CEO Lessons: Bulls**t Mission Statements, Firing People & Saying ‘NO'

10 Oct 2023 · 52 min

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Podcast Episode Notes: My First Million - CEO Lessons: Bulls**t Mission Statements, Firing People & Saying ‘NO’ (Episode 505)

Episode Overview In this episode, hosts Shaan Puri and Sam Parr discuss the major lessons learned from their experiences as first-time CEOs. They share insights gained over 15 years of running businesses, detailing the mistakes they made and the shortcuts they now employ. This candid conversation provides unconventional advice that diverges from traditional business teachings.

Key Themes and Topics

  1. Mission Statements
  2. Old Beliefs vs. New Realities:
  3. Initially, both hosts believed that mission statements were essential for guiding companies.
  4. They now recognize the importance of creating relatable and personal mission statements rather than lofty, unrealistic ones.
  5. Practical Mission Statements:
  6. Sam emphasizes a mission focused on personal satisfaction: "I want to work on cool shit with cool people and have a dope life."
  1. Hiring Practices
  2. Surrounding Yourself with the Right People:
  3. The significance of hiring individuals who share similar values and ambitions.
  4. Hiring decisions should reflect a desire to work with competent people who elevate the workplace environment.
  5. Recruitment Strategies:
  6. Transitioning from self-recruitment to using professional recruiters for efficiency.
  7. Importance of offering competitive salaries to attract top talent.
  1. Goal Setting
  2. Ambitious vs. Achievable Goals:
  3. Shaan admits previous tendencies to set overly ambitious goals, which often led to failure and disappointment.
  4. Current strategy focuses on setting achievable goals that inspire momentum and success.
  5. Creating a Goal Framework:
  6. Introduction of a "kickoff doc" to define what winning looks like and establish both floor and aspirational goals.
  1. Firing Employees
  2. Best Practices for Firing:
  3. The importance of addressing performance issues early and directly to avoid blindsiding employees during termination.
  4. Discussion of the emotional weight of firing and the necessity for clear communication.
  5. Coping with Difficult Conversations:
  6. Shaan shares his struggles with delivering bad news and the need for clarity in communication when managing staff.
  1. Focus and Decision Making
  2. Saying ‘No’:
  3. The hosts discuss the importance of focus and the challenges of saying no to opportunities that distract from core objectives.
  4. Shaan admits to missing opportunities due to an excessive focus on singular projects.
  5. Creating a ‘Big Bets’ Document:
  6. Each year, they write down key bets for the businesses and clearly outline what they will say no to, enhancing strategic focus.
  1. Pre- vs. Post-Product Market Fit
  2. Understanding Business Stages:
  3. The distinction between actions taken in early startup stages (pre-product market fit) versus established businesses (post-product market fit).
  4. Emphasis on the need for adaptability and hands-on involvement in the early stages, contrasting later management styles.

Key Takeaways

  • Mission Statement Evolution: A simple, personal mission can drive motivation better than grandiose statements.
  • Hiring for Culture Fit: Surrounding oneself with motivated individuals is vital for business success.
  • Realistic Goal Setting: Achievable goals can foster a positive atmosphere and lead to greater overall success.
  • Effective Firing Techniques: Transparent communication is essential in managing staff and executing firings.
  • Prioritization and Focus: Clarity in decision-making, prioritization, and the understanding of business stages can streamline operations and enhance productivity.

Conclusion This episode of *My First Million* offers a wealth of practical advice for aspiring and current entrepreneurs, emphasizing the importance of personal satisfaction in business, effective hiring practices, and the necessity of clear communication. Shaan and Sam's reflections on their mistakes and learning experiences provide valuable insights that challenge conventional wisdom in entrepreneurship.

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0:00When Moyes was selling native deodorant, he didn't own the trademark. and it was an issue he's got the deal done and they're like wait you don't have the trademark he's like yeah but there's no other native deodorant they're like okay junior what are you talking about that's not how this works um you know i feel like i can rule the world i know i could be what i want to i put my all in it like no days all right today we thought it'd be fun to do a episode all about how we actually run our companies so we've been running companies for like, I don't know, 10, 15 years now. And like many people out there at the beginning, we did a bunch of dumb stuff.

0:36And so we're going to admit and confess to some of the dumbest things that we did running our companies. And then talk about what we do now. That's actually like, we found that works. So the stuff that didn't work and the stuff that works, and this is around, you know, everything from like, you know, mission statements, how we used to think that these were like super important and how we treated them versus what we do now or branding and naming our companies or goal setting. These are kind of like the shortcuts that we use now. So what actually that we found works through the painful process of making embarrassing mistakes.

1:09That's what I think we're going to do today. Yeah, we got about like five or eight categories of like on hiring, on creating comp plans, on having boundaries with staff. These actually sound like boring when we're like just when I'm just reading that off. But I promise you, it's actually we have like interesting stories behind each one and stuff we wish we would have done earlier that I deeply regret that I didn't do now or that I didn't do then. But yeah, we'll go through all the stuff that we actually use on a day-to-day basis to run our companies. The touchy-feely stuff that's actually really important.

1:39So I thought it'd be fun for us to share shit we do when we run our companies. What are our almost like management hacks or shortcuts or like the methods that we use, which as a disclaimer, probably not the best. Probably not what they teach you at Harvard Business School or what, you know, like very polished, you know, seasoned executives would do. I remember when I started one of my early companies, it was my internal mission statement was to hire 10 ,000 people. And I then I hired like two people and I was like, shit, does anybody got an eraser? Yeah, yeah. Like, how do I make this 10? It was horrible.

