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26:06It's not sustainable. So is there strategy behind this? Is there an effective method behind this, a system, a process that I can get behind and that my energy will be directed clearly. I think a lot of the time you feel like, oh, the energy is amazing and very LA thing as well. And it's like, the energy is really good, but then it just kind of goes splat, right? Like it's just everywhere. And so like, is my energy directed? If the answer is yes, then I go to the M, which stands for money. And it's like, does this make commercial sense? Does this make sense financially? Does it make? And so money is an important part of my methodology.

26:40It's just the third most important metric. and I only get to ask that question if I go through the first two. And that stops you from doing things just for something at the end. I love that. And at least it's helped me. Yeah, no, I love that because, you know, I never had that process. For me, it was always the lucrative, like what can provide the most money and I will endure whatever I need to, to provide. And I'm not saying that money's not important. Everybody has to provide for themselves and everybody's in different situations. And for me personally, engineering, just really clearly, it was clear to me that it wasn't energizing me.

27:18It was very much training me. So going to work every day was not something I looked forward to. I looked for reasons to leave. I was constantly distracted about the other life that I had wanted for myself. And, you know, I used to think that doing something that you love and making money were mutually exclusive. Same, same, yeah. I didn't know that you could marry the two. And now I believe that a career is, I define career as a profitable source of pleasure. So doing something that I love first and foremost, you will every time get really good at it. And when you're good at anything, you can master it and you can teach it to others.

28:00And I never once in a million years thought that I would be doing what I'm doing, but I did it just on the side for free because it brought me that much joy and fulfillment just for myself. And once I started to see the ripple and the curiosity from other people and thought to myself, wow, I can really make a difference in somebody's life just by sharing how I'm living. And that's when I really found the conviction to say, you know what, this is something that I want to pursue. Even if it doesn't make sense logically, I'm going to listen to my heart for once because I've been listening to my brain this entire time.

28:33I'm going to drop in and listen to my heart and what my gut is telling me. My gut is telling me to pursue this, to follow this. Yeah, no, I think that's, I love that, uh, your definition of what a career is. That's, that's really cool. And, and I can agree with you more. I remember literally, and this is crazy for me to think about it. I didn't know. And when I say I didn't know, I mean, like my mind didn't process that there was any other career out of being a doctor, a lawyer or in business. Like I literally thought those were the only three careers that existed. Not because I didn't, I didn't know anyone who didn't do any of those things apart from obviously if people were teachers or people, you know, my, my, my uncle owned a grocery store and things like that.

29:23Like a local grocery, a small local grocery store. And so things like that, but I didn't have context over you could be something else. And therefore it was those three things. And I never liked medicine. I never liked law. And so I had to do business and because art and design wasn't a career. So I get that. And I think a lot of people live that way and feel that way. And I also think today we've created a culture where it's like, you have to be an entrepreneur. And that I disagree with too. Like, I don't think doing what you love means doing it as an entrepreneur. I think there are phenomenally talented people who work inside organizations and when you think about some of the CEOs of the biggest companies today they didn't found them like Sundar Pichai who's CEO of Google or Tim Cook who's CEO of Apple like they didn't build those companies and they became so successful within an organization that they run and so I do think that we're also living at that other extreme now where it's like you have to quit your job and do something you love and I'm like well, that doesn't make sense either.

30:20Like maybe some people are going to find what they love inside a career and inside a workplace. And I think, I think both need to be banished. So we went from like, you have to work an amazing job as an engineer and do something you hate and get paid. And now it's like, you have to quit everything and do what you love. And it's like, well, there's a spectrum there. Definitely. I want to know how you survived the five years, because I love that answer that you knew it on the first day, but you had to survive and suffer for five years. I think that's very, very real because you're in your head trying to figure that out.

30:53Like, how did you deal and cope with those five years? Did you adopt bad habits? What did you do? Because I think oftentimes that's when people turn to like different things. I don't know if you did, but yeah. What did you do? And then how did you finally get out? Yeah. Yeah, definitely. I mean, And when you live that way, obviously, you find escape, right? There's ways to escape. And thankfully, my escape was the gym. And anytime I would get off work. That's a good escape, though. Yeah, it was a great escape for me. And I would go to the gym, and I would really just find peace. And it was like my therapy.

