In short
Todd Gray, co-owner/founder of Equinox on 19th (D.C.), discusses his path to becoming a chef, building Equinox, the evolution of Washington’s restaurant scene, sustainable/seasonal cooking, and Thanksgiving prep (including sous-vide turkey and grilled oyster roast). He also shares culinary research trips, especially to the Middle East, and how COVID changed operations.
Guests
Todd Gray (chef/restaurant owner). Ellen Kassoff is mentioned throughout as his wife and co-owner/founder of Equinox; she’s also a hospitality/marketing/front-of-house leader and co-author with Todd of The New Jewish Table.
Key claims
Equinox’s success comes from long-term staff and generational continuity (not “flash” 5–7 year restaurant runs). Todd credits Roberto Dunn for helping launch Equinox and describes Ellen as the hardest-working partner. He argues restaurant “soul” takes 10–15+ years to build.
Notable examples
CIA graduation (1989); early work at La Colline and Galileo; Italian shift via Roberto Dunn (foie gras ravioli, squab with black truffles). Middle East hummus and fish cooked with fig leaves in Akka. Thanksgiving at Equinox: 2:30–7:30 service, sous-vide turkey breasts, and an oyster roast outside.
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Chapters
Tap a time to open that second in VOFamily Insights and Introductions
0:00 to 0:20
The episode begins with a light-hearted family anecdote before transitioning to the show's theme.
“My son says, they ask Harrison, so what does your dad do?”
Todd's Culinary Journey
0:54 to 3:17
Todd shares his path to becoming a chef, starting from his university days to culinary school and early experiences.
“So settle in while I tell you a bit about Todd's background, and then we'll get into our lunch.”
Early Influences and Discovering Passion
3:17 to 7:22
Todd discusses his early cooking experiences, family influences, and how he discovered his love for the restaurant industry.
“Thank you so much for taking the time, Chef.”
Training and Learning at Culinary School
7:22 to 10:00
Todd explains his training at the Culinary Institute of America and his excitement for learning to cook professionally.
“And, you know, but my mom was a mom cook of the 60s and 70s.”
Career Beginnings in Washington D.C.
10:00 to 12:52
He recounts his experiences working at notable restaurants in D.C. and the lessons learned in high-pressure kitchen environments.
“Yeah, I was getting excited to go to school, so I was all checking out all these cool cookbooks and, you know, I was just so excited.”
Transitioning from French to Italian Cuisine
12:52 to 14:00
Todd discusses his shift from French cooking to exploring Italian cuisine under Chef Roberto Dunn.
“And Roberto, I can't say enough great things about.”
Roberto's Influence in Washington
14:00 to 15:02
Learn about the impact of Roberto on northern Italian cuisine in D.C.
“Of course, they were doing some really creative things in New York, Italian-wise.”
Career Growth and Learning
15:02 to 16:20
Explore the chef's journey from working with Roberto to learning from Jean-Louis.
“You know, we're hand-rolling pasta and people are, and you couldn't get in the door of Galilee.”
Opening Equinox: The Journey Begins
16:20 to 19:24
Hear the story behind the opening of Equinox and personal milestones along the way.
“So anyway, Jean-Louis was an inspiration to so many cooks in the 90s.”
The Chef Community in D.C.
19:24 to 21:40
Discover the tight-knit chef community in D.C. and its evolution over time.
“So we sign the lease and we go out and celebrate the Inn at Washington with a bunch of our family and at times investors.”
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Evolution of Washington's Restaurant Scene
21:40 to 25:28
Understand the changes in the restaurant landscape and the impact of sustainability.
“Because it seems like you guys are really tight.”
Generational Changes in Cooking
25:28 to 28:00
Examine the differing philosophies of younger chefs compared to established restaurant traditions.
“When I grew up in this business, the chefs I worked for kept their restaurants open for decades.”
Quality Dining Experience
28:00 to 28:31
Learn about the importance of quality food and service in dining.
“So I'm not taking away anything from all the great young chefs in this city, but there's some young chefs that are doing fantastic cooking in this city right now.”
Favorite Seasonal Ingredients
28:31 to 29:31
Discover the chef's favorite seasonal ingredients and cooking preferences.
“And many of them will go on to run their restaurants for many, many years.”
Restaurant Beginnings and Challenges
29:31 to 30:48
Explore the initial fears and challenges of starting a restaurant.
“I mean, people say it's like the scariest.”
The Impact of Staff on Success
30:48 to 31:58
Understand the role of a dedicated staff in a restaurant's success.
“We had an amazing Tony Chittum, Brendan Cox, Barry Caslow, Lisa Scruggs was on board.”
The Fire and Its Aftermath
31:58 to 33:34
Learn about the impact of a fire on the restaurant and its staff dynamics.
“And they were our next, I don't know, you know, you have this next five, six, seven, eight-year blocks with people, 10-year blocks.”
Culinary Adventures in the Middle East
33:34 to 35:07
Hear about the chef's transformative culinary experiences in the Middle East.
“Yeah, and eating the food with the people of the Middle East.”
Navigating the COVID Challenge
35:07 to 36:42
Discuss how the restaurant adapted to the challenges posed by COVID-19.
“And so, you know, and then, you know, we come into COVID, you know, and now we're flying high.”
New Beginnings Post-COVID
36:42 to 37:42
Explore the restaurant's reopening and changes after the pandemic.
“And so, you know, then, you know, you come towards the end of your lease, you know, and you're like, well, hey, we came out of it.”
Future Plans and New Ventures
37:42 to 38:22
Learn about the plans for new restaurant ventures and their current success.
“So in the middle of COVID, we walk in the beaches of coastal Delaware and Lewis.”
Working with a Spouse in Business
38:22 to 39:06
Understand the dynamics of working with a spouse in a restaurant setting.
“And whether it's marketing or front of house or all of the things that she does, like my son says, they ask Harrison, so what does your dad do?”
Thanksgiving Cooking Tips
39:06 to 40:08
Get expert tips on cooking for Thanksgiving, including turkey techniques.
“I've never seen a person work harder than Ellen Casshoff.”
Thanksgiving Day Experience
40:08 to 42:00
Experience a day in the life of a restaurant during Thanksgiving.
“And we love to do our oyster roast, which is great.”
