Blowing Up Your Life

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19:35This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam. We all experience unexpected moments in our lives, moments we didn't ask for and might not have chosen. A setback at work, a difficult conversation with a friend, a sudden realization of our own mortality. Most of the time, we treat disruptions in our lives as disruptions, things to get past quickly. But sometimes, these disruptions can force us to step back and reassess. Psychologist Anthony Klotz studies how and why these moments have a big impact on our choices, our careers, and even our identities. He says that if we learn to pay more attention to them, they can help us create lives that feel more intentional and better aligned with what we truly want.

20:24Anthony, you've talked about how unexpected moments can force us to rethink our priorities. One example you point to comes from the actor Chris Hemsworth. For listeners who are not plugged into Hollywood, describe the famous role he's played as Thor, God of Thunder.

20:41Anthony Klotz:So in these movies, well, he plays a god, Thor, with nearly unlimited power. And so, You know, it's a very strength-forward role. But what I think why fans really like Thor and the actor behind the character is because he has a sense of humor and a sense of self-awareness. And so often, despite his power and his seriousness, a lot of the laughs in these Avenger movies come from times when Thor is on screen and something funny is happening, whether he knows it or not. And so I think that's why he's in a lot of people's hearts.

21:20Hello?

21:20Anthony Klotz:I accept your surrender. So at one point in his career, he received some surprising health information. Describe for me the context and what he learned, Anthony. Yeah, so Hemsworth hosts a show called Limitless. And in this show, he puts himself through all of these physical and psychological tests to learn about human health and longevity and well-being. And in one episode, he took a DNA test and he found out that in his DNA were a few genes that are linked with an increased potential for him to have Alzheimer's disease. And that really caught his attention, obviously. And he described it as this is my greatest fear because he knew it ran in his family.

22:05Anthony Klotz:But at the same time, he described it as a blessing because he said, I'm learning this information while I'm still young enough that I can make changes. How did the discovery affect the way he thought about his work and his life? One of the reflections that he had as a result of this discovery was that he was spending more time on work and less time with his family than he wanted to. It was out of balance. And so that was one of the main takeaways was like, if I have these genes that could cause changes to my mind earlier than I would like them to, I need to spend more time with my family now and perhaps a little bit less time working and perhaps a little more time on work that I actually care about.

22:50Anthony Klotz:So it's a jolt where, you know, it instantly took him to thinking about his relationship with work and not necessarily overhauling it, but saying, what are some tweaks that I can make to that relationship in order to bring it more in line with what I want out of life?

23:11You say that this idea of the jolt is similar to what the psychologist Dan McAdams refers to as nuclear events, where, as he puts it, the me experienced a rather sudden or decided transformation.

23:24Anthony Klotz:Yeah, I really like how that term nuclear events and how he describes them. He talks about these like scenes that stand out in bold print in our lives. And these could be positive or negative. It could be like a lucky break or a failure or a fall from grace. But yeah, one defining characteristic is that it does transform us often from being really self-focused to being a little bit more other-focused as well. One of the things that you and others have noticed is that a jolt in one domain of our life can affect what we do in other domains of our life. And Chris Hemsworth, in some ways, is an example of that.

24:03Anthony Klotz:That's exactly right. As his story shows, personal events outside of work can make us stop and rethink about our lives inside of work. And the inverse is true as well. Events that happen to us at work can make us rethink what's going on outside of it. And I suppose all of us have had the experience of having a very difficult day at work and then coming back to our families and finding that we are not behaving the way with our families that we might want to behave because we're so stressed out about what happened at work. Yes. Sadly, we've all been there, right? And the research backs this up, that on days where we experience negative events at work, especially mistreatment, we're more burnt out at the end of the day.

24:44Anthony Klotz:And that burnout comes home with us. And we end up being not as good of partners. We express more anger. We tend to be a little bit more withdrawn. And we tend to engage in more fights with family and friends outside of work. You also tell the story of Pat Tillman, I'm wondering if you can go back to the year 2000 and tell me who Pat Tillman was and what was happening in his life. Yeah, so in 2000, Pat Tillman was the starting safety for the Arizona Cardinals NFL football team. And he was arguably the best, if not one of the best safeties in the league, which is a position that, you know, a lot of people work really hard to get to, right, a professional athlete level.

25:30So in the following year, just after the start of the new NFL season, terrorists attacked the United States. This was the September 11th attacks. What effect did it have on Pat Tillman, Anthony?

25:42Anthony Klotz:Yeah, so when 9-11 happened, he talked about how even though he didn't know anyone directly impacted by what happened in New York and elsewhere that day, it made him rethink what he was doing and it made him realize how insignificant playing football was. And he said he thought about how good we have it in this country and that he hasn't really done anything to earn that. And so it really caused him to rethink what he was doing in his work life. I've always had a great deal of feeling for the flag. But even someone who considers themselves that way, you just don't think about it all the time. You don't realize what it gives you.

26:25Anthony Klotz:You don't realize how great a life we have over here. Even as athletes, we'd moan every now and again about this or that. And if we ever just, you know, times like this you stop and think about just how, not only how good we have it, but what kind of a system we live under, what freedoms we're allowed. And that wasn't built overnight, and it's kind of, the flag is a symbol of all that, a symbol of, you know, my great-grandfather was at Pearl Harbor, and a lot of my family has given up, you know, has gone and fought in wars, and I really haven't done a damn thing as far as laying myself on the line like that.

26:58Anthony Klotz:And so I have a great deal of respect for those that have and what the flag stands for. Tell me the rest of that story, Anthony. How did Pat Tillman take this jolt and change his life? So he finished out his contractual obligation to play that year. But after that year, he left the NFL and he joined the Army.

27:27Now, this was a significant decision. It received a lot of attention at the time, not least because of the fact that he was walking away from something like$4 million a year, which was his salary playing for the Arizona Cardinals.