31:34I would go to the gym, and I really do love training. I love the art of learning how this vessel works and how I can really optimize the movements and how it feels and just really sink into the process of developing my physical self. And what I learned in that process was how many benefits mentally there are as well because it requires discipline. It requires sacrifice. It requires intention and attention to detail. So that's where I really found enjoyment was really in the process of learning how to develop my physical self. And as far as dealing with, you know, the five years, I had thought about quitting.

32:14I mean, I also am a realist and knew that I had to provide for myself and I would also be giving up a very good opportunity and didn't have the clarity of what that next thing would be. And all the while I was doing this other thing, it was right in front of me the whole time. But I needed to really find that path. Like I needed the contrast of doing something that I didn't like doing because that gave me the clarity to find something that I really did. So I don't regret anything in my life that was painful or challenging because it's really shaped who I am today and given me the opportunity to have the clarity to pursue the things that really resonate with me.

32:57Yeah. And I guess you can deal with, you know what your clients are dealing with too, in terms of the stress of the workplace, the stress of what they're going through. And you've been in their shoes, you know what it looks like. And I think that the thing that came to my mind when you were saying that was, you knew that you were falling in love with working out and you were falling in love with this other thing on the side. I have a friend that, well, she used to be working inside a company and she was stressed and hated it in the same sense as you do did and but she loved presenting and so then she joined a company where she's a public speaking coach and she goes back to the company she's to work at and teach public speaking like teaches communication not just public speaking but teaches communication teaches negotiation teaches people skills and she's so much happier doing it and i love seeing those stories where people have the courage to figure out the switch, but it sounds like you were doing a lot in your evenings and weekends to build this other route and build this other path.

34:02When you made the switch over, did it feel like, because I'm guessing when you first did it, were you able to replace your salary completely? No, right? That's, yeah, that's my friend. She's, it's taken her three years to replace her salary that she made before, but she's doing good now. And so, yeah. I think that working as an engineer and going through that, getting my degree, really helped me think like an engineer, obviously. So I approached it with that engineering approach of like, how can I take this thing that I really want to do and create systems and processes for me to make it financially so I could pay for my bills?

34:41Essentially, that was my goal. It was like, can I just cover my bills at that point in time? And what I wanted to do was reach as many people as possible. So I partnered up with a software engineer and we decided to build a whole platform of how can I really systemize delivering the content, teaching people how to lift, providing educational content, and then also the meal planning, which is the most important part whenever people are trying to get in shape is figuring out what to eat. So we developed a whole algorithm and a whole platform to be able to serve thousands of clients at a time. And it took months of planning.

35:13I wasn't making any money. I was just kind of siphoning away all my savings. and what's really interesting is that first week whenever we launched our very first program and very first offer, I made more in a week than I made in a year as an engineer and that was the moment for me that I was like, wow, this is very possible for me to continue to pursue and obviously that's my experience but it takes that level of planning and really having an approach that is risk averse. I'm not suggesting for anybody to go quit their job. I think that having a plan of action and having a timeline makes the most sense for you to not put yourself in a compromising position.

35:54So that's the way that I did it. And it's panned out very, very well because it's given me the space to still work with so many people and still get to do what I love and not be so focused on in the business, just working in the business, if that makes sense. One thing I've been reflecting on lately is how even the smallest choices can create a big impact over time. Whether it's choosing to spend a quiet night in to recharge or making a decision that brings you closer to a long-term goal, those moments of intention really matter. And when it comes to the choices we make with our money, that same mindset applies.

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41:37And then it's like you discover what you love doing, which is working out. And now what you do is mixing compassion, working out and engineering. And I love that idea that encouraging people to collect passions and curate their passion. And that's how you create your passion is that you're constantly collecting experiences. And then you're bringing them together rather than like, I found this one thing and everything before this was a waste of time. And even in my journey, I feel the same way. It's like, I loved art and design growing up, which has massively impacted my career today because I look at everything through the lens of art and design.

42:15and then I was fortunately great at economics and good at understanding business and then behavioral science. And that's obviously been very useful in my life today. And then obviously I fell in love with philosophy and I fell in love with teaching and I fell in love with mentorship and I fell in love with the wisdom that I learned from the monks. And now my life is all three of those things put together and I wouldn't trade any of those experiences. So if anyone's in a bad place right now or anyone's in a hard place right now where they don't enjoy what they do or they feel they studied the wrong thing at university or college or whatever it is, none of that's wasted because you're just collecting experiences that will be useful if you look at it that way in what you're building.