Oysters and the Atmosphere
42:00 to 43:09
Explore the vibrant atmosphere and food preparations at a gathering.
“Kind of do a quick line up with the staff around 1.30.”
Concert Experience and Favorite Songs
43:10 to 44:18
Discuss the experience of attending a concert and favorite Grateful Dead songs.
“And right before we got to Vegas, they're like, no, no, no, we're playing this summer or whatever.”
Chef Rock Stars and Influences
44:19 to 45:56
Conversation about influential chefs and their impact on culinary culture.
“I mean, you know, I mean, they're alive still.”
Vegetarian Cuisine Insights
45:57 to 47:22
Insights on vegetarian cooking, focusing on sauces and trends.
“Well, I would probably say, you know, I would want to go.”
Dream Lunch Destinations
47:23 to 49:25
Discuss dream locations for lunch and the meals one would enjoy.
“Well, there'd be a couple of places that could come to mind.”
Transcript
Automatic transcript. May contain errors.0:00My son says, they ask Harrison, so what does your dad do? He's the chef. And what does your mom do? She does everything else. It's true. I mean, Ellen, there's no one that works harder. I've never seen a person work harder than Ellen Kasshoff.
0:12Shelley:Wow. I'm so glad we got that on tape. Yeah.
0:19Shelley:Welcome to Lunch with Shelly, the podcast featuring conversations with colleagues, friends, family, business leaders. At lunch, here's Shelly. Hello and welcome to the latest episode of Lunch with Shelly with today's special guest, Todd Gray. Todd is the co-owner and founder of Equinox on 19th, which is a fantastic restaurant and a true D.C. institution. He is a highly accomplished chef with a rich culinary background, and we are so lucky to be dining with him at Equinox. So settle in while I tell you a bit about Todd's background, and then we'll get into our lunch. After studying at the University of Richmond, Todd graduated with honors from the Culinary Institute of America and Hyde Park, New York.
1:07Shelley:He has been nominated five times for the prestigious James Beard Foundation's Best Chef Mid-Atlantic Award. Notably, he was the first chef invited to speak at the White House for the Chef's Move to Schools campaign by then First Lady Michelle Obama, collaborating with Mrs. Obama and Chef Sam Kass to launch the national program. Additionally, he was appointed one of the inaugural State Department chefs by then Secretary of State Hillary Clinton, representing the U.S. in Italy and Canada. Our friend Chef Gray is also a well-known figure in the culinary world, having appeared on several cooking shows with renowned chefs like Bobby Flay, Guy Fieri, and Tyler Florence.
1:50Shelley:He was featured in the first season of the PBS series Chefs of Field and served on the Star Chefs Board of Directors for over a decade. Throughout his career, he has worked alongside culinary greats such as Jean-Louis Paladin, Michel Richard, and Robert Griolt. And he's also an author since he co-authored the cookbook The New Jewish Table with his wife, Ellen Kassoff. His extensive travels for culinary research have taken him to the Middle East for the Museum of the Bible and to New Zealand for the Surveina Council. Todd and his wife, co-owner and founder Ellen Kassoff, have developed numerous hospitality projects, including one at the Salamander Resort and Spa in Middleburg, Virginia, the Watershed at the Hilton Garden Inn, and Muse at the Corcoran Gallery of Art.
2:38Shelley:Their most recent venture is The Federal, a beast row in Rehoboth Beach, Delaware, which opened in 2021 and looks absolutely fantastic. A staunch advocate for sustainable farming, Todd is dedicated to using seasonal ingredients and supporting local producers. His expertise in classical French and Italian techniques, combined with his innovative approach to cooking, has earned him a reputation as a respected mentor and influential figure in the culinary arts. I have been dining at Equinox for years and years and have had my eye on Todd as a podcast guest for a while, so I am super thrilled that today is the day.
3:17Shelley:Thank you so much for taking the time, Chef. Welcome to the podcast, and let's have lunch. I like it. What a kickoff. I love that. Well, I did all that stuff. Yeah, and we've known each other for so long, and I really wanted you to be on, so I'm so glad that today is our day, as I mentioned, because I love having chefs and owners on the podcast. It's essentially kind of what we're all about, So anyway, thanks. You're very welcome. Thrilled to be with you. So let's start from the beginning. Not when you were six, but yeah, like tell us, when did you know that you wanted to be a cook or a chef? Like how early on?
3:58Well, let's see. Let's rewind, you know. Wow. Let's rewind 40 years. Yeah.
4:03Shelley:And also, sorry, but where are you originally from? I'm from Fredericksburg, Virginia. Oh, okay. Yeah. That explains a lot. Yeah. About the area. And so when I was at the University of Richmond my sophomore year, you know, like many 19-year-olds, I was like, hey, I'm feeling a little bored, mom and dad. And, you know, to their shock. I said I wanted to go work in this restaurant called the Tobacco Company, which is still there in Richmond. Wonderful restaurant. A lot of nightlife and activity. So I go in there at 19 years old. Anyway, I fell in love with the restaurant and I go to the owners and the general manager and I said, wow, how do you do this for a living?
4:48And they said, well, you should look at Cornell or go look at the Culinary Institute of America. So my parents said, well, listen, if we're going to do this, we have to get a degree and we need to go see these schools. So I ended up at the Culinary Institute of America and graduated in June of 1989. 1989. And then, you know, came back to Washington during my time and during my time at the CIA, interned out in Los Angeles at a great restaurant called La Rangerie. Oh, I've heard of it. Yeah. Elton and his boys all used to eat there. It was one of those turn on experiences like, wow, look how many people just go crazy for fine dining.
5:28And just, you know, being an East Coast kid, I was completely turned on by the West Coast to the point I think my parents were relieved when I told them I was actually coming home. And I came home, graduated from school, and, you know, I wanted to come back to Washington. I wanted to come to D.C. I didn't want to be way away from home. I love my family and very close with my brother. God bless him. And so I came back to Washington and started working at La Colline on Capitol Hill.
