Raising a Dog & Mastering Calm Assertive Energy | Cesar Millan

22:15Andrew Huberman:Ideally for a family or for a typical domestic situation, I'm thinking United States, but elsewhere, because this is going everywhere and this episode will go everywhere. Middle or back of the pack? Middle. Middle. Yeah. A family who has never raised a dog together? Yeah. Middle. How can you assess the litter when you see them so that you pick a middle of the pack dog if that's what's appropriate? Sounds like that's the goal. The front is going to be very easy to assess because he's going to be the biggest one. He's going to be the one that's moving the sisters and the brothers away from the mom.

22:47He's already going to practice dominance. And then the middle is the second to get to the mother. In the back of the pack, they always wait. You see, they're more shy.

22:58Andrew Huberman:Naturally, they're just sensitive. What if you don't have access to the interaction with the mother? Having gone to pick up puppies a few times, sometimes you just see the puppies. the mom's in another room, should you ask to watch the interaction? And if you can't, how can you assess if you're just looking at the lid? Well, normally if you're in a situation, the breeder knows, because that's what they put ribbons, you know, color ribbons, so they know, okay, this is middle, this is their back. Even though they don't call them that way, they just call them round of the litter, you know, pet quality in front of the pack.

23:27The front of the pack is just the obvious one, right? And so when, just go inside, you know, where the puppies are and there's no mother and nothing, and just stay quiet. And every time you present something new, you're going to see the more confident coming to and the more happy-go-lucky coming to. And the back of the pack, it doesn't get close. Anything new. It just can be a pillow. And that's the first time they experience a pillow and the front of the pack will go. And then in the middle of the pack, we'll go and play. It's hardwired. It's there. That's why you can guarantee good behavior, right?

24:01Because now you say, okay, I want a middle-of-the-pack Border Collie. I want a middle-of-the-pack going Retriever. I want a middle-of-the-pack pit bull. You can have it, you see, because that's going to guarantee to you exactly what you want. It's going to be easier for you to tell them what to do because it was born naturally a follower. Versus if you get a front-of-the-pack, whatever breed, chihuahua, I don't care what it is. They're born, you know, with the disposition of giving direction, protection. So wherever human wants to live with them needs to have more knowledge, right? right? So that's me running a pack of dogs and having different animals.

24:36The animals know that I have a big energy.

24:39Andrew Huberman:They don't know I have 43 acres. They just know I have a land. And that you're in charge of it. Yeah. And all the ups and downs that I went through and I have been, the wars that I go through, right? The divorces and all of that stuff. And I went through and I find my silence, my confidence, my confidence, my love, my joy, right back. They know my energy is big, Right? So that, I can have a front of the pack, but I don't have one. I have middles and back. Even you. Even me. Yeah. Because it will require so much. I will need to find him a job. You see what I'm saying? Like a border patrol, something like that, looking for the bad guys.

25:20Like, that would be a job. It's just one officer and one dog. He doesn't need the pack.

25:25Andrew Huberman:Fascinating. I'm sure, like many people listening, I'm trying to figure out, was Costello front of the back? I think he was. He was an enormous dog, I mean, even within his litter. And when I went to go pick him up, I had met him as a three-week-old puppy. He was the one butting all the other ones out, eating from their food bowls. He was - They claimed. Yeah, he didn't yelp, didn't yap at all. He just ate everything. That's right. Took everything, peed where he wanted to, did everything. So it was a difficult thing raising him. This new one, Strummer, who's four and a half months, he's definitely middle, maybe even back of the pack.

26:02Andrew Huberman:But he was second out when he was born. And they said, oh, you know, he's gonna be the pick of the litter. They said that, but definitely not. Quickly it was clear that he kind of kept a little bit distance. He is very sensitive. Okay, that's good. Much sweeter. Yeah, sensitive. Yeah, much more playful. And that's the part that I have to work with because they enchant us. You know, like I noticed with Strummer, he has figured out, you know, that if he gets into play mode, it lights me up. And then I have to remember to stay in my place, my proper place. Yeah, yeah. Because I'm trying to teach him here, this is the order of things.

26:36Andrew Huberman:It's very important because I want to be able to bring him anywhere. Leave him in a room alone with little kids and trust completely that he's not going to accidentally do something. For people that want to learn to sense their own energy, use their energy field, should they also be asking if they are front, middle, or back of pack? The human, yeah. Yeah. In the human world. This is something that's a little bit of a sensitive topic, right? Because every guy wants to say, yeah, I'm an alpha, not a beta. Everyone thinks that way. I like to think in different circumstances, people can move up or down the hierarchy.

27:07Andrew Huberman:I mean, I work with a lot of scientists and I can tell you in many environments that they don't come across as alphas, but you put them in a laboratory or a lecture environment. And I mean, they own their space because that's their expertise. So it can move around. But can you explain what it is to observe oneself, really think honestly about oneself and where one really lies in this, let's call it what it is. It's a hierarchy, but that makes it sound like one is better. It just is what it is. You're either front, middle or back a pack human. That's their special magic, right? Being back of the pack means the master calm surrender.

27:46So we have to learn to master calm surrender. That's our more sensitive state of mind. So when I'm assessing and evaluating a dog, I go into my calm surrender state. So I go in the back of the pack. When it's time for me to give direction and protection, I go to the front of the pack. When I achieve whatever I need to achieve, I go into the middle of the pack. You see it? So the human can take advantage of this position, of this state of mind. The dog, the back of the pack dog is going to tell you, listen, I'm here to master calm surrender. It doesn't mean I don't do happy-go-lucky, but he can never do calm confident.

28:26Andrew Huberman:Back of pack can't do front of pack. Never, never. And are we talking humans and dogs now if we're really transparent? Well, it's just to have that fine line between what the human can do versus what the dog can't. So it's important to understand that a dog is born with a position. And the human can go from whatever position he was born to different positions. Because it's a lot of, like you say, it's a lot of scientists, people who are very brilliant on this side. But when it comes to a dog, a dog takes over. Oh, yeah. Or even just at a coffee shop, you know, they sort of, they become a smaller version of themselves.

29:03Andrew Huberman:Not because they're weak, it's just it's not their domain of expertise and they feel weak in that environment. Correct. Or they turn on one energy more than the other one. And so a lot of these people turn on more the affection energy, right? And affection or love energy in the animal world is not a strong energy. Yeah. Tell me more about that because I practiced on your recommendation, no look, no touch, no speak when I got home. Most difficult thing for people to do, I think. You know, they get home and the dog's like super happy. See them, tail is wagging. They're excited. And I'm like, I'm going to ignore my dog.

29:35Andrew Huberman:This feels like abuse, right? You know, but I'd come in and do my thing. And then after some period of time, I'm like, hey. And what I realized is every time after that, I'd come home and he was calm. He was excited to see me, but he was calm. Never jumping up and touching me, never jumping up and touching anyone else. But if someone came over and they were super excited, it almost would confuse him. Like this is not how people enter the space. Most people, I think, have a very hard time not greeting their dog with men and women squealing. That's right. My baby! It's good. And it makes the dogs anxious.

30:10Andrew Huberman:It causes problems in the relationship. Yeah. Right? Absolutely. But I think most people don't realize that. Well, that's exactly, you said it. You know, I don't want to ignore my dog. And I don't want to like tell my dog that I don't love him. because then the interpretation, the dog missed me. But every time you leave an animal behind walls, the animal is going to go excited or anxious. So not always what you're greeting is a happy dog. Most of the time what you're greeting is an excited, anxious dog that is confused. So it's very important. When people see dogs greeting another dog, there is no excitement.

30:45There is respect. And they wait until the front of the pack allows them to come in. They can't just come in into their intimate space. So it's a ritual. So it's three rituals that are very important for people to master with no touch, no talk, no eye contact. One is the meeting. Every time you meet a dog, always remind them about safe, peace, nose, eyes, ears, trust, respect first. And then is the walk. The dog right next to you, following you, quiet. And then when you feed. So those three activities are very meaningful to dogs, but it all starts with the meeting, with the greeting. So every time you reunite, you have to remind your dog that you are a source of safe and peace, of trust, respect, of nose, eyes, ears.

31:29Andrew Huberman:You have to tell them that. Dissect nose, eyes, ears for us. Because I think most people, because we're humans, especially in the U.S. and, you know, in Northern Europe or wherever. Yeah, England. It's speaking. Yeah. People are just speaking constantly, like, hi, hi, hi. You know, this is not the best way to communicate with a dog, who you are and what you're about and what the trust relationship. Well, it creates excitement, right? It creates a dog that learned to greet people with excitement. So if you greet your dog with excitement, you are the source to other humans. So he's going to greet all the humans excited.

32:04He's going to jump on people. Not everybody wants a dog that doesn't belong to them to jump on them. So, but because, you know, let's say you do that, your dog has learned to welcome humans excited. You see it? So when a dog is born, he born with the nose open. 15 days later, they open the eyes. 21 days later, they open the ears. This is scientifically, right? This is in all the encyclopedias. So that means the dog met his parents through the nose, then the eyes, then the ears. You see it? But when people wants to do ears, eyes, nose, they want to create a human. They want the dog to understand the way you and I understand.

32:43Andrew Huberman:Hey, Andrew, how you doing? But we can control that excitement, right? At least we should. Some people can't, right? But so it's a different ritual for us. You know, we believe in parties. We believe in parades. For a horse to go to New York is a very excited place. It takes conditioning because no horse will ever volunteer going to New York. It has to be conditioned, right? Because you're bringing him to a very excited environment with his instincts, say flight. Recently, there have been these problems. Sorry to cut you off. I don't know if you saw a couple of the carriages in Central Park took off.

33:19Andrew Huberman:Someone was killed recently. There's a whole debate going on now whether or not this is good or bad for these horses. But it's just clear, regardless of where one sits on the debate, that you can't take the instinct out of the animal. There are triggers that will send them over an edge. Or you have to make sure that you keep eye on how is the spirit of the horse, is the instinct of the horse healthy, is the spirit happy. Because when they just go into the habit of working, working, working, working, even a police dog can crash. You see what I mean? Even a police dog can bite a police officer because it's overworked.

33:54Andrew Huberman:I have a few friends from the special operations community. They work with these dogs that jump out of planes, parachute. The Belgian Malinois. Yeah, the Malinois. And several of those guys have told me that with those dogs, you cannot ever, ever let up your guard as the leader. In fact, a few guys who got a little soft with them, just a tiny bit, like one anecdote was they decided to invite the dog in to watch a movie with them one night when they're on deployment or maybe they were training. I don't know. And he let the dog get a little too close to him during the movie. The next day he got bit.

34:30Andrew Huberman:And it's like they're constantly trying to move up the hierarchy. He's like, it sucks because you fall in love with these animals, but you have to constantly keep the relationship in its proper place. Or they'll not turn on you, but they'll try and take your position. They don't try. That's the thing with animals. They don't try. They just do. Right? There is no knowledge behind instinct. It's all reaction. So at the moment, your energy goes down. Bam! Amazing. At the moment. So they keep an eye on your energy. You know, but at the same time, you know, this kind of dogs are always in a high level of excitement.

35:01They keep them that way.

35:02Andrew Huberman:Yeah, they're vigilant. They keep them like that. They don't know how to turn it off. So to create a great home family dog, or even if somebody lives alone, it's no look, no touch, no speak in the first couple of minutes of contact. Yeah, until the dog becomes peaceful and calm and open mind. So surrender means the mind is open, right? So once the mind opens up, you can teach whatever you want, such as waiting, such as being calm. What if somebody has an anxious dog right now, they haven't been doing this, and the dog is pawing at them and running around, should the person just stay completely in that calm space, moving about and ignoring them, touching them?

35:41Andrew Huberman:Or should they be physically, like, you know, get off me type thing? Well, this also has to do with how much exercise, physically exercise, the dog has received. Right? How long is his walk? because most people walk 20, 30 minutes. That's not enough. And the dog end up in the house for 23 and a half hours. In my opinion, it's borders on abuse. It's really incredibly hard on an animal that has that much energy. But this is the same people that say, I love my dog. And my first question is, how long do you walk him? What is your recommendation? I realize it varies by breed and by age. Yeah, and by level of energy because some are couch potatoes, low level energy, some middle and some high, right?

36:19And so it depends on the energy of the dog. So not because a dog is a back of the pack doesn't mean they don't have high level energy. Okay. Because the sled dogs, there is a lot of guys that go in the back. It's only one in the front, if you notice, right? And even in the back of the pack dogs, because they create a pack from middle back, right? And that's where they stay in that mode. And so even the back of the pack, they have to have the same level of stamina as the one in the front. So not because it's a back of the pack, it's couch potato. You know? So then you have to understand the levels of energy that they're born with, low, medium, high.

36:52Yeah, so a lot of times people say, oh, bulldogs are couch potatoes. No, you can have a bulldog that is absolutely athletic, absolutely athletic. And has that stamina to go. And, you know, obviously you have to help them with the breeding part because they just go into, you know, no limits. So you have to help them, you know, cool down.

