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Podcast Summary: Parenting Hell with Rob Beckett and Josh Widdicombe - Episode S11 EP25: Amol Rajan
Episode Overview In this episode of *Parenting Hell*, hosts Rob Beckett and Josh Widdicombe welcome journalist, writer, and broadcaster Amol Rajan. The trio engages in a humorous and insightful conversation about the challenges and joys of parenting, coupled with Amol’s experiences in the media industry.
Key Guests
- Amol Rajan: Former media editor of BBC News, presenter on *BBC Radio 4's Today Programme*, and host of *University Challenge*. Also, he runs his own podcast titled *Radical*.
Episode Highlights
Opening Moments
- Introduction with Humor: Rob and Josh introduce Amol with playful banter, showcasing their signature comedic style.
- Listener Interaction: The episode begins with feedback from listeners, emphasizing the chaotic experience of parenting toddlers.
Parenting Experiences
- Amol's Family Background:
- He has four children: a nine-year-old boy and three girls aged six, four, and two.
- Jokingly discusses the chaos of sharing birthday celebrations and the unique challenges that come with having children born close together.
- Discussion on Parenting Dynamics:
- Amol reflects on how the demands of parenting shift priorities, stating weekends revolve around children's needs rather than personal time.
- The exhaustion of sleep deprivation is humorously referenced as a form of torture.
- Managing Sleep and Work:
- Amol shares his experience balancing work on the *Today Programme* while managing family life, highlighting the challenges of early morning starts.
- The toll of parenting on personal time and relationships, including affection and intimacy, is humorously explored.
Social Issues and Parenting
- Social Mobility:
- Amol discusses the impact of socio-economic backgrounds on his career in comedy and media, contrasting this with the privileged backgrounds of many in the industry.
- The conversation touches on the accessibility of opportunities and the importance of diverse voices in media.
- View on Modern Challenges:
- They discuss the changing landscape for children, particularly concerning technology, social media, and the pressures of modern life.
- Amol expresses concern over how smartphones and social media affect children's development and the potential need for regulations.
Humorous Anecdotes and Observations
- The episode is punctuated with comedic anecdotes, including listener emails about parenting mishaps and personal stories from both Amol and the hosts.
- Rob and Josh offer insights into their own parenting struggles, creating a relatable atmosphere filled with laughter.
Conclusion
- The episode wraps up with Amol promoting his podcast *Radical*, inviting listeners to engage with deeper social issues while maintaining the light-hearted tone characteristic of *Parenting Hell*.
Key Takeaways
- Parenting is often a chaotic, exhausting experience filled with humorous moments and challenges.
- Acknowledging the socio-economic factors influencing parenting and career opportunities is essential in discussions about social mobility.
- The dialogue emphasizes the importance of support systems among parents to navigate the complexities of modern parenthood.
- The conversation brings to light the challenges technology presents to children and the need for thoughtful engagement around its use.
Contact Information
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Production Note *Parenting Hell* is a production of Keep It Light Media. For advertising and inquiries: hello@keepitlightmedia.com.
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Transcript
Automatic transcript. May contain errors.0:28Hello, I'm Rob Beckett. There are plenty of times when none of us know what we're doing.
0:36Hello, you're listening to Parenting Hell with... Willow. Can you say Rob Beckett? Razzick. And can you say Josh Whedicombe? Josh Whedicombe. There we go, Rob. County Wicklow. What, because she was called Willow? No, I don't know why I said that. I just felt Irish. You're not wrong. She's from Cork. Is that in County Wicklow? What county is Cork in? I don't know. Look, I was going to say that or Kilkenny, but for some reason I said County Wicklow. Cork is not in a county. It is a county itself. Oh, I see. I see what's going on. He is in the province of Munster. Willow will be two at the end of October and now shouts Rob Beckett any time I turn on an episode.
1:19My partner introduced me to the podcast when I was pregnant. Since then, we never miss an episode. It's like having friends chatting in the background while we navigate the shit show that is two under two. Keep up the great, albeit somewhat chaotic, work from Rebecca, Darren, Willow, and oh no. What? F-I-A-D-H. F-I-A-D-H. I'm saying oh no because it makes me look bad, not because. Go on, get it to pronounce it on the internet. Fia. Fia. That's nice. Right, here we go. Customer service job revenge. You like this? Hello, Rob, Josh and Michael. Please keep me anonymous. I still love the fact I did this, but I can see how it would be wrong.
1:55my first job was in a shop where you write what you want on a bit of paper with a pencil hand it to the worker and then wait at the collection point while someone gets the item for you out the back oh god you know why can't you just say oh god one time this man came to me at the counter and said smile love you should appreciate the fact you have a job there are many people who would love one oh my god anyway i was pissed off and i was actually the person who would go and get his item so i went out to get it what can you do that let's before we do it let's guess you don't what would you do in an argos situation rob here you are what would you do without reading the email what's your way of revenge that i've read what item it is okay he ordered a small furniture item what would you do that well do you know what i would do i'd break it out the back and go and just give it to him broken yeah now there we go there was no one around so i quickly opened the box and took the screws out fold oh this is genius folded it up and gave it to him with a gigantic smile on my face i didn't see him again but i know he would have been fuming to discover there were no screws good work and none of us brilliant work there you go can we have another revenge one um you can't have no we've we're out of job revenge we've got crap advent calendars we've got some nightmare names let's do crap flying solo as a child got a few of these coming Let's do crap out of bank comment list Out of your debt in a new job story Oh yeah, that sounds fun Yeah, hello you sexy humble legends Please keep me anonymous We need to do more emails, they're great Listener from the start, zero children Thank you for making me cry a laugh on multiple occasions on my commute When I turned 21 I started my job in a mortuary Oh no Where post mortems take place Yeah, yeah Now when a forensic criminal post mortem case came in it was a huge team in the examination room.
3:48Police, crime scene officers, lead investigators, mortuary technicians, and the forensic pathologists themselves. My main big job as a mortuary technician in these cases was to, drumroll, saw open the skull for the brain to be moved. Oh, fuck off, fuck off, fuck off. Now, the problem was, at this stage, the saw was so noisy that everyone would stop talking and have no other option than to say that. It's like, what do you want, this guy? You were still moving sandwiches from the Safeway shop to the fucking garage at this point. It was so dumb. I was in Warstone 2021. Oh, sorry. Evite to stand in silence and watch every move as you try to nonchantly remove the top of the skull.
4:29As a new technician, this is a very much... Sorry, is it a saw or is it an electric saw? Like, is it... I don't know. Maybe it's an electric saw, but I think you've still got to be very delicate with it because they need to see if there's any damage and stuff. They've got to get it a clean... Oh, my God. Why is the 21-year-old being given that job? Well, it says, as a new technician, this was very much a high-pressure performance and one that took months to get over doing it in front of an audience, especially because you had to be extra slow as not to damage the brain and therefore potentially important evidence for a criminal trial.
5:02I was very much out of my depth. I don't think the new one should have been doing it, basically, but I think they were the only one there in the city. You've got to do that. Keep up the good work. There's other people there. Oh, my God. Faithful listener. I wouldn't want to work in a mortuary. Also, some people listen to this when they're at work. Someone's probably listening to this cutting their head off in a mortuary. Exactly. I would think, I'm going to say it, if you work in a mortuary, there must be part of you, not every time, but there must be some people that work in mortuaries that have an unhealthy view of death.
