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30:11How did you hold on to that beautiful belief that you're not the light and you're a manager of the light when anyone else could easily believe they were? By continuing to have a spiritual practice, a spiritual life, by continuing to study, like always pulls you back to center. Were you able to keep it up when you were like on tour or when you're building your album? Absolutely. Wow. I drove everyone crazy. My manager was like, why can't we have shows on this night? Or why are you late? Because I'm praying. Like what, you know what I mean? Would you pray before every show? People who are only focused on, absolutely, pray before every show.

30:52But people who are focused on making money are definitely not focused on spiritual life. You have to have your feet in both worlds. And I see… You literally wouldn't do a show on a day because that was your study day. Yeah. Or I would be late. Yeah. I get a lot of shit for being late. Walk me through… Honestly, it's really hard to balance being a parent, having work, having a spiritual life. you're constantly juggling. There's not a lot of time to rest. And if people don't recognize that, then they're just going to look at you in a very 1%, like superficial way and go, you're late. It's like, but you don't understand what I was doing before I became late.

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33:43I want to talk about how spirituality affected you, your role as a mother. Obviously, you said that becoming a mother yourself is actually what even began that enlightenment. It kind of began that journey. It felt like a responsibility. It felt like a moment of change. How is... Well, my mother died after giving birth to all my brothers and sisters. So literally, like the year after my youngest sister was born, my mother died. So I always equated motherhood with death. So, and I also equated it with, I could see she was not happy. I could see she wasn't living the life she wanted to live. I equated it with death or I equated it with no freedom or I equated it with no life except taking care of other people.

34:30And so when I started, when I came to New York and I started my career, I was like, no, this is not for me. I don't want to be a mother. I don't want that. I wasn't saying it out loud, but I was thinking that, like, why would I give all of this up? I worked so hard for it. Well, one day I found that I was pregnant and I, and I had been running away from it for so long. And I wouldn't say I was in a stable relationship, but I loved her father. So I wasn't really thinking it through, but I was like, okay, this happened, this happened to me. So it's meant to happened to me. So, um, but honestly, what, what the hell am I going to teach my daughter?

35:14Like, how am I going to guide her? I've just been living this, you know, completely selfish life, really that, you know, turned out good in many ways, but, um, in reality I was doing everything for my own self. And I also kind of thought, well, you know, okay, I'm pregnant, so I'm going to be a mother. So I'll figure it out. I'll work it out. But honestly, I was scared shitless and I wasn't in a traditional relationship. And once again, like this is the story of my life. I keep finding myself in unconventional or untraditional or unusual or unfamiliar places. And I have to keep adjusting. And I say that, I would say that that is also the reason that I I'm still here and still going and have the strength to fight things or to survive.

36:12Because being too comfortable in life, I would say, is the downfall of a lot of people who started off taking chances, taking risks. Is that something success does to you, do you think, where in the beginning you take risks and you get out? I feel like that happens to other people, not me. I think I've always felt like an outsider in life I felt like an outsider growing up in Michigan I felt like an outsider when I came to New York I felt like an outsider when I moved to LA and had my Hollywood life I always felt like I did when I was in high school I don't fit in and not fitting in is what saves you and studying Kabbalah nobody else was interested in it not my friend group and if I would speak about it to people they'd be like oh that's really interesting having a spiritual life isn't necessarily going to make you popular but if you're a conscious person searching for truth then it's going to be interesting like I'm interested in your spiritual path your spiritual life I want to know what you do what it does for you I want to know how you do it because I'm curious and curiosity and being an outsider And those are the things that actually save you, even though it's not supported in our society, like to think outside the box, to take the road less traveled by, to not be so concerned with approval, public approval.

37:49and now we live in a world where everyone follows algorithms and algorithms are the opposite of taking chances. They are the opposite of being unique. They are the opposite of spiritual life. They are the opposite of consciousness. That's why artificial intelligence cannot duplicate consciousness. It can duplicate doing things, following formulas, but it can't duplicate consciousness. so now have we gotten really off the stage I love it though it's great it's it's great to be in your stream of consciousness and and on that on that point I'll get back but I often get asked the question right now when I'm on panels of do I ever believe that AI will have a soul and my response is always I just hope that the people who are building AI have a soul because yeah ultimately it's becoming a reflection of whatever's inside of us but I digress going going back to going back to how, Garn, you were going to say something.

38:49No, you're right. Yep. The people who make it, but are they? Yeah. That's the most important part. That's the scariest part. Yeah. The intention and the purity. Intention and consciousness. Yeah. Yeah. I just repeat that like a mantra. Consciousness is everything. Consciousness is everything. But a lot of people don't even know what that is. When you became a mom and you're trying to teach your children about, I guess, I'm assuming you wanted to pass some of these teachings on. Yeah. I mean, they grew up learning it and studying it, studying or listening to me study with my teachers or listening to other people.

39:24And they would bounce back and forth between thinking it was silly or something weird that mom does. But I see that it has impacted all of them. What makes you see that? work? Because they study. Not all of them. But I feel like my children who have a spiritual life are happier than the ones who do not. But obviously they could start at any time. It could happen. I'm not, you know, there's no coercion in spirituality. It's like, either it speaks to you or it doesn't. Yeah, I remember my dad was trying to get us to do things for so long and I rejected it so hard because... Yes, well that's the other thing.

40:04Children always reject their parents, the path they follow, their belief systems. They think it's stupid. And then they come back around a little bit. Totally. Yeah. Yeah. There's that famous quote that says, the day you realize your parents were right, your kids are telling you that you're wrong. And I think it's an often common experience that people have. Yeah. How did Kabbalah impact your, and your spiritual practice impact your role as a daughter? because like you said, you lost your mother when you were five. To a certain extent, I resented my father growing up because I felt like he wasn't present for us emotionally.

40:44He did have a lot of responsibilities, and he's a deeply Catholic person, but I don't, I felt like he followed his spiritual path or he followed Catholicism because that's how he was raised. That's how it was done. When I was growing up, if I wanted to ask a question about Why do we do this? Why are we genuflecting? Why are we receiving the body and blood of Christ? My father didn't have an answer. He'd just say, that's what is written. And what drew me to Kabbalah was that I could ask questions, and there were answers. And questions were invited, which is the opposite of how it was brought up.

41:23So I looked at my father as kind of like a religious robot, you know what I mean? And not that he's not a good person, but I didn't want to be a robot. And especially having a spiritual life, I started to see my father as a human being and see that he was a human that made mistakes and that he did the best with what he was taught, what he was given. When those cylinders start clicking in your head, you start to have a lot more compassion. not just for your parents but for all people who don't see life the way you see it that you don't agree with it brought me to a place where I could have more compassion for him I mean that seems like a really big gift yeah to have the understanding and I could agree I think spiritual context creates so much compassion when you are able to zoom out and look at someone's life like I remember But the moment I really had compassion for my dad was when I visited the home he grew up in, which was this room.

42:35I mean, I can't even compare it to this. His home was like probably just from here to here, like his entire home. And they shared a bathroom with 20, 30 families. And we went outside. I was nine years old. We're in India and there's cockroaches around us in Pune. there's cockroaches around his home there's bats in the you know and it's just like and inside and I I was nine years old and I couldn't believe that you know that's where my dad grew up and it was almost like something clicked where I was like I I unless I saw that I wouldn't have had that experience because it was always easier to assume that their life yeah well that's the thing my like I say to my kids all the time like you're judging me by the chapter you arrived in.

43:23Like, this is not how my life has been. And it's really hard for kids to see that. Yeah. Yeah. Going there was probably one of the best things that ever happened to me because it's what you're saying. I was able to go to a previous chapter in someone's life. And even though my childhood, we weren't well-to-do or we didn't have anything, but we didn't have a lot. Going to see that, I was like, oh gosh, my life is a million times better than this. and having that context was huge for me. I want to hear about how you were able to apply these principles in the difficulty of the big things you're talking about, because whether it's reconnecting with our parents, whether it's recovering from being raped, whether it's dealing with these challenges you've dealt with, as you said, it doesn't happen overnight.