37:12Andrew Huberman:Strummer has a lot of energy compared to Costello. So two minimum 30-minute walks per day as much as a couple hours twice a day. With a backpack on, right? Obviously, the dog is a little older because the backpack adds that extra half hour because now the dog is carrying something. So a weighted backpack. Yes. And how should one assess percentage of body weight of the dog? At the beginning, you can just put a backpack because psychologically, they don't want to wear anything. Nothing that we put on them they want to wear it. You know, a leash, a collar, a muzzle, a boots. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter.

37:48So psychologically, that drains them, right? Because they got to get used to it. So you walk into the dog, come surrender to it, and then you take it off. And then the mind will become very drained. Once the dog gets used to it, and then you start putting weight, you can start with five pounds. Remember, every time you add something, you challenge the mind. And the goal is simply for the mind to surrender. You see it? And then the body, the body is going to become calm because it's wasting energy. So your job literally every day with a dog is to empty the tank. Empty the tank, you know, because a tired dog is never going to give you problems.

38:22Ever. True. Ever. How? He doesn't have the energy to give you problems, right? And then on top of that, you create rules, bounds, limitations, such as just put food right here, but you can't touch it. So the mind has to be disciplined not to touch it. Then the mind has to learn instead of doing this, to do this. And that requires self-discipline. If you tell the dog, don't touch it or don't touch the human, don't touch the food, don't touch the cat, they go into a calm, surrender state and they wait.

38:49Andrew Huberman:Yeah, the first thing that I taught Strummer was to suppress action, just as a general theme. He learned it right away. At eight weeks, it took about a day, maybe even half a day because I had learned the hard way with Costello. It was much more stubborn. I could set food down. Yep. But as an eight-week-old puppy, because we went through the training process, he's not touching it until he looks at me. I can walk around the room. I can do whatever I want. He's tracking. And then when I say, okay, then he's going to eat. I will just mention there's an inhibition from the forebrain down to the brain regions that control impulses.

39:28Andrew Huberman:And that's what we call top-down inhibition, which is nerd neuroscience speak for what you're describing practically. And I feel like it carries over to other circumstances more easily. But I can put food in front of him now and leave the room. I don't do this for extended periods, but I come back, he's not going to touch it. Yep. And then he starts to eat. Now, it's a little bit more difficult with things that, like trying to teach him to not be mouthy on. So I have a rule. No skin in dog's mouth. This is just like, it's all or none. Make it simple. Because it's really cute when they're a puppy, their teeth are a little sharp.

40:04Andrew Huberman:And then you can kind of, but I just have a, it's a thick black line. Right. And my girlfriend knows this too. Like she's like, no, but he wants to play. It's like no skin goes in his mouth. Then he, cause that's a simple rule. Yep. And if he does happens to, you know, go for skin, I'll do the little Yelp thing. He understands right away. So if people hear this, they're going to be like, this is terrible, right? You're putting food in front of him and he wants to eat and you're not letting him. But could you elaborate why this is so important to the dog's happiness and wellbeing? because I believe it is, and I could see that in Costello.

40:38Andrew Huberman:I see it in Strummer. There's a trust. There's a calmness. There's an availability to go more places. But many people, they just, like, he's hungry. She's hungry. They missed me. You know, they didn't know what they were doing. Or they feel guilty because they didn't walk the dog. Guilt plays a big role in raising dogs. Well, then let's stay on the walk for a moment. What is so critical about the structured walk? I've been doing two hours a day or so of structured walk. since he was little. And people say that's too much for a puppy. I feel like he's been great with two one-hour walks. It's because they forget instincts, right?

41:15They forget instinct that a dog is instinctually, is going to follow his parents to find food and water, right? Yes, they do it after two months of age because otherwise they will stay within the den, right? But from two to four, they follow. They follow and somebody's always taking care. You can see it in the African wild dogs. There is always somebody that supervises the litter, but they allow them to follow, right? And then they go to a certain stance because they're growing. But as soon as the dog gets into six, eight months of age, that guy wants to walk more than 30 minutes. Guaranteed. He doesn't want to stay in one place too long.

41:54Andrew Huberman:So all these people with their dogs home all day, or some people will say, well, the dog has the yard, running around the yard. It's not the same, right? Being able to run around a yard. With the yard, it becomes like the zoo, right? It's an animal in the zoo with a yard, but that's not natural. That's just practical for the human, right? And the human feels like, okay, I have a backyard. That's where the dog does exercise, but the dog is going in circles. So exercise for a bird is going for a fish. You know, a bird have to fly, a fish have to swim, and a dog has to walk. It's just the nature of each species, right?

42:28So the walk is the most important activity in my eyes, right? Look at the homeless people with their dogs. why they can walk a dog off leash. You were the first person I ever heard say that homeless people are the best dog owners. And the humans who are blind, the human who are blind dog is right next to them. Homeless people, dog in the back, right? So what are they doing right? Well, the dog is following them, right? They're in a follower state. And so the dog that lives with the blind is not allowed to get distracted because his purpose is to guide the blind. And the dog that lives with the homeless is not allowed to go in front.

43:03consciously or unconsciously, the dog stays in the back. Nine out of 10 homeless people have a pit bull and the dog is well-behaved, off-leash.

43:11Andrew Huberman:I see a lot of them in my neighborhood. This is Los Angeles. It's incredible. Incredible, right? But in Mexico, every single dog in a thorough country, every single dog is off-leash. So that's, in America, the American dream for a lot of people is to have a dog walk off-leash because people pay a trainer to train their dog to be off-leash with this is the nature of a dog. You see, it doesn't make any sense, you know, once you hear it. You just have to help them by practicing the ritual of no touch, no talk, no eye contact. Let the dog be calm, surrender in front of you. Make sure during the walk he's also in the same state of mind and before you feed him.

43:47Do this for at least three weeks, right? So you get into this habit, right, that when you greet, when you walk, and when you feed. So then this dog is going to have this beautiful, silent, calm, surrender. And this is the dog you bring into dog parks or dog beaches. And then your job is to make sure that the dog that your dog is going to play with has the same energy as your dog. You have to be selective, just like with kids, right?

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47:09Andrew Huberman:But they don't want to walk first thing in the morning. I want to cuddle with my dog first thing in the morning. I mean, my household now, I had to be really clear. Like if we don't follow this, we're damaging the opportunities for Strummer. We're actually hurting his psychological well-being. Yeah. And the only hard part with him is he doesn't necessarily like to wake up early, but sometimes have to walk him early. So it takes a little bit of extra encouragement. The day always starts with a walk, then discipline training, and then food, and then some affection. Yeah. But it's not hours of like cuddling on the couch, right?

47:46Andrew Huberman:It's like a, you know, I mean, I love him. I would love to pick him up and treat him like a little baby much more often than I do. Right. But I just see the incredible results that come from this exercise discipline and then affection. Well, just living a natural life is love. Right? We want them to live as natural as possible. And so that's love in my eyes, like exercise discipline. Discipline is not punishment because that's a word that in the animal, the dog people, when they hear the word discipline on the dog, they put it as punishment. Yeah, they're thinking of a teacher hitting them. Yeah, like you're punishing the dog.

48:23And no, you're just making sure the dog follows the rules by limitations, the dog follows a structure, you know, and that's what we call discipline, right? And that's how we achieve becoming well-behaved or achieving success because we have to be disciplined, right? And so a lot of times what I end up helping people is understanding the word so the word doesn't block them from doing the right thing, right? Which is your job as a pet parent, because now it's the title, pet parent, right? It's direction, protection, then love. Yeah, but most people want to do affection, affection, affection. And when it should be, exercise, disability, and affection, body, mind, heart.

49:06Andrew Huberman:I think the walking part is so key, obviously. And I'll just say it. tell me if you agree or disagree, if you want, but I think most people are just lazy. They don't want to walk. And if they walk, they don't want to do it without talking on their phone or looking at their phone. And the dog can sense if your energy is on the walk or the energy is someplace else. Are you connected or you're disconnected? Or you're in a flexi-leash with a harness on and you're in the phone, which is the worst. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So it's the moment where you are connected to mother nature and through the dog, right?

49:39And people now, you know, they see God is dog backwards. All right, so you're connected to spirit and you're connected to earth, but you can't be connected to technology. And the phone is the same thing. The phone is for connection, communication, relationship. So does the dog. Connection, communication, relationship to God, to earth, to you. And so then you create that triangle and then the dog is inside that bubble. You know, oh, this human is really respecting God. This human is really respecting earth. This human is really respecting the moment. So you create this vibe, right? And the dog is in a follower state.

50:13So he's going to imitate the energy that you're in, right? And so what is prayer? An imitation of everybody doing the same energy.

50:23Andrew Huberman:I find it so fascinating that your relationship to dogs has opened up this understanding of human behavior, but not just how we behave, but how we relate to the entire world, like the energetics. as keeps coming up in our discussion, I feel I have other practical questions, but I wanna touch on something that you mentioned before we started recording, which is that in a third world country, people are aware of death very early on. And so the connection to the spiritual comes first and all the rest follows. The complete inversion of somebody like me who was born in Northern California, it's like Silicon Valley, they can call it that then.

51:05Andrew Huberman:And you learn everything through the logical structures and science. Science, yeah. And my dad's a scientist. But even if one loves poetry and music and things like that, which I do, the order is sort of like bricks on the ground first, but there's no concept of death, actually, until your grandparent dies or an animal dies or something. Tell me about this relationship to death and how it structures the psyche and the energy of people in third world countries, because it's a direct outgrowth of everything we're talking about. Because I think it's going to be extremely useful to people regardless of where they live in the world.

51:41I think that's the first step, you know, to learn not to be afraid of death, right? That's the first step because in America, they don't want nothing to die. But it's just what it is, right? Birth, life, and death. So it's just, that's when in the Mexican culture, we have the Dia de los Muertos, the day of the death. So we learn to be okay with it. We learn to accept it because, you know, in Mexico or a thorough country, death is everywhere. You can see it everywhere. You know, I'm from the north of Mexico, Sinaloa, and you see people with the chop heads and hang up. And, you know, you go to school and people are dead.

52:21So what do you end up doing in this moment? Well, you end up believing that God will protect you. That's your spirituality, right? And just like what I don't want a person to break into my house, you get a dog. And so that the mother nature to protect you. So for us, when we grew up that way, seeing death everywhere, we learned to surrender to this higher power. And we are what you believe. So it's really good in our experience to be able to surrender to death. But at the same time, we also surrender that somebody is going to give us direction, protection, love. The same thing is the back leader.

53:01Right. And we just surrender to that. Right. And as well, we surrender to earth, giving us food and taking care of earth. Because it's a combination of spirituality and instincts in a third world country. So it's almost like people in third world countries place sort of they see the reality of death early.

53:21Andrew Huberman:And they place themselves in a sort of hierarchy. They look upward, oftentimes, not always, but oftentimes these are religious people, right? Yeah. My father's from Argentina, and is a Catholic country, and is a - Latinos, by design, we are taught to spirit first, and then second is mother nature, right? Yeah, it's number, you know, now it's like an order, and then you have to go to work, right? So job is number three, and then you have to love the family, and then love is at the end, right? But is God first, earth second, and then is family or work? Well, here in the United States, we're raised very differently.

54:05Andrew Huberman:Yeah, sell first. And it's also this idea that stuff is the portal to happiness. That's right. Having the latest phone, having access to all the apps. Shoes, a lot of shoes. Shoes, bags. I grew up with one pair of shoes. You know, one pair of shoes. And so we grew up with very, nothing but then so what how do we stay happy right how do we stay happy so it becomes like a belief system right and so that belief system it has helped a lot of people that I know there to stay happy it's just a happy people with nothing which is the key right you first have to be learn to be happy healthy loving smart with nothing then when you have something and then you're already happy healthy loving smart it just adds into your accomplishments but I don't Animals don't understand money, fame, power.

54:55Animals understand natural, simple, profound. So that's the part that I grew up in. Natural, simple, profound. Natural is your instinct. Simple is to love. Profound is your spirit. Natural, simple, profound. So even if you're not smart, right, you can still be natural, simple, profound and have an amazing relationship with animals. Incredible, right? Even if you're not, you don't know how to read, you don't know how to, right? You don't know where Europe is, but you can still have an amazing relationship with God and with Mother Nature and with your family, right? And therefore, if you're good to those three, you're good to you.

55:30Andrew Huberman:I used to joke, because I'd bring Costello to my lab with me. In a lab of about 15 people, I'd walk in with him and he'd go around and he liked walking into the lab, he'd see all the students and people working. He used to bring his toy around to each of them sitting at their desk to try and get them to play. You know, he was part of the lab and people really, I like to think they loved him. They told me anyway that. But I used to look at him sometimes and I think he doesn't care that I'm the professor. He doesn't care. That's the best part about this relationship. He doesn't care. He doesn't care.