2:20And then it was like, and then the mission statement for the employees is like, look, like we're going to change whatever. Like right now, the word is democratized. We're democratizing the financial markets or whatever. It's like, whatever that equivalent is, is what I said. Like, we're going to change the world one newsletter at a time. And so my mission statement. Did you really say that? No, but it was probably like as lame. I don't know. That would be the worst if I said that. But no, they're pretty lame. Now they're way more. So here's what I tell people. I go, here's the mission for the business.

2:52This first one, it's very selfish, which is I want to work on cool shit with cool people and have a dope life. That's just what I tell people. I go, so it's very selfish. I just want to work with cool people on interesting things. And that's more so the mission than anything. And then it's like, and if we are able to do this, this and this, that will also be cool versus a far more grand thing. My mission statements aren't nearly as grand. Are yours? I am in the exact same bucket. So definitely used to be like changing the status quo, you know, on my Steve Jobs shit. And, you know, because that's who you looked up to, looked up to Steve Jobs, looked up to Elon Musk.

3:27And he's like, you know, create an interplanetary species. It's like, oh, OK, cool. What's my version of that? Like, you know, I'm not trying to get to Mars and like make humankind, you know, interplanetary. But I was trying to do that. Do you remember that story of Steve Jobs? where he's trying to recruit the guy from Pepsi and Steve Jobs is like, you're just going to sell sugar water for the rest of your life? Right. Fuck you, Steve. What a dick, right? Now we're like, Logan Paul, genius, puts sugar in water, sells it to children. Dude, the audacity. So I'm like you now. Here's the notes I wrote on my answer for this, on my little cheat sheet I wrote.

4:09I don't kid myself anymore. I'm honest. I'm building a lifestyle business for me and my team. Almost exactly what you just said, which is I want to do dope shit with cool people, right? So do cool shit with cool people and in a way that leads to an awesome lifestyle. Meaning I'm not trying to kill myself currently running the business. And I'm trying to have a financial outcome for me and my team that lets us all elevate our lifestyles, right? Like that's, that is the, this business is a vehicle to have an enjoyable lifestyle, which is really funny. Because in Silicon Valley, lifestyle business is the it's the equivalent of saying no offense to start a sentence.

4:48It's like lifestyle business is how VCs pat you on the head and say, that's cute. Oh, oh, what million of revenue? That's cute. You know, you know, we don't invest in lifestyle businesses, right? If this is just a lifestyle business for you, we're not interested, right? You're you're a low ambition, which in Silicon Valley is where I live, is low status. However, for me, I feel like I broke out of the matrix and I was like, wait, what the fuck are all these people talking about? The point of life is to have a great lifestyle. I don't want to do something else with my life. I'm not trying to have a bad life.

5:19I'm trying to have a good life. For me, for my family, for my team, we all want the good life. Okay, let's do a project that's fun and interesting with fun and interesting people in a way that we all get rich. Is that so much to ask? That is now the blanket mission statement on all of my projects. And I don't know if that's inspiring to the troops, But it's inspiring to me. And I hope that it just attracts people who are down with that and not looking for the rah-rah, you know, save the world. I actually think that is a bit inspiring, to be honest, to like the right type of person. And at least when I talk to people, it seems like, yeah, that sounds wonderful.

5:58Another thing that changed with me is when I start new companies, I pick business models where I can afford to pay hires a lot of money. because I remember when I was starting a lot of my stuff, I'm like, man, I don't have enough money to pay a high quality person a lot of money. It's a trap. Yeah, I'm like, I wish I could afford to pay someone three or$200 ,000 a year so I could recruit a certain type of person so I could spend time with them. And so that has changed as well. Well, like what's an example? So like the hustle, traditionally, media companies, when they start, obviously they don't make a ton of revenue, you're putting out free content.

6:36and writers are typically not that well paid. However, like, so would that count as it was more in the, towards the bad end of the spectrum or was it on the good end? Because you did hire people like Steph Smith and Trung. I hired great people eventually. Yeah. I hired great people eventually, but like, for example, a good media, like you could run your media company a few different ways. You could, particularly for sellers, for ad sales people, you could pay them 60 grand a year and say they have a quota of only$400 ,000 and they make$105 ,000 when they hit their on-target earnings. Or you could go hire someone who you're going to pay$200 ,000 base plus a higher commission.

7:16And their expectation is that they're going to sell $2 ,000 or$3 ,000 ,000 worth of stuff. And typically, those people who are more competent and capable, I find are more enjoyable to be around. And so things like that, where I'm building a business that hires less people who I pay more, because that setup I think is more enjoyable. So I had the same problem. because my first business was in the restaurant industry. And the restaurant industry is basically like, you know, what is the worst type of business you could select? I think it's probably, I don't know if it's the worst, but it's down there.

7:45It's hanging out with the worst, whatever it is, right? So I'm just saying business model, right? Business model is almost all of them fail. Even when they succeed, they have like 10 % net margins typically. And you got to open up like multiple locations to ever make it big or have enough cashflow from a business like that to hire high quality, like, you know, highly seasoned people. And so I remember meeting the guy who ran Chipotle. I think he was a CEO or CEO of Chipotle at the time. And we were trying to create the Chipotle of sushi. And I was like, all right, you know, like give me your advice.

8:16I didn't even know what question to ask, but I was like, give me your advice. And he's like, well, think of it this way. Your entire product is in the hands of somebody who makes$9 an hour and doesn't want to be there. And everything you're telling me right now about how great the user experience is going to be. That's true for restaurant one. It might be true for restaurants two and three. By restaurant four, it's no longer true because you're not there anymore to do all those amazing things and give that amazing user experience. He goes, the trick in this business is whoever can figure out how to get minimum wage employees to give somebody a good experience, you get to win.

8:54That's the winning condition. He goes, so, you know, for like Chipotle, we ended up doing a bunch of things to try to improve that. He's like, you know, I don't know if we did it fully, but like they did a couple of things. Like, for example, if anybody, if you're a manager at Chipotle and anyone you manage becomes a manager of a restaurant, you get$10 ,000, whether you work at that company or not. Just like ever. It's like you had a hand in leading that person to be. I don't know if they still do this, but at the time they did. They also changed the title. So like their manager was called like restaurateur or something like that.