42:57And that isn't a mindset, that's just true, that any skill you learn right now is gonna be useful later on. Yeah, I believe in this inclusion-based universe where everything is happening for your benefit. Every experience that you go through is happening for you and you can be the beneficiary, even if some very challenging times. And I believe that from the soul's perspective, we call in these experiences so that we can develop the strength of the resilience or the perspective to transcend them. So when I look back at my childhood, although it had its moments of beauty and so much beauty in my life, there was also so much challenge and strife as well.

43:38And I see those moments now as what really shaped me and primed me for what I'm doing today. Because once at one point, the thing that I was most ashamed of is the thing that I really lead with now. So just remembering that in any time of challenge, that this is teaching you something. And in some time, maybe you can't see it right there, but you are the beneficiary of this challenging moment. And it will allow you to keep growing. It's like, you know, there's so many parallels between the gym and life. You know, it's like you're under the bar at doing squats and it's very, very uncomfortable.

44:17You want it to stop. You want to drop the weight. You're like, no more. I can't handle any more. And then you push through. And on the other side of that, you develop the strength and the resilience and your body adapts and you grow so that you can handle that plus some the next time. So that's, that's the way that I really try to approach any challenge these days is like, okay, bring it on. I accept the challenge because I called this experience into my life so that I could transcend it. What's the mindset and where did bodybuilding come into? Like where, what's the mindset behind wanting to do that?

44:45Where does that come from? And what was that journey like? Because I think we hear about it a lot, I think from celebrities in the media who have to look a certain way for movies or things like that. And then they come out years later and they tell you how unhealthy it was. And, but during when the movies, I think it was Zac Efron recently, it was like, you know, he talked about the Baywatch movie. And it's obviously when you watch that movie, you're like, God, Zach looks incredible. And he did. And then, you know, he was on TV shows at the time, but then I think he came out recently and he was talking about how unhealthy it was or how he didn't feel great about it.

45:18And I think a lot of men talk about that afterwards as well. And women, of course, talk about it, but I feel like it's great when a couple of men start opening up about how even though they look great and every guy wanted to look like them, it wasn't healthy. But for you, how has that journey been for you? And I'm intrigued to, I've never asked you this before. Yeah, no, it was a bit of an arc for me. I remember always being a small kid growing up, so there was a bit of insecurity there. And so definitely ego played a big part in for me to want to develop myself because it quite literally built layers between you and everybody else.

45:51And if you're trying to protect your fragile nature or your little wounded self, then this is a great way to do that, even if it's masked through other things. So that was a big journey for me because originally when I got into it, I had that reason. And then the more I did it, the more I really started to do it because I loved it and didn't train because I didn't like myself or the thought of if I'm out of shape, nobody will like me or I won't like myself and started shifting and reframing that too. I really love taking care of myself because I feel good when I do. And that's what really led me to lean into it and to continue to discover ways in which I could just develop myself further.

46:33And then somebody actually suggested it to me in the gym one time. They said, hey, there's a show coming up locally and you should do it. You look great. And I was like, yeah, right. You could not pay me to do that. And then I thought about it. I was like, you know, I don't have anything else going on. This could be some new challenge, something exciting. I did it and ended up winning the first show that I competed in. So obviously when you excel at something, it motivates you even further. Yeah, yeah. So then the marriage of like teaching people how to do what I did without eating any animal products felt really aligned with me because I had heard up until that point that you couldn't win a bodybuilding show or bodybuilders need animal protein.

47:11So here I was showing other people that you could do it. And that's what I really felt the call beyond myself to say, hey, if I can inspire other people to live more compassionately, then this is worth me pursuing because it brings me that much more fulfillment. and I see the difference that it's making. And maybe they might be complete strangers to me, but it's nice to know that people are out there listening. And that's when I continued and eventually became pro, eventually did that for a few years. But then afterwards, I got wrapped up in the identity of like being a bodybuilder. And that's when I started to recognize that, hey, maybe this isn't for me anymore because I'm attaching so much of who I am to what I look like and that doesn't feel good anymore.