44:09It's not easy. It is the level of study and work. But talk to me about the emotional journey of shifting from a victim to whatever you would call this on the other side, because it would be very natural for anyone to feel that way. I want to hear about the emotional journey and the spiritual journey you went on. What were some of the steps or stages that you saw that if anyone who's listening or watching can recognize and potentially relate to? Well, the first thing is you're suffering all the time. If you don't have a spiritual life, you're just suffering all the time. And you really think that whatever's happening to you It was like something that's never going to end.

44:49And you drew the wrong card. That's how you feel, yeah. That's how I used to think. And even now, since I've been studying, there's been times where I've been really challenged and really suffered in certain situations. And if I didn't have a spiritual life, I don't know how. There were moments in my life where I wanted to cut my arms off. I actually contemplated suicide. And that probably sounds really weird coming from me because I'm not emo. You know what I mean? But I was like, I can't take this pain anymore. But as soon as you understand that what's happening to you is a challenge that you are karmically meant to experience and learn from and evolve to a higher level of consciousness, then you can look at that event, that experience as a lesson and not punishment.

45:51What pain at the time pushed you to that place of potentially wanting to take your own life? I mean, I don't, I don't, I don't, I'm not in the blame game. That's the thing. I used to be that way. And I used to always want to seek revenge, you know, if somebody did me wrong. Or I would pronounce loudly, oh, well, you know, they'll get their own karma, well, whatever, you know what I mean? And even knowing about karma doesn't mean you're a grown-up. It doesn't mean you're not of being a victim. But I would say probably one of the most painful moments in my life where I honestly couldn't see the forest for the trees was when I went through a custody battle with my son.

46:44And I, you know, even though my marriage didn't work out, I mean, a lot of people's marriages don't work out. They marry their own people. They're not aligned. They're not meant for each other. Someone trying to take my child away from me was like, they might as well just kill me. That's really how I was thinking. And I was on tour at the time. So I had to go on stage every night. I would just be lying on the floor of my dressing room, sobbing. I really thought it was like, it was the end of the world. I couldn't take it. I just couldn't take it. But thank God, I don't feel that way anymore. And I had to keep, you know, studying, like continuing my studies and continuing on my spiritual path, like helped me to understand that, you know, the enemy is within.

47:39Talk to me about that. You know, lots of people do lots of bad things and make a lot of bad choices or make choices that cause other people pain, suffering or chaos or whatever. but at the end of the day I needed to learn some lessons and I can see that with the benefit of hindsight but I couldn't see it at the time and also I was abandoned as a child by my own mother and so losing a child it was like life repeating itself I couldn't accept it and so it caused me a lot of suffering and not being able to accept things causes all of us a lot of suffering. So, yes, and now, you know, I'm happy to say that I'm really good friends with my son.

48:31But I couldn't see it then. I really thought it was the end of the world. So, you know, thank God I had a spiritual life. Was the lesson radical acceptance? Yeah, exactly. It took me a long time, actually, several years.

48:49Radical acceptance is just accepting that what is happening to you is meant to happen to you and that you're going to be okay. I mean, it's not an instant thing. There's no such thing as an instant thing. There's no way we're going to escape suffering. Even if we grow up with wealth and privilege and, you know, we didn't grow up in a small room, you know, our challenges and our suffering is going to come to us in a different way. I can give you another example of radical acceptance, and this is something that my teacher shared with me. About a year and a half ago, I was rehearsing for a tour, and I got a bacterial infection.

49:34and I, one minute I was alive and dancing around and the next minute I was in the ICU unit of a hospital and I woke up from being unconscious for four days. I got out of the hospital. They took me off of, you know, the ventilator. I started to breathe on my own and I had something, something, it's called sepsis and it's like, it can kill you. Yeah, that's really bad. And everybody recovers at a different rate. And so, you know, I've always seen myself as superwoman So I was like, oh, I'm going to kick this. I'm going to be good. I'm getting back into rehearsals. And I had no strength. I had no energy.

50:12I couldn't get out of bed, and I didn't know when it was going to end. And I used to talk to my teacher all the time, and he's like, the sooner you accept what's happening to you and that you don't know when it's going to end, the sooner it's going to end. That made so much sense to me. And, of course, it did. but I mean I've heard some people never recover from it completely never uh recover and have their like full health again so again it's the same idea same concept like if you sit around feeling sorry for yourself or what was me or poor me or this is like I don't accept it I will not accept it well then you're just going to be swimming and suffering you're reminding me of something I read in a, it's not a spiritual book, but it has a similar message.

51:01It's called Culture Code by Daniel Coyle. And he talks in this book about how when soldiers were out at war, a lot of them wanted to believe they'd be back by Christmas. And there were the others that accepted that they had no idea when they were going to get home. And he talks about how that those who accepted that they had no idea when they were going to get home were actually happier and were able to endure what they were going through a lot easier than those who hoped they'd get back on Christmas and then didn't. Yes. It's like the Viktor Frankl book. Yes. Yeah, exactly. And it's such, it's when, when I hear it from those really extreme scenarios, you're like, wow, if Viktor Frankl can think that, you know, in the experience that he had, you go, okay, well, and Edith Eager with the gift and you go, wow, like, yeah, if you can have that experience there, then there must be some truth to that.

52:01Because how could you accept that when you were going through the worst? Yeah. Yeah. It's really, really tough. Going back to your experience of that, what would you say, because you mentioned karma there and this idea of choices we make and lessons we need to learn and karma almost being this experience of learning the lessons. How do you see karma? How do you define karma from your learnings and studies? And let's stop there and then I'll ask the second question after that. My personal understanding is that our souls choose the lives that we are born into, the circumstances we are born into, that our souls are perfect, but then we're born into a life, which is one challenge after the next, and that our journey is to navigate and to see that each challenge that happens to us is our karmic destiny.

53:06It's energy. It's quantum physics. it's cause and effect. Whatever's happening to me that might be uncomfortable is obviously meant to happen to me to teach me a lesson. And if I don't learn that lesson at that point, it's going to come up again and again and again until I learn it. And accept that it's a lesson, not a punishment. So that's how you get out of victim mentality also. What was the lesson that kept repeating for you and took you a bit longer than you would have liked to learn? What was the one that kept showing up? Betrayal or abandonment. Sometimes they go hand in hand. But it really kept me, I saw a lot of people or I felt and experienced that I was constantly being either abandoned or betrayed.

54:04so that kept me in a state sometimes often like feeling sorry for myself stuck in a place of blaming others and not taking responsibilities for well how did I bring this upon myself or why asking the question well why is this happening to me over and over again obviously I need to learn something I think everybody if they think about it like what is the thing that always comes back to you. For everybody, it's something different, obviously. I think the abandonment thing was the greatest lesson that it could teach me, that I could stop being destroyed by it or paralyzed by it, was to think of all, like, how am I not showing up for other people?

54:57How am I abandoning other people? How am I abandoning myself? How long have I been not listening to myself, my inner truth, my inner voice? Yes. And we all say goodbye to our inner selves at some point or another until something wakes us up. Push has to come to shove for everybody. There's just no way to escape it. So that's something that is a concept that you have to get your head around. There's no running away from being tested. there's no running away from experiencing pain suffering whether it's physical or emotional I mean, and that obviously that takes life experience and living and living.

55:43going, okay, everything's going well for me. I'm so happy. Everything's great. Oh no, this is like, this is a failure. People are writing negative shit about me. Like, you know, or this relationship ended or this person cheated on me or this, you know, like all these things that happened to you,

56:03rejection. Like, and then you go, and you go, no, I'm not happy. If you're going to go through life, like being a slave to these like ups and downs, you're just going to be like, I don't know how you can last on it, obviously. I mean, it's obvious to me. I don't know if it's obvious to you or anybody who's watching this, but I don't know how we can maintain our sanity. And especially now, I mean, when people lived simpler lives and we didn't see what was going on in the world and we didn't, like we weren't so connected like we are because of technology and the internet, whatever. It's hard not to get anxious or start blaming or taking sides or feeling, you know what I'm saying?

56:53Yeah, I loved what you said. This one line will stay with me for a long time. I really thought it was beautiful. You said we all say goodbye to our inner selves at some point. And that really landed because that's why it feels like we're coming home to ourselves when you, and I think everyone who's listening or watching can, if they've started their spiritual journey, they've started their reconnection journey, they know what that feeling's like where it's like, yeah, wait, I left myself and now I'm coming back to myself. Yes. I always say, what was I thinking before I was thinking? Right. I don't even know.