9:25And they paid them above market. And they're like, you know, we're doing all these things to try to fix it. Starbucks did the same thing, giving people benefits so that they stick around and actually stick with the job versus really high churn. But nobody's really figured that out. Point is, I remember it just wasn't a lot of fun to be in that business because I couldn't relate, you know, all the things I love. I'm an entrepreneur. I'm thinking about ideas or, you know, raising capital. I got big goals, big dreams. And I'm coming into work every day with somebody whose goal and dream is to get off work early.

9:53That is the like, that would be the best thing that could happen to them at work that day and i was like shit that's not that inspiring every day to like kind of and i don't mean that to knock anybody it's just the truth it's like you you're gonna hang around certain people when you run a business ideally you would be around people who are very very like-minded to you in the sense of they share similar values and goals and aspirations and then it becomes contagious and then they're sharing learnings with you and like i remember we interviewed i remember we were interviewing people for like this position because we kept having people flake out they would just leave or they would steal or stuff like that and like my buddy who was interviewing he goes well i like this person um they had all their teeth i was like what and he's like i don't know i was like i'm just looking for symbols i just he's like last three people stole from us and that sucked i just want somebody's not gonna steal from us like that's my new bar first and like after that i could figure out a higher higher level requirements and so did you see on um did you see on the tv show bear where they hire this you know this guy and on the first day they catch him outside smoking crack and they're like i think i need to fire you but i should go but i should go ask and he's like yes chef fire him yeah and by the way there's one lesson in there which is my dad told me something he goes look uh you're building a small business and he goes but look but think about it you're still spending like every waking moment thinking about how to make this thing successful he goes if you worked on a big business you don't have to spend double the hours you're still going to spend every waking moment trying to think of how to make it successful.

11:24A big business and a small business both take the same amount of time. Why would you choose a small business? And that to me was the right advice for me for who I was. That's not the right advice for everybody. But like, somebody out there needs to hear that right now, which is that like, this idea that a small thing is somehow easier or less painful is just not true. It is not true. And it feels nice to be able to, like, pay people a lot of money, or hire a certain type of person that makes your day to day far more enjoyable. Talk about the naming thing. My opinion has changed on that to align with yours.

11:57So one thing we have here is branding or naming at the beginning. So I've evolved my philosophy. So I used to try to get the whole thing right, right away. I was very precious about my idea, and I wanted it, my baby to be cute and be ready for its first day of school. And then I realized that nobody cares about my baby, and I have no customers, and nobody's paying attention. This thing could be called dog crap. You know, it doesn't matter until it matters. And so now here's the balance that I figured out for me. In most cases, I try to get the name right off the bat because changing the name is kind of annoying.

12:30You lose the brand recognition. And I tried to get the trademark because I made that mistake before of not owning my trademark and having to change my name a year or two in because I realized, oh, I'll never be able to sell this without owning the trademark. And so that was a big mistake. I don't know if that's true, dude. What do you I don't own. I sold the hustle without owning that trademark. You didn't own a trademark for the hustle as a media company. You didn't own anything because I know they have it now. We looked it up. They have it now. But what happens is if they look and they see that they can't get it because it's taken.

13:02Now you have a problem. Now you're either going to get negotiated down. Is that true? I see. I didn't even know that. Like when Moyes was selling native deodorant, he didn't own the trademark. And it was an issue. He's got the deal done. And they're like, wait, you don't have the trademark. He's like, yeah, but there's no other native deodorant. They're like, OK, Junior, what are you talking about? That's not how this works. You know, and so then he's like, OK, who he's like, I'll just go file for it. Like, nope, it's taken by some guy, some woman or some guy sitting in Palo Alto doing nothing, squatting on it.

13:34And he goes to that person. He's like, hey, I'd like the trademark. He tells the story on his episode of the pod, I think is like one of the first 10 episodes of this podcast. but the short version is he goes and he offers the person some like you know he's like hey can i have it and they're like no and he's like okay i'll buy it like you know two grand and they're like no and then they figured out that he's selling his company and then the price went like way up and i think he ended up having to buy it for like either like a quarter million dollars or like one or two million dollars he had to buy the trademark at the last minute that's so you know it's fine when you're he's selling the company for 100 million but like very painful process um You know, to do that.

14:11Better off just having it. You taught me something. I thought that they were nonsense. But I also used to think, I mean, look, my company was called The Hustle. That's a horrible name. One time I had this conference called ConCon, the content conference. Like I'm, my first, the first business that I started making money online, it was called Itch Juice, baby. Like I'm horrible with names. And, but now I do actually think they're way important. Before I was like, names are bullshit. It doesn't matter what you call it. someone's going to come. Now I'm like on board with naming and branding is very valuable.

14:44So I don't think a bad name kills you, but a good name lifts you. I completely agree. I think great design is a huge value add and costs almost nothing to have great design versus OK to bad design. It's not actually more money that it takes. It's taste. You just have to have the right people to do it. You can pay for that taste like you can pay a fancy agency because you know they have the taste, but you could also just have taste yourself or find somebody that's cheaper that has taste. My feeling on design is I don't start with fancy design. I start with like, you know, whatever simple design.

15:19And then I set a milestone almost as a reward, which is if we get to X, then I'm going to fancy pants my design because it's more for me than it is really for anybody else at that moment. Um, but you know, if you're, if you're a consumer package, good or something like that, then the packaging obviously super important. If you're a SAS tool for whatever your design, you know, doesn't matter as much. Before I launched Hampton, I paid an agency, I found an awesome agency overseas. So it was like, I think 15 or 20 grand. And we did a whole branding thing. And I'm like, I can't believe I'm doing this.

