I Spent 7 Days With The Richest Men In Texas | 10 Things I Learned

12 Apr 2024 · 43 min

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I Spent 7 Days With The Richest Men In Texas | 10 Things I Learned Episode Number: 572 Hosts: [Sam Parr](https://twitter.com/theSamParr) & [Shaan Puri](https://twitter.com/ShaanVP)

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Episode Overview In this episode, Sam and Shaan discuss ten significant revelations they learned from spending a week with various billionaires in Texas. The conversation reflects on insights about investing, personal habits, and the mindset of successful entrepreneurs.

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Key Segments

  1. Initial Thoughts
  2. Tim Ferriss poses a challenging question to Shaan about the brand identity of the podcast, sparking a discussion about their target audience and content style.
  1. Insights from Mohnish Pabrai
  2. "Investing is not a team sport": Pabrai emphasizes the value of making contrarian investments—believing in what others reject.
  3. Nap Room: Pabrai showcases his daily napping ritual, which he claims improves decision-making.
  4. Reading Habit: Discusses the importance of reading and recommending various books.
  1. Joe Lonsdale's Contributions
  2. Billion-Dollar Companies: Lonsdale claims he has created more billion-dollar companies than anyone else in America.
  3. Focus on Problem Solving: He expresses the necessity of addressing larger societal issues through entrepreneurship.
  4. Attention to Detail: He suggests that focusing on a few key projects is often more beneficial than spreading oneself too thin.
  1. The Social Game
  2. Nick Gray's Cocktail Party: Shaan illustrates how Nick Gray organizes effective social gatherings that facilitate networking and relationship building.
  3. Engagement Techniques: Gray employs structured activities to help guests connect with one another, emphasizing the value of being present and engaged.
  1. Learning from Others
  2. Pay Attention to Focus Points: Sam stresses the importance of noticing what successful individuals pay attention to, which can reveal insights into their thought processes.
  3. Ben Levy’s Superpower: Shaan highlights Ben’s ability to connect with people by discovering shared interests, making others feel valued and engaged.

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Key Takeaways

  • The Value of Naps: Taking regular breaks for rest can enhance mental clarity and decision-making abilities.
  • Contrarian Investing: Successful investing often involves recognizing undervalued opportunities that others overlook.
  • Social Networking: Facilitating connections through structured social events can lead to meaningful relationships and collaborations.
  • Focus on Core Competencies: Successful entrepreneurs often achieve greater results by concentrating on fewer, high-potential projects rather than diversifying too broadly.

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Closing Thoughts The episode underscores the personal growth and unexpected lessons that come from high-level networking. Each billionaire offers unique perspectives on investing, lifestyle, and interpersonal dynamics that can inspire listeners to adopt similar habits and mindsets in their entrepreneurial journeys.

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Related Links

  • [The Dhando Investor](https://tinyurl.com/53p9bhfv)
  • [PeachyBbies](https://peachybbies.com/)

Additional Resources

  • Shaan's hiring service: [Shepherd](https://bit.ly/SupportShepherd)
  • Sam's services:
  • [Hampton](https://www.joinhampton.com/)
  • [Ideation Bootcamp](https://www.ideationbootcamp.co/)
  • [Copy That](https://copythat.com)
  • [Hampton Wealth Survey](https://joinhampton.com/wealth)

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Produced by: HubSpot Podcast Network Editing: Ezra Bakker Trupiano

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This episode presents numerous actionable insights for budding entrepreneurs and seasoned business leaders alike, celebrating the unique perspectives that come from interacting with some of the wealthiest people in Texas.

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0:00He was showing us around his house. He was like, that's my nap room. And I was like, you're a nap guy. I'm a nap guy. And he's like, oh yeah, I take a nap every day for the last three years. Do you want to nap together?

0:19All right. You're back from Austin. You were there for seven days. How was it? It was great, dude. I had one conversation. I got to ask you this. I got put on the spot. So I did an episode with Tim Ferriss and he said something in the middle of the interview. He goes, I wanted to ask you this. What do you think is the brand of your podcast? He goes, what I mean is, if you're not in the room and someone was just telling their friend about it, how would they describe it? Ideally to you, how would they describe it? You actually did this before. And I actually thought it was great. You said, Hey, look, we're doing these meetups.

0:51And if you are the type of person who goes to a restaurant and you wonder, how could they make this a little bit more efficient? Or how much money do they make per meal or how much profit do they make and how can they expand this? And you also like to joke around, you're perfect for MFM. And that's the person who I would describe is into it. I would say that we're this weird combination of making silly, dumb jokes and deconstructing interesting companies and pointing out different trends. Okay, that's pretty good. Yeah, I like the restaurant thing where it's like, if you went to a restaurant with four friends, and three of them would be looking at the menu trying to figure out what to order.

1:23And you'd be looking around counting the tabletops and trying to figure out how much money this place makes. That's us. We are that friend. Why? What did you say on the air? Well, luckily, he let me off the hook because he asked it. He's like, I want to ask you this. You don't have to answer, but you can do that. And he just kept going. And in my head, I was like, okay, the master of podcasting asking me, what is my podcast about? And it's sort of like, if Leonardo DiCaprio comes up to you, and he asks you what your name is, and you're like, I have one. I just don't know what it is right now. The panic ensues.