5:57Shelley:Oh, I love La Colline. But wait, hold on one second. Were you making grilled cheeses for your friends as a teenager? Or you were not cooking? You just were like, did you love the restaurant from a bartender standpoint? Like, why did you like that first restaurant so much? What did you do? I think, you know what? I was amazed at all the energy in the kitchen. And, of course, I love the buzz of the front of the restaurant. I will tell you 100%, this is crazy, and I probably should eat these words. But I knew I wanted to own a restaurant far before I knew I wanted to be a chef. that makes sense because restaurants it's like theater but way more fun because there's alcohol and food yeah and like for me i loved i loved you know i loved seeing the i mean i was doing the front of the house when i was at that age that was your first job i loved getting picking up my tuxedo shirt from a dry cleaner and my vest and going in with all the other captains and this resetters and servers and polishing glasses and getting ready and then watching the restaurant fill and the energy that came through the restaurant and going into the kitchen and seeing all of the action in the kitchen that was like it turned me on yeah so i could see that and that's where i mean i fell in love with it and then i just you know i i that's what i wanted to do and i went to the cia and i i you know i went to the culinary side because the chef told me if you ever want to own a restaurant you need to really be a chef so you did not cook at all until like you were 20?
7:22No, exactly. I mean, yeah, no. Was your mom or dad a cook? My mom was a great cook. My mom was a nurse. And, you know, but my mom was a mom cook of the 60s and 70s. I mean, they cooked everything out of boxes and cakes. But my mom's like string bean casserole and it's like egg casserole she makes. I mean, they were to die for. I mean, she made the most wicked cheesecakes and I mean she was she's you know great London broil on the grill you know with like steak Diane you know it was awesome I mean that's where I really I really fell in love with food with my mom's cooking you know but I was never like hey mom can I cook with you I mean I was busy skating boarding and chasing with my friends and you know probably skipping school I don't remember right but you know what um so so anyway I mean so I didn't grow up cooking I wasn't like, oh, yeah, I've got this romantic story.
8:19I was peeling potatoes when I was nine years old. So, you know, most American kids don't grow up like that. So, you know, I landed in this, I landed, you know, loving food. And like I said, I mean, you know, the CIA is a magnificent institution. It got me very excited.
8:35Shelley:Well, when you started doing it, though, so you're a newbie, a newbie, and they're like, this is a sharp knife. No, no, okay, sorry. So when I was at the University of Richmond and I got accepted, well, I was looking at the CIA, but they required two years of cooking experience to be accepted. Oh. So I left University of Richmond and went home to Fredericksburg to live with my mom and dad and work at a really amazing French restaurant called La Petito Bears. It's still there. I've heard of La Bears, but not La Petito Bears. La Petito Bears. It's on William Street. He opened in 1980. So he moved to Fredericksburg and opened up this wonderful French restaurant.
9:17And so my parents had a standing reservation every Friday night for years on end. That's nice. And there's a special table. Yeah. And so, you know, they would take us there. And, you know, he was doing venison and doing treat saitois and, you know, was doing, you know, really wonderful, classic southern French cooking. So I went to basically work as a waiter at night. And then he said, well, if he wants to learn to cook, he has to cook for free. Right. So I worked in the kitchen from like 8 a.m. till 3, learning how to fillet fish and make hollandaise sauce and how to chop vegetables and clean beef tenderloin.
9:54So I did that for a year or two right before I went to school, and then I went to CIA. I was prepared when I went there. Did you like that part too? Totally loved it. Really? Yeah. Yeah, I was getting excited to go to school, so I was all checking out all these cool cookbooks and, you know, I was just so excited. When I went to the CIA and I was like going to go interview, I was like, wow, this is going to be amazing. I can't wait to get in the kitchen and learn and get turned on to food. And, yeah, I was obsessed with it.
10:21Shelley:And was your food like Italian food, French food? What were you psyched about? Steaks? Back then, you know, back then cooking was so driven by the French. Oh, that's true. Yeah. With Julia Child, do you mean? Yeah, but, you know, it was, you know, the kitchens of Andre Soltner in New York and, you know, the French, you know, the American chefs were just coming up into, like, the world, you know. Right. Dean Faring and Charlie Palmer. And so I was sort of admiring all the new, you know, American cooking techniques that were happening, too. But it was really a French-dominated country of cooking going on in the early 80s, you know.
11:06I should say mid-80s. Yeah.
11:08Shelley:So you graduate. Your parents are relieved. Yeah. And then what do you do? So I come to D.C. and I go work at La Colleen. Oh, right. And it's, you know, bumping doing 200 lunches every day. That was a great place. Yeah, it was awesome. And so I learned so much there because, you know, we were doing table side Dover Soul. Right. Out in the dining room and out back at the restaurant in the kitchen. We had a carryout that was feeding the whole building that we were doing chili and hamburgers. I had no idea. Oh, yeah. So I got to learn so much about utilization and understanding. When there was trim, we would grind it and make chili, and we would sell 300 orders of chili out the back door.
11:51It was amazing. Very clever. Robert Greo was a master chef, and there was hardly any of them in Washington in the 80s. I mean, he was the real, everyone calls themselves a master chef, but he was a certified master chef from France. I mean, he was the real deal.
12:03Shelley:Well, what contributed to its demise, La Colline's eventual demise? Yeah, well, I mean, they were open from what? I don't know what years. A good, like, 25 or 30 years. Yeah. So then it was just done. Yeah, but I mean, at that point, you know, I guess rents were going up. Right. Robert was getting older, and Paul Zucconi, his managing partner and general manager. I mean, at some point, you know, I think that, you know, I had left. I had left. When I left in—I left. Thank you so much. I left La Colleen in 1990—I left La Colleen in 1992 to go work for Roberto Dunn at Galileo, where I was with him.
12:48You did? That's where I was for seven years before I opened Equinox. That's why there's so much of an Italian spirit in this food, you know? And Roberto, I can't say enough great things about. He's an amazing chef and a great friend of mine. And he's a very talented guy. And so I left. When I left, you know, I went to Because. And you said, you know, you always thought Italian cooking was prominent. It wasn't. It wasn't.
13:12Shelley:Really? No. Hell no. In D.C.? Well, in Wilkes-Barre, Pennsylvania, where I grew up, it was. But in Manhattan, it was. Not at the rate now. Wow. But depends on what you call Italian cooking. Now, are you talking about southern Italian cooking with red sauce and spaghetti and pasta? Yes. Okay. Until Roberto came on the scene, yes. You know, Tony, you know, I'm trying to think of Tony's last name at the great Italian restaurant, and I remember it, in New York City. Oh, my God, this is delicious, by the way. I'm having the squash apple butternut soup with curry, and it is fantastic. Good. I'm glad you like it.
