24. Julie Seifert: From Jets Roots To Colts Rise & Behind the Indianapolis Franchise

32:29So like when we were studying for classes or tests, I was also studying or if we were all hanging out, it was all of us hanging out together. And then I think it even plays into it now with like respecting each other's time. I think that's like, I don't know. Like I always say this, I don't know if it would have worked if Matt wasn't as busy as he was because having one that's really busy and not the other, it's very easy to like resent and say like, why do you spend all your time doing this? And I respect the hell out of everything and every film session that he would have to go back for. That happened one time.

33:01We were on like our anniversary dinner and we were like at this Italian place and then he had to go back for like a late night review session or something. And I was just like, really? but I was like really so like we got our Italian to go or whatever but like I guess I'll eat my ravioli in my bed yeah I know I was like darn but like secretly I was like okay you're like PJs okay yeah it I think that's like the biggest thing is allotting the time for when you need it like I tried really hard to also balance my friends and my relationship too because I've seen so many people get mad at their friends for always hanging out with their boyfriend and stuff.

33:42And while I never wanted to always have one foot out the door with my relationship with Matt, I always wanted to make sure that like I also had one foot in with my relationship with my friends. So he was always traveling on Fridays. And even for home games, they stay in the hotels too. So Friday night where I was with my girls, and then I'd wake up, shower, and then get down to the stadium super early and see him do his walk-in with his suit. They call it like the Panther Pro. And his mom was so nice. She'd always have like coffee for me. And so I'd see her and then my friends would get down later.

34:14Then I'd tell you with them and spend three quarters of the game with them. And then the last quarter I'd go down with Matt's family so I can meet up with him after. So it was kind of like mixing parts. And then if they won Saturdays, maybe I would go out. But if they didn't win, then my friends knew I probably wasn't making it out. You were consoling. Yeah, exactly. So, but yeah, you divvy it up and it was just great. I was really, really, really lucky. Yeah. It seems nice too that you, since you built, like the expectations were built early in your relationship. So like the allotment of time.

34:50And so now that you guys are in similar situations, but elevated where you're now in med school and he's now in the NFL, you kind of already have the groundwork for understanding how to like manage those conversations and respect each other's time, which I'm sure is helpful. And you're also long distance right now. Yes. Yeah. How is that going? So I think it's like, it is difficult because right now it's like a five and a half, six hour distance. But even if I was there, like I go there when I'm on my block breaks and he's so busy during the day too. So even when I am there, I don't really see him too much, which sounds bad, but it's true.

35:34He's busy. He's got work to do, you know? So I think the biggest thing is we just kind of prop each other up on FaceTime. And like, it sounds bad, but like, sometimes we don't really talk. It's just like him looking at film or him like watching TV and me studying. So yeah. But you're just like together. Yeah. And people are like, Oh, that's so hard. Like, how do you make it work? And I'm like, well, if it's something you care about and things like it really doesn't feel that hard. And also to like, you were saying, it's like, we don't really know any other way of just other than us being both really busy and working really hard right now for our goals that we've kind of set ourselves up for.

36:11So I think we're both doing ourselves and each other a disservice to sacrifice anything that we're have going for us right now. Yeah, I love that. I think that's like, great for people to hear, especially like women who have desires for careers, like you going to med school is massive. Like getting into med school is hard enough in itself. And then to like be in, in a situation where you're in like a long distance partnership and you're managing all of these other things, like just hats off to you for being, you know, just a complete badass and like managing these things like poise and like consistently doing your best and like not giving up what you had imagined for yourself because like situations have changed or, or anything like that.

36:55I just think that it's really cool that you're so committed to it and able to kind of commit to your relationship as well. How has your life changed since Matt was drafted in 2024? Honestly, I wouldn't say it was like too, too much different. Yeah. I don't know. I think sometimes you'll get like weird looks, especially for going out around Indiana when like people just come up to us. Not really too much, honestly. Yeah, I think like it just is. It sounds so bad, but like I grew up loving the Jets and everything that we had talked about and just like loving sports and everything that sometimes I have a hard time like remembering that he is a professional athlete, which is silly as it sounds.

37:46I think the other thing too is just like, yeah, I don't know. I think it's like been pretty much the same, just like elevated, like you were saying. But it's been awesome. It has allowed him to keep going for his dream and his goal that he's worked so hard for. And yeah, I think it just, and also too, with the other point we were making, like, I don't think I'd be able to be where I am without his support. And he's just as excited for me with different things as I am for him. So now it's just like that we get to be excited for each other just on a different, the next level now instead of college.