5:34I'm all Rajan.
5:42Are we all recorded? Yeah. Welcome, Josh. Do you want to do the intro? Do you want me to do the intro? Did you ask me to do the intro? Yeah, why don't you do the intro? Go on. Sure, I'll do the intro. Are we recording or what? Yeah. Who are you shouting at, by the way? Who are we recording or not? Is that your team or us? Yeah, I've got a massive team, a huge team mate. Is that Tim Davy? Yeah, the Director General himself is on the other side of the class, just making sure I don't say anything. Tim, good to see you. Tim, are you happy if I get going? Brilliant, here we go. Hello and welcome to Parenting Hell, the show in which Josh Whittacombe and Rob Beckett talk about the madness and the tribulations of modern parenting, and do so with a little comic twist.
6:16On the show this week, the best-looking Indian in British broadcasting, a man who has got wit, wisdom, and warmth. Extraordinary verve. He is the presenter of University Challenge, and also, as you can tell from the fact he's talking very fast, having not been to bed, the presenter of Radio 4's Today programme. He's no Rick Astley, but would you please welcome Amol Raju. Yes. Oh, wow. That is really good, David. We should think about doing some intros, Rob. Where'd you learn to speak like that? Where's the training to be a proper presenter? You're the person who speaks properly. I've studied this very closely.
6:50You speak so fluently and cogently. And when you talk, it's like the world stops and it's like, it's Rob's turn now. Wow. It's like no one else can get a word in more, like. Yeah. I don't know what cogently means, but if I'm pumping it out, who cares if I know what it means? It means racist, Rob. Oh, God. you've got four kids as far as i'm aware
7:15ages they are oh they're they're glorious they're nine glorious don't use words to buffer you remembering their ages great question great question great question they've two of them have got the same birthday two years apart so the six-year-old and the four-year-old had a birthday they're both born on the same day but two years apart in September to which all of my mates go hey boxing day shag oh yeah that is a tough shag boxing day shag in it after this cold meat and mash bubble and squeak that's a heavy shag that is that's a it's how long that is what I'd say about it I'm gonna say I don't know that this is a fact but I'm gonna pump it out as a fact that I don't think I've ever had sex on boxing day no really not with someone so basically I've got a six-year-old four-year-old and a two-year-old who are girls yeah there's a sort of run of birthdays all together so that's why i took a little while to remember because until a couple of weeks ago they were five three and one but it did involve the six-year-old and the four-year-old having a joint birthday party it's exactly the same day that's horrible for them it's horrible well how do you think i should play it i don't know because how old are you how old is the oldest child between josh and robin nine nearly turning 10 in december because i've got a nine-year-old boy as well we're March shaggers, actually.
8:32Mid-March shaggers? Yeah, daffodil with an early... The moment he sees a lamb. Yeah, exactly. It's a spree. When the hot cross buns are on the shelf, I'm buying them and a pack of Johnny's. Well, you're not. Well, not one, yeah. That's what I should have bought. Sorry, I'm up. Hang on, how have you worked out that you shag in March? Because they've got December birthdays. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Complaints from the neighbours. Council have been round. You should look at the date of their letters. Noise complaints. Sorry, I've had nine hours sleep. I might be unbearable. Talk to me about your kids. So where are you, by the way?
9:04Are you both in hotel rooms? I'm in my house. I'm in Canterbury in a hotel room. Oh my God, are you touring? Yeah. It must be awful being a comedian. You spend your entire life touring. You have to get up at 6am and talk to Jacob Rees-Mogg. I'd absolutely take my job. That would be a good day. I'd get up at about three o 'clock in the morning. I was going to say the wonderful thing about my children is that basically these two girls who right now are like kind of twins. they're kind of this wonderful pair the older ones called jamaica six and four but i think as they get older it goes from being a nice thing oh we've got the same birthday it's all very funny let's have a joint thing to actually being absolute hell how dare you steal my birthday i want my party with my friends and if i'm a 16 year old i'm not into your boring crap when you're 14 or if i'm 14 yeah you're into boys and all when you're 18 you've got your big 18th birthday i don't want your 16th birthday upstaging this is the big one for me do you know what i mean Oh, my days.
9:57I hadn't thought about that one specifically. That's going to be a nightmare. Oh, yeah. If you want future worry, come and speak to Joshua Whittaker. He's the master of it. Exactly. You can project anxiety into the future. Yeah. Like a bat signal. So they're going to have to consciously uncouple, like Gwyneth and Chris Martin or whatever. Your daughters are two years, Rob, and they're very close. Yeah, but the birthdays are week apart. Right. So I think it's more not the closeness of them as friends. I think you're more worried about the actual birthday. Are you? I'm more worried about the actual birthday.
10:27It's like, who's going to move as well? It's a bit like, oh God, there's someone at my door. Get it, get it, get it, get it. Who is it? Get him to come on the podcast and introduce himself. It's 100 % the housekeeping that I haven't been told that he's got a late checkout. That's my guess. Rob, can I talk to you about your book, A Class Apart? Yeah. Were you basically saying that? Because I looked at, I haven't read it. You chat GPT'd it, didn't you? No, I did chat GPT'd it, but I looked it up because I heard you talk about it with Rick Hasley. I made a load of documentaries about social mobility and a big passion, mind, obsession.
10:56Were you basically saying in that, that comedy is full of raw people? When I first started, it was and still is to a point because it's sort of quite dominated by the middle classes and people that have a safety net. So you can go to the fringe. I think it's much worse now as well. Yes, since COVID and cost of living. Because I lived, when I started, I was working for like 15 grand a year and able to live in London. And that's how I was a comedian. But you couldn't do that now. Do you know what I mean? You couldn't, like, there's lots of comedians who have got support because that's the easiest way of doing it when you start out, if you can do it, which obviously we couldn't.
11:38But on the flip side, the benefit to that was there was no expectation on me and pressure from family or parents to do anything, whereas those people that had gone to private schools in Oxford and Cambridge were crippled by expectation, which then made it harder. I was saying this to someone the other day that I think there's an interesting thing that if you look at everyone from our generation, Rob, who you'd go, oh, they're the ones that have made it the most, if you want to say that. None of them are people who've come from wealth because I think it, I just think it gives you a massive extra drive.
12:11So if you look at Rob, Romesh, me, Acaster, Pascoe, Catherine Ryan, Joe Lycett, do you know what I mean? There's very few that have come from a wealthy background because I think you're like, this is my fucking chance. You've got to be hungry for it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. The other thing with social mobility, it's a lot easier in comedy and entertainment and sport because if you're funny, they laugh. It's obvious. There's no, you know, if you score a goal in football, you know, there's obvious markers that you've been successful. but if you're trying to be socially mobile in like law being a lawyer me having a cockney cheeky chappy accent is quite endearing and fills a hole that's not there in entertainment and comedy but if you're a high level law firm you will have to readjust and change the way you speak and act because it brings no charm it just brings suspicion yeah it's dependent on industry it's beneficial or not it's also about um who you know and i guess in a weird way being a comedian is a sort of solitary enterprise isn't it you're kind of out there touring and if you're on stage and you're really funny, people will laugh.