27:41Anthony Klotz:Yeah, it's absolutely striking to see somebody who's not only earning$4 million a year, but also who has spent their whole life working toward that goal of reaching that level, a level that, again, many people aspire to get to. And so to walk away from that in service to a different or higher calling, yeah, was striking and obviously inspirational for a lot of people.

28:10So Pat Tillman signs up for the Army. Tell me what happens next, Anthony.

28:17Anthony Klotz:Yes, he signed up for the army and became an army ranger and did what he intended to do, serve his country. But at the same time, tragically, he ended up dying in combat in Afghanistan. I'm wondering what you make of a story like this. At some level, it's a tragic story, but it's also in many ways an inspirational story. Yes, both of those things come to mind when I think of the Pat Tillman story. But the main thing I think about is inspirational. Someone who gave up on, you know, what a lot of us would aspire to in terms of worldly possessions, millions of dollars, in order to make the world a better place as he saw it.

28:57Anthony Klotz:He was asking those big questions and then having the courage to actually follow through on the answer, even though it meant him giving up a career of fame and lots of money.

29:16When we come back, what to do the next time a jolt appears in your life? Also, in our companion episode on Hidden Brain Plus, we're going to talk about how to recognize the signs that it might be time to leave a job and why so many people who do quit regret not quitting sooner. We'll explore when it makes sense to quit and also how to do it properly. If you're a subscriber, that episode is available to you right now in this podcast feed. It's titled, I Quit. If you're not yet a subscriber, please sign up at support.hiddenbrain.org. If you're using an Apple device, please go to apple.co.hiddenbrain.

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33:06When unexpected moments shake up our lives, they often stir up strong emotions. We might feel angry, afraid, or excited. These reactions can be powerful. They can push us to take action we've been avoiding. But psychologist Anthony Klotz says that if we respond to these moments purely on emotion, we can sometimes make choices that backfire. Anthony is the author of the book, Jolted, Why We Quit, When to Stay, and Why It Matters. Anthony, you've talked about how jolts can stir up strong emotions. Sometimes those emotions are so intense that people act on them instantly. When your boss at the lumberyard expressed distrust in you, both you and your friend quit on the spot.

33:51So researchers call this impulsive quitting. Do most people feel good about their decision to quit when they do it impulsively, Anthony?

34:00Anthony Klotz:So we don't have a lot of research on exactly how people feel, but most of the time, unless you're in a situation where something really egregious happens, people end up experiencing some regret after impulsive quitting. So that's not to say that there's never a time for it, but it is to say a lot of the time it does result in regret. Now, there's something profoundly satisfying, of course, about saying, I quit and walking out the door. Yeah, most of the time in our relationship with organizations, they have the power. I mean, we need a paycheck and they're the ones providing it. And so this is what makes quitting and especially impulsively quitting so attractive.

34:42Anthony Klotz:It's this really empowering moment where the company doesn't have the power anymore. They kind of need you as a worker and you're walking away from them. So I think almost all of us have had fantasies before, multiple times over when something bad happens to us at work, impulsively quitting.

35:06And does the research say anything about why it is that people come to regret impulsive quitting to the extent that it's studied people who've made these impulsive decisions?

35:18Anthony Klotz:yeah the regret really doesn't necessarily stem from walking away from the prior job usually when you impulsively quit you have a pretty good reason that you're doing it often the regret comes from i probably should have taken my time and figured out what i'm going to do next because if you're not careful you impulsively quit and then you put yourself in a position where i need another job And so you go out on the job market, need a job quickly, take that next job and find yourself in the same situation that you were already in, just with a different company. So that's where mainly where that source of regret comes from, not necessarily from impulsively quitting, but from the situation that impulsively quitting puts you in.

36:03You say that quitting is often glorified as a solution to our unhappiness. How so, Anthony?

36:12Anthony Klotz:Well, I think it's glorified in the media. We see lots of wonderful movie scenes, whether it's in Office Space or Eat, Pray, Love or Jerry Maguire, that shows a dramatic quitting scene. Pop singers sing about it. There was a song, I think last year or the year before by Beyonce, where she talks about being frustrated with her job and quitting. And so it is glorified. And And especially in the wake of the pandemic, when there was a wave of resignations, people increasingly went online and shared stories of their quitting and wrote about their quitting. And I do think it's, you know, a very empowering story that so much of our lives, we maybe work in situations that we don't want to work in.

37:01Anthony Klotz:And so walking away from that is something that we like to hear those stories about. And it, you know, even if we can't quit, we can see other people doing it and say, I'm not alone in feeling like I want to walk off the job right now. You know, this is a normal human experience. And so, I mean, keep in mind quitting is a topic that you can't necessarily talk about at work. It's a somewhat sensitive topic. So when you see it in movies, when you hear about it in a song, when you see it online, it really does connect you with this universal feeling, this universal impulse among workers that when the going gets tough, quitting can be a great option.

37:45And I suppose that when you see someone post something on social media saying that they walked off the job and you see that, you know, that post received, you know, a ton of likes, you can get the sense that maybe everyone except you is in fact quitting their jobs.

38:01Anthony Klotz:Yeah, and I think that's the downside and the danger of how much content there is about quitting, is that it is actually a fairly rare event in the course of our careers. There are lots of surveys that come out that show that some large percentage or the majority of individuals intend to quit their job over the next year. But in reality, only a fairly small fraction of those individuals actually turn those intentions into reality. But if you look online, you can get the feeling everybody's quitting except me. Now, of course, it's worth pointing out that being able to quit and walk off a job is in and of itself a privilege.

38:44Not everyone is able to do it. But you also point out that if it's a mistake to react impulsively to a jolt, you know, the other mistake you can make is to ignore it altogether. That doesn't make sense either.