38:23So it's been great. Yeah. I love that. Okay. So you've been a football fan forever on this show. I have been very outspoken about Carly specifically, but the Ursae women. And if you are listening to this episode for the first time, you don't know about the Colts. Jim Ursay, the owner of the Colts, passed away and left the team to his three daughters, who are now running and the owners of the team. And Carly has been on the field a lot with headphones on, taking notes. She's, you know, one of the only owners that we see on the TV, particularly because she's a female owner at this point. But she's just gotten into the press for, A, her fashion, and B, being a female owner that's deeply integrating herself into the franchise, which has gotten an insanely good response, but also some backlash because the internet is the internet.

39:20But I would love to kind of talk to you a little bit about this like really breakout season for the Colts. The last three weeks have been obviously the roughest for them, but they won when we were in Berlin. They've had a really winning season. People have been calling for Jonathan Taylor's name to be in the MVP race, for Daniel Jones's name to be in the race. And then on the completely other side, the Jets. So I'm going to let you kind of take what you will with that and tell me your opinions on the season, either from the Colts perspective, Jets perspective, or NFL overall. Yeah. So it sounds so bad.

40:04I used to be such a diehard Jets fan and know so much about it. And like just Sundays are super fun, but also way more nerve wracking nowadays. So I really haven't kept up with the Jets too much. Like I'll ask my dad and he suffers and it's kind of the same since I was growing up. but yeah I I like I know that there was like a lot of shifts going on with coaching as of last year after Robert Tala had left and everything so I know my dad says it best with the Jets like you just there's just so many different aspects that need to be fixed and changed and whether it's culture of a team and having the stadium in Jersey and you share it halfway through with the giants and stuff like that.

40:56So from his perspective, I hope they win because they care so much, my whole family. But from the Colts, I would say, yeah, Carly and the rest of them are badasses. And I think that they have really taken the team by the reins and done a great job with everything in the coaching staff. And I can't speak too much on game plan with eats thing. I just know it from being engaged to someone who, and at the end of the day, it is a business. So being engaged with someone who's in that business, there wasn't any skip of a beat with transitioning over and he's loved it. He like says all the time, like how grateful he is to be within an organization that doesn't just feel like a cog in a wheel, but more like a family.

41:47so not to like go into like a sad thing but matt's dad unfortunately lost his battle to cancer about a month ago back in end of october so a little over a month ago and between chris ballard and all of the ursays and everything coming up to us and expressing their condolences with everything and helping him and they even sent like a beautiful flower arrangement so they just and the whole team too has really helped him through this time so I just from that perspective I can't say enough great things because it just like especially when I can't be there in Indianapolis with him all the time just knowing that he's taken care of and then also still trying to fulfill his obligation for his team and everything yeah it's he's very very very blessed and I'm very happy that he feels the way that he does being in the position he is with the team and everything So yeah, I think it shows true colors when someone goes through something like that, like losing a parent.

42:50I feel like there's nothing, nothing like losing a parent and having a team that even in your first two years is there for you. And I know his mom had also mentioned that the team had, had like rallied around her as well. I feel like that's like, you see true colors like pretty quickly. And so to know that he's taken care of and even like his mom was like taken care of and considered and thought of is really, really special. And I think whenever you root for a team, you, I mean, especially this might be like more of a feminine perspective, but that's what we're doing here. But like, I love rooting for the lions because I like really believe in what the internal organization is doing from everything that I've known about it, from the wives and girlfriends that I've talked to on the team and from like the press and the way that they like present themselves on the field, the way that they handle, if there is misconduct, the way that they like speak about it to, to the press and the media.

43:54Like that means a lot to me as a fan, because I want to know that the team that I'm like wearing their colors and supporting is taking care of people. And that's also one of the reasons why like I've kind of, you know, I say that the Colts are my second team, mostly like I got into it because of Carly and I was like, she's so badass and doing such a good job so far and just like fearless. But to know that like from the inside world, they're taking care of families as well is really, really special. And I'm sure that like, you know, you know like not every team would have done that for him or like made him feel so comfortable.

