Jimmy Chin: The Cost of Risking Too Little

0:00There are two great risks in life, risking too much and risking too little.

0:05Jonathan Fields: Most of us only ever count the cost of one of them. Our guest today, Jimmy Chin, has spent his life walking the line between those two risks. He's the Oscar-winning director of Free Solo and Meru, and one of the most accomplished mountain athletes and photographers alive. But he started as the son of Chinese immigrants in a small city in Minnesota, raised to become a lawyer or doctor or professor. Instead, he moved into the back of his Subaru and lived there for seven years to climb. Now at 53, a father of two, he's written a book, Rules to Live By, built on conversations with people like Yo-Yo Ma, Van Chynard, Kelly Slater, and Chris Tompkins, all circling one question, what really matters?

0:49Jonathan Fields: We get into why Jimmy says he had his midlife crisis at age 10, why Yo-Yo Ma played a flawless concert and felt absolutely nothing, and why Yvonne Chouinard looked at a billion-dollar milestone and was crushed by it, and how that affected Jimmy. But the moment I keep coming back to, it happens when Jimmy's seven-year-old daughter looks up at the Grand Teton in Wyoming, a peak that breaks grown adults, and says, Dad, I want to climb that. What happened on that 18-hour day and what she said to him up there on the mountain changed how he thinks about risk as a parent. Kids want their parents to be alive, but they also want their parents to feel alive.

1:31Jonathan Fields: Because the real question isn't how much you're willing to risk, it's what it's costing you to play it safe. We'll also hear how Chris Tompkins lost the love of her life and went on to protect 17 million acres and what a 13th birthday gift reveals about how Jimmy measures success now. So excited to share this conversation with you. I'm Jonathan Fields, and this is Good Life Project. And we'll jump right in after this short break.

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4:37Jonathan Fields: It's the best way to support the show. you have spent much of your life pursuing things that make you feel intensely alive. In your case, that involves things that are radically different than the typical person climbing and filming some of the biggest, scariest peaks and environments on the planet. And then a couple years back, you turn 50 and you start sort of like looking at the next season of life. And I'm curious, what questions do you start to ask as you move into that, that another mountain or another film project can't really answer in the same way anymore? I think I've been asking the same question for a long time.

5:25And if I was really going to break it down, it would be what really matters in life? and the answers to that question have evolved but in some ways for me the answer has kind of always come back um to some similar thoughts john crack our good friend and mentor of mine early on in my career said to me there are two great risks in life risking too much and risking too little. And I think as I've gotten older, I've continued to examine the question of what does it mean to risk too much and what does it mean to risk too little? There are costs to both. I think we often think a lot about what it means to risk too much.

6:32I think we spend less time thinking about what's the cost of risking too little what's the cost of not taking the risk what's the cost of not pursuing that dream or that objective or that thing that brings meaning in your life and that's the fine line between the two of them I feel like I had a midlife crisis when I was 10. At a very young age, I was like, what am I doing? And to what end? Like, I always felt this sense of urgency, like I understood that our time here is finite. And I was always like, I want to do more. I want to do more. I want to, you know, explore the world. I want to go on adventures.

7:18I want to feel something. I want want my life to have meaning. I want the things that I do to have meaning. And that kind of sense or that experience I had from a very young age, I don't know, it's a chicken or the egg question. You know, my parents were librarians at a small university in Mankato, Minnesota, which is a small rural, I wouldn't say rural, but it's not a very big town in South Central Minnesota and surrounded by cornfields and beautiful valleys and forests. But I always had the sense where I had to go out and explore the world, whether that was in the forest in my backyard or the rest of the world.

