In short
The episode is a mix of business storytelling and personal philosophy. The hosts start with a listener letter and then a “billionaire of the week” profile: Italy’s Ferrero family, behind Ferrero Rocher, Nutella, Kinder products, and Tic Tac.
Key claims
the family’s post-WWII breakthrough was “Super Crema,” a spreadable chocolate precursor to Nutella; Nutella was rebranded after a government ban on “crema” in the name; Tic Tac succeeded by changing the mint’s hard-to-open tin into an easy, shareable form factor; the family is famously secretive, with armed-guard factory access and little media exposure.
Notable examples
vintage Tic Tac ads, Nutella’s spreadability problem, and the family’s later strategy of acquiring brands (Butterfinger, Baby Ruth, Crunch).
Guests
no named guests appear; it’s primarily the hosts plus a referenced producer (Ben Wilson) and a listener (Quentin Wood).
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Chapters
Tap a time to open that second in VOCelebrating Quentin's Achievement
0:45 to 2:14
Discussion about Quentin's graduation invitation and the importance of embracing youthful emotions.
“Your podcast brought me a lot of joy and helped me through long runs and study sessions.”
Introduction to Ferrero
2:14 to 4:10
Exploring the fascinating story of Italy's richest family and their chocolate empire.
“Okay, I want to tell you about this business story that, to me, this is a Billy of the week.”
The Birth of Nutella
4:10 to 6:03
The evolution of chocolate production after WWII leading to the creation of Nutella.
“So back in the day, this was post, right after World War II, Italy, which was like, you know, not in great shape post-World War II, it was trying to kind of bounce back.”
Innovation and Branding
6:03 to 7:16
The story of how Ferrero revolutionized branding and product design with Tic Tacs.
“And he makes it, he tweaks the recipe, makes it better.”
The Secretive Nature of Ferrero
7:39 to 11:50
Insights into the secretive operations and marketing strategies of Ferrero.
“Yeah, so Tic Tac was a brilliant name also.”
Familial Dynamics and Success
11:50 to 14:00
Discussion on the family dynamics within Ferrero and the lessons learned from their success.
“I'm going to create before I remember I'm already rich and I don't want to work and I had this way too much work to do any of that.”
Exploring Family Dynamics in Business
14:00 to 14:40
Discussing the dynamics of successful families in business, comparing different examples.
“I would love to, I listened to, the reason I know very little about it, but I know some about it is because Founders, the Founders podcast, he did an episode on the family.”
The Importance of Early Passion
14:41 to 16:52
How early identification of passion can lead to extraordinary success in various fields.
“I think that like the stories of Succession, the movie or the TV show and like the drama, I don't think that is actually the common thing.”
The Golden Window of Opportunity
16:53 to 19:18
Discussing the critical age range for discovering and nurturing interests in children.
“If you read these guys, they, you know, Mr.”
Parenting for Exposure and Exploration
19:19 to 24:38
The necessity of exposing children to various experiences for personal growth.
“like this sort of intuitive gut learning that's happening during that phase.”
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Learning from Real-World Experiences
24:39 to 27:20
The value of practical experiences and mentorship in a child's learning journey.
“And so the thing I want to make sure I do for my kids is get you to at least feel and see what different, what the world is, what are, what's even on the menu of options so that you have some exposure in life.”
A Chance Encounter with a Billionaire
27:21 to 28:00
A surprising conversation with a billionaire about AI and business.
“You and I, we get invited to some stuff that occasionally is interesting.”
Encounter with a Mysterious Billionaire
28:00 to 31:55
Learn about an intriguing conversation with a billionaire in finance.
“Three cities don't have water right now because these pants fit so well.”
The Power of Curiosity
31:55 to 36:29
Discover how curiosity can improve relationships and personal wellbeing.
“And it was like, oh, there's all these different people.”
Facing Terminal Illness: Ben's Journey
37:16 to 41:44
A heartfelt reflection on a friend's battle with cancer and its impact.
“It's going to sound sad, and it is sad, but I think it's really interesting.”
Reflections on Life and Death
41:44 to 42:02
Exploring how a friend's illness inspires deeper thoughts on life.
“The first is, you know, if you haven't listened already, go listen to his podcast where he announced it.”
Reflections on Faith and Personal Growth
42:02 to 45:45
Explore the transformative power of faith and the distinction between achieving greatness and being great.
“You have every right to feel, you know, any of the feelings you want to feel.”
Support and Well-Wishes for Ben
45:45 to 47:13
The hosts share their support and fond memories of Ben, emphasizing the importance of a rich life beyond money.
“And we try hard to like let people know that this isn't just about money.”
Transcript
Automatic transcript. May contain errors.0:00Sam Parr:I gotta bleep this out, but... And he's extremely multi-billionaire. Extremely multi-billionaire. Extremely. I feel like I can rule the world. I know I could be what I want to. I put my all in it like no days off. On the road, let's travel. Sam, I have here in front of me a letter that I need to read for you. So I open the mail, and I see an invitation like this to a graduation. And I think that's not my cousin. That's not my nephew. Who is this? Dear Sean, my name is Quentin Wood. I've been listening to MFM since 2021. Over the last five years, you and Sam's podcast has made a huge impact on my life, shaping how I see the world, investing in stocks, my goals, my life.
0:45Your podcast brought me a lot of joy and helped me through long runs and study sessions. You and Sam have directed my life for the better. So thank you. I'm a high school senior this year. And because of the profound impact you've made in my life, I want to invite you to my graduation and graduation party. He lives in Colorado. Thank you for taking the time to read this and everything you do. Keep making more episodes. Sincerely, Quentin Wood, high school senior. Baller. Isn't this amazing? Baller.
1:16Sam Parr:Congrats, Quentin. Take a bow, Quentin.