13:51The curry is killer. It's tasty. It's a good time to go for it. Yeah, yeah. So go ahead. But like Tony May. Tony May was the owner of, which I remember the name of the restaurant. Of course, they were doing some really creative things in New York, Italian-wise. Again, New York was run by, you had Andre Sultner. You had, you know, Danielle. You had Le Cirque. Right. You had, and I'm, you know, drawing on, there's plenty of other great French chefs at that time. and I'm 61, so I don't remember shit. But the point is, Roberto comes on the scene in Washington in 1985 and is doing foie gras ravioli and is doing squab over soft polenta with black truffles.
14:34And people are like, wow, what is this? Well, that's the cooking of the northern part of Italy. And so that's when I left La Colleen because I was like, I've been cooking at La Petito Bears, at La Rangerie. everything that you were trained pretty much at the CIA was a French foundation. I come out, I go to La Colline. I'm like, I need a break from French cooking. Right. So I go work for Roberto. And it's a completely mind-blowing, crazy experience for seven years. You know, we're hand-rolling pasta and people are, and you couldn't get in the door of Galilee. You couldn't get in the door.
15:08Shelley:No. I really like Roberto, by the way. No, it's amazing. Yeah. It's amazing. And so that's where, and I ended up going to Italy. Roberto sent me to Italy for a couple months to go train. And I ended up going back with him several times. And we were traveling a lot together. And, you know, Jean-Louis was his very good friend. I ended up going to work for Jean-Louis briefly. And Roberto said... Did you work in Paladin? No, at the Watergate. Yeah, in the Watergate. I mean, I was staging over there in both of them. So I thought I wanted to work for Jean-Louis. Roberto said, go ahead. Take a couple months and go work for Jean-Louis.
15:40And then you called me back. You enjoy that, right? He said, you called me back. I sure called me back. I said, no. He said, I told you you wouldn't want to work for him. You want to go start with Jean-Louis. You want to go see what he does, but you don't want to spend 12 hours a day in his kitchen. He's crazy. Right, right. Jean-Louis was a great chef, but he was crazy, and his food was unlike anyone else's I ever, you know. I mean, I learned so much. And being with Roberto, I learned so much because Jean-Louis was around a lot. Right. And we did a lot of dinners together. Right. So I would see his amazing terrines.
16:07I would get to see Jean-Louis, you know, sea urchin soup, you know, and his stuffed sweet breads with cauliflower. I mean, crazy shit. We never saw, you know, duck tongues wrapped in aluminum foil braids, you know. It was cool shit. Right. A lot of organ meat. So anyway, Jean-Louis was an inspiration to so many cooks in the 90s. He was a pioneer, you know. It turned everybody on to what it's like to go out on a boat and try to pick up some fish and harvest scallops out of Maine and work with Ron Brown up at Brown Trading, Rod Mitchell from Brown Trading. And he really was, you know, and Roberto was drawing a lot of that stuff into Galileo.
16:48You know, Jean-Louis got live eels, Roberto got live eels. Wow. You take these$800 tubs of live anguille and drop them in flour and fry them and serve them on a big plate with salad and lemon and olive oil. People are like, wow, this is crazy. Yeah. To die for. I love you. To die for. That's such a fun era. So we're in the 90s? Yeah. So this is 92, 3, 4. And in 1993, I'm promoted to sous chef after like a little over a year, year and a half. At Galileo. Okay. So I'm all feeling all cocky and I'm all badass. I finally got to be a sous chef. And in walks Ellen Kassoff into my kitchen working for Cisco Foods.
17:32He says, hey, you know, I'm the sales chef from Cisco. And I'd like to meet with the sous chef. And I was, you know, oh, that's me. And sure, let's talk. And I was just responsible for doing all the ordering. So one thing led to another. And I was being boyish and hitting on her. And she's like, listen, I don't date customers. And I said, well, quite frankly, we would never buy anything from Cisco at a restaurant like this anyway. I said, if you sold foie gras and truffles and, you know, moulard duck and pigeons and stuff, we'd buy a lot. Anyway, we got through it all. We started dating and we got engaged.
18:11And I told her, you know, listen, I wish you'd go work for D 'Artagnan at the time because we could really buy a lot of product. and, you know, it could be Saint-Denis Jean-Louis and Michelle, and she did. And she merged, ultimately merged the D 'Artagnan distributorship with International Gourmet when she became the sales manager of International Gourmet Foods. Oh, wow. And so that was all going on, and we get engaged, and, you know, while we're engaged, we start having that pillow talk, like, man, we've got to open a restaurant together. Wow, we both bring so much to the table. Right. And you do.
18:45So we did, and we started talking about who we could talk to, about what customers we could talk to, about trying to find money and how we would do it and what it would be called. And then the rest, it all came together with the help of family and friends. And it was 1990, we signed the lease in December of 1998. 1998, we discover on late February that Ellen is expecting.
19:22Shelley:Post signing the lease. Yeah, yeah. So we sign the lease and we go out and celebrate the Inn at Washington with a bunch of our family and at times investors. And next thing you know, Harrison is in the oven. And now we're like, oh, my God, we've got a restaurant being opened. And we opened in May of 1999, and Ellen was, you know, four or five months pregnant. And Harrison was born September 24th of 99. We opened up in May 20-something of 1999. And, I mean, we had a tremendous blast from the get-go. That's amazing. Well, so was Roberto nice to you when you said you were leaving to start your own restaurant?
20:02He helped me, 100%. I went to him with the idea, the name. And why the name? Because we wanted to open something that was indicative of the seasons in the word. Oh, okay. So we looked at the Farmer's Almanac. We were looking at everything from lunar solstices and everything else. And Ellen looked down and saw the word equinox and what it meant. And she said, this is the name. And that's where it stuck.
20:30Shelley:And it was always at that spot on Connecticut? Yeah. We looked at like 20 locations in in 19. Like as we were looking in 1998, we hadn't had a lease, but we had a business plan and we had investors had kicked off the investment package for us to get us going. But we still needed more money. And Roberto said, listen, you can you can talk to some of our customers. You can talk to the people that you've been cooking for for eight years and talk to them. They'll help you. Roberto was instrumental in helping me open Equinox. That's so lovely. And so we moved forward and we looked at Georgetown. We were looking at, believe it or not, we were looking at what at the time was the Verizon Center.