8:09And, you know, I read voraciously as a kid because I was being fed a lot of books and it really kind of, my imagination was always full of these wild adventures that I wanted to go on. And that really kind of, I think, set me off on this path. but that idea of well what am I willing to risk to do these things and to go see the world I think I was weighing the cost of not doing something quite early in my life

8:51Jonathan Fields: yeah I mean that sounds at 10 years old that's kind of astonishingly early for pretty much anybody. I mean, especially the way you describe your childhood also. And I know like your parents, first generation immigrants. And from what I understand, like the household wasn't a household where you were raised to just constantly challenge and constantly ask questions. Like the ethos was very different. Yes, it was very different. I mean, I was challenged in the sense that, I started playing the violin when I was three and my parents really wanted me to do well and pushed me really hard academically.

9:27I started studying the martial arts probably at five or six. That's one of the earliest memories I have with my father. And I swam competitively and there were really high expectations of excellence. And that's kind of been instilled in me. And that's a part of who I am for better or worse. But But I was just, I felt like I was just going through the motions. And I wasn't necessarily passionate about them. And at that age, I don't know that you're even supposed to understand what that means. But I felt, even at a young age, that's what I mean. I was like, there's got to be more. There must be something more.

10:16And I want to feel this. I don't know what it is that I want to feel, but there's something more I want to experience. And the first time I really felt that was, well, probably being a kid running around the woods and being like, wow, you know, the freedom of it, the exploration, the adventure. But I certainly felt it compounded when I found climbing and skiing and being in the mountains.

10:45Jonathan Fields: You know, coming out of that background, you end up, like you said, it sounds like you're kind of living a little bit of a split life. Like you're following a certain prescribed path. You're doing the things that check a certain number of boxes while at the same time your mind is saying, there's this other thing out there and I got to keep dipping my toe in it. You end up then making a really interesting move in your early 20s. You spend about seven years living out of the back of your Subaru from 21 to 28 or so, traveling around climbing, part of the dirtbag world. And people are going to hear the word dirtbag, by the way, and they're going to assume that I'm saying something negative about you.

11:23Jonathan Fields: That's a badge of honor. Describe what the word dirtbag means in climbing. I mean, for me and for kind of my peer group in Yosemite at the time, this is way before van life, right? This is way before it was cool to live in your car. And I mean, I guess Jack Kerouac thought it was pretty cool. But, you know, this idea of being a dirtbag was kind of a badge of honor because the more dirtbag you were, the more committed you were to the lifestyle of climbing. and you know climbing for us wasn't really a sport it was it was like a religion it was like a lifestyle um we were always out there pushing um our limits as climbers and And, you know, boldness, those were things that, you know, we aspired to do harder and harder climbs.

12:33And I mean, I think what you said earlier, just, you know, I think I had a life that my parents had a very clear idea that what they wanted for me. Growing up, it felt like I thought there was only three jobs you could have because it was they were always talking about it. You can be a lawyer, a doctor or a professor and maybe a fourth one going to finance. And, you know, by the time I got through high school, I was like, I'm pretty sure I'm not going to be any of those, you know. And I went on to college. And but that's when I found climbing and I was like, OK, this is something that I. I wake up every morning thinking about and this is what I want to do.

13:25And so when I finished college, that's when I I told my parents, I was like, hey, look, I'm just going to take one year off and move into my car and climb full time and ski full time and get it out of my system before I, you know, move on to my finding a career. obviously they were very skeptical and they had a lot of good reason to be skeptical because as you said i lived in my car from the time i was 21 until i was 28 and just traveling following the seasons you know i was doing all kinds of odd jobs to support myself um waiting tables shoveling roofs on these mansions in Jackson, Wyoming, ballet parking, doing whatever it took to be able to feed this other lifestyle that I had.

14:18You know, fortunately, I picked up a camera somewhere in there and started taking photographs and, you know, started making a small living as a photographer. furfer. But I was really committed to these experiences. And I had these moments of awe up in the mountains and these extraordinary, profound experiences with some of my best friends and climbing partners. And I started to chase that. And I still chase that. It's it's something about the human experience that you know i find precious i guess part of what

15:06Jonathan Fields: i'm curious about and this has been a curiosity of mine around anyone really who pushes the edge in ways that are in extreme environments where there are times where it's life and death is like what is the it that you are like what's the thing that you're chasing what's the feeling that lets you actually go to that place and say, I'm willing to go there and be there. What do I get in return for that? Yeah, it doesn't have to be life and death. And it's not like I'm always chasing experiences where I'm right on the edge because I want to experience life when it's being seriously threatened. Those moments certainly happen and have happened.