1:53I had to go out of town. So it was a weird timing. I wasn't able to make it. But you interviewed four or three people, but you hung out with a ton of people. How was Tim, for one? You also interviewed Joe Lonsdale. How were these guys? So I took notes. I always take notes when I go. I take a little journal with me. And basically, I'm not taking notes on what happened. I'm only taking notes on what are the new epiphanies? What are the new golden nuggets? What's the one phrase somebody said that I'm going to remember? And I'm looking for a high rate of revelation. I think that's also, by the way, a good move for the podcast.

2:26What is the rate of revelation per minute? How many interesting things are coming out to you? RPM, baby. RPM. Yeah, exactly. This is a very high RPM trip for me. I wrote down a bunch of names on our doc. And for each one, I had one big revelation. And so you can prompt me and go for whichever one looks interesting to you. Not an order person. So Manish, from what I know, he is a... What's his book called? The Dondo Investor. Basically, what I know about him is that he started maybe in the 80s investing in companies because I think he made some money through his own business. And then he's sort of like an Indian Warren Buffett.

3:06And he's got this huge following. And he seems really fascinating type of guy. Yeah. So exactly. I wanted to talk to him because my mentors consider him a mentor. right? Like if you like this podcast and you like either Andrew Wilkinson or Syed Balki, like both of them look up to and learn from Manish. When I was going out there, I texted Andrew. I was like, hey, what should I ask him? I was like, you know him, right? And he's like, dude, he was my first value investing man crush. And like somebody whose brain you got really attracted to because he has very interesting philosophies and thoughts.

3:40If you Google his net worth, it says like almost 2 billion. I don't know. Googling net worth is not not exact science, but he's up there. More like a B than an M. And he's an interesting guy. His story is basically... He's working at a company. His dad is like, son, it's time to quit. And he's like... His dad was an entrepreneur. He's like, dad, I don't want to do what you did, man. Your life was crazy. It was ups and downs. Don't you remember as a kid, we were being brought into the living room when we were 12, 13 years old trying to figure out how to let the business survive one more day. He's like, I'm traumatized for that.

4:12I just want to work here, save money in my 401k every year. And in 35 years, I'll be set. And his dad was like, okay, you're not wrong, but you took the wrong lesson away from what you learned. You actually got a crash course in how to do business and how to not do business. Maybe you should just take that and actually learn from it and do it right. Do it better than I could do it. And he told him, he's like, at this company, there's 2000 people here. You're just a cog in the machine. You could die tomorrow and no one would even know. And so he's like, you'll never reach your potential just sitting there.

4:44So he's like, all right, shit. He's right. Go start a company. It was an IT consulting company. So this was during the dot-com boom run-up when the internet was really exciting, computers were really exciting. He creates an IT consulting business. And so... Crazy. Mark Cuban also had an IT services business that he sold for$6 million, I bet, around the same time. So it was enough to be comfortable, but not enough to do nothing. Exactly. Exactly. And so what he did was he takes that money and he starts investing his own money and he compounds his own money. He turns like whatever. I think at first he had sold a million dollars a secondary.

5:23He turns a million dollars into$13 million. So he knew the Indian tech scene pretty well because his consulting company had overseas staff. So he's paying attention to it. So he invested in one and it was 140X. And so he's like, wow, that's insane. I should get out. He pulled out like a million or 2 million bucks from that. That's how he made his first million bucks. And he just reinvested. And along the way, he's giving his friends like stock tips. He's like, oh, I'm buying this for this reason. I'm buying this for this reason. They're doing really well. But they're like, Manish, we can't just listen to your tips because you're not telling us when to sell.

5:52We don't know what you're not telling us. Can we just give you the money? And so he takes a million bucks from his friends. He's like, okay, if I'm investing in my shit, I'll just put their money in the same thing. But he's like, that was the side thing. He's like, I had 13 million. That was 1 million. I didn't really care about it. And he proceeds to basically over the last, whatever, 20 years, 30 years, whatever, run that million dollars up. He now has like about just under a billion dollars of assets under management of the compounding of that plus people bringing more assets in, obviously, along the way.

6:19So, okay, that's a long story about Manish, but that's not what was interesting about him. What's interesting about him is I call him the relaxed billionaire because I go to this guy's house. He's just chilling. He's in his basketball shorts. No, no shoes. He's just walking around. He's like, all right. What's up? Because I went the day before to hang out with him. I was like, we're going to do the podcast tomorrow, but I want to get to know you a little bit. Can I swing by for... Let's just have some tea. So I go over to have a tea at his house. He calls it chai with pabrai. And he's like, yeah, I do this from time to time.

6:54I make a really good chai. I'll just have it with random, interesting people. One out of every 10 proves to be someone really compelling I want to hang out with more. And 9 out of 10, no problem. I just had some chai. And he just moved to Austin, right? He's been there for a little bit. Yeah. So he relocated from, I think, LA or something. So I was like, so what are you doing today? Because he's hanging out with us for like an hour. And I was like, there's nobody here. Where's your team? Where's your schedule? Where's your assistant coming tapping? He'd be like, you have a call. And he's like, I don't have any of those things.

7:28He told me a couple of interesting things. He goes, He goes, investing is not a team sport. He goes, I have a few folks, analysts type people, and they'll do specific things that I need them to do, but they don't make decisions. They don't make investment decisions. I make the investment decisions. He goes, why? He goes, to be a great investor, you need to make a contrarian bet, meaning you have to believe something's good when other people believe that it's bad. Fundamentally, that's how it works, right? If you think it's good, but everybody thinks it's good, you'll never make any money. The price is too high.