13:10Whereas if you want to break into a law firm or finance or consulting, it really, really helps if you know someone. And also you need to know how they behave, how they operate, what their manners are, where they go on holiday, you know, how to spell Val Dessert, which is not how I thought it was spelled until I was back 21 years old. No, but I'd rather fucking die than go on a different holiday to make friends with people for an industry. I'd fucking rather die. Maybe being a stand-up is different to sort of getting gigs on shows. like you know if you do the last leg or you do eight out of ten cats maybe you do need to know people to some extent but i love the idea there's a meritocracy about comedy because they're really acting is the opposite of what you guys just said because that was really interesting that list you reeled off of people who've made it acting the people at the top have all come from very posh backgrounds that's because in acting it's not tangible is it it's no one finishes a bit of acting go that definitely was great acting there's editing there's reshoots there's chats there's this there's that where in comedy you all can't stage either laugh or they don't and you can't re-edit the outcome yeah in live entertainment sorry can i just ask a quick question yeah in the 20 seconds when i went to the door what the fuck happened he was deflecting from his own family because he's one of those fucking journalists he's trying to lose the room trying to riz me up talking about my book he didn't mention it was a sometimes bestseller but it was it's only times bestseller that's so interesting you know i forgot somehow to say and you didn't do it yourself so i'll do it when i was introducing myself i should have said host of the most exciting podcast outside of parenting hell in britain which is radical i didn't do that plug at all because i was trying to be no cool i'll be honest with you mate you've not even mentioned the age of your four fucking kid yet so let's start the basics yes i have you're bringing out the actual journalist to me because that's this is not true i said two i said she was two she's two she's got a six-year-old four-year-old and two-year-old what was the other one and a boy who's nine you know i've got four children nine six four and two and the vibe is very much he's the only boy he's the eldest he's got the biggest age gap so it's like winston the boy and then a big gap and then three girls got a bunch together which is um full on did you always plan on having a big family i liked the idea of it but it proved somewhat difficult for the six years that me and my wife are going through ivf bloody hell it's feast or famine in your house I'm just going to fat my hook off.
15:26Forget social mobile. Let's talk about boxing day bump-ups. The IVF killer. There we go. Boxing day. So I like the idea of it, but I have this very profound sense. I don't know if you guys got the same thing. When it's been hard to make it happen, I do feel unbelievably lucky. And it is useful to remind – I know, you know, they're healthy. They're wonderful kids. You've got to remind yourself of that when you're going through the absolute hell that is a weekend in a rainy park that you've been to 10 000 times and your child refuses to go into a gymnastics lesson and then the younger one shits herself in some fucking god forsaken hellhole part of a park you know i mean which is me yesterday anyway i'm so sorry how does four work in terms of a weekend are you dividing and conquering or are you kind of because you're nine year old you're two year old you're six and you're four they all want different things they all want different things so i would say especially for the people listening to your podcast who maybe have found it because they're about to embark on parenthood they've not had their first baby yet and they don't know what to expect one of the things you have absolutely no idea about is how basically the point of being a parent is you can't do what you want to do anymore my weekends i don't get to do what i want to do at all from two o 'clock on the friday afternoon when i go up and do the school run which i love doing it's really fun and there's a lot of dads there whatever you're essentially a butler you're essentially providing services for other people and weekends you must be knackered as well beyond knackered and by the way on the knackered thing it's not it's not just tiredness it's sleep deprivation which is a form of torture yeah and i've had that for basically nine years and then the today program comes in and makes it even worse so basically you're extremely sleep deprived i hope we're selling it to future parents here so talk to me about your sleep because i can't imagine how you even you're getting up at 3 a.m to work so i'll tell you completely honestly we're talking in the morning after that I've presented the program this morning.
17:17So I did the Today program this morning. What time's that on again? Rob, you don't listen to the Today program. I'll be honest, I don't know what that is, but I know it's a big deal. I don't want to be disrespectful. I've just let him, Tim, Tim. That's Tim David, the director general. I'm just trying to, no, it's Rob. Yeah, Rob. He has a radio team. He doesn't listen to the Today program. How long is it? It's four hours. It's three hours. Four hours. Three hours. I knew it was three hours. It's three hours from six o 'clock to nine o 'clock. You can't even bang on Dua Lipa, can you? You've got to talk the whole time.
17:48So the nine-year-old doesn't really want to sleep before nine o 'clock. And I like hanging out with him. So nine o 'clock, I try and go to bed, try and empty the dishwasher. Because if you don't empty the dishwasher, then my amazing wife's got to do that. So basically it's 10 o 'clock, can't really sleep. Oh, God. Messing about, dicking about on the internet. It's 11 o 'clock, it's 12 o 'clock. You're looking at what happened in the news. You're reading terrible stuff about what's going on. You're trying to swat up for the next day. Are you kind of saying to yourself, well, if I do this now, then maybe I can get up a bit later?
18:14Exactly, exactly. But then at some point you just think, sod it, and you just go into the office and you do it as an all-nighter. And then, I'm afraid, you have a couple of codeine. Jesus Christ. It's terrible. Because, like, if you're Scott Mills, it's not as stressful as that, is it? It's like, I might have to interview Kylie Minogue. Well, I love Scott, but I think I'd be quite stressed with that lifestyle. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'd be really happy. At least you're going to be serious. I did the Radio 2 breakfast lot when Zoe was off for a fair bit, and you basically wake up at half past five, you roll in and then you, you say, here's Elton.
18:43Yeah. And it's great. And it's really, really fun and easy. This is like intense prep. And also the scrutiny. Yeah. If you say something that's ever so slightly out of, you know, everyone wants to have a go at the BBC and all of that. Why are you doing it to yourself? Because you've got more kids to support. I often ask. I often ask. No, but also you can make it, you know, it is an amazing institution. I'm only joking. It's not my, I'm not the demographic. I'm genuinely, it's like my, I'm not just saying this. I mean, I don't know it's going to sound cliched and trite, but what I do is so easy compared to the producers, right?
19:14I mean, you guys know, maybe it's different in comedy, but the producers who work on the Today programme are the best of the best. And they, not only do they get paid a lot less than me, but they work three nights on and three nights off and they are absolute legends. And when you get in, I should be really clear, when you get in at four in the morning, every single interview you've got to do that morning, it's about 12 or 13, any one morning, you get a brief, right? So if you're doing, you know, whatever, Tommy Robinson, you get a big brief and they've written that overnight. Right. So there's an amazing team, which makes it so much easier.
19:41How much do you let your kids in on this? So you're a nine-year-old. Are you talking to him about, I don't know, Gaza or the Tommy Robinson March or all that kind of stuff? Or are you trying to insulate him? I keep my kids as far away from the news as possible. I hate the news on radio. Like, you know, when you're on like absolute radio or whatever, the news, it will say like a man's been charged with rape. And you know, it's like a seven-year-old. What's rape? or hang on, why are we allowed to say that at 11am during the week and the kids hear all these words or someone's died or this and that.