1:23Sam Parr:How good is that, man? I love this kid. If you're under the age of 24, you should do some of these things that might sound insulting. Like we said, that's endearing, or I would never say that's cute, but like you feel like that emotion. You should 100 % embrace doing those things because you can only get away with this for the very small time. And it's totally appropriate and totally awesome. It's like poop in your pants. You can only do it for so long. And then you can do it like later in life. But like you, like this type of stuff, 100 % is awesome. And by the way, a bunch of people have written letters, but just inviting to the high school graduation was so endearing.
2:02I just thought, I was like, oh, that's so like, so wonderful. And Diego was like, so we're going to go? I was like, no, hell no. We're definitely not going. But I will play him the song and give him the clap. This is great. Okay, I want to tell you about this business story that, to me, this is a Billy of the week. So this is a billionaire family that I found really fascinating. I've been into these like family dynasties. Last week, I think we were talking about Cargill. And this one is... Wait, I want to try and guess these. I like trying to guess. Let me give you a couple of clues so you know which direction you're going.
2:38The richest man in Italy.
2:41Sam Parr:Sunglasses or chocolate? Chocolate. Okay. Do you know who it is? Yeah. Roche Roche is it called Roche something Ferrer Roche yeah so okay well you got that pretty quick it's a lot less fun when you just know the answer if I was a teacher I would just be like well fine teach yourself then and walk out of the glass dude this family story is amazing so I love Ferrer Roche the chocolate I don't know if you've like if you're a fan do we have one oh here so for those who don't know I have some here. I got this from the grocery store this morning because I was so inspired by these guys. I was like, I'm going to go support their small business.
3:26Yeah, he bought local. He's worth$32 billion. So these chocolates are kind of amazing. The packaging is amazing. If you've ever had one of these, you really feel like you're eating something special. And that got me kind of interested in like, what's the backstory of this? Turns out this family invented Nutella. They invented Tic Tacs. They invented like a whole bunch of Kinder, the Kinder bars and Kinder eggs. They invented like several of these like really big things. And now they own a whole bunch of other businesses. So I want to tell you the story of this company that it's one of the most secretive family-owned businesses in the world.
3:59They do like$20 billion a year in revenue. The founder, the main guy, the heir, he runs the company and is the richest man in Italy. And the way they did it, it's really fascinating. So back in the day, this was post, right after World War II, Italy, which was like, you know, not in great shape post-World War II, it was trying to kind of bounce back. And so this guy, the grandfather of this guy, he decides, I'm going to start making chocolate. Chocolate was really expensive. It was like this luxury item. It wasn't like a little common thing you found at every store. Not everybody was eating it.
4:36And so he starts, but he had the form factor wrong. He was trying to make a bar, like a spread. so it's like butter. It would be like this kind of hard chocolate, like butter stick essentially. And his idea was like, people will put this on toast and you'll have like a chocolatey toast.
4:52Sam Parr:And I think at the time, like chocolate was like something like, it was like the equivalent of caviar. Like if you went to like a fancy dinner party, you would see it. And if I remember correctly, I don't even think it tasted nearly like it tastes now. It wasn't like - They've just added butter and sugar over the years to the mix. It's like, because if you have like a cacao bean or cacao powder, it's like bitter. It's like very bitter, right? So you really have to like butter and sugar it up. So he tries the bar. People don't like it. They're complaining. They're like, it's too hard. Doesn't spread easily.
5:20So he's like, okay, I got to solve the spread problem. And he comes up with a jar with like a creamy chocolate, like a jam basically. And it's like a precursor to Nutella. It wasn't quite Nutella yet, but the idea was like make it super spreadable, put it in a jar and it was called Super Crema. And so he starts trying to sell Super Crema and it's doing okay. It's him. He's like the chef and he's just trying to make like delicious pastries basically. And he's got the brother who's the business side and they're doing all right. Not great. But over time, the son takes over and the son is a bit more of an innovator.
5:55So first, I think the government like bans the use of crema in the name. So he's got to rebrand it anyways. And he decides to call it Nutella. And it was because hazelnuts are a big ingredient for the thing. And he makes it, he tweaks the recipe, makes it better. And the son starts innovating. He gets in the lab and he basically creates, he notices that breath mints are great, but there's all these problems. They come in these like big tins, hard to carry around, right? This like big giant rectangle to open it up. You had to like kind of find the seam and pop it open. And then, you know, if you wanted to like share it with somebody, they had to like dig through, touch all of them.
6:30And so he creates the Tic Tac form factor. So way easier to open, smaller box, smaller form factor. and the ads were all like one person's hand out and then putting a Tic Tac in. And it was basically like a Tic Tac was almost like a social gift. It was a social icebreaker, something you want from somebody else. So carrying it was almost like a thing of power.
6:50Sam Parr:These old Tic Tac ads are so good. If you Google vintage Tic Tac Italian ads, the old ads are like pretty awesome. A lot of the ads would have a question mark, which you would not normally do. You wouldn't say Tic Tac question mark, but the whole thing is basically, it's an offer to somebody else. and it's just a way to be smooth. Wait, it's small talk for the mouth. Was Tic Tac the original name? Hey, I want to tell you about something pretty cool. We have a database of all of the business ideas that have been discussed on this podcast. So hundreds of episodes, the team at HubSpot went through, they pulled out all the simple, relatable, interesting, profitable ideas that we have brainstormed, and they're all available for download for free.
7:31Just click the link in the description below. Thank you to our friends at HubSpot for sponsoring this podcast and putting together this free resource for you guys. Back to the show. Yeah, so Tic Tac was a brilliant name also. And it starts getting used in movies because the name is just like fun to say. And then he's like, we've talked about Touchland Soap, this woman who sold this company for I think$800 million or something recently. And what she does is she took Purell hand sanitizer, this utilitarian, ugly product. And she made it look like women's perfume. and it came in different scents.