47:54So that's when I decided to step away from the sport altogether and just retire in 2018. I mean, that's a real journey because like you said, it often starts with like ego or validation from ourselves, from others. Then you kind of get to a point if you're lucky where you're like, okay, now I'm doing it for myself and I enjoy it. Talk to me a bit about that journey because I think that's the hardest part of that journey is like going from like, I do this because I want the validation from myself and others. And I want to protect, you know, the, the younger me to, I'm actually going to do this because I like feeling better.

48:31Like walk me through some of the steps there because I feel like, yeah, that, that feels like a long, long journey. Yeah, it was for sure. And you know, it, the ego is a funny thing because once you shine the light of awareness on a part of your ego, it just kind of dances into the shadow and it becomes a little bit more insidious and tricky and shows up in new ways. So for me, it kept showing up in different ways to where I was realizing that it wasn't bringing me happiness anymore. Like I felt this obligation, this pressure to be this person. And at the time, my following was continuously rising as my popularity grew.

49:07And really just the exposure to people's comments and things that they had to say about me, I started to notice how much it was affecting me and specifically focusing on negativity. And I was like, why am I really focusing on this and allowing it to really disrupt my internal state? And that's when I started to get real with myself and saying, oh, because I am seeking this validation and it means so much to me when people think highly of me and when they don't, it really affects me mentally. So that's when I started to take a step back, do more self-reflection and say, maybe I'm not doing this for the right reasons anymore.

49:44And I should explore that. Yeah. And I like that reflection because I always try and walk into things with the right intention. And then I try and reflect on my intention while I'm doing it. And I can often find that it's easy for your intention to get distorted. And then I ask myself, can I bring my intention back to doing it for the right thing? and then if I can't, that's when I leave it. So my goal is always, I try and start with the right motivation, the right approach and then it's natural for it to get distorted. That's always gonna happen to any of us because we're not perfect, because we haven't got everything figured out.

50:21And so I'll realize that, oh, maybe I did kind of go too far this way and then I'll see if I have the ability to come back. And sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. And so it sounds like you went through that same process of, you know, can I do this again for the right reasons? When you were doing it at its peak and you had people coming up to you, talking to you about compassion and plant-based life and veganism, like, did people notice that? Were they aware of that? And then what would they say to you? Like, what was people's reactions? I mean, just intrigued. Yeah, I mean, there's always a lot of curiosity, a lot of interest whenever you hear somebody doing something that's unorthodox.

50:58So a vegan bodybuilder is an oxymoron for a lot of people. they don't believe it's possible. So to see somebody doing it and competing at the highest level, it brought its own pressures to me because people, especially the vegan movement, tended to pedestalize me and use me as this poster boy, this example for somebody who could do this, which I enjoyed and then also equally didn't enjoy because I would be thrown into arguments online and people would just use me as this example where I just opened up my phone and just see all these comments of people arguing back and forth. And again, my goal was to never be polarizing online or it was to inspire the people that really wanted to live this way.

51:40So that also played a huge impact into reassessing what kind of message I'm putting out there and to really, again, just lead with compassion and show that you can coexist with people who have different views on life, different perspectives than you, where we're often more times more common than we are different. So that's, that's another reason why I felt like bodybuilding is a sport of comparison. It's me literally lined up to another person and comparing the two. And I always approached that sport with, it's always just me versus me. I could never control what anybody else was doing outside of, you know, that experience is like you step on stage.

52:22It's not me versus these other guys. It's just me versus who I was yesterday. But that's really when I wanted to step away from the sport so I could continue to focus on the thing that I originally wanted to do, which was to help serve people in my highest capacity, which is when I started coaching after I left bodybuilding. Yeah. And that's, and that's what I find interesting too. It's like knowing when to quit something and quitting stuff is such a good skill that I think is underrated. Like we rate people in society for how long they can do something as opposed to how quickly they can let go of something that doesn't serve them or serve others anymore.

53:03And I'm more interested in that sometimes where I think about, like I let go of being a monk at a time when I didn't feel like it served me or served others anymore. I let go of my corporate career because it didn't serve me or serve others anymore. I let go of the first content I created we don't make content like that anymore because it didn't serve me or serve others anymore and it's like we've we've evolved in so many ways and I often think that we keep putting time you've done something on a pedestal as opposed to time you stopped doing things that didn't make sense to you anymore and so even hearing that from your perspective it's like we did this bodybuilding we achieved so much and then I had to leave it behind in order to move into coaching.

