Episode 580: Plastic Surgery, Comparison, and the Hidden Cost of Chasing Perfection

0:00Hi guys, it's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits & Hustle. Crush it. Welcome to Habits & Hustle, where I sit down with the biggest thinkers, entrepreneurs, athletes, and experts to uncover the habits, strategies, and mindset shifts that actually move the needle in your health, happiness, and success. And today on this solo episode, we are talking about plastic surgery. It has become more normalized, more accessible, and more visible than ever. We watch people document facelifts, nose jobs, injectables, and cosmetic procedures in real time, which can make major medical decisions feel as casual as booking a facial.

0:39But behind the polished before and after photos, there can be real complications, long recoveries, and the uncomfortable reality that fixing one insecurity may only give you another one to focus on. So in this episode, I share how social media, filters, Zoom, and the fact that we are constantly seeing our own faces in photos and on video is changing the way we view ourselves and why cosmetic procedures may not fix the insecurity underneath them, what people should understand about the risks and recovery, and why a surgeon's popularity online does not necessarily make them the best person for the job.

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1:47welcome welcome welcome back to another episode of habits and hustle solo edition where i am joined by my uh friend and foil shawnee and colleague shawnee suiza shawnee suiza yes yes yes but before we go into this episode i will love to remind people if you have not yet subscribed to this podcast, please do so. It makes a massive difference in the algorithm and all these things that are on the back end that I had no idea about. So for the last seven years, I've been remiss in telling people. So if you have not yet, please hit the button and also share it with your friends because that makes a massive difference.

2:29So thank you very much. And if you're listening to this, there's all the video episodes up on YouTube, which you can subscribe to Jen's channel on there as well. Thank you, Shani. You're welcome. On these solos, typically what we do is we, if you have not, if you're just joining us or haven't listened to any episodes, what we do in these solos is we kind of just explore hot takes. Like it's very much like a conversation. And today I want to talk about that. And also I should say conversations that are kind of in these eye guise that are kind of trending, that are kind of like happening in real time a lot.

3:00And the one thing that I really want to talk to you about, Shani, because we talked about it, it. We kind of touched upon it in another solo, but we didn't really get into it. And I'm sure a lot of you guys who are on social media and just kind of like in the world, in the world. Just living out there. Right. Living out there. A really big thing that I'm noticing a huge uptick in is plastic surgery. I mean, I remember like when I was a kid, if anyone got anything done, it was a humongous secret. Nobody talked about it. It was definitely not like video. It was definitely not like talked about and videotaped and shown in real time when someone's getting their face lifted.

3:41Right. Come with me. I got a facelift. Or like, I'm talking to nine doctors. Look at this. I've never seen such a craziness in something. Like this is one of these things that I think is trending and upticking. And I know why. I think is because everyone is comparing themselves to other people. It's because we're in the world of video and Zoom. And I know myself, because now I'm on social, obviously. I do this podcast. I see myself constantly. So you see every imperfection, everything. And I understand that it's so consuming. And it's really easy to go down that rabbit hole. But I also believe, and I shouldn't say but, And I also believe like whatever happened to being happy with what God gave you and kind of just enhance, like, you know, kind of being natural.

4:33Right. And I understand it because I'm like now in this age. Right. Like I'm middle age and I'm like, oh, shit. Like, look at my look at my face. My face is falling and I never liked my nose and I didn't do this. But like, I'm just fearful, to be honest. Yeah. But you said something that we should be as I should because you said something that was really important. And I want you to say that again, because you've said that kind of like in a passing moment, which I think people can possibly, people should hear that. Please say it again. Well, you know, I said that, you know, I got my nose done.

5:04I got a nose job. And I, you know. How long ago? Recently. A couple of years ago. And I, you know, I didn't do much to it. It's not like we took down like a crazy amount. But I don't feel like it changed my face like astronomically to the point where the cost that it has cost me were worth it because I had a lot of complications. You know, I had a massive septum perforation left in my in my septum, which is just a huge hole in my septum from the first surgery. And I had to get that fixed. I also had my turbinates reduced as well because I had a rhinoplasty, septoplasty and a turbinate reduction.

