Tinx: The Big Sister SURVIVAL Guide to Situationships, Phone Addictions & BAD Energy

13:04Olivia Attwood:Being mindful of your friends' weddings, um what makes for a terrible bridesmaid situation i think that actually when the bride doesn't know

13:13Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:what she wants right i prefer and this is goes for birthdays too like with anything people should just say like they're your friends at that point just say what you want if you're like guys for my bachelorette my whole agenda is i want to rage fine and if the bride says guys my whole bachelorette all i care about is getting sick instagram pictures can we just please make sure this happens. It relieves everybody else because then you're like, okay, I understand what you want. This is what we're doing. You know, where I think it gets into a lot of stressy area is like when the bride's kind of like all over the place and like she doesn't know what she wants and she's kind of trying to please everyone, but then she has an idea.

13:50Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:It's just like, just tell people what you want. Like it's your day. I also do think that it can be a bit difficult when there's like 17 groups of friends, when it's like the high school friends, the college friends, the work friends, the this friends that are not friends. Sometimes it works. And sometimes you're in Nashville with a group of 25 girls and you're like, this is a goddamn nightmare. This is a goddamn fucking living nightmare. So yeah.

14:12Olivia Attwood:And did you pay for yourself to get to Nashville? What's your take on that?

14:16Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:We talk a lot about this on the show. And I think that it honestly varies by friend group. It varies by life stage. If you guys are 24, like for the love of God, be mindful. Don't be like, we're going to have a bachelorette in Iceland or whatever. If you're older, people have a little bit more extra cash, you know, then fine. My thing is like, you can't be upset with someone if they can't come on your bachelorette for financial reasons. You can't. That is not. What breaks my heart is when people measure their entire friendship based on how that person shows up at their, you know, sometimes people can't afford it.

14:52Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:That doesn't mean that they don't love you and they don't want to celebrate you. That just means that they can't afford it. Like have mercy on them, like Jesus Christ. So I just think everybody needs to be a bit more sensitive about that and just be like, look, it's fun. It's great if you can come. If not, it's not the end of the world. You've been friends with someone for some 10, 15 years. You're going to get pissed at them because they can't come to Nashville with you. Like, come on, that's not fair. But by the same token, if you can show up for someone show up for them yeah it's like again you you know there's no hard and fast rule you have to be caring and loving and and also just be sensible about the whole thing that's like that

15:30Olivia Attwood:is perfectly put I think it's such a tricky one I think like you said there's no like a complete right or wrong I think I think being a bride in general can either bring out the best or the worst in someone I think it shows people exactly who you are yeah yeah they're like oh it was the pressure I'm like, no, I think actually you're a little bit of a bitch underneath all of the smiles. You are the, well, official, I'm going to say, big sister of TikTok. Who would you choose to be your celebrity big sister?

16:00Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Oh, my gosh. I mean, I love Gwyneth Paltrow. I always have. I really admire her. That's a good one. Because she's built this huge company. She has so many endeavors. And she still, like, doesn't take herself too seriously. Yeah. She's in on the joke. She's so cool. And she just keeps evolving. And I think that's very aspirational.

16:23Olivia Attwood:Yeah, that's a good one. You are, I'd say you're vulnerable on Instagram. And you have been in the past. You shared a video before where you were talking about your boyfriend that cheated on you. Oh my God. Sorry. Something that I would never do again, by the way. Oh, well, that's really interesting.

16:38Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:That's like, I'm not like sad that I did it.

16:40Olivia Attwood:So the video, just for context, I haven't seen it.

16:43Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Like you just found out. I literally just found out and like tell me why my instinct in that moment was to go, you know what I should do? Record a three minute long video of me sobbing. But it was just a different time in my life. Like now there's such a thing of like, why would you cry online? Like now I'm a bit like, I don't know if we need to see anybody like crying. Like I'm just a bit like, I don't know. I know.

17:06Olivia Attwood:I have a mixed relationship with it. But that video itself is interesting because I think even though you probably now wouldn't do it, so many girls were like, I feel this pain. No, totally.

17:16Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:It was like, I would say one of my, I don't know how to phrase this. I would say it was one of my like, not peak videos or like, but one of my main, I would say where I felt the most, this is going to come across wrong, but I think it's interesting. Kind of the most relevant points. I think it's that they saw you. Yes. Yeah. And it was vulnerable and whatever. The reason that I wouldn't do it again is because of the backlash that my ex-boyfriend got. Right.

17:40Olivia Attwood:Oh, interesting.

17:41Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:It was a year into my career. I had no idea the power of the internet. I had never been on the bad end of the internet before. Right. And even though he cheated and that's wrong, I wouldn't wish what he got on anyone. So they found him and they trolled him? Beyond. And I feel really guilty about that. Like, I don't think two wrongs make a right. No. And I just don't think that unless you've been through it, you know being on the bad end of the internet, people coming for you saying the nastiest things, like coming for your family, like that's not fair. That's not cool. And I don't believe in the whole trial by public opinion thing.