20:14So I think about kids listening every single, so I think for parents who've got the radio on in the morning, I'm always thinking, how are you putting this news about Gaza or Ukraine or Sudan or wherever it might be out in front of your kids? I kind of do find that a bit mad. But also listening to commercial radio, is it an off-court thing? Why do they need the news? They don't. And it's the same every half hour. And it's the same every half an hour. And it's the same thing at 11.30, is it 10.30? and I'm like, I find that a bit weird. You've got whole stations that do news. I don't want news. I want the killers and I want Tom Allen.
20:43Tom Allen. I love Tom Allen. I love Tom Allen. Do you think it's an exchange? You should play the killers at 9am on Radio 4. I try and keep my kids away from it. Do you? And do they ask, when they talk to you about your job, do they say, I mean, they're not going to, I suppose. I guess, what did you talk about today? But like, it must be kind of scary as well. Well, there's an interesting Devon connection here, right, Josh? Because my wife, who's very English, is from Devon. She's from just outside Exeter. And we've got this big thing. So my kids have got brown skin, slightly lighter than me, kind of coffee-colored skin.
21:19But they look, yeah, Asian. And we've got this thing that she, they're having a very, very, very different childhood to her. Because she grew up in Devon. And they're actually having a very different childhood to me. Because I grew up in South London, immigrant family, not a huge amount of money. and I now live in North London, I work for the BBC and all of that sort of thing. And there's this weird sort of thing that both of us, me and my wife, both almost sort of don't recognise the childhood that our children are having. That sounds a bit weird. I don't mean this as unto you. No, no, that's interesting.
21:46Yeah, I'm not sort of complaining. Obviously, I'm very fortunate. But it's quite a weird thing when you, just little things that maybe you took for granted growing up in Devon, that your kids don't access so much. And you're a bit like, maybe I did want them to access that. Are you worried about them? I suppose the word spoiled is wrong, but like, are you worried about... Oh, of course, of course. I know exactly what you're saying. I presume you guys have the same thing. If your kids are growing up with more money than you have, or you had when you were a kid yourself, it's a constant thing to ask yourself, are they being spoiled?
22:14And I'll be completely honest, I hate spoiled kids. And it's a real problem. When I was growing up, I used to think posh people had a pretty, a less positive attitude towards some posh people. But then you get old and you realize posh people are complicated. You know, just because someone went to a private school doesn't mean they chose to. And as you were saying in your chat with Rick Astley, like you shouldn't necessarily judge people because of their sort of accent, that sort of thing. But young, spoiled children, I can't bear it. Absolutely can't bear it. And my children, when they ask for like fizzy water, I'm like, I didn't know what fizzy water was until I was about 25 years old.
22:49But when I think that, you know, the holidays that we go on, we go to France and there's somewhere where, you know, we're staying in a place that's got a swimming pool. I don't think I'd been to France until I was 18. And I do constantly worry while you want to provide the best possible life for your kids, it's the most natural thing in the world. You sort of want them to know what it's like to not be able to have certain things. And that's quite a difficult thing to manage, I think, as a parent. Everything is balanced the other way. There's always what may be seen as a benefit in one regard might not be in another regard.
23:15And also your kids, you know, they're growing up in London with all this going on. And, you know, for your wife, who's white, growing up in Exeter, now she's confronted with a load of problems that she would have been maybe oblivious about. because she wasn't Asian or have children that are Asian and bringing them up. It's sort of, there's all different challenges that present themselves. The single biggest thing that I've learned in the years I've spent looking at and reading into writing about reporting on social mobility, and I set up a charity that was obsessed with this subject, is the advantage that London gives you.
23:44And, you know, being in and around London is just a massive, massive, massive leg up. It's the single biggest thing about social mobility. And if you grow up in London, you have advantages that growing up in Devon, Even if you went to a nice school, even if you grew up somewhere that was leafy and rural, you don't have those advantages if you grew up a long way from London. Because I'd stay at my mum and dad's when I was doing gigs for no money. And I could get in and out of London and have dinner to pay for it. Where did you grow up? You know, Mottenham, southeast London. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
24:11So I grew up in Mottenham. So they lived in Mottenham, which was like zone three or four of London. So I could get like a week travel card. And then I'd just boot around London doing gigs and then just come back and stay at my mum and dad's. and if I'd lived in the middle of you know like catering or something like that I wouldn't be able to get anywhere I wouldn't be able to fill the train you know what I mean poor old Acasta poor Acasta he managed it he got his Acasta from Kettering so with your kids four kids talk me through the weekend it's two o 'clock on Friday so two o 'clock on Friday you go up the you do the school run and you're straight into the Friday it's basically a huge track out at two no no no but I mean by two o 'clock you can't be doing anything after two I sort of start get kicked out quarter past three but 2 30 i go and get them basically and you basically then are into a straight up three or four hours of it's dinner time feeding them then it's bath time then it's bedtime you basically huge amounts of your life just disappear yeah in this vortex called every evening of your life and then nine o 'clock you might watch something on netflix you might chat to your wife about five minutes but basically you need to go to bed because the baby's going to be up and that is the thing about four is there's no respite yeah so how does bedtime work because all of them need to be put to bed separately so the two-year-old is usually by the way it takes the first two years before your child sleeps in my experience i don't know if you found the same thing but the first two years are a total nightmare and then you get regressions along the way as their brain develops and they have nightmares and then they're in and out your bed at age six seven and then they're starting to wet themselves and all that sort of nonsense and so the two-year-old base at your sleep and now the four-year-old and the six-year-old share a bunk bed which means they can talk to each other oh that's good oh again things that you don't know about parenthood until you've done it is children cancel each other out so there's this really weird thing that like one five-year-old is a lot of work but two five-year-olds is kind of no work because they can talk to each other yeah often you'll get people go oh thank you for having us around with our kids and you're like it's easier totally when you're here with your kids life is easier because your kids are entertaining my kids.
26:14Exactly. That's why you do play dates. So basically they all go to bed. The nine-year-old's pretty cool, wants to stay up and talk or mess about, whatever. But then from Saturday morning, my thing is on a Saturday morning, you've got to get out. Because if you don't get out, you are into just this endless doom loop of breakfast, load the dishwasher, empty the dishwasher, and then it's time for lunch. The dishwasher's huge for you, isn't it? Because you've got four kids. I apologized to the dishwasher the other day. when I stopped it early. I was like, my dishwasher literally ought to have a name.
26:44It says Hotpoint on it. And I have a deeper and more intense relationship with that. Bloody machine than I do most of my fellow human beings. How many rounds are you doing a day? Standardly eight or ten. Can I suggest, I don't know if you've got a space for it, but can I suggest a second dishwasher and lose a cupboard? Haven't got space, mate. What do you reckon, two at the same time? Because what you can do is when one's on, you can load the other and you've got a bit of freedom and the kitchen's clean on the side. Do you know what I mean? That's a really interesting suggestion which I'll put to my wife.
