathing. You're looking at the depth of your breathing. You're looking at the pace of your breathing. Are you doing like a breath of fire thing, like, which is for energy? Or are you breathing slowly mouth, nose, and other things that you can adjust as well? So this category then, if I could tell me if I'm getting this right, is if you are looking to create a fairly specific or well-defined change in state and maybe over time, like something more sustained, whether it's high anxiety to low anxiety, low energy to high energy, whatever the specific change is you want.

28:06These would be fairly detailed ratios of breathings or approaches to breathing designed to create, to bring on a very specific change in state. Absolutely. The fourth category, I call it development just because it's about human development and all of those desirable qualities that we might like to have compassion, kindness, empathy, focus, strength, empowerment, discernment, wisdom. I mean, just patience, equanimity, all of these kinds of things. So then you can do these very specific kinds of breathing adaptations, sometimes connected with movement, sometimes connected with visualizations, sometimes with various orientations that are specifically designed to have you have a somatically experience the energy, you know, of love, the energy of compassion.

29:09And what happens is the whatever orientation you're evoking, the breathing will help stabilize it as an embodied neurological and cellular experience. And it's not just, well, let me think about compassion and then breathe deeply. It's that various people will discover that by, let's say, breathing a certain way, for instance, if they have the sensation of breathing slowly and deeply into the heart and feeling their focus concentrate on the heart, and then on the exhale, the feeling of letting the chest soften and melt and just flow out into the world. This helps them have a visceral experience of what compassion feels like.

29:59I remember there's one technique that Jon Kabat-Zinn teaches in his book, Wherever You Go, There You Are. mountain breathing, and that helps with a sense of empowerment. And I have developed like probably, you know, 50 breathing practices that awaken these different qualities within us as a visceral experience. And they use movement somewhat, but it's mostly about orienting your awareness in different parts of your body with different visualizations while you're doing different kinds of breathing. And that creates muscle memory that you can then carry around with you in your everyday life. And when you find yourself getting irritated, for instance, at somebody who's taking too long in line, but some part of you realizes, well, this person has a cane and I really, you know, there's a particular way you can breathe then that will actually evoke patience.

31:03It's nuanced difference. We're not really talking about a very specific change in state, but we are talking about a specific change. And how would you even describe it? An affect in, if you're breathing in a way designed to, for example, cultivate a higher level of compassion in the moment or a higher level of forgiveness or love. Yeah, I don't know exactly how you describe it, but it does feel in a nuanced way different than the more therapeutic approach that we were just talking about. Oh, absolutely. I mean, some people would call it a higher state of consciousness. I would say it's the development of a set of virtues, you know, an ability.

31:43If we go back to the Greek philosophers and how they would have talked about it, it's helping us. First of all, one thing that breathwork does in general that is so powerful is it creates an equality between somatic intelligence and energy, emotional intelligence and energy, and cognitive intelligence and energy. And then that leads to what some people might call spiritual or energetic intelligence and energy. And I think that's a game changer. I mean, so many people identify only through concept of who they are or what life is. And then because our educational system, of course, this is just my personal opinion, but I would just offer doesn't work for everybody's learning style.

32:36You know, there's an emphasis on a particular learning. I think a lot of people have shame about they don't even know that they have like reservoirs of wisdom somatically and emotionally and breathwork just starts to create an equivalence of all of that. So you don't have to even you can connect these virtues to these particular ways of breathing. You can even invoke those virtues and just see how your breathing changes. But one thing that's going to happen for sure is that you're going to start to have visceral experiences and emotional connection and appreciation of these capacities, as well as an understanding of why they're so beneficial to develop.

33:25and I've really just seen so many people, it sounds so simplistic, Jonathan, but once they've been doing this work for even just a few weeks, a few days, a few months, it's like they can interrupt patterns of dissociation, of separation, feeling separated from parts of themselves, feeling separated from others, of lack of empathy, of lack of focus. They can interrupt those patterns literally by just deciding to breathe deeply because now all of that has gotten embedded in the muscle memory of breathing. I love this notion of being able to breathe in a certain way to evoke a particular virtue and to sort of like lead from that place or have it cultivate in you.