18:20Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Like I don't believe in that. Like I don't think, for example, I don't know if you have this in the UK, but there's this app called the T app here. And it's like, you can go on and you can basically look up guys and people can write like, oh, this guy did this, this guy did this. I don't believe in that. Like I'm not for that. The same of those Facebook groups, like are we dating the same guy? I've seen that. They snowball and spiral into like just something that it's not. And I don't believe in that. It just creates like mass hysteria online. There has to be a divide between public and private life and we're losing it.

18:52Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:And that's why I regret it. I don't regret being vulnerable. I spoke to so many people who had been cheated on and I connected with so many people and I'm so happy that I did. But I just would not. I regret like sending that. Even though I was like, guys, don't do anything. The wrath was insane. And I feel really badly about that.

19:12Olivia Attwood:It's like quite a big person to feel badly about that, considering it's also the pain you're in. Yeah, but, you know, you're a good girl. Two wrongs don't make a right. Yeah. You know, how do you walk that line of public and private life? Because I struggle with this online all the time, always debating what's too much, what's not enough. And you kind of feel like I owe people stuff online. like if I could owe them answers or I owe them entry into my life.

19:38Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:It's a weird one, isn't it? I don't have a hard and a fast rule either. Like I'd be lying if I said I had a strategy. Some days I'm like, guys, I missed my birth control pill. What do you think I should do? And some days I'm like, I am going to the store. Like it's just, it's based on the day. It's based on how I feel. And I'd also be lying if I said it wasn't also based on like how I feel. You probably feel the same way where you can kind of just in your gut know how people are feeling about you at that moment. like sometimes people are really vibing with you and they're like oh yeah haha you're so funny and then sometimes people are a bit like and so it's just like you kind of it's like a relationship honestly you kind of have to see how you go how do you navigate the hard horrible sides of the internet i really try not to look too much i really try it got to me i'd be lying if i i'm a sensitive person yeah i don't take it personally anymore but that's different than having something hurt your feelings yes I know it's not about me but also it doesn't affect my self-esteem but it can make me really sad yeah so that's two different things and I'm glad that I have good self-esteem now yeah it still makes me sad if someone says something awful like isn't what

20:46Olivia Attwood:they've said or the fact that would even come onto your video and say something horrible yeah yeah

20:51Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:usually just like just like the thought of someone like hating me so much and they've never met me I I just say, and also, I don't know. Yeah, sometimes it hurts my feelings. And I think that's like, you know, I think that's valid.

21:06Olivia Attwood:And I think that's like so human. And I feel like, you know, for you to say that is like, the fucked up thing I have with trolls and the internet is like, you know, do they want to know they've hurt your feelings? Do they feel guilty? Does it even matter what they feel? But like you said, there is no social kind of etiquette online. like people just behave in a way they wouldn't behave in public i just saw i don't know who did

21:30Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:it someone made an ad where a person was sitting there and someone came over and like they were getting a haircut and um then another person walks in and goes it looks awful you should have gone you should never have cut your hair and they're like look shocked and they were like you would never say that to someone in real life so why do you feel comfortable saying it to a stranger online I just feel like okay I also read a stat that was like if you had to have like your identity attached to your social media it would eradicate 80 % of online bullying and troll comments 80 % and I'm like okay well then let's do it guys like I have to show up as my authentic self so like if you're gonna say something

22:09Olivia Attwood:then fine

22:10Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:don't do it from a troll account show me who you are

22:12Olivia Attwood:no 100 % and like that you said about the haircut thing it's like I did a red carpet recently and I was laughing reading it they'll go like um love you but sorry this isn't your best look no the worst is no the worst is

22:25Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:love you but love you but now i'm gonna say something soul crushing love you but this is really ugly love you but you've looked better and it's just like it's one of my most hated things

22:37Olivia Attwood:it's so infuriating and also i've just done a red carpet i've it's quite exposing you spend those time getting ready and there's something like um you just didn't look great

22:47Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:yeah you just that makeup wasn't for you people don't know how nerve-wracking it is too it's like it is nerve-wracking still yeah yeah I get it like we were joking before we came on but like yeah I'm grateful to do the red carpet I'm grateful to have all the opportunities but

23:00Olivia Attwood:I still get nervous to do that stuff I feel like me and Tink's are very similar and that we're like we're hyper aware and we're probably too martyrish with it of like that because we have these dream jobs that we love and we know how lucky we are so we keep like if I'm ever tired I'm like but I'm grateful yeah i'm grateful because they're what i think some people are becoming a little bit more self-aware i don't think some people ever will but i feel like there is an influencer culture of like oh like you know i just gotta match her and um god it's like it's just some content i mean this is hard this is a hard job i'm like oh my god please never let me be that person who actually thinks what we do is like they bring down the average i know i'm like yeah and i'm

23:40Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:overcompensating for people like that. I know. I know. But I also sometimes am jealous of those people because I kind of, sometimes I wish I could just, I want to just go get matcha and be like, whoa, busy day today, guys. Going to get my matcha and then I have a hair appointment and then I'm like, I'm sorry, that's me to make fun of them. That's me to make fun of them. No, where you did the perfect going up on the ends. There is influencer voice. And I fall into it anyway. So I'm not making fun. We're all guilty of it. We're all guilty of it. But like sometimes I'm like, oh, that seems chill.