57:34So I was just thinking about myself. But ironically and paradoxically, when you're just thinking about yourself and consumed with yourself, you're actually not connected to yourself at all. You know what I mean? Yeah. So how does it change now when you go through betrayal or you go through rejection or any of those things that you talked about? how do you process it differently now with your spiritual practices than you did before? What's the different experience you have of it? Well, I spend less time feeling sorry for myself, being a victim, blaming, and more time thinking, okay, why did this happen to me?

58:14What's the lesson? I mean, I go to that sooner than I did before. What's the difference between self-blame and accountability? Because I feel a lot of people fall into the trap of, now you don't go and blame other people, but you blame yourself and you go, I messed up. I should have chosen right. I should have done this. Okay. Well, self-reflection and acknowledging and being accountable for your behavior is not the same as feeling guilty. Feeling guilty is just you're consumed with your ego. Shaming yourself. Yeah. So you're not going to get anywhere with that. It just stops any kind of growth from happening.

58:48It's pretty amazing to say that you can speed up to that point of asking yourself that question of what can I learn from this? I mean, that's the ultimate question. Yeah, and believe me, it's not something that stays with me all the time. It's like sometimes I forget and I'm like, I'm doing this again, I'm doing it again. I'm falling back into a familiar pattern, yeah. But if you don't know, then you're not, like it's important to know. Again, not beat up on yourself. Well, okay, I made a mistake. What can I learn from it? swallow your pride. Tell your ego to shut up, basically. You mentioned the word manifesting earlier and channeling and being a vessel.

59:34And I wanted to ask you because manifesting becomes very popular in the world today as a concept. It's at least out there. People understand the word. Now, when people would look at your career, they would assume you've manifested incredible amounts of success for yourself incredible amounts of wins and all the rest of it. Talk to us about your process of manifestation. What does it actually look like? If you're manifesting things and you're not conscious that it's a gift from the universe, from the light, from the creator, whatever you want to call it. If you're not aware of that and you're not conscious, then okay, you invented something great you created this thing that now is selling billions but everything becomes finite when you're not manifesting with the with the consciousness that you are channeling something you don't own it so that's a big thing that's the key part yeah Sure.

1:00:43So whatever it is. So if I have a successful show, if I have a successful, if anything happens to me successfully, like it's perceived as a success in the outside world, I just say, you know, that's, I, how blessed am I? I manifested that with the help of God. I didn't do it on my own. I do nothing on my own. And if you think you're manifesting on your own, you're like an ostrich with your head in the sand. And there will be an end to whatever you're manifesting. So if someone desires something, they've got to recognize that it's not their hand, it's something that they're willing to become. Well, I mean, it requires work to be conscious.

1:01:38It requires work to see that you're channeling something and being a vessel for something. So you do have your part in it, but you're not on your own. That's the point. And a lot of us feel like, I'm going to do this. When I do this, I'll get this. And when I get this, then I will be this person. Right, but that's desire for selfish reasons. You know, manifesting success is whenever you want something for the sake of sharing. When you want something just for yourself, like I'll be happy when I have 10 Bugattis and a mansion in every major city. And I'm the brand ambassador of Louis Vuitton. No offense to Louis Vuitton, just throwing that out there.

1:02:24But you know what I mean? Like those things like really make people happy. But it's short-lived. and sooner or later everybody comes to that realization anyways. It's just whether it's sooner or later. And these are the things, I talk about this in our studies, let's get back to why I'm here, and my intention is to share my spiritual life with people. We talk about, in our studies, we talk about manifesting, and we talk about being a channel. and you know I share in one of the studies I talk about writing my first song for example and how I taught myself how to play the drums and I my friend my boyfriend at the time was in a band and he taught me how to play guitar like just simple chords and when nobody was around I would start playing with all the instruments and start without thinking without any like I'm going to be this or I'm going to be that.

1:03:25Let me just, I just sat down and wrote a song for the first time. And I was very conscious at that moment after it happened, where did that come from? How did that happen? I didn't grow up with musicians. I didn't grow up with songwriters. No one, I didn't have a goal to be that. Where did it come from? And so when you start like opening your eyes to that, How did that happen? Where did that come from? Then you see the possibilities. You see the magic of the universe of life. And you see that that was a gift. Some angel showed up in my room. And what am I going to do with that gift? So these moments happen to you throughout life.

1:04:16They happen to everybody. whether you're saving someone's life or or you have this incredible idea for some life-saving invention you know what i mean we're we're all blessed with those moments and it's you know it's really the important thing is to acknowledge where that came from that's really manifesting i love that that that's my favorite explanation of manifestation i've ever heard. Truly, it really is. Because I think what often happens in substitute of what you said is we have an idea and then we try and manufacture that set of inputs and outputs again to get that again. And then it doesn't work.

1:04:58And then we're confused because like, wait a minute, last time I did this and did this and did this, then I got this and now I'm trying to do it again. And then you get stuck because now you think you can't do it. But the reality is that's just a very functional way of looking at something that's far beyond input, output, and manufacturing. You can't manufacture to manifest. It doesn't make sense. Yeah. I really, really like that. I really, really appreciate that definition. And I think that's going to help a lot of people because I think the way it's being talked about right now is just being, be clear about your goals and be really clear about what you want.

1:05:37I mean, that's important too. Say out loud what you want out of life. That is important, but you're in a partnership. That's really what's important to remember. And we become our environments as well. So we want to surround ourselves with people who, with like-minded individuals. And if you are around people who also are attaining to reach a higher level of consciousness or want to know the deeper meanings of life or want to look inward and figure out what their karmic destiny is or even take into consideration the idea of karma, I mean, you need that also. Because if you don't have that support system, then you can also fall back into the trap of recreating formulas that work or trying to capture some magical moment and make it magic again.

1:06:33And that's just our ego taking over and telling us, you know, I did that. I did that. I can do it again. Yeah. Yeah. And you can't. No.

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1:08:45One of my favorite ways of thinking about it, especially when you said it's a partnership, is when we look at the universe, everything's always serving. So the sun's providing light and heat. Water's obviously giving us life. Oxygen exists. Trees are giving us shade and fruits and flowers. And so in order to really be in partnership with the universe, one has to want to serve because everything is designed to serve and give and everything's designed to give and serve and provide. And so when we're not serving, we're actually acting against the universe because everything in the universe is designed simply to give.

1:09:26We're wired for generosity, but educated for greed. And when that juxtaposition comes up against itself, it just creates friction. It's like we all feel better when we do something for someone else. Absolutely. We all feel more joy when you take care of someone in need more than if you did it for yourself and the science and the research backs up as well. This isn't some woo-woo spiritual idea. No, it's absolutely the truth. But it's amazing how our conditioning and education is so the opposite that we all believe that. Every man for himself. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, that's the statement. No. How much unconditioning does it take for us to lose the every man for himself mindset.

1:10:07What does that look like in your spiritual practice and journey, especially? To not fall back into that trap, you mean? To continue to have a spiritual life, a spiritual practice, to study. I love how simple it is. To stop every, you know, whether every day, once a week. People don't have some kind of ritualistic moment in their life. Like I said, whether it's every day or a few times a week, Like, what's going to stop you? You know what I mean? You have to have that moment where you're thinking about what you've done, thinking about what you'd like to do, thinking about what, you know, have I capitalized on the opportunities that have come my way, not monetarily, spiritually.

1:10:57Like, what did I do to help someone? What have I done for others? um i mean that's really the only way you can be successful in life what were you trying to channel when you were creating in your music and what were you trying to do to help people what was well in the beginning i just wanted to be somebody i just wanted to be somebody like i wanted to have a voice i wanted to make a difference in the world but i wasn't clear about what that meant now i'm clear about what it means what is it what does it mean today That everything I say has weight and gravity and that words are powerful and actions are powerful.

1:11:35And I always ask myself, why am I doing this? Why is this song important to me? Why is this performance important to me? Why is this conversation we're having right now important to me? that's really the difference is like having intention and consciousness we're really like I'm repeating myself over and over again I can't think of other words that capture that but self-awareness self-awareness doesn't really do it because self-awareness kind of implies like selfishness you know what I mean a day at the spa not that that's not something to be enjoyed I could I could use a day at the spa right now you could use a day at the spa sure Sure.