8:00If it's bad and you think it's good, you'll never make it right. The only way to make money is you think it's good and other people think it's bad. He calls it, I look for things that are hated and unloved. He's like, last year, I made one big bet or whatever, last two years on coal. Coal. He's like, man, coal. Nothing is more hated and unloved than coal. He's like, and before that, it was this. Before that, it was this. And so he's like, I look for the hated and unloved things. He goes, if you have a team, everybody just centers around the safe picks that we can all agree on. And he's like, you'll never find the truly contrarian, hated and unloved things if you invest as a team.

8:33Because it's not a team sport. Number two, he goes, he's showing us around his house. He's like, that's my nap room. And I was like, you're a nap guy. I'm a nap guy. And he's like, oh, yeah. I take a nap every day for the last 30 years. Do you want to nap together? Yeah. He's like, for 30 years, I've been napping every day. He's like, I love it. Just knock out in the afternoon. 20, 30 minutes, an hour, whatever it is. He's like, it's good for my brain. And he's like, I don't make good decisions if I'm not well rested. He's like, I don't need... Did you guys like high five and hug over there? Yeah.

9:01I was like, finally, this guy's my people. And he's like, oh, yeah. He's like, I used to live in Dubai. That's how they do it. It's too hot during the day. You just nap. And he's like, it's a no brainer. But overall, he was like, I have a clear schedule. I spend my time. I read. I think. Maybe I'll go teach or talk to somebody. He goes, I teach not because I want to be a teacher. He goes, because if I want to learn something, the best way is to go try to teach it. Where does he teach? At like a school or? Yeah, he'll go give a talk at a university or to some group of aspiring investors or whatever.

9:31And so I was just fascinated by this guy. I was like, this is the relaxed feeling. I love this guy's style. I love his MO. I go to his library. He's got just thousands of books. And he's like, yeah, this is my biology and science section. This is my investing book section. This is my business book section. And he's just recommending different books to me. I thought it was pretty fascinating to see this guy because it's high contrast to all the other people I've met on this trip who are like, go, go, go. So I've heard this so often where people say, for one, people will say like Warren Buffett.

10:01They're like, I read like 500 pages a day. And then I'll talk to our friend Andrew Wilkinson and a few others. He goes, I just want to read all day. And in my head, I'm like, okay, reading. I just read this awesome science fiction book about aliens. Is that counting? What do they read, I wonder, all day. Is it only work-related? Is it like the equivalent of you and I skimming Twitter? No, I think it's less Twitter. But I do think it's... Some percentage of that is companies' annual reports, right? Like going in and diving in and looking at a company or looking at an industry, trying to understand it.

10:37Some of it is understanding the macro, the psychology of humans and about business and about whatever. And he's got business books, psychology books, all that. Some of it's about science and he's reading about that. And some of it's just for fun, just to expand the brain. Science fiction is actually quite interesting as an example, because a lot of the things that are happening today were predicted by science fiction 20, 30 years ago. Everything from cryptocurrency to video calls to things like that, that at the time seemed far-fetched. Predicting video calls where you don't even have a cell phone, right?

11:07It took some thinking there. So yeah, I do think it's a wider breadth. It's not just reading 10 Qs. Yeah, that's what I was wondering. him. Is he just reading those all day? 10Ks, I think, by the way. We don't want to look like a total fool. I'll give you a couple of takeaways from Joe Lonsdale. So for those people who don't know, Joe created Palantir. He's the co-founder of Palantir, which is a$50 billion company. But his actual claim to fame when I was talking to him, he said something. He goes, I've created more billion-dollar companies than anyone else in America. That's bold. Let that sink in.

11:42Bold. And I was like, cool, cool, cool. I got a podcast. What's up? I've created more episodes than most podcasters. I thought that was a really amazing, amazing achievement. And it's true. He's done at least$5 billion companies. And those were all in the last short period of time. His background is... I think he went to Stanford and he somehow got into Peter Thiel's orbit when Joe was just 21 or 20 or still in college. He right-hand Peter and was almost like an... He was his protege. intern, whatever, at his hedge fund, I think. By the way, the story is really hilarious because he's like... Somebody asked him in an interview when I was doing my research.

12:21They were like, what were you like as a kid? And everybody... If I asked you, successful person gets asked what it was like growing up, what's the typical response? Selling stuff. It's usually humble origins of some kind. I grew up middle class. Maybe I had a reading impediment, but that led me to really working on something. There's usually some rags to riches. The guy asked Joe and he goes, yeah, grew up, had great parents, great family. Stuff came pretty easy to me. Basically, I just was really good. I just aced all my tests. I was 99 percentile math, 99 percentile science. I was a programmer.

12:58He's like, you know, there were smarter kids than me. But like, you know, school was pretty easy. I focused on it. I did well. I got into Stanford. It's like that was his story, which I found to be hilariously candid. Because of course that exists. But most people don't want to say that. They're so busy virtue signaling that they'll try to bend their awesome upbringing to focus on some one bad thing where he's like, no, my parents love me and they really put me in a position to succeed. And I was super competitive and I fucking won. That was his story. And then he got in Peter Thiel's orbit and he probably was wildly successful just as an employee at PayPal.

13:33But then he spun off and they created Palantir together. And then off the backs of that, or off the success of that, he created like eight or six other companies that he like, quote, co-founded, which I don't understand what co-founded means in his case, because he's done it so often that I don't even understand the logistics of how he has time to do that. Yeah, he like seeds them, basically. So he's like, okay, I have the idea, I'll bring the team together, I'll have the initial strategy, I'll recruit the initial talent, I'll recruit the initial capital. And then over time, he either is CEO or not CEO of these different companies.