34:14It's just really cool. It's really cool. Yeah. Talk to me about this fifth category. Yeah. The fifth category has so many names. I mean, I'm calling it human potential breathwork. And some of the listeners may know this kind of breathwork and names like integrative breathing, therapeutic breathing, holotropic breathwork, conscious connected breathing, liberation breathing, rebirthing. These are your techniques. They all basically are inviting the same thing. It's a deep breathing where some of the schools say that you need to breathe faster. And of course, that does produce results, no doubt about it.

35:02And I've done that. I did that in my early days deeply. Right now, I'm convinced that all someone needs to do is breathe more deeply than normal and with awareness and be willing to say yes, if you will, to the increased or amplified life force that they will feel viscerally, which begins to open up other kinds of amplifications too, which I'll talk about in a minute. But this is a breathing where you're relaxing your whole body. You're generally lying down. You're amplifying physical energy. You're amplifying your desire to know thyself. You know, you understand from the beginning because hopefully your breath worker has been, is really well trained and they've laid out for you the kinds of things that can happen.

35:55so you know that you're going to open up your own intrapsychic territory. You're going to get in touch with emotions, some of which you know you have and some of which have been buried or repressed. You're going to open up sensations in the body, some of which you've known and some of which you haven't even been aware of. Like maybe you carry chronic tension in your jaw and you don't become aware of that until you're in such a sensitized state that now you realize, and you might even realize at that point, I've had that since I was five years old, and I felt like I couldn't scream in the house.

36:30And so these things begin to happen wherever our life force is not flowing freely, physically, emotionally, cognitively, or spiritually, these things start making themselves more apparent to us. Because when we're breathing deeper with the body totally relaxed, we are going to feel an expanded state of consciousness usually, or at least an expanded state of presence. We are going to be breathing, I would say, underneath our usual conditioning. So, you know, we won't be able to have, like, we're not going to be able to impress anybody, promote an image of who we are. We're just there. And it's just the breathing and us.

37:22And our most natural, authentic self is what's going to reveal itself. And now this kind of breath work, you really do most of the time, especially when you begin, you really need a breath worker to be with you, a therapist, breath worker who is able, understands this kind of intra-psychic territory, knows how to deal with, you know, memories that you may have from earlier in your life. Even, you know, if I'm just honest about it, We know that prenatal psychology is real now and birth memories that have come through different psychological mediums. Well, breathwork can open that up very readily.

38:01Deep hopes and dreams and fears and all of that kind of stuff just starts to make itself known. We have access to it. One of the beautiful things about this kind of way of doing it is that you're in total control of your breath. So you can continue or stop at any time. And you have this amazing capacity to learn that you can remain present with whatever is arising in you, whatever condition arises in you. You're building the capacity to be present with it. You're building the capacity to respond to it with wisdom. You're building the capacity to learn that you can heal things that were, you know, wounds, for instance, that might be shame or fear or anger that's been withheld or grief that hasn't been felt.

38:57You're learning that there's a kind of intrinsic life force and joy that we all move to. I mean, we're all born wired to breathe and wired to love. We will love our parents, even when they don't know how to love us very well. We will love them. So that's at the base of all of us, that wiring to love and that wiring to breathe. And when we breathe deeply with this relaxed body and we're open to this kind of experience happening, in a way we move to be pre-verbal or before the conditioning of our defenses and our adaptations in order to survive or in order to feel loved or in order to feel safe.

39:50we're starting to just get in touch with that intrinsic life force. And so it can turn out to be, I mean, it's a very enlivening experience and ultimately, I would dare say, very ecstatic. And so that's what that whole realm of breathwork is about. Yeah, I mean, it sounds like the way you describe these five different categories, groups of breathwork, that if you over time develop even sort of a basic command over each one of these, that you can use them in combinations or sometimes in sequence to create an experience that is what you need when you need it. So I imagine if you were trying to process some things and you were working with a breath worker and they introduced you to this more human potential, like deep as you described, it comes through all different names.

40:41I've often heard holotropic, where it takes you into a state where all these things arise in you that you weren't even conscious of or aware of. And then as you described, unlike other, whether it's pharmaceutical or a psychedelics where you're kind of like, you're on the ride for like however long it takes, like with the breath work, you can immediately just decide, okay, I need to actually choose, pull a different tool out of my toolbox right now. I'm feeling these things that are coming up. It's frightening, but also maybe powerful and important. And now maybe I need to dip back into the therapeutic category to help me be with these things that are coming up, the anxiety that's coming up in a way that allows me to feel like I'm going to be okay here and not just run away from it, but actually stay with it.

