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29:45This tradition, rooted in Japan's post-war economic culture, is based on the belief that women are better financial managers. Husbands typically receive modest allowances and must budget carefully for social outings, hobbies, and lunch money. Many see it as a form of trust and teamwork within the family. While this practice is slowly declining among younger couples, it still reflects a unique cultural approach to money, responsibility, and family dynamics. It has sparked interest and debate worldwide for its contrast to Western financial norms. I just want to go back to the closing part of the first sentence based on the belief that women are better financial managers.

30:31Well, I think really when it gets right down to it, women are really good at business, but you just see men in business. Women are just as good at numbers and everything else. So go Japan. I'm all for it. I know. I think it's really cool. You know, to think that there's cultures that like embrace women and prop women up. Like I think Iceland is really, really good at this. I've read some articles about it. But the patriarchal norms, I think that's what we're up against right now. You talk about this a lot of times, that they're just like clinging on. It's like their last, like we're not going to let these people have it.

31:11So they're just, you know, it's like kitchen sink right now with MAGA. They just keep slugging at everybody. Yeah. And I also think religion plays a big part in that because Christianity is patriarchal. I mean, from jump. But I just feel like I have to say this, even though nobody cares about what I'm about to say, but it's going to make me feel better. Having done divorce law for all my life, I just think it's a really bad thing when one person has financial power over the other, regardless of sex, in terms of it so easily can become abusive. That's just my PSA. I think you're 100 % right. I think one of the biggest things for all of the young parents out there that happen to listen to our pod is this whole idea that we're taught is that marriage, everything is joint.

32:07We share everything. It's a really bad idea. It's a bad idea. It's a really bad idea. Have your own money. Are there shared expenses and shared property? Sure. But it's just generally a bad idea, I think, to merge all money. And then these MAGA people listen to this podcast and be like, those men haters. Yeah. They want the women controlling all the money. I ain't letting my woman control my money. Right. My wife's not going to control my money. Gross. You fucking suck. Yeah. Okay. I have some voice memos today. Excellent. I feel like it's been a while. I know. I came across this girl named Em.

32:47She sends so many and they're so good. I'm going to play two of hers. all right okay we're gonna start with this one i've had it with people saying you're the best bitch i know you've said the same thing to 10 other people today yesterday and you're gonna do the same tomorrow no the word best is a superlative adjective it is reserved for one person one thing only say what you mean and me what you say i'm mediocre i'm average you appreciate the thing that i'm doing for you that you didn't want to do for yourself let's please reserve the word best to describe our ladies at the I've Had It podcast.

33:24Seriously, love you all so much. Thank you for making me laugh during these crazy ass times. Crazy ass times. I'm guilty. Me too. I'm guilty. But in my defense. I'm guilty too. I don't just say it like I just wouldn't, you know, text it to somebody out of the clear blue sky. Typically when I do it, it's like I'm feeling extremely affectionate and I really like that person at that time. And I'll be like, you're the best. I feel like in order for me to use that, I have to feel like somebody really did me a solid. I agree. I have to feel I wouldn't just arbitrarily throw it out in conversation. I have to feel like for me to say that typically, And I typically don't ask people for favors.

34:12I hate people paying for anything of mine. Like I always want to pay my own way. So if I ask somebody to do something for me, that's outside of my comfort zone. But from time to time, we have to ask people to do something. So if I ask somebody to do something for me, help me with something, and they do, then I respond with, you're the best, because I genuinely mean it. because I am a very self-contained woman. I pay for my own shit. I hate it when anybody pays for anything for me. If somebody bought me something three or four months ago, it will hover in the corner of my brain that I need to reconcile that and I need to make it right.

34:53Or if somebody does me a huge favor, it still sits there that I need to do something to like repay that. So if somebody does something for me and I throw out, you're the best, I genuinely mean it. That's how I feel like I do. I genuinely mean it when I text it. But I might text like one of my kids, you're the best because they did something I liked. I don't think I give it to the kids. Sometimes that's just how I end a conversation. Are you the best abuser? Yeah, I kind of do. But I genuinely feel it when I do it most of the time. Most of the time. And would you say some of the times that you don't would be your children?