8:06And it was all hand sanitizer, but, you know, something small you'd want to carry in your purse that looked cool, smelled great, and didn't have like, you know, just competed in a different dimension than hand sanitizer. Not trying to kill more germs per second, but say your hands aren't going to smell like ethanol at the end of this, right? So then you have the Ferochet like packaging where it's like this, you know, these golden nuggets, these like special things that are put into this. And so just brilliant all around in terms of like how they, how they did the marketing genius behind some of these things.
8:40And so the brand takes off. It's doing really, really well. He's an innovator. And now they're super secretive. I think for like up until four or five years ago, they had never done an interview. They had never let anyone into the factory. It was like on some real Willy Wonka shit. They, you know, it was like one journalist who got in was like, this is actually less like Willy Wonka. It's more like Area 51. There was armed guards because they build their own machinery to produce the chocolate. So they didn't want anyone to know the engineering behind their machinery, the recipes behind Nutella.
9:11They didn't want to know anything. And they weren't really even using it for marketing purposes. Like the grandfather, all the photos of him, you'll see he's wearing dark sunglasses. He just never wanted to be seen, never wanted to be known. and so only very recently did they start doing anything and so then you have the grants on the third gen and so gen one was kind of like the pioneer trying to make it happen was kind of like you know pioneers or what settlers get pioneers get slaughtered then the settlers do whatever then the townspeople build the empire it's kind of that same thing so you know he didn't really make it but the son had the breakthrough innovations and then that guy's son took on a totally different strategy.
9:50He went Warren Buffett. He was basically like, all right, inventing these products really hard, really expensive, really low hit rate. What if we went and found value brands that we could turn around? And so he went and bought Butterfingers and Baby Ruth and Crunch and like all these brands, acquired them, tried to revitalize the brand and then bring them back. And so he's built this portfolio of other brands now. And he took like an M &A approach. And I just thought, What's the Italian word for private equity? Because that's what these guys do. This is some beautiful private equity that I've been seeing in play here for the last 80 years.
10:25That is so cool.
10:27Sam Parr:I bought a Butterfinger last night. I freaking love Butterfinger. I feel old, but I did. Just me, myself, and Sam having a Butterfinger or what? I went to the CVS and I got the movie style. You know how they put movie style candy in the box with mini Butterfingers? I totally had a whole box of myself last night. So I'm on board with this guy. I don't like Butterfinger. Love Crunch. Baby Ruth. By the way, not named after Babe Ruth. It's not? No. It's named after Ruth Cleveland, the daughter of President Grover Cleveland. Oh, is Babe Ruth, the baseball player, named after her then? I don't think so.
11:11Sam Parr:Dude, you can't have two Babe Ruth. I mean, that's like, there's not like... I don't know how they got away with that. This is pretty awesome. Why are you fascinated by this topic? Because it's clearly a trend. Well, I have all these themes. So one is like huge businesses hidden in plain sight is always something that's interesting to me. So like, you know, I've been eating this, but I never took the time to think, who made this? What's the story of this? Why does this packaging look so different than any other product in the entire store? And why don't more people do this? Why isn't like, how can you apply this marketing principle to another category?
11:47Like I just can't believe people aren't doing that. So that immediately my brain starts firing and I start fantasizing about these products I'm going to create before I remember I'm already rich and I don't want to work and I had this way too much work to do any of that. But if somebody ever did it, you know, like, you know, kudos to them.
12:01Sam Parr:Rory Sutherland, who we had on, he talked about, what's the name of the soda that has the piece of foil on top? You know, the Italian, also Italian actually. Oh, Pellegrino? No. You're close. Pella something. It starts with a P. It's like that lemonade-y type thing, right? It's like a lemon-flavored Italian soda. Is it San Pellegrino? Okay. I thought San Pellegrino was also water, but this is like San Pellegrino like soda. Yeah. And he was explaining how the tin over it, he's like, that's a really small thing, but they did it to be like, this can is extra clean and special. Fresh. It's never been like, yeah.
12:34Sam Parr:Pop of the seal. He was explaining the importance of something fairly insignificant in the grand scheme and how, and he was explaining the psychology behind it. And that really got me thinking, and you're, you're describing the exact same thing with the, uh, with the candy. It's wrapped in like a gold tin. And I was thinking about that a lot. And I guess it's another Italian company pulling it off. Yeah. So I love the marketing mind. That's always a fascinating thing. I love businesses hidden plain sight. I'm always a sucker for, you know, the richest man in Italy. And I'm like, sure. Don't, you know, tell me like, there's going to be an interesting story.
13:05And then I am also interested in these kind of family dynasty businesses because I think it's the businesses that really like withstand the test of time they have to do like several miracles and one of the great miracles is that it has to get passed down to somebody who doesn't screw it up and what I thought was kind of cool there was a story about one of the one of the generations I don't know if it's the current one by the way I'm opening one of these up I don't know if it's the current one or it's the middle son. But he said something like, he didn't even realize they were rich until he was like 15 years old.
13:39He's like, I had no idea. They kept that from me. It's like the four housekeepers didn't tip you off. So I don't know exactly how that was possible, but apparently there was something in the upbringing where I think they just spent so much time actually working in the factory and on the product that it wasn't clear. Like there was more about the work and the craft than it was about the prizes.
14:02Sam Parr:That's awesome. I would love to, I listened to, the reason I know very little about it, but I know some about it is because Founders, the Founders podcast, he did an episode on the family. And it's a pretty old one. So I listened to it a while ago. But it would be curious. I would be curious to see. Hey, would you ever like to listen to Founders without the research? MFM, we're here for you. While you're stuffing your face with food, which is like, that sounds great on the mic. Let me hear you chew. This 9 a.m. chocolate is hitting the spot. Dude, I had sweet tarts for breakfast. It's intermittent fasting, but you intermittently eat a fair rocher while you're fasting.