38:56Anthony Klotz:Yeah, there's this middle ground that I encourage people to move into. We're going to experience these different types of jolts many times over the course of our career. And most of the time, quitting will not be an option for most of us. And so it's tempting just to take that jolt and set it aside or put it out of mind, completely ignore it. But in doing so, we're missing an opportunity to potentially improve our relationship with work and fix a problem with it.

39:32so you have a number of suggestions on how people should think about their intentions to quit and whether it's the right thing to do when someone experiences a jolt you advise them for example to both zoom in and zoom out what do you mean by those terms

39:48Anthony Klotz:i encourage people you know to really think through their job from a few different angles So in terms of zooming in and zooming out, we can think of our job in two different ways or as researchers say, at two different levels of construal. So we can think about it from the very low level of construal, a very concrete way of thinking about our jobs. What do we do in our day-to-day work lives? And so I encourage people to zoom in and say, do I enjoy this job on a day-to-day basis? And when you're thinking about that, there's really two big buckets that you can think about. Do I enjoy my work tasks?

40:21Anthony Klotz:And do I enjoy the people with whom I'm working on a day-to-day basis? And then we can zoom out to this high level of construal and think more abstractly about our jobs over the long term. So over the arc of my career, my life, in terms of what I want to accomplish, is this job moving me more towards those goals? Or is it pulling me further away from them? So at a high level, where is this job taking me in terms of the purpose and meaning or the goals I have for my life? You say that there are different ways to respond to a setback at work, and one is to follow the lead of Bob Iger at Disney. Tell me that story, Anthony.

41:03Anthony Klotz:Yeah, so fairly early in his career, Bob Iger was an executive at ABC Sports. And this was back in the heyday of network sports programs. And so you can imagine, you know, he talks about flights on the Concord and champagne and designer suits and unlimited expense budgets, these sorts of things. And he really enjoyed it. But then ABC, as a company, was bought up by this Warren Buffett-backed radio conglomerate. And this radio conglomerate, Cap Cities, was known for running a very frugal operation. And so you can imagine this was quite the jolt, realizing that your work lifestyle and the way you were working was going to come to an abrupt change because your flashy network company has been bought up by a company with a bunch of radio stations.

41:55Anthony Klotz:So Bob was tempted to leave. And he was tempted to leave also by what's called a collateral jolt. A number of his close co-workers were leaving. They were leaving to go join this flashy sports agency so they could essentially continue the work that they were doing, you know, getting paid a lot, working with athletes and so forth, rather than stick around. And Bob decided, yeah, I want to do the same thing. I'm going to join him. So he went to HR and informed HR, I'm going to leave. And HR said, why don't you take some time to think about that? First, there's some contractual things to work through, but more importantly than that, you might have a pretty bright future with this company, even though it's quite different from the place that you came from.

42:40Anthony Klotz:And so Bob slowed down. He went home and talked it over with his partner and came to the conclusion, I've made a pretty good career here at this company. And just because it's changing hands doesn't mean I need to stop that. And so he stayed with what became Cap Cities, which was later bought by Disney. And over the course of his career, became CEO and chairman at Disney and actually ended up, you know, doing two spells at that role of CEO and chairman. So regardless of how you think about his leadership style, I think the story in terms of careers is sometimes the smartest response to jolts that leads to the most career success is actually doing nothing, is actually staying put in the wake of a jolt when you're tempted to bolt.

43:39And of course, that makes sense when you consider the fact that in the course of a career, we're all going to experience setbacks and challenges. And if we respond to each of them by deciding we're going to quit, we're not going to stay in any job for very long.

43:53Anthony Klotz:That's exactly right. It'll be a career filled with changing jobs, which isn't necessarily bad. But again, I mentioned earlier, changing jobs often comes with some regret and it comes with a lot of uncertainty. And so having a career full of that can be a pretty risky career strategy.

44:19now carrying on and sticking with what you're doing can sometimes be really difficult you tell the story of your friend jenny and what happened to her in her workplace tell me that

44:29Anthony Klotz:story anthony so jenny works in a hospital and she worked in an area of the hospital where there were several desks in the same room where they were all completing the same tasks. And she worked with a toxic co-worker. And she found her well-being and her work satisfaction continually decreasing as she worked with this co-worker. But she felt like she could put up with it even though her mental well-being was suffering as a result of this. But one day, she walked into that office and before she even said anything, her co-worker started not necessarily insulting her, but causing some problems. And Jenny thought, what am I doing here?

45:11Anthony Klotz:Where the second I walk in the office, this toxic person is already creating negativity for me. And so she knew as a result, after that one moment, I had to do something about it. And so she looked around the hospital to see if there was an empty office anywhere. And she found one. And so then she went to her boss and said, look, here's an interpersonal situation that we're having. She didn't throw the other person under the bus. She said, there's just this incompatibility here. I found this other office. Can I move to it? And her boss said, sure. And so she got her stuff and she moved to the other office.

45:47Anthony Klotz:And then after a couple of weeks of working in that office, she realized like I can actually divide our work tasks such that I don't even have to interact with my old coworker very much at all. And so it's kind of a win, really, for both of those co-workers that Jenny is now in an office on the other side of the hospital doing her work tasks. And her job satisfaction is through the roof. She loves it. And it was all a result of her boss just saying yes to a couple of creative suggestions she had about moving across the hospital and divvying up tasks. So this is an example of someone who didn't just stay the course and say, you know, I'm going to keep my head down and keep doing what I'm doing.

46:27but someone who said there's a problem, I'm not going to quit, but I'm going to speak up about it.