35:36Yeah, but sometimes it's like if they do something that like they would never do and it takes something off my plate and it's unexpected, then I will genuinely be like, oh, my gosh, you're the best. Because I came home and your shit wasn't everywhere and you unloaded the other dishwasher. We don't have to fight over who's kept and who has to put it in. She's just done like that kind of thing in the moment. It just makes me so happy that I'll say you're the best to my kids. Kylie, do you use this? You're the best. I think so. I just think it's nice, you know. But I do think it gets abused. I disagree with her, but I am guilty.

36:12I think she has a good point, but I am also an offender. But I will say that when I use this, it is reserved. In the moment. It is reserved for somebody who did me a solid. Right. Like somebody passing me the popcorn, I'm not going to say you're the best. But somebody going to the top of the arena and bringing it back and surprising me with it and saying, no, I got it. Like that's in that moment. Like that's the best. OK, up next, we've got her sending another. Good morning, ladies. First of all, I love you all so much. I respect the hell out of you for having more balls than let's be real. Most men in the entire world.

36:52Okay. I fucking had it with the phrase faith over fear. I see it on tattoos. I see it on hats, shirts, t-shirts, car stickers. I'm pretty sure if you were staring down the barrel of a gun or you were, I don't know, God forbid being attacked by a shark in the ocean, your faith is not going to do shit. Okay. You're going to be afraid. And you know what? That's fine because you're human that's normal i fucking had it i've just had it with evangelicals thinking that because they have this ridiculous faith that the rest of us should too and that none of us should fear anything by the way is that one of their trademark lines fear god so fear yet fear god i don't get it i don't get it and i fucking had it yeah well i mean you know she's speaking my love language.

37:51There's nothing that I love more than some light evangelical bashing. I mean, that's just like my love language. There's so much hypocrisy and just bullshit. And then I just have this whole thing like when you start using critical thinking with evangelicals and they go, well, that's why they call it faith. Right. Which I've been guilty of. That's always the, that's always, well, I mean, I just have faith. I mean, I just believe it because I believe it because I have faith. Right. And it's just like I would have never had conversations with people about religion. I don't have conversations with Catholics about religion.

38:30I didn't have conversations with Methodist friends. I had some friends I grew up with that were Lutheran. I never had any of it. The only people I ever had to talk to religion about are these fucking awful evangelicals because they recruit. It is the MLM of churches. It is multi-level marketing, and they will not fucking relent. They are relentless. Just like the fucking, you know, what was that MLM that that girl tried to get me to do? Arbonne. Arbonne. It's like that. They will not stop. And so those are the people that I had conversations about existentialism in or religion. And they literally cannot go one question deep.

39:18I have to say, the faith over fear goes all through me. I can't stand it. The only thing I hate more than that is when people say, my thoughts and prayers are with you after a school shooting or something so tragic that could be prevented, that something is preventable. And they send thoughts and prayers. And I just want to turn around and say, shove your thoughts and prayers in your ass, out your nose and fucking sit and spit on it. I just it is so empty. Well, now that you're now that you're not religious anymore, let me ask you this. When you're in public settings and people pray in Oklahoma, listener, you often find yourself in these situations where there's like this group praying.

40:06I never put my head down and I always scan the crowd for, uh, to see what the, what the Christians are doing. What do you do? I scan the crowd because I used to back in the day, I would look around. I mean, I would bow my head, but I'd look around with my eyes open. So now I just kind of, or sometimes I just look straight ahead if I don't want people to be uncomfortable. I scan the crowd because I would always look for the people like you, the people that were Christians, but nosy. Right. We're kind of sitting the prayer out. And so I always get kind of it because their heads down, but you see their eyes.

40:40They're like moseying around. I don't know. It's just kind of an interesting it's an interesting thing because I always sit there and I'm like, like they're all so into it. And I'm just not just even remotely. Yeah. Oh, my God, you guys, this is hilarious. Okay, so we'd gone to all the NBA finals games, and there is a guy who dresses up like Jesus at the games. And then he goes, his girlfriend dresses up like Mary. And my son Roman and I were watching him like total old school Jesus garbs, like dressed like Jesus and Mary. And the cameras went over to them, and they were full-blown thinking. For like the kiss cam?