24:09Olivia Attwood:No, I'll be honest. I watched this girl's video the other day, and she was doing a morning routine, and she was tapping the nails and the products. And I was like, why are you fucking doing this? I was still watching anyway. Yeah. Then I fucking, Grace, I filmed myself getting ready in the morning the other day. I find myself tapping my nails on my fucking... Stop, stop, stop. Here I go.

24:27Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I know.

24:28Olivia Attwood:And I watched her video, and it was annoying me. And then I'm like a robot that just absorbed what I saw. And then I'm doing it on my fucking... I know. We're all guilty of it. We're all guilty. I was like, I know how annoying this is. Yes, I'm doing it. I feel like Instagram is having a shift at the moment from, which I'm really glad of, from perfect aesthetic feeds back to a little bit more eclectic, messy.

24:50Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I'm loving IG right now. I'm loving it. I feel like I really, really am vibing with it. I'm just like, I'm so glad to see the back of these beige Instagrams. Oh my God. The beige. It's like, I can't with the beige. I'm so over it. I'm like, I don't care. I just like that whole vibe. I'm like, your grid being pretty doesn't do anything for me. I want to see like I want to stop on your content when I see it yeah yeah yeah I do not care if it's beige seriously sometimes I get jealous of those girls because it I just am that's not me and I just feel like sometimes those perfectly curated grids are so pretty yeah but then I'm like I look at it for two seconds and I don't care I know I'm usually not stopping to ask where the beige coat is from and the beige sweater and the beige sofa and the beige boyfriend but I do get jealous sometimes I'm like, damn, like, this picture is fucking perfect.

25:37Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Meanwhile, I'm like, I'm like, guys, like, do you think that if a guy said I'm like, shut up, chanks, God. I'm like, no makeup, like all my like, ugly podcast clips of like me in the studio with the light shining bright. And I'm like, it's jealousy, but it's good to speak it, you know, and just be like, oh, I'm jealous of the beige grids sometimes. You're like jealous, but you don't want it really. Yeah. If you were there for a day. I mean, I couldn't do it. It's just not my personality. I don't have the attention into details. So, you know, that's why there's lots of different content creators for everybody.

26:11Olivia Attwood:Yeah. Clean girl makeup.

26:13Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I'm like really looking forward to the end of this. Yeah. I just think, and it's hard because I think to your point about the nails, everything is just so homogenous right now. Like we see one thing online, everybody does it. You walk in New York, all the girls are wearing the same outfit. That's not their fault. One thing that pisses me off about the narrative is like it's blaming the girls for like copying the trends. And I'm like, this seems like kind of a sneaky way to just be a little bit misogynistic towards girls being like, oh, look at the fucking boring blazers and jeans that they're wearing.

26:48Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:And I'm like, okay, everybody else is copying too. Why are you only talking about the girls? Like that seems a little weird to me. and it's just like it's harder to have personal style in today's day and age because every day when we open our phone we're bombarded with the same stuff so I don't know I just think it's a strange thing to like blame people for and I try to have my own personal style but at the same time I see something online I'm like yeah I'm buying that I want that that's cool because it fucking works because it works so I'm like and if I see a bunch of girls wearing something I want it too like that's how it goes it's just like I don't I don't like how it's turned into this whole like moral issue of oh if you copy stuff online you're a fucking idiot it's like everybody's doing it but

27:28Olivia Attwood:like you say i feel like so many people are unhappy for valid reasons in life now they get angry about stuff that you say it's not that deep it's not that deep and i also think we have a really weird shift happening where people are expecting too much from their content creators this is like my my like bit of my roman empire at the moment like why the girl you followed who literally you follow her because she does great like cut crease eyeshadow and now you're screaming at her because she can't educate you on like i don't know the fucking stock market yeah go to a different

28:01Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:account no no i like it's crazy i could not agree more and because people feel like because people see their content creators every day they're more accessible to them and i'm like guys no offense why are you asking a content creator to educate you about politics or why do you care what they say. You follow them because they're good at makeup. Why do you care what they think about X, Y, Z? They're expecting way too much from content creators. And I think it's also dangerous. I'm like, if you care so much, read the news. Read the news.