55:59Andrew Huberman:Even if we go home at night, sometimes I would sleep in the lab back then. He doesn't care. He just wants us to be together. He wants his walks. He likes to be on things. And I just realized he just kind of wants to be around the joy of family, a laboratory. He just wants to be part of this. And it really helped me to just remove the concept that he even knew what roles were or jobs were. It was just this place we went. I think dogs are a wonderful way to look at the world differently and realize both how different we are as a species, but also all these things that we've created. These are just human creations.

56:35Andrew Huberman:And they're important. Jobs are important, obviously. But to not project that onto him, but also is very useful to not project that onto people in the world. I'm not going to point at any specific colleagues, But I knew people who are very prominent in their field. And the way they go into the world was almost like disappointed because people weren't feeding them the adoration that they felt they deserved. But no one cares, right? Because they're in their own experience. And I just mentioned this because, Ian, your book and these teachings that we've been talking about today, they taught me a lot about human energetics.

57:14Andrew Huberman:We're not dogs, so we can't just transfer that in. But it taught me that like most of the time when we think we're operating from a place of like knowledge and roles and all this stuff, there's something that's been constructed by humans like a uniform to show this person's in charge. They have all the stuff that reveals their accomplishments, the degrees on the wall. You take that stuff away and it's a very different kind of interaction. Like who's this person? Like what are they about? Like what moves them forward or back? Are they a good person or a bad person? And are they scared? And I think it's very helpful if people learn to tap into this a little bit.

57:51You know, when I go to people's home, the human tells you the story and the dog tells you the truth. Just by you looking at it. That's it. The dog immediately tells you, this is the energy we feel. This is the philosophy we practice. And this is the actions we do. Immediately. The dog always, he's the most honest member of your house. They don't know how to lie. See it? They don't know how to do what we humans do. They just don't, right? So I listen to the human because I need to understand, okay, where is this human stuck, right? And then through that conversation, I go, okay, what about it? If we think of, don't think of spirit, think about silence.

58:30You like silence? Okay, silence is part of the spiritual world. And what about calmness? Calmness, I think I'm calm. Okay, let's breathe. and then I change the instinctual world just by just breathing, right? And then I start giving the information so the intellectual world is more simple. It's more clear with the nose, eyes, ears. I'm just giving this simple information, right? So your mind knows how to execute, right? And then when do I love? Hold on, just wait, wait. And then when the dog goes, now, that's when you love. because I want to teach people to love silence, to love calmness, to love an open mind because people have learned to love an excited dog, an anxious dog, a dog that was a victim, right?

59:16So if you rescue a dog and then that dog was in a bad situation, that person goes and rescue a dog because he feels bad. And then that same person starts telling everybody in the family what happened to that dog. So now the whole entire family feels bad for the dog. So when they describe the dog, they describe the past. So they learn to love the past because they feel sorry for this dog. So the dog now is fearful, controlling the house, doesn't listen to the humans. At the moment I grab the same dog and I bring him to the ranch and I give him silence, calmness, and be part of the pack, that dog changes.

59:49They live in the moment. So really what happened to the past, to a dog a month ago, a year ago, is irrelevant. It's irrelevant. What's relevant is how do you treat him now, right? And the only thing they need to become good is safe, peace, environment. A trust, respect, human with exercise discipline or exercise mental stimulation activities. Then the love comes at the end. Safe peace, love. Trust, respect, love. Exercise discipline, affection. See, love is number three. It's a reward. Right? It's a reward. How do you stay happy? Well, and then you are grateful. How do you stay healthy? You learn how to breathe and do exercise.

1:00:30How do you stay smart? Well, you learn, you achieve, and you give it away. Or you learn to turn your mind off. And then, so when do I practice love? Well, practice love once you master your spirit, your instinct, and your mind. Then love that thing about you. Right? Love those three things about you. Your silence, your faith, your calmness, your trust to you. and then your confidence, your mind. Love that. Can dogs smell stress? Yeah. Feel stress. It smells. But remember, it's the feeling of the energy that you have inside your electricity, right? You're not functioning normal. Then that same energy is going to create a chemistry, right?

1:01:11Then you're going to sweat. And I mean, it's just going to go into the nose, eyes, ears. But first, without the nose, eyes, ears, It's just the animal in them is going to sense. When an earthquake is about to come, they sense it way before it trembles. You see it? So that energy of Mother Nature is shifting at such a low level of sensitivity. Then we see, then we hear things.

1:01:36Andrew Huberman:Humans are so obsessed with dog, quote, unquote, intelligence that looks like our intelligence. Like if I see another video of like how many words a dog can learn or, you know, dogs doing tricks or walking on their hind legs. None of that impresses me. I also like cephalopods octopuses. I have a couple of them actually, and I'm fascinated by them. And people think they're extremely intelligent and they may be, but I'm interested in their intelligence. You can find a video of a guy who taught an octopus to play a piano. But if you look at the training process, it was just shaping, right? Reward this and reward that.

1:02:12Andrew Huberman:That video, I'll go on record saying, totally unimpressive to me. It tells you far more about the trainer's willingness to painstakingly shape an animal than it does about octopuses at all. I mean, I'm not saying an ant or a plant could have learned to play the piano, but what he did could be done with a horse if it just had big keys. So there's nothing interesting about this, but humans, we seem obsessed with transferring our, let's keep it to first world because that seems aligned here. our first world understanding of what intelligence and knowledge is and skill is, and putting that onto other species.

1:02:51And it's crazy.

1:02:54Andrew Huberman:It's crazy. It doesn't reveal anything except our own short-sightedness and stubbornness about being unwilling to think about these other ways of communication and moving through the world. Is that self-oriented first versus back-oriented? You know, what is what the back needs versus what is what you want? Right? So that is more like when the human just wants a baby, for example, and they get a dog. Humanizing a dog, is it good for the dog? No, right? It's not good. It's good for the human. It's good for the human fantasy and fulfillment, emotional fulfillment or whatever thing they have in their mind.

1:03:32But is it good for the dog to be a human? Why would he want to be a human? Why are they not trying to do the same thing with a cat? Because what they say is, he's a cat. so you can't humanize a cat. You see what I'm saying? So the cat sends the human to hell, right? Yeah, because the cat only comes whenever he wants to come. So you can't influence anybody who doesn't want to be with you, right? The dog, you have to teach them to live without you, right? He has to learn to keep you distant because he's a pack oriented. So you can influence a dog much quicker than you influence a cat, right? You can't influence anybody who doesn't want to follow you.

1:04:08How do you feel about cats? I love cats. I love all animals. You know, I was going to invite you to the ranch because we have all the species and we can assess and evaluate your dog better, right? With the chickens and the dogs and the different species so we can see the prey drive, you know? And you are going to be able to see, do you have a dog with prey drive and how do we block it, right? Or you have a dog with prey drive and you just leave it open.

1:04:32Andrew Huberman:Oh, I'd love to bring Stromer out there. Yeah, it's a good place because your dog gets to interact not just with dogs, but with other species that trigger that prey drive. Very, very important. Because what makes your dog social is that he learns to accept others. See, I don't want a dog that has a protective drive. I'm not interested in that. I just want a dog that accepts everybody. And that's a dog that is going to give you zero lawsuits, zero liability, right? Because he accepts everybody. Oh, yeah. I know people in California in particular whose dogs charged other people lawsuits. Yeah. Even if they didn't bite, that's a whole thing.

1:05:11Andrew Huberman:And it can be a last episode. It can be a dog that was not meant for protection. But because he doesn't have rules, boundaries, limitations, he doesn't walk in. Every day the dog is bored, confused, or frustrated. And then he releases that because he's a predator. A dog by nature is a predator. They're going to move forward to release energy. You see it? So, but you want them to move forward with the right state of mind, right? Or when you tell the dog to move forward, right? That's just discipline. But people don't have that kind of understanding and the dog end up doing whatever they want. So, the dog end up, you know, putting people in a lawsuit, which another place where the dog doesn't know, you get in a zoo about it, you know?

1:05:53So, he's not going to, oh my God, we're going to lose money, you know? The dog is not going to understand that concept.

1:05:59Andrew Huberman:As humans, we project so much onto other species, other people. And in the backdrop of everything we're talking about, I'm hoping that people are seeing the ways in which they can show up in circumstances with more calmness, especially if it's not reflexive. Before every episode, I pray. I do. I ask for certain things. I try to open up certain things so that I realize not all of this is under our control. That's my belief. and trying to invite certain things in. So it's not reflexive. I do it as a, you call it a discipline. I'm happy to do it, but I think people assume that you're either calm or you're an anxious person.

1:06:42Andrew Huberman:People assume that their dog is either calm or anxious. This is a terrible misconception. I think we can become calmer regardless of where we are in our natural levels of anxiety. But animals do not, will never choose anxiety or live an anxious life. We're the only species that follow unstable leaders, right? So to be the pack leader in the animal world, you have to be the most patient, the most calm, the most confident, the most loving, the more joyful. Everything has to be at 100%. Then you can be a pack leader, right? And your job is to resolve problems, right? That's practically it. So the least thing you can do is to bring problems, anxiety, fear, insecurities.

1:07:22All of that stuff is something that you bring back home. You don't want that. So before people hit the door coming home, they should do a check-in with self. They should do a little prayer too. God, just let me be silent, calm, confident, love, and joy to my dog. That's it. I want to practice. No touching, no talking, no eye contact, and just help my dog to calm down, and then I'm going to give him affection. I'm not saying that to give affection. I'm just saying give affection to patience and calmness and open mind, right? Because when your dog misbehave, you want him to go back there. go back to your good state of mind right you don't want the dog to do fight flight avoidance those are the bad state of mind the good state of mind is patience come surrender or happy-go-lucky those are good state of mind I think

1:08:10Andrew Huberman:here I'm projecting a lot and assuming a lot but I think a lot of people deep down I think they probably like that their dog is so quote-unquote happy to see them at the end of the day excited excited because I think many people feel devoid of real love and connection and the idea that they're fur baby i really don't like this term they're not babies yes they have fur but like i think out of respect for animals we have to remember that they're animals first i when i heard first heard you say like they're you know they're spirit animal yeah you know uh species and then breed and then the name the name it was so helpful for me because um i don't want to get into it here because it's not directly relevant but in science I've worked with humans, worked with animals.

1:08:55Andrew Huberman:And I stopped working with animals because it was really hard on my soul. I understand biomedical research. I understand when it was a whole other discussion, but even just the way that people would start to talk about animals, like we work on them, not with them. And this is a complicated issue we could get into sometime. But I started to realize that we start using words to either dehumanize or humanize animals. And both are terrible. So when I heard you give this description of spirit, animal, et cetera, I was like, he's saying, don't humanize these animals because it makes them feel unsafe.

1:09:31Andrew Huberman:Yeah. Or confused. Or confused. Yeah. And years later, I realized, again, with all due respect to biomedical research and the need to make discoveries, I do think there's too much animal research that's unnecessary, these kinds of things. Some is essential, but et cetera. But I realized there, we're dehumanizing animals. And I thought, oh my goodness, because I had this incredible contradiction in my mind. It was a real soul dilemma. Like, I love Costello. It was like he was a family member and I was willing to do all this work on myself and with him. But in my profession, I was observing things where I thought this is not okay.

1:10:14Andrew Huberman:And I stopped. I'm going to work with humans. Even saying I work on humans, you hear scientists say, it's terrible, terrible and i think words matter to humans and because they shape how we behave correct and so i'm noticing a theme uh throughout today where you have words and simple ways for people to remember no look no touch no speak right exercise discipline then affection etc that's telling people people stuff in people language but the level that you're really interested in and you're trying to convey is the animal experience and then the spiritual experience. I'm not trying to psychoanalyze you here, but this is the structure that I hear emerging.

1:10:55Andrew Huberman:I think will be very useful to people because we're going high level, low level all the time. So if people could start to think about themselves in this way and think about their animals, I think a lot of people are going to say, oh no, I come home and I want to be loved by my fur babies and I want them to, and I miss you. And I want to do FaceTime with you. And like, you know, and I think people genuinely, however, want their animal to feel safe. They want their animal to feel secure. Number one. And when I think about real love, it's about safety and security first. So for someone that has, like the other day I was in the hospital visiting a friend and the a woman behind the counter, we were talking.

1:11:40Andrew Huberman:She said, she said, I have two Frenchies. I said, well, you work long shifts. She goes, yeah, they're home alone. I come home and they're pooping and peeing. I feel so guilty. That's right. And my first thought was, you should have known those dogs, but she's in love with the dogs. I thought, well, okay. So I passed along a little bit of what I learned. And she just said flat out, I can't do it. I can't do it. There's no way I could come home and they're going crazy and excited to see me that I couldn't just pick them up and just hold them. But it's making them anxious. She's nurturing. Yeah. The same nurse that is helping humans to be healthy.

1:12:12She's helping her dogs to be unhealthy. It's so contrary. That was exactly what you were going through, you know, working with humans versus working on humans, right? So she's helping other species, right? But the species that she's in love with, she is not. But it's because the story she is accepting in her head. She's agreeing with that, right? I have so much guilt that I can't stop it, right? Because that's what she's trying to do, to numb her guilt.