15:51I think anything that's hard that is, at least in my life, a pinnacle experience, they've never come easy. And that's just understanding the process of what it takes to achieve anything great, you know, and you have to take risks to do that. calculated risks and i spend a lot of time examining why i'm doing it you know and when you talk about it it's the sum of all the different experiences that come with it you know there's a lot of hardship. There's loss. There's a lot of suffering. But the sense of achievement and satisfaction of doing something hard and achieving it is obviously something I've applied in other areas of my life.

17:02It wasn't just climbing mountains, making photographs that speak to people, that move people making films. Films are hard. Films are really hard to make. Sometimes they take years of your life to make them. And I feel like every film is a miracle. If you finish a film, it's like a feature documentary or a feature film. All the steps of the process to create those, I feel like they're all miracles and they've required you to put everything you have into them. But I think it's that sense of satisfaction. It's also having something to pursue. It gives my life meaning. It gives my life purpose. And it's mostly really difficult and really hard.

17:57And there's a lot of failures. And And you have to pick yourself up off the floor all the time and you have to bet on yourself and trust yourself. But when you go through that experience and you're able to get to the place that you're trying to get or make the film that you're trying to make, climb the mountain that you're trying to climb, it's deeply satisfying. and that sense of satisfaction is part of it but you learn also that that you know i mean i know it's cliched but it's like the entire journey is is what life is and over the years I've come to you know be a little less attached to the outcome and more focused on being in the present and the moment embracing whatever it is that I was facing being grateful for it and understanding every day is a privilege to exist and what you're facing that day is your life.

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22:28Jonathan Fields: As you described, at some point, you pick up a camera along the way, and you start to take pictures, a lot of what you're doing, of your friends, of the adventures that you're going on. which I think is really interesting because so often the minute we put something between us and the thing, we become a witness to it and not a participant. We're of it rather than in it. That doesn't seem to be your experience. You seem to have found a way to say these are two things I'm profoundly passionate about and I found a way to bring them together so that one doesn't actually detract from the experience of the other.

23:15No, I mean, I've been doing it for so long, it's just become part of the process. And it was a perfect marriage for me of a creative passion with kind of a physical and active pursuit. and I just love that overall experience. And it also allows me to feel like I'm coming back with something no matter what. I'm really grateful looking back on my life. And you said it, you know, like I turned 50 and I was looking at my life in chapters or phases and I was thinking about the next chapters and the next phases of life. In a way, that was the genesis of writing this book, Rules to Live By. And I really wanted to explore that with people who I really respected and admired.

24:22Jonathan Fields: Yeah. I mean, very much with yours woven into the whole thing, though. I love the way that you brought it together. One of the things that you explore is, so you've teamed with often people who are the best in the world at what they do. Arguably, so are you. You've had the chance to get to know people like Yo-Yo Ma. Interesting sort of like realization that he shared with you. I'd love to drop into a little bit more. Like he told you about preparing for a recital, if I remember correctly, like played it beautifully. and at the end felt almost nothing which you like you know as an observer you probably look at that and say how's that impossible take me into this like what was really happening here and what did you take from that i mean yo-yo is someone i've admired for you know as long as i can remember I think in the book, I talk about my mom taking me to a concert that he played when I was quite young.