28:33Olivia Attwood:And also I feel like it's scary that they are looking for life advice and examples from people that are not there to be. They're just living their lives and they're filming it. And then they're watching it and going, okay that's what I need to do or they go you doing that is such a bad example here's

28:49Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:have some independent thought don't do it don't do it then don't do it it's really crazy it's like if it doesn't work for you take what you need leave the rest yeah people just yeah it's with the internet everyone's been given a microphone every little grievance oh someone someone eating something has made you feel some type of way someone drinking a drink on a Tuesday has made you feel some type of way if everything on the internet offends you don't go on the internet you obviously are too sensitive to even be on the internet that's a very good point it's just it's exhausting and people need to have independent thought and be like okay it's not for me that's cool yeah i go to one influencer i do follow some political influencers and i love them and i they're interesting or some news influencers i'm like cool that person's obsessed with news love getting tidbits from them yes when i'm following a makeup girl i'm not like and and what do you think about uh the stock market and are we going into a recession?

29:42Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Like, that's not their specialty. Stop asking them because they will be forced to make a statement eventually about it and be like,

29:49Olivia Attwood:the stock market is. And then it's like, yeah, and then they'll say and it will be wrong. And then everyone go, you're giving me some information. I just can't believe

29:56Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:that you're giving information and you would speak on something that you don't know about it. And it's like, okay, well, okay.

30:01Olivia Attwood:So fucking true. What do you think about men on Instagram? What do you like from your, from, okay, there's male influencers. and then there's this like men who have Instagram. Tinks is dating. What do you want his profile to look like?

30:15Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Okay, let's say I'm set up with a guy. Yeah. My friend's like, I got a guy for you. I'm like, what's his Insta? She's like, he's private. I'm like, tell me more. We click on the Instagram. He's following 59 people. 75 people follow him. There's three posts. The last one was from 2019. It's of him skiing. The other one is him with a dog. And the first one is of when he first got Instagram and he was in college a million years ago. That's my dream. Instagram is for me. I do enough Instagramming for everybody, especially in a relationship. I don't want him to be good at Instagram. I don't want him to.

31:01Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:If he must post, he can do it once or twice a year. not good captions like not funny like not trying to be witty like just being like fun times in Hawaii is great like that's great like and if he's like he's like surfing and being cool like did it like no do not also post Instagram stories that's for girls

31:21Olivia Attwood:oh yeah stories feel very stories are very girl gay adjacent yeah I think it's yeah I think it's really camp to store it up I'm just like I don't want him to be on it like that much on Instagram no no what about men with their photo dumps?

31:37Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I mean, it's fine. It's just like, does it turn me on? Like, not always. But if it's my friend, then yeah, okay, go for it, I guess. If you want to show us all how much fun you had in Mykonos this summer, you need 20 slides to do so.

31:51Olivia Attwood:Go for it. I'll be there till image six. Yeah. And you're probably going to lose me. But isn't that the case? Even my favorite creators, I don't watch all their carousel.

32:00Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I just feel we have too much now. It's too much. I hate it because it's like too much. I know. I'm just like, I'm so sad. We see too many pretty things. You remember back in the day, you would see your favorite influencer, she would post. And you'd be like, oh my God. Like I remember when I was in my 20s and I was working a desk job, I would like, I would like be like, oh my God. I would like wait till people were away. And I would like look at the picture because back then it was just one Instagram, right? Look at the Instagram. I would study it, send it to my friends. wow, this is so cool. What can I, like, maybe something's tagged.

32:36Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Maybe I'm going to look at this brand. That was a whole 10 minute activity. Now I'm like, oh, someone is riding an elephant wearing couture and shooting a firework out of their ass. Next, two seconds, I'm gone. I'm like, we are so desensitized. So desensitized to it.

32:54Olivia Attwood:It's terrifying. It's terrifying.

32:56Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Like what could get me to stop?

32:58Olivia Attwood:Like nothing. I'm just like, okay, cool. and also once I'm in a doom scroll can't get out literally we could like they could drop a bomb and I don't think I'd even flinch no I know

33:09Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I'm like the world goes I feel like I'm in a bubble are you a doom scroller? so I'm doing something right now with my followers where I'm trying to reduce our phone time I'm calling it phone free fall because my listeners are like this because I always talk to my community about doom scrolling it's just it wasn't making me happy And it's like more than just the doom scrolling. It's just I don't want to be a person who's addicted to my phone. And that's not from judgment because I am addicted to my phone. Honestly, my inspiration came from this summer I was in Ibiza and there was a club and there was a club within a club where they took your phone away.

33:44Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:It was like the best two hours. Yeah. How? How good. It goes in the wall at Harry Potter. And you're like, bye. And then you go in and everybody's looking at each other. Everybody's dancing. I felt like I was in some sort of a heaven. Yes. I had the best two hours of my life. I met people, met a guy, ran into Diplo, partied, raging, dancing, having the best time of my life. And I was just like, this is how it's supposed to be. Yes. And so I basically want to encourage them not only to do—we're all going to doomscroll, but doomscroll be like, okay, fine, let's do 15 minutes, then whatever. Yeah, yeah.