1:12:17My roof has been leaking for a month. Yeah. I want to go to the spa. That's okay. But that's not going to bring me lasting happiness. Well, I think that's the reality of it, right? Like when you look at your experience, there's this, everyone's experience is this paradox where it's like you have the highest highs, the lowest lows, you have a life that of course you need everyday self-care, but there's also what is lasting happiness and these bigger questions. We all live in this world, but we're not of this world. It's almost like everything that it makes more sense to recognize it's both and as opposed to either or.

1:12:54Well, you have to live in the paradox. Yeah. It's like the greatest amount of light is where there's darkness and you can reveal the most amount of light. When you're in a dark room, you turn on the light. When you're in a room that's already light, there's no effort made. So should we look for darkness? You know what I mean? Should we? No, but when we are in that space where we're feeling dark, where we're feeling an absence of light, an absence of hope, an absence of inspiration, of vision, then you have to, those are the moments, the challenging moments where you have to say to yourself, This is my opportunity to bring light to a dark place.

1:13:40Spiritual wisdom is not helpful when everything's going your way. It's helpful when you're challenged. And when you're happy, it's helpful to remember that at any given time, in any moment, it could be gone. So don't take it for granted. Have humility. Be grateful. when things are going your way. And when you're being tested, also be grateful. That's a hard one. That was a hard one for me. It still is. But I'm glad that I know what I know. One of the key aspects of this beautiful study series that you've created is, we've talked about some of the themes today. We've talked about karma. There's manifestation.

1:14:25There's desire. There's all of these themes that exist. And one of the big ones that really stood out to me was forgiveness. Because, you know, when I listened to you today and I even watched the studies that you created that I'm hoping our audience will go and watch and appreciate and learn from as well, you've conquered and continue to try to conquer some really difficult emotions, like really, really difficult things. And I feel like forgiveness for us in the world today is probably one of the hardest things for us, whether we've been betrayed, whether we've been lied to, whether we've been exploited, whether we've been taken advantage of.

1:15:05And we always hear the age old phrase of forgiveness is for you. It's not for them. And you hear these things, but it's... Wait, who says that? It's, I mean, it's common like verbiage that exists in the world at least of this idea that, you know, don't hold on to grudges. Well, you shouldn't. We shouldn't. And it is ultimately liberating for us to forgive. But obviously, the world benefits from our empathy, our ability to forgive. Talk to us about that conditioning. Well, I'm a fighter. You know, if somebody messes with me, they're going to get it. You've always been like that. Yes. But, you know, when things happen to you and there's not a tangible enemy that you can like put your finger on, like, what are you going to do?

1:15:52You have to lean into radical exceptions. But, you know, there's, there are things, you know, there are things that have happened to me in my life that I just thought I will never, I will never forgive this person. I will never. now I just don't want to have those feelings anymore because they're really, it's a prison and it's poison to not be able to forgive and to live in a state of like holding a grudge or hating someone or wanting them to suffer. It's like a kind of poison. It's like a kind of cancer. That's why it's important to find a way to forgive even people that you perceive as your biggest enemies.

1:16:34For a really long time, it was my brother who died recently. Because I think the hardest ones are the people that you feel like you're the closest to. They're your greatest ally, and they turn on you. The people that hurt you the most are the people that you love the most. And when life doesn't go the way that you expected it to go, that you suddenly, this pain is unbearable, and then you think what's going to save you is to think vengeful thoughts or to never forgive. Like that's going to give you some kind of power, magical power. It doesn't. It just weighs you down and eats away at you and is poisonous.

1:17:17So having to forgive my brother or knowing that I had to forgive my brother, it's like your ego dances around it. Like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll get to it. I'll get to calling him up or talking to him or being his friend or helping him. But eventually I did, and I'm being mysterious. If someone you love deeply betrays you and does something that shows that they have no consciousness in that moment, that they made that choice to do that, it's a bitter pill for me to swallow. although I can't speak for everyone, but I imagine that lots of people feel this way. I'd agree. For my brother, I didn't speak to him for years, years and years.

1:18:04And it was him being ill and reaching out to me and saying, I need your help. And me having that moment, like, am I going to help my enemy? That's how it felt. Yeah. and I just did and I ended up and I felt so relieved and it was such a load off my back such a weight that was removed baggage that I could put down to finally be able to be in a room with him and holding his hand even if he was dying and saying I love you and I forgive you that was really important and that was another thing that I realized when I woke up in the hospital forgiveness. That word came to my mind, like I have to forgive people because I was there.

1:18:57I was almost there on the other side. And I had a conscious moment and my mother appeared to me and she said, do you want to come with me? And I said, no. My assistant was in the room with me, but I was still unconscious, but she heard me say no. And then when I did eventually wake up, I realized that the no was about me needing to forgive and make good with people that I still held grudges against. And interestingly, I wrote a song about him. I'm working on new music and I wrote a song called Fragile, which is about my brother. And then I wrote another song, and this is again just channeling it's called forgive yourself but the repeating phrase the chorus of the song is if you can't forgive me forgive yourself which is something we all have to do we have to forgive others but we also have to forgive ourselves and stop beating up on ourselves about choices we've made in the past that haven't worked out for ourselves or other people taking responsibility Again, we come back to that concept also, or that idea of being accountable and being responsible.

1:20:20Taking responsibility, that's a very big lesson that I learned studying Kabbalah, is that I am responsible. I am responsible. And I believe in personal accountability, personal karma, and I believe in global karma. A lot of the things that are happening in the world as a result of our selfishness as people, as humans, as a society, we are responsible. You can't just sit in your room or your house or the safety of your home and go, oh, those people are, you know, they deserve it, whatever. To be aware and conscious that you're contributed in some way, shape, or form. and at the same time if we have collectively and consciously evolved to a higher state of consciousness we can change the world that also sounds like a cliche but make the world a better place tip the balance so to speak but that's why I'm here and that's why I'm talking to you and that's why I made these this is why I documented my studies with my teacher because I really believe that this wisdom can help other people in a very practical way, not in an esoteric way.

1:21:39And that's why I'm here. Thank you for sharing that and that journey you went on of forgiveness because, yeah, for you to be that honest and vulnerable and explain that that was someone that you felt was an enemy at that point, but the relief you felt from helping someone, I mean, that's like, you know, I'm thinking about the people that are listening and watching right now and the experience that they're having where they're really struggling to forgive themselves or forgive someone else. And looking at it from the point of view of what would that look like if you never got that opportunity. I know so many people who regret the last thing they said to their parents or the last thing they said to a loved one or whoever it may be.

1:22:28and it seems that vengeance and spite doesn't seem to heal the soul. Well, harsh words and harsh behavior is energy and you can never take it back, but you can change your destiny, your karmic destiny. And one of those ways is to forgive others and forgive yourself. Madonna, you've been so gracious with your time, your energy and vulnerability today. I feel like I've learned so much about you. I'm very grateful to Gat. And you said you repeated yourself, but I'd honestly say that I enjoyed that because it shows to me the good training is good repetition. And so if you have the same, if you have a similar mindset towards something, it's not in the material world.

1:23:20Well, you only get good at something if you do it a lot. Yeah, in the material world, we know that, but we often look at repeating as, I have heard that before, I know that. But actually, the thing we think we know the most is the thing we need to hear more often. And when I think about the Gita or the Vedas, you're the soul, not the body is the most repeated lesson. It's the first lesson, but the most repeated. you're the soul your consciousness not the body yes is repeated more than any other teaching even though it's the most obvious and it's the first teaching very obvious but so look how attached we are to physicality exactly so you need to repeat it but yeah I was thinking that this might be a perfect time because you've been referencing in this conversation you've referenced your teacher so many times and we're fortunate enough today to actually have the opportunity to invite him onto the show and if you're open to it I think this may be the perfect time I would love to should we do it?

1:24:14yeah let's do it perfect Eitan I'm so grateful that we actually get to speak to you Madonna's been talking about you the whole interview and I want our audience to know of course you were sitting in on our conversation as well and so you have context of everything we talked about and of course you have 29 years of context of everything Madonna shared with us over the last couple of hours but thank you so much for doing this and thank you for being here thank you for having the honor of being here and being part of really sharing these teachings. Yeah. Well, I was sharing with you earlier that my vision when I started my platform was to make wisdom go viral, especially ancient wisdom.