15:48And it was totally worth it. Did I send you that presentation? And I liked it. I was like, Oh, this is cool. And that's different. You wouldn't have you would have never done that before. I have I never would have done that. It was totally worth it. We both were very cheap with things before I was I wasn't cheap with spending money, but I was cheap with my time, meaning I placed no value on my time. And I think you were cheap with spending money, even though you had a bunch of cash in the bank. Not anymore. Then when I saw you spend 20k on your branding before, and I was like, Oh, that makes sense.

16:18He's got a killer name for his community Hampton. And then he's got like a really classy design that makes it feel elevated, which is my word of the year. Then I was like, Oh, yeah, what are the areas where I've been cheap. One of mine, for example, was in recruiting. So I used to take pride in just recruiting myself by hand hunting. And I would just be like, yeah, I'm going to go find people and I'm going to like message them and I'm going to cold email them and I'm going to convince them and I'm going to interview them and I'm going to. And now I hire recruiters and I'm like, oh, for which roles for every role, anything.

16:51If I need to hire first thing I do, I just text my recruiter, this guy, Carson. I'm like, yo, Carson, I need X. And he's like a great e-com recruiter and so i'm like carson i need a i need x and he's like on it and he's like super aggressive and so he's just like instantly will start sending me linkedins i'm like yes no yes no he does is he a full-time employee or he's got his own agency um he's his own recruit he's his own solo shop and so um so i use him to hire for these roles and it just saves a ton of time and then i'm able to and i have him sometimes i'll be like yo join this call so that you see what i ask so that when you're screening candidates, you just ask these questions before me, right?

17:28And I'm getting a way better result using recruiters. And yeah, you pay the commission when you hire the person, but like hiring a great person faster is totally worth it. So how do you, without blowing up this guy, Carson Spot, how do you pay him? Do you pay him a percentage? Same as all recruiters. You pay a percentage of their first year salary. And if they don't - And then do you pay him like six months later? I pay him, I think what I do with him is I pay him like 30 days after they join. But if they don't work out, like like we had one person didn't work out three months in. So if they don't make it three months, then he just reimburses or credits it back or whatever.

18:05And then do you do you do it for all like even an entry level position? Everything, anything I need, anything I need now. I'm like, whatever I would spend the time doing, this guy is going to spend all of his time doing. And so it just moves faster and he's better. And I'm like, why the fuck wasn't I using recruit? I used to, I used to take pride and I was like, what am I trying to save here? The like, you know, let's say you hire somebody for a hundred grand. Let's say the recruiter fee might be 15 or 20%. So you're going to pay 15, 20 grand. That's a lot of money. Yes. But I do it. My business is, if your business is working, then it makes total sense to be using recruiters to increase your pipeline and, and save time and get the, get good butts in seats faster versus trying to do it yourself.

18:48That's time. You're not focused on the business that takes longer. Yeah. The biggest thing that's changed with me with hiring is reference checks. So like, for example, I messaged someone two days ago. I go, hey, I'm thinking about hiring this one person. Do you think that they'd be decent at managing a small team? And it says, I don't think they could manage anyone, let alone themselves. That was the reply. And my reply to that was, all right, thanks. And I don't hire that person. No, your reply to that should be, thank you so much. what's your address i'm sending you something because most reference checks will not give you honesty when somebody goes out on a limb is actually like yeah let me save you some pain here and give you my honest truth even though it doesn't feel good to take an opportunity away from somebody it's like you know sweet baby jesus thank you so much i i owe you one so like yeah i was like over the top like nice to this guy but uh reference checks are so important and i do two things differently the one i always ask for like three and then i call those three and i go who else did this person work with yeah exactly i don't give a shit about the three that they gave me i'm just trying to like i'm trying to like figure out who i can reference who i can speak to that they didn't provide but also i won't blow up the applicant spot where if it's like you know it's like someone who i that will be a little bit secretive and not tell their current employer um and then so i do that like crazy and then here's what i ask consistently here's how basically the point is, is I want to hear bad shit about the person.

20:16And I want to figure out if the bad stuff is I'm okay with. And so I say, what are they out of scale one to 10? They always say an eight or nine. And I say, All right, how can they be a perfect 10? Like what's missing? And then that's typically when they'll tell me like bad stuff. And I'm always looking for that bad stuff. And I'm like, well, you know, they've made like mistakes doing x, y and z. It's like, okay, I could put up with those types of mistakes. Or they, they, they like miss deadlines all the time, I'm like, well, I'm not going to put up with missed deadlines. That's I'm not willing to put up with that.

20:46So I like I do a shit ton of reference checks now. So someone taught me a good way to do reference checks. I don't remember the exact question, but it's something along there's there's two things that I do on the reference check. One is you're just trying to figure out, is this person one of the best people that they worked with at that company? And so I'll ask you a question. I asked the following types of questions. I'll say, you know, my experience is that every company, there's like, you can look around the room, and there's two or three people inevitably in every single company who like, they just have the team on their back.

21:15And you're just, you just look at them and you think, man, if we didn't have this person, we would be in a rough spot. Or like, you know, these things, these good things that are happening just probably wouldn't have happened if not for their force of will. And I would be like, you know, who are the people? And I use this to recruit too. I'm like, who are the people like that at your company? Or I'll be like, would you count this person as one of those people? And I'm just trying to see how much conviction they have of being like, oh yeah, for sure. or like, yeah, you know, they're good, right?

21:42It's like, you could say, yeah, two different ways. I'm looking for which one of those it is. The second thing I'll ask is I'll be like, you know, I'm thinking about hiring this, like I'm leaning towards hiring them because I'm kind of trying to disarm them. I'm trying to not make them feel like what they say is gonna like mess it up. But I'll be like, but you know, but what I don't, but I don't feel comfortable with this. I don't know what they're not good at. And everybody has things they're not good at. I'm not sure what, you know, like, I know that they must have things that are going to disappoint me or are going to be things that they're not strong at.