14:07So he's done Adipar. He did Palantir. He's done Epirus. He's done a whole bunch of different things in different spaces. One is financial software for wealth managers. Another one is software for spies for the government. Another one is Andruil. They're making a weapon for the government. They do different things in totally different spaces, like trucking and logistics. They've done all kinds of shit. Let me show the viewer. If you're on iTunes or whatever, go to YouTube to see this. I get this text message from Ben. All right. So Joe has... I don't know what his home is like, but the room that he's in is elaborate.

14:45When you think of old money and the boys club of men smoking cigars, you're just surrounded by encyclopedias. There's a picture of Joe. And he's sitting there. He's got a suit with a high collar. He looks like a hedge fund guy. He looks like the president. And we had an awesome interview. He was like, that was the best podcast I think I've ever done. He said that? He said that. His right-hand man, who's like his media guy, said that. I don't know if they're just being nice, but I'll take it either way. What was the one revelation you got from him? I'll give you five points. I'm just going to read them fast.

15:17Number one, some people actually just want to save the world. So I am very, very suspicious when people talk about they want to just really help people. They want to improve society. They want to fix America, all those things. Joe is that guy. He actually is that guy. That is actually what drives him. I went back and read his early blog posts and Quora posts, stuff 10 years ago, 15 years ago, stuff he wrote when he was in school. He's been saying the same thing the whole time. And that's usually the giveaway is not somebody who's changing their tune once they make it, but somebody who's saying that before they make it.

15:59And I think he looks through everything through that lens of like, what are the biggest gaps? and then how do I fill them? When we were on our way out, it was like, oh, dude, we've been hanging out all day. We hung out. We went there in the morning, which was my hack. We went and did a workout with him at 8 a.m. And then we... Was he fit? Yeah, of course. He's super fit. And so we worked out together. We cold plunge together. We got breakfast together. We hung out. Then we did the interview. So by the time we do the interview, we were totally in high rapport, I guess. And so I'm hanging out and I'm like, dude, I could hang here all day.

16:28But I could tell, I think it's my time to leave now. After this thing is done. He's got to go do other shit today. And we're walking out and freaking Elon Musk is walking in. That's what was going on in that moment. So pretty insane. And all right. What were the other points? Number two. He's still wrestling with the idea of focus. So one of the things he said, I thought was really interesting. He's created more billion dollar companies than anyone else in America, let's say. I take his claim at face value. And he brought up... Honestly, he was like, but I'm not sure if that was right. He goes, one of the lessons I learned from Peter Thiel is that you should be really, really careful putting effort into new things.

17:08Almost always, it's a better idea to put money into your main compounding thing that's got a lot more room to run. There's more area under the curve to fill of something that's really working than to go take that same unit of effort onto something that's starting from zero. And he's like, honestly, I probably... If I had just done one of those companies, I probably would have built a bigger thing than all five combined or all six combined or whatever it is, which I thought is a pretty interesting thought. And that makes me feel good to know that people I admire or look up to or who are ahead of me struggle with the same stuff that everyone else struggles with.

17:42I think he was at peace with it because he was like, but at the same time, that would be if I was optimizing just for money and valuation. But that's not what I'm optimizing for. I thought these companies needed to exist. So I built them. I'm glad I did. it's more fun to do multiple things. And those were problems that needed to be solved. So I'm glad I did it. But just do the math here for a second. So it's Palantir, now a$50 billion company market cap wise. Even if you take Adapar, which I think a$3 billion company or OpenGov, which he just sold for$1.8 billion. It's like, those are, let's say, those two together, each one took 7, 8 years, 10 years to build, let's say.

18:18Average company, let's say it takes seven years to do. And even if he totally wins and he gets a$3 billion outcome or$2 billion outcome, if he had just put that same energy into Palantir, taking Palantir from$50 billion to$53 billion is a hell of a lot easier. And he probably would have taken it to$70 or$80 billion if he had put all of his same entrepreneurial energy into that versus starting these new things. So I think he's actually right on the math. But I think he's also right in how he decided to do it. He had an interesting rule, which he's like, I only do six things. And that was his definition to focus.

18:48He's like, I can only do 6 things. He's like, they're not all equal. I have my main one or two things, 8 BC and starting one company. But he's like, I can only do 6. I think for his team, his general managers or his partners in his company, the high-level exec people, there's some number where they're only allowed to have 3 or they're only allowed to have 6 things on their plate at any given time. And I think 3 was the number for them and 6 was the number for him because he's not operational as the CEO. By the way, his rule was, if you're the CEO, you have one thing and it's your company. That's it.

19:22This is awesome. You know he's only 41. This guy's so prolific. He's a machine. I'm so excited to listen to that. Also, by the way, just next level awesome in terms of lifestyle, like baller house, full staff, chef, all the good shit, all the shit you would want. For me, as somebody who's like, you do play the money game, It's interesting to see what does the final level of the money game look like for these people. Like, oh, that's interesting. It's cool to get to sample it. What do you think was worth it of what he spent on? He's got a basketball court in his house. I thought that was pretty awesome.

19:54He's got a... He likes to... He's like, oh, I like gaming. So I got a game, like a gaming room, like a LAN room where he's got like six computers. And he's like, yeah, me and my cousins all come here and play or whatever. I think like I've always been a big proponent of like a chef. I think to me, it's the number one wealth luxury is to have a private chef because of the amount of time it saves, the health benefits for you and your family, and the taste. All three, it's a win-win-win. And so, yeah, I thought that was pretty cool too. And then you got to hang out with Nick Gray. Nick Gray is one of my favorite people on earth.

