Jay & Radhi Answer Questions About Productivity Hacks, Using Your Energy Effectively, and How to Have Positive Self-Talk

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0:44This is Jay Shetty from On Purpose. If you've ever felt off balance, sometimes a change of scenery is the best reset. Delta invited four creators to explore one idea. What if travel isn't just movement, but recharging in motion. And the results? Based on their Oura Ring sleep scores, everyone met the day feeling more rested. And a sense of clarity stayed long after the trip. With Delta, fly and live better. Explore the whole journey on Delta's YouTube channel. So I have a question for the guys out there. Does the phrase skincare routine make you think too much work? yeah i thought so and i used to feel the same way but that's why you need a grooming hack like dove men plus care body and face scrub i mean this exfoliates cleanses and moisturizes in one step it's the ultimate skincare hack your skin will look and feel better and you don't have to work hard to make it happen just add the new dove men plus care body and face scrub into your shower and give your skin a boost.

1:56Join Radhi and I for a part two of our special on-purpose episode today with BMW. Today, Radhi and I switch roles and I go grocery shopping in Radhi's place. Tune in for the road trip with the all-electric BMW iX. Yeah, it's super nice. It's pretty spacious. Let's go! So, Radhi, what's the challenge today? Okay, so you remember a couple of years ago we did this YouTube video where you made something Yeah, I've been trying to block it out ever since. Okay, so you at that time made me, what did you make me? I made you, so this is the one and only time in our entire life that I think I cooked for you.

2:32One time, one time only. And I promised it would be one time only. I cooked you a stuffed pepper. And it was the best rice stuffed pepper you'd ever had in your entire life. It was. It actually made it into my cookbook. I don't know whether I've ever even told you this, but there is a recipe. Imagine you, out of all people, have a recipe in my cookbook. That's amazing. No, it's ridiculous. I told you, if I wanted to be a chef, I'd be, you know. I was asked if you've ever cooked for me, if there's any recipes that remind me of you. And there was one. It was either that or beans on toast. They said I couldn't put beans on toast in there.

3:01Beans on toast? That would have been the best with cheese sprinkled in top. No, no, that's not in my book. With ketchup. What made it into my book, just because stuffed pepper didn't feel fun enough, it's a one-part Mexican rice. Wait, why did the stuffed pepper not feel good enough? It just was like a bit basic, honestly. The actual Mexican rice has made it. It's like a one-part Mexican rice dish. so you already kind of know how to do this. I don't. I have no idea. You're like cheating a little bit. I literally have no idea. What we're going to do is we're going to the grocery store or the supermarket as we like to call it and you're going to buy all the ingredients.

3:35This is my worst nightmare. But on top of that, just to make it a little bit spicy, we are going to get you making some guacamole and some healthy sour cream to be able to dollop on top and then I will joyfully eat it for lunch. While we're on the way to the grocery store, Let's answer some questions. All right, let's do it. So you've got them next to you. I've got them next to you. Because I can't read questions and drive at the same time. I don't think that would be very safe. If we were doing carpool karaoke right now, what would it be? Mine would be, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

4:08Or it would be, baby, calm down. Calm down. Okay, calm down. You know the, don't tell me, no, no, no. Well, you have to know the words. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Got it. You always make fun of me because he makes fun of me in my music choice because he says, A lot of it, there isn't actual words. It's either mumble or it's... Sounds. Sounds. So that would be mine. And if it was Jay, it would be... Don't never stop. What is it? It would be a Drake song. Yeah, Drake song. Everybody obviously got that I was doing that. Right, that's exactly where they got. All right, so what are the questions? What's the biggest difference between drivers in LA and drivers in London?

4:44Oh, I don't know. I have to say, I do find LA drivers a little bit more impatient. Really? Really? Yeah. I do find there's a lot more beeping No one wants to give you away Whereas, you know what? In London, I'd say people do let you into things Really? Yeah Oh, interesting A bit more from rage here One thing I really love about driving in LA As a driver myself Is I love the palm trees I feel like, look at this I feel like I'm on a constant vacation This is about drivers though Right, right, right But I agree I do find the highways scary in LA Me too Because you have that thing of going off Yeah, when people are switching lanes And obviously everything's the other way around for us so you're driving on a different side of the road and the steering wheel's on a different side of the car so especially I find when I come back from London I find it even scarier and I find myself too much on one side or the other oh I do that all the time I think drivers pretty much everywhere in the world are pretty impatient aren't they yeah I am too to be fair do you believe you are do you believe you're a backseat driver okay I'm a proud backseat driver you know why because my line every time I do a backseat driver everything like watch out or don't go that close is imagine I didn't say that I could have just saved your life and somebody else's the difference is every time you say it I'm like the way you say it is more likely to cause an accident yeah exactly yes yeah exactly then save me like I'm like literally I have a shock like I literally have a shock every time you say and I what happened like what happened it's something something happened and you're like no just what's my usual oh my gosh it's mummy yeah mummy it's like what's mummy gonna do I would say I am more of a backseat driver than Jay is, yes.