1:12:40Andrew Huberman:When I was growing up, most people didn't have dogs in our neighborhood, suburban neighborhood. There were a few dogs. Now everyone's got a dog. It's like having a phone. Everyone's got a dog. This doesn't seem like a good thing. It's a great thing for me because I love to teach people, you know, about energy, philosophy, and actions. I want people to have a trust, respect, love. The most incredible relationship with a dog is, you know, A dog really makes you a good human if you do things right. And then once you practice that, you can just give it to other humans because it makes it tangible.

1:13:14Does energy really work? Yeah. What about if I have a good philosophy? Does that really work? Yeah, it works. What about if my actions are good? Does that really work? Yeah. Now you combine the three and watch what your dog does, right? And then you go and do the same thing with other humans, right? So you create this beautiful trust, respect, love with humans or connection, communication, relationship. You go and create safe, peace, and love environments. Horse people are really good about safety, right? So the priority in the horse world is not love. The priority is safety. So a horse person is going to teach a child, don't scream, no touch, no talk, no eye contact, right?

1:13:51So the kid will learn that with a horse, you have to be quiet, calm, and wait until the horse give you the signal. And the same person will go and teach the kid with dogs, ask if you can pet them, right? But because in the horse world, safety is number one, how do you keep a horse calm? And you wait. And then the horse calm. How do they walk a horse? The horse is right next to the human, never in front. So you can see a little kid walking a horse. You see it? And the horse is behind the kid, not in front of the kid. But first is the meeting. And then the third thing is feeding the horse. If the horse is too excited, don't put the hay yet.

1:14:39Wait until the horse comes down, then the hay goes down. The meeting, the walk, and the feeding.

1:14:44Andrew Huberman:Incredible. And they're big, so we have this natural respect for them that people don't necessarily have for a dog. But a dog obviously can bite, you know. But why not have that respect for someone that we say, you know, dog is man best friend. Yeah, the dog has the best titles of all the animals on earth, right? The dog. But when it comes to the actions, we don't honor the dog because we want the dog to be a human. We don't respect the dog because we want the dog to be a human. When you honor and respect somebody, you honor who they are. You respect who they are. You learn about how they are.

1:15:18And that's what you love. See it? You love who they are. You don't love what you think.

1:15:25Andrew Huberman:You love who they are. And you don't try and project that they're somebody else. I think some people making assumptions here, but some people will hear some of what we're talking about today and they'll say, oh, well, that's how I should become the pack leader with people. I should never let anyone walk through a door before me or something like, but the point you're trying to make is that human to human is different than animal to human. You don't just transfer the same thing. Some things transfer, but other things don't. Yeah. I've worked with non-human primates before. Okay. It's interesting.

1:15:58Andrew Huberman:A lot of people go to the zoo. I'm not a big fan of putting large carnivores in primates in zoos. I'm not, I wanna be clear. I don't, you know, I have issues with that, but people will smile at the monkey or they'll go like, you know, ee, ee, ee, ee, ee. For a macaque monkey, bearing teeth is aggression. So a friend of mine, she's an animal behaviorist and she said, oh no, if you want to do an affiliative behavior with a monkey, you lip smack, which sounds kind of cute and funny. and people go, oh, but you could tell somebody that a hundred times and they'll still go, like, it's like, we want to project our own understanding of what we think is going on.

1:16:40Andrew Huberman:And even in the presence of knowledge, your dog is going to feel more safe and secure and happy. If you come in, no look, no touch, no speak. There's something about the human brain where we just want to project, no, but I want my experience. And it's an incredibly selfish thing. It was really the realization for me. It's very selfish of me to come home and want a certain kind of interaction with my pet, Costello, but to put the interaction in the terms that work for me. And I said, you know, this is the first time I owned a dog. Everyone in my life for the longest time, they're like, you're never, I was talking about it since I was a kid.

1:17:14Andrew Huberman:You're never going to get a dog. I waited until I had the finances, until I had a home. I waited. I am very proud of the fact that I waited. I desperately wanted an animal for so long since I was a little kid. I had fish and things like that, but I wanted a dog. I knew at the time when I got him that it was the right time, but I had to be very careful because I wanted it to go so well that I found myself projecting, what if he doesn't attack? And there was all this stuff. And then I read your book and I realized, if I want this to go really well, I have to get out of my understanding of what I need on my terms and start thinking about what he needs and I need in his language.

1:17:57Andrew Huberman:And it was like this light bulb went off. I'm just, you know, this is really a statement of gratitude that hopefully will be informative for people because we, the human brain just is like, no, I want to be loved. And so I'm going to do this thing that's actually harming the thing that I say is my fur baby. Like no one would ever hurt their fur babies, but they're doing it by projecting human stuff. Anyway, I'm telling you what you already know, but I think it's just something I really want to underscore because people hear affection last. Like this is just guys being like, I'm alpha. No, it's the complete opposite.

1:18:30It's about respecting the animal. Yeah. It's about safe, peace, trust, respect. Once you have those two pillars, then you bring the love because that's what you want to love. You want to love the trust and respect. Not because you love people, you trust them. Not because you love people, you respect them. So love is his own energy, his own identity. But you want to love trust. You want to love respect. That's what you want to love. You want to love a place that you feel safe and peace. That's what you want to love. That's the land part, right? And then the relation, trust, respect. Then the way you experience the world, body, mind, heart, right?

1:19:04So at least those three things, just do it that way. Just put love at the end. It won't hurt you. It will only make you wiser, right? It will only make you more patient, more calm, and you will see the outcome. The reason why I said no touch, no talk, no eye contact is because if you want to touch a back of the pack dog, he's going to run away. If you give eye contact to a front of the pack dog, it's exactly what the monkey is. It means fight when you're looking at somebody. I want to touch him, right? And then when you talk to a middle of the pack, you're going to get him very excited. So if you practice no touch, no talk, no eye contact to any position of the back, what you're going to allow is nose, eyes, ears to come to you.

1:19:47You see it? So you're going to create a law of attraction. The dog is going to come to your smell. And then he's going to assess and evaluate, can I trust? Can I respect? Do I feel safe? You're a peaceful human. That's what you want them to know about you, that you can be trusted, that you can be respected, that you can be a safe source, a peaceful source. Then once the dog, okay, yeah, you have that. Then the dog is going to sit right next to you. It's going to do this or it's just going to relax. As soon as he gives you that, that's when you give love. So it's nothing wrong if you wait a little bit, right?

1:20:22It's nothing wrong. You're just following the steps. You are the one who's being disciplined. You see it? To be a good leader, you have to be a good follower. So you have to understand the power of calm surrender. You have to understand the power of patience. If you don't understand that, you're going to be a terrible leader. So I'm not telling people be a pack leader just because you're the dog owner. No, no, no. I'm telling you what it requires to be a pack leader. The highest level of patience, the highest level of confidence, highest level of confidence, and then knowing when to give love and knowing when to celebrate.

1:20:54Love, joy is a celebration energy. This one is direction protection. What do we want of our pack leaders, politicians? We want to have an America that feels safe peace. We want to have a Mexico that feels safe peace. We want to have Argentina that feels safe peace. We want to have a Colombia that feels safe peace. We want to have a Venezuela that feels safe peace. Otherwise, we can't feel the love. We want to have somebody that we trust and respect so we can love them. Right? That's what we want is our instinct to want this. It's our spirit to want this.

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1:23:51They always talk great about the intellectual part people want to hear. But then the energy and then the actions, that's what we end up seeing at the end. Look at Mexico. We always, oh, a woman president. Mexico is going to be well taken care. Same. No safe, no peace, no trust, no respect. It's the same. It's a continuation of the same philosophy. But they all say great things. You see what I mean? I don't like the dogs. I say, you know, listen, I'm going to bring you back your silence, your calmness, your surrender. That's my contribution to you because you humans made you fight flight avoidance.

1:24:28And boom, I don't say nothing to the dog. I just feel it and I do it. I skip the saying because they don't care about what I say. They care about what I feel and what I do. The human cares about what you say. So you can just brainwash the human all you want, lie to the human, and the human will vote. We're the only species that follow unstable leaders. there is no species that will vote for somebody that has unstable energy to begin with they can

1:24:52Andrew Huberman:care less what they're saying i watched that uh series on netflix chimp empire it's fascinating you know it's very hierarchical you know troops and the the alpha occasionally will feel like he's losing some control over his uh troop and he'll go on these displays where he starts breaking trees and beating his chest. And they look a lot more like humans. Humans look a lot more like them. But I saw an interview with Jane Goodall. You've probably seen this where they said, you know, what is your favorite thing about them? And she says, no, dogs are my favorite species. You can really trust them. The chimps are way too much like us.

1:25:34Andrew Huberman:They lie. They cheat. I mean, if you watch Chimp Empire, brace yourself for, you know, when they decide they're going ostracize a member of their group. That's right. They make them suffer an extended punishment. It's brutal. And that's the primate brain. Sadly, humans were supposed to move beyond that. That's our role. I'm making the assumption that some people either have a dog or they're thinking about getting one. Correct. Okay. Preparing oneself for every interaction sounds like the thing to do until it becomes reflexive. It also, it's a lot of work. Like you describe a brief prayer at the door, setting intention.

1:26:16Andrew Huberman:I think that's awesome. Yeah. Good habit. Waking up in the morning. I will say hello to Strummer. I take care of myself first, move about. If he has to use the bathroom or something, I'd let him out right away, But he waits and then he gets up and we do our thing. But the temptation to walk over there and just, he's, you know, he's sleepy. He's a bulldog. He's calm and to just grow. Like, cause I love him. My heart fills when I, when I, you know, walk in the room with him. Yeah. I think this is the thing that a lot of people are challenged with, but they're like, so for me, temporarily breaking down my notion of cuteness was very important.

1:26:54Andrew Huberman:He doesn't understand cute. Right. he has no concept of cute he only understands what he understands i'm the one projecting a like oh but he's like i want to cuddle him and i'm going to play with him i confess this is easier for me to do now that i've done it with one dog before it's much harder my girlfriend to do she's like she gets pulled in yeah we joke you caved to love we joke you know it's like we cave to our own feelings of love but it can damage the safety and the and the and the the general pack order And then people think, oh, pack order sounds like not love. Could you elaborate a little bit on why it's so important to stay in the frame of, we're really asking humans to think more like dogs, but to behave in a way that is somewhere in between?

1:27:3880 % of my clients are women. 80%. When I go to their home, because I like to assess and evaluate the dynamics inside the house, the dog is in the front. Wife is number two. Kids are number three. Husband is in the back. Back of the pack. This is in the United States. Yeah, the United States. Yeah, yeah, yeah. United States.

1:28:00Andrew Huberman:So why the dog is in the front? She puts him there. Why? Because she only practices affection. And why the husband is in the back? Because she practices rules, boundaries, limitations with him. You see it? So she is capable to practice leadership, but she practices it with the wrong member in the house. The dog needs the leadership. right because why did they call me because now the dog doesn't the kids can welcome you know the uh the friends uh kids can come to the house the dog steals food right or the dog barks at the neighbors right uh they don't have the uh ideal uh life that they chose or they thought they were gonna have by having this labradoodle it should be the easiest one right because those two breeds are practically the epitome of most docile breed.

1:28:56I know.

1:28:56Andrew Huberman:I tell the Labradoodle people, try raising a Bulldog Mastiff from eight weeks on. You'll learn a lot about yourself. It's a different strength. Yeah. Right? So this breed should be easier because it's designed to be easier. But because they only practice affection first, only affection, the dog end up going in front of the pack. So this is what happens when people want to practice affection first or when they prioritize affection to the dog, but to the rest of the pack. It's very clear for me that she practiced rules by limitations to the husband. He has to do whatever she said, but the dog doesn't do whatever she says.

1:29:43So that we have to change. We have to help people to understand. It's not that love is bad. It's just, why are you giving love to?

1:29:51Andrew Huberman:I'm so happy you're raising this. I think some people will say, well, she has to treat the husband basically like a child because he's playing video games. I'm making the assumption here that we don't know what the dynamics are between the husband and the wife. And I have a lot of married couple friends where it seems very balanced. I don't know what happens when I'm not there, obviously, but I know somewhere, yes, indeed, like there's some infantilization of the male, but he does that to himself too. He's behaving like a kid. Or I also have seen very balanced and I've seen where it's a bit more of kind of the structure I grew up in, at least for the early part of my life.

1:30:27Andrew Huberman:Maybe it's because my father's from South America, but until my parents split, it was like, my dad was the dad and then it was my mom. And then, you know, and then there was the kids and sadly we didn't have a dog, but things are very different nowadays. Right? And so I'm trying to remove any assumptions that the dynamic between the husband and wife are that way solely because of one or the other. There's an agreement there. It's correct. There's always an agreement. Yeah. The agreement is that he surrendered. Yeah, that's the agreement. At one point, you don't want fight flight avoidance, so the guy end up surrendering.

1:30:59But the dog didn't.

