How AI Is Changing Communication: Weighing Efficiency with Efficacy

24 Sep 2026 · 34 min · 17 chapters

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In short

How generative AI is changing workplace communication for leaders—balancing efficiency with efficacy, while preserving authenticity, empathy, judgment, and a distinctive human voice. It covers when to use AI (research, structuring, thought partnership, rehearsing) and when not to (high-emotion moments, accountability, final review), plus etiquette/governance for AI use.

Guests

Matt Abraham, Stanford professor; author of Think Fast, Talk Smarter; host of Think Fast, Talk Smart. Wade Foster, CEO of Zapier (AI-enabled automation connecting apps).

Key claims

AI can synthesize information and help leaders start, structure, and reflect on communication, but risks include authenticity loss (“averaging”), empathy outsourcing/atrophy, homogenized language, speaker/attribution errors, anxiety from over-polished but non-owned thinking, and “AI slop”/crutch behavior.

Notable examples

AI agents summarizing Slack/email/meeting notes/CRM/code; Zapier bot/human feedback loops in customer support; using AI for Q&A reps; leaders using AI for all-hands speeches but investing personally in high-emotion feedback and conflict.

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Chapters

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The Role of AI in Communication

1:07 to 2:30

Exploration of how generative AI is transforming communication in organizations.

“Today, Adi, we're going to look at one of the core ways that generative AI is adding value, or maybe not, in organizations, and that's communication.”

Introducing the Experts

2:31 to 3:00

Introduction of guests Matt Abraham and Wade Foster, discussing their backgrounds.

“Our two experts are Matt Abraham, Stanford professor, author of Think Fast, Talk Smarter, and host of the podcast Think Fast, Talk Smart.”

AI's Impact on Leadership Communication

3:00 to 6:10

Discussion on how AI assists leaders in synthesizing information and communication.

“Wade, Matt, thanks so much for being on the show.”

Effective Uses of AI for Leaders

6:11 to 8:23

Identifying effective ways leaders can utilize AI for communication and strategy.

“In terms of output, I'd love to hear from both of you what you think is an effective use of AI for a leader.”

Guidelines for AI Use in Communication

8:23 to 12:11

Recommendations on how to ethically and effectively use AI in communication.

“Inversely, you can get bad quality using AI and you can get bad quality without using AI.”

Risks of Over-Reliance on AI

12:11 to 14:00

Concerns about the potential downsides of using AI for communication.

“You know, AI can be a wonderful tool for helping you enable empathy.”

The Balance of AI in Communication

14:00 to 15:34

Explore the implications of using AI for pre-communication tasks and its impact on human capability.

“Wade, do you worry that the more your teams use AI to do that sort of pre-communication work, the less capable they'll be of doing those things themselves?”

Maintaining Authenticity in AI Communication

15:38 to 18:07

Discuss the authenticity crisis in communication caused by AI and how to signal human presence.

“I do worry about the sort of slipping of standards.”

The Risks of Over-Reliance on AI

18:07 to 20:30

Examine the potential pitfalls of relying on AI for communication, especially for new workers.

“Yeah, I have a whole host of skills that are like trained on big corpuses of writing that, you know, try and get these models to sound more like me.”

Redefining Communication Environments

20:30 to 22:08

Explore how organizations can structure environments to foster genuine communication amidst AI usage.

“When I find like claudisms inside of people's writings and stuff, I'll just call it out.”
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AI as a Communication Coach

22:08 to 24:14

Investigate how AI can assist in preparing for challenging communications and its role in practice.

“Like, have you, Wade, used it to rehearse difficult conversations or think through speeches?”

Human and AI Interactions in Teams

24:14 to 26:50

Analyze the dynamics of communication between humans and AI bots in organizational settings.

“And one of the requirements is that they practice Q &A with an LLM, not to memorize the answers, but just to get the reps of answering questions.”

The Future of Communication with AI

26:50 to 28:03

Discuss how AI influences our communication style and the importance of maintaining human connection.