34:19Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:But also, like, when you walk into a room, have your phone in your bag. Yeah. When you go into a date, even if you go into dinner with your friends, they will be infinitely more happy to see you. If you just walk and go, hi, guys. You're smiling. Not, hi, just hi. It's just like these little things matter. And I think that they will add up and make us happier. And it's not from a high horse place because I am like number one patient zero of phone addiction. It's because you are experiment to see if we can cure you. Yeah, but it's just like I don't want to be the person who takes out their phone first at dinner.

34:52Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I don't want to be the person who's like I've actually said just to show you how much I'm not on my high horse how bad a problem this was for me I would be on dates and I'd be like can we have a phone break like that's fucking mental that's fucking mental that's weird that's fucking weird so then I was like okay guys let's do it together let's be the cool girl who's like I don't know where my phone is like oh yeah yeah whatever we're all going to do scroll a bit but I'm genuinely really trying to work on it

35:18Olivia Attwood:yeah that's really good advice from someone, like you said, a self-confessed phone addict. And I think so many of us are. And I do this thing like where I'm, I go on my phone. I don't even know, for example, to book an Uber. And then I'm just, I'm in Instagram. Yeah. It's like a default thing where I'm sitting on my phone. I was going to, how often I pick up my phone, I'm going to text someone. And then I'm 10 TikToks deep and I didn't text anyone. No, I know. And I don't forget. It's so bad. Like, it's so bad. And also it's like, because I do a lot of reading into this, because I'm ADD. You're not, are you?

35:51Olivia Attwood:I am. You are. Okay, so this is like, for us, having that dopamine in the morning, nightmare. Awful. So like waking up, and actually for anyone, even if you're not ADD, it's like waking up, having a dopamine hit of like images, images, images, and then basically you have like a crash after. Of course. And it's like, I do this thing where I put my phone, when I'm at home, I don't do it in hotels, obviously, but I'm not going to put my phone in the hall. But can you imagine? How did your nudes get leaked? I left my own phone in the hall outside of my room with the picture of my two dogs on the screensaver yeah I put it in the hall and then that way I have to step out of the bed to get it in the morning and then what I do is I try to walk past it first turn it up get a coffee even like I'm not going to fucking bullshit people and be like I'm trying to step up my phone until 9am it's not realistic if you've got a fucking job you need to be online before that but even having like five minutes and not being in bed on it changes your mood oh yeah it's way better Tinks you're living in New York now yeah do you feel New Yorker do you feel so much yeah

36:54Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:you're not a real New Yorker until you've lived in New York for 15 years I think it's something crazy the bar is very high it's a long time they're very like you know it's a club type of thing and I get that mad respect to everybody who's actually from New York and whatever but I love it I love it so much I love everything about it I love the traffic I love the noise I love the the people more than anything love that it's on 24 hours a day I'm so I really feel at home here it's a lifestyle that suits me

37:24Olivia Attwood:sorry guys I do feel like I don't even know you that well I feel like I feel like I know you my whole life actually but it's like I feel like you are so much more New York so so much yeah do you know I mean I was even following you on Instagram and I was like you were in New York all the time

37:38Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I was like I have so much more to see this for tinks yeah I I it's just it's the best what's

37:43Olivia Attwood:Dating, like, compared to LA, West Coast, East Coast, what's the difference there?

37:47Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I will preface this by saying I think if you are dating straight men, it's very hard everywhere right now. But I have found way more success in New York. I go on loads of dates here. Obviously haven't found the one or a one, but it's, like, constant, viable, like, cool kind of guys. The dating culture is just more alive. Yeah, people go on more dates here. It's not such a big deal. Like you can meet someone and they'll just be like, oh, let's go have a drink on Thursday or whatever. In LA, it would be like you match with someone. You find out you live an hour and 20 minutes drive away from them.

38:21Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:You spend three weeks trying to pick a place based on traffic and astrology and the moons and whatever. And then one hour before, they're like, my dog's sick. I can't come. And you're like, okay, perfect. Cool. I guess I'll just sit in my house alone then. So it's just a different vibe. So what are you looking for? I'm looking for someone to have the best time with. I mean, I think it's a little difficult because I don't need anything aside from a partner in crime. And so I'm looking for someone who's really funny and doesn't take themselves too seriously, has their own shit going on. But I don't need saving.

39:07Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Like, I don't need money. I don't need friends. like I have a sick life and I'm so happy and proud of it and now I just want someone to do it with.

39:15Olivia Attwood:I fucking love that. I love it. And that's like the best place you could be in to meeting the right person. Yeah, I think so. Like you say, because there's not like a void to fill. Yeah. You say like if you are going into relationships and there's motivations of, you know, you say you have a gap in your life or you need saving. It doesn't start on a healthy trajectory.

39:34Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:No, I think I'm in a good spot. Yeah. And it's like, I always say, I love the mantra that's like water seeks its own level. So it's like, yeah.

39:42Olivia Attwood:How often did you get back to London? So your parents are living in London?