14:39Sam Parr:I want to know like the family dynamics. I'm so curious. I think that like the stories of Succession, the movie or the TV show and like the drama, I don't think that is actually the common thing. I think that like there is a way where you can be like harmonious and loving and also like good at this whole business thing. And it's just less interesting to write or read about that or make a movie or a TV show about it. Harmony, yeah. Yeah. But it would be really exciting to like read a book on how they do it effectively. Another family that did it effectively is the Rothschild family. Do you know about those guys?
15:16I mean, I just know the name. I don't know what they did in the family.
15:19Sam Parr:Like there's a crazy story where the original clan, so they're known now as like Illuminati-esque where it's like mysterious. But the original story is, I believe they were in Germany in the 1800s. And the dad was into business and banking. And he had five sons. And he seemed very loving and respectful with them. And he purposely asked them to move when they became adults to different countries and do the banking trade that he was doing and teaching them. And that is how they became this amazingly successful European family. But the kids were like, no, he was a really loving guy. He taught us good values, and we like doing this with him.
16:01Sam Parr:And so I've been reading a little bit about that family as well. Yeah. I mean, I don't know if I'm ever going to do that, but I did have a random idea recently that kind of fascinated me. So I was listening to some interview with the chef from Carbone, and he said something. The interview actually was a little bit boring, but he said one thing that I thought was pretty interesting. He goes, oh, I was always obsessed with food. I was 12 years old and I was an absolute foodie. I was always watching cooking shows. I knew about every restaurant. I knew I wanted to be a chef. And one of the greatest gifts that nobody really talks about, right?
16:37Like you want your kid to be really good at school or really good at sports, really whatever. I mean, really one of the best things you can do is figure out what you actually love to do in life. The earlier you figure that out, that's actually the big advantage. I think that was Warren Buffett's advantage. It's Warren Buffett's. it's everyone. If you read these guys, they, you know, Mr. Beast is like, yeah, 12, I just 11 years old. I decided I was going to die a YouTuber. Like I just wanted to be a YouTuber. That's all I wanted to do. And so from a, he's like, yeah, so I'm whatever he is now, 28.
17:06He's like, yeah, I've been doing this for 20 years. It's like, I've been doing this 17 years now. And so he's literally just spent more time on this than anyone else. Warren Buffett bought first stock at seven and basically was thinking about businesses, money and stocks since he was very young and, and had time during that golden window. And when I interviewed Monish Pabrai, I was asking about these books on the wall, a whole section on like science and neuroscience, neuroscience and psychology. And I go, what's something you really took away from reading a bunch of these? And he goes, we have a certain hard wiring that's kind of baked by the time you're six or seven, like your core nature, your DNA, you kind of know who that person is.
17:46But he goes, and there's a golden window. and I think the golden window was something like, you know, six to 16 years old. And during that 10 year window, if you found something that you can obsess over and you can, you get free reign to actually obsess over it during that window, you will hyper-specialize when the brain is in this certain period and you'll become world-class. Like you're, the rest of your life happens and if you really don't, and so he talks about this with investing. He's like, I don't invest in companies where the CEO doesn't have an evidence of the lemonade stand when they were 10 or 11.
18:21Because if you're an entrepreneur, you were an entrepreneur at an early stage. Now, I don't 100 % believe this, but I did think it's interesting. And you do see this pattern a lot. Did he have that? Did Manish have that? Yeah. So I asked him that and he was like, he's like, yes. And he goes, it wasn't for entrepreneurship. It was basically for like, his dad had a jewelry business or a gold business or something like that. And he's like, basically my MBA was every day my dad would come home and the business was failing. And me and my brother had to figure out something we could try to get this business to not fail, to have enough cash to be like in business next month.
18:57And so in doing that, he's like, I basically got my MBA when I was eight years old, every day, helping my dad with his jewelry business, working in the store, coming home, hearing the problems, hearing the inventory struggles, the cashflow management problem. If we have all these sales, why don't we have any money? Oh, because there's a difference between between revenue and profit, between profit and cash flow. And, you know, he's like learning these things without knowing the names of them, like this sort of intuitive gut learning that's happening during that phase.
19:22Sam Parr:And for the record, you don't need that to be pretty successful. Not to be pretty, but to be world-class. Yes, I think that that's the advantage that the best of the best of the best have. And you see like, oh, in the World Cup right now, it's like, um, La Mignamal. And it's like, how come the U.S. doesn't produce players like this? And it's like, well, because at age seven, he went and moved in to the soccer academy. and he was there from seven to 17. And guess what? He's amazing now at 18, which maybe your kid would have been too had they left the house and moved in, you know, to the soccer academy at age six or seven.
19:54And that's like really all they trained and focused on for a long period of time. Are you willing to do that? The book Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell talked a little bit about this. Like, you know, at a young age, Bill Gates and Paul Allen, the founders of Microsoft, their school was the first, one of the only schools in the country to have a computer. So he got to mess around with the computer for free, had free access to it after school for like a very long period of time. You know, Furkan, my old co-founder, he would tell me like, yeah, his dad worked at a computer company. So when he was five years old, like his earliest memory wasn't like playing catch with my dad.
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20:23It was like building a printer from scratch. It's like, yeah, no joke that now he can like build anything because during that golden window, he did that. Anyways, long way of saying, I've thought about how you could be somewhat intentional about this. Meaning if my kid shows an interest in something, I think I'm going to lean in way harder than most people would during the golden window. And I've thought about taking like a sabbatical year where I'm just like going to pluck them out of school for, you know, in fifth or sixth grade and just be like, hey, we're going to travel the world. And like, we're, I'm just going to develop you.
20:56I'm going to shape you now. Not like when I'm 65 and I retire and I have more time because you're going to be, the cookie's already crispy by then. You know what I mean? Like I got to do it when the dough is raw. And so I'm thinking about that. does that sound crazy? No, so it's so funny.