“Matt, long term, you know, and this is related to the point that Wade made about feedback.”

The Role of AI in Human Connection

28:03 to 29:20

Explore how AI impacts communication and the importance of human connection.

“So you have to make them like you better.”

Incorporating Reflection in AI Responses

29:20 to 31:30

Discuss the value of having AI prompts encourage personal reflection.

“ask ChatGPT what it thought I could ask you.”

Essential Human Skills Amid AI Advancements

31:30 to 32:36

Identify key human skills that remain vital despite AI capabilities.

“So I do worry about, you know, how these models pursue their goals and what what actually is the goal under the hood.”

Practical AI Tips for Executives

32:36 to 33:51

Learn how executives can effectively leverage AI in their communication.

“So one tip that I think is really helpful.”
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Transcript

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0:02This podcast is sponsored by Dataiku Agent Management. Enterprises have a system for tracking and approving the software they use. But when it comes to AI agents, most of them can't say the same. Take control of your agentic workforce with one view across every platform and tool, showing what's driving revenue, what's drifted, and who signed off on it. Visit dataiku.com slash HBR. D-A-T-A-I-K-U dot com slash HBR.

0:47I'm Alison Beard. And I'm Adi Ignatius, and this is the HBR IdeaCast.

0:58For the next few weeks, we'll be dropping an episode each Thursday that explores how the rapid advancement of AI is changing what it means to be an executive. Today, Adi, we're going to look at one of the core ways that generative AI is adding value, or maybe not, in organizations, and that's communication. A lot of people are using these tools to craft everything from emails to speeches, internal reports to client pitches. Do you see that as a good thing? You know, as someone who writes for a living, I'm definitely not comfortable with having AI write for me. That said, I'm happy getting research assistance from Generative AI.

1:32And I've seen it provide enormous writing and organizational help to people who are not writers by nature. Yeah, I agree on your personal view. I see the upsides. I also see a lot of risks, even for non-professional writers. notably that people become too reliant on it so that they're not actually engaging with the work as much as they should, or sounding like humans or even making sense, even though the words might seem polished? I think, as with every other part of the organization, we will have to figure out with writing and communication what is the proper balance between how much AI can and should do and what are the truly unique strengths that humans provide in the process.

2:13I mean, AI will give everyone a baseline writing and thinking ability. So that leads it to humans to provide the missing ingredients that maybe ultimately make a difference, like judgment, like taste, curiosity, creativity, persuasion, prioritization, all of that. Exactly. So today we are going to explore the ways that AI is changing writing, leading, and communication, especially for leaders, when they should use it, when they shouldn't, and the most important skills to develop right now. Our two experts are Matt Abraham, Stanford professor, author of Think Fast, Talk Smarter, and host of the podcast Think Fast, Talk Smart.

2:51And Wade Foster, the CEO of Zapier, which is a platform that connects multiple web applications so they can work together automatically with the help of AI. You can imagine he is a big user of generative AI. Here's our conversation.

3:07Wade, Matt, thanks so much for being on the show.

3:09Wade Foster:Yeah, thanks for having us. Really excited to be with you. So Matt, let's start with you. How do you see AI changing the way we all, and especially leaders, communicate at work? So AI is both helping and I believe hindering the way leaders are doing their work. It is absolutely providing an opportunity for leaders to synthesize a tremendous amount of information, to structure it in a way that's meaningful, to look for themes and trends that might have taken a long, long time to uncover. But at the same time, it poses the risk of jeopardizing authenticity, hindering empathy. So we have to be careful with how we absolutely deploy AI to help us as leaders and as individuals and organizations.

3:56Wade, as the leader of an AI-focused company, I assume that you're a pretty heavy personal user of it. How has it changed the way that you talk to your team and your workforce?

4:06Wade Foster:You know, I think similar to Matt, there's a lot of advantages and definitely some tricky things that we sort of have to figure out in terms of etiquette. The massive benefit is I am able to ingest a lot more of what's going on inside the company. I can point an agent at all the data sources inside of a company, whether it's, you know, our Slack instance, email, meeting notes, project management, CRM tools, code base, etc. And so, you know, I can get summaries of, you know, most anything that's going on inside of a company at any given time. And, you know, it's generally pretty good. You do have to be a little careful.