20:32And you got to see his magic, what he does with his parties. It's pretty cool, right? Yeah. So the end here is we do all the interviews. We do all the one-on-one meetings. And at the end, it's like, dude, there's a list of 100 people that are interesting and awesome we would want to hang out with, but there's just no time. So we were like, let's just do a small house party. So we did a small 15-person house party and we asked Nick to organize. So I got to see Nick Gray, the legend, run one of his famous two-hour cocktail parties. Go buy his book, Two-Hour Cocktail Party. This guy is so... He is such a legend in just his vibe.

21:04It's awesome, right? He makes you feel good. I was going to tell you this hilarious story. So he does all the normal Nick Gray things. I walk in. He puts a name tag on my shirt. The name tag is yellow so that after we all do our intro, he's like, we're just chatting. And normally, you're just chatting. You're mixing and mingling. And everybody... Our own social prowess is somewhat limited. Some people are really good at it. Some people feel awkward. You don't know how to exit conversations. Nick makes that easy because he'll be like, great. He plays the harmonica. He's like, we're going to do a structured activity.

21:34Look at the color of your name tag. Join that group. And I want you to talk to those people now. And so he will stir the pot basically to mix you up. So he's doing his thing. And then he's like, at the end, he's like, we're trying to leave. And he's like, hey, Sean, can you call my phone? I want to do a gag. And I'm like, what do you want to do? He's like, I have a gag. Call my phone. And I call his phone. and he reaches into his bag and he pulls out this giant handle of a butcher knife, but it's a phone case and his phone is on the other end of it. He's like, hello, this is my gag. I thought this was really funny.

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22:13And I was like, not only was that funny, I've never heard someone say, hey, hold on, I want to do a gag. Dude, he's great, right? Nick's a special person and he makes his parties fun. Did you guys do the introductions and then he cuts people off and they talk for more than 10 seconds? Yeah, he's awesome. We did a thing at the end where I guess he had been just slinking around the party to listen for interesting things. So he pulls out his notebook. He gets everyone in a circle. He's like, all right, Sean, you were saying you discovered this amazing hack for your business. And it was just so effective.

22:47What was that? And he gets you to share the thing. He's like, you mentioned you were doing an art show. Can you tell us about the art show? He had four or five people just do a thing. Like, it's definitely like, I feel like I'm in second grade and my teacher's like, it's, you know, put up your bunny ears and like, you know, just everybody quiet now. We're going to do a structured activity. But honestly, it's such a relief because I hate social gatherings. I don't even leave my house most times. And when I do, it's kind of an exhausting thing. But he's really got the shit down to a science. I kind of love it.

23:20But your takeaway in Austin, it's a pretty special place, isn't it? Fishing for a compliment. Yeah, sure. It's a very special place. It's cool. It's like there's a lot of cool people there. And I didn't know you this. You hung out with one other person, Hasan. Hasan Minhaj. Dude, I do not like hanging out with him because he is so smart and so funny that I get intimidated being around him. Do you not feel that way? No, I had the opposite reaction. I walked away and I was like, dude, Ben, that is one of my favorite people on earth to hang out with. If you said, hey, and it was perfect. It was like a breakfast before I caught my flight.

23:52I basically missed my flight because I was having so much fun at the breakfast. I was like, fuck it. It's worth it. He is so great. I'll give you the three reasons why it showed out to me. Number one, obviously humor. It's unfair. He's a ringer. Hanging out with anybody who's funny is great. But hanging out with a professional comedian, it's sort of like he brought a gun to a knife fight. It's intimidating when you hang out with him or when I hung out with him because he just makes little small comments. And I'm like, you're just so much quicker and funnier than me. He's so much quicker, dude.

24:21He's so much quicker. He's so fast. He's so fast. It's like a JV athlete hanging out with a pro where it's like, I don't even want to play with you. This isn't fun. That's how fast he is. I love seeing it. It was amazing. He's so quick. And then number two, present. He is so present when you hang out, which is great. Not looking at his phone, not thinking about what to do next, not eyeing the room, fully locked in, fully present, which I thought was really great. And the other thing is he asked a ton of questions. So we had a different hangout with... We did a breakfast thing with a different billionaire type of guy.

24:55Nice guy, had a great time. But I shit you not, dude, this guy literally asked one question in a two and a half hour hangout. And it was not difficult because I had tons of questions for him. So it was no problem. But it was difficult to sit there and be like, is this person just really just doesn't give a fuck about being here? Do they not want to be here? Because they could leave. I don't need to do this if they just don't want to be here. Here's what I think it is. I think that so when you and I host like MFM meetups, I go there and I'm like, I'm just going to get peppered with questions. And I'm going to ask other people questions to be cordial and everything.

25:26But I feel like, you know, there's like a status like game here. They're here to see me. So I'm going to be answering the questions. And then you go hang out with someone who's above you in status. And it's like, I'm the one who's the mentee in this situation. I'm going to be asking you all the questions. And I think when you're as successful as this person who you went and hung out with, you're just used to being the, I don't know, not particularly wise one, but you're the one that's supposed to have a lot more answers. And you have what others are seeking. And so you're used to just being the one who's, I'm going to be an open book.