21:12Sam Parr:A friend for my birthday, a friend gifted me the Andre Agassi book that I haven't started it yet, but I was asking him what he learned. Have you ever read that? Andre Agassi's, his biography? No, I haven't. It's considered one of the best biographies and I'm not a tenant and my friend and I, neither of us are tennis guys, but he's like, it's so good. And I said, what's the big takeaway? And he was like, the crazy thing is, Andre didn't even seem like he loved tennis. And he frankly didn't seem like he had superstar, energy. Like he kind of begrudgingly did it, but he was pretty good. And I was like, well, how did he become like one of the greats of all time?
21:45Sam Parr:And he said, his dad, his dad was maniacal. His dad, like his dad saw that Andre showed a little bit of interest and he just pushed him and just went all in on it. And I was joking and I was like, okay, so maybe he, maybe he did or didn't have a good relationship with his father. I'm not sure. But I think that like these guys, like Serena Williams' dad, Andre Agassi's dad, like some of these harsh fathers, I'm like, They get a lot of shit, but it seems pretty worth it to have this tiger dad, this tiger mom energy. Hey, let's take a quick break. You know that feeling when strategy is done, the brief is written, everyone's aligned, and you realize someone still has to sit down and actually create all the content?
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22:44Sam Parr:I was watching Nadal's documentary on Netflix. Did you see that one? I've seen a little bit of it. I love Nadal. I love Nadal. His dad was the same way. His father was so hardcore about it and he pushed him and pushed him and pushed him and was his coach. And then there's this other guy named Sebastian Coe who's a famous runner. So not that many people are going to know who he is, but he had the world record for the mile. And his dad, Peter, was the same way where they would run and his father would be in the car with a stopwatch, timing every interval. Behind every great man is a great woman.
23:17It's like, and an abusive father.
23:21Sam Parr:I do think that there's a way that you can do this where you can like balance like being a good, like a nurturer and also a pusher. I'll clarify one thing. I'm not saying I'm going to like hyper train them for greatness on like, you know, hey, get up, we're running sprints every morning. like, you know, whatever up the hills. What I meant was really, I'm going to give them exposure because I think most people, the problem isn't that you found what you love and then you didn't keep doing it. Because when you really love something, it has a great amount of pull. You just do it anyways. I think what most people don't do is they don't really get to walk around Costco and sample the things.
23:54And I think that's actually the more interesting thing is like, how do you get somebody exposure? Because I would say the vast majority of people never even find out if they really love something. Because by the time you, like school is such a regimented track, right? You're spending eight hours a day doing the same exact things as every other kid. Did you happen to love photosynthesis? Did you happen to love trigonometry? Like probably not. And so by the, and then, and it's all just funneling you to get into a college. And when you get into a college and it's about getting a job, by the time you have a job, now you're working and you're trying to like pay for life.
24:25And by the time you're 30, you're like, well, I didn't really get that one, that, that opportunity to go figure out that actually it was podcasting that I really had an affinity to. I actually really loved that. Or it was, you know, whatever it is like baking. It was this, it was that it doesn't really, it's hard to even know. And I think most people never even know. And so the thing I want to make sure I do for my kids is get you to at least feel and see what different, what the world is, what are, what's even on the menu of options so that you have some exposure in life. Cause I don't think the world by default does a good job of giving you exposure.
24:52Sam Parr:You and I have a great friend, Ramon. So Ramon Van Meere. And he, Ramon had a difficult situation where he became a single dad when his son was only two years old. And I met Victor when he was, I think, three. Now he's actually a sophomore or junior in college. And he, Ramon was crazy. Partly he did this out of necessity, partly because he's a really amazing dad. And he would bring Victor, starting at the age of maybe seven, to these really big business meetings. I remember he sold one company when Victor was something like 10 years old. He sold it for close to$10 million. And I remember he would go to LA from San Francisco, and he would take Victor out of school and bring him.
25:40Sam Parr:And Victor would just sit like next to him. And Victor wouldn't talk, but he would pay attention to the meeting and afterwards Ramon would be like, Victor, what's your opinion? What should we do? And then another time, Victor has actually been to China, I think a couple of times because Ramon has a company now, Afina, where they have manufacturers in China and he'll bring them to China and he'll just sit quietly and be like, afterwards, Victor or Ramon will be like, hey, okay, so what do you think? You think this guy's legit? Should we go with him? Should we do this? And I remember seeing that.
26:12Sam Parr:And before I had kids, I thought it was awesome. And then after I had kids, I thought it was like a blessing, a treasure. Like it changed from like, this is cool to admiration, uh, to like, you have gone from being a good dad to a deity to me. Like you are like, I can't believe how special and how lucky Victor is to have you. And I remember seeing that and I'm like, that is the way to have a kid. I agree a hundred percent. Seeing the same thing. Uh, he, Ron is an amazing dad. And, uh, it's not just, I think, cause I've watched that. And in the moment you're just kind of like well they're you know if a kid is there didn't say anything or maybe even after the fact what'd you think it was good it was cool they're not going to give you some satisfying answer as of course as a dad like you know dad i really learned the like the virtue of hard work today actually what i saw was they're never going to tell you the thing but like you just have to trust the process and be like it's all soaking somewhere somewhere in the mind this experience was imprinting somewhere in the brain in a positive direction and that if they you know if I didn't give them this experience, I would have in a way robbed them of some of that exposure.
27:14So yeah, I'm a big believer in that. My kids are really little right now, but I do similar things.