1:31:01Andrew Huberman:The dog took over. And you also don't want so domineering that she's in fight flight surrender either. We don't want that. That exists too, and that's bad also. Yeah, my relationship now with a woman is I have a good instinctual relationship, right? Because my masculine energy is the one who gives direction and protection. When before, I used to follow this concept of happy wife, happy life. How can I make her happy? She has to make herself happy. So I end up surrendering to everything she wanted. And so this concept of, you know, happy wife, happy life didn't work for me. Right. And so I just went back into, okay, I'm just going to become confident and attract a woman that wants to be come surrender to this area, which is the instinctual area.

1:31:53Spiritually, we're the same. Emotionally, we're the same. Financially, you know, we're the same. but instinctually that's the part that I couldn't just not be masculine, right, or come confident. I just couldn't. I just couldn't. And that's – it works beautiful now.

1:32:14Andrew Huberman:Oh, it sounds like you've hit the bullseye there. Actually, since we're talking about human relationships, I have a friend who has a very happy, very successful marriage in the real sense that you walk into their home, like that they have some, they have a couple of kids. One of them has some special needs, but that they're managing that well. The home is very balanced. They seem very, very happy. And he was giving advice to some other guys. And he said, you know, among the women that would be like partners, good partners for you, you have to make a decision about how much you want somebody who's going to give you instructions versus leave you alone versus wants, you know, some direction.

1:33:01Andrew Huberman:It was a very edgy thing to say, you know, at the time now you can have these kinds of conversations. Yeah. And it, and it was very interesting. There were three other guys at the table, none of whom are married, including me. And we each had different answers to that question. One said, yeah, I want somebody that I can like really be in like kind of wants to be led right not subservient you know obviously respect and kindness but but the other one he said um i want someone who's like really gonna like keep me in line i was like i was very shocked i was like this is incredible but he was being he was being honest he wanted someone who was basically gonna like keep him out of his childlike nature okay when the childlike nature wasn't gonna help right keep the structure of the home i think it's a very important thing this notion of we don't have good words for this to keep us off of the barbed wire.

1:33:51Andrew Huberman:Like we hear dominance, hierarchy, and it sounds like control. It sounds like subservience. It gets into notions of like all sorts of things. But this is a fundamental aspect of the human spirit. That's the instinctual part. Like I said, we can both love God at the same level. We can love love at the same level, and we can all develop our intelligence at the same level. But when it comes to instincts, that's the only area in my life that I know that my comp confidence is going to lead my pack, right? Because that's what I do with dogs. That's practically it. I walk a pack of dogs, so they all got to go into a comp surrender state.

1:34:32And so in my house, I wanted the same thing because I want her to feel safe, peace. I want her to trust, respect. I want her to love that about me. But I have to be that man that has a high level of patience, high level of confidence, high level of confidence, high level of love. I need to earn that position. I don't just want it. I earned it. But I need to have a woman that understands, you know, that that's what I'm looking for. Right. Yeah. Instinctually. Not in the mind, not in the heart, so it's temporary. No, no, no. This is permanently, you know, your instincts. And I will provide safe peace.

1:35:09I will be a peaceful man, a safe man to be with, a trustworthy man, a respectful man, a loving man, right? A smart man. I will always work on having good energy and only following good philosophy and only doing good actions because I want that position.

1:35:23Andrew Huberman:Did you take some time before your current relationship after your divorce to sort of feel into this and think about how you were going to be that? Or is this something that you decided to evolve in the - I realized that I was picking the wrong woman, right? I couldn't understand why I can pick a dog and make him the perfect dog. I can pick a perfect dog for you. Like I can go pick - I couldn't pick up the perfect woman for me. I just want the one for me, right? What I think is perfect for me. And so I had trouble because I had the wrong philosophy inside my head. You know, what a man should do or what a woman should do.

1:36:08It was the wrong philosophy, period. Right. Once I changed the philosophy and then I went, okay, I need to find a woman with this spirit, with this instinct, with this heart and with this mind. So I was more like clear, right? Okay. Now I know what I'm looking for. Right. And she's a back leader, but not in the house. She's a pack leader. She has three restaurants. She has a lot of money, right? But she earned it. She did it on her own, right? And that was it. She came and said, I just want to give you my calm surrender. I said, that's all I want from a woman, you know, to have a beautiful relationship.

1:36:46Andrew Huberman:So she knew that she wanted to be in the role that she currently is also. Like there was a knowledge of self going into it. Yeah, because when she's doing her business, she has to be a PAC leader. They get tired of being PAC leaders, right? They just get tired of like, I don't want to give direction and protection 24-7s, even at home. So at home, she just wanted somebody to give her safe peace, trust, respect, calm, surrender. She needed to connect to her instincts, right? It was important because, you know, she connects to God, so she's calm, surrender to God, right? So she's come surrendered to the business, but she needed to become surrendered to a man.

1:37:27But it has to be the right man. So I was the right man at that time, right? Because I earned the position. You know, I didn't just... Machismo is you're not earning the position. You're just a man and da, da, da. No, no, no. When you're a good PAC leader, you earn the position. You know who you are. You value who you are. And that's what you love. Self-knowledge, self-value, self-love. So I did my rehabilitation for me because even though my grandparent and my father taught me well about animals, they didn't taught me well about women. They said, you make money and you get whatever you want.

1:38:01Andrew Huberman:That was it. Yeah, that's an incomplete. It's like, how do I assess and evaluate if that's the right woman? How do I do? How do I make sure I do good connection, communication, relationship? Everything I teach with a dog, how can I achieve it with my same species? Right? But I didn't receive information. I was just given a project. And I accomplished it. I became money, fame, power. And I just went and grabbed whatever was available. Well, I can certainly say my... I'll just be direct. Yeah, please. I mean, I think my parents split because of a power struggle about roles in power. And my father's from a Latin country.

1:38:44Andrew Huberman:My mother's not. But irrespective of that, it didn't matter. I used to think that was the reason, but it was... Now, fortunately, they both remarried. They've been remarried for a very long time, very happily to their new partner. And my sister and I always say, they're with their perfect fit. It just works because of exactly what you're describing, these dynamics. I mean, I think... I didn't say it, but I saw online at some point, someone said, the way you destroy a country is to get the men and women to hate each other. And we see that a lot now. I like to think maybe things are improving a little bit, but so much of what we see because of anger at leaders, frustration with, you know, social dynamics and belief about what people can and can't become, all of this stuff has led to this place of a ton of distrust, but that power structure is all messed up.

1:39:36Andrew Huberman:Yeah, they fight, flight, avoid each other, right? But they say they love each other. And they still, because there's an instinct there, they still desire each other, right? I mean, men and women are still seeking to be together, but you hear the, you know, all the guys are like kids and you hear the, all the women are, you know, they want something that they, you know, can't be achieved in this common thing. And, you know, and I mean. Confusion. Yeah. A lot of confusion. And of course, I know some very happy couples that where they've worked it out, but the roles in those couples seem very, it's like they're being themselves and it just works.

1:40:09Yeah. Yeah. I just don't want to think about it. I just want to feel it. Right. I just want my spirit, my instinct, and my heart. And I know what I got to do anyway. I'm 56. I know what I got to do. But I just don't want to have a five flight avoidance at home. Right? I just don't want to have that ever, ever, ever, ever. Right? So it's very clear to me that what I'm looking for is exactly what everybody looks for in a relationship. Human dog. Safe, peace, love. Trust, respect, love. So body, mind, heart, exercise, discipline, affection, follow, play, explore. Everybody wants the same thing. They just do it with a different species.

1:40:48I want to be able to do it with a different species and my own species. You know, and I'm the happiest I've ever been. Yeah, you breathe and exude happiness. I have to say it's real. It's tangible. It's amazing because I was already happy with my goal in life, right? My dream was to become the best dog trainer in the world. And I became the dog whisperer. So I train humans. I don't train dogs, right? So this dream was bigger than what I thought. But then I couldn't have a good relationship with a woman, which was fascinating to me at that time. Why I have fight flight avoidance. Why I don't have come, surrender, happy-go-lucky, come, confident.

1:41:29Why don't? I'm not saying my woman is not come confident towards me. If I'm wrong, and then, yeah, she can give direction protection. But if I'm not, there's no need. So that makes me a very consistent man with my role. That's it. I keep my peace. I keep my patience, my calmness, my comfort, my love much every single day of my life. I don't miss one day if I don't feel good. You see it?

1:41:57Andrew Huberman:Internally, I'm 100. it because with people it only takes once to be on the receiving end of um an outburst to just there's always that little asterisk going forward i share with you the um the deep desire and fortunately i have it now to not have fight or flight at home um or from a dog either or from a dog either right exactly so i'm guessing that the home you grew up in had a fair amount of fight or flight. Otherwise, maybe that would be - It was very machismo. My parents still married, but that's all, it was this way, that's it. So it was definitely a more like sadness, right? Because my mom was not allowed to do her own self.

1:42:43And so that's obviously not healthy for the dream of a woman, right? So she has to have, just be a mom and stay at home. And it was it was hard for her, you know. Yeah. But that's all I saw, you know. Yeah. When my dad was disciplined, was disciplined with anger. And when my mom was disciplined, was disciplined with guilt, you know. And that was it. But it worked a little bit. Then I come to America and there's, ah, it's a completely different way of looking at things, right? You can work on your energy. You can work on your philosophy. You can work on your actions. And then you can become just as good as you are with a dog.

1:43:30Because I have an incredible relationship with dogs, right? And an incredible relationship with God because he definitely allowed me to become what I dream about, right? And I came and did it in a different country. I have to learn a different language, right? And then I went all over the world. That was God, right? Me following the spirit and the instinct. Now I can tell you how I did it. But in the beginning, when I jumped the border, it was all spiritual. It was all instinctual. It was all passion. It was not the mind doing it. It was just my spirit and my instinct and my heart just following this dream, right, and adapting.

1:44:07I have to learn this. I have to do this. But then at the same time, I saw a lot of great things in America. You know, like you can be you.

1:44:15Andrew Huberman:Oh, yeah, you can be you. That's great. This is a good philosophy. The Stoics, that's a great philosophy, right? And then your actions, okay? and just walk shoulders up, head high, breathe, walk. And that's practice. Your body language also exudes what you're thinking and what you're feeling. And because I'm with dogs all day, I just keep that energy 24-7. It's beautiful. As a practical tangent, the thing about just shoulders back and walk, I think it's funny to see when people try this, they're like, I'm going to be the back leader. That doesn't work. And I'll tell you, it really doesn't work with a bulldog mastiff.

1:44:57Andrew Huberman:No. Can't fake it. If you get frustrated with them, they feel it and they pull back. It's wild. They just can feel it. Like if you're frustrated, let's go. It's like, no, I'll sometimes give a little bit of a stern. I have one little command that I occasionally use. I keep its potency. But if Costello, or in this case, Strummer, is really being stubborn just for stubborn's sake, I'll do tss. And that's it. Yes. That's all it takes. But if I do that more than three times on a walk, it loses its potency. Correct. It's just my way of saying like, no. It's just a no. Yeah. But I don't say no. And if I were to...

1:45:35Andrew Huberman:And I'm realizing as I say this, that little, it's probably more of a reminder to myself. Yeah. As much as it's a reminder to him. It happened to both. Yeah. I'm just kind of trying to create this thing like, no, we're going, I lead this walk. You need this walk. I need this walk. We're doing this walk. And he just, he goes. Now, it's a little bit tougher when my girlfriend walks in. He tests her more. So can we talk about that when a dog is in a very respectful one person, obeys the boundaries, but then to other people, they're acting out. How should that be remedies? If the three of us walk together, for instance, he'll do whatever she wants.

1:46:10Andrew Huberman:With me, he does whatever I decide. Okay? But sometimes with her, she'll say, he was great. No, he was really difficult. How does one facilitate that? I think the first thing women have to realize is how much they are in their emotions and how much they think about things. Right? So, you know, the fact that we go into the silence and the calmness and just we follow through, that's the spirit, the instinct, and the mind. And that's what's walking the dog. But in my experience, women go into the emotional vibration, and then they say, Castelo, vamonos. And they begin to have an intellectual conversation.

1:46:53So the dog knows that that human is only using half of who they are, which is the heart and the mind, right? And so it's very important for women to remember that spirit is a powerful thing. And say, how am I going to practice silence? and instinct is a powerful thing. How am I going to practice instinct? Breath. You're calm inside, right? And you just want to go from point A to point B. Very simple, very practical. You're not negotiating. You're not looking at anything else. You're not distracted. You're just going, you know, for the task. And then the dog just follows that silence, the calmness, and the confidence.

1:47:31It's when the human doesn't use that vibration that a dog has an option to get distracted. to do other things, to go away from the routine or from the structure, from whatever you want to do. But at the same time, the same woman can ride a horse. And in order to ride a horse, she has to be quiet, confident.

1:47:50Andrew Huberman:Oh, yeah. My first girlfriend, she had horses at home. Yeah. They had a stable below their home. They actually weren't that wealthy, but her dad actually had not even a junior high school education. He came over from Greece. He became a taxi driver. And he was going to give his daughters this life. And they had this horse. And it was incredible to see her because she's a very, very quiet person, actually, very artistic. Yep. And, but with her horse and he was a wild one, he was gilded late. And so it was a whole thing. Wow. And, but her in the presence of that horse, like she just understood because he was dangerous.