25:54I'm going to answer. What do you got? You know what I mean? And that shift, it's like an alpha shift. It is really uncomfortable. But I think it's totally understandable. But I also think, I almost wish I had said it, but I kind of wish people are aware of what that makes the other person feel like. It was a good reminder to self of never make other people feel that way. I think Hasan was the opposite where he asked so many questions. His cup is not full. He's here and he's like, pour some water into me. Give me something to think about, something to learn, something to whatever. And he's asking tons of questions.

26:29And I think that's such an attractive trait in people. And it was just a good reminder of that. On this trip, I got to be in both positions. Some places where the status game was sort of shifted one way and others where it was totally shifted the other way. it was a great reminder of what it feels like and how easy it is to just make somebody feel amazing like um i think hudson does that you know really really well hey quick message here because you know that feeling when you send a wire and it actually works no friction well i've used mercury for years now let me tell you it just works and that's why i use it for not one not two but eight of my companies from credit cards to invoices i have everything in one place there's no janky dashboard i'm never told please please visit a local bank branch.

27:11None of that tomfoolery. And a few months ago, I landed a big client. And the first thing I did, I sent them a clean branded invoice. Boom, deal closed, cash in the door. That's the kind of banking experience I want. And that's why I use Mercury. So if you're running a startup and you want banking that feels like it's built in this century, well, go to mercury.com and get started in minutes. Mercury is a financial technology company, not a bank. Banking services are provided through Choice Financial Group, Column A, and Evolve Bank & Trust members FDIC. I have a couple others. Can I give you two others real quick?

27:42Yeah. Do you know this guy, the Peachy Babies guy? No. You haven't met this guy? Okay. So he's an awesome. I thought you might've met him. His name's Tyler. So there's this company called Peachy Babies and they sell slime on the internet. Not just a little slime on the internet. They sell a lot of slime on the internet. Tens of millions of dollars worth of slime gets sold from these guys. They got like, If you go to their TikTok, they have 10 million followers on TikTok. And the reason why is because they create awesome content. The content drives sales. It's just this great engine. So anyways, I was pretty fascinated.

28:15I'm talking to this guy and I'm like, he was at the house party. So I was like, what's the story? And he told me a pretty fascinating story. He's like, well, before doing this, I was a pro poker player. I was looking to transition out. And he said, before I was a pro poker player, I was the best Yu-Gi-Oh! player in the country. So he goes from the top Yu-Gi-Oh! player to one of the top poker players. What's Yu-Gi-Oh! Is Yu-Gi-Oh! like Pokemon? Yeah, it's like a Pokemon type thing. And then he meets this girl, and she's telling him about this slime business she used to have, but she shut down. And as he asked some questions, he was like, hmm, that actually sounds kind of promising.

28:53What if we revive that? Which I thought was just pretty impressive to take a business that somebody else shut down and be like, I don't know. Seems like there might be legs there. Let's try it. and they tried it and they ended up crushing with it. And the only takeaway I have from this guy was he totally pattern matches to what I've been saying so many times on this podcast, which is that people who have a background as a competitive either gamer or in some competitive niche, spelling bee, Yu-Gi-Oh, poker, whatever. Those people who learn how to win that game, learn how to win at League of Legends, or they're the number one sneaker flipper in California or some shit like that.

29:29As soon as they just pick a better game, they're going to win that too. And that really gets me to something I really want to do, and it's a call to action I have for anybody that's in the audience, is I really want to organize some kind of event that pulls together the people that are young and doing those types of things. The mathletes, the best Pokemon players, the best League of Legends players, whatever, best Fortnite players. Because it's just a matter of time until they get the spark to shift their game. And I want to do two things. I want to invite other people who have that background.

30:01For example, Joe Lonsdale. He was a competitive mathlete. And that's what he was doing, right? Super dork at that age. But those types of people are always going to make it. The founder of this company called Traba, he's the spelling bee kid, right? We talked about that on the Pomp episode. As soon as they decide to play a better game, they have a great ability to do excellent things. I'm sure some percentages never shift games. They kind of stick in that world too long or they just become a coach in that world. They never really start to apply it to the world of business. But if they did, they would do phenomenal.

30:29So I want to organize some event. What's that channel or the show you like? Something 100? Physical 100. Yeah, exactly. The unphysical 100? The laptop 100. Yeah. And so what are you going to do? You're going to host like a... So I need a name and a frame, right? I need a name and a frame for the thing. and then I want somebody to organize it. I'll put up 100 grand to pay for all the event stuff. And I just really want to... For those people, I want to give them exposure to, hey, here's 20 people who have the same background as you that then shifted their game and now do amazing things in the world.

31:07So I want to have them meet. And then I want to scout that talent and be like, hey, whenever you're ready to go do something new, I'll be your first investor. And so that's what I want to create. You can get a cargo short company as a sponsor or like a wrist guard company as a sponsor. Purple Tunnel Shields. Yeah. You make fun of these nerds. Watch them. Watch. You'll be groveling to them years from now. Hey, I acknowledge that they're all going to be the big shots, but I'm still going to tease them. What was the last person? All right. I'll give you a quick one and then I have a little bit longer one.

31:40So a quick one is a little lesson. So I was talking to a guy who also is doing tens of millions this year on TikTok. shops. And so they're crushing on TikTok. Not a game I play, but it's a very lucrative game for those who cracked it. And I said something in passing. I was like, oh, yeah, I saw this TikTok that had this hook. The hook being the first three seconds of the video. I was like, oh, I thought that was a great hook. And I had been talking to this guy for three hours. I thought I had said 50 interesting things by then. He didn't flinch at any of the 49. But on this 50th one, he immediately goes, wait, wait, what was that again?