21:07We looked at all around the Verizon Center.
21:10Shelley:I remember because I used to go to Rupert's. Yeah, exactly. And it was only open for lunch on Thursdays, which we got my famous once a week Thursday lunch with my dear friend. But there was nothing there. Yeah, yeah. No, there was nothing downtown there. It was kind of crazy. My family was like, you're not open over here. But anyway, it all happened for a reason. We found 818 Connecticut. It turned out to be a great relationship with our landlord, Calvin K. Fritz. And we had a tremendous run together. Oh, I like Calvin. But talk a little bit about the chef mafia here. Because it seems like you guys are really tight.
21:44Shelley:And when you said you were celebrating at the Inn of Little Washington, those guys seemed terrific. Roberto's terrific. Jean Paladin is terrific. Well, you had so many people in these days. I mean, Kaz, who's been with us and still doing well. Oh, yeah. You know, Robert Wiedemeyer, Jeff Lubin, Bob Kincaid. I mean, back in the day, you know, and Francesco Ricci. I mean, those were the names, you know. And basically, you know, I mean, we all were tight because we were doing these benefit dinners once a month for Share Our Strength. We were doing the zoo benefits. We were doing stuff for the Capitol Children's Museum.
22:24We were doing so much stuff together. And everybody was like the same 15 chefs.
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22:30Shelley:Exactly. Same 20 chefs. And D.C. was really growing and starting to become a food city. So talk about the vibe in D.C., I guess, then for restaurants and now. I mean, don't you think now is extraordinary? Yeah. Did you see it coming? Well, I mean, I don't think when you're in it, I mean, do you see it coming? I think when you're living in it, you see the evolution of it. I think. Well, that's what I mean. The evolution. I mean, yeah, for sure. I mean, it's been great to watch Washington change in areas of D.C. on 14th Street. You never would have gone ever. I mean, it's unbelievable. It's on 14th Street.
23:03My son lives in that area. I mean, it's popping. Like in the 90s, I mean, when we were doing all these benefits together and we were cooking together, we became friends. And all the sous chefs underneath of the chefs became friends. and we were, you know, we were hanging out together. We would go over to their restaurants after service and we'd all go out and smoke and drink and, I mean, we would do dinners together. Roberto, we had this kitchen table at Galileo that we would all, we cooked, served a table. We had our own bank account and once every couple months we'd go out to Kincaid, Jean-Louis, Vidalia.
23:44At midnight, we'd start dine until 5 o 'clock in the morning.
23:47Shelley:You guys were on the same time frame. Yeah, it was wild. The same schedule, yeah. It was wild. And so, you know, I mean, yeah. And then what happens, you know, all the sous chefs under them starts expanding. Peter Smith goes out from Vidalia to open PS7. I went off to open Equinox. Right. Cesare went on to eventually open Tosca with, you know, and, you know, that was in the early 2000s. Right. And things were moving. And you had Tracy O 'Grady going and doing her thing. And everybody was just like these offspring, you know, all going and starting to expand the city. And, you know, we, D.C., we had a really tight-knit chef community.
24:30Roberto really was a big piece of that. He brought a lot of people together. He started this chef's club for nothing years ago, which was hilarious. And we'd all get together and eat and drink and talk about buying pigs together and sharing food and all that stuff. And so we do have a good restaurant community in the city. Now, as many chefs have moved on, and, you know, Bob, God bless him, too, passed away. Right. And Roberto's not getting any younger. I mean, we're all, the next generation is taking, it's time to start passing the torch. We're too young. Yeah, well, you know, man, look, when you do this for 40 years, you know, you can't do this into your 70s.
25:07Yeah. I'm not going to. I love what I do, and I'll continue to love what I do. But anyway, I'm not going anywhere anytime soon. But, yeah, I mean, and watching the evolution of Washington has been exciting. I think there's something important to say because I believe this to be true. I believe that today's young chef has a different vision of what a restaurant run should be. When I grew up in this business, the chefs I worked for kept their restaurants open for decades. Right. Decades. Some of them, La Petito Bears is going on 45 years. A restaurant is a place that has a long legacy of people.
25:53Staff stay for 10, 15, 20 years.
25:56Shelley:And families continue their traditions. Right. My busboys have now servers, have met their wives here 20 years ago, have had children. They're daughter hosts for us now. Oh, that's awesome. Without sustainability, that's sustainability. Right. And so, I mean, we've always prided ourselves on making a restaurant a place for, I mean, our customer base, granted, many of them have passed away. But their children, I mean, their son and daughter now who've been eating with us are now getting married. They've got children. I mean, you see them generational. I mean, you're a restaurant. You know, to be something to be parts of generational changes in families and in businesses.
26:34And that's what Equinox has been for 27 years.
26:36Shelley:So what do the young people think a restaurant should be? You know, I think that a lot of young chefs want to do a restaurant that has a 5 to 7 to 8 or 10 year run. And that's their vision. Because they think, not what they think, because I don't know what they think. But that's what their desire is. They want to do their vision for 8, 10 years. Like have it be a flash. And then they want to do something. And then it will get old. And then they'll do something else. They'll do another project, right? Right. But that's not the... That's what they say now, though. Yeah, but that's not the cloth from which I was trained and cut.
27:11Shelley:Right, right. Because, I mean, a lot of great reviewed restaurants that have done very, very well, that get a lot of exposure and national, I should say local and national acclaim, sometimes are rolling up in five to seven years. And they all say, God, that was such a great run. Easily, yeah. Such a great run. That's not a run. That's bullshit, man. That's a five, six-year run. How many employees did you keep for five or six years? Right. That you didn't even build the soul of a restaurant. A soul of a restaurant takes at least 10 years, if not 15, 20 years to build. Oh, really? You think it takes that long?
27:49Yes. I'm saying that a restaurant that can be a tried and true and dependent restaurant that you know you can go to, whether it's New Year's Eve, Easter, any given Wednesday night, the staff that's going to be a familiar staff, you're going to feel at home, you're going to feel well taken care of, you're going to get quality food, quality service, quality beverage, and you can count on this and you know that you can safely walk out of there on New Year's Eve and say, you know what, I'm making a reservation for my son or daughter-in-law's graduation in May because I know they'll be here. Right, right.