46:32Anthony Klotz:That's exactly right. Jenny realized that simply doing nothing wasn't sustainable. And so I have to do something. And so I have to be proactive about this and try to find the solution to the jolt myself. You offer suggestions to people on how they can speak up at work. You have ideas on what could make that more effective or less effective. What ideas would you have if someone decides they're not going to quit, they're going to stay in the job, they're going to speak up and maybe have a conversation with their boss? How should they go about doing that? Yeah, so this is not easy to do. Speaking up to power can be quite challenging.

47:13Anthony Klotz:And this isn't a situation where you say to your boss, I'm thinking about quitting or anything like that. Essentially, a jolt has revealed some problem in your relationship with your job, and you think that it might be fixable. And so you're going to bring up a problem with your boss. But there are some tips here. When it comes to speaking up to power, there's a few ways you can increase the odds of it being successful like it was in Jenny's case. So the first one is make sure you don't just have a problem, you have a solution to the problem. Many managers like this somewhat tired phrase of don't bring me problems, bring me solutions.

47:51Anthony Klotz:In this case, that phrase holds up. You should have a solution. And here's the deal. In terms of the solution you have to the problem, it can't only benefit you. Like you need to be a bit of a salesperson here and say, this solution not only benefits me, but it also benefits you or the customers or other coworkers or the company's bottom line somehow. So try to come up with a solution in a case that doesn't only benefit you. And then, you know, the last one is, especially as Americans, but others as well, sometimes like to deliver tough messages sandwiched in between two positive messages. The research shows that this is really ineffective when it comes to voice and challenging.

48:37Anthony Klotz:So you may be tempted to say some nice things about your boss and then slip in the like, here's the real problem with my work. That's not effective at all. And then finally, I mean, if you're in the unfortunate situation of having a fairly domineering boss, research shows that this is especially tough to bring up problems. And so it's often better to phrase it in the form of a question than any sort of demand or suggestion. Like maybe this is a thought that we could have me work in this different side of the hospital. But hopefully most of us are in a better situation than that.

49:25You've pointed out that one of the advantages of speaking up is that even if nothing changes and we eventually decide to leave, we can walk away knowing that at least we tried. How does using our voice protect us from the kind of what-if thinking that often leads to regret, Anthony?

49:45Anthony Klotz:I often heard this and continue to hear this a lot when it comes to exit interviews, where an employee says, I'm quitting because of these three reasons. And the company says, if you would have brought these up, we could have fixed these. The nice thing about speaking up is you get rid of these what-if scenarios and you find out what is. So if you're approaching quitting time, if you think I'm probably going to quit this job because of these two reasons, what's the harm in bringing up those two reasons and suggesting a solution to them? At least then you'll walk away knowing I tried to fix this and they weren't going to budge on these issues.

50:25Anthony Klotz:And that will reduce any regret that you might experience in the future.

50:36A reminder, have you had unexpected moments when you saw your life with a greater clarity than you ever had before? Did one of those moments prompt you to make dramatic changes in your life? If you have a personal story you would be willing to share with a Hidden Brain audience or a question or comment about this episode, please find a very quiet room and record a voice memo on your phone. Two or three minutes is plenty. Email the file to us at feedback at hiddenbrain.org. Use the subject line, jolted. Again, that's feedback at hiddenbrain.org. I'm wondering whether you can think of any times in your life when you have been jolted and you have followed one of these paths, Anthony?

51:23Anthony Klotz:Yeah, so in my own career in life, I've had jolts where I've followed all of these paths. So there was one academic conference in particular where I went to that conference and I found out over the course of one day through three different interactions that three different current co-workers of mine were on the job market looking for another job. All three of these people were my close friends. And so I experienced a pretty big, what I call collateral jolt that day where I thought to myself, three of my good friends at work are looking to leave. And if I stick around, what type of a department is that going to be?

52:06Anthony Klotz:And how much work am I going to have to take on? And why aren't I thinking about leaving too? And so I ended up going and doing an interview at that other institution and accepting a job there. And the irony of it is my three coworkers who were looking to move ended up staying, but I ended up leaving. And so that's a moment I think back on as one of the more jolting days in my life for sure. And looking back, do you feel like you made the right call, Anthony? Yes, absolutely. And, you know, making that move to the different institution allowed me to do things in my career that I wanted to do that I wouldn't have ever been able to do.

52:45Anthony Klotz:But that's not to say, you know, if I would have stayed put and instead spoken up and asked for a raise, let's say, like, look, everybody else is looking for a job except me. I should get a raise. Who knows? Maybe they would have, you know, given me a raise and some other perks, and I would have been happy on that path too. And so I think that's important to realize is that there isn't always like one clear right and one clear wrong path when we experience these jolts. Often, both will keep us on the path to the good life. We just need to make a decision and then move on with our careers.

53:27Anthony Klotz is the author of Jolted, Why We Quit, When to Stay, and Why It Matters. Anthony, thank you so much for joining me today on Hidden Brain.

53:36Anthony Klotz:It's been my absolute pleasure.

53:46Making our way through life-jolting moments can be difficult. It's destabilizing when the ground shifts under our feet. And sometimes a big jolt can lead to a series of smaller jolts, like the aftershocks of an earthquake. A listener named Eileen experienced this five years into a happy relationship. Her partner wanted her to move with him to a property that he owned in another state. Eileen was reluctant because she loved her home. It had been in her family for four generations. But she decided to make the move. Because the move made sense on paper, and through the overseeing guidance and support of my therapist of many years, I eventually agreed to the move with a handful of conditions he agreed to meet first.

54:33I made it clear that I wasn't going to micromanage these demands, trusting him to get them done. The night before our big move, with everything in my house packed up, moving truck loaded and in the driveway, we were happily eating dinner at a restaurant when, mid-chew, it was like a bolt of lightning entered the top of my head and surged through my body with a voice I heard clearly say, he didn't do what he promised. I immediately said to him, you didn't do X, did you? We didn't speak another word that night, and in the morning the silence continued, but we each drove away in separate vehicles from my property to his.