27:19Sam Parr:That's awesome. Okay, let me tell you another story about someone. You and I, we get invited to some stuff that occasionally is interesting. Most of the time, we both say no, but I decided to go to one of these dinners, and it was in a beautiful apartment, and clearly some guys there were like total ballers. But I sit next to this one guy and he's very unassuming and I start talking to him and he's very nice. He's kind of like Dharmesh Shah, one of the founders of HubSpot, like very low key. And he's like, how are you using AI? And I'm like, well, I made a Chrome plugin that helps you select like which jeans fit you if you go to a store, if you like jeans.
27:57John, look at my ass right now. Yeah. Tell me to see these jeans. They fit like they were fitted by AGI. Three cities don't have water right now because these pants fit so well.
28:09Sam Parr:And I was like, how about you? What are you doing? And he like starts explaining some stuff and it's kind of blowing my mind. And I'm like, wait, who are you? And he says his name, but he doesn't really say what he does. And the guy runs maybe one of the most, if not like the top three, like financial services business in the world. and he's extremely multi-billionaire. And he's the founder of - Extremely multi-billionaire. Extremely. Like, he's so extreme. And I thought after he, I start talking to him, like, I recognize you. You have articles written about you. It's where it's like this mysterious billionaire.
28:46Wait, say his name and then we'll believe it.
28:47Sam Parr:Okay, so he's the founder of - Yes, okay. So one of the most like sophisticated financial services business, arguably, it potentially is one of the most profitable in its field, making like tens of billions in profit. That's almost an intimidating person to me. It's almost like, have you ever, you know, I used to have this old Dell laptop that when it really, when you opened up a few too many windows, the fan would kick on and it would start heating up. I feel like that dude's brain must just be like that. Was there just heat exhaust coming off of him? I'm closer to a homeless guy in terms of like accomplishments and brainpower than I am to this guy.
29:23Sam Parr:And it was so awesome that this guy walked into this room. He was one of the most quiet guys. He probably talked the least amount. Before you describe his calves and stuff, what did he say about AI? You said he was blowing your mind a little bit. What did he say? I have to be somewhat vague. He was saying, he was just explaining like how they do it for like trading and like making financial decisions. But frankly, he was using, he clearly was trying to talk my level, but it was so hard without using like the jargon that he had to use. But like at one point I was like, so is your company cool? Why is it cool?
29:53Sam Parr:He's like, well, I think we have a good culture. We pay really well, and the office is nice. And I look up how much they pay, and it's like the highest paying thing. In the world, yeah. In the world. I think they have the most profit per employee or something. It's like crazy numbers like that. Did they say anything with AI that surprised you? Meaning like, oh, I didn't realize that was possible, or I would have never thought to do that. Give me a little bit more if you can break off one more piece of bread. Well, what he was explaining, he was like, we actually had been doing this before it became popular.
30:25Sam Parr:We were doing it in this particular way, and then all this new breakthrough technology came out, but it wasn't a surprise to us because we'd been tinkering with this stuff. And basically, he was like, it helps us make decisions within fractions and fractions and fractions of seconds. He was using these time measurements that I didn't even know what that word meant. And he was explaining how they make decisions and how they use AI to make decisions. And he was like, yeah, we've had data centers. We've had all of this stuff before. Now it's more accessible and it's easier. But he's like, we built all this stuff before.
30:57Sam Parr:It was just like crazy that someone that is so epic and so world-class at what they do, they made me feel, he made me feel better than him in a weird way. So he's a great actor too then. Yeah. Wow. Triple threat. Well, that's why I didn't want to be insulting. I don't think he was acting. I think that he like, he just made me feel good. Well, he had true charisma then in that he was genuinely interested in other people, not based off of some weird power rankings. And when you're interested in people, that makes them feel great. And that's a gift. That's an amazing gift. I think it sounds so simple, and very few people know how to do that.
31:35And I've noticed that with a bunch of really successful people.
31:38Sam Parr:The ones that I truly like, they are so curious. They are curious to the point where they will think about silly ideas very seriously and take them serious. Yeah. I had an embarrassing, like, reduction the other day where I was, like, describing, we went to an event or we hosted an event. And it was like, oh, there's all these different people. I like this person. Oh, I really like this guy. Oh, she was really cool. And then I realized, oh, what's the common factor is just, like, I think I like people who like me. And I was so embarrassed by that being true. but it was really like the, I have a very hard time liking people who I don't feel like me.
32:14So the opposite is more true than the, than the first part, meaning like, I don't love everybody who likes me, but I can't really like anybody if I feel like they don't like me. And I was, I was like, what kind of junior high bullshit mindset is this? And I didn't know what to do with it, but I definitely had that awareness at least. And I was like, I think I should not have that be the kind of the heaviest weight, you know, factor in this stuff. Do you ever do that? It sounds so stupid as I say it out loud.
32:42Sam Parr:No, I mean, I don't think that's so stupid. I think that Dale Carnegie, how to win friends and influence people, he says the root of everything that you read from me is basically people want to feel important. And if you understand that, then like life's cream cheese, like life's good. And if you make people feel important, then that is how you win friends and influence people. And what's funny is this guy and I, we left the event together and we mistakenly took a service elevator. And so we get lost in this building for 25 minutes, trying to get out because we took the wrong and we couldn't figure out the signs.
33:13Sam Parr:And I'm like... Were you like, come on, genius, get us out of here? I was like, how many billionaires does it take to find the exit? Hey, Superman, turn on the laser. And then at the end, I was like, I know that no one can find photos of you on the internet. I know that you purposely stay off the grid, but, you know, like, want to come on My First Million? And he like, and he even dignified it with a, I'll consider it. It wasn't even like a, like, are you insane? No, I won't do this. And I just think that like, to all the up and comers listening, like Quentin, be humble and be nice and make people feel important.