22:11I just don't know them yet. What are they for this person? So I can kind of feel like I have the full picture before I go ahead and pull the trigger and hire them. And that's how I get them to kind of tell me those things. Why'd you write paid tests? What's that? So my thing with hiring is I would say two things have improved my hiring. Number one, paid tests instead of interviews. So I will spend the time. I'll spend three, four hours creating a paid test. So I create a doc that's here's a brief and I'll say I'm going to pay you and depending on the role might be 200 bucks, it might be$2 ,000.

22:47I'll pay you to spend a day on this because I want to see what you do because I just wrote words equal lies. It's like I don't really, I'd rather just see your work than hear you tell me that you're good at work. And so paid tests is now I lean towards that. In the end that saves me a ton of time. The second thing I did I have a buddy who I let invest in one of my companies that I didn't really need as an investor. But I kind of thought, I kind of realized that like, as a CEO, your job is just decision-making good judgment over and over. Are you the CEO of your e-com business? No, I'm more like a chairman.

23:22So I'm not active day to day now, but I will, I don't. So what I'll do is I'm like, Oh, CEO's job is just decision-making or any leader. Let's forget the word CEO. Just any leader's job is decision-making. How do I get my decision-making to be better? and like the difference of making 10 to 20 percent better decisions every single month adds up that that creates a very different outcome so i brought this guy in and i and what i told him i go you know i really want your help hiring and he's like yeah sure i'll you know see if there's anyone in my network i go no no i want you to do three interviews for this one role for me i'm hiring a cmo and i chief marketing officer and i think this is the make or break hire for this business i want you on the call and i want you to lead the interview and i want to listen and so we did two things first i would interview them separately you you did an investor you you let an investor do that he's my one of my best friends and yes he invested my got it uh and he's he's himself a founder and and whatever so he's just got a lot of experience and i've seen him make great hires and so what happened was i would interview them then he would interview them i would like them and he'd be like no trash and i'm like what interesting uh what makes you say that what did i like what did you not like and the thing for him was always like uh yeah i pressed him for specifics and he didn't have any he's like and what i realized was he presses for specifics way more than i was previously doing so i would say like um i would try to figure out do you have experience doing this uh you know how would you rate yourself in this tell me a story they would tell me one story what he would say is like um cool what are the what was the revenue when you started what was it you know and then how did it grow in the first 18 months and they're like he's like, if they don't even know that number, then they're out.

25:01You know, if you're CMO, you don't know how much of the revenue changed from day one to day, you know, month 12 or whatever, you're out. And then he's like, they would say the number, he'd be like, cool. What were the three things that you did that most impacted that? And he's like, you know, if you can't tell me three wins you've had in the three years you've worked there that like most impacted the, and then he would say, oh, you did that thing. Okay, cool. Can you screen share real quick and just show me like, you're saying you did this. Can you just show me how you think about this? I want to hear you talk out loud and i was like oh okay there's a different level level of specificity here that i need to be doing in my interview so a very useful thing was seeing how a master does it so that i could up my game that's kind of an interesting thing because i've changed i did to 180 what was your before what you're after i would create my before is i would create like the most ambitious goals um because it was just like it was like mental masturbation of like just using this spreadsheet and like saying like yeah we're gonna 3x this year and then like yeah I'm like I'd be like yeah can you like change that three to a five and change this zero to a nine and like it's like boom we're there all right get after it guys like and I didn't understand that like a they're the one doing the work so it's kind of bullshit that I'm like creating these crazy goals that there's no math behind it I also thought that like really ambitious goals were inspiring um I actually think achievable goals are inspiring.

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26:28And I try to hit like 75 % of the goals that we set. If I'm not hitting about 80%, my goal setting was quite bad. So hitting goals that are not that ambitious, I think gets you a better outcome than missing incredibly ambitious goals. Like it creates more momentum. I agree with you. Momentum is key. and I didn't get that my goal thing now so every time I start a project whether it's a company or inside of a company just like a initiative I got this thing called the kickoff doc it's a one-page doc that I fill out religiously and it's basically like starts as just like what are we trying to do here we're trying to do this in plain English what are we trying to do then what does winning look like and this is where I set two goals so I have a floor goal and what I call the FBI goal the floor goal is basically like you know if it was below this I'd be surprised and I'd be a little disappointed.

27:24And then the FBI goal is what would have us running around here, chest bumping, being like, oh my God, I can't believe it happened. And now I have this range and I have kind of like my men in my dream. And of course we're going to shoot for the dream, but we're going to make sure that we also understand that like a win is a win and anything above this floor is a win. And we have the two targets. We ask ourselves, what would it take to get to the floor? Or what would it take to get to the to the to the FI goal to get to the ceiling? And so that's the first thing I do. The second thing I do is I set an anti goal.

27:55Learned this from Andrew Wilkinson, which was. Yeah, that was smart. You could achieve, you know, you could double revenue. But if I wake up every day and I'm stressed out or if I doubled revenue, but profits went to zero because I spent so much on marketing, well, then I kind of lost while winning. So anti goals like, you know, I'm not trying to work so hard. I don't see my kids. Right. Like in life, I think anti goals are really important to counterbalance. And the specific thing here is, what are the understandable traps we could fall into while trying to achieve those goals? So, for example, with this podcast, you'd be like, oh, I want a double downloads.