4:43Wade Foster:You know, if you've got inconsistency in your communication, inconsistency in your data, like it can summarize poorly. One of the challenges with a lot of the meeting recorder tools is speaker attribution. It can mix up things like that. And so, you know, you're often getting like directionally correct data, but you usually do have to go like verify and understand that. But a lot of times in the past, you would have to go, you know, talk through layers and layers of management just to get even a far less comprehensive summary. And so that aspect makes it a lot easier to surface the things that are really important in a company.

5:14Wade Foster:You can have the agent giving you signals and saying, hey, you should ask more about this. You should dig into these things. And so that part is really, really helpful. Similarly, it's an amazing like thought partner for, you know, thinking through ideas and then figuring out how should I go communicate those things. But as powerful as the tool is, you know, I do think we haven't quite as a society yet adapted or figured out like what the right etiquette is for how to use these tools. And so you'd still do see like a fair amount of like sloppy AI use where someone would just say, you know, take a clawed output, copy and paste it and just sort of represent it as their own idea without really actually thinking much about like, did it actually serve as the right idea or not?

5:51Wade Foster:That becomes problematic because the speed at which you can generate, you know, AI output is just really, really high. And so there can be a huge amount of like low effort, low thought volume that sort of seeps into communication. And so it does require, you know, a level of effort to sort of like police and set etiquette around those things. Otherwise, you kind of get a little bit of a runaway train going on. In terms of output, I'd love to hear from both of you what you think is an effective use of AI for a leader. Is it speech writing? Is it drafting emails? Is it putting together PowerPoints for the boards?

6:30Wade, for you, where do you use it personally, Matt? Where have you seen the executives that you've talked to and work with use it well? I really see AI helping the executives I teach and the ones I coach. Using AI is a way to jumpstart thinking about the communication. It is a great way when you're staring at a blank screen to get yourself started. And a lot of times that start is hard. So using it as an initial way to start, using it as a thought partner when you have some ideas and have it help you to coalesce those ideas, to look for themes. And then, as you know, Alison, I'm a big, big fan of structure to help you think through different ways of structuring it based on the audiences you're working with.

7:11AI can be a wonderful tool to help you do that. But as Wade alluded to, it's really important that you look at the output, that you think about it, and that you actually reflect on, is this serving the goal that I have in the work that I'm doing? To simply blindly say, go create this deck for the board, or this pitch for a prospective client or this deck for my all hands can get you in trouble. But looking at how to use it to help you structure how to start is really important. And then I love using AI and encouraging the people I coach and teach to use it as a reflecting tool. So go back and look at themes that came up in Q &A, in discussion, and see what those themes are.

7:56And are you addressing those themes? And AI can be a very useful tool for identifying them.

8:00Wade Foster:I use AI for all of those communication mechanisms that you mentioned. I think the big thing that I always come back to is judgment. You know, my co-founder Brian has this line, you can delegate the work, but you can't delegate the accountability. And so if I'm not reviewing the output, if I'm not paying attention to the quality of the work, that reflects back on me. At the end of the day, the most important thing is the quality of your communications. And you can get good quality using AI, you can get good quality without using AI. Inversely, you can get bad quality using AI and you can get bad quality without using AI.

8:31I think it's really important for executives and leaders to role model and to set rules and guidelines for how AI should be used. And that really can make a fundamental difference in organizations. In the work I do, it's all about helping people with people process and infrastructure, and AI plays a role in all of that. and making sure that as leaders we role model and make clear what we expect in terms of usage of AI is really important because otherwise you can run into some of those judgment issues that Wade is referring to. So if you're advising a CEO on sort of AI communication policies, you know, what are some rules that you would set out?