41:31But I have now a different tool that I'm bringing from the breathing toolbox. And then as you're moving through that, pull from something else. Now I want to drop back into more of a place of self-compassion. So now maybe I'm going to drop back into more of the human development practices where I'm trying to elicit these virtues, in fact, towards myself. Sounds like you can, once you start to have some fluency with the different types of tools and the categories, that you can kind of move through experiences in a really powerful therapeutic way by moving through and choosing different breathing modalities to help you navigate experiences.

42:08Does that all make sense? Jonathan, you really totally have it. And for me, I just feel like this is the breathwork of the future. When I really think about, I think breathworkers are essential workers. I have a kind of dream that there would be a breathworker in every emergency room, in hospitals, in every school, universities, government buildings, you know. I mean, really, I don't think it's a bombastic dream. I just think that breathwork, the awareness of breathwork is now on the rise. And it's going to be critical as we professionalize the field that breathworkers are trained so that they can be disaster relief.

42:52You know, sometimes there's no medicine in a place that's, you know, gotten a disaster. The one thing we'll have is breathing. We might not have water and food for a little bit. And even one of my breath workers once went that I trained, had the privilege to train, Gretchen Steidl, went down to Haiti after that big hurricane that happened. And there were villages that were cut off and people were literally so anxious they couldn't sleep for a week. They hadn't slept. And she just did 20 minutes of breathing with them, coherent breathing, which is the five to six breaths a minute, which would be in the third category.

43:30And children that hadn't slept for a week fell asleep. Adults did too. So, yes, you totally have it right. And I do think that breath workers of the future should know every category. They should have mastery in at least one of them. And people ultimately should be empowered to do sessions where they can go very, very deep, especially with the human potential. You've heard people say that most wounding happens in relationship, and so it will get healed in relationship. So there's something very potent about having someone who understands these territories, is not afraid of them, is even knows that they're openings to greater evolution in that person.

44:16And also is there to be a mirror, you know, to do the traditional psychotherapeutic kind of mirroring that is so powerful, where a human being feels seen and heard and gotten in these different transcendent states and these different wounds. And ultimately, a breath worker should be able to empower that person to be able to do exactly what you're talking about, both in sessions, formal sessions, but in their life, too, to be able to utilize these different groupings of breath work to really create a pretty cool life, to be honest with you, yeah. And we'll be right back after a word from our sponsors.

45:01One other thing that I'm curious about is the way you're describing this practice and the way that I've experienced it and also researched it in the past. There's an interesting tension here, right? Because a lot of people will hear this conversation. Some people will be interested in leaning in. Some people will be rolling their eyes and being like, oh, really, please? And then we have this tension where, on the one hand, you can now point to developed research, to science that shows when we breathe in a particular way, it affects our physiology in this particular way. And we can literally point to science that says this affects our physiology and even our psychology in very specific ways.

45:42So we've got science we can point to. And at the same time, there is a mystical side to this. And we love to be reductionist. We love to take practices like this and say, okay, I need to understand what is the science. Let me break it down and be able to point to something concrete and research-backed and physiological that says, this is what's making me feel like this. and just like other practices where there is a science that you can point to, but at the same time, there's a piece of this that also feels like it's beyond quantification, that it feels like it's important not to write off also in the name of trying to have a quote, rational scientific basis for this.

46:30That's so beautiful what you just brought. Yeah, it's not just important, as you're saying not to write it off. It's essential that we don't write it off. I mean, psychology. So first of all, every breath, when you talk about the science, it's now irrefutable that breathing is a psychophysiological phenomenon. Every breath has a psychological component that affects the physiology, and every breath has a physiological component that affects our psychology. So that's beyond dispute now. So think about how empowering that could be for an individual. Like I can, I don't even need someone else to have an effect on the way that I'm feeling physically and emotionally.