1:24:54And so this is truly my heart's work. And so thank you for the opportunity back. I want to dive in because we've heard about Madonna's journey and her journey to Kabbalah, but I would love to hear how you came to it, because I'm assuming everyone has their own spiritual journey of awakening or connecting. and I'm sure many of our listeners today are either on their spiritual journey, want to start one, but I'd love to hear how did you come to this practice yourself? I started in a young age. I grew up in Israel in a non-religious family. And from a young age, I was asking questions about life.

1:25:33I think it came from the depth of my soul. It's beyond because someone taught me or anything. and when I was 17 my brother introduced me to Kabbalah I went to the Kabbalah center and I met my teacher for many years the Rav Berg and after hearing one hour of a lesson of how the universe began and why are we here it resonated in such a deep level literally I couldn't sleep for three nights and I felt I'm home. I felt I'm reconnecting to really my purpose, what life is about. And it took a few years and by the age of 21, I knew that's my mission in life. So basically, in the last 40 years, that's what I'm doing all day long.

1:26:36student and a teacher in the last 40 years yeah that's beautiful like i was saying earlier i felt like i came to my work when i was 18 and so i'm a couple of decades behind you in my journey but that idea of discovering something early and it resonating so strongly with your heart and committing your life to it what was it like when you first met madonna what was that first interaction like from your from your vantage point your perspective uh tell us about it i don't think she knows but when madonna's friend which studied with me called me and told me i'm bringing madonna to a class tonight 40 people so i told her you know i never saw a picture of madonna i heard their name.

1:27:26Cute. So don't worry, she'll sit in the back with me. So that's actually the first time. So you had no idea what she looked like? No, I didn't have a clue. In those days I was pretty... Naive. You were plugged in. Yeah, I was totally in mission and I didn't... I heard the name Madonna, but I didn't actually recognize and then did you connect that evening was that yeah that evening actually we set we did yeah we set in the conference room because we set it in Vents that we'll meet and Madonna was very suspicious of me I can relate to that what's the agenda here what's happening but listen she had many students but one of the amazing qualities of Madonna is perseverance, tenacity in the ups and downs and trust me, I've experienced and seen a lot of ups and downs but I always say when you're constantly nurturing your soul your soul will guide you Our soul is the part within us which knows all the answers that connected to the higher force 24-7.

1:29:01It is our body, our logic, our ego, the layers in our hearts that are blocking us to see and to feel the truth. When you just agree with some spiritual concept and once in a while learning, wow, it's amazing, I love it. it's not enough you need to nurture the soul that light of the soul and that wisdom of the soul and that intuition that comes from the soul will channel back its energy to your life because the source of all protection and the source of all true joy comes from the soul so she has that amazing and amazing attribute of tenacity and perseverance. Not giving up. Not giving up, no matter what.

1:29:55One of the reasons I like going there is because it's like, it was the only place where people didn't bother me about who I was. I literally sat in the back of a room with folding chairs. As I said, there was mostly men and no one said a word to me. No one bothered me. No one said, oh my God, aren't you Madonna? Can I have your autograph? Or like, whatever. Like I just felt like I could be anonymous there. Was that the first time you'd experienced that in your career at that time? Well, for a long time. Yeah. So with a large group of people and strangers. So I liked the anonymity of just being a student and going there and learning.

1:30:30And it had nothing to do with my career or work or yeah. So that was inviting. So I wanted to go back and then I would always bring my notebook and take notes. and I have a zillion journals from all of my classes and studies and I love to be a student and learn. And I was learning so much. And I also was so, what I loved so much about Kabbalah and studying Kabbalah was how in tune it was with science and quantum physics and, you know, it wasn't just because, you know what I mean? Like everything made sense to me. And I could see how, you know, even the idea of, you know, how the world was created or the beginning of life, the idea of, you know, Genesis, for instance, or the idea of Adam and Eve.

1:31:25I learned that nothing in life can be taken literally. You have to study the deeper meanings of everything. and that is true for a spiritual practice as well as science, as well as everything we do in life. You can't judge a book by its cover. You can't take things literally. And I was like, oh, like when I was growing up as a Catholic, I would always say to my father, well, why do we have to, you know, why do we have to wear dresses to church? Why does the, you know, like, you know, wear a hat, cover your head? But there was no explanation for anything. And that really bugged me. So if you can't find a reason, if you can't explain something to me, I'm not interested.

1:32:08So he did explain things to me, and everything made sense. Nothing was silly. What we do study when we study Kabbalah is we study the Zohar. and within the Zohar is everything about life, about medicine, about science, about nature, about relationships. And that was really comforting to me to see. That's what helped me see life is not a series of random events. Etan, you mentioned, I mean, as I'm listening to Madonna speak about this as well, you mentioned that obviously you know this tradition is 4 000 years old how first book that was written but it was before it was before right right yeah so it's put into writing yeah it was put into the technology of books 4 000 years ago how did how did it come to be like tell us a bit about the history of it so that we get some context of the tradition actually the first book that was ever written in Kabbalah was three pages long.

1:33:16It's called The Book of Formation that was written by Ibram the Patriarch. And it's written in such a coded way and will not get any understand the secret of life and the whys of life. That's three pages. Three pages. That's cool. Yes. It's a lot of commentary, but yes, three pages. And then the main book of Kabbalah, after many Kabbalists teaching from one to another, was the book of the Zohar, or the book of splendor, that was revealed 2 ,000 years ago. And the Zohar is actually decodified the Torah, decodified the Bible. And helping us to understand, the Bible is not a book of stories, or laws, or religiosity or dogma.

1:34:08The secrets of life are hidden there. And the Zohar, the main book of which we have it today translated to English and to other languages, it's actually helping us to understand that everything in this world has a purpose and a reason. And if you're asking what really Kabbalah is about, Kabbalah is about understanding the whys of life, of the universe, and why I'm here, and what is my purpose, and why are we struggling, and what is the journey of our soul, and where we came from. and if the creator is such an infinite force of good and love, how come we're all struggling? Either with pain, with doubts, with negativity, with selfishness.

1:35:06So that is the main book of Kabbalah. And of course, there was many Kabbalists throughout history since then that were able to bring Kabbalah down to us. and in 1970 that's when the Kabbalah Center started which is opening the gates and the doors of Kabbalah to all mankind

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1:37:32you're talking about the whys of life and that's the questions and the seeking do you remember one of the first questions that madonna inquired about or one of the first things that she was grappling with what do you remember i don't even remember so i i just i don't remember in what specific context there was 29 years also I didn't study with him like this like I was just a student in the back of a class it took a while for us to like have one on one conversations it took a year or two until we started to meet regularly once a week as well but I think one of the things that I remember speaking to Madonna and this is a struggle that everybody has.

1:38:26So we get there's a higher power. Call it God, call it the light, call it Ain Tsov, endless energy of love, of giving that is beyond time and space and it's within us. Okay? So why there's evil? Forget about outside, even inside. why do we have constantly destructive forces within each one of us? There's a constant chatter. You wake up and gravity pulls you down. Why? A lot of people study today how to overcome that negative force, but why there is a negative force within us? So one of the basic understanding we're talking about, it's understanding that the greatest gift, the greatest gift the creator gave us is the opportunity to overcome the opponent within.

1:39:33Because when you overcome, you become co-creator. the reason why we don't experience enough peace enough light enough fulfillment it's very simple like attracts like you want to experience the light be like the light be a being of sharing but part of what the light is about it's a creator so the gift to overcome negativity within is the gift of being the creator imagine you were given everything you're born with talents you're born with love you're born with just helping people all day long that's your natural tendency no negative force try to pull you down no selfishness do you think you really will be able to actually experience and appreciate the force of the creator the force of love the force of light the force of true fulfillment the answer is no so while sometime will upset why I have this particular negative voice in my mind.

1:40:42And why do I have to struggle with abandonment issue? And why do I have to struggle with moments of sadness? At the moment you realize one second, this is the greatest gift the Creator gives you. It doesn't mean you right away know how to overcome it. Maybe we'll share some tools how to do it. But the fact that you accept the greatest gift in this world is the gift of overcoming. And it doesn't mean it has to be with suffering. Actually, it doesn't mean. But the fact that you accept that opponent within you, it actually was created by the light, by the universe, by the force of good to help us to grow.