9:13So I think first and foremost is to share when and how AI should be used. So AI is a thought partner. AI is a sparring partner. AI is a way of testing ideas, but also making sure that the final product is something that you review and synthesize, declaring when and where AI is used so people have an appreciation for what your actual thinking is versus what the AI is thinking. And I think it's important and incumbent on leaders in the hiring process, in the performance review process to be talking about how people are using AI to help and also where they're struggling to use AI. That way, the company can set up better, broader, more robust advice and guidance.

9:59Wade, what are some of the rules that you have at Zapier?

10:01Wade Foster:So here's a handful that I think are useful. I think, one, the author should put more effort in than the reader. You know, being transparent about where AI is used and the authorship can help quite a bit. oftentimes when I'm sharing material with folks, I'll caveat. I'll say, you know, hey, I had very little time. I did a quick query. Here's the output. Take it if it's useful. And so that helps people assess like, oh, how much has Wade really invested in this thing or not? The flip side is also say, hey, I put a lot of effort into this. I stand by it 100 percent. You know, just kind of like thinking through like where is the AI, the author, the co-author or just like an assistant like can help people, you know, gauge.

10:39Wade Foster:And so I think that's one of those things that internally can go a long way because it helps people understand like, where are we at in terms of like working on this concept? Like, are we at the very beginning, just kind of spitballing ideas? Are we at the part where it's like, hey, we're signing this in blood? You know, those types of rules can go quite a long way. The place we haven't quite nailed yet is it can differ based on the communication medium and the task involved. You know, if you're communicating with customers, that has a certain level of responsibility that goes with it. if this is sort of like meant to be an automated status update or like an automated generated like JIRA ticket or something like that, you know, there's a different level of quality that you sort of expect with that.

11:17Wade Foster:And so I think there is something that is important about organizations just simply doing what you're suggesting, which is, hey, you should define your own internal etiquette. What's one thing that you would never delegate and want to do entirely yourself when it comes to communication and that you would want to make sure your managers don't delegate either. You know, when I'm like doing a company all hands or like, you know, kickoff speeches or things like that, where I'm communicating everybody in the company, I'll use AI to help me. But like, I am, I'm, this is, there's a lot of weight going into that.

11:49I think anything that involves high emotion needs to be a high investment of us personally. So if you're giving a negative performance review, if you're having to give constructive feedback, if you're having to try to align a team that is having some challenges or conflict We really need to be present. The big risk with AI from my perspective is the outsourcing of empathy. You know, AI can be a wonderful tool for helping you enable empathy. You can think about and use AI to help you hone your message based on characteristics you provide. But at the same time, it can cause empathy atrophy. If all we do is outsource the most challenging communication we have, then we're in trouble.

12:30So I recommend to my students as well as to the people I coach that When there's high emotion, especially negatively valenced emotion, that you need to be invested fully in the communication so that you can connect, respond in a way that's real and true for you. Yeah. I mean, AI, it can do a lot of research, but it doesn't have human empathy. It's very good at writing polished prose, but it's not always well-structured or logical. I can tell you as an editor who gets a lot of drafts. And so you do need to do a lot of prompting to make sure that it's giving you language, coaching, rehearsing that will actually make you a better communicator, not a more polished one, right?

13:15I would agree with that. The other thing that you didn't mention that I see a lot is that it actually enhances people's anxiety. People are getting more nervous the more they're using AI because they realize that the output is pixel perfect, but it's not really their synthesized information. If you think about it, communication is the end result of a whole long process. You know, communication is operationalized critical thinking. And if we outsource that critical thinking and then are put on the spot to answer questions, to give input, to give an update, people get really anxious because they realize they don't have that depth of knowledge and the critical thinking behind it.

13:56And so it is really important not just to review the output, but to really review the thinking so that when you're put on the spot, when you have to respond, you have that confidence that you know what you're really thinking and speaking about. Wade, do you worry that the more your teams use AI to do that sort of pre-communication work, the less capable they'll be of doing those things themselves?