1:48:27Andrew Huberman:He was actually a dangerous animal. And a totally different side of her came out. And that's the first time I realized I was like, I mean, I was a teenager, right? But I was like, wow, like she has this immense power. Correct. That's not like the kind of power that we think about. Of course, women have power. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know, all this. But it was a completely different landscape. And I was like, whoa. I mean, first of all, I can't do that. Right. I had to learn to be around him. Right. But just the level of calm and confidence to clean a horse. Like, you know, a horse can kill you. Yeah.

1:48:57Andrew Huberman:Right? But if you walk around going, oh, my gosh, this horse can kill me, it does not go well. But exactly. Exactly. So what we have to remember is the human part before the gender, right? So just go back to your human. Can a man and a woman ride a horse? Yeah. Why? Because they're using the same energy and the same philosophy and the same actions. So is it because it's a man or a woman? No, no, it's because they're using the same energy. So it's a human thing, right? Not a gender thing, right? So I invite my female clients to, don't forget, you also have this calm, confident inside of you that your dog needs, right?

1:49:35Craves, and especially in Europe, because most of the time people call me, because the dog is in a fight state, right? So most of my cases are aggression. And so in your case, you have no choice. You have to lead the pack. And the only way you can lead the pack is with calm, confidence. You love the pack with love and joy. So you already know how to do that, right? You have to tap into what people call masculine energy. Right? So can a woman ride a horse? Yes. She has to be in this energy to do it. You see it? She has to. So they just have to learn to recognize, okay, I'm not changing me. I'm just using everything about me.

1:50:16Right? It's like a man. Can a man use the feminine side? Yes, you can. Of course you have it. Right? It's your love joy. And your masculine is your confident. Silence is for everybody. It's your patience. Right? So silence is before calm, confidence, or love, joy. And this is what they call feminine, and this is what they call masculine. Right? So however you want to call it, just be the whole human. Use your spirit. Use your instinct. Use your heart. Use your mind. Trust, respect, love, and then do whatever your mind wants to do. It has nothing to do with women or men. But if we divide and we see each other different, or say, no, it's because I'm a woman.

1:50:56I have to be emotional. Yes, you can be emotional at the right time, just like a man can be emotional at the right time. Nobody's saying not to be loving. What we're saying is how to use this energy for good, where you reward good behavior on humans and good behavior on dogs with the energy of love, right? If the energy of love can change bad, it will be no bad man in the world, right? Because moms normally give you love. But love doesn't change the bad energy. It's the confidence that changed the bad energy.

1:51:32Andrew Huberman:The idea that society is broken, humans are broken. I mean, there are a lot of problems in the world right now. Purposely, by the way. Tell me more. If we get the wrong information, we're going to be no connection, communication, relationships. So how can we become powerful? Right? Because when we unite and then we become powerful, the pack unites. But if the pack is separated, the pack fights, flight, and avoid each other. Right? So purposely, we get the wrong information. That's why my goal is to give people the right information. If you have low money, middle class, rich, it really doesn't matter.

1:52:05We should all know the same thing about dogs. We should all know the same thing about God. We should all know the same thing about Earth. All of us. It has nothing to do with what position in the pack you are, economically speaking. See it? So what does that world look like? Well, that word looks like all humans around the world, regardless of the economical position, they're all going to have an amazing relationship with dogs. How? Because they all have the same information.

1:52:32Andrew Huberman:That's it. I love that. I mean, I feel like we're drifting further and further away from ourselves as a species. and what I'm hearing is that looking at our interactions with this other species dogs and looking at our practicing our ability to get outside ourselves and tap into other aspects of ourselves like the need for calm confidence when we just want to be loving that's really about wanting to be loved yeah you know the person coming home is not it's not that the dog needs their love they can hear oh you know actually the dog needs calm confidence but I translate it as know that this person just feels so tired at the end of the day.

1:53:12Andrew Huberman:What they need is something that just adores them. And the whole process of raising Costello was one of reading your book, really, this is why you're here. I mean, because I saw and experienced so much value from your teaching. And then realizing that if I really want to get what I want, it means building the relationship means not doing this thing in the moment. I'm thinking about the whole relationship, safety first. And so it's this kind of counterintuitive thing of needing to go against self in the moment to create the sort of picture where you get so much more and everybody wins. There is a version of everybody, including the dogs wins.

1:53:53Andrew Huberman:Everybody wins. But it requires a level of self-discipline, awareness, calmness, breathing that I think many people, and certainly in that time, I felt like just so much constant pressure to do, do, do. So there's a certain amount of slowing down and self-awareness that's required for everything that you're describing. What is your practice for that on a daily basis? I mean, you're a master now, right? You're a virtuoso at this. But for the, I would say there's unskilled, skilled, master, and virtuosity. You're up here. Back of the back, man, or the background. But so for somebody who's trying to move from unskilled to skill in the domain of like slowing down, thinking about what the priority in this interaction is, getting all that working while life is happening in real time.

1:54:36Andrew Huberman:Lots happening and it's coming through the phone and this and that schedules. How do you recommend young or old that people start to cultivate this awareness in this? I think the quicker we become aware what is life about, right? Because we're all going to die. And so what is life about? and life is about life, right? Life is to be happy, to be healthy, to be loving and to be smart, that's life. And then it's time, how you structure, how you manage time, right? And then it's memories, that's all you take. Once you realize those three things, I think you're gonna be able to focus and experience life the way animals do, right?

1:55:16Because they're very grateful of life, they structure time very wisely. And then by the time they die, they only take good memories. right? Because that's all you take, good memories. And so the quicker we surrender to that concept, the quicker we are going to focus on what's valuable, right? And things that we can definitely practice that this concept of love, right? And so that to me is be grateful of life every day, be thankful of life every day, you know, learn with your mind to learn, to achieve, give it away. It's very important to be at service and make other humans or animals achieve what you just achieved.

1:55:59And of course, the energy of love, to love those three things about it, right? Your spirit, your instinct, and your mind. Learn to love that about you because that's who you are. So who sees a Milan? Cesar Milan is a spirit. He's an instinct. He's a heart. And he's a mind, right? So then, oh, man, I value that so much. And once I value that, it's easy to love what you value. You see it? It's easy to love what you value. And so once you realize this natural, simple, profound self, you want to give it away. I give it away to dogs. And because I do that, I get to rehabilitate dogs that people unconsciously have confused.

1:56:38See it? Because dogs in America, you know, dogs in the world country are skinny, but they don't have psychological problems. Dogs in America are chunky and I get to have a TV show. So dogs in America should be the happiest, healthiest, loving, smartest dog on earth because dogs in America have rights. You understand that concept? But why would a guy from Mexico comes to America and National Geographic gives him a TV show? Because America created fight flight avoidance unconsciously. Even though America loves dogs more than any other country I've ever seen in my life. Dogs have birthday parties in America.

1:57:17Dogs have Christmas presents in America. Dogs get married in America. Dogs get married? Yeah. That's, you know, taking the humanization to another level. But that just shows you, you know, the creativity of human. But not because the dog has all this money, fame, and power. The dog is happy. My goal is for people to understand that, you know, happiness and health and having a good heart and having a good creative mind, it shouldn't take too much, right? It's just about being grateful, right? It's just about being thankful. It's about loving those two things and then make sure that your mind learn, achieve, gives it away or learn to turn it off.

1:57:59So don't use your mind to think bad things.

1:58:02Andrew Huberman:What's your process for turning off your mind? This is a very common challenge for people. I think the easiest way for people to experience because they have to see it, right? You can tell people, But if they don't see it inside, they're never going to understand what you mean. So what I help people with is I put them in the cold plunge, right? And once they go through the fight, flight, avoidance, they want to see and they get to the calm, surrender. What are you thinking? I'm thinking nothing. That's exactly what a clear mind looks like, right? So through that cold plunge experience, the human gets to understand breath, patience, confidence, and not to think anything because you're doing this with your spirit and your instinct and your heart.

1:58:48Your mind just have to wait for the three minutes. That's it, without anticipation. So there's just nothing there. And then, of course, the cold doesn't let you think. But the only thing you can do is breathe and wait. And so then once they see it, okay, that is the meaning of not having nothing in your mind. Right? So I make them experience it versus if I just tell them, they can't picture it.

1:59:15Andrew Huberman:As somebody who's a real believer, as you probably know, in deliberate cold exposure, I mean, I think it's, it's people, it's zero cost. I mean, you use a cold shower, you know, it saves on the water bill. So this isn't like having to run out and buy something. What it tells me, because the cold plunge immediately, reliably releases adrenaline. Yeah. which then wakes up the brain as well. Does your instinct. Shuts down the forebrain. The very, it's fascinating that you're saying this because the forebrain is strategy, et cetera. But in the first 20 or 30 seconds of deliberate cold exposure, the prefrontal cortex, which controls all the top-down inhibition of impulse, is, it's not shut off, but it is greatly diminished.

1:59:58Andrew Huberman:You can't strategize well. You're just thinking out, you know? so you're saying people need to get past the point where they're trying to suppress impulse but they need to experience adrenaline that's right got it yeah that's right and then they get to peace yeah yep and that's the energy to bring to your interaction with your dog yes and ideally to your spouse and your kids too everywhere everywhere so a human after a cold plunge brings that energy everywhere you don't have to talk everybody knows your energy feels really good. All because you went to mother nature, right? That was mother nature, coal, right?

2:00:36It's water, coal. That's mother nature, right? So imagine you bring that energy to meeting a dog, to walking with a dog, to feeding a dog. That's it. That's all I want people to experience because everybody wants to, ah, they want to do that, right? Or they want to do, I'm not aware how I feel. I just want to give affection. You see it? So that is good for the human, not necessarily good for everybody else because that human is spreading that energy. So my goal is for people to spread, you know, silence, calmness, confidence, love, joy, because that's exactly how you feel after a cold plunge. Exactly in three minutes, you get into that state.

2:01:14You have to learn to love, you know, the process of I'm going to fight flight avoidance, but I'm not going to listen to that part of me. I'm going to listen to my calm surrender. I'm going to listen to my calm confidence. And then once I finish, I'm going to listen to my happy-go-lucky. And that's all you want. That's it. Those three state of minds are super powerful.

2:01:35Andrew Huberman:You know, I've thought a lot about deliberate cold exposure, adrenaline, norepinephrine. You get this long arc of dopamine that lasts hours and hours and hours afterwards. And my critics will say, well, it's just dopamine in the body, not in the brain. Actually, New Findings show it's dopamine in your brain and body. Long arc. Very few things produce this thing of long-lasting dopamine. Drugs will spike in drugs. Well, a good relationship with a dog is long-lasting dopamine. You know, a well-balanced dog is a long-lasting whatever you want. You know, I hope you want the four worlds, your spirit, your instinct, your heart, and your mind, all of them by walking.

2:02:13Just walk with the dog for a long period of time, then you do your play explorer. That's the best medicine any human can get.

2:02:22Andrew Huberman:it's the the amount of peace that i still get from my relationship with costello i mean he's passed now but he's still yeah everywhere in his spirit uh is i mean i would spirit never dies it makes me well up you know not out of sadness it's like i can feel the the love of the relationship correct you know i had to ask and and on my list and i'm going to ask is this the right time I believe. So as Costello got to 11 years old, it's pretty old for a bulldog. That's right. He had some sort of spinal stroke. He couldn't walk, he was falling over. I was like distraught, how can I get this fixed? And at some point I realized, you know, when people say like, they'll let you know.

2:03:01Andrew Huberman:Yes. I had a feeling and then a thought, and it went something like this. And I made a contract with him to take care of him. And in the contract of being a really good dog owner, but like mostly in the contract of the relationship, I owed him a peaceful exit. Hated going to the vet. So I got someone to come to the house and do this thing. Most people, they hate the concept of death, especially in family members or a dog. And I think it would have been useful to me to understand the day I got him, that someday this is going to end. Yeah. And I think like this thing about honoring death as a real thing is so important because that last two weeks was a real struggle between me and myself.

2:03:51Andrew Huberman:My desire to just keep it going. And I realized I was being selfish. It was about me. And of course I gave him the best passage I could. And people in my life who knew me and knew my relationship to him, they said, I actually can't believe you did it. I'm surprised you were able to. But the moment I realized like this is the final line in being in the contract of being a really good dog owner, I was like, oh, of course I have to do this. So no one likes this topic, but given where you're from, what is your relationship to the concept of death as it relates to dogs? And the question is very specific here.

2:04:28Andrew Huberman:Do people say they know, they'll let you know? Yeah. The question I want to know is, is it okay to show your dog sadness or does it make the dog that's dying more anxious? With my kids, because I have two kids and, you know, obviously we have a pack of dogs and they have experienced dogs passing. We always make a celebration. I always bring them to their favorite place. So I definitely bring more of the energy of happiness. And I ask my kids, if you're going to cry or whatever, just do it away from them. Otherwise you hold them. Right? So I want them to go back. That's why it's so good to believe in God because they're going back to the source.