28:24Okay? So I'm not taking away anything from all the great young chefs in this city, but there's some young chefs that are doing fantastic cooking in this city right now. Amazing. And many of them will go on to run their restaurants for many, many years. But I think that it is speckled with sort of small bursts of fire and flame that, unfortunately, you know, it's always fun to enjoy for a brief period of time. But it's just not that kind of...
28:49Shelley:Speckled is a great word. You know? Well, tell me, what is your go-to, like, what's your favorite thing to make? Oh, whatever it's in season. Soft-shelled crabs. Now this time of year. I love your soft-shelled crabs. Venison, pasta. I love venison. I love cooking vegetables of all kinds, depending on what time of year. I love cooking corn. What's my favorite? I mean, soft shell crabs and pasta are my favorite things to eat. And great seafood, sea scallops. And a jumbo lump crab meat. I mean, God, who doesn't love jumbo lump crab meat? Prawns, squid. I love all the seafood. I love everything from the sea.
29:23I love seafood. And I love great meat and fish. I mean, I love vegetables. I mean, you know, I love everything. Another thing, there's nothing I wouldn't eat.
29:30Shelley:So you start Equinox on Connecticut Ave. Were you scared to death? I mean, people say it's like the scariest. Like, I have had my own company, and I was scared. But a restaurant apparently is scarier. I don't know. Is that true? Yeah, I mean, I probably was scared in the beginning. I don't really remember. I mean, yeah, we were nervous. We were hoping for more people. And then we started getting the things. Wheels started moving. Things started going well. And we had an outrageous run. It was a sick run. With the first 10 years, I mean, it's still having a great run, but this first 10 years, I mean, we were plowing.
30:05You know, every month there was another magazine article and we were building this amazing staff. Right. Became our core staff for the first 10-year piece of the game before the fire. And we had a fire.
30:17Shelley:Oh, you know what? I didn't know. I must have known that you had the fire, but I used to work a lot with the chamber. And that's how I got turned on to Equinox because everybody at the chamber was right there, which was amazing. Yeah, yeah, we have a great chamber business. I was thinking about Clint today. Yeah, Clint was a great guy and a great supporter. But, I mean, you know, like, we were really fortunate. We were really fortunate to have the staff that we had on board with us. Ellen really had a dynamic front-of-the-house staff. We had an amazing Tony Chittum, Brendan Cox, Barry Caslow, Lisa Scruggs was on board.
30:58and all of them have gone on to do great, great things in our industry.
31:01Shelley:Oh, that's great. And Travis Gray, who was with us for 14 years, Randy Cole. Randy was great. Randy's amazing. We had so many amazing, amazing people that we were blessed. Heather Ackerman, who went on to marry Tony Chittum, and Heather's gone to move up north, and she was a great pastry chef. And just, you know, we were a big, insane family. And we had incredible, we were so tight. And then why is it, well, I mean, you still seem like you have a great family. So why do you refer to it so much in the past? No, because that was the first 10 years. Oh, yeah, yeah. Then we had a fire and some people left and some people stayed.
31:44And then Tom Wellings came on with us after he worked for Fabio for many years. And we had a great, you know, kind of brought a different dynamic to our pastry department, which is great. And, you know, after the fire, we still had great employees. And they were our next, I don't know, you know, you have this next five, six, seven, eight-year blocks with people, 10-year blocks. A lot of these guys have been with us, you know, here have been 14, 15 years. So, you know, that was like after the first 10-year run. And so, yeah, and, you know, we, you know, and through and through all that, you know, after the fire, you know, you have years of 12 and 13 and 14, you know, we had 9-11.
32:32Well, that was early on. But then, you know, you have, you know, all the anthrax stuff that happened. Right. You have all this crazy shit that went down. And you've got, you know, as we're getting into 20, you know, we opened Muse and we opened the watershed in 2010. Then we were there for a couple of years. We opened Muse at the Corcoran at the same time. That had a four-year run. It was bought by GW University, the building. And, you know, there was no deal to be done. They were just not doing it anymore. And we kind of move on. Salamander Resort and Hotels.
33:02Shelley:I was there at your Salamander place. It was good. Yeah, we opened, I mean, I was involved with Sheila since 2004. We opened the resort in 2013. And I was there for, I stayed on until about 2016 at that time. Then in comes the Museum of the Bible. And we go to the Middle East. We train. We go back another time during that period and get turned on to all this amazing food and cooking with some Palestinians and Israelis. It was ridiculous. Was that the first time that you'd been to the Middle East? Yeah, 2016. And what was so ridiculous about it? It was just life-changing. It was life-changing. Being in the Middle East.
33:46Yeah, and eating the food with the people of the Middle East. It's a completely mind-opening experience.
33:53Shelley:What sort of stands out food-wise from that trip? But being with someone cooking hummus down in Akka on the Mediterranean with a husband and wife, he was Palestinian. She's Palestinian. He's Israeli. Wow. Really seeing how they do hummus with brown butter and lamb on the top or with, like, you know, za 'atar fried cauliflower on it. And just, I mean, and eating fish wrapped in, you know, local fig leaves right outside the back door over open fire. Wow. All the fresh roasted vegetables, the markets, and the spices getting turned on, the spices with food. Yeah, it's amazing. So, yeah, that was really cool, and it really impacted my style a lot.
34:49And I kind of carry a little bit of that Mediterranean with me today. I mean, I don't practice as much of that as I used to. I'd like to. I should go back and start doing more Aleppo vinaigrettes and those kind of things. My guys still, these guys were with me during the whole period, so they remember it. They're like, hey, you want me to do that dish? I was like, yeah, I don't remember what it was that I got. And so, you know, and then, you know, we come into COVID, you know, and now we're flying high. It's 2019. We had a great 2019. We're going into COVID pretty strong. And then COVID happens, which, you know, and be careful what I say, but I thought it was wild.