32:18And he takes out his notebook and he writes it down. And he goes, he's like, did you tell your friend that they should do this? You should definitely tell your friend that they should do this. And I was like, no, I just thought it was just a silly TikTok. And he's like, no, no, no, that's not a silly TikTok. He goes, one hook like that can make your whole company. And it was a great lesson that I actually saw five times during the trip, which was when you meet a really interesting or successful person, pay attention to what they pay attention to. So he leaned into that. And maybe Monish would not have leaned into that, but he would have leaned into something else that I said.

32:56And if you start to pay attention to what people lean into, it teaches you a lot about what matters in their game and in their world and how their brain works. And maybe something to you just looks like rubbish, but to them, it's gold. And so it just was a good reminder of pay attention to what other people pay attention to. like if somebody was talking to you what would they see you whip out your phone to write down or notes that you would want to take that's a good question um well something related to my current business but uh yeah like like like you know if someone says something about retention or something or how to create a breakthrough amongst a group of people who don't know each other right right or before for you it might have been something in writing oh i love the way he phrased that it's a good yeah or like a really good ad for uh acquiring newsletter subscribers You had a note or a doc that was like a swipe file of awesome ways that people phrase things, beautiful writing, little phrases.

33:54Most people don't pay attention to those things. They don't collect those. Well, it makes sense that you ended up being a guy who's known for writing and wrote a newsletter that millions of people read. It makes sense once you connect the two. And so I just thought that was really, really indicative. Last one. I got to watch Ben cook. So Ben Levy, my business partner, who is the secret to anything that I'm able to do. Ben's superpower is connecting with people. And I wanted to share with you one little thing that he does. So every time we would go to a meeting... Because imagine our schedule is basically like...

34:28We meet with somebody for, let's say, 2 hours. There's a 10-minute Uber ride before we're going to meet somebody else. And we were just doing that nonstop for 4 days. And I got to feel like the president because I'd be like, Who are we meeting now? I don't even know the schedule. And he'd be like, we're meeting this guy. And then he would always have his one thing. And I'm like, because I'd be like, oh, what are we going to talk about? Maybe we tell him about what we're doing with this. But Ben's focus was always, what's the one thing we can connect with them on? And so he was just really good at this.

34:57Anytime we would go meet with somebody, Ben would have his one thing that he would bring up. And the person would immediately crack open a pistachio shell. And it'd be like, all of a sudden, they're excited. They're talking. And it would open it up. And Ben probably wouldn't even say anything else for the rest of the meeting. It's like Ben talks less than 10 % of the time when we go to these things. But it's the one thing he says which cracks the person open. So what's an example of one thing? So we will meet with somebody who's known for X. Let's say they're a YouTuber with 10 million subscribers.

35:27But what Ben knows is that they started this side channel that's just starting and it's not that popular yet. But it's about one thing. their hobby, their interest in this one area. And he'll be like, Oh, you're really into that, right? And he wouldn't even phrase it as some profound question. But he'll just ask them... He'll just try to connect with them about the one thing where clearly their passion is. They have some passion around it, but it's not the thing they're famous for. I noticed he would do that over and over again. Oh, we hung out with Joe Gebbia. And he's known because he's the creator of Airbnb.

36:01And so we're hanging out. And instead of asking about Airbnb, he would say, you're really into microplastics, right? Aren't you really trying to figure out a way to not have... What's that about? And then all of a sudden, Joe, who's told the Airbnb story a million times, and every time I was asking about Airbnb, it was like, I'm forcing him to play his greatest hits. All of a sudden, he lights up because he's really into this right now. He's learning things. It's more of an area he's really into right now. So he would just find that one thing. And then afterwards, he had his one thing too, which was after the meeting, I'm like, okay where are we gonna go eat like that's where my brain goes whereas ben's like oh we should connect him with this one person or we should send him a link to this or we should send him that example we have of the thing he said he wanted to do um or like oh you have you've talked about that you should send him a note about that thing and it really i was like what are you doing and he's like i'm just trying to be useful and then when we talked to munish he talked about you know he was really good friends with charlie munger he said when charlie munger died I think on his tombstone, it is written or he wanted to have it written.

37:02Charlie Munger, he tried to be useful. And to me, I'm like, that's what Ben does. He just tries to be useful for people like, oh, we can help this person with this one little thing. He just keeps doing that. And then that's how he builds these amazing connections with people just by trying to be useful to them in a way that I am so bad at it. Ben has this other quality to him, which is he's always mostly happy. I've never seen Ben... I've never really seen him in a bad mood. And so when he asks these things, sometimes he'll ask me that are pretty private. But because he's always so happy about it, I'm like, yeah, whatever.

37:35We can talk. This is a safe space. He is a safe space. The last thing that's hilarious that he does is he never turns it off. We will be playing in a pickup basketball game. And it's like, we're going to 11. It's 10-9. It's game point. And he'll be guarding some guy. And he'll be like... He'll just be like, Like, so what was revenue last month? I was just like, asking him questions like, oh, I heard you. I saw you tweeting about this thing. And the guy's like so thrown off. Like, dude, what? Now still? And like, it's just like so endearing. He's like, dude, he's just so curious. He just can't turn it off.

38:07He's always, he never turns it off, even mid game, which is so funny to me. I was with Ben at a family's birthday party and he was in on mode. And I was like, Ben, let's ask this freaking 12 year old. We were with a friend who was dating a new woman and she brought her daughter around. And I go, Ben, ask the daughter about school or something. I was like, I don't know. Engage the kid. I'm not talking about my revenue in front of this new lady.