55:18Eight hours later, literally the moment I crossed the threshold into my new life and home, I began a future of unparalleled dysfunction and anxiety.

55:35Aileen says she stayed in the relationship for three and a half years. When she decided to end things, she was 62 years old, without a source of income or anywhere to live. When I finally pulled the plug on the relationship, the bottom had completely fallen out of my once peaceful and happy life. Now, two years later, I am still dusting myself off, struggling to completely reinvent myself and survive.

56:09She realized that the night before the move, she'd had an intuition that something was wrong. Why hadn't she paid more attention to that bolt of lightning? My muse made an appearance and tried to get my attention, but it was inconvenient for me to break my commitment or to break the momentum of my plans, and I didn't take her warning. It is not an obvious happy ending, but I have learned from it.

56:40When we come back, more jolts of lightning. We examine the power of the unconscious mind to reveal the path forward. You're listening to Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam.

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58:23That's the case whether you're trying to write a novel or figure out what to make for dinner. When we get stuck, we usually respond by pushing ourselves harder. But there are many times when pushing harder does not produce results.

58:41At those times, we may throw in the towel. We take a walk or lie down for a nap. And suddenly, out of the blue, an idea comes to us. We figure out the sentence to start the novel, or a key ingredient around which to base the meal.

59:02Why do our brains work like this? And how can we become better at cultivating our inner muse? We talked about all this recently with psychologist Arp Dykstorhaus. He's the author of Inspiration, Where the Best Ideas Come From. Arp returns to the show today to respond to listeners' questions and comments about these positive jolts. Arp Daxterhaus, welcome back to Hidden Brain. Thank you. So, Arp, many of us assume that when we work hard on a problem that we're facing at work or in our personal lives, we're going to solve that problem. But, of course, that's not always the case. Why is it that pressing harder does not always produce breakthroughs?

59:44Well, there's various reasons. perhaps the most important reason is that you tend to get stuck in one direction and you lose your flexibility. And the one direction you get stuck in is not always the one that will help you to solve the problem. And if you put it aside for a while, then your unconscious will start to work on it in a completely different, much more creative way. And that often leads to a solution. You know, if you think about something too hard, it's like a very bright but narrow light shining on something. And what you often need is not so much a bright light, but a light that, you know, that meanders, that goes in all kinds of directions, that also puts light on things that you normally don't shed light on.

1:00:31So you have to let your unconscious do the job in these cases. We received many listener stories of inspiration in response to our earlier conversation app. Here's one from Chris in Arkansas. I'm a career automobile technician, and at times it's really challenging to make certain repairs, particularly on the electrical and electronic high-tech systems on automobiles.

1:00:58Anthony Klotz:That's compounded by the fact that during the workday there's a lot of pressure for production, getting things done in a timely manner. So it's not uncommon for me to sleep on a problem that I was encountering during the day and wake up in the middle of the night having dreamed the solution to the problem. And I've learned from talking to colleagues, it's not just me. Some of my colleagues have experienced this phenomenon as well. Occasionally, I'll have to wake up and write something down. But more often than not, I'll remember it. I'll wake up in the morning, I'll go back to work, and I will have my solution or at least a strategy to arrive at a solution ready to go.

1:01:42So, Ab, as many listeners pointed out, there is a very important role that sleep plays in helping them arrive at moments of inspiration. What is the role of sleep in these eureka moments? This is truly a wonderful example of some of the phenomena I describe in my book. Well, the role of sleep is getting more and more important the more research we do. And we aren't there yet. But what we know now is that, especially during REM sleep, the sleep that produces the dreams, there's all kinds of cognitive processes playing in our brain that have to do with memory, with making new associations, yeah, fostering creativity.

1:02:27So yeah, we know quite specifically that during REM sleep, would you engage in about five or six times a night, sometimes for 10 or 15 minutes, sometimes a little longer, half an hour. These are the most important periods. You know, educators have told us for a very long time that students who pull all-nighters, you know, they stay up all night to study, they're not doing themselves any favors when there is an important test the next morning? Because of course, sleep plays an important role in consolidating learning. And based on what you're saying, you know, students might end up being less creative on the morning of the test if they spend the previous night staying up to cram.

1:03:07Yeah, memory consolidation is one of the first things that people discovered as it comes to what sleep is actually doing for us. So learning in the evening and then have a good night's sleep is way more productive than learning during the night. There's also experiments showing that if you have people learn something and then one group goes to sleep for six or eight hours and the other group has to stay awake, the first group is performing much better in all kinds of memory tests. And the second thing, of course, is that if you don't sleep, you're tired. It's as simple as that. And creativity also needs a well-rested mind.

1:03:42So you're actually, you're not doing yourself a favor in two different ways. First, you're too tired. And second, you don't use these wonderful mechanisms that sleep provides you with. Listener Ilana wrote in with a question about the types of problems that can be solved by unconscious thought processes involving inspiration. She writes, I couldn't understand what types of problems can be solved with the help of the subconscious and which cannot. What do you think, Ab? Are the benefits of unconscious inspiration bounded to certain kinds of problems? That's really an excellent question. Yeah, they are, in that if you think about something very focused and consciously, it's better for some problems or some decisions maybe that you have to make.

1:04:28And the unconscious or the subconscious, as she calls it, is better for other things. Your unconscious is especially good when it comes to problems that are huge, when it involves large amounts of information, where you have the feeling you don't even know where to start. And when a lot of the information that you have to use is more subjective, also when it comes to making a decision, when the information is more emotional. In terms of decision-making, you could make a distinction. If you want to buy something where the different aspects are really technical, like buying a new washing machine, it's perfectly reasonable to do this in a very conscious, rational manner.

