S13 EP21: Sneaky Sasquatch

26:16And they just looked straight ahead for the camera. 10 points. Bang. 11-1. Done of you. And then at the airport, we thought we might be on the plane home. So he was searching all the gates for the BA flights to try and get in a hands-on sneaky Sasquatch.

26:39God, good fun. So, Louis, thank you. Apologies. I don't think you knew what was going on. I think, though, I think it... I don't know. Is this a legal thing you're allowed to do? Do drop in sneaky sasquatch into your conversations generally. Until you get called out. Record them and send them in to us. Yeah. How it goes. Yeah. Yeah, let's make it a little viral TikTok trend where you say sneaky sasquatch so many times until your partner goes, what are you saying? Why are you saying that? How many times can you say sneaky sasquatch before your partner clocks it. Yeah, so it was fun there. Enjoyed that.

27:17Yeah, that was a really nice trip. It was. We had fun. Have you seen your kids much this week, Rob? Loads. We went to, well, we spoke about it on the footballing podcast. We went and saw London City Lionesses. Oh, yeah. So we spoke about that on the football pod. That was good. That was a little Saturday afternoon out. Sunday, we went to see some friends. And they're just, they're just, I found my kid. Like they just, I felt like, I don't know what was going on, but my kids didn't stop speaking for the whole weekend. Do you ever find that with just children, it's just like, oh my God, this is, I don't know if it's because I've been at home loads and I was with them all weekend.

27:56But, and I was just like, I can't talk anymore. Yeah. Do you ever find that? And it's like, I felt really bad, but I was just like, dad, dad constantly, he goes, yes. And at one point our dog was a bit nervous. Basically, we've worked out, George, if we've got a few flies in the house and we've got this machine, like a light that's blue, that you turn it on, flies get drawn towards it and then get like zapped. Yeah, zapped. We've worked out that freaks the dog out. I don't know if there's a frequency or a smell or a noise. The dog can hear that we can't hear. But when that's on, we've got rid of it now, but when that's on, he gets all nervous and shaky.

28:31So if you sit down with him and have him on your lap and just stroke him gently, he'll rest and just go and sit. My daughter, the whole time, just kept going, he's really nervous. And I was like, if you sit quietly, he'll relax. She spoke nonstop about how stressed and nervous he was, basically making the dog more stressed and nervous. And then he kept on going. I think it's the noise. I think the noise is making it more. And I just said, how about you don't speak? By the end of the weekend, she went, my chest feels all tight and my throat's hurting. And I went, I'm not trying to be Aggie. Have you thought about not speaking for a bit?

29:07but it's so difficult to say that to your child about looking like an evil pet you have not stopped spoken for two days try not speaking

29:21but um but yeah no we had a fun we had a fun weekend went to a friend in the morning oh those they gave us those sweets from you know my hotel room oh yeah the welcome package was some sweet just sweets and chocolates yeah how did they get out well we took them to our friends was going around friends in the morning actually it's weirdly we went to our friends about 11 a.m for fika essentially for fika but just an accidental fika it's contagious yeah because let's be honest i mean i'm i love fika as much as the next man yeah but it's not the first time i've ever eaten a pastry at 11 a.m do you know what i think what fika is because this is what i worked out about scandinavians are they're very direct and quite comfortable in saying yes and no yeah it's not awkward where the british so like i think the point of fika is if i said to you come around for fika what that means is come around for 11 o 'clock fuck off by about half 12 you're not getting lunch you're not staying all day you're coming in for a coffee and a pastry then you're gone and then the person i think that's what place is a thing right so yes if you were in a british workplace and you said shall we all down tools and get a pastry 11 a.m people go well i'm not sure about that i've got a call then i've got that yeah as an exchange of ideas rob and also just you don't always have to be talking about work but i think 11 o 'clock fika is like you wouldn't book in a call then because that is fika time of course but i think i want to introduce fika because i sometimes on a weekend it'd be nice for friends with kids to come over for about an hour and a half two hours but i don't want to accept eight hour day you know i mean like because if someone says come around about 11 you're like well what am i coming around for is that early for lunch or are you coming for lunch are you coming for the day you're coming for dinner like but a fika's like come around at about 11 and then you know you're having a pastry and a coffee then you're going i'm not feeding you for lunch i think we need to be the faces of bringing fika to the uk yeah the fika boys the fika boys yeah yeah okay i think so i think fika needs to i think you should say to me do you want to come around for fika what's that you come around at 11 we have a coffee and a croissant or a cinnamon bun and then you go about half 12 i'm not doing your lunch oh those cinnamon buns were so good as well it was very good yeah so so you went around for fika to your friend's house oh that's the other thing i've got as well you know the on spotify they have the x guy the dj x that recommends songs like an algorithm thing but it's actually a man talking to you yeah he's a real man yeah you met him met him he did a video for the girls there you go they were buzzing they were buzzing they love djx um yeah so that was all good and then come back and then yeah i went to bristol on friday to do the a dentist corporate i mean have i not done one before easiest gig of my life why were the dentists having a corporate in a room with a concord in it so basically i think it's a an association if i'm right that sort of smaller dentist practices can join i imagine for access to different things based in the southwest so i think it was a central point for everyone was bristol this is mad aircraft hangar where it's got a concord in it that you could go and have a look around and then tables and chairs at the bottom and i did the gig there it's really good gig actually it was really nice oh nice how much uh how much teeth stuff did i get paid what how much teeth stuff how much loads of teeth stuff I absolutely hammered it.