2:05:07So they're way better with him than with, you know, here. I did my homework right too also. So I feel really good that I gave the best life for that particular dog, right? And so when it's time to go, they tell you. They tell you. They can, you know, as many, many signs. But at the same time, you know, when it's the day, is everybody happy? Everybody's happy. We're going to dance. We're going to celebrate. We're going to, you know, it's a ritual. You can make a sad ritual or you can make a happy ritual. You see, it's time for him to depart. It's time to go. So when I die, I want everybody to be happy.

2:05:45I don't want no sadness. Listen, my life is beyond what I thought, right? So I give that same life to a dog. Same. I'm a very dedicated human. Seven days a week, even if I don't feel good, it doesn't matter. I go and walk that pack. I'm very committed, right? It's all about honor. It's all about respect. That's my way of showing my heart. And in my mind, I don't have one day that I did wrong by them. So when it's time for them to go, it's time for them to go, but we're going to make happy about it because they're going back to God. That's how I see it. And, you know, as you're talking about, the spirit never dies.

2:06:24you know spirit never dies and it's an opening for me to help another soul and another soul because that's what that's why i'm here right i'm here uh on earth to my time can be used wisely to keep helping and that's what i find you know my inspiration motivation that's it beautiful not

2:06:43Andrew Huberman:what i expected and i'm so pleasantly surprised i uh it challenges me to even say it because he's still so new, but when Strummer dies, the last 24 hours of his life will be a celebration with him. Yeah. Celebration. All right. Yeah. All right. It's a happy spirit, you know, sing, laugh, dance, you know, just happiness. Because once you start going like this, they get worried, you know, and then the spirit lingers. You don't want it. You just want it to go, you know, and for them to give you direction, protection. This, you know, I have a big pack on heaven. You definitely have a big pack waiting for you.

2:07:23When I go home, I'm going to have the, you know, how many dogs I have, I saved my life. So yeah, I'm going home. I love it. You know, earth is a beautiful home, but it's temporary.

2:07:36Andrew Huberman:Yeah. Well, I believe this too. Yeah, it's temporary. I've talked a bit about my faith. Now's not the time, but I'm, you know, my audience knows I'm very, very much in agreement that, you know, this is, this is an amazing phase of us. Yeah. But it's not the only phase. And so if people are feeling sad, like, you know, the number of people I know who turn to their dog for emotional support. Yes. Around a loss of a loved one or a breakup or loss of a judge, just the world, whatever. Yeah. What is your stance on that? It's bad because they're passing that energy. The dog doesn't know what happened.

2:08:10Andrew Huberman:Yeah. But I mean, obviously they're going to help you absorb the energy. But after you did that, just take him to the beach so he can let go of the energy. Same thing when you bring a dog to a hospital, right? And the therapy dogs. They go to hospitals, you know, kids with cancer, da-da-da-da-da, depressed people, blah, blah, blah. That dog absorbs that energy. Okay? Just like you will and absorb people's energy. Your job is to go and let it go. So every time you give bad energy, you know, help people or help dogs to get rid of that energy that is not healthy for them. Yeah. Utilize it, you know, it's available.

2:08:46but again you can also go and take a cold plunge before you hug the dog and that way you kill that energy you know kill bad energy just kill it and only give good energy to your family give good energy to your home it's discipline it's easier to just to go and throw that negative energy that you just grab it's easier but then you spread the whole thing everywhere oh man i saw in

2:09:08Andrew Huberman:so many laboratories where the the boss you know brilliant scientists i'm thinking of one in particular. And they would do this, like what I would call trickle down anxiety. They'd be stressed and they'd walk through the lab stressing out. Graduate school is already hard. Especially in the, if I may, in the sciences, very, very hard, very competitive. Postdoc is even more uncertain. Like you don't, you don't get a degree at the end. You're investing five years of your life, you know, and to walk around the boss walking around, like making people anxious. Yeah. Terrible. The other thing that was terrible was walking around making people feel overly confident people would do that too so everything you're saying it's like you could see it in these very hierarchical human relationships but i think with dogs we we're so i'm just gonna say it i feel like we are so selfish as a species like that these animals are here for us and just for us to give me love when i get home to console me when i'm sad to give me all the things i want that I would be blind to the basic needs of that animal.

2:10:09Andrew Huberman:It really is. It's as selfish, in my opinion, as saying, oh, these are animals that we work on that just serve our purposes to advance our careers or scientific understanding. And again, there's a place for that, but we have to be incredibly nuanced about where that's appropriate and where it's inappropriate. It's just a selfishness. The selfish part and the unselfish part. So what I'm saying is don't forget to be at service before somebody is at service to you, right? So the spirit instinct, it loves to be at service. And then the love and the mind loves to be served. So this is your selfish part of it, and this is your unselfish part of it.

2:10:47You see it? So you're here to serve God, and you're here to serve earth, all right? So don't forget that, right? To be at service, because they skip it. So once you go directly to the heart and the mind, this is what I want. I want my dog to love me, da, da, da. Okay, fine. You just skip spirit and instinct, right? Because the spirit will never bring bad energy to the heart. And instinct will never bring bad energy to the mind.

2:11:14Andrew Huberman:You see? So if you remember that you are for things and this is what you want to give to your dog, to yourself, to your house, to your family, and then you're going to be focusing on making sure that you snap out of it, whatever you do on yourself, to snap out of it, right? And then you go bring, you know, patience, calmness, confidence, love. And then you go hug the dog. So you also have to learn to snap yourself out of it from whatever energy you went and attract. It's like stepping on poop. You got to remove your shoe before you walk into the house. Otherwise you bring that scent. So energy is the same way.

2:11:53It's like poop on your feet. Bad energy is the same. You're going to spread it all over the house. Your plants are going to die, you know, Your dogs are going to be like, okay, this energy is not good. And then your family will get it. So you're going to enter into this dark energy.

2:12:12Andrew Huberman:These days on social media, there's so much I'm realizing about the low-level stuff. Like you should never hug a dog. You should hug a dog. You should never pick up your dog off the ground. It's okay to pick up. Your dog should never be in your bed. Your dog should be in your bed. You see all these contradictions. You see the same thing in the health space. Like you should cold punch. You shouldn't cold punch. You should sauna. You should like, and it comes down to a basic fact, which is that it's not about the practice. It's the principle behind it, the spirit behind it, the energy behind it.

2:12:46Andrew Huberman:So I was tempted to ask you like, is it bad to pick up the dog? Actually, Strummer loves being held. Costello hated it. Strummer, he's basically happiest just being carried around. But I know I don't carry around too much, but it's funny. He just drapes. Yeah. He's so happy that way. He wishes he could go through the world that way, frankly. It's not about carry or don't carry. No. It's about what is your energy? Why are you doing this? Is it for you? Is it for them? Correct. Okay. And if the dog feels, because you can ask a groomer or a vet, they have to carry that dog, but they can't carry a five flight avoidance.

2:13:22Right. They can only carry a happy-go-lucky one or a calm surrender one. So it's nothing wrong hugging a dog. There's nothing wrong putting a dog on the bed. There's nothing wrong. What state of mind the dog was in when you did this is more important. Right? Because what about if a dog is in a flight state and you want to carry him? He's going to feel trapped. And then the dog is going to bite or is going to pee or is going to scream. Right? So you could have prevented that just by not focusing on what you wanted to do. It's the dog that you want to do that in a calm surrender state. Right? Can a dog stay on the bed?

2:13:57But there's nothing wrong, you know, sharing your house with the dog. Think about invading versus inviting. Okay. So when the dog goes on his own, he's invading. When the dog is waiting and then you tell him to come over and you tell him where to go, that's being invited. So that mind is going to become surrendered. The other one is going to get territorial. You know how many times I have rehabilitated dogs who claim people's bed? where the husband can't come near the bed because the wife and the dog were already there. I done a rehabilitation where the husband slept in the living room for three years because she wanted the dogs to stay in the bed.

2:14:38And when every time the guy came into the bedroom, the dogs were after him.

2:14:44Andrew Huberman:I'm sure everyone is thinking, what did he do wrong? This is, you know, we're living in this time now where there's this projection of like, well, he must've done something wrong. I can also imagine the situation you just described where no one did anything wrong except give the dog too much power. Correct. Let's assume there's no problem between the couple. Correct. She would like the husband in the bed, perhaps, but the dog is somehow picking up on something. No, no. She said it clearly to me. I just don't want him on the bed. The husband? Uh-huh. Okay. So the dog is basically taking advantage of the open slot.

2:15:17Well, listen. Let's say you guys want to spend 20 minutes on the bed. Let me show you how to do it. And so that's what I thought. I thought the dog was just to wait. Wow. Right? But she needed to make sure that she agrees with agreement, commitment, follow through. Nothing can happen without agreement. So she needs to be in 100 % agreement. Otherwise, the dog will not do it.

2:15:37Andrew Huberman:They really can sense any kind of small fraction of resistance. Your energy goes down, they're going to take over. Your energy goes up, they're going to move away. Right? Your energy have to be bigger for you to create the follow. If your energy goes down, you follow them. Simple as that. Simple as that. You just have to remember energy, right? And then if you want to lead, this is the animals. You can lead humans lying to them all day long. But with animals, you can. You have to bring the perfect energy, the right energy, and energy that belongs to all of us, right? Your patient energy, your calm energy, your confident energy, your love energy.

2:16:15We all have that inside of us, right? God gave us all the same thing. That's up to you. But you go from the back of the pack to the front of the pack. That's up to you. Right? But you have patience, calmness, confidence, love, joy. Because that's how you're going to deal with life. Right? So with animals, it's a perfect way to maintain this, you know, within yourself. Right? It's like a gym. Going to the gym every day. Right? But it's just the gym. It's Mother Nature. The beach. The streets. Whatever. You're just walking around with dogs in a natural, simple, profound way. And that's it. And then you go to work.

2:16:55So imagine if people develop this beautiful habit. Okay, I'm going to do what Caesar says, you know, silence, calmness, confidence, love, joy for 30, 40 minutes. And then I'm going to feel the silence, the calmness. Then I go to work. Right? And when I come back, no touch, no touch, no eye contact, sending my dog back. And then I can do the greeting. Then I go for another walk. Right? And then you can do the play and explore. no bad behavior would happen in your house with that simple formula.

2:17:25Andrew Huberman:I love it. I hope that people start to think about their dog and getting a dog as more of a gym, as opposed to, I mean, we're going to get a fur baby. I have a friend, I have to be very careful here. This is truly not about my household, but I have a friend, she's married. They're going through some struggles. They have two kids. And she told me the other day, they never had a dog. she's going to get two husky puppies and i said do me a favor just get one yeah in six months if you but they want each other this and that and the kids are young there's no way and i um and i know the struggles that they're having and it's they're they're both overworked they're under resourced so this is uh and they love each other very much but this is like a really hard situation right and i'm thinking to myself i want to be supportive yeah and i said do not get a puppy now and if you do not get two puppies.

2:18:17Andrew Huberman:This is like insanity. Like you, like you want to, like it could break your family or, and she said, but I promised the kids. It'll break your heart because you have to get rid of the dogs. So this, she said my, it was a story. It's very interesting. She said, when I was growing up, my parents would make these promises and they wouldn't do it. And I told, and it broke my heart. And I told my kids they could each get one. And I said, I said, well, you have no idea the kind of heartbreak that are going to experience when you have to give them both back because one is biting the kid or one is, you know, like, and she's like, oh, I wouldn't want that.

2:18:48Andrew Huberman:And I was thinking myself, and you're already under resourced. I share this because I'm realizing throughout today's conversation, our concept of dogs and what they owe us is completely backwards. She's a very good person. I won't state her profession for states, but she's in a profession of intense service all day long and has, I've known her for more than two decades. But the concept is these puppies are going to come here and rescue us. Yeah. This is something that will fulfill. The dream that I had. Yeah. Right? Prior to, you know, with my parents. More love. Just more love can't be bad. More love can't be bad.

2:19:23Andrew Huberman:Yeah. And they're huskies, right? And they're huskies. So this is a breed that love to migrate longer than any other breed in the world. Right? So walking is one thing. Migration is another thing. This is why I got a bulldog. You see? This is why I got a bulldog breed. I actually didn't get a purebred bulldog. because they have issues. Yeah, they have issues. But yeah, a dog that needs to migrate, how much walking do they need per day? Hours, and especially a pack. So the bigger the pack, the longer the walk. I know. They both work such crazy hours. You can also let her know, hey, begin with fostering.

2:19:54So that way they get to know themselves as a family. Is everybody in agreement? Is everybody understand what the rules, boundaries, limitations are? Is everybody understand what the responsibilities are? Can we all see our good habits and our bad habits? You know, do we all follow through? So with a foster dog, you're not adopting them. You're just temporary keeping them in that house. So the dog gets, you know, a home and a family. It doesn't necessarily have to stay in the house. But the human gets to learn about themselves before they enter into the purchase or the adoption. Right? So to have two puppies, a huskies, you got to have to purchase them.