28:30Great. What's a trap you could fall into? Every day I'm on the algorithm trying to figure out what clickbaity shit I could do where I'm knocking on neighbors' doors, asking them how they made their money, and then I pants them, and then I put a pie in their face. It's like, yeah, that would do it. But I would sell my soul and lose some dignity and not have that much fun doing it. So that's like losing while winning. So I think anti-goals are really important. I started doing those. The next thing on goal setting is I realized that much more important than the goal. Like, it's like I would do these like big bursts where it's like we do this planning and set this goal.

29:03Then like three months later, it's like, hey, what's the goal? And then like, it's not even on the tip of anyone's tongue. And I'm like, oh, shit, this is backwards. Like, first of all, I shouldn't be the one setting the goals. because like, you know, in Game of Thrones, the opening scene where Ned Stark has to like execute the guy and his son is like, oh, do you have to do this? Like, can't someone else do this? And he says, no, like he who speaks the sentence must swing the sword. And it's like, I can't expect you to go do all the work for some goal I set sitting in my boxers in Excel, right?

29:34Like now it's like, if I'm going to set a marketing goal, I'm going to set it with and really like the CMO has to own that goal. They have to know that that's what they want, that that's what they think is achievable. I'm going to push back or hold the standard, but they're going to ultimately speak the sentence because they're going to be the ones who swings the sword. So I make them do it. And then the second thing I do is I enforce that it's how do we keep this top of mind and at the tip of our tongue? And that's like creating rituals where we're seeing things daily and weekly that tracks to it because it's far more important to regularly look at the KPIs and ask the right questions versus trying to set a great goal once and then never thinking about it or not really looking at it on a religious basis.

30:19All right, let's take a quick break because I got to tell you a story. Let me tell you about the first time I tried to run payroll for my team. I was using a traditional bank and you know the type. It's got a janky interface. It's built like a 2002 tax form and it was open only during business hours. And I hit send and it froze. They flagged the transaction. They locked my account. They put me on hold for 45 minutes and then they told me I got to visit my local branch. and that was the day I started looking for a new banking solution. After asking a few founders what they were using, I found out about Mercury.

30:45And so now my payroll is two clicks. I can wire money, I can pay invoices, I can reimburse the team, all from one clean dashboard. That's why I use it for all of my companies and so do 200 ,000 other startup founders. And so if you're looking to level up your banking, head to mercury.com and apply in minutes. Mercury is a financial technology company, not a bank. Banking services are provided through Choice Financial Group, Column A, and Evolve Bank & Trust members FDIC. do you lose your temper and yell have you ever made someone cry like an employee have you made an employee cry because you yelled at them not because he no i never yell but uh i've never made them cry because you've never done that i i've i don't think i've ever yelled no um i could be i could be like kind of i'll i can i'll curse like i'll be like hold on like what the fuck are we doing here right but it's more of that you've never been like you're an idiot you've never insulted someone or beat them up or just you know just punch them in the face i'm sure i've been rude but but it's you know there's some finesse to my rudeness where it's like a it's a backhanded slap not a front-handed slap type of thing there's been many times in the past where i've lost my anger and i'll be really just a huge bitch to someone and uh and uh it's like i deeply regret that.

32:02Not only do I regret that because it was just silly, but like, so the way that I used to like, react to bad news is I would, I would yell at people sometimes and I would lose my temper and I would freak out. And I realized that that is just so weak for so many. That is just a bad one. I come to this. I've come to the conclusion I can't change people. So if I think someone is just repeatedly not screwing up, I just I shouldn't have hired them. I made that mistake. someone is either great you're normally a great executor who sometimes makes mistakes or you're just never going to change and you're just not good like i think losers exist and i don't want to surround myself with them um that's kind of like my my attitude like your sign it's like a store that's like you know no shoes no shirt no service it's like losers exist we must avoid them like keep them out yeah like i think that that's real uh like losers exist and sometimes i've been a loser i tweeted this out when i was working at twitch i go or like right after i left twitch i think i tweeted this out i go well you know uh seems to be a pattern you know basically there's a pattern now which is that when someone's great odds are they're great kind of right away like um of course there are exceptions but i would say the general rule is that the best people i've ever hired it's pretty obvious within three four weeks that they're amazing and that they just stay amazing and of the people that were late bloomers the key there was just the only consistent pattern I found was I hired somebody before I even understood what role they should have or what the role is.

33:35And like when they had an undefined role, they didn't really do very well. But then when I defined a role for them and I said, look, this is what you got to do. They performed. And what I found is that when I have a defined role for someone and they're not very good, it never, never really changes for me. Yeah, you can't change them. You can't change people. And I used to be I used to lose my temper and I would like curse and I definitely made people feel stupid and that was that's such a bad mistake because uh a that's just wrong that's just not how you should treat people but b i'm not going to get my desired outcome they're not going to change exactly i i still suck at that i would be honest i'm not like a yeller but i can make people feel small and i kind of realized this the other day i was like in every interaction you're either going to walk away like you're going to leave someone and they're either going to feel a little bit like they're going to feel either smaller or bigger based on how that interaction went how you treated them and i was like damn i i think i make people feel small a lot and you know i'm i think i'm doing it in service of like we're doing dumb shit we need to do the right thing but i'm definitely not like i've seen people who are really good at still getting the thing done without ever making people feel small and i want to learn that jedi who's an example who's an example of someone who does that um our buddy sully i think is pretty good at that i don't know what he's like inside of a company but like i've seen him kind of like as uh advisor type of guy and um i know what he's thinking in the moment i'm like oh man he's got to be looking at this being like what in the actual fuck is going on here but that's not what comes out of his mouth and he will finesse his way there and i don't think it's because he's a kinder nicer person i think it's because the last thing you said which was i think he's realized that's not how you get to your desired outcome um that's not how you get desired not at all uh exactly so so i think that that's a that's definitely a uh an area to improve and in fact like the one time i did make somebody cry was when i was firing somebody and i realized in that moment i was like oh he's not crying because he's sad that he's getting fired obviously there's a part of it but like he's very surprised and that's on me like um i was too scared to be clear up front that hey this isn't going the way we need it to go and it's got to go differently and here's what the level is and there's not like this currently not at the level and so i what i avoided that tough conversation there and now i'm having a tougher conversation because i avoided that one how many people have you fired uh i don't know like 20 really yeah that's that's a lot right i don't know i've been going for 16 years like you one a year.