32:45You're going to, are you? I mean, it's insane. I mean, absolutely. I mean, for me, that's probably the easiest corporate. What would yours be? Plymouth Argyle? But then if the players are there, it gets complicated. that'd be really tough. I think I might turn down Plymouth Argyle. What else is going down with you? Doing a lot of Lego. My son's become Lego obsessed. He's just so into Lego. And is he building stuff with the booklet or just making mad stuff? Building stuff with the booklet. That's what he likes. He's obsessed with the booklets. you want so you're going to need a place to store all the builds aren't you yes he wants to shelf his room when it's done but i think it's getting there's getting too much stuff yeah no between three cats and a you know jumbo jet or whatever he's building well we've got the plane and the plane's difficult to fit anywhere because the wings are quite you can mount them on walls have you seen this he likes to play with them right okay so he gets them down and play it yeah so that's that is our sitting room at the moment um it's to be honest drop life is pretty smooth sailing family wise at the moment it's all pretty easy well not easy it's never easy it's never easy but it's easier than it's been because he's in his first is his second year of school now as well year one year one yeah so like you're getting into a little bit of the You're creeping into the easy because 10 and 8 is a lot easier.

34:10Is it? More arguments and mental gymnastics, but, you know, look, they're getting themselves up and dressed. I'm not having to do shoelaces up. I just can't believe the difference between the children's moods with each other during summer holiday and normal. Yeah. By the end of the summer holiday, they are so done with each other. But they're best buds again, though. They're a bit, well, you know. You know, Rob. You know how it is. We're getting ready for Halloween. Are you a fan of Halloween? No, I think it's sort of bollocks. Lou and the girls love it. I think they're, I normally just don't get involved and Lou and the girls go to a friend's house and they do trick-or-treat.

34:53I mean. And you just sit at home like a sad old Scrooge. Well, no, I mean. And make sure the lights are out so that no one trick-or-treats you. the problem is I'll have to put a mask on I'll have to avoid trick or treating there's just a lot of old people where I live so there's not many kids I'd have to get a mask because it's a bit unfair on the kids if they go trick or treat and everyone's like why is Robeckett there so you have to go masked up or you become that Robeckett outfit is absolutely spot on because you get a lot of that they're saying it a bit more now because they're getting older people commenting that I'm their dad.

35:35Yeah. And people always say to me, your dad runs back here, your dad's run back here, your dad's run back here, and stuff like that. And, you know, then it must be annoying. I'm getting a sense that they're finding it annoying. Right. Yes. What can you do about that? Nothing, actually. So you'll just go, do you know what? Do you know what, I probably can't do when I'm on Celebritators. As a favour to you. as a favour to you I'll stay at home while you go trick or treating I'll just watch the football yeah but I said what I said was I said yeah they'll say that now but I know that you are going to be so successful and so talented and skilled in whatever you do that me being your daddy is going to be such a small part of who you become that people won't even know or care by then A lot of pressure you're putting on them there, Rob.

36:30Maybe, but I think they will. But it's not pressure if it's an unwaverable belief as opposed to expectation. I'm not saying you're going to bet. You know, I was like, oh, who's that? Hang on. I'll summon the door. Oh, no, you've got to be kidding me, haven't you? Look, Josh, come on. Over the years, it's not like... The professionism. It's gone out the way. Hey, I've got a black backdrop. Yeah, to be fair. Well, no, but I just sort of tried to dismiss it and go, yeah. What's up at the door? You've just ignored the door? Yeah. I ignored the door. What? Go and answer. No. Who is it? Some delivery.