5:37People don't know what those are. Basically what happened was. Rhinoplasty is the outside. Septoplasty is fixing the septum. So it's deviated. They fix that. But when they fix a deviated septum, they don't actually make it straight. They just cut out the crooked part and put the tissue on top of it and hope it heals. Mine did not. It healed with a perforation. And then I had a turbinate reduction, which is there's these little flaps inside of your nose that are called turbinates. And they help create what's called turbinate airflow, which warms up your air, humidifies it before it goes to your throat.

6:04And one of the reasons why I originally even got the surgery was because my breathing was so bad and I was having to mouth breathe so much. So I always had like strep throat and tonsillitis and just so many annoying throat conditions. And the surgery left me with honestly more complications than I had originally. My breathing has been more labored. It's a lot harder for me to breathe. Now, because my nose is smaller, I have smaller canals, which is already also an issue. And I don't think I should have gotten my turbinates reduced at all, which is something nobody should ever actually do. And I really encourage people to never do it.

6:35My sister, by the way, got a nose job when she was like 16, really young. and she's never breathed properly since. Yeah, yeah. So what I, this is like - And I have a lot of friends who also are in that same situation. This is the part that I really wanted to focus on is the fact that we all see and hear about all the wonderful things. Like, oh yeah, like people are like, go queen. If it makes you feel better, yeah, go for it. But no one ever talks about like the other potentials, like the complications that can happen or like how much does it really make a difference, right? Like, does it really, like you just said earlier, like, you know what?

7:07Yeah, like, does it make you that much more beautiful because you got the nose? It did not turn me into straight Victoria's Secret model. Like, that was not the... But I also didn't get, like, a dramatic one. You know what I mean? Like, I think maybe there are different... You did, actually, by the way. Yeah, but not... Your nose is very different right now. But not compared to what the... Like, I had consults with people who wanted to, like, chop it off. Like, they wanted to go, like, little button nose. Have you looked in the mirror? Yeah, but have you seen other nose drops? Your nose is completely different.

7:33Have you? But have you seen... But, Jen, it's still quite a nose. Have you seen people from Turkey who come in? It's still downturned. I'm not like, I love you, but you're also not looking at my face like I'm looking at my face. I've been to doctors. Like, this is a whole thing. There are people who wanted to literally go and do this. Oh, you mean do a slope? Yeah, or like a butted nose or this. So many people get, like, there are different doctors will do different things. And that's really important for people to know. Because a lot of doctors have different aesthetics. And you have to understand the doctor that you're going to.

8:03And, you know, I did do a significant amount of research. Not enough. Not enough. You need to do way more. And you need to make sure that the person you're going to has both the aesthetic understanding of what it is you're looking for. And also the internal functions of your organs to make sure that you're not messing things up in the long run.

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10:11You said a couple things. You said like, well, maybe now my nose is too small for my face because that's why you can't breathe. For my anatomy. For your anatomy. I think I needed a bigger bridge. You know what I mean? Yeah, no, for my face, visually, I like it. Yeah, visually. I'm happy with that, but I don't know that it's worth the, like, health things it's caused me. Well, listen, at the end of the day, this is what I want to talk about. Like, where, at what point, because you're just one person who's had that experience. Right. I'm just more curious, like, where, again, where is this line drawn?

10:44Like, does it really, like, maybe, I don't know. This is just me, like, talking and riffing with you. Like, how much does it really make a difference? You know what I mean? Like, that's what I'm curious. because I don't like my nose either. Maybe I should get, I'm too scared of a needle, not a needle. I am scared of needles too, but of going out. Like the thing is like, this is a thing. If I didn't have to be out for the count afterwards for six weeks because I need to exercise for my mental health. Like that's the thing. Maybe I would have gotten in my nose a lot. I just didn't want to like have that downtime.