35:27I thought it was exciting. As scary as it is, I thought it was wild what was going on. and finding yourself really having to figure it out. Right. Finding your way through like, okay, well, we can't bring people in the restaurant. We're going to have to take it outside. Everyone was doing to-go and everything. Right. And we were doing off-premise catering and wearing masks out in Potomac, and we were doing a whole lot of carryout and pickups and everything. And I was going back and forth to Delaware where we had a condo. And, you know, I mean, it was navigating our way through it. And we were working with our landlords and our vendors, and everybody was working together.
36:07Everyone was like, hey, we'll get through this. And we did get through it.
36:10Shelley:It was scary as hell, though, don't you think? It was scary. I mean, it was just like just to see what, you know, to see what Asia looked like when there weren't cars on the road for like 30 or 40 days. Right. The clear, the smock, the clear sky. Just stuff like that. But I thought it was amazing. I mean, I don't mean amazing. I just think it was stunning. It was stunning. Yeah, and it was scary, but a big challenge that we all got through. And I hope that never happens again. Right. And so, you know, then, you know, you come towards the end of your lease, you know, and you're like, well, hey, we came out of it.
36:49Let's keep on going. It's 2022. We're moving. Business is coming back a little bit. You know, it's good. Business, dinner, business. Lunch, we didn't open for lunch for many years.
36:57Shelley:I know. And so now we are, and we're here. You know, our new landlord, Tishman Spire, we love them. They've been very good to us, and we love our new location. It's a whole different vibe in here. No tablecloth, lots of beers on tap, and it's fun. And it's bigger, isn't it? Yeah, definitely. And we've got more outdoor seating. Right, I like the outdoor with the grass underneath. And, you know, we're doing our food that we've always done, and we're always trying to do new things. But, you know, you have a foundation in your cooking that you stick to. They know that works. And you always try to push the boundaries on it and try to do seasonal or annual tweaks on your menu.
37:33But there's things that you keep on your menu from season to season that work. And so we're doing well, man. Ellen and I are doing well. We opened up. So in the middle of COVID, we walk in the beaches of coastal Delaware and Lewis. And we start thinking we should look for a little restaurant deal out there for the future. Yeah. And there it is. And Federal gets opened and right smack in the middle of COVID. We sign a lease in the fall of 2020. We open in 2021. And Federal has built a nice reputation there and establishing itself a name. The menu looks awesome. It is a great menu. It's good. And a great staff.
38:14Cute little place, 40 seats, 38 seats on the beach. and so you know all in all where we are life's good man you know
38:27Shelley:what's the secret to working with your spouse
38:33be careful what you do
38:37no I mean you know Ellen I've always had a I don't know if I was I have always had a a good working relationship because I know how valuable and how much, how knowledgeable she is in what she does. And whether it's marketing or front of house or all of the things that she does, like my son says, they ask Harrison, so what does your dad do? He's the chef. And what does your mom do? She does everything else. It's true. I mean, Ellen, there's no one that works harder. I've never seen a person work harder than Ellen Casshoff.
39:09Shelley:Wow. I'm so glad we got that on tape. Yeah. You're listening to Lunch with Shelly. So Thanksgiving is coming up. Mm-hmm. So what are your tips for everybody cooking? And how do you do your turkey? You know what? We haven't roasted a turkey forever. Is that what you would do, roast a turkey? We sous vide them. What does that mean? So we put the breasts. We don't cook a whole bird. We take the breasts off the bone. Right. And we put them in bags with herbs and olive oil and spices, and we cryovacum, and we poach them. Under pressure. And we, you know, we cook them in a sous vide bath for a cut, like, some of the legs overnight, breasts for like four hours.
39:55So it's all poached. And then Thanksgiving, we take it out and we sear it and caramelize it and baste it in butter and herbs. So we do a different technique than roasting a traditional roast turkey. Sounds pretty amazing. It is amazing. And we love to do our oyster roast, which is great. That's cool. So, you know, I think some suggestions for Thanksgiving, like fire up your grill, put some oysters on the grill, put a little thing of butter out there, let the steam open, have some nice warm steamed oysters, grilled oysters, you know, turkey, roasting a turkey, you know. I mean, there's a lot of techniques for it, but, you know, some good fresh herbs and, you know, the stuffing.
40:36A lot of people don't do stuffing in the turkey anymore because they say it's a little, you can get sick and shit. Yeah. So do your turkey on the side, you know. Maybe do some chestnuts in your stuffing and sauces like the way we do.
40:47Shelley:And what about dessert? Are you like a pie, an apple pie guy? I like pie. I like pie. Yeah. I'm not a huge dessert person in total. I mean, yeah, but I love like something definitely with pecans and caramel and some ice cream. And I like my big pumpkin pie guy. Yeah. I'm not a big pecan person. And I do like the apple pie. Yeah, I love apple pie. We're doing apple pie for Thanksgiving. So you guys are open for Thanksgiving? Yeah. Equinox on 19th is open for whoever doesn't have a resi. We're sold out a long time ago. Oh, forget that. Thank God. Are you really sold out? Yeah, big time. Big time.
41:32Thank God. Because, yeah.
41:35Shelley:What's your day like on Thanksgiving? Oh, it's nuts. I mean, what time do you get here and start cooking? What time do you serve Thanksgiving? We started, we're doing, starting at 2.30 to 7.30. Yeah. We get in by 9 a.m. Yeah. But everything's pretty much done the day. We start prepping days ahead. Yeah. And then we get in and it takes us until about 1.30 to get ready. It takes four and a half solid hours, maybe five hours to get finished in the mise en place. Two o 'clock, we're ready. Kind of do a quick line up with the staff around 1.30. Go over the menu. The oysters are all, you know, the grill's turned on.
42:10The oysters are in the coolers. We do a complimentary oyster roast out front. Everybody hits oysters on the way in. That's so awesome. Our vegans get, we do oyster mushrooms on the grill. Oh, that's awesome. And the place is packed, and we've got football on. Right. It's wonderful.
42:26Shelley:Do you watch the parade? Do you have a TV in the kitchen? No. I really love the parade, and then I love football. We can, by the way, finish the interview without you and I talking about the dead. So the last time I saw you Hopefully it wasn't the last time I saw you But it might have Anyway Nelson was here We were at a book party And you were going on and on about the sphere And it was like It put us over the edge And we ended up going to the sphere That was in May And we only saw one show Yeah, it was amazing And I thought it was the last show So I didn't want to see the last show Because I thought it would be too intense So we saw the second to last show of a three-night run.