37:09They'll pop it over the fence or they'll put it in the neighbours. I'm not getting up. They'll chuck it over the fence. I'm busy. It's not Fika time. It's business time. Well, it is Fika time, actually. Should we lie Fika? Should we lie? The argument is, though, our job's Fika. Our job is Fika. The only thing we could do is add in a pastry, which I think Michael's feekering for us. Can you feekering alone? I think Michael's feekering alone. Not really. I think that's just called eating. Yeah. I think the point of a feeker is a group of people coming together to chat. Yeah, yeah. I might feeker my neighbours.

37:48No. Just setting up my little pair of shorts, dick swagging around. Fancy a cinnamon bun. That's how we got it.

38:04well any other i feel like stuff's gone on this week but i can't trying to sort out birthday parties i've been away a lot and then oh yeah talk to me about birthday parties because you've got they've got the double december double dip december coming up haven't you yeah so what we've done is we brought them slightly earlier to try and spread it out but we're not going away at christmas we're at home all christmas so we've got a bit more of a chilled christmas because we went away before but um we brought them earlier and i've got a week in the middle so i think one one's gonna do a escape room and pizza express yeah um which will be fun and then the other one one is to just do pizza express and then go to like the theater with like one or two friends but i think that's out the window now but i think we now may be doing some sort of it's a place near us in kent that does like tobogganing like dry slope tobogganing and like snow things but on a dry slope so i think you get an hour of going down this dry slope on toboggans and um like rubber ring things and make sort of it just embrace the fact it's going to be cold in decembery and have winter fun that's fun that is fun and just like we've got to just go look if you dress for rain and cold if you're wearing waterproofs and layers it's fun isn't it And is it going to be a drop-off, both those parties?

39:21Yeah, both drop-offs. But I think we may do a drop-off at our house and us drive them down there. Oh, nice. Between the two cars, I think we can get them all in. Is that why you could bought a new car? Yeah. Well, we've got a new car to do big family trips. We get loads of it. It's a seven-seater, Josh. Oh, yeah, because I remember the conversation where you said, we're thinking of doing this. And then, you know me, I will smatily do it immediately. You will smatily do it immediately. Now I've accepted that's my thought process. Life's a lot easier. I'll have a thought and I'll do it immediately.

39:52And some pay off, some don't. But that's who I am. And I have to live with that. Exactly. And that's why you're going back on tour in the middle of 2027. A lot more of it pays off than goes the wrong way. Exactly. Exactly. We had a chat about your two phones. Yes. I'm thriving with my two phones. Are you? I'm actually annoying Lou now. But because I've created a little bit of space between me and social media, on Sunday when Lou was on her phone the girls are like Lou get off your phone and I was like yeah come on Lou yeah here we go I'm not doing it and that annoyed her a lot did it really really a lot because she's just like just because you decided to do something for you why are you making it my problem now as well well I've had I have had a very similar phone so I'm I'm back on the brick you've inspired me and I'm loving the brick again yeah my life I feel by the way I'm not completely off social media like some sort of thing i've just avoided in the evenings and like so sunday we left the house at 10 a.m i took my personal phone and i didn't look at my work phone till about six in the afternoon and reply to a few messages so i'm still in contact with people and getting stuff done but i'm not on me all the time burning hot with messages and emails and see this is the thing i'm gonna say all right i'm gonna throw out there i think the thing that's i think the word work and personal is the confusing thing okay what do you want me to call it because i don't think your phone distraction stroke addiction yeah is is to do with work it's to do with social media 100 but part of my work is social media so i can't eradicate it fully but if it's on a device i can't access when i'm with my family that creates less distraction when I'm with them.

41:39Yes, totally. But what I don't think you're addicted to is emailing your agent. No, but I'm addicted to safety, which comes from booking in work on a deeper psychological level. So my phone going off is almost like that originally, the work one is, oh, my God, they want me, they need me, can get money. Right, okay. And also, again, having that phone relationship drags me back to that way of thinking that I don't need to be like anymore. So it's almost a confidence thing to go, I cannot look at my phone for an entire day and that doesn't mean my career's over and I'll never run again. Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah.

42:17Because I always felt like I had to be on that phone because if I missed an opportunity, I would be an idiot, stupid, what a loser, and you fucked everything up, which is unhinged. And the truth is your mind is using the excuse of that to then just scroll a TikTok. 100%. and I'm not none of that and then but once I'm there I can't get off those they're too addictive so if I've got a little bit of space but also I do need to be on it slightly one to sort of promote stuff and see how things are going but also I do you do need a little bit of it to be able to access what's going on in the world for my job and being across stuff slightly but not to the extent I was using it yeah so anyway but that's it's working for me at the moment but um like i say it's a work in progress it's a work in progress and rose had a question which other people might have how does lou know how to contact you on which phone on our we've got whatsapp group called robin lou and in that group is lou's number and then both of my numbers so if she wants to message me she messages me on that group and i will get that message whatever phone i'm on because it's going to the group and then if she wants to ring me she tries one if that doesn't answer tries the other yeah but she'll probably know which one i'm on from if it's the middle of the day on tuesday i'll be on a work one but if it's on the weekend and stuff like that so just do the whatsapp group of you two on and then you can message on that there we go there we go so that's what i'm doing but if you have got a spare old phone try and do it it does it is helping me drawing a bit of a line in the sand.