1:05:13You know, you can take a piece of paper, a pen, and pluses and minuses and pros and cons, and that's all fine. But everybody would agree with me that once a decision becomes way more complex and also more subjective, like buying a house where also some emotional aspects play a role, you have to also make room for your own unconscious. And if you focus on it only consciously in a very narrow way when buying a house, you're probably going to use the wrong criteria in the end. Many of us have had the experience of feeling inspiration bubbling up when we're young and learning new things. Listener Tracy had a question about whether that process slows down as we age.

1:05:57It seems that when I was younger, I had many moments of inspiration. In fact, I called my business Muse Marketing and Management because I felt inspired often. I made jewelry.

1:06:13Anthony Klotz:I did all kinds of creative things. And as I've gotten older, I've continued creative pursuits, but more in my part time, in my off time than during my working hours. I'm wondering if as we get older, if inspiration comes less and less often, or if maybe we are in more of a fixed mindset and unwilling or unable to be curious. That's it. Thank you for taking my question. What do you think of Tracy's question? up. There's this old classic psychology study where people devised a test battery to measure creativity. And it turned out that the question, what can you do with a paper clip, very simple question, was very central in that test battery.

1:07:06And then the researchers doing that experiment, they looked at the answers people gave and they made a distinction between people that were very, very good and they called them highly creative and um and it turns out among young children almost everybody scored very highly on creativity much they did way way better than than the adults and that led to the development of a theory that there's really two two kinds of thinking one is divergent thinking that is the wild associative creative thinking and the other is convergence thinking that's the sort of the the voice in your head saying things like oh but this is really necessary oh is this possible isn't this too expensive you know this is that you could say the divergent thinking is the gas pedal in the car and convergent thinking is the brake now it turns out that divergent thinking is something you're basically born with it's in you as a child it's it's it's very active as a child and convergent thinking is something you you learn over life and that makes you less creative when you when you grow older or at least it feels like you're less creative or not just not not as often inspired it's because the convergent thinking kicks in more and more often and often and usually also way too early in the process and and being creative and being inspired one way to to put it is trying to find that child in yourself.

1:08:38Go for that divergent thinking and forget about convergent thinking. In some ways, I think what I hear you saying is that, of course, both are important. To use your analogy of the car, a car with just a gas pedal is a dangerous car. A car with just a brake doesn't go anywhere. The question is how to find a balance between those two things. And what I hear you saying is that many older people have come to use the brake so often that they've forgotten to use the gas pedal. Exactly. They may use the gas pedal, but it's immediately inhibited. Yeah. And we have to learn to not use the brake too often and to tell ourselves, you know, maybe next week, but this week, you know, I want to do something else and forget about the brakes.

1:09:18Yes, maybe it's a little dangerous, but that's part of creativity too sometimes. times. One way to see the world from a fresh perspective at any age is to have an encounter with art of some kind, a painting or a song or a dance performance. You like to say that art begets art. What do you mean by this, Op? Yes, the art begets art. The overarching sort of theory, philosophical theory in psychology and neuroscience these days is that your brain is basically a prediction machine. What we are doing with our brains is we continuously update a prediction of what is going to happen in the near future and also in a somewhat more distant future.

1:10:00We try to predict things. You know, if you want to be creative, you have to almost like challenge that prediction machine. You have to show it things that it doesn't predict. It makes your brain more flexible. It leads to new associations. And how do you do that? Well, there's various things to do it one is indeed art you know other artists challenging your prediction machine it's confronting yourself with something that you don't expect another good way is you know to to go and travel to very distinct cultures or to talk to very very um inspiring people you know but yes art art begets art art is something that challenges your prediction machine and it and that causes creativity

1:10:49When we come back, the relationship between positive thinking and inspiration. You're listening to Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam. Thank you.

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1:12:33Today, we're hearing about stories of inspiration and talking with Arp Dijkstra-Haus. He's a psychologist and author of the book, Inspiration, Where the Best Ideas Come From. Arp hears a story of inspiration that we received from a listener named Bill in Pennsylvania. He says that as a sophomore in high school in 1979, he got told off by his band teacher, Mr. Price, for surreptitiously reading during band practice. He writes, Fast forward 40 years to 2019. I am presently a machine learning researcher for Lockheed Martin. Early in the year, my manager asked if I was interested in pursuing the Lockheed Martin Fellows Career Path.

1:13:13This is a rigorous series of technical and professional milestones, each lasting two to three years. At this time, my career was doing well, and I was very busy with both my work and home life. I knew that going down the fellows' track would be very difficult. I told my manager I would give it some thought, but in the back of my mind, I was really hedging against it. The day after telling my manager I'd think about it, I went to sleep, and I had the most vivid dream, reliving that exact scenario from 40 years in the past. I had my book, I was in band class, I was going to sit behind the trumpets, and Mr.

1:13:48Price came charging up the band risers, asking me what the hell I was doing. But here's where everything in the dream changed and my unconscious took over. The background faded away, the music stopped playing, and Mr. Price looked at me saying, Bill, you only get one shot at this. Never waste an opportunity. You will never know what would have happened unless you try it. And I woke up. I remember the dream perfectly, writing it down because it was so shocking. Somehow, my unconscious mind, through Mr. Price, was telling me that I should really take the leap, do the hard work, and go through the Lockheed Martin Technical Fellows process.

1:14:25The next day, I emailed my manager and told him I was ready to start the process. Ap, what do you make of Bill's story? Yeah, it's a wonderful example of how such a clear form of inspiration from your unconscious, especially during sleep, is quite rare, but it's not unheard of. And this is a wonderful example. And it happened to me actually roughly a year ago where I had a dream that in that dream, I felt the urge to write a children's book about the upcoming fascism in various countries around the world. When I woke up in the morning, I still remembered enough to actually make some notes. And now Now the book is actually at my publisher.