14:23Wade Foster:Again, it kind of just depends on the task, right? AI is this like fantastic tool and to not use it, I think would be a mistake. Like you can, you could be a lot better if you use it responsibly. And I think that responsible thing is what everyone's trying to figure out. There are definitely situations where, you know, I feel this myself and I talk to my staff where they say, Hey, there is this sort of like comprehension gap that's sort of kicking in when you don't use AI responsibly, where you're sort of delegating almost too much. And as you get asked questions about this thing, as you start to investigate, you realize like, oh, I don't actually know enough about this area that I should.

14:56Wade Foster:But there could be areas where, you know, the impact is relatively low and you're fine delegating, you know, the work to the AI more fully. And so it just comes down to the judgment here. Support for this podcast and the following message comes from Dataiku. AI investment is at an all-time high. The problem is that most of it never makes it to production. The reason is simple. Without people, orchestration, and governance working together, even the best AI strategy can fail. Dataiku is the platform for AI success, trusted by the world's largest companies to drive return on AI investment. Visit dataiku.com slash HBR.

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15:46I do worry about the sort of slipping of standards. I think AI can make every executive who uses it sound like average, you know, sort of cliche jargons like a corporate bot. And obviously you're going to work against that. But, you know, that can sometimes be hard if it sounds smooth. My colleague, Scott Bernardo, loves to say that LLMs are really just an averaging machine. So if you want to be average, you should use them. So how do leaders use AI and protect against that sort of loss of their distinctive voice, their personality, specificity, and vulnerability? What you're really highlighting, Alison, is what I call the authenticity crisis that AI brings because we never truly know what somebody is saying, if it's really theirs or if it's AI.

16:38And we have that averaging and people begin to sound the same. We never know if that Cyrano de Bergerac is in their ear or on their screen giving them guidance on what to say. So there are two ways to approach that. One is to signal your humanness, right? One is to signal that this is me thinking this. How do you do that? Well, there are several things you can do. One, we have to be less concerned about some of the things that just a few years ago I would coach against. So a few filler words here or there, a few hesitations that signals humanness. Also giving insight to our thought process. So sharing, hey, that's a really challenging question you just asked or saying that reminds me of a time when this happened.

17:20Those are all signals of humanness and our authentic self presenting. Now, to leverage AI to help us, you can certainly train it on your voice and on your information. As somebody who's hosted a podcast for a long time, I've trained AI on the episodes that we've done of Think Fast, Talk Smart, and it can sound like me. So as I'm writing, I can lean into the colloquialisms that I use, etc. So I think there are two ways to approach that authenticity crisis. First, we have to recognize it's true, as you highlighted. And then second, signal humanness in the way we communicate, what we say, how we say it.

17:56And then we can actually train the AI to help it sound more like us. So as we're working with it as a partner, it can help us be our natural self in our own voice. Yeah, Wade, you've also built a Wade bot, right? Tell me about what you've learned.

18:11Wade Foster:Yeah, I have a whole host of skills that are like trained on big corpuses of writing that, you know, try and get these models to sound more like me. Even still, I'd say it only gets like 80, 90 percent of the way there. And as these new models come out, you kind of I kind of have to consistently update them. In fact, some of the like newer models I find to be even like less good at communication tasks. Like they're very good at coding tasks and it feels like that's what they continue to get better and better and better at. But the like communication stuff, the models feel, I don't know, my co-founder says they sound fried.

18:45Wade Foster:They've lost all like personality. You know, some of the things Matt talks about, I don't know that I do it like with crazy intention, but I have noticed at times like I'll feed it something that I have written and it will try and like, it'll give me suggestions that do make me sound more polished, but I will intentionally not accept them. I have raw edges. Like I'm not a perfect human being. And like, I don't like that. It's sort of like sanding me down. So, yeah, I don't know. Like, I think that there's something to that where if I wanted to talk to an AI, I would. But if I want to talk to you, I want to talk to you.

