S12 EP52: I am spent

17:56Josh Widdicombe:that my son went to and then we went for um then we went for a couple of drinks around the neighbors to meet the neighbors you love it didn't you you can't get enough rose like socializing didn't you I did say at the end of Sunday, I said I enjoyed all of them, but I am spent. And then I was really gutted because Canada versus whoever they played was shit. South Africa. South Africa. Yeah, it was bad. Good last minute winner.

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20:30Josh Widdicombe:oh right so how do you wake up in the morning alarm well usually when you're sleeping on a mattress topper on a floor nature takes its course from about 5 30. okay um this morning i woke up because one of the cats was biting my toe um how are the cats one had a panic attack and you lost barrel has barrel been found barrel's back they're fine they're fine they're good she just she must Something had happened. I think she probably had a fight with another cat or something. And she just had a day pulling herself together in a bush. We all have those days. You know when a cat's kind of got their tail between the legs, kind of metaphorically and physically.

21:10Josh Widdicombe:And just hiding and licking its wounds. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Fair enough. But she's fine now. So that's how I wake up. We have an alarm goes off for all four of us. What time? Quarter to seven. Quarter to seven. Right. About similar as us. Well, Lou sometimes gets earlier. Lou said to me, now, when I'm not here, when you're not here, Rob, what she likes to do is have the blind open a bit. We've got like a V-Lux window, right? Yeah. Have the blind down a little bit so that when the sun comes up, natural light comes in and wakes up. And I weren't working the other night. A bit early, a bit early, a bit early during summer.

21:44Yeah. So she said to me, do you mind if you do that? I went, yeah, fine, whatever, right? Had the blind open, 4.30 a.m. Yeah, of course. 4.30 a.m. And I'm just like, what the fuck? And it's like proper daylight. Yeah, of course it is. Like sunbathing. Yeah, yeah. I didn't know this. It's literally the week after the longest day. Has it moved on? Has it moved earlier in recent times? It's mental. 4.30 is mental. So I'm later going, it's fucking 4.30. I'm like, Jesus. I thought something's gone wrong. Look, Lou's not there. Lou's downstairs. And bear in mind now, we've got two hours and 15 minutes until we normally wake up.

22:21And so basically three hours and 15 minutes until we need to leave the house. We could watch Titanic. That's how long we were. Did you? No. So I went downstairs and I was like... What time did you go downstairs? 4.45. I've stirred for 15 minutes. Why did you do that?

22:37Josh Widdicombe:Why didn't you just go back and sleep? Because we're getting up early. I'm doing what Lou does. She doesn't get up at 4.45. I think she does. And that's why she's fucked every night and tired. Because she's getting up too early. She gets up at 4.45 when you're not there. I'm at Wahlberg, right? So I'm like, this is insane. And what does she do? Well, I went downstairs and went, what is going on? I feel like I'm getting up for a flight. You know, like early for a holiday. I'm like, what do we do now? She went, oh, just it's nice, isn't it? It's quiet. You can just sort of get chilled and get ready.

23:07Oh, no, she's one of the five o 'clock club. Yeah. So I'm like, all right, okay. I went, look, let's not judge. Let's try and get involved. I went, all right, then. Let's make a coffee then. This morning. This was a few days ago, right? Right. Anyway, so I made a coffee and it's during the heat wave. So it's like 20 degrees outside at 4am, 4 or 5am. And I say, oh, well, I went, do you fancy sitting on like, we've got like lounges. I went, do you want to sit in the garden in the sun? And it's like, you could sit in it without getting burnt and it's not too hot. I went, do you want to sit on the lounges with a cup of coffee?

23:34She went, no, I'm all right in here, actually. She was just in the front room, scrolling on her phone. I was like, this is not attacking the door.

23:42So I just sat there with a coffee, just looking at her, scrolling. I'm like, what the fuck is this? anyway i am foul all day i've got the fucking um i'm knackered what did you have to do with your day it wasn't a busy day and i weren't working in the evening because it wasn't bad but i was here and everywhere i'd loads of meetings and appointments and work stuff life stuff i guess like seven o 'clock i come back lose sleep on the sofa obviously because she's just part like she's done the kids they're just passed out because it's so where are the kids they're just like watching a bit of telly like half hour before we go up and you know they're just chilling or whatever coloring in she's just like dozing on the sofa obviously though because she's been up since half four yeah anyway i like try and get the kids into bed and then like they're going i'm too hard i can't sleep like that and i'm like i said to one of them i have to go to bed it's half nine now and i'm fucked anyway i um put the kids to bed went into bed at half nine slept to 8 30 the next day because they weren't in school it's 11 hours sleep did you have the velex closed I had to think that was closed for 11 hours.