1:15:11It will appear in a couple of months. Wow. They're wonderful examples of how important our unconscious mind is and how it can manifest itself even during REM sleep. It seems that inspiration comes to us most often when we're in a rather relaxed or even meditative state. You've actually conducted a study with Zen meditators looking at how the practice of meditation affects the transfer of insight from the unconscious to the conscious mind. Tell me about the study and what you found out. What we did in that study was actually, it's quite straightforward. We asked people questions that could be answered with two, three, or four different answers, like name one of the beetles or name one of the colors of the American flag.

1:16:00And before these questions, we subliminally presented on a computer screen, we presented one of the possible answers. and then you ask the question and you see whether they actually use that unconsciously activated answer and it turns out after 20 minutes of zen meditation people actually do use these answers much more often than on the basis of chance and under normal conditions so without meditation beforehand they don't use the answers so that's it was one way in which we could show that active information in the unconscious is transferred to consciousness easier or better after a brief period of Zen meditation.

1:16:39And why do you think this is, Zapp? If you look at classic meditation technique, most of them are really about concentration. What you are doing is trying to look deeper into your own mind. So almost in a literal sense, what you are doing is you increase the traffic between consciousness and the deeper unconscious regions of your mind. And that's indeed what we showed. So besides formal meditation, you say that the meditative state of mind that facilitates insight can come about in the course of daily life. In this regard, scientists sometimes talk about the three Bs. What are these three Bs? the classic three b's are uh the bed the bus and the bath and um yeah scientists jokingly said that these were the the moments uh where the possibilities on on having a really good idea an insightful idea inspiration and and also the the last hour half hour before you really wake up and you're you're sort of in this half sleep uh is also for for many people a very productive moment.

1:17:47And in the car or public transport or train or plane is also known to be a moment where people do get good ideas. I want to play you a message from a listener we received about the power of walking. This is listener Polly.

1:18:05Anthony Klotz:I was ordained as an interfaith minister in New York and had taken a class on pilgrimages in seminary and decided to set forth from Saint-Jean-Pierre deport France over the border into Spain and walk the 500 miles of the Camino de Santiago French route on my way to Santiago, Spain, which took me almost 41 days. And I decided to hike this route in silence and by myself for those 40 days as kind of an homage to my own creative process, what I wanted to do next in my life, and just wanted that time. I didn't really know what to expect. But when I started walking and was about 20 days in, with an average walking distance of 15 miles a day, I started to notice my subconscious and my conscious mind became very cohesive.

1:19:08And I started to have visualizations and really was in a place that I had never experienced before. Polly goes on to say that it was during a sunrise walk on this journey that she had an epiphany and it led her to create a non-profit organization. So, Ab, talk about why walking seems to wake up something in the unconscious minds of so many people. Again, this is really a wonderful story. And when I studied the working habits of all kinds of geniuses in the past, of scientists, but also all kinds of artists, there are quite a number of commonalities between all these people. One of them is that they are passionate and they work hard.

1:19:51But these things you would expect. But one other commonality is they're all walkers. They make their daily walks, sometimes two, three hours, sometimes shorter, but they all make their daily walks. This goes one step further than, you know, merely taking a one or two hour walk. But even if you just walk for one or two hours, what you experience, it's like the boundaries between consciousness and your unconscious are slowly fading and they become, as she said, more cohesive. As long as you, you know, you really concentrate on yourself. If you do this more often over a very prolonged time, these boundaries fade even more and you increase the chance that indeed your unconscious comes up with even a life-changing idea of what to do.

1:20:51When we come back, fostering your own founts of inspiration. We'll talk about the relationship between setting goals and experiencing aha moments. You're listening to Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam.

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1:22:52This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam. We're talking with psychologist Arp Dykstorhaus. He's the author of Inspiration, Where the Best Ideas Come From. Arp, we received a message from a listener named Ruan, who is an expert on the HPV vaccine. The human papillomavirus causes cervical cancer and a host of other health problems. One day, a colleague asked her how she would design a study to answer the question of whether a single dose of the vaccine would be as effective as two or three doses. Here she is. I had been studying HPV at that time for eight years and had read every paper and understood it deeply because it was the subject of my doctoral dissertation at the University of Oxford.

1:23:37And when she asked me that question, I immediately came to mind the trial design that would lead to the WHO changing its guidelines and recommending single dose HPV vaccination. We conducted the trial in a record 18 months, including during the pandemic, ran perfectly on time, presented the data. And since that day, millions of girls who have not otherwise been vaccinated have received the HPV vaccine. and with India and China adopting single-dose vaccination, we are on track to vaccinate 90 % of girls and prevent cervical cancer in 90 % of those young women as they age to mid-adulthood. And that is thrilling.

1:24:24And it was thanks to the creativity, the deep learning and the moment of inspiration that we were able to solve this question. Thanks so much for a fantastic podcast. So, Ab, I find Ruan's story so wonderful, but it makes me wonder the extent to which deep background knowledge is a prerequisite for inspiration? Yes, most of the time it is. If you want to solve a scientific problem, of course you need background knowledge. And what she was talking about is highly specific and perhaps only a few people could have solved it in the first place. This is true, not for all things, but definitely for most things.

1:25:06A good idea for a new novel will probably only come to somebody who writes novels. You know, it's not some random process whereby people on the street will also get these huge ideas. And the second reason is that motivation is incredibly important. You have to really want it for it to happen. Let's talk a moment about the relationship between goals and inspiration. It might not be intuitive, but you say that to create the conditions that generate insight, we can begin by setting the right kind of goal, one that's big and highly motivating. What do you mean by that, Ab? Inspiration favors the people who really want to solve something or make something or create something.