25:29And I had always gone through the motions of playing the violin and I hated it. And I was like, why am I doing it? But I had to do it perfectly so that I could finish practice and go play. And when I heard him play for the first time, I thought there's something more here than going through the motions because of what he's making me feel. He's expressing something so deep and it really moved me. And I think that's what he's talking about in the chapter when I'm talking to him. He's invited to do this big concert, his first big show. And he practices for a year and it's perfect. And he's in the middle of the concert and he's playing it perfectly and he has this realization he's like i don't feel anything and i'm still playing it perfectly there must be more there must be something i'm missing and you know i think that he discovers that it's it's about expressing something inside of him you know it's an expression of who he is and he had lost sight of that piece of it or he didn't even know it had existed and now he was on a different path after that it wasn't about playing it perfectly it was about his music had to have something to say it needed to express something um and he goes and he continues on that journey i think that it's a great metaphor for all kinds of things, right?

27:17He really examines his intention behind his work. And I would say a big part of that is about connecting people, making people feel human, making people feel something. And that's extraordinary. I mean, a lot of these conversations I had were really moving. there I we talked about ideas that I had but to hear them kind of confirm it in this way

27:45Jonathan Fields: yeah I think I totally agree I think that's so transferable to so many people in so many parts of life you know it's transferable to the work that I do you know it it has to come from the heart. I know what I'm trying to express in the film. I know how I want people to feel. People often ask me, well, how do you direct? And everybody has a different process. But for me, I'm always thinking about, well, how do I want people to feel? Because I'm usually drawing. I'm always drawing from a personal experience. I'm like, I know how that made me feel. And that was really deep and really human. And I want to express that so other people can feel what I'm feeling, that feeling.

28:40And it can be all kinds of different human experiences. The sense of bond and a friendship and trust in a friendship, or even what it feels like to lose something or to suffer loss or to face something really challenging that you don't think you can achieve feeling that doubt but coming out of it on the other side because you trusted yourself or you trusted your partners or you trusted the people around you you know there's there's a feeling i'm trying to express but yo-yo ma's music does that Yeah. Go see Yo-Yo Ma play live, perform live. It's extraordinary.

29:28Jonathan Fields: One of the other people who you spotlight in the book, and this is somebody who you've known for a really long time, Yvon Chouinard. If folks don't know the name, pretty much everyone does know what he's created, which is his company, Patagonia, which has grown into this incredible company. And you have this conversation with him where he talks about kind of knowing how a big company should be and being willing to stop. Stop at a point where most people would say, like, this is not what you're supposed to be doing. You know, he says, we're literally getting too big. You describe a meeting where, like, senior leaders are coming.

30:09Jonathan Fields: Like, we had a billion dollars or whatever it was. It's incredible. Like, we're tracking. And he's just like, this is terrible. He's so bummed. Yeah. What's going on there? Take me there. Well, I mean, first of all, I just don't think he believes in the model of limitless growth, right? Like, to what end? And I have known Ivan for 20, maybe 25 years now. and I'm always trying to spend time with him you know one of the things he says in his chapter is it's so easy to complicate your life and so difficult to simplify it and you know I think he's one of those people who who's always conscious and thinking about you know well what really matters we're going to chase all this stuff to what end and

31:15he is someone I kind of channel when I'm at the crossroads for some decision I'll be like well what would Yvonne do here and and that's um one of the things I love about writing the book or talking to these people is that they were like models for me to like channel in certain moments, you know. And Ivan is just incredible in that way. He has such a clear view of life, of business, of what really matters. And And he ends up building this company that's worth$3 billion. And he built it brick by brick. And he ends up giving it away for the environment. And I love that. He talks about, he's like, you know where I live in Jackson.

32:14Half the electrical is out. I've been there. There's like nails in the wall where he's hung cast iron pots. And he's lived like that for, I don't even know, probably 50 years in that same house. And he's a billionaire, right? But he ends up deciding, well, I don't want to take it public because it will lose, you know, the soul of the brand and what it stands for. because shareholders just want to make it grow and grow and grow. And that's not great for the environment. And he's like, I don't need more money. I live a simple life and my children are the same. They live simple lives and they live fulfilled lives.