24:44Yeah. And then the next, and then I was like, this can't go on. But I just couldn't believe, I can't believe that's what she's doing. I don't think she's doing that every time. But it's insane. It kills me. That is mad. And so what did she do? Just look at her phone and then the kids got up. But I've got a serious phone addiction. I'm not, I'm leaving my phone downstairs now. How's your business phone going? I haven't done it. Obviously, I haven't sorted that out ever. No.

25:08Josh Widdicombe:Have you considered the brick, Rob? i'm just leaving my phone down i'm just leaving my phone charged in a way from like six seven in the evening and don't go near it again to the next day yes now what i'm just scrolling in bed is the big problem and i've deleted tiktok you deleted tiktok deleted tiktok so i've just got instagram which i sort of do need for work i don't really yeah but then i should have then like i uploaded a video the other day that i probably should have uploaded to tiktok as well but couldn't because I was locked out of it. And then the video did really well on Instagram. And then I was like, well, I should have put it on TikTok.

25:42I done really well on TikTok. And I'm like, oh, my God, what is this? What are you, Rob? You're doing well enough. I know, but, you know, rested on me laurels. And I was like, maybe you should do this, you should do that. Anyway, so I've got to stop scrolling on my phone. The doom scrolling is awful.

25:58Josh Widdicombe:You know what our agents will do, Rob? What's that? If you give them your passwords. Yeah. I've done this when I've deleted social media. You can just send it to someone in the office and say, could you just put this on Instagram and TikTok with this caption? Yeah, I should do that, shouldn't I? I'm going to do that. It's much easier. Just do that. And then I'm out. But I'm a bit more of an organic dude, aren't I? I'm in the in-the-moment poster. Yeah, but you can do it as an in-the-moment WhatsApp. Yeah, but what I did there, I did it straight on Instagram. I should have done it on my camera.

26:34and then saved it. What was the video? Me moaning about the World Cup. Basically, if I don't think and just say something, it does really well. If I think about anything, it doesn't do well on social media. So how else has parenting been? Yeah, so the weekend we had, I went for a run on Saturday because the kids were in their clubs, and then one of them had a party. Lou took one to the party, then I took the other on a little day out with me and her. So we had a little date day where we went to the shop. Basically just walking around the Glades buying shit.

27:03Josh Widdicombe:because it's your double trip to the glades yeah so we did that and it was fun though it was nice just hanging out and i was like it was like what do you want to do she went can we just like float around and like not have stuff planned because sometimes our lives would be like this and that then this and that yeah okay we can do that so we walked around the glades about an hour and a half and then we like got to four o 'clock was like oh well what should we do and she was like i'm a bit bored now i don't know what to do should we do something and then we're just sat on a bench trying to find something to do and she was like it's quite good actually to plan stuff isn't it because then we'd have something to do now yeah so then we went it was so hot on that saturday when it was like 30 i think it's still like 34 degrees or something when we went ended up in an arcade and then bowling yeah i've never been so hot in my life sweat dripping off my nose sweat dripping off my nose doing mario kart and then uh so we did that then i took her for dinner we went to miller and carter she like she likes steaks she had a little steak it's like a steak house place They do quite a good kids' menu, actually.

27:59We can get a fillet steak and two courses for like 16 quid or something, which isn't too bad. And then, yeah, but it was a bit fancier, so I said I'd take her to a fancy dinner, so we went there. Then we'd got dirt on ourselves in the arcade, so we went to Marks and Spencer's and bought a nice top to wear for dinner. She wanted to wear a nice top, so I got a nice new top.

28:18Josh Widdicombe:Are you sure this was your daughter, Rob? Yeah, we just hung out. It was really fun. And then that was nice. And then Sunday, there was another party, which I took my daughter off. And then I took the other one. She wanted to go to the shop. She bought that. So we hung out. And then we ended up having some noodles. It was a very just chilled day of just me basically saying, what did they want to do? Which I think it's nice for them to have a bit of choice. And like, rather than being told, we're going here, we're going there, we're going here, we're going there. So yeah, we did that. It was a really nice, we're trying to have less booked in.