47:17The truth is when I said that we're all wired, we're born wired to breathe and wired to love. I've had the privilege, which Jonathan, and I really do, it's sort of like, it's so sacred to me, I almost want to close my eyes to even talk about it. I've had the privilege to be at a lot of birthbeds, and a lot of death beds. And in both of those places, it's so clear. Everybody knows when that baby is born, that that baby deserves the world. You know, that baby deserves love. And people rise to their best self, and they do have a spiritual experience. It's not about believing in a divinity or not.

48:06It's just the felt sense of something that matters in life more than, you know, what we're going to wear for clothing that day or whatever. And the same thing at a deathbed, except I think in many ways, it's actually more potent. Because my experience, and I worked in a hospital as a nursing assistant when I was getting ready to go to medical school. And I worked in intensive care units. So I've had people die in my arms. Suddenly, I have also had the privilege of being the designated family member who's always there when a person has a terminal illness, or my father died at the age of 99 very recently.

48:50And then I've had a lot of students and clients that have asked me to be there when either they were passing or somebody else was passing that they love. And it's very clear to me, it's clear to them in that moment that all that really mattered in the end was, did I love enough? Did I give the love that was inside of me? And now, you know, that love, like, your love, you, Jonathan Fields, it's so clear, is manifesting in this incredible podcast and these books and other projects that you've created for people. That's coming from love. You know, so love's progeny, if you will, is creativity. It's how we express this love to others.

49:35But this felt sense that you can feel at the first breath and the last breath of who we really are and what really matters is a palpable thing at that point. And then I would say that people have these mystical consciousness experiences. We minimize them. In our culture, we want to be seen as rational. But how is it not rational to see that the world is so filled with beauty that you go into a state of awe, and that awe inspires you to be a better person? How is that not rational? You know, that's like, to me, seems like one of the most rational things that could ever happen. And you know the studies, I'm sure, that there are so many people that have these mystical experiences of feeling connected to other people, hearing things, you know, knowing things, they're afraid to talk about them.

50:34Well, when you're breathing, and you've got somatic, emotional, cognitive intelligence working together, and you've got more global neural coherence than ordinary, and you're not in a place, you're not defending or promoting or manipulating, you're just contacting your authentic experience, it's inevitable that you're going to have contact with these things that you and I were just talking about. It happens readily. Yeah, which makes me curious also, you just used the phrase global communal coherence. There is a study, and granted, some people support this study, and some people have picked apart the methodology that's commonly become known as the Maharishi effect, where thousands of people sat in TM, like Transcendental Meditation.

51:27And apparently while they were meditating, you know, there was a measurable reduction in crime. Again, there are people who support this and there are people who look at the experimental design and say like, this is horribly flawed. But I'm curious, from your standpoint, are you aware of any experiments where there has It's been almost like a similar thing where, you know, there's been an invitation for maybe thousands of people to sit in a particular breathwork state, communally, maybe together or maybe distributed, dispersed throughout the world. And whether that leads to anything beyond the individual practice.

52:05I would say that I'm aware of what we might call epidemiological studies in the sense that I've been in the experiences that you're talking. I know about the studies you're talking about, and I know about the disputes, too, about them. But it's provocative. At the very least, we should be like, well, if there's even a 1 % of this that's true, we should care about that, because we shouldn't hang out just in the bell curve. You know, this positive psychology, that's part of what it tells us is you need to look at the very ends of the spectrum. Like, why are the 1 % or 2 % having these experiences?

52:42It doesn't invalidate them. In fact, it offers us an invitation. And so I would say the same thing about those studies. What I can tell you is I have been in groups of people or had the privilege of guiding groups of people too, where we have people who have tension with each other. It might be that they know each other and there's an intense personal tension and maybe they even hate each other. Or it could be cultural. It could have to do with skin color. It could have to do with deeply embedded generational kinds of beliefs. And what I can tell you is that when people breathe together, those things readily fall away.

53:28I mean, it's like a miracle. I remember being in a room with the Honorable Elijah Cummings. He was an incredible congressman in my state, very, very inspiring man, and he was very interested in the things that we're talking about and that what I was doing. And I was trying to do a project that would bring leaders in this region greater access and knowledge about the kinds of things you and I are talking about. And he just called me because I invited him, never expecting to hear from him. And he said, I really want to be involved. And there was this beautiful day where he and Dr. Dan Siegel, one of the co-founders of interpersonal neurobiology, and I were with a group of leaders from this region.