33:05More money isn't going to change that for me or for them. And so we're going to give it away. We're going to give it to a foundation that the interest in keeping the the business profitable is in order to keep it alive in order to continue funding environmental causes and you know to him it was so clear that it was like there was no other choice it was so obvious to him and and you can imagine how difficult that might be, that decision would be for a lot of people, a lot of founders, entrepreneurs, you know, I'm just going to hand it over. I'm not IPO-ing. So I admire him so much and he's enriched my life so much with his perspective of the world.

34:07And I hope people get something out of reading his chapter.

34:12Jonathan Fields: When a project comes to you, because I would imagine like you're, there are probably a lot of things that you could say yes to in your life, right? Whether it's just a personal adventure, whether it's a film project, whether there are probably a lot of yeses coming your way or the opportunities to say yes. Are you, are there moments where you're really challenged, where you look at that and you're like, there's a huge upside here. Like there's an apparent upside that anybody would love to say yes to, but there's a voice in you that says, but this is not for me. Yeah. I mean, that's taken years to refine, right?

34:49Because as you're kind of starting on your path in a career, you're just taking opportunities as they come. And, but certainly over the years, I've become a lot more discerning about the projects I'm going to take on. And whether that's, you know, films, or climbing objectives, or time with different types of people, you know, it's, it's, I've really had to focus on, again, this question, Well, what really matters? Legacy, family, personal ambition, money, you know, what is it? What matters? And so I've gotten a lot better at saying no. It's still hard for me because I do have a lot of drive and a lot of ambition.

35:53and there's so many things I still want to do. There's a ton of climbs I still want to do. They're still on that list. But that time is finite. I talk about it in the book. None of us are getting out of here alive, right? And so we only have time. Time is the only currency. And it's one of those things that you can only spend and you can't earn time back. So what are you going to do with it? But a lot of the people I talk to in the book, our later career, have had extraordinary lives, extraordinary successes. And I was really curious when I talked to them. I was like, okay, well, what did success look like for you when you started?

36:45What does success mean to you now? and there's a fairly common thread for these people kelly slater ridley scott what was the pattern that you were seeing well it is it's it's what yvonne talked about it's simplifying it's simple things you know the end of kelly's chapter you know after 11 world titles um starting a brand, starting the surf ranch. I mean, he's had a lot of great successes, but he talks about spending the day at the beach with his kid and being present for that. learning how to be honest with people the successes that we might not think of as a huge win for kelly are huge wins now and and i'm i've come to those realizations myself um i look around at my life and i'm thinking well what is it that i really really want Well, it's time with my children.

38:02And it's time with loved ones, with family, shared experiences with them. It's not having more stuff.

38:16It's having these experiences with my kids. And it was my daughter's 13th birthday a few days ago. And I'd been pondering, what am I going to get her? What am I going to get her? And, you know, I got her a few nice little things, but really the thing I was giving her was this certificate. It said certificate good for one daddy daughter, surf, climbing, or skiing trip. She gets to decide, but that's, that's, that's the present, you know, it's an experience together and time together, um time to climb time to do these things that like really fill my soul and and rejuvenate me and allow me to put the phone down and spend time with my friends i mean so often it really comes

39:13Jonathan Fields: down to that you know i think family um in various different ways it just keeps re-entering the equation in different ways during different parts of your life. You look at you and the relationship that you had with your parents, the way that they first thought about you and the choices that you were making when you decide to go out and live out of your Subaru for seven years. And then it took a long time for them to come around and be like, oh, wait, the kid is actually doing good. Your mom, at one point, I know you share the story, she literally asked you to promise that that you wouldn't die before she did.