1:25:50And the stronger the goal is, the more brain capacity you're actually using for pursuing that goal. That's also the reason why some of the more extreme geniuses in our past were highly monomaniac. Newton died when he was 84 years old, but he died a virgin. He never made room in his life for something like love. Now, I wouldn't recommend that, but that's what he did. And there are a lot of examples of people who achieved way more than, let's say, normal people, but at the same time were very monomaniac simply because their brains were hijacked by their incredibly big, strong goal. You also suggest that when our brains are hijacked in this way, we are more likely to have faith in our intuitions?

1:26:40Yeah, that turns out to be true. There's various ways to test it. People who really know what they want have a stronger intuition and also more faith in their own intuition. It's not so strange if you think about it. What can your intuition do for you if you don't know what you want to do? You're walking in a strange city. Your intuition can't tell you to go left or right if you don't even know where to go. And this is maybe a simple example. But this is true in life in general. Intuition works better for people who are motivated, who set strong goals. I mean, at a very basic level, you're walking through the streets of an unfamiliar city, but you know you're hungry.

1:27:23You're looking for a place to eat. And now perhaps your nose is more sensitive to the smells and odors that are coming from various restaurants that prompt you to say, okay, maybe I should go left instead of right. Yeah, exactly. Or maybe your ears too. You know, you think I go left because you hear a little bit more noise from that side and you think the chances that I stumble upon a street with a couple of restaurants is bigger. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. So, we're living in a very data driven time in a variety of professional and academic fields. Quantitative analysis is often seen as more reliable and insightful.

1:28:01We received a message about this from listener Nikki. My biggest frustration is, is that when I come up with the insights and share them with other people at work, The people I speak with are quite skeptical about anything that doesn't come from methodical, analytical work where I have facts and figures and data and metrics. And so any insights that I have that I know are true aren't trusted or believed. And they say things like, oh, yeah, you say that's your intuition, but we need facts and figures. So I would be interested to hear what you think of that. Thank you very much for everything you do.

1:28:46Apu, what do you think is the right balance between data and intuition? And do you think we're living in a time that in some ways undervalues intuition? Yes, I think we're living in a time that undervalues intuition. Although I would also say that maybe 20, 30, 40 years ago, it was actually worse. I think I give a lot of, you know, talks to companies and government organizations. And my feeling is that there's actually a little more room for intuition than in the past. But the right balance purely depends on the kind of problem and the kind of decisions you are talking about. Again, if you're buying a new washing machine, the technical aspects and the numbers and the figures are probably the only thing that should count.

1:29:30You know, who cares about what a washing machine looks like? But when you buy a house, it's more complex. There's more emotionally charged information that you have to take into account. If you make huge personal decisions between your current job, for instance, or a job offer from somewhere else, or when it comes to things that have to do with love, you know, romantic love, you're not going to make a pro and con list. And that's hard to verbalize and you can't quantify it in terms of, you know, numbers. But it is incredibly important. So the right balance purely depends on the kind of decision people are making.

1:30:08But often the wrong balance is where they don't take intuition seriously and only want to base their decisions on facts and figures. Very often that's not a very good idea. You know, I remember speaking many years ago with Danny Kahneman, the psychologist who won the Nobel Prize in economics. And he told me about a very interesting story in his younger days when he was helping an organization make decisions. And the organization was primarily relying on intuition and often making mistakes, you know, relying on intuition to make judgments and those judgments would turn out to be wrong. So he came up with a much more methodical way of collecting information, collecting data, understanding the data.

1:30:53But then he had a really important insight, which is that after you collect all of this data, the right thing to do is to actually shut the book on all of the data that you've collected and then make the decision intuitively. And the point that he was making was that intuition in itself is neither good nor bad. It can produce bad results. It can produce good results. But when intuition is informed by learning and by discipline and by data, at that point, you are turbocharging intuition. And I'm wondering what you make of that, Arp. And if that's a way in some ways of squaring the tension that perhaps has run through our conversation between data and intuition.

1:31:28I have to say I completely agree. Intuition that is not at all informed is pretty much useless. And intuition by people who have a lot of experience can be incredibly useful. If there's a house on fire, the question is, can I still go inside to rescue something or will the house collapse? my intuition is useless but you know a firefighter's intuition who's doing this who's been doing this job for 35 years is probably incredibly reliable and it's the best device you can get but yeah when it comes to making an important decision I completely agree with Kahneman in my own work we provided people with information pertaining to a decision like choose between four different departments and we give them a lot and a lot and a lot of information and then we tell them to sit on it for a while, sleep on it, almost sometimes literally sleep on it, and then the following morning follow your intuition.

1:32:28You don't have to explain to me why you think this is the best apartment. You know, follow your gut. And if these steps are met, so first all this information, then a period of unconscious thought, then a quick intuitive judgment, that's indeed the best way to make a decision. Yeah. I'm wondering where you find your inspiration these days. Do you have regular go-to places where you end up feeling inspired? It's interesting. In the book, I describe the various phases that you have to stimulate your brain and do things that are a little bit weird, challenge your prediction machine. And then you have to engage in a more quiet period where you let your unconscious mull over things.

1:33:11What I tend to do is I travel sometimes, especially, I especially like to go to big cities and they're always very inspiring. But I spend most of my time now living in a rather small, medieval, beautiful village, but it's relatively quiet. So I travel and I go to big cities for my inspiration and then I go back home to actually do the work and let the unconscious mull over things. And that's for me, that's a kind of a rhythm.

1:33:47Psychologist Arp Daxterhaus is the author of Inspiration, Where the Best Ideas Come From. Arp, thank you so much for joining me again today on Hidden Brain. Thank you. We also heard today from psychologist Anthony Klotz. He's the author of Jolted, Why We Quit, When to Stay, and Why It Matters.

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1:34:36If you know someone who's in the midst of a life jolt or who could use some help cultivating their own inspiration, please share today's episode with them. You might just give them the tools to make a big change or find their own eureka moment. I'm Shankar Vedantam. See you soon.

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