1:41:31imagine you bring we spoke about soccer a little bit before imagine you bring your kid to play soccer and you bring them in front of a goal and with a ball and say now score will it be fun? No he needs an opponent, he needs a goalie he needs to overcome something without overcoming anything we'll never have a sense of true fulfillment and we're not talking about overcoming the external challenges which is part of life but recognizing the unique challenges each one of us needs to overcome we call it karma, we call it kabbalistically tikkun each one of us have our own unique areas of transformation and everything that life is presenting to us is to present these opportunities of overcoming and as a result allow my soul to shine, my gifts to shine, my true purpose to shine.

1:42:34That's beautiful. I love hearing that. It's so interesting to hear how that which we believe to be the obstacle is actually the path. And it reminds me of, and I know Madonna you studied the Gita as well, Origen's dilemma in the first chapter. So Origen's a warrior. He's an archer to be specific. And he's in the middle of a battlefield. And on one side is his brothers and on the other side is his cousins. So it's all family, the opposing side and his side. And he's on his chariot in the middle of the battlefield and he's talking to God. And God is serving him as his charioteer. and what he's expressing to God is his doubt, his anxiety, and his insecurity, and that's how it begins.

1:43:31It begins from a place of doubt, stress, fear, pressure, which is what engages him to ask the question, and it's so interesting that we often think that doubt and anxiety are the problem, but often they are the seed of where the question comes from, and why we even look up or look around and question what's happening in our lives, and It's almost like doubt is the direction and anxiety is beautiful. It's similar. Well, something has to wake you up. You need some kind of pressure. Whether you're standing in front of a goal or you're trying to win a war. Well, your pressure was becoming a mom. Yes.

1:44:17Yes. It was, you know, and coming to terms with, you know, is also, you know, is my life in my career, you know, as an entertainer, is it going to change? Is it going to be over? Like I said, I associate motherhood with death. So it's like, what's going to happen to me? Like, I needed to be rooted somewhere and I needed to have certainty. But you can't have certainty unless you start with doubt. Exactly. Like she mentioned before, Madonna mentioned before, that the greatest light hiding beyond the greatest perception of darkness. So if darkness manifests itself as fear or the unknown or the uncertainty or the doubt or the weakness.

1:45:10So one of the practices is actually ability to pause and allow yourself to feel it for a second because there's a great light hidden there. Yeah. What did you help? What do you remember helping or what advice would you have given to Madonna at that time to help her connect the dots? I think the phrase that she's repeated a few times in this conversation of seeing motherhood as death is such a strong statement, but it makes so much sense from your experience when you connect the dots. How did you encourage her to reflect on that association? We didn't necessarily speak about that concept, but about other challenges and fears and perceived pain.

1:45:57abandonment we talked about that a lot abandonment absolutely i think well so you don't want to love or be in love or be attached feel attachment because that then you could get hurt so that was a big issue for me like i'm good on my own like as a warrior surviving like don't with me i don't need help i don't need any help like i'm good but then you need help and then it's hard like to say it and say i i i'm doubting myself i'm i'm i don't feel like a warrior yeah that's yeah it's it's it's arjuna's dilemma he's he's the greatest archer of his time yet his bow is slipping from his hands because he's like i can't shoot an arrow and he's the best and that that feeling of, I think we all have that.

1:46:53You so beautifully talked about it, Eitan, this idea that we've been given so many gifts with so many talents. And I think a lot of our audience today in the world, people have forgotten the gifts that they have. And then we often get into this feeling of low self-esteem. We don't feel worthy. We don't feel we have a purpose. And I feel like that's where the world is today. A lot of people who are listening and watching today probably feel like they don't have something to offer or maybe they know kind of what they have to offer but they don't feel confident enough what would your teachings and some of your guidance say to those kind of people who are sitting there thinking i kind of you know i don't have that confidence in myself i don't i don't really know what i'm going to do and they're feeling stuck I think like Madonna mentioned, she felt weak.

1:47:46She didn't feel her personality of being a warrior. So there's a big difference between personality and soul strength. Talk to us about the difference. Yeah. What's the difference between personality and soul strength? So Madonna always been a warrior. That's her personality. that's part of her gifts, but it's not necessarily mean that she'll channel her warrior's attributes in a soulful way. But we identify with that. I'm a warrior. When I'm a warrior, I'm strong. When I'm strong, I'm happy. When I'm strong, I'm meaningful. When I'm strong, I matter. And when suddenly you go through a situation that threaten that ability to be a warrior, to be strong, to be independent, suddenly you feel fear and emptiness.

1:48:46And what I would recommend, what I would share with Madonna, I would recommend anybody, in order to find your strength, start with the challenges of today. It's not about finding my purpose in the future. and let's break it down to simple that's a great point is such a great point it's brilliant simple four steps how do i handle a challenge today so step number one i just want to before you dive into the steps that is beautiful i absolutely love that mindset i think it's such a great i hope everyone who's listening and watching right now it's such great advice because we're so fixated on finding, discovering, looking for the answer in some point in the future.

1:49:38And it just keeps feeling postponed and further away. And I love what you're saying is that the challenge in front of you right now is the purpose. Exactly. It's a beautiful. How do you connect the light with the energy, with your soul, with the blessing that's available in this very moment? Oh, good. Sorry. And that will lead to other blessings. That will open doors. That will attract clarity. we face a challenge all of us it can be challenge at work it can be challenge at home it can be just I start to compare myself to someone else and it triggers lack all of us, doesn't matter how spiritual we are and doesn't matter how successful we are we'll have at least 100 times a day lack will be triggered, fear today even today Yeah.

1:50:33Absolutely. Every day. It's like the comparison game. At least 100 times a day. I mean, that's what social media is for, really, to make you feel bad about yourself. Unless you recognize that that is an illusion. That's not reality. Or this is an opportunity. Right. An opportunity for me to not engage. Exactly. And to actually find light in the moment. Just actually to conquer your fear in that moment. or to conquer your repetitive behavior of, oh my God, I wish I had that. Oh my God, I wish I was that person. Oh my God, I wish that my life was like that person's life. Like, if only I had dot, dot, dot.

1:51:12You know, it's like to stop yourself in that moment and conquer that moment, which is I'm good enough. I'm everything that I need. I am. I embody it. I just have to reveal it. But that's a really hard one. And I think especially for women, you know, because we are conditioned to like want to aspire to be this beautiful or this great of a mother or, you know, this great of a homemaker or this great of a, you know, it's a test every day to not judge yourself and to not like feel like you're lacking in some way, like you say. and when I say my prayers, part of my prayer is that I rise above my limitations and that I rise above my nature and that I don't get sucked into the vortex of lack, which can come in so many different forms.

1:52:12And tune into, you really have to be consciously like your head is a radio dial. Like, no, I'm not, that's not me. you know what I mean it's a constant conversation you're having with yourself yeah so true so that's a really relatable problem and it requires work and it requires paying attention and being aware and we also get caught up in we live in a world that's just distraction right so easy to get distracted it doesn't mean you're not supposed to have fun like right now I really want to have fun but not that you're not fun oh we're not having a fun I think we're having fun but yeah it's just we live in a world of distraction so it's so easy to get pulled off the track of you know what am I doing what am I doing right now what am I doing to myself like I'm already there I got caught you know what I mean by the seed of doubt and self judgment and comparing and I'm not good enough therefore I'm going to be in a bad mood or I'm going to shout at my child or you know what I mean it's like takes so many different forms and like the greatest thing in the world is to be able to stop yourself before that happens but it does require constant vigilance yeah absolutely it's amazing to hear you say that you still feel that way yeah that's helpful and validating for all of us that's part of the path of transformation Sorry, back to the tool.

1:53:51Yes. So really, because what is lack is the illusion that there's no force of good. You're not protected. You're not loved. You're alone. You're sad. You're disconnected. and the practice to overcome that not just in meditation throughout the day which is very powerful step number one as you face the challenge before you get as the reactive process of lack and negative thoughts tell yourself, say these words pause, what an opportunity I don't know why it's an opportunity, but I know every moment of lack, it's a gift from the universe to help me to reveal greater light and a blessing in my life.