39:48Jonathan Fields: And I know after she did pass, for a bit you felt released from that promise. And then you become a dad, right? You know, your daughter's born. And it's almost like the same question comes back to you, but different roles. I'm curious how you becoming a dad made you think about risk. In some ways it hasn't changed how I think about risk because it's always about taking calculated risks. It's not like I wanted to die less than I want to die now. I've always wanted to live and experience as much life as possible. So the calculations, I'm still doing them objectively, and I'm still asking the questions, well what is what is the cost of risking too much and what is the cost of risking too little i think selfishly i make decisions in those moments because i want to hang out with my kids more because they're cool and i i love them and you know i would never want to leave you know my kids behind or have them suffer a loss as I've seen you know some of the friends I've lost were parents I've experienced it and it's never justifiable in some ways when you lose a person in the mountains

41:39them doing what they love. But yet we understand, especially in my peer group, I feel like people have examined that question a lot. And the risks that they've taken have been intentional and deliberate because they've weighed the costs. And those are really personal, right? It's easy to judge from afar, but I think people either dismiss or take for granted that these are really deliberate choices and especially people who are parents what do you want to leave your children with in terms of do you want them to have the courage to follow their dreams to pursue things that are hard.

42:33I want to instill that in my children. And, you know, I probably make different decisions in the mountains as I've grown older, just because I have a lot more experience. My risk calculus is much more refined. So it could look like I'm being a lot more conservative. but it's also based on experience and but yeah that's it's a it's it's a tough question i i mean

43:05Jonathan Fields: i i interview lindsey adario on this conflict photographer yeah and and you know i think she's in ukraine right now photographing and her line of work is also very dangerous and she has two kids I made a film about her, Love and War. And we talk about it a lot. And what is it to be a parent that isn't living the life and following the calling because they feel like they're sacrificing it for their children. And I talk about that in my book. It's like kids want their parents to be alive, but they also want their parents to feel alive, you know? So it's a thin line. I mean, it seems like part of what you do also, or the way you write about it with your kids is you invite them into it.

44:15Jonathan Fields: You know, you tell this wonderful story about, I think your daughter was seven years old. And you bring her up, upper eczema in Grand Teton. Explain what that is to people and why this, it's a great story. I mean, it's a, the Grand Teton is the biggest mountain in the Teton Range. Right. In Grand Teton National Park. And when you go to Jackson, Wyoming, you look up at the range and you see it and you're like, okay, that's the Grand. And it looks really big and it's pretty intimidating. And I've been up there. I mean, I've climbed it a lot, but, you know, it's a big intimidating mountain. And I've been up there with grown adults who've, you know, fallen apart up there or just it was too much.

45:07and it's funny because my daughter grew up around my peer group you know alex honnold taught her how to climb she lived in yosemite while we were making free solo and then during the release of the film because she was five we took her to all the events and all the screenings and we had to do press and all these other things so she would just plop in and watch the movie i think she probably washed it like 50 times. I think that was imprinted in her mind that, oh, yeah, to do hard things, you got to do, you know, put your time in, be really calculated, put one step in front of the other, slowly expand your comfort zone and do these things.

45:54And at seven, she said, Dad, I want to climb the Grand Teton. And before I could even respond, one of my friends who overheard her was walking by and just said oh yeah you should totally do that and i thought well okay i was like well the the most important decision about climbing in these mountains is who you want for your partner like picking a good partner is really good and she just said

46:20Jonathan Fields: oh conrad conrad anchor who she was like legendary climber legendary you've climbed with my mentor I made a film about him, Meru, and he's just been a part of her life since I think he held her when she was three days old. She's like, oh, Conrad. And I was like, oh, that's a good choice. And so we went up there and she I had a moment with her where she she got a little scared and she said, I'm really tired. It was like four in the morning or five in the morning. I was like, we have to get around this, you know, ridge and then we'll be in the sun and it'll be a little warmer. And she said, OK. And then we we we climbed past all these parties because Conrad and myself and Marina were moving pretty well.

47:13It was funny because the people were like, oh, my gosh, it's Conrad Anker. And then they see me come up and they're like, oh, wow, it's Jimmy Chin. And then they would see Marina and then they really freaked out. They were like, what? Anyways, we get around this corner. It's sunny. And she's like, I need to take a nap. And we're like, cool, no problem. We got around the corner and she took a nap. And then we went on and climbed it. But I had this moment where she was up high in the mountain. I looked at her. And I have a photo of it, too, of the moment around that time. And she looked so tiny.