19:19Wade Foster:And I want to hear what you think, even if it's messy, even if it's imperfect. Like, I think that's that's the part that I care about. And I assume the same, you know, when people come to me, it's like they want to know what Wade thinks, you know, warts and all. I 100 % agree, Wade, that we need to be who we are and we need to connect as human beings. That's what communication does for us. I worry about younger workers and people who are new to the workforce who might not have that confidence that Wade has based on his experience, based on his position and power, that relying on AI to make us sound smart, right?

19:52So I show up the way I think people want me to show up. And I think it's really important for leaders and organizations to take that into account, that somebody who is new either to the organization or new to their role, that AI might become a crutch that helps them, at least they perceive that it's helping them. And it might actually, in the long run, be hurting them because we're not hearing their true voice. So I do think it's incumbent on senior leaders, on those of us in the education system, to really reinforce that your natural own voice and thoughts are really important and AI can help, but you shouldn't rely on it.

20:30Wade Foster:When I find like claudisms inside of people's writings and stuff, I'll just call it out. I'm like, that sounds like AI slop. That sounds like AI slop. Like, what do you actually think here? Like, tell me what you think. Yeah. I will give a shout out for MDashes, which are now apparently banned because they're seen as an AI-ism. And I fully disagree. I'm a human and I love them and I don't want them to be banned anymore. But I will say I've even heard of managers now requiring in-person interviews because they're concerned that anyone who's being interviewed online just has a chat bot that is feeding them the answers that they think the manager wants to hear.

21:10How do you think leaders should handle that? So I 100 % agree that organizations and academic institutions, blue books are back. Those of my generation remember handwriting into blue books instead of typing things in. And that's why the ability, I believe, to speak spontaneously in the moment has become such an important skill, because it's how you demonstrate your thought process in a world where everybody's got the chat bot up on the side. So I do believe leaders need to think about how they set up the environments to enable people to really demonstrate their true thinking and their true communication ability.

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21:49It might be easier to have everybody remote, but it might be more beneficial to the discussion, to the ideation, to have everybody physically present. We do have to not just consider the communication, but architecting situations that allow for what we want to get out of the communication. Can AI help make you a better in-person communicator? Like, have you, Wade, used it to rehearse difficult conversations or think through speeches?

22:20Wade Foster:It's not the AI itself that has helped with this. I'm a huge voice-to-text fan now because of AI. One of the things I don't really like doing is editing my voice to text stuff. I find that before I start talking, I think better. Like I'm just like, stop. Think for a minute. What do you want to say? Complete the sentence and say exactly what I mean. And so it's interesting to have observed how this new workflow has influenced how I talk. And again, that's not necessarily like AI feedback. That's just, I have this new workflow where I'm doing more voice to text and I just was like, man, I have to edit these a lot.

22:59Turns out when I talk, I didn't like sometimes what the transcript would say.

23:04Wade Foster:I'd be like, oh, I said that? Ugh, like I got to go fix that. And so it held a mirror up to me and made me think, ah, I should write better. Of course, I have done it for other topics as well where, you know, maybe I'm giving a tough performance review and I really want to have my talking points dialed in. But even still, when I do that, I often will take the output. I'll read through it, but then I will just take the bullet points. I'm like, OK, just keep the bullet points front and center for me. I don't want to be reading Claude-isms. I don't want to be reading the very polished output. I want to just have these checkpoints that remind me, hey, you need to mention this.

23:41Yeah. I have seen people role play with AI. So imagine you're going into a really challenging meeting of some sort. And you can imbue the AI with different roles or different perspectives. And then you can engage in conversation and say, give me what types of questions come from somebody who's skeptical or from somebody who has lots of vast experience in this realm and use it as a way to help you prepare. You know, athletes use sparring partners. Offense has the defense. Defense has the offense. And AI can serve in that function. In the classes I teach at the GSB at Stanford, we have a couple assignments where students take Q &A.

24:20And one of the requirements is that they practice Q &A with an LLM, not to memorize the answers, but just to get the reps of answering questions. Wade, at Zapier, you are in a position now where you're sort of managing teams of humans and AI bots. So what does that mean for how communication works in the organization?