27:10Do you know what I found out the other day, which is a big issue? That I've been trying to over-stack the dishwasher. I've been sort of – you want it to be efficient, right? You want to do one load and do it all. It's a false economy. It's a false economy because then you take it all out and you've got to wash it all again. Yeah, my mother-in-law thinks she's brilliant at stacking the dishwasher because she can get more in. That's not what it's about. No, you want the dishwasher to be about 80 % full, I would suggest. Have you ever put it on eco-friendly mode? Ours has got eco-friendly mode, which means it does it all and then it air dries and it takes four and a half hours.
27:40I haven't got four and a half hours. I haven't either, and it locks it. If you do that by accident, your day is over. Why is it eco-friendly if it takes longer? It basically washes it all and then it just drip dries. It's like not having air con, I suppose. And what's your impartial view on that? It's got a lower carbon footprint. Yeah, yeah, the footprint on my hot point is absolutely tiny. basically on a saturday afternoon you've got to get out in the morning got to do some sort of activity which is what activities are you looking at anything so soft play in the park anything and the problem is what do you do when it's raining again you don't think about this before you become a parent but rain is terrible because when it's raining you've got to be indoors and if you don't want to be in your house you basically have to arrange to go to someone else's house with four kids as well i don't know how many invites you're getting i know and now you're those people are just like oh my god who wants them to come around with their four kids and this are they all ivf or were you first and then it comes through how did it work i've always had the thing that i wanted to tell them first all right so sorry what i was saying because they don't know and i'm always conscious they might hear this i'll put it this way one of them is ivf and the others were natural that's good right and for anyone who is listening to this podcast partly because they want to have inspiration to become a parent let me just say if you're going through IVF it is absolute hell much worse obviously for women than men yeah and I'm so sorry and you know I hope you get there in the end because it is it's an amazing thing we all have kids much much later these days did you consider stopping at any point because you said seven years didn't you yeah no six years interrupted by um the birth of one of them uh we did yeah totally I realized even as I say this it is the most annoying thing in the world to hear if you're going through IVF but it's true to say that we then just you know got lucky yeah the thing about Having a baby and conceiving is you just need to get lucky.
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29:32And a huge, huge thing is because we're all having kids so much later, there are a lot of people, a lot of women who, for absolutely understandable reasons, think about their careers and prioritize that. And they get to their late thirties, for instance, and they're thinking IVF's an option. And then they look into it and they realize you can only do three rounds on the NHS. And after that, it costs a huge amount of money and it's not guaranteed to work. And it's a lot of heartache. And God, I just say my heart goes out to those people because it's a horrible thing. And you would go through it and go through all the pain if you knew that there was going to be a baby at the end.
30:03Yeah, it's not guaranteed. But you're in the tunnel and you don't know there's light at the end of it. And that's, yeah, it's a horrible thing. It's a horrible thing. How old was you when you had your first one? 32. 32. Oh, okay. How old were you guys? I was 29. I was 34. Yeah. Which is 10 years late for where I'm from. I'm going to say one journalistic thing here. This is, I think, such an interesting phenomenon. In 1981, which is when Charles and Diana got married, the average British woman got married at 23 and had kids quite soon after that, and the average man at 25. Fast forward 30 years, and the average British woman is getting married at 30, and the average British man is getting married at 32.
30:43In other words, in the space of a single generation, because we're all basically skint and can't afford houses, we've delayed childhood and marriage by seven years, which is a massive change. Is that why it is? I think it's two things. I think it's partly because it's an economic thing, which is that we can't afford houses, so you need two mortgages to get on the housing ladder. Yeah, people are skinned. And I think it's also slightly a kind of cultural thing, which is a kind of feeling that you should be freer for longer. And a lot of people think their 20s is this decade of experimentation. They want to experiment with their careers or their living arrangements or their partners, and they settle down later on.
31:17And in a way, that's an amazing thing because you get to have your 20s and, you know. Uni as well. I think no one really went to university, especially in the sort of more working classes but when I went 20 odd years ago there was so many more grants to go and stuff like that you know more people went in that generation I think do you know what I mean was it worth going to uni in your case for me not academically no but social mobility wise yes because I found out there was a different world and a different way of doing things through meeting other people exactly and not staying in my tiny sort of microcosm of area and family and friends it was a hundred percent worth it for me in terms of who i developed to be because i needed to leave home i needed to go and i grew up in devon i went to manchester and i it was just a brilliant three years where i kind of found out who i was but i did that it was like what you'd call a shot to nothing and snooker isn't it in those days i was like what was it four grand a year or whatever it was i think i left uni i think 11 grand debt for the whole three years yeah i lived on whatever my rent in my final year was 32 quid a week
32:27we had a box room in our flat it was 200 quid a week for four people and then we were like we just negotiated so everyone else paid 56 i paid 32 quid just go in the tiny room and i was this is fucking brilliant it's like a zero-sum game isn't it it's like why not in those days it was like this is a great thing to do for three years while you work out i was totally rudderless and didn't know what to do with my life at the time you didn't have to pay your loan back if you didn't earn over 15 grand a year i never thought i'd be paying it back well i thought i would be but i'd only be telling the government i was earning 15 grand that was my show you had rob did you say it was 11 grand that'd be nine actually but then it was 11 by the time some interest went on like immediately and it grew.
33:11That's quite a lot. I mean, that's quite a lot. I never thought I'd pay it back. Yeah, you don't. I was 18. I didn't know what, no one else had been to uni. My family didn't know what I'll sign in. Basically, someone said, sign that and you get a loan. You don't have to pay back. I thought, well, I'll never earn that much, whatever it was to pay it back. And then you got grants as well. So you got three grand a year grants and the three grand loan. My fees were paid as well, I think. I can't remember. Something like that. So I think it was nine, basically nine grand for it all. But then the interest started building up after that.
33:36and I paid it off with comedy money. A lot of young people are just thinking it's not worth it. You have to come out with 50 grand in debt, which is going to be around your net for a long time. And actually, to be honest, I mean, not to bring it down, but I feel so sad, not only for that generation that are affected by COVID, the people that went to uni for their three years lived on Zoom, they didn't get to meet anyone, the people at school. It's stored up so many problems. But also just generally for young people these days, I feel like a lot of people are just feeling very down about their prospects.
34:04and you know so what do you go and study most stuff it's being threatened with oh ai will do that even like becoming a solicitor or lawyer which would be one of the most respected things you could become people would be like well that would point is because you could just ask chat gbt what i should put in a legal letter to reply to this so can i tell you something hand on heart two weeks ago i was sat in this very seat where i'm doing this from a podcast studio in the bbc yes talk to us about radical so the idea behind radical was yeah for the reasons you guys say we are living through this absolutely terrifying era in human history.
34:34A lot of the stuff that we thought would never happen is happening. A lot of the old norms are dying. And there are these big things like AI, environmental change, which are kind of scary. The idea of radicals say, what are these big trends changing the world? And how do you understand them and try and get ahead of them? And two weeks ago, I sat in this very studio. I was talking to the boss of one of the AI giants, a company called Anthropic. And this guy is my age. He's 42. He's a multi, multi, multi-billionaire. What's he called? Dario Amaday. Two episodes ago, we did it. And it was like literally getting a bucket of cold water poured over my head.