53:44And, you know, in the coaching space, you've worked with some incredible people and you don't have to name anyone or whatever you feel comfortable with. But in the idea of like, when you're coaching someone or anyone who's thinking about becoming a coach or thinking about becoming a trainer, a guide, a teacher in any capacity, what were the things that have been really important that you've learned through coaching other people who are high performers? Yeah, it's realizing that it's not about me. It's not about me coaching them. It's about me helping my client discover the power that they contain within themselves.

54:19So oftentimes people think that they're not one who could possibly get into shape or do the things that they commit because they just get in their own way. So what I've found is that those are symptoms of underlying beliefs. Maybe they're subconscious beliefs that are preventing them from doing the things that they really want to do. So when I coach, and you know this from working with me, is that I like to talk a lot during our sessions and hear what your experience is like because oftentimes language reveals so much about how we think. And ironically, the way that we view ourselves has a huge impact in the way that we show up for our physical health.

55:04So as I'm training people, it's almost like, I don't want to call it therapy, but it's just a really deep conversation where I learn about my clients on a level that allows them to see what kind of capable, powerful person they are. And then once they recognize it themselves, then they start to show up and believe it themselves. Yeah. So yeah, for everyone who's listening, Nimai trained me during the pandemic, I think it was, for a few months. We worked together. and I guarantee Nima has never had anyone that he's trained that has been worse than me. Literally, I would like, and Nima is a great trainer and he's everything he just said he is.

55:42Like, you know, it was very like therapeutic working with him, you know, super supportive, constantly made me look for the power within myself. And I'd be like nine times out of 10 after a session, I'd be lying on my bed for like 30 minutes just trying to recover because I'd love the coolness of my bed. And I would just need to sit there and just like take it in because it was so high intensity in a good way. But at the same time, I also broke through a lot of mental blocks I had around what I believed around what my body could do or what I believed my body was capable of. Like we were able to dial back and start slower and build up again.

56:20And I think you were so great at doing that. I think it's so beautiful. I'm a coach too. And I think when I'm being coached, I really appreciate it when someone makes me feel like I can get there and that it's okay that I'm slower or that it's taking time. I'm already going through all the self-judgment and self-criticism. The last thing I need is for someone else to criticize me too. And to have someone who's supporting you along that journey, I really felt that with you. I've always felt that with you through our friendship, but I also felt it very much in that time. And I think those are such great skills for all relationships, actually, not just for coaching, but if you're teaching your partner something, if you're teaching your child something, if you're teaching your parents something, if we could be more supportive and notice the goodness in them and notice the attempt and notice the positive attitude that person have and the fact that they showed up, that person is going to feel inspired.

57:16But if we criticize them the first time they fumble or judge them, the second time they make a mistake or point out to them how much better everyone else that we train is, that doesn't help anyone. And I, I, at one point I had one of my clients took me to play golf with him and I don't play golf. And I'm, I've never played golf before that day. And I had a coach at the center we went to and the coach was incredible. Very patient, very professional, you know, very there for me. I was only there for a day. So I only got a day of coaching, but by the end of the day, I was half decent. I was okay as in I could do something.

57:55and when I came back to LA because we were traveling together but when I came back to LA I tried to look for a golf coach here because I really got into it I was like oh this could be a cool thing to do and maybe it'd be fun to get into with Radhi and I took Radhi with me and I got a coach who'd supposedly worked with like some of the best the best and all the rest of it and I couldn't take a shot without him correcting me every second and it almost became really draining and tiring because I was like, I need to hit like 10 shots to then be corrected. But if I'm corrected in every half a swing, it's really hard for me to like find my flow.

58:31And I felt so criticized and judged and everything that I kind of never saw him again after like seeing him a couple of times. And it just showed me that being a coach is really tough. Being a student is really tough, but often I think we wrongly coach our friends and family. And that's where I find the coaching conversation to be most interesting, even if you're not a coach in your career, how you try and teach things to your family, your friends, your kids, your parents goes a long way. I wanted to hear your thoughts on that. Yeah, no, it's meeting people where they are, right? And, uh, and understanding that everybody is where they're at.