41:23Well, I think they were on the kiss cam and she was eating. It looked like a bowl of ramen or something. It was just a weird thing to be eating in an NBA game. And then they just start making out. Roman and I were dying laughing. I mean, like the blasphemy factor of that. Some of our listeners will get this. I think blasphemy can just be so hilarious because it's so triggering. It's like the stupidest thing, and it can be so triggering to the most devout, scared, fear-based evangelicals. Faith over fear. So we have this friend listener. His name is Saul, but he goes by BingoSparkles on Instagram.

42:01And he used to live in Oklahoma City. Now he lives in New York. But he always, when he comes back in town to Oklahoma, he wears a shirt, and it will say, like, Satan on it. And it just says Satan, S-A-T-N. He goes in front of the evangelical megachurch and takes his picture. I didn't know. Just a gig, gig, gig. I just think that kind of blasphemy is so hilarious because you know, like, here's why it's funny. Because it's a nothing burger. Right. It is a no big deal. but to like this percentage of the the majority of those even evangelicals would just die and equate that to like child exploitation right and they're so into appearances and bullshit and surface level stuff so that's hitting them right where it hurts all right kylie okay the last one wait one more well i have a question oh yes let me ask you something yeah do you think blasphemy is kind of funny of course i think it's funny that's why i send you all that shit don't you I think the one here's the funny one on Easter.

43:02He's like, he is risen. And it's like zombie Jesus day. I haven't seen that. I haven't seen that.

43:13Okay. I have a question about this. Jesus at the Thunder game. I've seen him. Have you seen it? I didn't see them make out. They were making out. Okay. So do you think that the whole crowd, which is going to be majority Christian, gets that that's blasphemous? Because it seems like they're cheering like it's not. I think they don't get that it's blasphemy. They don't get it. They do not get that they are the brunt of the joke. Yeah, no. And actually, I'm learning more from pumps about the we had this conversation on hip news about how chosen they think they are, how much better they think they are.

43:49You've opened my eyes up to that in our conversations on this. And I think that that's, I always looked at it as just kind of this stupid, ignorant arrogance, but it's even deeper than that. They think they are chosen by God. Right. Well, and they're entitled to be in judgment over everybody else. Yeah. This episode of I've Had It is brought to you by Progressive Insurance. You choose to hit play on this podcast today, Smart Choice. Progressive loves to help people make smart choices. That's why they offer a tool called AutoQuote Explorer that allows you to compare your progressive car insurance quote with rates from other companies.

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48:05If you're gay, just say that because it's really fucking annoying. Or just don't say anything at all. Just shut your big fat fucking mouth. Anyways, love you. I think that's a point that we were talking about with Jonathan Van Ness. I think that a straight man would immediately feel like an insecurity about his masculinity because it's so browbeat into them that that's why they have to be ugly. I mean, we just kind of talked about that. And so when I hear him say that, that's what I think, that they think it reflects on their heterosexual masculinity. Yes. And I just I just think this is a an atmosphere of just they've turned up to a boiling pace, the homophobia.

48:54Right. And after gay marriage was made legal under the Supreme Court, when the first black president was in office, this is just too much for these white supremacists to handle. It's a lot. I mean, this type of, oh, my God, they can be who they want to be. And I think it's just I think that they're all going through quite some things because they're their number one goal in life is to get you to be as stupid as they are and to think less like they do and to completely eradicate any form of acceptance, empathy. You know, there's all this talk now in the MAGA movement. They have labeled empathy now toxic empathy.

49:40They, yes, there is a movement where they have the MAGA, like evangelicals have, they realized that Jesus was a radical and he was radically empathetic, right? And they have a problem with that. So now they have branded empathy as toxic empathy. And the preachers are preaching accordingly now. And if you go back and you remember how Elon Musk talked about empathy, this is a messaging that they're trying to do. The rich people that use the religious nuts to control all of the masses is now they're trying to demonize empathy. Right. I had not heard that. That's fucking bananas. Yeah. Turning Point is one of those conservative think tanks.