44:34Yes. And this is like his first true starting season where he's starting. Yeah, like full year. Last year it was like halfway through the season when he was starting, but he's been doing flip-flop a little bit. Last year he was tackle. So like right tackle, left tackle. And then this year has been primarily right guard. so that's just been a little shifting and everything so yeah but I honestly going back to I really can't say enough about the Colts and just from a fiance's perspective how they push Matt to be a better man better teammate better player and everything and all the guys he's around it's just been really really awesome so yeah I love that I know the girls are going to ask from the fiance perspective, what is the culture of like wives, girlfriends, family members?

45:27And obviously you're not in Indianapolis. So I think that this is a little bit different than, you know, kind of maybe like the longstanding contract girls who have been there for 10 years. But what is that culture been like? Have you been able to like dip your toes in it? A little info. So I think like, admittingly at first I was like, Oh my gosh, I'm so intimidated. I think that was like the first thing that came to my mind because I just I don't know I liked excelling in my school and going with that route and letting Matt do his football thing and just kind of just being there for him like I never wanted it to come across that I was jumping on his coattails or I don't know I always used to take like offense to that but now I think with like maturing and with us still being together and everything is just like part of who he is and part of who I am too.

46:19So I think it was like an uncomfortable thing for me at first because I was like, first off, they're all so nice and so beautiful. And just as a girl, you're always like, oh my god, how can I like even be around them? You all go into a room of hot girls and you're like, wait. Yeah, they look so beautiful and they're all so nice. And with me not being in Indiana, it is tough but I have interacted with like a few of them at like a wedding or different events and stuff like that and they could not be any nicer so it's just yeah it's been really really nice but I will say though like if I could talk to a little bit younger me or whoever has questions about that try not to be intimidated because I it's so easy for you to doubt yourself in new and different spaces especially ones that aren't I don't want to say necessarily yours because I I always used to feel like that was math space and not really something that was mine.

47:14Whereas like if it was a school thing, I'd be like, okay, I kind of earned my place here, but you do. And yeah, so they've just been super, super nice. And I have to put myself a little bit more out there to experience the full benefits. There's probably so many other women that I haven't interacted with that are super, super nice, but yeah. Yeah. I feel like you, like knowing what we know about you now and your ability to like make friends, I feel like if you do dive in more, like you're going to have no problem. But I think also like as women, sometimes we forget who we are. We walk into a room of other beautiful women who seem to like have it together and seem really comfortable and seem really poised.

47:57And we go like, oh my gosh, like I, maybe I shouldn't be here. Or like, I don't feel super comfortable here. And like, you forget that you're like Julie Seifert, who's in med school, who played lacrosse in college and easily makes friends and is so easy to talk to and is so kind and like, and, and, and, and, and. And I think that like, as women, we walk into rooms of like either men or other like great women. And we say like, oh my gosh, should I be here? When really, if I walked into that room, you would be one of those women who's there, who's badass and awesome and seems to have it together.

48:34And I think we all have to remember sometimes, like, we are those women, right? Like, if somebody new walks in, we're just one of them. Yeah. And like you were saying, too, it's just like, they have anyone who I've ever interacted with, it's all from me. Like, it's my own interpretation of spaces I've never felt like unwanted or unwelcome in anything with that so yeah like I said it's all just like a self-security thing so everyone I've interacted with has never once justified nor made me have any reason to feel that way but it's hard because like like you were saying too like just walking through and like oh gosh like and it just goes with like the imposter syndrome of it all too and I feel But sometimes even in med school, I'm like, did they accidentally send me this acceptance letter?

49:28You're like, are you sure? Yeah, really? But yeah. Yeah. I remember my first day of my first job ever. I worked in HR at an aerospace company. And I remember getting there and I was like, they're expecting me, right? Like I'm supposed to be here and they're going to like pay me to be here. And I just remember being like so nervous and like, is this all fake? And I like made it like, no, I agree. And like we had at Duquesne, there was like an orientation thing. And I remember being so nervous because we had to sit like an alphabetical order for the first few days. And I was like, so nervous that I was going to get to the S's and then not see my name.

50:09And I'm like, wait, I don't go here. Yeah. I was like, oh my gosh. But it was obviously but I was just like that was like one of my biggest fears I'm gonna walk in and then not see like s-e-i and just keep going I'm like oh why do we do this to ourselves we're like maybe I'm not here like I know I do stuff like that all the time like definitely by accident yeah and I think I think like the older we get and the more like we get really comfortable with who we are the like easier that gets, but there's always going to be rooms that we walk into where we have to pause for a second and be like, reel it in.