6:21I'm not a backseat driver at all. Maybe that just shows I care more. I'm also not a backseat driver in life. Oh, line drop. No, no, but it's an interesting question, right? This is like, you know what, Jay Shetty, you're getting Jay Shetty on me. Actually, you know what, let's go deeper into that. What does it mean to be a backseat driver in your life? It's a good question there. What does it mean, Jay, to be a backseat driver? Please do tell us. No, I just think that some of us, you know, grab life by the steering wheel and navigate and take the journey ourselves. And some of us sit in the back seat and criticize and judge and complain about whatever else is doing.

6:57Do you not think that in life we need both backseat drivers and people who want to take the steering wheel and too many steering wheel people would actually be not good?

7:10That was an amazing question. Yeah. That was an amazing question. No, I believe that when you're driving, You should drive safely and securely and responsibly. And when you're in the back seat, you should be obedient. I'm talking about that. What? In life, in life. Oh, in life. Yeah, in life. Okay, next question, people. Next question. If you could pick three people to fill your car with on a road trip. Oh, good question. Oh, just to remind everyone, these were questions that my team came up with, so we had no idea what we were answering. If you could pick three people to fill your car with on a road trip, who would they be?

7:46go on let's try one each what three people in the whole entire world yeah okay I know who it would be yours are easy go on yeah mine are quite easy go on mine would be okay people alive would be my grandma my niece and my nephew yeah banter yeah didn't make it so much fun I didn't make it no but that would be like it would be so funny three in the back three in the back we'll put three in the back then I can be in the car then I can be in the car you can be in the car too but not alive I would love to have a car full of like my grandma and then her grandma and like my ancestors. Oh wow, that's sweet.

8:21One, I love driving around old people. I do it for my grandma and her friends all the time and it is so much fun because they're hilarious. You know one thing I found? My dad opens up on road trips. Like if it's just me and him, he's driving me to the airport or my sister told me yesterday that he was driving her to the airport and he starts telling stories about himself. Like it creates this time and space where people can open up a little bit. And so with that in mind, I think I would want that with people that I really wish I had got to know, but wouldn't have the chance to. What questions would you ask or what game would you play with these people in the car on a long journey?

8:55For fun, I would definitely play, well, our version, Indian version of carpool karaoke on Thakshari, where you all just sing like old Indian songs. But I imagine my grandma and her ancestors would probably sing like devotional songs or God songs, which is amazing. but then to actually ask them questions oh i love word association i think it tells a lot about people right to like to like understand when they hear something what they relate it to right so yeah that's what i'll be what about you who would your three people be oh gosh all right so if it was living it would be you my sister and my mom yeah and that would be like my family trip if it was people who weren't alive or people I don't know I'd want it to be Steve Jobs Martin Luther King and Einstein and I wouldn't say anything I would just listen I would just listen I would have nothing to say I would just sit there and think about what they would say you know who else is so fun in the car we've done a few random car trips with him together there is Radha Naswamy because I feel like he really brings up such good conversation and also does the same thing my dad does where there's so many stories that come out during those trips.

10:17Totally. I love those trips. Actually, I take you out and put him into mine, sorry. Got it, got it. Yeah. With your bar and your niece and nephew. My grandma, my niece, my nephew. Yeah, I'm not sure. I'm not sure he'd enjoy that. I was going to say the other person you love having in the car is Ardell. Oh, yeah, that's a good carpool karaoke friend. Yeah, you and Ardell are always singing in cars. Yeah, that's true. That's a good answer. That would be a really interesting conversation to have. Yeah. If it was possible. Who is more likely to leave the car lights on overnight? I literally did that yesterday.