11:13I'm still swollen years later. I went to a dermatologist just last week for my laser facial, which is why I'm healing. and it's literally he was like you're still very swollen. Really? Yeah. How long has it been? Two years. It was two years. And you're still swollen? Yeah, but it takes like time. Like I mean obviously not the same that I was swollen, you know, in the first year of surgery, but it takes time. Like these things are, you're going in and really like messing with your body and people don't understand the severity of that necessarily. Well, because that's the thing, right? Everyone's so flippant.

11:44They're like, yeah, just go get your nose down. It's no big deal. So flippant. So flippant. Just go or just go get your boobs done or just go get your face. Not casual. People are like making it sound like a facelift is like literally going to Starbucks for a latte. Right. It's like not casual. Yeah. I'm like, that seems not so casual. Seems like very, very invasive and scary. Even this laser facial, which like they were like zero downtime, zero downtime, zero downtime. Then I get the instructions for aftercare and it's like stay out of the sun for two weeks. Do this, do that. Like that's not zero downtime.

12:12What kind of facial? Zero downtime is I can go and do every single thing that I was just doing before and look exactly the same. But downtime is different for people. That's so true. Everybody talks about it in different ways. And I think you have to get really specific about what it's going to look like for you. But I just would really caution people. I don't think people shouldn't do it. You know, I think that my situation could have been prevented by a number of different ways. I just think you really want to do a lot of research on your doctor. Don't go to the cheapest person. Don't go to someone who's going to save you money.

12:39Never consider cost. And if cost is a heavy factor for you, then don't do it. Wait till you can actually afford to go to someone who's not going to mess you up. I mean, genuinely, it's one of those things don't cheap out on. You know, a lot of people try and like they'll go here. Just don't. Just go to someone good. But the problem is, though, Shawnee, because now it's become so popular, like that the prices have also skyrocketed. So something that maybe would have cost$8 ,000 now costs$20 ,000. So that's why you said earlier, people are like flying to Turkey, like by the droves. But there's all these funny pictures I'm seeing of like the planes full of people with the hair transplant with with like the bandages all over their faces and heads because of all the different things happening.

13:20So, I mean, or they're going to Tijuana or wherever in Mexico to get these things done. But like, I guess my point is a little bit different than what you're saying. And that is that, like, you know, I think beauty comes from, like, if you from within, if you are someone who is confident and carries yourself a certain way and is, like, happy with who you are and what you look like, that's really hot. I do think so. I don't know. Yes and no. I think that I think it depends on the scenario. There's some people who I've seen and I'm like, yeah, you really needed that. Listen. I'm like, that really helped you.

13:54Like, that's like night and day game changer. Like, that's crazy. The caveat to what I'm saying is I am not begrudging anyone. Like I said, I'm putting myself out there saying if I wasn't such a scaredy cat, I probably would have done something by now. But I'm just a scaredy cat. And so I chose to focus on how to do the best I can with what I was given. Which is honestly great. And I think that we need more examples of that because it's kind of like just become non-existent. But it's hard. We're living in a time when we get constantly reminded of like, oh, and it plays psychological tricks on us.

14:33We think, oh, you mean you could just get a facelift and you'll be good to go in a few days? No, you will not be good to go. People should be a little bit more upfront and honest about what the possible complications and what the downtime is. In real life, who has all this ability to have downtime and not do anything for weeks on end? I mean, humans were not built to see themselves. We were not created to see our reflections. We were not created to see our own outer casings. We just were not, you know, and cameras and mirrors and all these things are modern inventions that have honestly really degraded our own personal self-love.

15:10And I think that like a lot of people, you know, had we been born in the 1800s, would be considered quite beautiful human beings. I think I'm also probably just stating things too Pollyannically. Like, oh, yeah, why don't we just love the way we look? I'm not trying to sound that way. If I do, I apologize. No, no, no, I get what you're saying. I don't mean it that way. I really don't. But I think we would be like that and able to do what you're saying more if we just didn't have, like, these cameras and these angles. It's like we were not meant to know what we look like from the back of our heads.