50:49Barack Obama said one of my favorite, I don't know the exact quote, so I'm totally going to botch the full quote, but the idea of what he said was, I've been in rooms with the most powerful people on the planet and I've walked into world meetings with world leaders and realized that guy's not that smart. And he like said something along those lines. And I think it just reminds us that like all people are people and like most girls, like most girls are like cool. Like we're all the same. You know, we're like all just like trying to feel pretty and smart and like make a name and like be happy. and I couldn't agree more and that's the thing too is like even my friends in high school and my friends in college and med school now like it's fun to have fun it's fun to get ready it's fun to hang out it's cool to be smart and want to do your best and it's also fun to be nice and different things like that and I don't know I just I really can't say enough about the people I've been able to be around and also to my sister with the way that she carries herself and everything.

52:02It's just like, yeah, awesome people. We were talking a little bit about your sister before we started recording and how she's contemplating coming to move in. Yes. She graduates nursing this year and I'm trying to rope her out to Pittsburgh and I think it's working. I just think that'd be so fun to live together. And then of course, if my brother listens to this, but you probably will be like, oh, this is, I don't need to hear you talk about yourself. But I do have a younger brother. So I'll mention him quick. He is a sophomore at Penn State. So he's doing architecture. So he's, yeah, super busy, super awesome too.

52:45But I don't think he would ever want to move in with me. But you guys all went to Pennsylvania. Yes. So my parents, our high school sweethearts both grew up on long island everything they went to pennsylvania schools too yeah so my dad played football at bloomsburg and my mom went to westchester for teaching and then i went to pitt just because i love the like we were talking about i really wanted a big school the lacrosse factor but also great academics so that intersection was just gold and perfect like we visited pittsburgh it was so gross and rainy and i was like i love it here you're like this is where i'm like yeah like this is a side note but we went to university of florida because i was in between those two and my mom's like oh shoot like i think we lost her like we're gonna have to take flights and stuff now to go down to florida and i was like it's nice but i think i want to go to pittsburgh and my parents were like we just paid for flights to come visit the university of florida like before you go saying that you want to see go to pick and we just enjoy this right now they're like it's funny let's go to the beach and you're like yeah go back to the rain yeah I was like not that it's bad but I was just like Pittsburgh is such a blue collar gritty like school I was like I just love that atmosphere so I ended up there but yeah so then my sister she went to Bloomsburg as well so she does nursing and she played lacrosse there and then my brother he's a little son of a gun and that's why Pitt is rivals with like Penn State West Virginia so I went to the last Pitt Penn State game in football before the contract expired my freshman year so my brother also got into ohio state and penn state and he was between those two and he picked penn state that is so crazy yeah so i always say like he picked it because he wants to stir the pot a little bit but yeah it honestly is nicer though because his program's five years instead of like six years that ohio state was and everything so i would never admit that he made the right choice but he did what was right for him i love i love like the the rivalry within the family that's yeah like we my brother we like went to a penn state game and i refused to wear anything penn state so i just had a navy blue sweatshirt on yeah that's the theme in your family you say i'm not gonna wear the logo but i'll put on the color i guess yes like none of us I will say we work hard.

55:03We love really hard and we are not sellouts. So I know. Like you're, I was like, if we were sellouts, we wouldn't be just fans for as long as we can go. No, that's, that's serious. I've been wanting to make like a social media post about how to pick your boyfriend based on his loyalty from which NFL team he roots for. Like Lions fans, pretty decent boyfriends like very committed I actually shouldn't say that because I broke up with the Lions fan earlier this year but Jets fans like if they if they can't commit to you the relationship is the problem like you got to get out of there if they can't commit to you because they know how to commit they don't have commitment issues it's just you guys are not meant to be together and he's not telling you that well this is like it's so funny too because matt's stepdad was a dolphins fan so matt growing up and i you don't have to do like those peewee league where like you're like oh the little manorville dolphin or whatever so he was on the dolphins and that's why he just became a dolphins fan and i remember when we first started dating i was like because the jackson dolphins are in the same division i was like you cannot tell my dad that you're a dolphins fan so he was saying for the longest time that he just like like the the stealers because that's obviously with us going to pit and everything yeah so we kept that up for a little bit and then like after i was dating for like a year i was like okay i guess you can make the like the dolphins now but i was just like initially do not bring it up matt please great where we are now with the colts and everything so i hadn't no i didn't want to say that i had no idea we'd ever get to this point but yeah it's just very funny yeah that's really funny okay and remind me how long matt's contract is for with the colts for four years Okay, so you're there for, he's there for a second.