28:50So we just float around and do normal stuff. where sometimes because my life's so hectic i don't realize how hectic i make weekends because my life is planned within an inch of its life of like international travel here there bang and i'm used to doing so much because i've been doing it for 15 years that sometimes me and lou will put together like a weekend schedule that's like it's just a bit quite stressful rather than just floating about in the local area we're like going here we're going there so i'm really putting my foot down and trying to make it chilled yeah i remember this conversation about three or four

29:21Josh Widdicombe:years ago and well yeah it won't change it it's just who i am none of this changes we both do it couple other things though it's clarkson's farm um so was watching clarkson's farm and there's a bit where they're trying to get the dogs to um mate yeah right and make puppies and both the kids are like what's what's what's that on the tv and the two dogs were there we went oh we want to see the make puppies oh yeah because in their head they'll be like we want to see puppies so i'm like oh no no anyway so luckily we got got them out the room because i nearly was like oh they've seen dogs mount in any way like whatever it's not the end of the world if they see it but probably don't encourage it i think it's all right it's dogs well that's what i thought but luckily we said no go to bed go upstairs and when we did press play i don't know if you've seen this scene on clarkson's farm the dog misses the dog misses the vagina so you just see a full erect dog's penis humping the side of the other dog in full view of the camera and you see it jizz all over its back wow yeah and i was like they've gone to bed because then you and lou got got horny and before you know it no imagine that what would you do what would you do if you was watching that and then rose was all over you after seeing that obviously you'd make the most of it but then afterwards you'd have questions surely yeah and she's made you bark yeah yeah put on put on the collar

30:51um so and also they've been watching dance mums on my channel for login on the tv dance mums american reality show where this abby lee miller runs a dance academy and all the parents to that but they always end up arguing it's sort of almost like entry level to desperate housewives american reality trash tv but for not really for children but because it's about children it's sort of okay and there's not too much swearing anyway i'm logged in on it on my channel four so there's loads of adverts that are aimed at me yeah like are you struggling to get an erection no it's not that one on my life they're watching and the kids are watching erection because the advert that come up is struggling to watch struggling to get an erection and you said is clarkson's fault on this will tell you no but though i'm just saying is if you're signed in on your account yeah i mean slightly because you're in that middle period of age group where they're watching a bit older but not too old make sure they're signed into i don't know their own account but that i just try and

31:52Josh Widdicombe:explain what erection so my kids have got their own account on iplayer which obviously doesn't matter because they're not getting it served adverts yeah and netflix which obviously they're not being served adverts on netflix but i suppose i would get served invariably loads of shows about murderers i'm not interested in which is no idea if it adverts for murder shows on the channel four thing as well so it's like yeah then i don't know if they if i should double check what age rate in is um dance mums because maybe it's just me being wrong letting them watch it no i don't think so 11 and older yeah so that yeah so that's that's my fault that's fine 11 and older rob that's fine who cares adult behavior mothers it angry arguing profanity they used words like hell bitch and suck um i didn't tell you about what happened to me this this is quite bad stuff you know we did that filming with the big inflatable balls in um canterbury yeah and you told me about your journey home we had to get the train did i tell you about my journey home no i was massively dehydrated all day and we was about a bit sun we was on the cusp of sunstroke all day really weren't so drinking water all day so i was drinking water all day didn't have a wee then just before i got in the taxi home i had a pint of lager and a bottle of water and then drunk another bottle of water in the car hour and 10 minute drive about 30 minutes from home do you ever get piss erections no so if you need a wee uh if i wake up in the morning that could be a thing right so i don't normally get really no i don't normally get it in the day it's normally morning right so i'm actually really need a wee anyway i've got this i've got a piss erection in the car and i was like oh that's weird a lot of erection chat going on yeah and then um i was like oh that's weird i went that'll probably go in a bit because sometimes you can get erections in on transport can't you yeah it's not sexual okay it's just my body being a body so what are you doing at this point just sitting in the back of the car i'm standing car going i've got a bit of an erection here but i've got like my jumper on my lap and i'm on my phone so it's sort of like covered yeah right yeah anyway 10 minutes goes we're at my house still got full erection right yeah right so i'm like well what i'm gonna do is there's a drive the cab driver's there i'll just open the door shuffle to the side hold sort of my like jumper and bag around my midsection and sort of walk to my house slightly limp forward almost like your running technique yeah yeah yeah cab driver comes around so opens the door right in the firing line so i have to get out like some sort of sort of what are you wearing on your legs very thin shorts what you saw me in in the day yeah sport shorts the worst possible thing you could wear yeah right did you consider i don't want to be too graphic the tuck under the belt scenario no because it was a loose fitting waistband where there'll be potential with a gust of breeze for my t-shirt you could just see my little helmet skirting along the rim of the yeah yeah so i just basically have to just hunch and he just watches me hunch into my house and then and i'm sort of like going well i'll just hurt my back with the balls yeah yeah of course not that i've got a full erection full of piss i don't i've never i don't know what it is i don't know if i drunk so much now hear me out I drank so much water that my bladder was falling.