59:05And that is the only place they could be with the awareness that they have in that moment. So really having compassion because really, I mean, coaches just help you get one step ahead at a time. If you try to share something with someone who's not ready to receive that message, it's just going to go over their head. So I really love starting with the fundamentals of helping people make those small incremental changes that compound to be big, big difference in their physical health, but not just their physical health, but like the way that they believe they have the confidence in themselves that they can achieve the things that they want to.

59:42So like you said, sometimes people are their own worst critics and having compassion towards yourself whenever you're learning something is a skill and it's not something that we exercise very much. So I really try to help my clients also exercise that muscle of can you be compassionate with yourself? Yes, you may be not where you want to be. Maybe you're a bit out of shape. That's okay. The difference that you have now is you have the awareness that you want to do something about it. You don't have to judge yourself for the mistakes that you made. All of that process was, or all of those decisions were coming from a place that maybe you didn't have the awareness to, maybe you didn't have the skillset to, maybe you didn't have the resources to.

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1:01:04And that is the same kind of thinking that you could apply towards yourself. Like you would, you would be gentle with them. You would be kind with them. You would be supportive. You would ask them what they need to help get them to that place. So that's the way that I like to teach my clients to think about themselves so that the next time they show up and they say, Hey, you know what? I slipped up, but, but slipping up and giving up are two totally different things. So it's okay to slip up. Failure is part of the formula for success. So you, you, you learn, you make mistakes, you get better you make more advanced mistakes and then you get better so that's the formula i like to teach uh my clients as well yeah yeah yeah i love that having the right people in your corner to support you is a great form of self-care just like the friend who shows up to a house warming party when you get that dream home celebrates your big promotion or goes with you on a walk to clear your mind state farm is there to help you feel supported they have different coverage options, whether it be for your home, car, motorcycle, boat, or even RV.

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1:04:04Like it's such an internal dialogue. It's completely inner mastery that you're actually working on. And I often think about me as someone who I love playing sports. I've never really loved working out, but that's the part that I can get behind is that ultimately it's inner mastery that I'm working on, even if working out isn't my favorite thing, even though I do do it because I've realized it's value and benefit, but that ultimately it's inner mastery that I'm trying to get through. Yeah. Yeah. And focusing more on the process too, and not so much the outcome because the outcome, yes, people are motivated by results, but if you're only motivated by results and they don't come in the timeline that you expect them to, then your motivation will tank.

1:04:45So finding that intrinsic motivation of not just looking a certain way in the mirror or seeing a certain number on the scale or being able to squat a thousand pounds or anything like that, but really being intrinsically motivated by the feeling that you're looking to achieve by doing this. So showing up for yourself, going to the gym and just remembering or just thinking about the feeling that you would get once you have that internal freedom within your body, the comfort of what it would feel like to just wake up and feel good. Just feel good in your skin and feel capable of handling whatever life throws at you because you have been consistently training and showing up in this way.

1:05:27So I really try to preach, just focus on the process. And if you can really find a way to enjoy the process, to make it fun, to make it exciting, like fitness is not just about going to the gym. There's many different forms of fitness. So if you don't like training or you don't like lifting weights in the gym, like you could do tennis or you could play soccer. You could go hiking. You could go biking. You could go paddle boarding. There's so many different things that once you find the enjoyment of it, then you're more likely to keep doing it. Yeah, absolutely. Nima, it's been so dope talking to you, man.

1:05:58And it's just like, I feel like there's so many great lessons from just hearing someone's journey. And, you know, even though we've been friends and we've talked before, it's like to actually hear your journey step by step. And I noticed this in everyone that I think is living happier, healthier and healed lives is that it's just that they took the time to reflect and then shift. That's like a common thread I find in people who are happier, healthier and more healed is that they weren't smarter. they weren't better, they weren't, and this applies to me too, it's like you didn't, it's not that you were above anyone and it's not that you were below, it's not that you were ahead or behind, it's that the only difference is you took the time to reflect and shift your life according to your reflection and I find that today we do a lot of thinking and overthinking and thinking and overthinking is where you just let the same thought go over and over and over again but reflecting is asking yourself, is this the right thought?