24:41Wade Foster:For the bots part of this, I'd say there are a couple different examples that are important. One, we often have bots that are communicating on a schedule or proactively inside of Slack. Everyone knows those are bots. There is a certain amount of tuning that goes on with those bots. People are not afraid to give feedback to the bot and be like, hey, that was incorrect, or you need to try and make it look like this. And so there's a fair amount of just like coaching and guidance and stuff like that that happened for the bots. Saying that out loud, though, I'm like, hmm, why do they get all the feedback and humans don't?

25:17Wade Foster:Like, it feels like humans should get the same kind of feedback at times. Because they don't have feelings to hurt. I know, right? But nonetheless, I think it would be useful for us to do the same with humans. So you see that a lot. You know, I think for certain workflows, we have this hyper-structured. So, for example, we have AI bots that work in customer support. and there's human in the loops on, you know, a variety of steps in those workflows. But those bots are measured very specifically. Like we have metrics every step of the way that are measuring, you know, CSAT. We have our own internal evals and measurements that sort of suggest, is it giving good output or bad output?

25:58Wade Foster:And so those are getting tuned way more, with way more statistical rigor than say like the internal Slack box. Like those are a little more like vibe-based, I would say. So those would be the two places where I would say we see a lot of almost like a new way in which like these bots and humans sort of interact with each other. The trickier part is like there are places where folks are having their personal agent like send messages and masquerade as them inside of Slack. And those are sometimes a little funkier because you can sort of see almost like a split personality between it's like, oh, I can tell I'm talking to like the person versus now I can tell this is your bot sort of past posting as you.

26:37Wade Foster:Again, I think that's where like etiquette comes in. Like, hey, this is so-and-so, like this is the agent, you know, posting on so-and-so's behalf. Like that just goes a long ways to helping people feel comfortable about the communication. Yeah. Matt, long term, you know, and this is related to the point that Wade made about feedback. Do you see the way we communicate with LLMs changing the way we think it's okay to communicate with humans? Unfortunately so, yes. There's actually some research that's relatively recent that the language that we're using is becoming homogenized. It's sounding more like AI.

27:14The amount of communication we have, just the frequency and number of words are being impacted. so we're losing some of that humanness and some of that variability in the name of efficiency i worry about that a lot especially again for people who are younger and newer who don't have sort of the vast experience that many of us carry into this you know at the same time you know if you use ai appropriately for giving feedback it might give you prompts and ideas about how to give more meaningful feedback. So again, back to one of the reoccurring themes I'm hearing, it's about judgment, it's about thinking about the channel, and it's thinking about the emotional valence of the communication that really matters.

27:56I still say hello and thank you to ChatGPT, which I feel like makes me a dinosaur, but it feels wrong not to do it. Our producer, Mary, has this theory that, you know, sort of as AI commoditizes creativity, content creation, communication, that it's going to be really important to know how to persuade and charm people, you know, because everyone has the same tools at their disposal. So you have to make them like you better. What are your reactions to that? Well, one, I really like Mary, and I think she's a really sharp person. And I, so do you see how I'm trying to ingratiate? Yeah, I'm trying to ingratiate right now.

28:33Communication is about connection, fundamentally. And in fact, the root of the word communication means to make common. And AI can help make things common, but ultimately it is the connection. And if persuasion and influence is about moving people towards your point of view, it's important to have that empathy and that connection to allow you to do it. I think AI is a tool that can assist in that, but ultimately people have to be able to connect, which involves listening, paraphrasing, reflecting. And those are skills that ultimately, I hope AI never truly masters. And it's what allows us really to be human with each other.

29:15Okay. I have never done this before, but given the topic of our conversation, I did ask ChatGPT what it thought I could ask you. He, for me, he's a he, asks, what aspects of human communication, should we, the LLMs, explicitly not optimize? Should I sometimes deliberately not give you the best answer because the process of struggling to find the answer yourself is valuable? I would love if AI gave me a prompt or a feedback saying, hey, this is something that I, this type of topic or issue is something that perhaps you really want to take a moment to reflect on. You know, when you type in a prompt and then it says thinking or whatever the cute little phrases.