56:54Yes, fingers crossed that he stays there. He loves it and everything. And it's right around the time that I get my residency placement is when contract renewal will come up. So another big shift, hopefully within the same area. But I feel like, I don't know if I can say this. I guess it's my show, so I can do whatever I want. But I feel like there's got to be a string or two that just, you know, exist. It's so tough too. I am very also lucky because my dad built a house for this one doctor and his daughter is actually an ER doctor and IU. So I'm like, I'm going to contact her when the time comes and try my hardest, but we'll see.

57:40I mean, I like genuinely believe that if you are a great person, you will connect with other great people and great people want to help great people. Like regardless of how much money you have or where you're from, if you're a great person and you meet someone great, then they're going to want to like help you. and I think that some people think that like utilizing connections is like cheating or people have feelings about using connections to get things or to put yourself in a better situation. But I feel like, yeah, if you're a good person and they're a good person, then they're willing to like help you and then happy people help other people.

58:19So the benefit only compounds. So I feel like, like if you can and you have the opportunity, like make it happen. Well, that's the thing too. I think it's a fine line between being an opportunistic person and then trying to rely on people to get help that want to see you succeed too. So I think that we'll all go into it and everything and not to be like this, but you make your plans, God laughs, and let's go from there. Because, you know, like, I think you both of us right now, we've all had the attitude of we have this in mind of where we want our life to be and look like and we owe it to ourselves and to each other to and our future families and stuff to work as hard as we can and wherever that leads us just hope that it's kind of close and within the same time zone and then the same time zone would be nice same thing would be excellent same time zone would be great preferred yes exactly so yeah but it will all work out and everything so I just feel like I can't get too boggled down with things and yeah, it's led me here so far, just like doing my work and him doing his work and just praying on it.

59:31So. Right. Right. Okay. Let's close. I know that the girls are going to want to hear you talk just a little bit about like season projections for the Colts. So this is coming out on Friday before week 15 in the NFL. So the Colts have very sadly lost three games in a row to the Jags yesterday. We're recording on Monday, 36 to 19, which is one of their, I mean, their biggest loss this season. I think it kind of shocked everyone, but Daniel Jones just went out with a torn Achilles, which he was kind of like the heart of him and Jonathan Taylor together really kind of like plowed the, the team forward.

1:00:19They're playing the Seahawks this Sunday. Are you going to that game? I'm not. I will be watching it from Long Island. How do you decide what games to go to versus what games not to? Usually I'll try to go to the home games. It all depends, honestly, on my exam schedule. So my exams are Mondays, which really stink. Okay. So that is so rude. Yes. Are you kidding me? Yes. Mondays? That is the meanest thing I've ever heard in my life. Oh my God. Yeah, horrible. So usually it'll be like, if I had an exam that Monday, then I'll go to that game Sunday. It's kind of what I try to do. Yeah. Okay. Okay, cool.

1:00:59So what do you kind of foresee happening in the end of the season with the Colts? They have Seahawks, 49ers, Jags again, and then Texans. Yeah. you know i think and like it's hard for me to speak about it from my comfy little house on my island when they're working their tail off you know you're like on break sipping a coffee yeah exactly chatting being girls no i honestly and not to sound like overly optimistic i really do think that it was so much going into the season with the transition from jim ursay to the daughters and everything and it was a great winning thing but they had such a great attitude within the organization that I think bouncing back obviously I hope what will be this weekend at least from Matt's perspective not like dwelling on a loss but learning from mistakes and this new position he's in and everything and just taking advantage of every week as a new opportunity.

1:02:02I think it's really easy to get down on yourself, either from week to week or play to play. And it's a huge mental thing. And I think that starts from the top down. So when your owner or the general manager and the head coach and the line coach and everything, like, they all have this optimistic, I don't want to say like overly optimistic, but like great attitude going into each week of like, we can accept this as it is because we can't change it. And then just working really hard to going towards the rest of the week, I think is awesome. And like I said, it's very easy for me to say that from here when I'm not the one playing 60 minutes against people who are also professionals that are great at what they do.