15:37No, I think this is what I think. I think pre-COVID when we weren't forced to stare at each other on Zoom and we didn't have social media to the extent we have it. and all these things, like, there was a reason why it wasn't, like, it wasn't, like, everyone and their dog running to get surgery. Like, people that you would never expect. People who were dropped dead even beautiful. I can't believe I even did it. I was such a, like, I was so against it for so long. I was scared. And I also just thought it was crazy. You know what someone said to me also was kind of around COVID time, too, but, like, Snapchat filters, which was maybe before.

16:09Yeah. Snapchat filters and then FaceApp and all the face filters. Like, a lot of doctors say that people come in with, like, filtered examples or AI or whatever now. And they're like, I want this, you know, done to me. So, you know, that's definitely, I think, taken a toll. But it's also become way more accessible now for people. Way more accessible. Way more accessible. Everybody and their mother, like, I mean, it's just not even funny how accessible it is. How many people do you know? There's a med spa on every corner in the city. Oh, that was what I was going to say. I don't, but by the way, that could just be in LA, New York, Miami.

16:39Of course. These med spas are popping up like Starbucks. But it's so, but MedSpa is also in other like cities all over the world. But like, but I just do think that it's become so much more common and it's so much easier to get to. Actually, hilarious headline that came out recently, which was that celebrities, now that plastic surgery is becoming so much more accessible and the low class poor people of the world are getting plastic surgery, celebrities are going back to their natural cells. Yes, I know. Did you see that? Yeah, I saw that. And that is a whole other discussion, which is like, okay, so now the upper echelon is going au naturel.

17:12Okay, did you hear that? But they've just convinced us into doing all of this plastic surgery. I love that. Okay, so I was going to bring that up. That was part of my notes in this segment. I want to repeat that because that's very interesting. That now because there's a big headline about this, that because now everybody and their dog is getting so much surgery, the celebrities now feel like they are kind of like kind of like part of the whole you know basically the the common the common folk so now they're going oh natural they're like not getting surgery they're not wearing makeup well they are getting surgery they are wearing makeup but they're doing it way more natural and that's the thing is that now but but those cost a lot of money so like to get the supernatural nose job or the supernatural eye lift this on it's gonna cost you 10x the cost right?

18:00So now it's becoming out of reach. So now shittier plastic surgery that's a bit more generic, a bit more of this is so accessible, but the fine-tuned, fine-touch, perfect whatever, that's far more expensive. Same thing with like filler and Botox. Like you could just go to any med spa and get shut up like crazy. You'll look a little insane or you could spend, you know, 2x the cost per unit and go to somebody who's going to make you look exactly like your teenage self. 2x? 10x, I'm sure. No, for med spa stuff, it's like 2x. But like as in to say like a really good person now instead of it being so obvious they're trying to make you all natural it's like a whole it's it's it's honestly funny how they flip the script but they always do that right what becomes accessible to the poor must then become unaccessible to the rich versus vice versa like you must always maintain that that that separation that class yeah thing it's gonna but but also like facelifts are insane the cost of a facelift i don't know that people understand oh my There are, these facelifts are like$250 ,000.

18:58No more. But can I tell you something? It's fucking crazy. It's for the fancy people. I have my hair. Yeah,$250 ,000, Jen. My hair colorist. Okay. My hair colorist. Okay. She's 68 years old. I'm going to shout out to her. And she wouldn't care if I said this. She's 68. She literally looks 40. I love that. Okay. Oh, I'm sure she wouldn't mind if you said that. No, no, no. She got a lower facelift by a really good dog. But she always looked really. but this is my point but she also probably looked so good her and i talked about this actually yesterday right when i got my hair done she said to me and it's so true it's like if you are pretty before you're going to be pretty after if you're ugly before you're going to be uglier with a tighter face after it's not going to change like what you said earlier but your nose it's not going to make you gorgeous because you're changing what like if you're if you are something before you're going to still be that just enhanced yeah you know i i believe this so my point is she was really pretty before.