10:44Not overnight. Did you? Not overnight, no. You leave the car lights on. You leave the car unlocked. You forget to charge the car. I leave my little crickets in the car. We're so lucky that we have electric cars right now. I've always got a spare hairband, a spare drink, a spare pair of sunglasses, some snacks. There's always something here lingering. Right. That's really a blessing. So then, yeah, it wouldn't be me. I'll take that one. I find that I go through periods where the car is immaculate, and then when I have too many clothes and shoes in the car. There are times I will literally come to the car, and it's like he's been living out of his car for a long period of time.

11:21Because I've started to realise, like, it happened the other night, right? You needed a tux. I needed a suit, because I had an event to go to, and I've started to realise, so I keep my pickleball stuff in the car. Yeah. I need a suit in the car. I need a suitcase in the car, potentially. Yeah. Like, I find, like, so much of my life is so, like, last minute. True. I jump on a plane, do this, do that, that I've started to realise that I need to be more prepared. I feel like you weren't prepared for this road trip because where are my beverages? Oh, no, but we're going to buy some Juni when we get there.

11:47Okay, fine. Who's most likely to get car sick in a car that they're not driving? Me too, yeah. I get car sick so much. I still never... If I do this as well. Let's figure that out, though, that kind of, like... Let's just go a little bit deeper into this, shall we? Let's dive into it, Jay. Go on. I'm trying to figure out this whole classic situation. Yeah, it's just an imbalance in the ear, babe. There's nothing to figure out. No, but then how do we solve our imbalance? Because we've had this for a while. No, it's an imbalance in your eardrum. Right. So there are different ways. You can use peppermint.

12:16All that really helps me. Right. So why didn't you bring peppermint? Chewing on ginger, that's really helpful. Right. And then if you are reading, read upwards. Got it. Go on then. Not outwards. What's the next question? Okay, the next question is, would you need maps to get from our house to go to a grocery store? Yes. Completely. I think Google Maps has really ruined my ability to absorb in things around me. And I don't know what I would be without Google Maps. Well, no, I know what I would be. I don't know where I would be. If I was, yeah, if I'm in London, I can really get around. But I feel like ever since we moved to the States.

12:48I've become very reliant. We're so reliant on maps. Yeah, so in conclusion, we both would need maps to get anywhere. Yeah. I'm assuming this is a question from you to me. Go on. Do you not answer texts from me because you're playing hard? So I've told the team that sometimes you don't respond. I have to explain this to our friends as well, because our friends will be like, I've gotten so much better at her. He's rather upset with me, like, he's rather okay. I'm fine. I'm like, she doesn't reply to her own husband for, like, seven messages. Like, I have to ask her the same question. You're quite, you're someone who, like, you're not so succinct, though.

13:21I am succinct. Okay, fine. It is me, honestly. But I also think, you know what I really do think, and this is, I'm going to have a Jay Shetty moment now. Go ahead. I believe that we have this terrible habit of wanting people to reply within like a day or two. And I'm like, what if I want to reply within a week? But what if we live together? Yeah, then you can ask me when you see me. Right. And I just think that there's this, I don't, I find that the reason I get distracted so fast is because this need of, oh my gosh, I have to reply to this person fast. I have to reply to this email within this amount of time.

13:55I have to, and sometimes I just want the freedom And like today I replied back to an email three days later. Was anybody hurt by it? No. Well, if they were, I'm sorry. But all that text messages, someone messaged me and I remembered it this morning. So I was like, oh, four days later. And I don't even feel like I should have to apologize for a late reply because late is relative. Got it. Late is relative. But yes, I am bad. No, no, you've got really good at it. I've gone so much better. I just find sometimes I need to make a decision. Totally. Call me. I am not a messenger. I am so good with calls.

14:25And I'm the opposite. I'm a message reader. You're a messenger. Yeah, don't always call me because I'll be in meetings in the studio or something. I'm like, if you call me, I will pick up and we can talk. I'm more than happy to do that. But because I have to type so much for work and I'm on my phone all the time for that, communication via phone becomes so tedious for me. It's not fun. So call me, beat me if you want to reach me. One of the times I do take calls, which I do love, is when I'm driving. That's usually my time to take a phone call. It speeds up any journey. Except LA has such bad reception.