2:20:32Right? And so she's going to go in to make a purchase. And then eventually you realize we were not ready. as a family. In my mind, I was ready, but in the whole pack, we're not ready. Right? And the puppyhood is from birth to eight months. So in a matter of six months, you have a dog that is this big, who's an adolescent now. Right? Now you got to think about spay and neuter. Because if you don't, then you deal with the hormones and then they can start fighting with each other.

2:21:05Andrew Huberman:What's your take on spay and neuter? Well, in America, it's necessary because dogs are not going to mate. And so, and they spend a lot of time indoor. So I neutered Costello. Yeah. I put him on testosterone therapy his final two years. Vets that I knew said, we would love to be able to do that more, but there are reasons we don't. With Strummer, I thought, keep him intact. Yeah. Then people say, oh, but then they're going to mate with all the dogs in the neighborhood. You can also give a dog a vasectomy. This is a very easy procedure. It's funny we don't do that. I learned that in Australia, it's illegal to not neuter your dog.

2:21:45Andrew Huberman:In Scandinavia, it's illegal to neuter your dog. To neuter your dog, yes, right. What in the world is best? Well, it depends on the place, right? Because in America, without a doubt, since the dogs don't go out as often, they rely on the human. Dogs in a different country, they're not neutered, but they're not looking for trouble. They may when the female gets in heat. Otherwise, they're busy looking for food and water. So as long as you use your energy for survival purposes, you're not going to develop frustration. So what happens when a dog is intact and they don't get to walk enough and they don't get to be challenged enough?

2:22:23And then it all goes into the arouse and the whole day they're excited. And people go, oh, baby, the thing comes out. And then the dog gets excited. I don't know if you've ever seen it, but I've seen it a lot. Dogs humping their owners or dogs humping furniture in the house.

2:22:43Andrew Huberman:I mean, Costello tried to hump me once. Yeah. It never happened again. I just made it very clear that was not okay, and I used isolation. I just put him back in the thing. I left, came back. Yeah. I sent him the message mentally, energetically. That's never happening again. It was very stern. It has to be clear. They won. So that happens and they won. But a lot of times people go, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, no, no, no. So they more celebrate that, right? And so they end up in a celebration and it ends up funny. But the dog ends up becoming more and more aroused about the humans. So now he's mounting, which as you know, is a sexual and his dominance, you know, behavior towards the human.

2:23:29So in America, definitely a dog needs to be neutered more often. Plus we have an overpopulation, you know, millions of dogs die every year because there's an overpopulation problem and that's taxpayer money who pays for the killing of dogs. So it's important that we regulate that through, that's the only way you can regulate that.

2:23:50Andrew Huberman:I see these crazy things on Instagram. Someone says, when you pet your dog, it should be slow. No, when you pet your dog, you should rub. I'm guessing it doesn't matter. It's the energy behind it. Yeah. I mean, you obviously don't want to push against the fur, but somebody was saying, you know, all people are like petting their dog too fast. They don't like that. Is this just people making stuff up? Look, if a dog is doing agility and a dog is like excited because he's doing agility, pet him hard, pet him fast because you want him like that. But if you want the dog to be in a restaurant, pet himself.

2:24:21So it's dependent on what you want the mind to feel. You see what I mean? You don't want to pet fast in a restaurant and slow in agility. So it's not the action. It's what are you petting? Makes total sense. Makes total sense. I mean, a soft, slowly calm. Restaurant means calm. Agility means go for it. Good job. Yeah, go for it, right? That's like what FIFA is doing right now. Everybody's excited. Nobody's like, you see this?

2:24:53Andrew Huberman:With barking, I learned from your book, like if Costello, when he was a puppy, he could let it out. Yeah. And the temptation is to say no, but why would you shout back to a dog that's vocalizing? So I would just walk away. And then when he was quiet, I'd come back. There you go. And then pretty soon he realized nobody wants to be around a barking dog. And somehow he knew instinctually that if there was a threat or someone, you know, he sensed a threat, a bark, he only would bark once. He had this. I mean, he had this like, I mean, man, he was a beautiful specimen, I have to say. He was just so beautiful.

2:25:31Andrew Huberman:But his barks were like a bass drum, but it was one. And then we just, but he would never just sit there and bark. I think a lot of people, their dog barks and they talk to their dog. So presumably the dog is barking because that's what gets them some sort of feedback, attention. That's right. Or the dog is also his only way to drain energy. Right? Like when my dog obsessively barks, how often do you walk? Once a week, twice a week or whatever. So the barking becomes a way of draining energy. Or like destroying your house, destructive behavior. Why would a dog destroy where he sleep? Well, because he doesn't do much with his body and his mind.

2:26:09So he has to drain that energy. And that's what we call destructive behavior. But people don't understand that we are not, we're in a way practicing destructive behavior by not doing what we're supposed to be doing, which is walking the dog every single day. At the moment they wake up in the morning, they stretch. The second thing they want to do is walk. Should you wait for your dog to get up? What if you have to go to work?

2:26:30Andrew Huberman:Should you force your dog to wake up and walk? I certainly would. They're daytime animals, so the biology is definitely, as soon as the sun comes out, they should go. You know, they should go. This is what we do with strummer, even though bulldog, I mean, they'll sleep till 10 a.m., but we have to work, so we take them out. No, no, take care of it. It's easier. It's actually better, right? Because it's easier, like, oh, I got it. But then you drain the energy quicker. Yeah, it's way better because you want them to stay waiting for you in a resting state. So it's five body motions the animals do.

2:27:01They stretch as soon as they wake up. Right? Walk, run, rest, sleep. So a lot of times when you don't walk the dog or run the dog and you want the dog to wait for you, he can't go into a resting state. You see it? So it's very important that we follow the five body motions because every single animal, as soon as they wake up, they stretch. The bird flies, right? And the dog walks and the rest of the animals, the water animals, they swim, right? So there is a formula that they have. So we want them to wait for us. We have to leave them in a resting state. And that's the meaning of waiting state.

2:27:40That's it. But they can't wait or rest if the body and the mind has not been drained. And another reason why the walk is so important, because the walk is the only activity from play and explore that gives them calm surrender. Play and explore gives them an excited energy. Do you recommend walking them on the same path, novel path, giving them new... In the beginning, yes. Then the same path is important. They create, you know, trust to the environment. But once they know it very well, you have to change it. Yeah. And you don't have to change, like even going in a different direction. You can just come outside and put food in the floor and tempt the dog to want to smell and correct them.

2:28:22So that creates a challenge. You see it? So you learn to ignore food in the floor. And you see it? So you start creating your own universal studios. So your whole house or your whole environment becomes your own dog psychology center where you're challenging your dog to not get bored. Because they learn a pattern really fast. And once they learn it, there is no growth. So then the man gets also frustrated, bored, or confused because there's no growth. I love it.

2:28:49Andrew Huberman:I trained Strummer to run on the treadmill for little rewards here and there, intermittent reinforcement. And he loves it. He runs now. He jumps on. He gets on that thing. Yeah. It never occurred to me to do this, but I realized that we're in California. It doesn't rain too often, but even when it rains, I want to have something where I can get his energy out. If there's fires again, I don't want to be outside. Anyway, so glad to hear that the treadmill is okay. You know, the first treadmill I saw, remember the show, The Jetsons? Yeah. With Astro. George Jetson. Yeah. That was the first dog I ever seen on a treadmill.

2:29:21And I was a kid. Then I come to America and I see a whole bunch of treadmills, you know, in people's garage. and I say, do you ever put your dog on a treadmill? I said, no, can you put a dog on a treadmill? I learned that by watching the Jetsons. Oh, very cool. Then I came and practiced it in America because people just had the treadmill, but they were not using it. Wow. You know, so that's when I started putting dogs on a treadmill. Bah, bah, bah. And people were just fascinated. But I said, listen, this is not for you to stay lazy. Right. This is just for emergencies. Okay. And for you to challenge the mind and, you know, and that's it.

2:29:55But it's not so you don't walk.

2:29:58Andrew Huberman:Yeah, I do a walk with him, then bring him back. And then if he still has a lot of energy and I have to go, I get him going fast on an incline. Yep. Get him right to his threshold and then play with it a little bit. That's correct. We're done. I've been trying to share this thing with him. Like, this is our thing. And now he loves the treadmill. He will be dying to get on the treadmill. So if people become more like personal trainers, they will challenge the dogs a lot more like a personal trainer. You see it? So they will be able to challenge the mind and challenge the body. Challenge the mind, challenge the body.

2:30:26It's a personal trainer, right? But people don't do it. They don't do these other titles, right? I just want to be a dog lover or the mom of this dog or the father of this dog. Yeah, you can also be a coach. You can also be a religious coach. You know what I mean? Or a spiritual coach, intellectual coach. I mean, don't forget that it's four worlds. It's not just the emotional world. And that's the only one you want to practice because that's the easiest one, right? To love a dog is so easy. To challenge him spiritually and instinctually and intellectually, that requires creativity.

2:31:03Andrew Huberman:Yeah, that's a great relationship. Yeah, it's an awesome relationship. It's good for you. Yeah. Because if the dog is doing great, that means you did great. So it's a reflection of you, right? The dog is a reflection of you, your energy, your philosophy, your actions. So every time you work out with a dog, you're working out with yourself. It's just in a natural, simple, profound way. That's it, you know, which is about trust, respect, love, safe, peace, love, body, mind, heart, just simple stuff. Right. And that creates the off-leash. That is, you know, the ultimate we should all accomplish. And you shouldn't pay for it.

2:31:36Right. I'm not trying to get my, you know, colleagues, the dog trainers, not to get jobs. But it's kind of silly that you hire somebody to teach your dog off-leash.

2:31:49Andrew Huberman:You earn that. That's something we have to earn. It's good for us to earn, you know, that trust, that respect, that love. It's good. It's a good exercise. It's a good workout. That means you use your spirit, your instinct, your heart, and your mind every single day of life. That's why that dog behaves that way. You see it? They keep you on track just to live a natural, simple, profound life. And when you're having a hard time in life, that's where you want to go, to your natural, simple, profound. You know, never let this one go. So to have a good relationship with a dog is automatically let you have a good relationship with God.

2:32:24They're together. We're the only one that separates them. We're the only one that separates everything to create chaos.

2:32:30Andrew Huberman:We make a lot of things up. What I'm hearing today over and over is that you obey the spirit. You obey the instincts, ours and these animals, dogs in this case. And you put that first. then all the other stuff about pet not pet pet not the pet like all the other stuff falls into place but it's a moment to moment thing it's a daily thing there isn't a well i love my dog it loves me that that's a that's a story that's partially true but there's actually if i'm editorialize a little bit there's there's actually a fair amount of abuse of the animal in that situation it's very self-serving there's abuse of the animal yeah but when we align all those things and we start from spirit, it all kind of falls into place.

2:33:18Andrew Huberman:Yeah. But we have to be vigilant and we have to basically train ourselves. Yeah. This is all about training ourselves. That's why I train humans, rehabilitate dogs. That's my job. I train humans, rehabilitate dogs. You don't have to have a dog to talk to me because, you know, learning how to be with a dog is learning how to be in life, period. Right? It's good for you to be a PAC member, a good PAC member at home. You need to know what is your position and just contribute to the family, right? And bring good energy, good philosophy, good action, even if you're in the back of the pack or the middle of the pack or the front of the pack.

2:33:50It's not only the front of the pack. It has to have good energy. It's because he's in that position, he has to be the fittest, right? Fittest not only physically, but spiritually, instinctually, emotionally, and mentally, you know, with the body to take care of all those four energies. Right? So otherwise, it doesn't matter what position you are in the pack. Bring good energy, good philosophy, good actions. Right? And one way that you can achieve this every single day is having a great relationship with a dog. It just makes you a good human. Everybody wins that way. It's not about training the dog.

2:34:28It's about training the human to be a good human. Right? And then that human is going to have good everything because that's what his energy and philosophy and actions are all about. So imagine if the world is led by good humans.

2:34:42Andrew Huberman:Yeah, that's a beautiful image. Yeah. Well, Cesar, I am immensely grateful for you coming here today. Thank you. You are incredibly knowledgeable, incredibly wise. Your energy is tangible from the moment somebody meets you. It's a real thing. I can say that having experienced it in the room. I'm sure people listening are hearing it and feeling it as well. You also have an incredible relationship to the spiritual of animals and humans and a real, what I hear is a wish for humanity and for animals and your relationship to the things that are timeless. The past, the present, what happens next, it's really incredible.

2:35:26Andrew Huberman:I said it before, I'll say it again. Three different ways for the multi-generational purpose of it. You're the man. You're also incredibly wise. And you're a virtuoso of bringing together information in practical ways that people can not just learn how to take care of their dog and themselves better, but as you pointed out, be a better human. So you're a special one. Thank you so much. Thank you. Thank you for joining me for today's discussion with Cesar Millan. To learn more about his work, please see the links in the show note caption. If you're learning from and or enjoying this podcast, please subscribe to our YouTube channel.

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