1:02:49So and I think that they're doing great and you know sometimes challenges come and unfortunately that was one of them yesterday and you also have to hand it off to the Jags they are also a great team too but I'm excited I think it's like not like I said also not to sound optimistic but it's awesome that we still have one more game with each of the Jaguars and Texans because those are within our division and we played them once each so I think still getting the opportunity to play the other two teams within your division that are also very good that unfortunately we had fell short on but just like a great way to hopefully kind of reclaim footing back again so yeah I mean obviously I hope we keep rolling keep doing everything but it's tough these guys are good all around there's like you know some teams struggle more than others and it's not because of the players being bad and not really because the coaches being bad either it's tough like everyone is so good and that's something it's hard to accept but that's my other thing too it's like oh this person be that person but then that person upset that person so you can't like go based on that because everyone's at this level this season also i feel like is insane yes everything is like this is nearly a chaos season yeah and it's so close yeah and like all analyst predictions at the beginning of the season, just garbage now.

1:04:18Like, I mean, I don't think I heard anybody anticipating even the Colts being where the Colts are now. And, you know, people, you know, with three losses in a row, people are like talking, you know, about, about what's going on, but you still can't take away their eight, like very dominant wins. And they're still that team. Like they've had a couple of hiccups, obviously quarterback going out is a problem, but you still have Matt on the offensive line. You still have Jonathan Taylor. You still have the rest of the defense that have been doing a great job all season, like there and, and ready to rock and roll.

1:05:00So I think with a breakout season with like a Cinderella season, like truly anything can happen if they can kind of keep their heads on straight, I think, and, and like maintain like poise under pressure, especially with changes. But I mean, the Colts specifically are not like change isn't shocking to them right now. Yeah. And that's the thing too, is like, I think growing up as a Jets fan, you're a little bit more level-headed with this stuff where it's like people come, they're like, Oh my God, this is the best person in the world. And then the next week it's like, I can't believe that we pay him this much.

1:05:34He should be working as a janitor so people really go from like one extreme to the other you know what I mean and it's really nutty but like it's just gotta it's work them like themselves out and take each loss as a learning opportunity to get better and I think they're doing a great job I obviously with Daniel Jones going down no one thought that he would like people were so mean on the internet before the season and then they were like oh my god he's like a messiah and everything so I really hope he gets healthy and better and that the new quarterback Riley I just pray that he's doing a great job and does well with everything and obviously it's a lot of pressure on anyone in this level because it's hard and I feel bad for all the guys and for Matt too like if someone like looked at my exam score when I didn't do too hot and then constantly watching me take the test and then see the grade I get and then everyone make a comment on how I did about it it's just it's tough so yeah but so far I really really am just excited for them for the rest of their season and everything and it's nutty that it's already week 15 I remember being like to Matt like you know pre-season's like a month away like every and now I'm like oh my god it's almost over yeah yeah yeah I mean we this show is new to this this is our first season yeah and it's crazy that like I think it was two months before the season the TikTok that kind of like started it all like blew up and I remember being in preseason like should I be making content now and now I'm like oh my god we're like almost done wait that's also side note that's so awesome that this is your first year I would never have known because the way that you post and how professional it is that's so awesome.

1:07:23Oh, thank you so much. Yeah. I'm really proud of it. And it's been the highlight of my year. And I feel really lucky and very grateful to the girls who have talked to us and the girls who have bought in. And we have a fantasy league of 1 ,300 women this year, which having that be the first season is just beyond my wildest dreams. And the goal here is really to like amplify feminine voices and give credibility to feminine voices, especially in sports media, because we have a lot of women interviewing male interviewers and not a lot of just women interviewing period. And so I wanted it to feel professional and credible.

1:08:07So that's a really big compliment. So thank you. Thank you so much. I honestly thought that this was going on for a few years and like all your contacts, so awesome and everything. So yeah. Well, we're really grateful for you to be a part of it and like share your story. And I feel so, it was just so serendipitous to meet you and Matt's mom and your parents and all of that. And even to talk to your dad a little bit about the Jets. He said one of my favorite quotes. I don't know if I said this on the show, but I asked him about Aaron Glenn because I am, I'm a Lions fan and I love Aaron Glenn. And I just love how animated he is.