33:52Sam Parr:That is like kind of a key to life. Well, we should tweak that, right? Because the make people feel important sounds manipulative. What's the real, what's the way to do that that's actually real? I would say, be curious. If you're genuinely curious or interested in people, curiosity is like one of these, you know, like those like grandma's remedies where it's like, oh, I have pneumonia. And it's like, put some whiskey in the pancakes and that'll do it. It's like, well, that doesn't make any sense. And then it like works. It's curiosity is kind of like that where almost all these unrelated problems can be solved with curiosity.
34:24I'll give you an example. um one is what one is what we're talking about here which is when you're when you're actually curious about somebody you will appear interested in them because you are interested in them and then they feel interesting and they feel like you took it you know because you took an interest in them they uh feel an affinity towards you great that's one this works with yourself too so a lot of times i'll talk to my my trainer my coach and um let's say i'm feeling bad about something What most people try to do is they say, don't feel bad, feel good. It's okay. And like, don't feel bad is pretty poor advice when you're feeling bad about something.
34:59And instead he just says like, don't feel bad, just get curious. And he's like, just lean into it. Like, get curious about it. What is that? Why do you feel that way? You know, has that ever happened before? And as soon as you start getting curious, it's almost like the cloud moves away. The sun starts to peer through. And because your brain literally shifts state into a more childlike, curious state of mind. And it takes the edge off. It takes the guilt or the shame or the self-loathing off of whatever it is you're doing. It's so weird. You wouldn't expect curiosity to be a cure for some of these moments or these moods.
35:32But it is. It tends to be. And so just getting curious about something, I would say, is kind of like a catch-all cure for things.
35:41Sam Parr:And what's funny is, like, I was a pretty awkward teenager. I would say I'm still a pretty awkward guy. And I like went and like read books on like good questions to ask people to like have a conversation. And I even follow these guys on Instagram, how to do it. But the best people I found was that show on the spectrum, the dating show with autistic kids. And I stole so many questions that I asked people. So if I'm like at like a dinner party or I'm talking to people, I will always say, what are your hobbies? And like, it sounds like such a childish thing. You get the best answers. And then I also say, what do your parents think of what you've done?
36:15Sam Parr:Or I ask a lot about their parents and they start opening up. But I had to learn how to have small talk. Yeah, everybody needs to, I think. Okay, I like that. That's a cool story. Today's podcast is brought to you by my friends at Mercury. They make the world's best banking product. I think you know this already. I use Mercury for all of my businesses. I think I have like maybe seven or eight businesses. We use Mercury as our business banking across all of them. and now they actually just launched a personal banking account. So I have my personal account there. I moved off of Wells Fargo and Chase.
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37:20Sam Parr:All right, I could talk to you. Let me talk to you about something. It's going to sound sad, and it is sad, but I think it's really interesting. And I had permission to talk about this, but I think it's cool. So you and I had a producer named Ben Wilson. Ben Wilson was our producer for My First Million for a long time. And he now has a podcast called How to Take Over the World. He's got four kids under the age of five years old. It's crazy. And six weeks ago, he found out that he has stage four lung cancer, where the odds are not in his favor, but he's got like the best doctors in the world. So like some crazy things might happen.
37:58Sam Parr:And he's very optimistic. But I went and met with him yesterday. He's in New York to see a doctor. And I wanted to talk about my experience getting to like talk to him because this is like a very like interesting predicament that he's in. Think about this. Six weeks ago, he found this out. So in the six weeks, he moved his house. He sold his home and got a new home closer to the doctor that he's going. He did like a$400 ,000 fundraiser, which was amazing. He like got his will and all of his estate stuff together. And he's gone to like all these like doctor's appointments, like so many of them.
38:31Sam Parr:And I remember like talking to him yesterday and I was like, dude, you've gone through so much. Like, this is so heavy. And he was telling me a little bit about it. And my initial reaction when I heard all of this, I felt like extreme sadness, partially because Ben's a Mormon. So Ben has lung cancer and it's in his spine and his brain, but started as lung cancer. And he has never smoked. He has never drank. He has really never done anything bad in his life. And I felt like we have an agreement with the universe where we put good in and we should get good out. And I was like, this agreement has been broken.
39:06Sam Parr:And I felt like pretty like pissed about it. Yeah, I felt very angry. But then like I started like seeing how he was reacting to all this stuff. And like I would put myself in that shoes. I'm like, all right, six weeks ago in June, I find out that I have this illness. Like how do I react? And I was like, I would be, I would go insane. I would be so sad. I'd be so depressed. It was just like crazy how calm he was. And what's interesting is that Ben has a podcast called How to Take Over the World, which is about like how great leaders become great. And I was thinking about that. And he had this journal with him.
39:40Sam Parr:And it was on the title of this journal was Zero to 365. And I was like, what's this? He was like, I have a journal where I'm gonna document every single day. And my goal is to fill this whole thing out. It may not happen, but I'm gonna work my hardest to fill this out and make it 365 days. and I pray that there's a sequel to this journal so my kids can like read this. But if I can't do it and I meet my maker sooner than I intend to, or I want to, I'm going to be really excited about it. And I remember like thinking, like I listened to his podcast all the time on like how to be great. And I listened to all these podcasts on how to be great.
40:15Sam Parr:We just did one on like how to be great. And I was thinking, I was like, what's crazy is how much dignity and integrity and bravery this guy is facing this. and I was like, me or you or hopefully and everyone listening, the odds are that none of us will face like a tragedy like this. But I was thinking, I was like, in my day-to-day life, like I react to things sometimes in such a horrible way, like so negatively and so like not being positive or I'm letting little things bother me or little things distract me from what's important. But I was like, I really should change that because I hope I never face anything like he's facing.
40:53Sam Parr:But what I've noticed knowing Ben for a few years is he's always been like a pretty stoic, brave person. And I'm like, these little things that I face every single day, they can prepare me for something horrible. And I hope that horrible thing never happens. And if it doesn't, at least I will have like responded to like my day-to-day life in a way that a great man would. Because what's interesting is like seeing him like journal about this. And he was like, show me a little of the journal. In my head, I was like, I'm seeing like a great man be great in real time and respond to like, like the worst thing on earth in the most dignified, wise, and like the best way I've ever seen.