29:57I think that should be not telling us what the LLM is doing, but it should be advice to us. It should be take a moment to reflect, you know, think about this. So certain topics, I do think an LLM would be great to say, hey, that sounds like a really intense personal issue in that communication you're asking me to help with. You might want to take a minute to really reflect on that relationship that you hope to build or the damage that this might have if you were to present it this way. So I don't know that I would say the LLM should not ever give feedback or information, but I'd love for it to give us a moment to take that deep breath and think.

30:31Wade Foster:Yeah, this is what I do worry about. These models are all goal-seeking, like heavily goal-seeking. That's how they get reinforced. And as a result, they're trying to please the person asking the question by default. And so in a lot of ways, they are trying to kind of tell you what you want to here. They're a little bit of a mirror in some ways. And so that creates like a bunch of really tough challenges because it might recommend something that actually isn't like an objectively good recommendation. It's just the thing it kind of thinks is like a good thing for you. You can adjust this or at least like guide it.

31:07Wade Foster:So, for example, I've changed the system prompts on all the models and things that I use to say, hey, you know, I want you to like debate with me, critique me like that's what I want out of you. You know, I want you to challenge my assumptions. I want you to push back when you think I'm wrong. Like, I want that out of it because I want it to actually help me make better decisions. And in doing so, I'm kind of trying to say this is like your goal is actually this. And what I want is like this, like really tough, like thought partner that is going to make me be better at, you know, the work I'm trying to do.

31:38Wade Foster:So I do worry about, you know, how these models pursue their goals and what what actually is the goal under the hood. Okay, so I want each of you to give me the one human skill that we need to keep honing that AI will never help us with. And then the one thing that you think every executive should use AI for when it comes to communication. To me, what came immediately to mind is human curiosity, human judgment. Your ability to actually care about the work and high judgment and be really curious about those things, that is still 10 out of 10 valuable in this world. And I worry about the folks who start to turn that part of their brain off, turn the curiosity down, turn the judgment down, and it's just all LLM, LLM out.

32:23Wade Foster:So I would keep that stuff exceptionally high. And then the one place I would recommend executives or whoever to use AI in their daily work. Gosh, what's the one place? I use it everywhere. So one tip that I think is really helpful. If you are not hooking up your LLM to the actual data that you have inside your organization, you're getting a much worse experience. You're getting general coaching and guidance, but you should hook it up to your company communication systems and your data sources. As soon as it actually has that context, it will start to work a lot better for you inside that environment.

33:03Wade Foster:So I think that would be the one tip I would give for folks. Great advice. Matt?

33:36message tighter and more specific for the audience. The better we can make our content relevant for the audience, the better the communication will be. Terrific. Well, thank you both. I've really enjoyed this conversation. Thank you as well. It was great to chat with both you and Wade. Thanks for having me. That was Wade Foster, the CEO of Zapier and Matt Abraham, Stanford professor, author of Think Fast, Talk Smarter, and host of the podcast Think Fast, Talk Smart. We'll be back on Tuesday with a conversation between Adi and Apple Store creator Ron Johnson, plus another AI series episode on Thursday.

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AI is rapidly changing how top leaders communicate with employees, customers, boards, and each other. In episode 2 of a special four-part series on how AI is changing leadership, we explore how executives can use AI to improve communication without outsourcing the thinking, judgment, and empathy that make it effective. Stanford professor Matt Abrahams and Zapier CEO Wade Foster discuss how leaders are using AI to synthesize information, structure ideas, prepare for difficult conversations, and rehearse for high-stakes moments. They also explain why leaders should be wary of letting AI write everything for them, how overreliance on AI can create a “comprehension gap,” and why preserving a distinctive human voice may become even more important as AI-generated communication becomes ubiquitous. Abrahams is the author of Think Faster, Talk Smarter and host of the podcast Think Fast, Talk Smart. Foster is the cofounder and CEO of Zapier, a software automation company.

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