14:53Fair. What would each other's first line be if we met now at a party? Oh, interesting Mine would be something like Did you try the vegan tacos? Are you vegan? Are you vegan? What would mine be? Mine would be We never met at a party So I don't also have that context I think maybe you'd probably get into Like a group convo with people And then you'd say something intellectual And then I'd ask you something Oh, so I'd use my intellect Yeah, I think you'd use your intellect What's the first song? No, but do you know what? Let's... Let's get into this. No, no, no. I really feel for everyone who's, like, dating right now online and stuff.

15:36It's really hard. It's so hard. The struggle is real. I'm like, you have to be interesting on your profile. You have to be interesting on your pictures. Then you have to be interesting on text. Then you have to be interesting on a voice note. Then you have to be interesting in real life. And then you get the real life. It's because you're forced to have to be interesting at every tiny point of connection. I know. Sometimes I just want to not talk and just be silent. You can't do that on dates. You can't just be yourself. You always feel like you have to show up as a really excitable, interesting person with a lot that you do in life.

16:07What's your screen time? Oh, my gosh. Tell me yours. I'll tell you mine later. I don't even want to tell you. Tell me. Seven hours, 30 minutes. That makes sense. It's during the work day. Let's see what it is, though. Most used WhatsApp. so like yesterday was WhatsApp for three hours so that's messaging and calls talking to your mum yeah Instagram for one hour ten not bad internet surfing for one hour notes section 42 minutes because I write on that yeah write your quotes I write my quotes on there write my little reminders reflections Google Maps 30 minutes messages 26 minutes and Google Calendar 23 minutes that's not too bad honestly that's probably one of my Google Mail 20 minutes that was writing back to that one email Great.

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17:41Have you ever brought your magic to Walt Disney World like, hey, we came to play? Did you tip your tiara to a Creole princess or get goofy officially? step up like a boss and save the day or see what life's like under the tree of life did you if you could would you when we come through it's true magic because we came to play bring the magic at walt disney world resort if our relationship had a theme song what would it be pop star yeah I'm a pop star yeah I'd go with that I don't think that goes for a relation I think that's great do you have an ick about me? where to start? yeah I know literally I think it used to be when you used to run late I'm going to tell you mine what?

18:32mine is because you know you have this like photographic memory I think you remember everything sometimes even if I know I'm in the right I question myself but you're not in the right I am though there are some times where you actually get it wrong I don't You do. And this is my ick. This part. You're the stubborn one. I don't get anything wrong. No, I do get stuff wrong. I'm actually the first to say I'm sorry or the first to say I've got something wrong. You are. You're the stubborn one. I am stubborn. So it's your stubbornness. Okay, great. Yeah. It's going to start a fight. Alright, so we're here.

19:02Yay. Made it. Made it. Enjoyed that conversation with you. Me too. It was really great. I'm really excited to get a little beverage. There you go. And for the challenge, I am not worried. Are you ready? Are you ready? Come on, let's go. Let's go get some food. Come make me some dinners. Friday, I need some... I need a break, okay? Let's do it. How do I open this? Oh, yeah. Amazing. Oh, you're not opening my door for me now. Oh, sorry. See exactly. Shall we visit here? Yeah.

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20:27Head over to your local Sprouts or visit sprouts.com to find the closest location near you. That was fun. That was so fun. I know you're hungry. I'm going to go home and cook. I'm I'm going to go home and make lunch for you. How does it feel when someone makes your own food for you? Honestly, great, because you know what the amazing thing about cooking and recipes is? That you can, like, when I cook my mum's food, I can literally cook the same thing with the same recipe, and it will never taste the same. In a good way. In a great way. Like, everything is so different. So when I make your recipe, it will have its own flavour?

21:11Yeah. Because it will be made with love for you? Yeah, it will just be using different hands, different amounts. Like, even if you're measuring things out, somehow things always taste different. That's what's so amazing about food. Right. I'm just not a person to speak to when I'm not fed. Right. I don't know whether you're like that. Is that how you feel right now? That's how I feel right now. I get what you're saying, though. I get quite hangry as well. Do you? Don't you? Hupset. I get more hupset. I get hupset. Or like, yeah, hupset. I get agitated. Hagitated, right? Hagitated. Hagitated. So what do we do?