38:36It was so funny. It was like, so what's churn like? How much money do you have? I'm like, Ben. Well, it's not always personal. Sometimes it's just like, how was Austin? Right? But it's like, dude, now's not the time for the how was Austin conversation. It's not even that it's always personal questions. It's just that the curiosity, there is no... You go, he was in on mode. There's no off mode. I've never seen him in off mode. I hang out with the guy 24-7. It's amazing. All right. You had a good trip. I mean, I could actually listen to these stories all day. And I'm going to listen to the podcast.

39:06I never listen to our podcast. I don't know if you do or what you do. When I'm not on it, I'll listen to it. Yeah, I do listen to yours. I listen to yours as well. But if I'm on it, I will never listen to it. I'm incredibly excited about Joe Lonsdale. I know you talked to Tim Ferriss. I know Tim a little bit. So I'm less excited about that just because I know I'm already. But I'm excited about Monish. I'm excited about his and Joe Lonsdale. So I'm happy that you got to hang out with him. It seemed pretty good for you personally to be able to experience that. Yeah. The funny thing is, it's like most things in life.

39:35You think the payoff is over here, but actually it's over here. I think every time I go into these episodes, I think the payoff is, oh, I'm going to make a great episode. But it's like, by the time I've done the research on these fascinating people, gotten to know them, gotten to hang out with them at their house, that was all the value. The episode itself is gravy for me. And I hope they turn out great. And I think that these ones did. But the reality is like... And I think there's a principle of most things in life. You have some goal. You have some idea you think is the reason you should do it.

40:04But it's like something along the journey is actually the valuable thing. You just couldn't have known that. You just have to go pursue it full force and then it happened. So hopefully this episode was me sharing some of the random nuggets along the way. besides the episodes that you'll get to see when they come out. All right. That's the part.

40:40Hey, let's take a quick break because there's a quote that I love I want to read you. It's that we shape our tools and thereafter they shape us. And, you know, as an entrepreneur, if you're using a bank that was built in the 90s, you're operating like you're in the 90s. And trust me, I've been there. Clunky portals, random holds on your money,$50 wire fees, and then being told, please visit your local branch. Well, that's why I switched to a different type of banking solution, Mercury. It turns your financial chores into a smooth workflow. You can do wires, invoices, cards, reimbursements, two clicks, and I'm done.

41:12If you're already using Mercury, respect. If you're still using one of the old big banks, I got questions for you. So go visit Mercury.com and give it a test drive. Mercury is a financial technology company, not a bank. Banking services are provided through Choice Financial Group, Column N8, and Evolve Bank & Trust members FDIC.

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Episode 572: Sam Parr ( https://twitter.com/theSamParr ) and Shaan Puri ( https://twitter.com/ShaanVP ) talk about the 10 revelations learned from spending a week with Texas billionaires. 
Want to see Sam and Shaan’s smiling faces? Head to the MFM YouTube Channel and subscribe - http://tinyurl.com/5n7ftsy5
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Show Notes:
(0:00) Tim Ferriss asks Shaan a hard question (panic ensues)
(2:46) The Indian Warren Buffett
(7:25) "Investing is not a team sport"
(8:31) Mohnish Pabrai’s Nap Room
(10:28) Required reading list of a billionaire
(11:47) He built 5 billion-dollar companies by 41
(15:39) 5 Revelations from a day with Joe Lonsdale
(19:50) The final level of the money game: private chefs, full size basketball court, etc
(20:52) Nick Gray, cocktail party legend
(23:45) Hanging out with smarter people
(27:17) Nerd sports that make the best entrepreneurs
(31:17) Pay attention to what other people pay attention to
(33:47) Ben Levy's superpower as a superconnector

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Links:
• The Dhando Investor - https://tinyurl.com/53p9bhfv
• PeachyBbies - https://peachybbies.com/

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Check Out Shaan's Stuff:
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Check Out Sam's Stuff:
• Hampton - https://www.joinhampton.com/
• Ideation Bootcamp - https://www.ideationbootcamp.co/
• Copy That - https://copythat.com
• Hampton Wealth Survey - https://joinhampton.com/wealth

My First Million is a HubSpot Original Podcast // Brought to you by The HubSpot Podcast Network // Production by Arie Desormeaux // Editing by Ezra Bakker Trupiano

Past guests on My First Million include Rob Dyrdek, Hasan Minhaj, Balaji Srinivasan, Jake Paul, Dr. Andrew Huberman, Gary Vee, Lance Armstrong, Sophia Amoruso, Ariel Helwani, Ramit Sethi, Stanley Druckenmiller, Peter Diamandis, Dharmesh Shah, Brian Halligan, Marc Lore, Jason Calacanis, Andrew Wilkinson, Julian Shapiro, Kat Cole, Codie Sanchez, Nader Al-Naji, Steph Smith, Trung Phan, Nick Huber, Anthony Pompliano, Ben Askren, Ramon Van Meer, Brianne Kimmel, Andrew Gazdecki, Scott Belsky, Moiz Ali, Dan Held, Elaine Zelby, Michael Saylor, Ryan Begelman, Jack Butcher, Reed Duchscher, Tai Lopez, Harley Finkelstein, Alexa von Tobel, Noah Kagan, Nick Bare, Greg Isenberg, James Altucher, Randy Hetrick and more.
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