47:50She looked just so, so tiny up there on this massive mountain, but yet so comfortable. She's got an ear-to-ear grin. She's with her dad. She's with Conrad. We're doing the thing. We summit early by like 10 in the morning, and then we go down, and it's a huge day. It was like an 18-hour day, and she was just game, and I was so proud of her. It was one of the best days of my career in the mountains in my life, just seeing her up there experiencing this moment and experiencing the mountains in this way. And I think she'll always remember that.

48:38Jonathan Fields: Yeah. What was it like for her to have? Because, you know, like you said, she was with you like all the time before that. But what was it like for her to not just hear about or read about or watch what her dad is like in those moments, but actually be there with you to see that and also feel it herself? Well, it's funny because there was a few moments. She was tied to the rope with Conrad leading, and then I was soloing next to her, around her, because the train was fairly pedestrian for me. and she'd be like, dad, you know, be careful. And I'd be like, oh, I got it. But the fact that she had the wherewithal to look at me and say, hey, be careful here.

49:24This part was hard. And, you know, I've climbed that thing quite a bit. Yeah, it was amazing. And it is a shared experience that I think really showed her level of trust for me and my level of trust in her. It really strengthened the bond and understanding I have with her.

49:50Jonathan Fields: Yeah, I mean, it's beautiful. And also showed her who you're with. like the choices you make about who you choose to do hard things with or just life with is so important. Like you can change everything, right? Yeah. And we'll be right back after a word from our sponsors. Good Life Project is sponsored by Wild Alaskan Company. So for years, buying seafood kind of felt like an act of faith. I cook with care and it'd come out mushy or bland like a mystery fish. Wild Alaskan Company, it just totally solved that for me. They deliver wild caught, high quality seafood to your door on your schedule. It's quick frozen straight from Alaskan waters, locking in texture and flavor and key nutrients like omega-3s, no GMOs, antibiotics or additives, and every order supports sustainable harvesting and Alaskan fishermen.

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53:22I mean, she grew up in California and got to know Yvonne Shinar at a very young age. And she was when she first started working for Yvonne, she was like an assistant to a packer, someone who packed boxes to deliver. She eventually rose to the top of Patagonia and became the CEO of Patagonia and really took it from a small company to a very large, you know, global company. company. And so she really lived that life. And then at some point decided, you know what? I'm bored. I need something more in my life. She happened to meet Doug Tompkins, who is a good friend and climbing partner of Yvonne's.

54:19They'd done first ascents around the world they but doug was really most famous for starting the north east and and later esprit which was a 900 million close to a billion dollar company in like 1986 right like hugely successful they both decide to walk away from that those lives and move to chile to patagonia and start buying land to eventually give away and create international parks and this was a 25-year dream and they decided that they were going to put everything that they'd learned and experienced in building businesses to to save the environment and you know she she loses Doug in during that journey.

55:19He dies in a sea kayaking accident. And it was the love of her life. And she wasn't sure how to move forward. And at some point, she gets a letter from a friend that says, you can continue to be the grieving widow, or you can do something. And so she picks up the reins for essentially building the Patagonia Land Trust and now named something differently, but ends up preserving 17 million acres and building 17 national parks and giving it away to Chile. But, you know, after she lost Doug, she said, you know what? The worst thing happened to me. I have nothing to lose and I am going for it. And she said that it really kind of narrowed her focus and, you know, she has to deal with heads of state, you know, and she's like, you know, after that, I didn't worry about it.

56:33I, you know, I walked in there and I knew what I needed to do and, And she, yeah, achieved, in my mind, the impossible, you know. And she continues to do that work. And every time I see her, she's ageless. You just see the sparkle in her eye. And she is just, yeah. what I would consider a very powerful human being and not by status or money or she knows what she needs to do and she does it.