35:04And he's got no need or incentive to talk this stuff up, first and say. Secondly, he has been proven absolutely correct in his analysis of how quickly AI was going to develop. And he said, and it's shocking, but he said, basically, within three to five years, half of entry-level white-collar jobs in things like finance, in things like consulting, in things like law, they're going to be wiped out. And then I went away and looked at it. I was like, can this really be true? And he said that's a worst case scenario. He also said there's going to be lots of good things from AI. But he said that's a worst case scenario.
35:36And it's already happening. There are massive companies that are employing the future Josh Whittacombs and the future Rob Becketts, people that came from humble or ordinary circumstances, got themselves into university, and all they wanted was a decent first job. These jobs are disappearing. I worry about the prospects for young people. I really feel like we're not giving them a reason to be optimistic quite often and you know the cultural script they're getting is one saying that things are pretty kind of grim and the truth is with ai for a lot of them it will be quite grim and this is the kind of stuff of the today program yeah i'm reading a book on ai called the coming wave have you read this don't start him off on ai again am i he loves it i interviewed him about it it's fascinating i think it's fascinating but ai's got a lot of good things about it are you then saying to your kids you need to do this you need to do that the world's going to be completely different for them yeah they've just got to use it a lot i don't know if you guys if you're nine-year-olds have got smartphones yet but i'm basically trying to keep my kids away from smartphones and all of that palaver but i do occasionally let them google stuff or put it into like chat gpt and it's so weird for them isn't it because it's just normal i don't know if you've got a home speaker like so i find the fizzy water thing really weird when my kids go i want that with fizzy water i'm like what the hell are you talking about but now they go and other home speaker systems are available but they They go, okay, Google.
36:53And then they ask for something and they get an answer. Yeah. And I think that is so weird. And I'm like. But is that not when our parents were going, they're just playing Super Mario Brothers or something? I was playing Super Mario Brothers. I was playing Mario Kart. Mario Kart. But it's just a generational thing, right? Yeah. Technology has to improve. Technology is always advancing. We're relics. Nans must have been well scared of Excel. Don't you want your kids to have that lovely childhood that you had in Mottingham or in Devon on Dartmoor, rolling across the fields, looking at the sheep, picking the blackberries, watching the seasons turn.
37:27Yeah, but I didn't have that childhood. I just watched television and played computer games. And it's worked out. It has worked out. Do your kids have access to games consoles? Yes, they do, but they're not that obsessed with it. They occasionally play a bit of Mario Kart. They play Roblox a lot on their iPads, which I don't really like, but they love it. And a bit of Minecraft is what they play. So the Roblox universe, is that something I should be keeping my kids away from? Well, so basically Minecraft's like a game that you buy and you can play around with and build your little houses. But what Roblox is, it's almost like a user generated worlds.
38:01So you have your little Roblox person, but you can search stuff like say you like fairgrounds. You can search fairground and use a 4469 fairground. You can go in and just some random person around the world's built a world. so because it's so open and so much opportunity to create your own worlds roblox itself struggles to keep everything safe because it's all user generated it's not them creating a computer game like mario kart so you have to be really on it with their terms and conditions and stuff like that but ultimately i think roblox want you to be on all of it and more of it because then they can earn more money from selling robux and advertising so you've got to be one step ahead of the safety protocols because in an ideal world roblox wants everything open to everyone but obviously if you're in children you want them in a safe part of it yeah so you have to just keep making sure that they can't direct message people or there's different ratings of world because they can do ones like a ghost train but if you're 18 plus the ghost train can be horrendously awful to be on but if you've got the four-year-old to six-year-old one it's not as bad but even then there's you know gradients but because it's user generated it's hard to know what they're exactly on every second But the single biggest thing is to keep them for as long as possible away from the open internet, isn't it?
39:13What you don't want is your kids to be able to go onto Google, let alone social media. I mean, that's YouTube. We keep them off YouTube. I hate, what I think is the scariest thing is the algorithm is terrible. Yeah, YouTube Kids has been the most problematic. Why is YouTube Kids so bad? My problem with YouTube Kids was slightly different, which was it wasn't that they ended up on bad stuff. it was that the way the fact it just kept going on to the next video and on to the next video and on to the next video yes and it takes you away from the original search exactly it seemed to really affect my daughter and make her kind of edgy and angsty and not so much the content as the way the method it was just on to the next on to the next on to the next on to the next as opposed to just maybe it was all in my head but that's what i found was really difficult for her to deal with yeah basically it was constant it never ended and also yeah it would be like funny video but then if my daughter liked or watched one that was a bit like oh my god fake death prank but it's a girl going hey welcome to my channel i'm c andrew yeah and then she was like laying on the floor like and it was sort of funny because it was so like caricature but then if she liked that one found it quite funny then it would take you to another one that may be a little bit more grown up in tone yeah yeah yeah she might be watching it through like oh my god you know when you're scared of something or you watch it because it's so addictive isn't it like that so kids want that thing that is just a little bit kind of naughty for them to get to because the slightly older kids for the slightly older kids.
40:37So an eight year old wants what a 10 year old is allowed to watch. A 10 year old wants what a 12 year olds. And, and all of this stuff is worth saying this stuff. I mean, we're not that ancient, but this stuff is new, right? You know, when we were growing up watching cartoons, I love cartoons. I love computer games. I watch a huge amount of screens. I'm not going to pretend I was there like immersed in Shakespeare. I was watching a lot of screens, but the stuff that you get now is literally designed on Netflix, on prime, on Disney. It's prime to like hook kids in and it's grabby with its colors and it's very addictive and they like literally tweak the plots so you have to keep watching and keep watching and keep watching and let's be honest one of the things about screens is when you're a parent you're exhausted yeah you know you want to be able to look at your screen you want to be able to like make a meal i want to look at my algorithm actually and you don't pretend you're not watching unicorn academy on a friday night
41:31and to be honest the screens letting your kids watch the screen is a way of giving you a bit of respite and you know what that's reasonable it's fair enough you know as someone who's kind of you know you're observing where the world's going where do you think the mobile phone thing with kids will play out in the next five to ten years do you think there will be government intervention do you think there will be rules or do you think it won't happen like that so there's this big new law in australia where social media rather than smartphones have been banned for kids of a certain age and i do think that basically we had nick clegg who used to work at facebook or metas it's now called sat in the studio a few weeks ago and he was saying that even he is sort of looking at that closely because even he thinks there is a case for kids under the age of 14 not really being allowed to have smartphones and you know what i know he's going to make it sound sort of name-dropping, but I'll say anyway, I interviewed on the Today program, Eric Schmidt, former boss of Google.
42:26And he said something which was so nuts about kids. He said, in a few years time, we will ask ourselves how on earth we ran the biggest experiment in human history on all the world's kids. And what you talk about is the fact that we've given these devices to all these kids, which is nuts. If you think about the 1950s or 60s, or even when we were growing up in the 1990s, you came into school and you pulled out a television and put it on the table in front of you in class. And then you pulled out a speaker and then you pulled out a camera and then you pulled out some typewriter that allowed you to connect with every other person in the world and put that all on the table in front of you.