1:54:56Step number two, don't fix it yet. Embrace what is. Embrace the difficult feelings. because in order to find light in darkness, you need to be there with courage a little bit in darkness. We want to fix right away. We want to get rid of what bothers us. We want to get rid of the fear. We want to get rid of the insecurities. We can't stand it. We don't like the discomfort. And how do we want to get rid of it? By being reactive, by blaming, by judging ourselves, by jumping after opportunity for insignificance, by being self-destructive. Pause. Embrace. It's okay. And part of the reason of study is developing trust.

1:55:53It's okay. Embrace first what is. And then go to the next level. When you say embrace, do you mean to meet it positively? To me, as it is. To allow it. Yeah, to allow it. Sit in it. Allow it. Not because I want to stay there, because that's part of the process of revealing the great light of my soul. Yeah, it almost feels that often what happens is, because we've tried to go to the light so much, sorry, it often feels that because we've tried to go to the light so much, we don't know how to sit in the darkness. Exactly. We want to go to the good so quickly, we don't know how to sit in the bad.

1:56:34And that's when you develop strength. And there's a concept Kabbalistic. The discomfort. Yeah, there's a concept Kabbalistically called certainty beyond logic. Explain that. Which means I'm trusting, even though I don't feel it, and it doesn't make sense that actually I'm led towards anything positive, but I'm trusting beyond logic that this experience is for my best. even if I'm guilty and feeling horrible about mistakes that I've done, it's okay. You're going to get to the part of learning the lesson. Don't fix it. Don't erase it. Certainty beyond logic. So the part of embrace it, allow. and then you're ready to the next step which is telling yourself because our belief system tells us it's moment of darkness.

1:57:37There's no light here. There's no good here. There's no love here. There's no light here. So you need to tell yourself all the light that I need is within me now. Just tell yourself. It doesn't make sense. Logic doesn't agree. The heart doesn't agree. But that's the job of this world to allow the thoughts, the stream of energy that comes from the soul to influence gradually the mind and the heart and the body. And again and again and again, tell yourself, all the light I need is within my mouth. I'm certain, be on logic, it's for my best. And then, show me the way, the light, the universe, when you feel less reactive.

1:58:25Because usually, when we experience lack, We're reactive. We want to get rid of the lack. We want to get rid of the fact. And that's what's caused. Think what's caused evil behavior between people. Not knowing how to handle moments of lack. That's where it starts. So forget about others. Let's start with ourself. And sometimes we'll fix the lack. Because someone will tell us, wow, you're an amazing person. I love you so much. And now we feel good. And I fixed it. I forgot about my luck. I forgot about my insecurity. Actually, I am amazing. Are you developing true muscles and skills to find the light within?

1:59:09Or you want to be attached to the external energy that will fix you? It will never work. And of course, when you're in that place, actions of giving, even if it doesn't make sense, calling someone adding value to someone being kind to someone also help you to shift your energy towards the vibration of the soul towards the vibration of the light but we all need to go through this test yeah you know some people would call it mental illness but we all have that mental struggle we all have that mental struggle in feelings and in our mind so it's a it's actually it's a daily practice to transform it's a daily practice and when you have the courage and you study enough depth that support the understanding that the light is never gone it's my perception I see the light I don't see the light that is causing me to feel the light is disappear and I'm small and I'm not enough and I'm not capable and I'm not confident.

2:00:31Yeah, that really resonates very strongly because I feel like when you're first reading this new script, you don't believe it. And that's why, as you're saying, the regular study is almost like reading a script, consistently a new script, because we're already reading the old script of I'm not good enough, I'm not capable enough, I don't belong, whatever it may be. But the one line that I really loved that resonated with me, which I want to ask you about, Madonna, is the trust beyond logic. Because I think that's the phase that most of us give up. Because we are living in a logical, functional, material world where if a train's not coming, you would leave the station.

2:01:16But here the trust beyond logic is, no, I'm still going to wait here or I'm going to act in a certain way or I'm going to change these behaviors. Madonna, when did you have to practice trust beyond logic in your life the most? Where have you seen it? I mean, every challenge I've ever had once I became aware that I had the power to do that. And like making art, creation, has nothing to do with being logical. It doesn't have anything to do with the logical part of your brain. You can't measure it. You can't predict it. You can't control it. You have to allow it. So I would say that challenger is happening on a daily basis.

2:02:05Even now, I told you there's a pipe that bursts in the middle of my house, and it's creating havoc. I was so excited to come to London, to be in my house in London, and everything's gone wrong. And I'm like, okay, so there has to be a reason for it. I can't just sit here and be angry or upset. There's an illogical wisdom to everything that's happening. If that's not being attached to material things, then that could be an option. If that's because all these things are broken, I need to spend more time doing something else that's more important than that. You know what I mean? There's always a reason for something.

2:02:52And you can't logically figure it out. Like, I wish that I could have seen 10 years ahead that my son was going to be my best friend. I was trying to make logical sense of everything. You know what I mean? So, I wish that I knew then what I know now. So, there's always, and there's big struggles and little struggles. Like, you can't logically explain things. Like, especially, like, I always use art as an example because I can tell you that 99 % of the time when I'm writing lyrics or singing a melody, I'm not thinking about it. That's logic. If I think it's gone or it doesn't come to me.

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2:05:49I want to ask you, Eitan, based on that As Madonna said, she waited 10 years To see that experience of You know, her son becoming her best friend And I think a lot of people wonder, how is the reason revealed or received? How do we know? Because like you said, it's trust beyond logic. And logic is like, if I do this, then this will happen. And this is like, my pipes will burst. If I call the guy, he'll come and fix it. Right? Like that's the kind of way our brain works. When we're trusting beyond logic, it could take 10 years to receive a reason. It could take 20 years. it could take 50 years to really have a revelation on something.

2:06:31How is it often revealed or received when it's not based on logic? Does that make sense? Yes, it makes sense. What you're asking, number one, is when things don't go your way. And, of course, sometimes we need to do practical action to make things better and to fix things, but sometimes it's out of our control. Things don't go our way, like the situation with the experience that Madonna shared. So certainty beyond logic is that the struggle that I'm going through is for my best, but doesn't allow me to be self-destructive because if I want to speed up the process that I see the light at the end of the tunnel.

2:07:26I need to strengthen. And we need friends. You need teachings. You need the right support to actually trust the universe loves you and it's for the good, as difficult it is. But then you need to ask a second question. When you're ready, when you're not as reactive, what's my lesson? Why is it in my movie? and sometime the answer is simple every time we experience rejection what is rejection? things don't go our way it purifies us because our mind and our heart is so attached to happiness is when this will happen which is not necessarily the big picture happiness what's really good for me Yeah.

2:08:21So when you actually realize that actually that's a purification process and you open and you allow it to happen, because all of us are not aligned with the true desire of the universe. If it would be a line, we would be joyful every second, and we will be giving unconditionally every second, and we'll think all day long, how can I add value to others? And because we are not there, and that's part of the gift of life, gradual transformation, we need moments of rejection. But when you question yourself, where am I to attach? What's my lesson? What do I need to let go? that will support to speed up the process of seeing the light.

2:09:12Because every fruit, in order to become sweet and ripe, is very sour. There's a process. Actually, the botanist would say that the more sour the fruit in the process, sweeter at the end. It's so easy to throw the sour fruit and to say it's a bad fruit. But if you're able to allow this process, and you need a lot of spiritual strength because culture, society, our body, our mind is prone to react and to decide it's bad. That constant conversation in our mind. It's good, it's bad. I'm good, I'm bad. it's that reactive conversation we have within us that actually prolonging the process so actually faster we embracing certainty biologic, faster we asking questions because at the beginning you cannot ask because you're in pain so you just try to at least trust and embrace and embrace and beg something and asking but when you're ready to ask questions what's my lessons because very often we are so attached we spoke about forgiveness to what's wrong with them and we forget that the true purpose of life is my own transformation and elevation while I'm interacting with other people so when the conversation is no longer about they're good they're bad how did they do it and you bring it back to you how can I elevate how can I become better?

2:11:03How can I transform between me and my soul, between me and my perfected self? That's when you inject the energy, then things, the light will be shown faster. Yeah, that's the question that's the accelerator. We want the pain to go away quicker, but that question is and sitting with that question is the thing that actually speeds it up. What are you trying to work on right now, Madonna, that you're working on in your studies? I know you get together regularly. People are going to be able to watch your studies as well that you do together. What's something that you're trying to work on right now that seems very fresh as a challenge, something to overcome, as you said?