57:18Jonathan Fields: The power of being on mission. So many people that you've talked about, the idea of really knowing themselves, having a sense of clarity, and then being willing to put effort behind that. it just keeps coming up over and over and over. When you think, so as we're having this conversation, you're 53, 54 at this point. I'm going to turn 53 in a couple of weeks. Yeah. What do you think about when you think about, okay, so I'm looking at the next five years, 10 years, and this is what really matters to me. This is where I want to spend my energy. what bubbles up around that now and is it different than it than it used to be the contribution the most impact i feel like i have now is that i have a platform as a storyteller and i think i've always been kind of a bridge between worlds whether that was growing up as a first generation chinese kid in minnesota um and bridging different worlds you know um whether that's meru or free solo trying to express or share an understanding and a feeling that i've gained from doing the things that I do with a different audience.

58:55And films, books, storytelling, one of the most powerful things about stories, I think in general, is it can change people's points of view. You know, I think about my next 10, 15 years, and I think about what I want to do. Obviously, we talked a little bit about that but in terms of storytelling you know i've constantly been refining my ability to tell stories in a way that's meaningful and that i hope connects people you know films you know create empathy they they share a point of view and experience of someone that you might never have related to or thought of and there's something that they can teach you.

59:47And that's this book too. It's like we have so much to learn from each other. And in this day and age when it's like we're being pulled in all these different directions staring at our phone or using an AI therapist, it's like, no, humans still matter. And that connection human to human is still important. being able to empathize with someone is still really important. And, you know, I hope the films I make in the future continue to do that, to connect people and to remind everybody that we're still human. Let's take a stab at what's really important in life. So I'm going to continue doing that.

1:00:35And I still love doing that, you know. And so, and it is also to embrace life with the good and the bad. It's really easy to lose sight of what we have, what we can be grateful for, and to just remind ourselves it's a privilege to be alive every single day that you're alive. So I have to remind myself that a lot too.

1:01:02Jonathan Fields: Yeah, I think we all do. Feels like a good place for us to come full circle. So I always wrap with the same question in this container of Good Life Project. If I offer up the phrase to live a good life, what comes up? To love and to be loved.

1:01:22To live with gratitude. Thank you.

1:01:27Jonathan Fields: So let's talk about some of the big ahas and takeaways from this conversation. One thing I keep coming back to is something Jimmy said almost in passing, that he's been asking the same question since he was about 10 years old. What really matters? The answer keeps changing to him, and it should. The question, though, it never does. Three other things that I'm really thinking about here. One, his mentor, John Krakauer, told him early on that there are two great risks in life, risking too much and risking too little. And almost all of us only ever run the numbers on the first one. The second is Yo-Yo Ma, mid-concert, playing a piece flawlessly after a year of preparation and feeling nothing at all, which is when he understood that the notes were never really the point.

1:02:13Jonathan Fields: It's what it does to you and to others. And three, the line Jimmy walks as a father. Kids want their parents alive, and they also want their parents to feel alive. It's a difficult, challenging thing for him to navigate and something for us all to really think about. So here's something to maybe think about this week also. Think about one thing that you've been saying no to for years out of caution rather than preference. Not a big dramatic version, but just a real one, maybe an everyday one. And then see what might happen if you put a date on the calendar, maybe even this month for the smallest honest step towards it.

1:02:47Jonathan Fields: That's it. Just the date. And hey, before you leave, do me a quick personal favor. Share this conversation with just one person who you know has been sitting on something. It helps us get discovered and brings more people into the conversation. This episode of Good Life Project was produced by executive producers, Lindsay Fox and me, Jonathan Fields, editing help by Troy Young and Alejandro Ramirez, Chris Carter crafted our theme music, and of course, if you haven't already, please go ahead and follow us wherever you get your podcasts so you never miss a conversation. Until next time, I'm Jonathan Fields, signing off for Good Life Project.

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