19:53She looked really young before. So with this face, but she went to a guy who is like super under the radar. Nobody knows him. He's not on social media. And he was$24 ,000 for her lower facelift. And it is incredible. Oh, well, that's a steal. Okay. But also, he just does the work and doesn't need the whole hoopla around him. And he's so busy he doesn't need to be on social. This is what I think. Let me finish this. Which is important. I think the second a plastic surgeon puts himself on social, Right away, psychologically, I think he's not as good as somebody who's not on there. A hundred percent.

20:27They're spending more time creating content than creating whatever it is, surgeries that they're doing. Absolutely. And it's a big red flag to me when I see that. It's a massive red flag. So this is my big hot take or takeaway. Maybe try to find a doctor who's not trying to be famous on social media. Be a social media plastic surgeon and find one that's just super good. and their head is down doing the actual work offline. And you're going to save yourself also 90 % of the money. Because the doctors I see who are on social, they are charging 10, 20 times. We're talking like the$300 ,000 facial, the$500 ,000 facial.

21:09And they say it's because they're doing this special thing like deplane, this, da, da, da. Meanwhile, you go talk to the doctor that my hairdresser went to. And he's like, we all do deplane or we all do this. We all do that. We're just not like, I'm just not blabbing about it on social media and charging you 500 ,000. But that guy that Kim, you know, obviously Chris, not Kim, Chris Jenner went to Dr. Klein. I think that's his name. I'm not sure. I don't know. I don't know if he was a social media guy or not. I'm not sure. No, he just, she blew him up because other people were taking credit for his work.

21:41So she dropped his name. She was like, no way. Cause I don't think he was a, cause he was just really good. Obviously that is going to send you into a stratosphere, you know, true without him even trying he was he was the only i think he was the anomaly where he was like extremely expensive but not necessarily a social media doctor there's really high quality doctors that are a fortune who are not very active on social but it's not necessarily no no i agree that's what i meant to say yeah it's not necessarily indicative of that like yeah yeah it's not always correlated but it does make it i'm saying 90 of the time that that is the situation but of course there's some that are in manhattan who have such a high even here or beverly hills who have such a high caliber their patients are so rich that they can charge whatever the hell they want or they're very big experts in their field the guy who did my septum perforation who i love jason hamilton i think he's if anyone's looking for a nose person he is literally the guy to go to like he's such an expert in his class for septums no you don't understand there are very few doctors out there who will actually fix a septum perforation okay i said i said i don't know because i don't know who we are unless I don't say yes or no.

22:46As in there's some doctors, but like if they're very published in their field or if they're very, you know, if they're like, there are doctors who within their space are incredibly famous in that field, but they're not necessarily famous to the general public versus like the ones who are like the celebs influence or whatever. But I also think that there's like there's some caveats there. You want to kind of feel out what kind of influencer doctor the person is, because sometimes they just have a killer team and it's not really them doing much. Or sometimes they care so much about it and they're all caught up and they're all, you know and that's not necessarily someone you want yeah no i totally agree with that but um but listen don't cheap out it's really important love yourself also and if you have insecurities before genuinely like you will have them after that was my point that's a good point you will have them after they don't you don't or you'll find other ones by the way like you might you know like i like my nose now i have other shit i don't like you know what i'm saying and also i still sometimes nitpick up my nose right oh true yeah okay that's another great point on to the next what else do i gotta I love that.

23:41It's so true. It's like when you actually have, now you have that taken care of, you're going to fixate on something else that's a problem. You lose weight, you get in shape, you look great, now all of a sudden you have another thing that you don't like about yourself. Now it's like a little bit of loose skin under the arms like you never noticed before. That is human nature to some extent. 100%. Okay, you guys, I've got to wrap this, but Shani, you're the best. Thank you for coming again. Don't forget to subscribe. I love the new studio. I'll come back when my face is healed. Bye.