2:11:52The lessons that I learn and study are more applicable to things that are challenging me on a regular basis, which would be, you know, my children. They're always challenging me in one way or another. And that's such a big lesson for me to let go of expectations and stop trying to control the outcome and over-worrying. I'm just like, some days I wake up and I'm just relieved that they're all okay. You know what I mean? And I always say to people, when you have that many kids, you're not really a parent, you're a manager. You know what I mean? Yeah. And by the way, she has amazing kids and spiritual kids.

2:12:40And because of her tremendous effort to infuse, not just with the teachings, with their behavior, consciousness, sometimes you don't see it right away, but we see kid of the kid that actually they're coming around in their own unique way so it's also infuriating me what kind of things trigger you I mean I have to stop thinking that you know my way of doing things or my way of approaching life or my way of being an artist is going to be somebody else's or my kids way of doing it everybody has their own journey and And it's taken me a long time to accept that. And to let go of control. Mm-hmm. Why is that so hard as a parent?

2:13:29Because I feel like so many parents would be able to relate to that right now, where we subconsciously or consciously are projecting, living through our children, wanting them to, you know. Wanting them to be successful. Not like, not even in a, not like I want them to be rich and famous. I just want them to be happy. I want them to be authentic I want them to not compare themselves to other people not worry about what people think of them because they're my children fearing judgment letting that go helping them to see their own unique gifts it's a constant battle because also you don't want to come off as somebody who's trying to control the situation all the time either My weekly studies with Eitan or my daily prayers or whatever are often about, you know, I don't want my children to do specific things.

2:14:29I want them to realize what they were put on this earth to do. I want them to elevate to their highest level of consciousness. And how can I help that? That's it. but it's still hard not to be bothered by things. Things. Yeah, I think that's a very relatable challenge for parents. Yeah. It's a real one. And I guess when you ask that question then, what is the lesson in this, applying a TUNS process, what do you often come up with? Trying to control all the outcomes in life and not getting the outcome you wanted is what makes you suffer. So if that lesson keeps coming back to me, then I guess I haven't learned it yet.

2:15:21And children are a perfect teacher for that because they're never going to do what you want them to do, the way that you want them to do it. Just get them from here to there without hurting themselves or anybody else. You know what I mean? Because they too have to overcome. Exactly. Yeah. You know, I grew up with very little, and so I have a huge desire. And then, of course, you give your children all the things you wanted to have, and then you realize that's killing their desire. And so, you know, it's like you're just constantly going, oh, shit, oh, shit. Okay, I'm not. Okay, not. Just be counterintuitive.

2:16:04Just say nothing. That's a big one for me, say nothing. But I'm getting good at it. I'm just really getting good at it. Now, I appreciate you walking us through that thought process because I think you've summed it up. That's exactly what we want to do. We want to take away someone's pain or the pain we thought they're going to have because of the pain we had. And then you provide something only to create a new pain and for them to never have the pain that you had, but have a completely different version of it. And we do it for everyone we love. And I was going to ask you, Eitan, what do you do when you don't like the answer?

2:16:37That question is so important. What is the lesson I need to learn? But a lot of us subconsciously may not like the answer we get, and that's why we have to keep learning it again. What happens when you don't like the truth that you're experiencing? So I think part of true spiritual transformation is craving truth. I want to know really what's my lesson. Because what's the other option? More pain until I'm going to learn the lesson. So the reason why we're not listening to the voice that tell me, let go of control. Or for kids, one of the biggest mistakes parents do is overgiving to kids, which in Kabbalistic terminology we call it bread of shame.

2:17:31When you give to someone something without working for it, without earning, you're actually hurting them. and the parent might know. I'm over giving and it's not healthy for them, but I feel guilty to say no. And I'll be popular if I say yes. Exactly. So here is the test. Guilty of saying no versus long-term pain for the kid and for yourself. So actually pause and ask that question. That will help you to get closer to the truth and be less in denial. and a fork, short term, long term. Saying yes just to fix the pain, to give them what they want, to let them play with the phone, or say no. And it's difficult, and they feel bad, and they're blaming you, but you're doing it from place of love.

2:18:31Because, yes, because what's driving us, true desire to share in a long term. Yeah. If that's my truth, and that's the truth, am I really coming from true desire to share for a long-term sharing, not just temporary fix? Yeah. And when I'm coming from that place, only blessings. You're planting a seed of light, a seed of blessing, a seed of miracles. When you're coming from another place, pretending to be good or nice or kind only because you cannot handle the temporary pain, you're planting a seed of chaos, which chaos also has intelligence to teach you lessons, but in a longer path. Yeah, I mean, I can relate to that as a kid because I'm not a parent, but it was almost like during your teens, you just think everything your parents say is wrong.

2:19:29And then in my 20s, I was like so grateful for the discipline and the rules and the, you know, I was only allowed to play video games for like X amount of time or whatever it was. And all of a sudden, everything my parents did, I was like, oh, wow, there was actually a lot of good in it. But during my teenage years, you know, I obviously didn't agree with anything they said. And there's such a reality to that feeling of the long-term point that you're making, the long-term you realize, oh yeah, I'm glad you actually didn't just let me eat rubbish or I'm really glad you didn't just let me waste hours playing video games.

2:20:03I'm really glad that you didn't do X, Y, Z or whatever it may be. And so it's hard though, because the parent or the person, this could be romance, it could be in any relationship, you've got to be unpopular in the moment. You have to put aside your ego. And you have to go to that discomfort. Yeah. Which applies at work. It applies everywhere. In anything. Yeah. Especially in the culture today, when everything can be so instant. Yeah. App and ordering food and getting what you want and watching any program and in your phone. So that instant culture preventing a child or an individual to go through a real process of going through discomfort or earning the light, as we're saying Kabbalistically.

2:20:54and people don't understand they can be bright how come I'm depressed? Depression very often it's a consequence of insangrification not willing to go through a difficult process so hard so hard we don't want to go through a difficult process and we don't want anyone we love to go through a difficult process although that is that is the only process that's going to benefit us. But we're going to anyway, so. Absolutely. I have one last question to ask both of you. What is your soul's purpose? Why do you think you're here? And what personally was the becoming or the overcoming that you went through to really receive that soul's purpose that you're living by?

2:21:45What was it that birthed that idea within you? my soul's purpose is to reveal light in the world through whatever I do whatever that's being a parent or being an artist being a friend being a leader yeah we are here to receive for the sake of sharing so I have a huge desire I have many desires this is not a belief system or philosophy that's about no offense being a monk and going up in like the mountains and meditating for hours and hours I want it all but I want it for the sake of sharing not to keep it for myself Etta? he wants more followers on Instagram the personal relationship between me and the light between me and the creator I know that I don't want anything less than connecting while I'm in this physical world to the soul that was given to me.

2:22:59And it means total transformation, total desire to receive for the sake of sharing. Certainty beyond logic until it becomes second nature. That's in a personal level. but one of the ways to achieve it is to connect with our purpose of sharing so I know in my gut, in my soul and knowing it was beyond logic that that's what I came to do in this world which is to spread to be a teacher for the teachings of Kabbalah while I'm studying one of them is about being to perfectionist spiritually you know taking spiritual lesson to an imbalanced place something is wrong with me so and i know as long as we're in this world and if we're truly not settling for less and that's a message for everybody i want to say never settle for less wherever you are this is just the beginning comparing to your next level potential so those challenges were necessary to help me to evolve to where I'm at today and of course this is just the beginning well said thank you so much for your time and energy again learned so much from both of you today and I really can't wait for people to watch the studies I hope that it gives spiritual seekers a opportunity to ask better questions, deeper questions, and begins their quest for overcoming and becoming whatever their soul's purpose truly is.

2:24:43And I'm so grateful that you're both living yours, truly. And I'm really, again, thankful for the opportunity to have learned so much from both of you today. Thank you so much. Our honor. Thank you so much. Thank you. If this is the year that you're trying to get creative, you're trying to build more, I need you to listen to this episode with Rick Rubin on how to break into your most creative self, how to use unconventional methods that lead to success and the secret to genuinely loving what you do. If you're trying to find your passion and your lane, Rick Rubin's episode is the one for you. Just because I like it, that doesn't give it any value.

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