39:46Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:They live in London and they're coming back to the States a bit more now. Yeah. But I grew up there from when I was a baby till 19. And then they lived there full time until like this year.

39:58Olivia Attwood:And then when you were 19, you went to the States? To California for college. And did you have a British accent? Yeah. That's so funny. I know.

40:06Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I wish I could have heard you. at school what you sounded like? I had a British accent at school and an American accent at home because I went to British school from when I was like from always. Yeah, yeah. So when I would learn to read, they would be like, the cat sat on the mat. I would go home and my mom would be like, the cat sat on the mat. And I was like, what the fuck?

40:23Olivia Attwood:Because your mom speaks of an American accent.

40:25Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:My parents are both sound super American. Even they lived there for whatever, 34 years, and they still sound so American. Yeah. And it's funny because my brother was born in the UK and he sounds way more British than me. Like he still has a British accent. Yeah. Even though he lives here. So it's interesting. It's really interesting. Yeah, when I moved to California, I had a British accent and everyone was obsessed with me. And I was like,

40:50Olivia Attwood:I am going to leverage this.

40:51Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I'm going to use this for my power. And I made so many friends. Then the second year of school, I was like, I'm American now. And they were like, what? But it wasn't fake. Like accents are really interesting and people are really touchy about them. They're like, you know, sometimes I'll say a certain word and people will be like, why do you say that? And I'm like, because like. I get crazy about that. And then they're like, okay, but you're not British. And I'm like, if a southern person says y 'all, even though they don't live in the south anymore, you wouldn't question them because that's like how they grew up.

41:18Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Yeah. So I don't know. People are really tough. Also, the thing that kills me is like people will go live in London for a year and come back and be like, how'd you do? And I'm like, what the fuck? Whoa there, Madonna. Like, damn. Um, it's like, it is a funny thing.

41:36Olivia Attwood:People get very protective of the British accent. I don't know why. So protective, I know. But there's a thing, it's like an age timeline as well when accents change. My dad's Canadian. He hasn't lived in Canada since we were Canada. So when I was living in Canada as a small child, I was like, dad, water. You know, like that. But then when I came back to England, I remember I was at British primary school and the kid was like, why do you say it like that? And I was like, what, like tomato? And as a kid, I was like, oh my God. Then I was like trying to change how I spoke. Because you want to fit in.

42:09Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:You want to fit in. It's really, really anxiety and do things. Yeah. I would always get so stressed out with like play dates because my friends from school knew me as British. So it was like, I'd be in front of my mom and I'd be like, I'd be like glitching. I was like, fuck, which one do I use? So it's funny.

42:29Olivia Attwood:It's really interesting. I think beyond like parents, like my dad hasn't lived in Canada for like, let's say like over 20 years. The accent's so strong. It would never go. Yeah, it'll never go. Tinks, you've built your brand on strong opinions and mini Mike truths. So we're putting that energy to the test in Tinks takes. Okay. So I'm going to throw out some trends, ideas, opinions, hot takes. And I just want you a unfiltered, off the bat response. Okay. Situationships, yes or no? No. Hard no?

43:00Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:soft no soft no if you're okay with it then that's fine but choose your choice don't be like oh my god i don't know why i've been in a situation for a year because you can get off the train anytime you just haven't love it dating someone with no social media at all

43:15Olivia Attwood:yeah i would would you be a little bit freaked out by a little freaked out i would have to like

43:19Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:verify their identity like a several ways yes before doing it but if they were like no it's just not for me i've never liked it like i'm a private person i'd be like yeah that's okay

43:27Olivia Attwood:Yes, actually kind of hot.

43:29Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:People who ghost, but then watch your stories. Hard no. Small dick energy. Yeah. That's so lame. If you don't like someone, have the courage to just be like, listen, it's been fun hanging. I'm not feeling the vibe. Best of luck. Unfollow them. Call it a day. Yeah. That's hot to me. Even if that person didn't like me, I would respect them because they just cut it off. I genuinely think it's lame to ghost. I think it's small dick energy.

43:54Olivia Attwood:And then to hang around in the stories. Like, why? lame we kind of already did this but clean girl aesthetic i'm just like excited for the next era i just yeah i i knew when those slip back buns were just trolling us and i tried i did it a few times but i i want us to be back in the mary kate and ashley yeah i want to see i want to see like cigs are back yeah i think they so sorry they are i i started the drunk cigs again this year

44:23Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:because I was like, fuck it. Like, I don't care anymore. No. I mean, here and there. Here and there. Not all the time. And they will kill you.

44:30Olivia Attwood:And smoking's not cool, but it's cooler than vaping.

44:33Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:It's cooler than vaping. I would never vape. No, vaping's bad. That is the trashiest thing you can do. Don't vape. People lie about their age. Zero. Not cool. I cannot believe that people do this. Really? Yeah. Why would people, why would you lie? I'm also trying to like change the conversation on aging. I have so many girls who come up to me. They're like, you made me not being afraid of 30. I'm 35 now. And I'm like, if we have made young women afraid to turn 30, which is an infant, we have clearly fucked up. And I think it's all the patriarchy. They're like, oh, they got in a room and they're like, guys, I know.