43:10Shelley:And right before we got to Vegas, they're like, no, no, no, we're playing this summer or whatever. But anyway, do you have a favorite Dead song? Let's see. Well, I have a favorite arrangement that composes, that consists of a lot of different songs. Like what? I love a Scarlet Fire. Right. You know? That's fair. I love a China Rider. Yeah, I knew you were going to say that. I mean, and who doesn't love the Help Slip Franklin's? I mean. You know, that's definitely third for me, but it's really good. Love them all. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Nothing like a wicked, wicked shakedown. Yeah. I agree. There are, you know, there are, I mean, I still have my tapes, 100 tapes or at least.
43:56Shelley:I still remember seeing St. Stephen and Hartford, like flipping out in the 80s when it was way newer. Yeah. So what do you think of the Sphere as a venue? Oh, it's spectacular. Yeah. Yeah, I love it. It's pretty amazing. Yeah, it was mind-blowing. Who would be your chef rock stars right now? I mean, we've talked about chefs that aren't with us, but who are your chef rock stars now that you'd love to play with? Like chefs? Yeah. Rock star chef. I mean, you know, I mean, they're alive still. Yeah. Well, I mean, Danielle Ballou is a total rock star. I was hoping you were going to say that. Danielle, you know, I started with Danielle a couple of times.
44:37Danielle, I think a lot of Danielle and what he does is amazing. All the great restaurants he's continuing to open. It's amazing. He's incredible. Sean Shore's Fong Richten. I mean, spectacular cooking. God, I mean, where else do you go? I kind of get stunk on them because I was always big and special.
44:57Shelley:I think I'm like the veggie guy who did Madison 11 or 11. Oh, you mean Daniel Hum. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, I don't know Daniel. He was there once. I really was bummed when he went vegan. Yeah. Apropos. I never went to the vegan spot. I mean, I mean. 11 Madison Avenue. You haven't been there? No. That's a pretty incredible restaurant. I've been in the restaurant. I've gone in a couple times. We didn't eat there. We couldn't get a reservation. That's the whole point. Yeah. I mean, you know, I mean, everything Danny Meyer does in New York is incredible. What's he doing? Well, I mean, you know, he's got, I can't remember all those great restaurants, but But, I mean, you know, Grand Rester Tavern has been such a pillar of great American cooking.
45:38Yeah. I mean, Charlie Palmer, he spends a lot of his time out in California now. He's based out of Lake Hillsburg.
45:44Shelley:I didn't know he was still alive. Yeah. Charlie does, you know. But those are the kind of chefs of our time that I kind of looked up to, you know. Who would you, like, off the top of your head, if you could cook with anybody tomorrow, would it be Danielle? Well, I would probably say, you know, I would want to go. I mean, I mean, I'm going to reach. I mean, if I was going to try to do something exotic, you know, I might want to cook with Alain Ducasse or we know one of the or I would maybe want to cook with Alain Passard, who's the great vegetarian Michelin restaurant in Paris.
46:24Shelley:what is the best veggie meal do you think besides cauliflower steak or tofu i mean i don't i'm not a veggie but i do love tofu and i do like cauliflower steak so yeah like well i don't know like what's so great about vegetable stuff you can do but i mean i think it's a lot of it's in this i think it's a lot of in the sauces that you make if you make a great curry or you make a great teriyaki But I think, you know, like, of course, you know, that whole fad, whatever, the whole crave of like, you know, what is it, like buffalo cauliflower and all that stuff. I mean, there's a lot of unhealthy vegetarian cooking, you know.
47:01Oh, really?
47:02Shelley:Yeah. It's all fried. I love buffalo. I don't know what buffalo cauliflower is. Well, it's good stuff, but a lot of the stuff is battered and fried and, you know. Right. You might as well be having a burger. Yeah, I know. By the way, what did you want to tell them about the soup? The soup I've had in years. Awesome. Good. Thank you. So if you were going to eat anywhere in the world for lunch, where would it be and what would you be having? Hmm. Well, there'd be a couple of places that could come to mind. I mean, certainly eating bluff oysters in Christchurch, New Zealand would be one of them. Wow.
47:38Yeah.
47:38Shelley:Okay. Yeah. That's a good one. Yeah. Amazing oysters on the street in Christchurch, New Zealand. We have great friends there. Or I would say, or I would think that certainly a meal in Tel Aviv on the ocean, and I'm going blank on the, there's like a fortress there in Tel Aviv. But in Tel Aviv, probably eating grilled sardines in fig leaf with like preserved lemons and like simple roasted beets with olive oil. That would be a killer meal. And then for something, you know, I mean, the other one would certainly have to be in Italy and it'd have to be somewhere in Piedmont, like somewhere down off the Po River in Piedmont, having the simplest tagliolini with truffle butter and white truffles.
48:58probably this time of year, like tomorrow, would be amazing in November. Right. You know, and drinking great Barolo, you know. So, yeah, I mean, or, you know. Or on my deck in Rehoboth Beach, you know, grilling some good local oysters and some nice scallops and shit, you know.
49:18Shelley:I think there's an oyster scallop theme going on, but that all sounds amazing. Yeah. Todd, thank you so much for being on the program. you guys haven't seen, but it is impossible to have chefs stay for lunch. He's been going back and forth because they're the busiest people in the world. So, Todd, thank you so much for your time. Everybody, thank you so much for listening. Check out this episode, of course, or other episodes at www.lunchwithshelly.com or wherever you get your favorite podcasts. And as always, and in the meantime, peace, love, and lunch. We'll see you next time.
From the publisher
Hello and welcome to the latest episode of Lunch with Shelley with today’s special guest Todd Gray. Todd is the Co-Owner and Founder of Equinox on 19th – a fantastic restaurant and a true DC institution.
Todd is a highly accomplished chef with a rich culinary background, so tuck in with us during lunch at Equinox while we talk about how Todd got into the business, how he met his wife, LOTS of food talk, a little bit of Grateful Dead chatter, some tips for Thanksgiving cooking, and much much more! .
Check us out at www.lunchwithshelley.com or wherever you get your favorite podcast, and as always and in the meantime. Peace, Love and Lunch!