54:18And we breathed together in a hugely diverse population of leaders in terms of skin color, in terms of socioeconomic status. We talked about love. We breathed together. and what happened in that room was remarkable. So people said, I've never felt safe in a group like this and I now feel safe. So I've had those kinds of experiences. We could just say they're little pilot studies, or where I once had the honor of working with a class of medical school students from the University of Maryland and a very similar thing happened. they experienced shifts in their health, literally during the things that aches and pains in their bodies, headaches that they had, digestive issues, competition with each other.

55:15And by the end of a one-hour session, they were sharing as if they'd been doing this kind of inner work forever. I would lastly say one time, a group of midshipmen from the Annapolis Naval Academy, so best of the best, you know, came up here to do some breath work and do a Native American sweat lodge. and I can tell you that just standing in the circle together, just breathing, they already had such a training for attention. I've never been listened to so incredibly. I mean, I wish all my students could listen that deeply. It was an amazing experience. But just in the listening and then the breathing together, the prayers that came out in that sweat lodge circle were as deep and profound as any mystic I've ever been with.

56:10So I can tell you that those changes can happen in a group pretty readily. It's a fascinating proposition, especially when we're living at a time where there's so much polarization that if a simple shift in breathing done in community in some way were to in some way change the way that we experience our own lives or see those around us as maybe less different, then, yeah, it's a really provocative and interesting thing to explore and imagine at scale when you hear about these. We've been talking a lot about the individual impact, but also I'm always curious about communal impact and society-wide when things scale.

56:55May I offer one thing about that? So, again, Dr. Dan Siegel, he wrote the foreword for my book. This is not his original thought, and I apologize that I'm not remembering who it originally came from, but we talk about the fact that the primitive brain or the brainstem is wired to recognize in-group and out-group for survival, you know, who's the safe people and who's not the safe people. So we're living in a time when we're so adrenalized and there's so much cortisol going on that it's like we're scanning all the time for who's the in group and out group rather than just in times of danger. And I really have thought about this for years.

57:39I mean, we're talking like 15 years I've been thinking about this. And still this holds true for me that you can create an in group and an out group about anything. Your hair is one way, my hair is another. I speak English, someone else speaks French, gender, skin color, sexual orientation, educational status, socioeconomic conditions, different towns, different clothes. I like red, you like blue. I mean, you can create an in-group and an out-group about anything. If your nervous system is attenuated in a certain way, it's going to keep triggering and creating in-group and out-group and group identity and polarization and all of that.

58:27There is only one group of people that I can think of that you cannot create an in-group and an out-group about, and that's the group of breathers. There's not a single of the 8 billion plus, whether they're on a respirator or they're an Olympic athlete, and everything in between that isn't breathing. And the implications of that spiritually, emotionally, physiologically are profound. And that's what I have experienced when I've had people that had widely diverse experiences and belief systems breathe together. They come to care about each other. They love each other. They have compassion for each other.

59:15Powerful. You, in your book, you offer a wide array of practices and even a sort of a kit, a toolbox of practices and even that you can bring together in daily practice. If somebody is joining us for this conversation, they're kind of looking for just like, what's the first step in here? Like, is there a simple first step in or just a simple practice that I can dip my toe into to start to experience any of what we're talking about? What would you say? So first I would invite us to, I think three things I'll say. I would invite us to actually consider that breath is likely, in the end, our greatest nutrient, medicine and friend.

1:00:02You could even say lover and teacher as well. And so just to make that orientation like, wow, I've got this thing that's, I've been being breathed, you know, since I was born. and I've got this medicine chest inside of me and this garden and let me learn to befriend it. So in other words, we're not going to look for like fast results, even though we're probably going to get fast results, but that wouldn't be the way to initiate a friendship. That would be very acquisitional. You want to get to know the person. You want to learn who they are. So that would be the first thing I would say. Then I would actually invite everyone to feel along the bottom of their rib cage, kind of start in the center and just press in gently not to hurt oneself or not to the point of pain to just feel because that's where the diaphragm, you've got your rib cage and then you have the diaphragm that's like a dome when you breathe out.