45:15Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:If we make women afraid of aging, then they will settle for anything, rush all their good life bits into the first half. And then after that, they'll just be quiet because they'll think that they're past their sell-by date. They genuinely had some sick patriarchal meaning. And it fucking worked. It fucking worked. But I'm 35. I've never been happier. I've never been hotter. My life has never been better. So I don't know why anyone would lie about their age. I think it's weird.

45:42Olivia Attwood:Yeah, I'm going to literally ditter you on that. this is the best stage of my life it's the best and like your 20s are a clusterfuck

45:49Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:clusterfuck and everyone's like oh are you having fun and you're like yes I know I think so I don't know

45:55Olivia Attwood:it's like no they're so bad when I was like 25 I remember thinking oh my god I'm going to be 30 in 5 years like you know because people drilled that into our heads it's almost like this is fucking also I feel like it's really chic to say It's so chic. I love being like in my 30s. No, it's so chic. So yeah, I just think it's cool. Talk to us about box theory.

46:19Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Okay. Box theory is my theory that when a guy meets a girl in a romantic setting, he puts her into one of three boxes. He wants to date her, he wants to sleep with her, or he wants nothing to do with her. Third box is easy. You can always tell when someone doesn't want anything to do with you. People get confused between hookup box and the date box. Here's the catch. You cannot move from box to box, I don't think. okay meaning if a guy meets you and he wants to date you you could get too drunk on the first night you could puke on him you could do whatever and he'd still be like when's the next date vice versa if he just puts you in the hookup box you could not sleep with him for six months you could talk about jesus you could be like i love golden retrievers and he still wouldn't want to date you guys are very they decide very quickly about like what which box you're in yeah and people are like, oh, that puts all of the, like, it's guy-centric tanks, like, that puts all the power in their hands.

47:15Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I think you're thinking about it the wrong way. I think it's empowering to know where you stand. And the most important takeaway from box theory is you cannot, nor should you want to, manipulate someone into wanting to date you. Because I think I spent a lot of my 20s where a guy would text me, like, every week and a half, and, like, we'd go out, or we'd meet up when drunk and we'd hook up and whatever. And I'd be like, if I just craft the perfect text, that will get him. And I get so many messages now being like, I sent a message with three emojis. Do you think that's why he doesn't want to date me?

47:46Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:And I'm like, no, this shit was already set in stone. So free yourself, free yourself. If you want to sleep with someone on the first day, you're vibing with them. Cool. Every time I talk about box cereal, I'll get like hundreds of messages. Slept with my husband on the first day. Slept with my boyfriend of 10 years on the first day slept with this guy on the first date we've got three kids now if it's right it's right if

48:05Olivia Attwood:it's not it's not so relax perfect and that is box theory guys 5am routines and they're

48:15Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:documenting of someone social media i used to be a morning person i just think i just think extreme in any way is just that's yeah that's valid just like if you want to do it great but you just like know that you don't have to do it every day yeah you can be like i'm tired i want to sleep in today you don't have to do it every day for the rest of your life in order to be perfect like you don't get a gold star at the end of your life being like good job you woke up at 5 a.m and also i just think that like i'm a bit over this like over optimization of everything like not every second of your day needs to be played that's not really what we're put on life to do no on earth to do yeah yeah it's not like oh we must maximize so like dry brush while you are like reciting your meditation and like whatever it's like chill yeah just do do what speaks to you that day I know routine is important to people and I'm not I'm not yucking their yums like I do get the whole early morning thing you do feel productive but always know you can have a day off yeah don't like don't kill yourself over it like because yeah yeah um friendships ending in your 30s so hard that's horrible so common I like in my me and my followers we call it the splinter era like late 20s early 30s because one person's moving to bali to be a yoga instructor one person's on their third kid one person is going back to law school one person's single one person's getting married to someone everyone hates and it's just like it's just like a vast and every and then you think back to when you were 24 and everyone was in the same boat it was so cozy and you felt like you had your crew and everyone was just in it together scary scary and like really really hard the thing I'll say is friendships ebb and flow let them don't cut it off in your mind and be like I haven't spoken to that friend in six months we're in really different life spaces we'll never be friends again sometimes it needs to it's like a wave it'll come out go out and then it'll come back just like allow for that because things can come back around and you can never make new old

50:11Olivia Attwood:friends because I always think that women we have the lockdown of friendships like and communicating with our girlfriends and everything. But I think we can actually learn a little bit from men in the way that they are with their mates. We get a little heady about that stuff. Yeah. We get a bit like, oh, she didn't.