50:27Is that Charlie Kirk? Yeah. Yeah. And they had a gal that was up on stage recently, like in the last couple of weeks, and she was talking about toxic empathy and how dangerous it was for the MAGA movement. Because being kind and equality, that's bad. Right. For me, I like it doesn't the evangelicals that I know, like that's not that big of a stretch to sell that to them. Okay, let me ask you this. I can't believe I just said that when it was brought up this episode. But do you think as, you know, the decades move on, the most popular religion is non, you know, people are non-religious more than they are any other religion.

51:06I would think that would be amplified tenfold in this time with MAGA. I would think people that were on the fence about Christianity, like I personally know people that have left religion because of the hypocrisy of the Christians. And they're like, I don't want to be any part of that. Like, I can't. I'm out. And they really take stock in examining it. I think that this movement is going to push people out of Christianity hand over fist. Have you read anything about that? Well, I've read a couple of things. Number one, I've read that Gen Z is turning to religion more. Well, and this makes sense to me because this is a generation that is looking for community, that is looking for togetherness because this is the COVID generation.

51:47This is the raised with cell phones in your hands. And I think it's more of a sense of community. I mean, I think once they get in there and they realize, oh, it's anti-gay, a little bit white supremacist and all this shit, I think it's more socializing, if you will. But I mean, the thing about Christianity is in Europe, it's pretty much diluted out. You know, the United States of America is a very religious first world country. Very, especially when you get to a state like ours, it's just suffocating the religiosity that goes on in this state and the hypocrisy that goes along with it. So I don't know.

52:28I mean, I think the numbers would continue to keep going down and down and down because it just makes no sense. Right. And it's just illogical. I mean, those of you that are listening that have been so deeply indoctrinated in it, let me explain it to you like this. I wasn't indoctrinated in it at all. So to the Christian light listener right now, I'm not trying to change your views. If your religion brings you serenity and it's your deal and you're not an asshole, it's none of my business. I don't care. And I will fight for your right to have that religion. But to explain it to you as somebody who was never indoctrinated in any religion at all, the first time you learn about Greek mythology, it sounds crazy.

53:11Like this goddess did this and this god did that. And then they, you know, did this and then Medusa appeared. It sounds fucking bananas, right? Christianity for somebody who wasn't indoctrinated has that same level of incredulity to it. I can't even express to you how ridiculous it sounded when it was pitched to me when I was in middle school. The suicide mission, the human sacrifice, the virgin birth, the flood, the genocide, all of those things, if you're not indoctrinated to believe it, sounds every bit as crazy as any other religion that you've ever heard about in your life. Just for me to have heard it in the buckle of the Bible belt makes my case kind of peculiar, but it sounded nuts.

54:04I mean, at a very young age, I was like, that makes no sense. But I mean, these kids, these peers that I grew up around in suburban Oklahoma City, I mean, they were deeply indoctrinated by their preachers and their parents to try to recruit and turn me. Even Pumps tried. Yeah, I did. Guilty. In a funny plot twist, she's the one that flipped. I know. And I'll tell you what else. I defend somebody's right to be an ex-smoker more than I do staying in the Death Star. That's just my thought for the day. All right. Well, I think that's all we have for today. Kylie, do you have anything else to add to our conversation about the recruiting evangelicals?

54:47I don't think I have anything to say that you have not said better than I would. But it was a big part of my sorority. there was like a handful of girls that would say hey so and so they'd reach out randomly and say do you want to go get coffee with me like an older member and if you said yes you went and got coffee and then they did something called bridging have you ever heard of this no i don't know what is it like soaking kylie no i probably would have enjoyed that in college but they like have this diagram they draw they get taught it at some camp and they're trying to convert you and so they trick you they bait and switch let me be friends you're younger than me and then they try to convert you at this coffee meeting really that goes on a lot so like so did that would they try to do that to you or were you already yeah i was gonna say you were already i i knew about it and so it's like within the sorority so i knew there was like the certain girls that if they asked me to get coffee i was not gonna fucking go right they probably didn't really think they needed to take you i'll I'll tell you this much, and this is universally true.