1:06:57Is this thought useful? Is this the thought that I want to play again and again and again? And if the answer is no, let me shift my behavior so that I can have a different thought or let me plant a new thought so that it can shift my behavior. And so I see that through your journey. And it's just, I hope that this conversation encourages you to listen to your friends, listen to people around you to make time and space for reflection, because even reflecting with you today, it's amazing to see how many similarities there are, even though we do very different things or have achieved very different things externally, but there's so many similarities in how we had to pivot and shift.

1:07:34Yeah, I mean, I think it really comes down to listening to yourself. Like you said, that self-reflection, that listening to your gut, listening to that inner knowing. And it's much more difficult to find that without creating the space to listen. So for me, that meditation is also whenever I move my body. Some people find it in stillness. I find it in movement. And that is when I find this connection to this higher self, if you will, within myself to where I get all my best ideas. I find the most inspiration. So creating the space for whatever that looks like for you to really tap into the deepest part of yourself that brings you the most fulfillment and most joy and most clarity about who do you want to be?

1:08:18What type of person do you want to show up as? What type of life do you want to have? And are you living in alignment with those thoughts? Or are you living incongruently with that? And that disparity between the two is signified by how you feel about it. So you're always being shown and being guided by your feelings. So learn to tap into the good feelings and what feels right and what feels true for you. And then just continue to follow that. Absolutely. Nima, I love that. We end every episode with a final five. Okay. These have to be answered in a one word to one sentence maximum. So Nima, these are your final five.

1:08:54The first question is, what is the best fitness advice you've ever received or heard? Just be consistent. Okay. Just be consistent. That is good advice. All right. The second question is, what is the worst fitness advice you've ever heard or received? That you have to go to a gym to get fit. You know, I would say that you have to, you don't have to sign up to a gym to get in shape, you know, just find what you like to do that's active and gets you moving. And that's what's most important when it comes to fitness. Yeah. I remember when you turn a random room in our house into a home gym during the pandemic.

1:09:27So yeah, I believe that now after having seen you do that. Question number three, what, how would you define your current purpose? To help inspire people to lead with more compassion. Beautiful. Question number four, what's something that you used to value when it came to physical fitness, but that you don't value anymore? I would say the, this is a bit superficial, but the amount of weight that I lift in the gym, I see so many people lift with their ego and they're just being very inefficient with their movement and they're essentially wasting their time in the gym. So leave your ego at the door whenever you go into the gym and lift with intention.

1:10:05Don't just go in there to swing weight around and look cool, but really go in there with the intention of mastering the repetition. If you can master the repetition of any movement, then you will see so much faster results than anything else. That's great. I love that. That's a good piece of advice. Fifth and final question. If you could create one law that everyone in the world had to follow, what would it be? To be kind to others, accept people, where they are and who they are. I think that the world would be a much, much more pleasant place than what it is right now. We need a lot of that. Yeah.

1:10:37Everyone, that's Nimai Delgado. Make sure you check him out if you don't already on social media. we will put his handles everywhere and make sure you tag us, both me and Nimai, with anything that stood out in this conversation. I think this was one of those conversations where we learn so much about so many things we go through all the time. Things like pivoting your career, things like knowing when to quit, things like how to process your early experiences and turn them into something else. And then ultimately, how do you find what you love and live in that way and totally create a life around what you love and what you believe in, whether that's loving your workout or loving your career.

1:11:17And so I hope this episode guides you closer towards that direction. I hope this episode moves you in that direction towards your greatest gifts and your greatest potential. And I wanna say a big thank you to Nimai for spending his time with us today. Thank you so much, man. That was amazing. And it's so good for me to sit and learn more about your story. And I hope a lot of people are gonna come and learn from me and grow in so many different ways. No, thank you so much, Jay. I really appreciate you inviting me on. I just want to say that you are such an inspiration to me as well and to see you and Roddy show up in the way that you do and continue to inspire and uplift everybody.

1:11:54So thank you for being an inspiration too. Thank you so much, man. Thank you. If you love this episode, you'll enjoy my conversation with Megan Trainor on breaking generational trauma and how to be confident from the inside out. My therapist told me stand in the mirror, naked for five minutes. It was already tough for me to love my body, but after the C-section scar with all the stretch marks, now I'm looking at myself like I've been hacked. But day three, when I did it, I was like, you know what? Her thighs are cute. This episode of On Purpose is brought to you by Chase Sapphire Reserve. I believe that travel is one of the greatest gifts that we've ever been given.

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