41:30Sam Parr:And it inspired me so much. And I was just like, what good can I take from this? How can I be great? Even if I don't face like a tragedy or like if I just live a boring life, like how can I be great on a day-to-day basis? Wow. Yeah. That's a great, I mean, that's a great way of putting it. A couple of things that came up. The first is, you know, if you haven't listened already, go listen to his podcast where he announced it. I mean, I listened to that. I probably listened to that two or three times. I listened the first time myself. I listened a second time when my mom was in the car because I wanted her to hear because I just thought his entire attitude towards the situation, towards what is, you know, a very devastating sort of piece of news is you have every right to be sad.
42:17You have every right to be bad. You have every right to feel, you know, any of the feelings you want to feel. And he kind of had such a different perspective. It made me think a couple of things. The first was, man, you know, I haven't been a religious person in my life. And I think it's because the way my, you know, just my logical brain is sort of like, well, I don't know, there's no evidence, you know, like, it's like literally like the definition of like faith is kind of like believing without evidence. And I've always respected religion, but I've never felt it. But when I saw his response and the way he was like, you know, I'm excited to meet my maker.
42:58And if, you know, if God's calling me, then that's, you know, the way it was serving him, I was like, wow, this is the, this is the, these are the rewards for living with like strong faith is that even when the worst news hits, even when, and when anybody else would feel, you know, sorry for themselves, um, you know, he, he took it very, very differently and it was like such a foundational thing for him. So he said excited.
43:24Sam Parr:He told me, and I think he said in the pocket, he goes, I'm, he goes, I can be excited about this. And I thought that was like, yeah, that's so good. Unbelievable. Um, so I thought that was the first thing was like really highlighted like the virtue and the value of like being a person of faith and how like, you know, I've in my own life, not, I've had the luxury of not having to have that because life goes pretty well without it for me, right? Like without having to, to have faith in, in certain things. So I thought that was, that really stood out. The second was, I think you nailed it. The difference, you know, his podcast is about Napoleon and Caesar and these complicated men who achieve, who conquered.
44:01I think, you know, it's how to take over the world. It's about conquerors. It's about the world shapers. And there's a big difference between achieving greatness and being great. What Ben is doing right now is greatness, but it's being great, not achieving something. And I think there's a huge difference. And I think for myself and most people, we don't really split those out. And it's very easy to set goals. And, you know, I remember being young and being like, I want to be Forbes 30 under 30. This was before it became like, you know, the FBI watch list. But I remember thinking like, that would be a great achievement.
44:36I want to have a million dollars in my bank. I want to have this. I want to have that when I was 19, 20 years old. And it's like, it was all about achieving. And the two people we've talked about, Ramon and Ben, they're great examples of being great, living day to day in a great way. He's really showing his greatness, you know, in the hardest time, which is when it matters, when it counts, when it's real. And then, yeah, like, you know, I just hope that there's something, you know, in the maybe the age of ai maybe there's some some way that you know with the best doctors with the tech with the belief with everything that um you know he does all right so yeah and he's he's um
45:12Sam Parr:he um he like the brian johnsons and andrew huberman's of the world like they like opened up the rolodex and they put him in touch with all these people and he's doing all this like the traditional stuff and some experimental stuff and uh yesterday he was like i feel really good i I feel better than I have in a long time. Yeah. So it's looking good. But the reason why I wanted to bring this up on My First Million, because I don't think we say this explicitly enough, but we have said it before, which is we talk about like being rich here and we try to say a rich life. And we try hard to like let people know that this isn't just about money.
45:50Sam Parr:It's just that it's about defining what life is worth living and how it can be rich for you. And I just want to reiterate that like the million in my first million doesn't necessarily mean dollars, but it means like the first like unit of richness that you can have in your life. And so that's sort of my public service announcement, but also like some of the things that I've learned in talking with him. Well, I'm glad you shared that. Ben, we're rooting for you, man. Yeah, he's part of the MFM family. He was our producer for what, like a year or two, something like that. Yeah. He had his podcast and we met.
46:30We met through, you've put me onto his podcast. You were like, dude, I've been listening to this thing. It's amazing. Then I remember going to the airport and I was listening to his Edison episode. And it's a three-parter. And I drove to the airport, listened to part one, drove back, listened to part two. And then I just went for an extra drive to listen to part three. And I was like, wow, this is amazing. And I called him and I was like, dude, who are you? What's your story? And then we brought him in. He became our producer, which helped him pay the bills while he was getting his podcast kind of like more and more off the ground.
47:00And it was time for him to kind of like focus on his pod. We wished him well and, you know, still wishing him well. So Ben, get well, man. We're all rooting for you.
47:08Sam Parr:Yes. It was a very, I hope, listener, I hope you don't take this as sad. And I'm sure Ben's going to hear this, but it was, I want to leave on an inspirational note, not sadness. So I hope you guys dug it and we'll end there. That's it. That's the pod. I feel like I can rule the world. I know I could be what I want to. I put my all in it like no days off. On the road, let's travel, never looking back. All right, let's take a quick break. I want to tell you about Marketing School. It is a podcast that is part of the HubSpot Podcast Network, and it is run by Neil Patel and Eric Su. And these guys are both marketers who are running businesses.
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Episode 847: Sam Parr ( https://x.com/theSamParr ) and Shaan Puri ( https://x.com/ShaanVP ) talk about dynastic wealth creation.
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Show Notes:
(0:00) Shaan gets invited to graduation
(2:19) The richest man in Italy
(16:09) The golden window
(26:51) meeting an xtreme multi-billionaire
(36:04) An update about Ben WIlson
(42:52) achieving greatness vs being great
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