50:26Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Or like, oh, now she wants me. No, I'm not going to go meet her. She didn't comment on my Instagram. Let it go. Like, from experience. Because I, again, this is not from judgmental place because I've done it too. Let it go because friends are so important. Like, give people the benefit of the doubt, I think. Be the person who always reaches out. If you haven't spoken to your friend in a couple months, you think, oh, it's a little awkward. why hasn't she called me be the person to call it will always come back to you even if

50:51Olivia Attwood:whatever just always be the person to reach out that's a good take re-watching old shows again and again and again what's your comfort show sex and city oh is it or real housewives yeah i i'm at

51:04Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:any given point watching one of them all the way through again yeah but do you know i i read that somewhere people who have anxiety do that because they know how it ends and that's why it's so comforting to them.

51:13Olivia Attwood:Mine is Friends or The American Office.

51:16Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Wow, we have totally different humors. I cannot believe that.

51:19Olivia Attwood:Really? Is that not for you at all?

51:22Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:I think Friends, like, I would genuinely rather watch paint dry. Like, I think I would find it funnier. No, I'm being real with you.

51:30Olivia Attwood:Okay, what I will say about Friends, it's a comfort show. It reminds me of a time in my life when it used to be on a Friday night. Totally. And like, there's a very nostalgic feeling. I get I get that. I am not. This is no friend slander. But I don't, I don't like, I don't cackle. They get the odd, like a Joey and Chandler moment. American Office still, I've watched every episode easily like 60, 70 times. I can still cry laughing at scenes. That's good. It's on all the time. Yeah.

52:01Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:And I laugh so much. But that's like me with Housewives, which I know some people think is like, they're like, how can you watch this? And I'm like, I literally think it's art. like I think it's like an ancient text like I don't I'm like if you refer to episode 4 in season 2 of Roni you'll see that Dorinda said like I think it's an ancient text early Roni and I just think it's so comforting to me and I find it so funny I find their one-liners like hilarious so everyone has their thing that's my thing

52:26Olivia Attwood:any like moments of Housewives that are just like

52:29Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:you should be in the Louvre the Louvre? I mean like right now well so many like don't be all uncool or like when she said carol says like i was awoken by two men's voices in the middle of the night one one was lou an's like that's fucking comedy like that's a fucking

52:48Olivia Attwood:bar like that's so funny it's and i have another one bethany she's like that's what i mean you dumb

52:53Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:drag queen yeah yeah yeah yeah she's just like she's like you fuck everybody like it's some of the episodes in the berkshires like actually i want to resubmit them for like emmys or oscars I'm like this is art so pure the way that they edit it too they'll like go to people's faces they'll go to like someone's thong on the floor I'm like this is and these women are just

53:13Olivia Attwood:so unselfaware it's so perfect it's perfect but you came downstairs in your Herman Munster shoes

53:18Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:they're Louis Vuitton well even Louis Vuitton makes mistakes sometimes oh bars bars

53:23Olivia Attwood:yeah it is maybe I need to swap that into the roster because it's fucking brilliant it's just so good soft launching on Instagram yeah I think it's cool yeah I think it's nice do it you're hard launch soft launch never launch do you do you boo um quote unquote he's just

53:40Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:intimidated by you no so I'm I'm at the point now when people say that to me that I'm like okay I don't like shy people I don't I'm I'm an adult what do you mean you're shot you're intimidated by me I'm just a girl what do you mean like what do you mean I just said that I watch housewives for like five hours a day and you're intimidated of me, clearly you don't have a lot of self-esteem. Sorry.

54:06Olivia Attwood:It's not my mom for me either. It just, it doesn't, and I hear it a lot. And also, I think women say it to each other a lot. Like he might be, I think it's just, like I said, it's an excuse to be.

54:18Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Yeah, and it's kind of like, I don't like to hear it from other women because I'm like, you're kind of in a way saying like you're too much or whatever and I'm like, it's like all the girls who were told like you're too loud in school, whatever, oh like you're too much all this stuff I just I don't buy that because some of the women who are the most too much have incredible relationships and men are adored them I've been in love many times and men have loved me just how I am so I don't care listen it's not a fault to them

54:43Olivia Attwood:it's just not for me yeah Tinks before I let you go I'm I'm trying to expand the club a little bit like some more members who would you suggest I put on the list I think you should have Morgan

54:55Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:Stewart on she you and her work have you met her no you would get along really well she's really

55:00Olivia Attwood:cool I feel like people send her to me sometimes like I feel like she's a very American you in some ways yeah I think you guys would get along really well okay guys Morgan Stewart's team is

55:10Christina 'Tinx' Najjar:getting contacted and who should we ban no one you're a very open good vibe you're open-minded keep it that way innocent until proven guilty

55:21Olivia Attwood:nice open door now for now for now until next week Tinks this has been so much fun it's been so good I'm so happy that you came to the clubhouse and we could do this and um will we go for drinks in London a thousand and ten percent when you come back and when I'm next back here yeah no we're going like night out yeah we need to yeah okay we'll do it up guys if you liked this pod please leave me a little comment um Some stars would be nice. Send it to your friends. Write nice things. And I'll see you next time.

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