43:00And then the teacher was trying to teach you. You'd be like, that's mad. And yet now we've got all of that in this tiny thing that fits into our pockets and millions of children around the world are going to school with these things in their pockets. And I do think we'll look back on it and be a bit like, that was a bit wild. Do you think people will step in then in the UK or do you the striking thing is it's not happened yet you know so keir star was on it is uh it's up to schools to do it but i think what matters is what other parents do and you know there's obviously a stereotype about pushy middle class parents at certain schools will kind of campaign for it i think what really matters which you don't realize before you become a parent is that you need the solidarity of other parents it's a bit like with computer again this is the sort of thing you never think about until you have kids yourself but like with screens or computer games what matters isn't just what your kid is doing, what their mates are doing in the class, but what their older siblings are doing.
43:52You might have a seven-year-old that goes to school and the other seven-year-olds have certain rules. But then one of the seven-year-olds has got an older brother who's nine, who's got roadblocks. And suddenly all the chat is about roadblocks. So you just need the other parents to help you in enforcing your rules. Well, yeah, because my seven-year-old got roadblocks the same time as my nine-year-old. But in an ideal world, the seven-year-old would have waited until she was nine. But there's no way she's going to see the nine-year-old and not say I want to be. Well, I think there should be a law.
44:18It shouldn't be allowed a social media account and list TikTok, Snapchat, Instagram until you're 16 and that'd be a law and you have to show your ID to sign up. It's a very simple thing that can be implemented. Obviously, you can cheat that with fake IDs that most people do with cigarettes, nightclubs and stuff like that. But at least it gives the parents a thing. It's against the law. It's illegal. And then you will create that solidarity through the majority. Not everyone's going to do it and people think that's a, and there will be loopholes, but just accept that. But then at least most people go, no, wait till you're 16 and then we do it.
44:48But haven't you guys heard, especially from some of you, because you guys got big following amongst people that are teenagers, young people in their 20s. Haven't you heard a lot of people say, I wish I'd never been introduced to TikTok? I hear that all the time from young people saying, you know what? God, I wish I never even looked at it. It's just, it's swallowed my life or like I'm just spending time doom scrolling. I think in a way though, I think social media will naturally turn into content as opposed to members of public publishing everything. think i think the way we put instagram stuff on the next generation will find that embarrassing and cringe like facebook and friends reunite like why the hell are you putting photos of you and mom on the holiday on the internet but what they'll have is an account that's got like their photo and then like one or two posts and they'll do a few stories but what it will be used is to watch their favorite content creators and it become tv and youtube as opposed to because most people watch youtube and don't post and i think tiktok snapchat and instagram eventually from the next generation will be the more watching creators as opposed to publishing everything about themselves i think you've just designed the future of the internet rob beckett far-sighted analysis i'm meant to be the one with a podcast about the global trend of the web oh my god that's what i think it's gonna happen anyway but you know i might be wrong if you were to give people three episodes of radical to come in on which are the three you're proudest of and the most interesting okay can you one for sort of the everyday guy because when you said i don't have your name drop here i didn't even know what name i'm supposed to be picking up eric schmidt or something eric schmidt he was a former boss of google everyday guy there's loads of everyday people so one i'd say is we did an episode with billy no but for people like it's new to them this kind of because what you are doing i know you're a very eloquent speaker and you're from like humble beginnings but you are operating at quite a high intellectual level of debate and insight into these complicated things so if there's an entry-level gap for people to get in on top of your other two favorite ones that would be great i'd say first up billy bragg yes billy bragg he came on this podcast he's a man of the left in politics and he talked about how the old working class that he grew up with is no longer there because that whole solidarity is completely gone but we also talked about the power of protest songs and it was so inspirational and he was really honest about it so i said do protest songs work and i thought he was gonna say of course they do that's what i spent 40 years doing and he said no they don't work so billy brag was incredibly interesting and exciting if you are worried about ai and a lot of people are worried about ai and they're right to be though it's also exciting there is an episode with this guy called dario it's like mario but whoever d dario amadei which is really really good so ash sarkar is this really really interesting person who's a kind of thoughtful about the left of british politics and she's like, you know, she's from Tottenham and she's very influential.
47:38She works for Navarro Media and she was great on all the stuff that's going on with Jeremy Corbyn and the Green Party. And then we got someone who is at the more intellectual end for sure, as is Ash Sarkar, called Dr. James Orr. And he's basically the main intellectual influence on reform. And if you think that there's a serious chance, I don't know how you guys feel about this, but if you think there's a serious chance that reform and Nigel Farage could in some distant future run the country and you want to understand their thinking, there's an episode with James Orr that you'd really enjoy. So the thing about your intellectual level, Rob, I'd say, which is so interesting you say that.
48:10Yeah. The reason I do what I do is I want big ideas to be accessible to everyone, including the sort of kid that I was when I grew up. And I really want to break the connection. This will get me in trouble. I want to break the connection with big ideas and a posh accent. And I really think that one of the great developments in our culture is that people, including people like you, if I may say, both of you are able to show that you can have cultural capital and be someone with a voice, even if you didn't come from a wealthy background. And I think that's a good thing. Is this radical podcast your own thing or is it a BBC podcast?
48:47It's a BBC thing. It comes out of the Today programme. Don't let that put you off. It's a good thing. Do you know what? If you listen to the Today programme, you'd love it. I bet you would. Yeah, I know. But can I say what my, with that accent thing. So I've seen you on social media. It was like, oh, I like this guy like that. And I was like, oh my God, that's the bloke on the news you present slightly differently because you have to be but like your accent i think your accent as you your career's developed you've become more south london than you have been previously i don't know if that's a conscious thing when you are on the today program because i noticed it with lauren laverne when she went on to do desert island discs she's not really from the north northeast anymore but you're saying that i've become more south london that's what i'm saying so i think you've gone the other way i think you had to be when you first went on there and you've got more that way, which I think is really refreshing.
49:29And it cuts through to me. Whereas when I listen to someone on the Today programme with that voice, I go, that's not for me. And also I think most of the time that's them doing their little performance for that show. I know you can't be, you have to be impartial, but it just sprinkles that slight bit of inauthentic. No, no, don't have to be impartial by accents. So I'll just say, I did this two-part documentary called How to Crack the Class Ceiling. And a big part of it was about accent bias. and accent bias, as your listeners will know, is a real thing in this country. And I'm afraid to say there is a hierarchy of accents and the ones at the bottom have been at the bottom for the last 50 years and it's Wolverhampton in the black country and then quite soon after that it's Scouse.
50:09And one of the big things we try and do is try and get people who don't talk in received pronunciation to talk about intelligent things. I'm trying really hard. It's going to be harder now that we've had this conversation. I'm trying really hard to not have this kind of code switching, kind of hyper awareness of access. Also, it's not like people do it consciously as well. Do you know what I mean? It's just because you're in that building with those people can sometimes shift it. But I think what I was saying was it was meant to be a compliment. You are becoming more, I think, authentic in the way you are speaking, I find, as a viewer of yours.
50:50And I try really hard on University Challenge, where you often have to talk very fast, but really clearly enunciate. Enunciation is different from pronunciation, which is the accent. I try really hard to still be me, but I'll be completely honest with you. I feel paranoid and self-conscious about whether or not I accidentally and unconsciously seem to posher up in order to be understood. But everyone does that. I do that sometimes on certain shows, but do you have a triple threat of this where then you'll be, because obviously your presenter's working class South Londoner and you have that accent, but then you won't be Asian enough for Asian people because you're so South London.