35:24It started to go in the shaft.

35:25Josh Widdicombe:No, it's not like this. It doesn't fill up the balloon. No, it's not like that. Well, I just don't know how it happened. That's how I'm going to stop it, isn't it? And I imagine you were so tired, your body was almost in a sleep mode. Yeah, I was very, yeah, maybe that's because that's what it felt like. You know, you can't get rid of it in the morning until you have a wee. Yeah. I get an erection. Don't write that in. Don't write that in. when I needed a wee. No, I don't know why that is. Why not? This is medical. This is medical. There might be someone now with a full erection after drinking too much in a taxi going, thank God I'm being seen.

36:02Get an erection when you need a pee. It's very common. Thank you. Involuntary reflex is not a cause for a concern. Your bladder and the nerves that control erections share the same area of your spinal cord. When your bladder fills up, it presses against these nerves, causing a reflex response. Oh, so my bladder was, I told you my dick was filling with piss. Well, no, that's not what it means.

36:23Josh Widdicombe:It's hit a nerve. I've hit your nerve because I'm right and you're wrong, actually. I think that's the nerve I've hit with my bladder.

36:35So REM sleeping, yes. I don't think it's because I was tired because I think you need to be in REM sleep to wake up with a nocturnal erection, sounds like. He's up to no good, doesn't he? Yeah. Yeah. The brain signals, your nervous system controls both arousal and urination, and sometimes signals get slightly crossed. Now, it's got to be the bladder on the spine, isn't it?

36:52Josh Widdicombe:So did you then go to the toilet when you got in the house? Immediately, yeah. And how did you – I don't want to go too great. How did you – the physics of that. Okay. I think I've explained this before. Reverse cowgirl. I face the cistern, pop the penis under the rim of the seat. So it's touching the rim. It's touching the rim. That's so unhygienic. It's awful. Tips for peeing with an erection? Do you want this? Yep. Because this... Do you want this, Michael? This is a podcast about life. The highs, the lows, the erections, the flaccids. Because there'll be people out there bloody, you know, jealous of life.

37:38A notepad and pen at this point. Because of the spongy tissue of an erection compresses the urethra, they always think of reefer franklin when i hear you reefer yeah is there much spongy tissue with an erection the the tube that carries urine that's urefer it can make pn take longer require more pressure if you're struggling try sitting down or leaning forward slightly to change the angle yeah yeah alternative you can wait a few minutes for the erection to subside um disclaimer i am ai not a doctor that is some of the least useful tips um yeah well what do you do just point it

38:12Josh Widdicombe:I think what I would do, right, is I'd take a position over the toilet bowl. Yeah. Where I'd kind of lean on the wall. Okay, he's getting up. He's got to show his new running body. I'd get as much angle like that as possible. Really? Yeah. Wow, it's almost like doing a plank. It's almost like planking over the toilet. See, why not just sit down and tuck it in? because I don't want it to touch the bowl. Right, okay. And that is fine. I suppose your other option is to go from distance. You can't. Distance is wild. You can't Hail Mary it like Tom Brady. Because the problem with Hail Mary is even if you make it first shot, you know the pressure, so then it will drop.

39:03You're going to have to walk towards it.