21:44What do I do when you're agitated? Ideally not talk to me, but we can't do that right now. No, we can't. Because we're recording a podcast. Let's keep this going. What do you do to keep yourself, like, because you're someone who expends so much energy during the day, I feel like you're probably one of the most... What's, like, the word for a person who uses their time really well? Just organised. No, no, no. you are one of the most productive people that I know and you really don't you know you're not a time waster you really use your energy and your time so efficiently but I always wonder and I feel like I get asked this a lot like how do you manage to maintain that energy level throughout the day I don't there are times when I feel tired but secondary part to that question is when you do like right now I feel like I just want to get into bed and do nothing for the rest of the day but like one can't do that often so what would one do if one was feeling that way and actually you know how do you keep motivated and then pick your energy back up I think first of all I do love what I do and I really and I'm really grateful to get to do what I do I feel I feel like I appreciate that I get to do what I love every day and I don't take that for granted I've noticed that about you you really even if you are feeling that way you self-soothe a lot in the sense that you you self-talk to motivate your like you don't really rely on other people to bring you no you give me encouragement no but what i'm saying is you find ways i know even when you're feeling tired you're like no you know i may be tired but this is something that i love doing or you're constantly talking to yourself in a positive language to motivate yourself or energize yourself yeah and i've noticed that about you where even if you are tired and even if you're yeah i'm exhausted but i've had like the best week and yeah it's been so productive and i got this done and what an amazing thing to be able to do this or this and so i've noticed that with you where even and so i think that language really makes a difference yeah how we talk to ourselves yeah yeah and i always say to myself i am tired so i'm accepting and then I add an action to solve that.

23:55So I am tired and I'll go to sleep tonight. I'll sleep early tonight, yeah. Yeah, I'll go to sleep early tonight. Or I am tired and tomorrow I'm going to sleep on the plane. So I've got a flight tomorrow in the morning. It's always telling you, you know what it is? Your body reacts to how you're feeling and what you're saying to it. Yeah, and you're not lying to it. You can't just be like, oh, I feel energized. No, because it knows you're lying. Yeah, yeah, exactly. But it's one of those things where you are almost giving it that hope and that's something to look forward to where it's like, let's just put in that last amount of effort and then just know that I also know you are struggling and I know that this is happening in my body.

24:31So I'm telling you body that we are going to do this and it's going to make us feel better. And also planning recoup, right? Like I know that, like last weekend when you planned a little spa day for us. Yeah. Like I was looking forward to that the whole week. We knew we had a tough couple of weeks before that. and now I know I've got another quite intense like seven days ahead yeah and then I'm hoping to have a bit of couple of days of rest and so I think it's also balancing that out and saying okay I know I've got a busy period when am I going to plan some deep rest rather than going okay I'm just gonna rely on that energy I think people and by people I mean people like me we live moment to moment rather than like there's a lot of people and I'm not saying whether that's good or bad but there are people who live moment to moment and react according to how they're feeling in the moment and then there are people who and I think there's a training element to it where you know you can't always act on how you're feeling because often how you're feeling may not be may not be the right way to do what you need to do like I feel a certain way right now but do I have things to do and do I need to get them done yes whereas if I went with how I was feeling and and I didn't train myself to push through that sometimes, I wouldn't be able to get done what I need to do.

25:47So I think it takes an element of training. I think that's every single time you're feeling that way, having that talk and pushing yourself to do those things. Yeah, that's really smart. There you go. There you go. Solved it. What was that last question on the page? It was, what kind of party person are you? Oh, introvert, extrovert, what was the option? No, it was kind of like the... So I know I... I'm the person yawning at the party, but also the person who I find one person to talk to the whole night usually. That's what I do. And I stick with that person. No, you are like a full-on social butterfly.

26:19No, I'm not. Trying to get you out of a party is literally like, I... No, no. So, okay, look. No. I find Jeremy at any party. No, no, this is true. When Humble lived here, I would find Humble or Jeremy at any party and we would sit and have a philosophical conversation. For now and after, that's fact. No. That's fact. No, that's fact. No. Ask Humble or Jeremy. You're the person who... This is that stubbornness coming out in you. I know why I do. No, I know because I'm always waiting by the door, waiting for you to see. That's never happened in a million years. Are you joking? Yeah. Are you joking?

26:47Name one place that we went to recently. Okay, I'm going to ask all my friends. All of our friends tonight, when we see them, what usually happens at the end of the night, it's you talking to everybody saying bye for about an hour. Yeah, but that's because they're guests at our home or at our event. No, when we're out. No. People are round about, you're talking to people, and I'm waiting to go to the next shop, and you're just having a joke. You're just a chatter, you are. I'm definitely not. You are. You love socialising. You know what, though? We went to some really beautiful things lately. So we were really fortunate to go to...