1:08:44He's just like big, like good dad energy. And so I really want to see Aaron Glenn win. And I asked your dad, I was like, so what do you think of like Aaron Glenn and Justin Fields? And what, what do you think? And he's like, well, you don't cut off your head when you have a headache. So, and I like, I was like, that's such a good way to put it. But yeah, it was just so serendipitous. And then like meeting you and you having, you know, front row seat to, to what's going on with like the Colts rise to fame, especially. Yeah. It felt so serendipitous. So it's so cool to be here and talk to you. Is there any relationship advice that you have for high achieving couples on both sides?

1:09:26I think respecting each other's space and time with different things. And it's difficult sometimes too, where we're like, I get snippy or he gets snippy and we're just like call each other two seconds later. And we're like, all right that was just us like it's tough miss each other and stuff like that but yeah I he respects what I do and I respect what he does and I think just constant communication and even like what I was saying before on FaceTime if it's just like him looking at his plays and me studying take advantage of those little things and I want to give a lot of credit to Matt too because he's the other 50 % in this so it's tough for him too and I'm not always free to be with him and I'm trying my best to be on this wild ride with him.

1:10:12And yeah, I am really lucky to have someone like him and help me and also never resent me for not being there with him and vice versa and just see me succeed in the spaces that I'm in right now and him do as well. So. I love it. I love it. Okay. And then last question is, do you have any advice to new wives and girlfriends coming into the NFL, whether that be like with the draft or with like supporting him through college or even just like being a part of the organization, like any advice or like, you should know this before you jump in. I guess like the first thing, and I can take my advice on this too, is like, just don't be intimidated.

1:10:54Like you're talking about before. Like one of the first things, like I really did me a lot of them was at the wedding and I kind of had to go obviously as Matt's plus one and we're all sitting at the table together and then it forced us all to talk and they're super nice so I guess don't be intimidated because you do also like we were saying deserve to be there and everything and then I think with this whole thing it's very easy to get really deep into it and kind to forget where you once came from. So I think having that perspective and also trying to ground your partner in that. And Matt does that for me too.

1:11:35Like when Matt and I met, Matt was not playing the freshman and he was dressing on the sideline, but maybe traveling to some away games. And I think just remembering that you started from there and you work your way up and just, you know, it's pretty easy to be like, oh, that was a shitty game or, oh, sorry, I don't know if we're allowed to first. Okay. A bad game or something and whatever. So I think just like supporting them through that because it's everything they do is like on tenfold magnitude amplified and people think they can just, and they can throw their two cents in, but at the end of the day, it's these people's lives and they're just trying their best.

1:12:11So I think just helping manage through the struggles of everything, but yeah. I love it. I love it. Well, thank you so much for coming on. It's been such a pleasure to get to know you for your sister. Move in with your sister. I moved in with my sister a couple years ago. I'm at my sister's house right now. And you will not regret it, even if it's just for a year. Like it is the best thing you can possibly do if you have a sister is like moving together for like a little bit of time. Like it is so fun. Like you will not regret it. So some sister thing. So I secretly and selfishly hope that she does come.

1:12:51Yeah. Yeah. If you have a sister who's like a friend, like, God, there is just nothing better. There's just nothing better. So move to Pittsburgh, do it. You will not regret it. And if you do, you can come after me and I'll buy you dinner wherever you want.

1:13:07That's how confident I am. Yeah, but thank you so much. It was so good to meet you and your family. And we are watching Matt. We have more stake in the Colts now because he's on the team. I've been like keeping my eyes out for him every game. So best of luck to him. And we are rooting for you guys and on your team and in your corner. And we can't wait to see what you do. Graduating, becoming Dr. Seifert. And I forgot to ask, do you guys have a wedding date? So we're thinking 2028, just because that's right after I finish before I start residency. And yeah, because I still have to be in Pittsburgh.

1:13:46So we're not really rushing too much to live in different states for our first year of marriage. But yeah, so and it's also tough. I keep trying to get Matt to come see the venue on Long Island, but obviously he's very busy. So he's like, if you like it, then I like it. I'm like, I just want you to see it once before. You're like, you can just come here. I just want to like pretend we can stand there and see how we feel. We're going to have to have you on after your wedding and talk to you about like the planning and wedding and being a doctor and planning wedding at the same time. and and and so yeah yeah that's for two years from now oh my gosh well thank you so much