1:01:00It's like it rests like a dome underneath the ribcage. And when you breathe in, it goes down, kind of like a balloon is being blown up to pull in air. So your diaphragm is your most powerful muscle of the body. It's the one that has to keep going no matter what. So you want to become familiar with it, and you also want to give it an optimal condition to do the thing that it can do so well. So just putting your fingers under your rib cage slowly and working your way towards the side. And kind of if you feel a point of tension, you know, just stop there and just rub it for a while and then do the other side and then see what happens when you breathe in slowly.

1:01:45Like, do you feel a little more space there? And again, you don't have to have like, oh, I wasn't breathing well and now I'm feeling great. It's a thing that you just do every day for a few minutes. You invite your rib cage to be able to expand in all four directions or circularly all the way around. And you make sure your chest is also willing to kind of raise up a little bit at the end of your inhalation. And when you exhale, you let the chest relax and you let the rib cage relax and then you let the belly relax. And I think having, so first making it your friend that you're getting to know, then secondly, actually getting the physical sensations of breathing as something that's like an intimacy.

1:02:31You know, it's like a, it's a sensuality, really, it is. And it's, the senses are so filled with wisdom. So the more we can feel the sensations of breathing, the further we'll move on the path. And our natural ability to heal ourselves and our breath's natural ability to know how we should breathe to come into homeostasis and harmony starts to have more room and more resources to be able to do that. Then third thing I would say is, and this is a really powerful shift, though it sounds very subtle, is that a lot of times when we're even thinking about taking, you know, about breathing more deeply in order to change our state, like we might realize that we're holding our breath or we're barely breathing or something like that.

1:03:22or we're in a yoga class or we're with somebody who's a friend and they realize we're upset. And the common phrase is, take a deep breath. And I want to say that's beautiful. I mean, there's powerful things to take a deep breath. But even from the perspective of our physiology and optimizing the breathing, let alone, and then emotional regulation and cognitive regulation, Even if we went all the way, Jonathan, to, you know, something that we haven't even quite named right now, but we might call awakening, you know, like really what would it be to be awakened completely? Shifting the orientation to receiving a breath is going to actually be more healthy for us physically, and then as we build our breathwork practice, and then as we develop our emotional capacities, and then as we move into those higher states of consciousness or expanded states or just a contact with what I might just call the beloved for everybody, you know, whether you call it the force or the divine.

1:04:31was because we received a breath initially. We were breathed. We are being breathed all the time. We don't have to use any of our volitional conscious energy to breathe. We can scroll on the internet. We can go eat. We can do whatever we want with that energy. We don't have to do anything to breathe. We are being breathed. And the physiological implications of that and the sort of spiritual implications and everything in between are profound. So when I really, at this point, when I start someone off with breathing, I do exactly the things that I just said about it's your friend, we're going to get to know it.

1:05:18Can we get more sensation about your breathing so we can get a little bit more room? And now before we start a breathing practice, can you allow yourself to feel how you're being breathed? And what happens if instead of taking a deep breath, you allow yourself to be breathed and then you allow that breath to get deeper because you're not resisting it, because you're allowing yourself to be breathed more. And then if you've done that, now we can say, okay, well, what about lengthening the exhale or, you know, breathing a little faster so you can get that energy thing going, you know, because you need some energy for that meeting you're about to go into?

1:06:06Or what about if there's grief and you've been crying and you haven't wanted any, you haven't felt like you were in a safe place to do that, but now you have some time and you want that grief to be able to let go. Now you can sigh and, you know, but those three shifts of it's our friend and it's going to take some time, we want to have a sensual relationship with it, that sensation, and that we want to be breathed and go with the flow of what's actually happening rather than take it over by taking a deep breath is going to, in the long run, get us much further. Then I would just say that, you know, if you would commit, if everybody would just commit to doing seven minutes of conscious breathing a day, conscious deep breathing, whether it was just awareness practices or just a long, slow inhale followed by a long, slow exhale, if you've done those first three things first, you would be surprised after just a week how your life will feel very different.

1:07:11Beautiful. Feels like a good place for us to come full circle as well. So in this container of Good Life Project, if I offer up the phrase to live a good life, what comes up? To love fully, to be unabashed about how much we love, to breathe fully, because that is the engine of our love and creativity. Thank you. Thank you.

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