36:13It's not, not, not that much. I've not fired that many people. I'm such a punk. So there's a story about Dave Portnoy and like Dave Portnoy is like, I don't fire people. Like it's impossible to get fired by me. I read I'll just pay you and you just are lazy and a bum and I'll just make fun of you. And it's good content. I kind of feel the same way. I suck at firing. I, I have a good script. I basically say like right off the bat, I go, all right, this conversation is going to stink, but I'm firing you today. and we could talk about why if you want. Now I don't even say why. I'm just like, this isn't working out because it doesn't benefit me to say why.

36:48It only hurts you because they can sue you. But I'm horrible at firing people. Like I like, I'm such a punk. I like, I hate having that conversation that I avoid it. Yeah, but it's just like anything else. Like you just stretch the pain out longer versus rip the back. Oh, I know. The key is, and I say this because everybody who, every manager, everybody who becomes a manager of any people, like, don't worry, you suck. everybody sucks as a manager at the beginning nobody is naturally just like an amazing manager right off the bat it is a learned skill and uh the key to firing though if you learn nothing else about firing uh is in the first 10 seconds you need to say the news just do not beat around the bush uh you know the reason we're here today is because we're gonna let you go and um you know that has to come out of your mouth in the first 10 seconds and if you say anything else right away In the first 10 seconds, just realize you're being a complete asshole because when it does come and they realize, wait, what were you just saying all that stuff about?

37:43Why didn't what? And you're going to blindside them in a much worse way. It's key. Absolutely key. I have a couple other areas I want to ask you about. One is, I think, probably the key to making shit work. Keeping things simple and focused and knowing what to say yes to and what to say no to. do you have anything that you actually do to make that to like do that better now? I think that I'm so good at focus and I'm bad at it. I've missed a lot of interesting opportunities. But by default, I say no to everything. And it's actually cost me a bunch. Like, for example, at The Hustle, we thought about launching multiple newsletters.

38:23And I was like, nope, we're just gonna do this one thing. We're gonna do it well, because Scott Belsky told me to focus and to only do this one thing. So I'm literally going to say no to everything. And our competitor did, and they scaled their revenue significantly faster. So I said no to too much, actually. But my default was just, I'm going to say no to everything. That's interesting. I'm the opposite. I'm a shiny object, you know, syndrome kind of guy. And so... By the way, the hustle, we didn't even have an Instagram handle until like four years in. like i like i was like no we're not gonna do social media we're doing nothing it was like we're doing nothing we're just gonna do this one stupid newsletter all the time can we have lunch no dude one of my biggest one of my speaking of by the way i used to be really cheap one deep in my soul the thing that hurts me most is one time i bought all this supplies from costco for a conference.

39:19And I ended up returning$2 ,000 worth of canned soda and stuff. And the lady at the front desk was like, you're pathetic. I was like, what? She's like, you know, we throw all this stuff away. Is this just from some party that you threw? And it was like, my answer was even worse, which was like, no, it's for a business conference. I made a lot of money. And it hurts my soul that I was so cheap that I returned open cans of soda to Costco for$2 ,000. It crushes me like like the 24 like the 24 case was like partially things. Yeah. And like, I was like, I can't believe that was such a punk move. I can't believe I did that.

40:03That's one of my biggest regrets. That's next to this one time I tipped this taxi driver and he said, Oh, no, you don't need to do this and i said oh no you need it instead of you earned it like those two things are like the two things that like crush my soul i'm like i can't believe i said that um but what what what were you saying you're talking about um focus what were you talking about focus fucking a focus as we get back on track um i create i now have a thing which is i create a a doc for every business every year that's called the big bet stock, which is basically like we are going to make some bets this year.

40:42We're going to do some things, but let's be super conscious about what we're saying yes to and what we're saying no to. So my big bet stock, and I'll literally write it like this. I'll say something like, bet number one, we really suck at inventory management. Today, forecasting is just me looking at the spreadsheet and making up numbers based on what I hope happens. I know there's probably a smarter way to do this. Other people certainly have solved this problem. I need to figure out how to hire people who know how to do this. So the bet is I'm going to hire two people and that's going to lower our waste from X to Y.

41:18And I write a sentence like that. And then that's my bet. I'm going to make this higher for this outcome because of this problem. And I write a bet number two. You know, you keep talking about businesses, though. Are you How many are you? How many? Well, like I would do this even for the podcast, right? Like big bets, right? Hiring Ari. Okay, why? Why did you do this? Why did you make this bet? Or we just launched the Clips channel. Okay, why am I going through this effort where I'm sitting here clipping my favorite parts of podcasts because I hope that somebody out there wants to just listen to the best parts on YouTube when they come up because that's how I like to listen to things.

41:55And so I'll write it out. And I'm like, if I'm going to invest my effort, my time, my money into something, then I write it out. Or like, you know, maybe it's for Shepard. For Shepard, hey, here's the bets that we're going to make. And so I'll do this exercise because it's so useful. So I write the big bets and it's like, here's the three to four big bets that we're going to make. The things that we're going to bet on, that we're going to do, that we're going to invest in, and we're going to try to do really, really well. And then I'll make the no list right before that. And the no list, I write, there are a bunch of other things that we could talk ourselves into doing that are easily justifiable.