39:05Josh Widdicombe:Walk towards it. That's the skill. A cocktail maker. You know when they pull the drink right up. okay well next time you try that and i promise you you'll reverse cowgirl at the time after do you know what if it wasn't for the fact that i don't think people should be sending in videos of their own erect penis i'd love to see people having a go at that no i i'd love to i i'd love a camera set up that you could see the the jet of water and the toilet and the landing no No peanut. No, but I'm not, please don't film it. Unless James Cameron or Christopher Nolan or Spielberg are listening. If they're doing it, I will watch them if they want to have a go at it.

39:51Josh Widdicombe:Yeah, yeah. It's a strange three people that you'd happily watch, but. Anyway, yeah, so that's something I forgot to tell you about that, but I'm all good. And luckily I've read that, No Cause for Concern. Oh, that's good. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's good. Oh, I can tell there was a bit of a situation in the Glades with the lift and escalators. Come out the car park, go to the lifts, one working lift, one shut lift. Yeah. The only other way down is escalator, broken. Can't go down it. But like not broken with nothing on it and people working on it. Broken because my problem with an escalator when it's not working, that isn't a broken escalator.

40:31That's just a staircase. Yeah, you shouldn't be closing it off. So, obviously, we were on the first floor car park. There's a second floor car park. So, basically, every lift that come up, because there's one lift, was just full of people. Yeah, of course. And then someone, a renegade, not me, but I was close to, someone that was slightly more rebellious than me, just took down the sign saying temporary shut escalator. And we walked down. And my daughter thought it was the coolest thing. It wasn't me. It was another guy. It was a guy wearing a basketball shirt, sleeveless. And I was like, yeah, I've got hairy arms.

41:09With Beckett 69 on the back. You can't wear a basketball jersey with hairy arms and not have really muscly. But I've not got not muscly arms, but I haven't got muscly arms to deal with a vest. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I can wear a vest when I'm running when it's hot. Can you? Yeah, or playing football and stuff like that. I can't casually live my life in a vest in the summer. No, I'm going to name you five people that we know.

41:35Josh Widdicombe:I want you to tell me whether they could wear a vest or not. Out and about. Out and about. Go on. It's an LA Lakers vest with, does LeBron James play for the LA Lakers? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So it's a LeBron James LA Lakers yellow vest. Okay. Yeah. And where are they going? They're going to a barbecue. They're going to a bar, a bar, okay. And yeah, we got you. And they know everyone there. It's all their group of friends. Yeah. Yeah. Michael? I'm sorry, Michael, you can't. He could if he wore a white T-shirt underneath, I think. No, no T-shirts underneath. No T-shirts, no Michael wouldn't. One, I don't think he would anyway, and I don't think he should.

42:15No, but I think a vest on holiday is fine if it's just for on the beach or by the pool just to cover up your shoulders when you're too hot. So I think that's – anyway. Okay, who else did a barbecue? John Richardson. Nope. He can't, and he wouldn't, and he shouldn't, and he knows. And I'll tell him that. Romesh. Now, Romesh could get away with it. He's got tattoos.

42:39Josh Widdicombe:Would you laugh, though, if he turned out to a barbecue in an LA Lakers vest? I would, as a friend, go, oh, OK. But I think if he was on holiday and wore it, I don't think anyone would know. I think he'd get away with it. No, but he's not on holiday. He's at a barbecue at your house. I think it'd be fine, and I think he'd look good. Would I give him basketball jokes all day? Absolutely.

43:05Every time we finished a beer, hold the bin. Go on, mate. Free throw. Stuff like that. Yeah, yeah.

43:11Josh Widdicombe:Good, solid. Good, solid. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Okay. And the other person you're inviting to your barbecue. This is quite an interesting one. Tom Davis. No, I don't. He's too tall. He'll get questioned. If you're that tall, you can't wear a basketball jersey because he probably has to fend off basketball questions already. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think he's asking for trouble. I genuinely don't even think it would work on Joel Domit. No, not Joel Domit. I think he's a little bit too lean for that and too pale. I think a lot of it is about complexion as well. Tiny temper, absolutely. Yeah. Jiu-jitsu, ripped, muscly, looks cool.