55:49The most religious people in a group of friends are the least liked. Oh, for sure. I mean, the most annoying religious person is always, it's always everybody's like, oh, here we go. Yeah. Yeah. Even in Oklahoma. Oh, totally. Always. The one who was the most outspoken about the religiosity, it was always just I roll. I roll goddamn city. God, I miss that. So that doesn't surprise me that the white sororities are MLMing the evangelical Christianity in Oklahoma. Yeah. I would think the ground would already – I mean, I wouldn't think there'd be a whole lot of fertile ground for them. There's a lot of little Jennifers running around.

56:29You think? Mm-hmm. Well, we've got our one. I mean, if there's like a point, you know, 1 % of the population, an evangelical just can't sleep all night. Well, we watched that documentary. No, I know. But I'm just saying like in my pledge class, I don't think there was anybody that would say they were an atheist. Like I really think you were the first atheist I ever knew in person. I really think that. So I just think it's kind of everybody, you know, you don't have a lot of ground to cover because everybody's the same. What about your generation, Kylie? We had gays, obviously, like me. I think people that like partied more than others, they would need to get saved, things like that.

57:05But were these partiers Christian or Christian light? I'm sure they would say they are, but I think these people are trying to make sure. Oh, they're just doubling, double checking. Just in case. Well, then I should have been called in because I was all the things. The wildest, the naughtiest. You were also kind of, I mean, you're, I mean, it was widely known quickly in meeting you that you were religious. Yeah. Probably not as much in college, though, to be fair. Yeah. Because you met me after kids. Yeah. But yeah, no, I mean, we were all wild as March hares. You were making boys get boners and jeans.

57:39That's right. Boners and jeans. Let's not forget. Uh-huh. Uh-huh. Let me ask you this, if y 'all knew this to be true. So I remember the most religious girls in high school were the ones that lost their virginity first. Kylie? Mine, I think, lost their like anal first. That was a big thing. that kind of came out after we were like the we're not gonna have vaginal sex we're gonna have anal sex and that was the skirt that was kind of post me but i remember that whole thing coming out and i was like i would i'm not letting somebody put something in my ass thank you there was a christian sorority like all the christians were in this one sorority and it was known that like they called it the poophole loophole and so they just do the butt stuff and they call themselves virgins after that somehow okay no that was the big push the thing first of all i think the word virgin's stupid but okay we have it right do you think that if let's say jane jane gets fucked in the ass but she saves her vagina for her wedding night is jane a virgin yes or no i mean technically if if you define intercourse as vaginal are you a yes or no Is Jane a virgin?

59:02Yes or no? I mean, I think no. Jane got fucked in the ass, but she didn't get fucked in the vagina. On her wedding night, is Jane a virgin? Yes or no? Probably not. Yes or no? No. Kylie? No. I think somehow you're past a virgin. I agree. I agree. I think you're like way past. I think the person who just did the vag only is more of a virgin than the ass fucker. Right. Like the least, you know, people are fucking people in the armpits. Does that count as sex? People are, you know, people do weird shit in the name of religion sexually. But I think that's kind of how it was designed. That's kind of the plan from John.

59:44What? What was the plan? Like controlling people sexually. So like you can't have sex, you can't have sex, you can't have sex. So it becomes this big taboo and then people are automatically going to find a workaround. Pardon the pun.

1:00:02I didn't even think about that. Yeah. All right. Well, I don't know what more we can cover on this. I mean, we've talked about ass sex. We've talked about smoking. We've talked about, I mean, is there anything we have an introvert, extrovert? This has been the PSA of all PSAs. This is where it's at. You get smarter if you're here. Yeah. Yeah. And I just want to say this. I want to leave everybody with this. It's so stupid to try to control other people's sex lives. It is stupid. It's a fool's errand. And it goes back to what Katya calling out Lindsey Graham. You know, like at the core of Lindsey's problems are Lindsey.

1:00:49A hundred percent. And it goes back to in my all-female government, we will have all of this released. the search history. I bet it wouldn't take us six months to whip this thing into shape. Okay, we have to stop. It's too much. We'll just stop. All right, we will see you next Tuesday and Thursday.

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