42:26However, we're going to say no to these things this year because we want to do that. we actually want the things above to happen. And then I'll make the no list. Here's the things we're not going to do this year that we totally could have talked ourselves into. So for me, that was a very useful exercise. And then when I bring people on everybody, I sit down with them with this big bets list. I'm like, here's what we're doing. And then if they're the one responsible for it, I treat it like a commercial. Cause I'm like, I need to make this memorable. I need this person to wake up and remember, cause it's not just for me to be focused.

42:54I need my whole team to be focused. How do I do that? I basically shrink down one of these bets into a, almost like a, like a slogan or a jingle for their role. It's like your, your mission is this, remember that. And I'm going to say that to you probably a hundred times in the next three months. And, um, we're just going to keep checking in on that. And that's how I'm going to bonus you is if you did that or not. And that's how I'm going to assess your performance is if you did that or not. And if I ever, if I ever, what's the priority, it's that that's the priority. And I took this because like Peter Thiel said that he did this at PayPal.

43:25He's like, yeah, I don't know, whatever. Management's not my favorite thing. So here's my shortcut to management. Everybody at any time has one priority. And if you ever try to talk to me about not that priority, I will just simply leave the room. I thought that was just a visual. That was so funny to me. What a fucking weirdo. That I was like, Peter, can you be normal for what? Like, if someone has walked up, stood up and walked away when I was telling them about stuff, I'm like, dude, can you just be normal? I had an idea about a new program that we could do. And he just like drifts away like a hot air balloon.

44:00What a weirdo, man. But I love it. There's stories of Elon doing that too, where like in an interview, like within 30 seconds, he would be like, oh, I'm not interested in this person. And so he would just hang up. Yeah, he emailed out at Tesla too. He just sees a laptop closing. He was like, if you're in a meeting and in the first few minutes of the meeting, you realize that this is not useful to you or to anybody, please stand up and leave. Your time is valuable. These meetings are a drain. And vote with your feet. Just get up and go. That is a completely acceptable behavior here at Tesla. Do you ever send emails with one of those emails where the subject is the body of the email?

44:40Yeah, of course. It's just like a pager, basically. You're treating it like a pager. I had one of the only jobs I ever had. My boss sent me an email like that. And I was like, is this how we send emails? and then i i i sent them an email i go what's the status on this this thing and it was in the subject and the reply was don't ever send me an email like this again uh it was a very embarrassing i actually i think there are those levels so basically what i realized is that rich people and busy people treat email like texting so their email is like lowercase on their phone one line totally fine that's like their normal way of of emailing and then mega rich people treat email like it's letters they'll have somebody actually screen them print them out and then they'll kind of like review them at their desk in paper this is like the old school way of of doing who do you know who does that i think mark lorry does that if i had a guess i feel like he did tell us that uh trump does that well no he told us he didn't even own a computer he didn't own a computer yeah but like i i've i've met a couple people one of my old bosses used to do that like he used to print out his important his assistant would print out his important emails and just put them on his desk so that he could like see them and he would just leave a sticky note on them and she would go figure out what to do um i you know i worked for a guy who had four women at the office with giant tv screens just managing his inbound emails and he would just stand and walk around they would be like oh this person said this they pull it up on the screen he would just orally dictate his reply and then he would walk away and then they would just keep managing it was insane most of the day i feel like i'm responding to stupid ass messages like on slack twitter text email i cannot stand it man it is so hard so i actually think printing out that thing and replying it could be kind of cool actually yeah or creating you need some kind of firewall like for me it's like my assistant is the firewall she triages all the emails and then i only check my email for 30 minutes a day like you know because it's already taken care of and if there's something that needed a faster reply she'll tell me she'll text me and then that's it um uh there was one other thing that I was going to share, which is, um, there's a big difference.

46:44I think that's worth saying, which is pre product market fit and post. So pre product market fit, what you do versus post is very different. I think most of this call has been about post, but actually like most of my life has been about before you have product market fit, before you have product market fit, you don't do any of these things. You literally just figure out what your product is and you go try to sell it and get customers. And then you basically get rejected and you handle that and you iterate until you figure out what the product should be and who the customer should be. And you've proven how to get product and customers to go up, to connect and get more customers.

47:21Like, I think that's worth saying too. And then after you have figured that out, after you have figured out that this product actually has a market and you know how to communicate it to customers, you know how to get customers, then you hire people to like do more of that and i would say like i saw you firsthand with hampton doing this where like there was a couple months where you showed me your calendar and it looked like a jenga tower it was 20 minute calls stacked on top of each other sometimes overlapping and i was like what is this like where do and you're like yeah i'm trying to go get the members for hampton i'm trying to figure out what hampton is and you you sent me like a like a kind of a script or like a landing page you were writing it yourself trying to explain what the benefits are and who it's for and you considered like you know should i take this angle or this angle or this angle i like would help you you know like reply on the google doc well it's kind of like uh it's kind of like being a comedian you know i'm saying like when you when hassan minhaj finally does his netflix show he's done 200 before that and you see which angle hits right and it's the same thing it's like i gotta see which angle which angle is hitting um someone tweeted out or something they're like product market product market fit is like sex if you have to ask you're not having it or something like that and I was like that's so stupid I've definitely asked in both of those situations if I have it or not

48:42I was like that's one of those lines that's one of those lines that sounds good but that ain't true I was uncertain multiple times about both of them things

48:56is it happening is this it is this happening are we doing it and on that note that's the pod i feel like i can rule the world i know i could be what i want to i put my all in it like no days off on the road let's travel never looking back

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Show Notes:
(0:00) Intro
(3:00) Doomed Mission Statements
(7:00) Hiring people you want to be around
(12:00) Naming, Branding and Trademarks
(17:00) How to make better hires
(26:00) Ambitious Goal Setting vs Achievable Goal Setting
(31:00) Not losing my shit
(35:00) Firing 101
(38:00) Focus vs. Saying 'no' too much
(46:00) Pre- vs. Post-product market fit

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