43:52Josh Widdicombe:I suppose the question is, could a white man of any type wear it? That's what we're thinking. That's what we're skirting around here. and I don't want to make this a race thing if you're white you can't wear it if you're not white it's up for grabs the final one was going to be me

44:12you'd look like one of the dweebs in Teen Wolf one of the little ones at the back that Teen Wolf's absolutely smashing it through the rim for let's go Wolfie but yeah I think I think it's Tattoos helps Muscly arms help

44:29Josh Widdicombe:Smashing it through the rim Is quite a horrible phrase I'm trying to think Someone else Could get away with it Like muscly Who's that big muscly So what about like I think Tommy Fury Could get away with it On holiday But then he's got A nice colour to him Hasn't he Tanned You've got to be tanned Who's that gladiator We interviewed Matt Morse Yeah Legend He could wear it But then if you're ripped You can get away with anything Apart from my Planet Hollywood shirt

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47:19I can't offer a discount code as others have. She has no idea. I've sent this. Just wanted to shout out to a lovely local company who produces high quality, lovely things that make great gifts. Thanks, Jen from Halsham in East Sussex. Thefernery, what's a book band? Talk to me.

47:34Josh Widdicombe:Well, it goes around a little, it goes around the book into the book. It is better. Why on earth do bookmarks that exist when the book band's an option? Well, exactly, Rob. exactly but they're not fit for purpose they're not fit for purpose dear josh rob and michael long time listener first time contacting the show i started listening to the podcast during lockdown with a two-year-old whilst i was pregnant with my second tearing my hair out like everyone else but also struggling with the pressure of trying to balance motherhood a job in pr which i knew deep down i now hated and was too scared to give up as it was such a huge part of my pre-parenthood identity that's a nice backstory right fast forward five years i've set up my small business the surrey garden coach i've always been green fingered and started to realize there was a gap in the market for my services when i was spending more and more time answering whatsapps from friends with pictures of sad looking plants desperately seeking advice on how to fix it or what to plant that would just take care of itself.

48:36Josh Widdicombe:This is a business that does need to exist. I work with clients in a number of ways, everything from simply teaching them how to prune their roses to crafting designs and planting plans that are suited to the amount of time they have to spend to take care of things. There's nothing I love more than seeing people realize that gardening isn't scary. It doesn't have to take up loads of precious time and they can still have a beautiful garden. They just need a little bit of pointing in the right direction, a few tips and tricks to help them on their way. Small business shout-out would mean the world to me as I finally have a job I love.

49:08Josh Widdicombe:And Rob always says, if you find a job you love, you'll never work a day in your life. Do you say that? That's a classic. I don't think that's me. I think that's someone else's quote. That's just a classic, isn't it? Mine is, as little effort as possible for as much money as possible. That's yours. And it's paid off. Well, you know, apart from stand-up. I really want to pay them. And I really want to pay the mortgage. uh you can find me at the sorry garden coach.co.uk stay sexy relatable gobble gobble do you know why that's a good idea rob because you get either go on a gardener you know you can have your garden done but then you don't know how to carry it on or you get a book and you don't or you find yourself walking around the garden center and you don't know what you can and can't plant and where and when and you know we have coaching for other things you know but this is a really great one So get in touch with the sorry garden coach.co.uk.

50:00And well done for changing what you're doing and doing a job you like. No, cause I know like, honestly, though, it's much more rewarding doing something you enjoy doing than not. And I say that someone that did a job I hated for good money, did a job I hated for no money. And also someone that's done a job he loves for no money and a job he loves for money. and the job for no money that I loved was much better than the job I hated that was decent money. Does that make sense? Yeah. Anyway. It does. But I've done all four options and I can tell you now, I know what I prefer. Obviously, the best one is a job you like for money, but a close second, a job you like but not as much money as a job you hate for better money.

50:45Do you get me? I get you. What are you reading now on your phone? Can I guess what's happened? Rose has messaged back about the holiday. Correct.

50:56I'm a good reader of people, aren't I, Josh? What's she saying? This has spanned two episodes now. You've thought it was broken arm. You're trying to move the holiday. It's going to cost too much to move it. Could go to October. You might just go with the thing that you put on your arms, just keep it waterproof. What's the verdict from the boss?

51:12Josh Widdicombe:Yeah, Rose said, yeah, she's quite pissed off with the resort because we've gone there every year for years, and now they're not being helpful. and so probably this will be the last time we go and we'll go through gritted teeth. And what a great way to approach a holiday. Yeah.

51:43Your face that I'm not talking is really making me laugh. It'll be the last time we go through gritted teeth and have a nice relaxing time. Anyway, Josh, I'll see you next time. See you next time. Bye-bye. Bye.

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