51:33Do you get that as a... Everyone feels like you're letting them down. In the end, you've just got to be yourself. And, you know, when you get to my ripe old age, I know what I'm about. And the thing that's really wonderful, which young people who talk like you do coming from Mottingham or like you do coming from the part of Devon, you're from Josh, young people can often be very, very paranoid about it. When I did these documentaries, it's so funny. I did this documentary called How to Break Into the Elite. I got so many emails, hundreds of emails from people pouring their heart out to me, okay?
52:02Saying, you know, I was the chief constable of Somerset Police, but I would have been a much higher rank if I didn't come from Birmingham. Because I'm paranoid about sounding like I come from Dudley, because there's bad connotations from that. and I really felt after these documentaries that accent paranoia is a much bigger part of being British than accent pride just this week I got an amazing email I won't say her name because I'm going to meet up with her and try and help her out but I got this email from someone who said the basis she had a very strong Scouse accent she was very paranoid about it she watched my documentary and then she said she's going to not try and hide that Scouse accent and she went for a big job in London as happens she's now doing really well I think a lot of people in this country are terrified about how they sound and try and posh up and i think the three of us in an unspoken club and with a little bit of kind of mutual solidarity can try and break that connection i just think we need to give people the confidence most people in britain talk in regional industrial accents and i just think we should hear more of those accents and i should say i think we're making progress on that i think people should be positive about it oh 100 definitely better than it was last question how do your kids talk absolutely pucker london north london not posh not posh kind of classless i'd say yeah classes yeah they're talking a sort of actually not classes middle class middle class north london which is i guess what they are yeah i'm so i feel like i've wondered about all i'm so delirious No, it's great.
53:30It's perfect. I've scared the crap out of you on AI. No, I'm already there. I'm already there. You're already there. I think it's either going to destroy us or save the world, Amol. And let's see what happens. You can cut this bit. I'm just going to say that you can cut this, if you like. I think you guys are absolute legends. Oh, thank you. I know from having followed your careers really closely that you have both overcome significant hurdles to do what you do. And to be funny and to be appreciated for it and to still be yourselves is, I think, absolutely fucking amazing. So I hope you keep on doing what you're doing.
53:58Oh, thank you. Oh, thanks, mate. It's been a joy. It's been a joy. It's been a great ep. We've got a final question as well, if you've got time. I've got time. We've not really spoken about your wife enough, I don't think, so this is a chance for you to rizz her up to the max. Basically, what is the one thing she does as a parent that you're in awe of and think you are amazing, and then what's the one thing she does as a parent that frustrates you slightly, and if she wants to listen, she'd go, yeah, he's got a point there, and you can answer in any order. On the first one, the whole childbirth thing.
54:27turning a little dot that's smaller than a pinhead into a person inside of you and then ejecting that person into the world means every woman in the world deserves more credit than every man that's ever lived i think that's the first thing yeah but try getting it up after your fourth pigs in blanket on boxing day oh dear the one thing that she does that frustrates me i know i just did a silly joke but yeah i totally the childbirth thing is absolutely mental But what's the second thing? What's the one thing that she does that was a source of frustration? Oh my God, if I can't think of something, does that mean I'm implying that she's absolutely perfect?
55:02What would you get called on the internet? You'd be called something male. What's it called for a simp? A simp, a ham, but it's a pussy boy. Anyway, growing up in South London, that was a mark of respect. I would say that we're in a way that is genuine. It's not me being diplomatic. I'm being completely honest. We're absolutely opposite characters, right? I'm from South London. She's from Devin. I'm, you know, whatever. I'm much, much more affectionate than her. And I think affection is a good thing.
55:33I feel sad for you. He wants a little cuddle after the Today show. Someone give up all the cuddle. He's knackered. After the Today program. I tell you, I always need a little cuddle. That is all I do. I think affection is a good thing where she's very, she's English. She's incredible, obviously. She's the most amazing person I'll ever meet. But she doesn't kiss you enough. Oh, is it about me rather than her with the kids? Oh, with the kids. Oh, right. I thought you were saying that you wanted more kisses. Well, that's also true. I do want more kisses. Listen, you know that Stone Roses song, I Want to Be Adored?
56:08I mean, it's just totally true. When you've got four kids of that age group, the time for that seems to shrink. Does it come back? Does it come back eventually? No, you're at the worst of it because you've got the two-year-old. I'd say like another 18 months or so when the youngest is four you'll get a little kiss in 18 months if I'm lucky I'll get a little smooch when the youngest is four I think it literally that is a dramatic easing of parental stuff and they're getting to school it's just you know you're nearly there and holidays are easier holidays are easier you don't have to take milk and napping and then you'll have more time together because you do the school drop off and then you can be indoors together and then you can do other stuff you've got a bit of time back to yourself so you'll get there We're going to have a kiss.
56:48You can kiss each other. And a little cuddle. What time do you get home from the Today programme? Well, it depends if I'm talking to you or not, really. Usually my country's going to work. So I get home at 9.30 and try and sleep, wake up, and then do the school run. So there's no time for kissing at all, I tell you. It'll come, Emma. Just, yeah, boxing day. As soon as I'm done here, I'm going to go and listen to your AI guy because I am fascinated. You get so hyper-focused on stuff. He's not stopped talking about AI. Thank you so much. Thank you so much. It was a joy. I loved that. You guys are legends.
57:16thank you so much I feel honoured to chat to you it was an absolute joy good luck with the podcast radical you go back to bed and hopefully you get another series of the Today Show well it's not a daily show oh yeah no you might be whinging about when we invite you on to talk about your next tour or to talk about social ability or your next book and then you'll be like hang on a second there's 3 million people listening to me like that 3 million people listen great to have you on Mr Raj the influence is absolutely enormous I think I got invited on I got invited on recently when Plymouth Argyle beat Liverpool.
57:47I know, I spoke to you, mate. Do you not remember? Yeah, I know. I know. It's just for the listeners. Right. See you soon, mate. Good luck, David.
57:57Amal Rajan. He came in all... Oh, he came in all guns. Oh, I loved it. Do you know what? I'm going to put that in my top five interviews that didn't go how I expected. That's what I was saying to him when I was saying, like, he's much more himself in recent years. Well, I just thought he was going to be, like, quite a straight news guy. Yeah, so did I. He was down to fuck, man. Yeah, right. What I loved as well, he didn't want a couple of the Today Show digs, but he had to drop in three million. I was like, yeah, respect. Come on, guys. I've been a serious guy here. I like a laugh, but I do like respect as well, actually.
58:29Yeah, I've seen the ratings of the last leg. Don't fucking take the piss. All right, Josh, I'll see you next time. See you Tuesday. Bye.
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Joining us this episode to discuss the highs and lows of parenting (and life) is the brilliant journalist, writer and broadcaster - Amol Rajan.
Formerly the media editor of BBC News, he has been a presenter on the Today programme on BBC Radio 4 since 2021 and University Challenge on BBC Two since 2023.
You can listen to Amol's podcast 'Radical' wherever you get your podcasts.
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