43:58It is mad that we've reached this space in time where we have to buy a second phone because we're being dragged into these apps. They're so addicted. It's actual crap. And this stuff is like, like we are, some of the content as well that I'm watching is shite. We're being spoon fed fucking gruel because we're so addicted. It's like a junkie that will take any old crack because it's there. You know what I mean? Yeah. And then what people are doing now is creating content that fits that method. We're like foie gras. So then I'm watching stuff I don't even like, but because the way it's shot that basically, you know, manipulates your eyes or plays off on fear or do this, and this is how your life will better, do this, this is how, all these things that play into fears and vulnerabilities, and you're hooked in, but the actual core of you is like, why the fuck am I hooked in?

44:53I don't care. i'm not doing this chinese swinging of arms thing just because it makes you get rid of lymphatic fat like i'm getting hammered with ai shit about how to talk to people and what exercises to do so it's like it's so hard to avoid being dragged into it so not having it when i was in paris with you romesh and tom davis yeah uh which wasn't a personal trip as we've discussed um that i you three know so much i i just about tiktokers and youtubers yeah people i've never ever heard of and i think you three are the only adults of my age who i know who know about these people well yeah i mean you're not into that kind of you you've no no no that's not a criticism no no but you pulled the drawbridge up at 2003 i pulled the drawbridge up at 2008 when i started stand-up that was when i pulled the drawbridge up um but yeah you're not on social media well i am but i'm just getting fed different stuff aren't i what are you getting fed i'm wasting my time as much as you are but it just feeds me that stuff because you're interested in i'm interested in people and weird people and characters and stuff and i watch that kind of stuff as opposed to i don't watch old documentary i think you'd you'd watch a good old like something from the past video where i'm like watching newer stuff yeah like amputation documentaries but is it like the equivalent is like if you're addicted to something and i am addicted to my phone if i'm going out for the week if i'm trying to get stop smoking right yeah and i grab my car keys to drive my car right yeah and go out and there's cigarette and light are attached to those car keys yeah it's gonna be impossible not to smoke that day but i need the keys to get out and that's attached to it it's the same as your phone but if i can get a set of car keys without that on it so i can go out and you know move around park my car message people back so anyway but yeah it's not perfect your screen time i suppose your screen time split so you don't know well i'm i'm not what i've got more it's well screen time's bollocks really though because i could spend three hours tied in a room with a podcast on or a youtube interview on and technically it thinks i'm watching that but i'm not it's just playing out as i listen to the audio so and also I use it for driving.

47:13So I don't get bogged down the screen time, but I have definitely got more hours and I'm talking to the kids more and I'm not looking at it when I'm out. So I took my personal phone to the football with the kids. There's just nothing to – you know, sometimes you're waiting for a bit, you're a bit bored and the kids are chatting. You're just automatic. My thumb does it without me thinking. So I'm just trying to – And have you – this is my other question, because this is a slight thing i get with the brick right yeah is i find myself with the brick you can just disable it okay yeah but i don't because it's oh that's good well you can but it's that it's that thought it makes you engage with the thought process do you know what i mean so obviously you do like but i just the main motivation is have you replaced social media and stuff like that with weird other things that you find yourself browsing on your phone no not really i've what i've done actually is i've done like um i've like finding time to do other stuff like sort things out in the house actually playing a computer game i know it's like on my i know it's not sneaky little sasquad you sneaky little you actually i've downloaded a game called lord i just i'm embarrassed to tell you what it is what because you're gonna just rip me to pieces is it called um is it a game where you pretend that you're on tour it's called lawn simulator too oh my god or i cut grass in a computer game and what is it is there a skill to it or do you just do it it's quite laborious and boring but for me it engages my gut and my brain i can listen to a podcast do that and i'm just not doing any i'm just in my own little world yeah i'm not scrolling so i'm finding i've got more spare time that isn't you know involved and look the reason i'm doing it is i've got to give my daughter a phone soon she's going to go into year seven next year i cannot give her a phone and say you're not allowed this you're not allowed that you're not allowed to be on the phone that much when i sit there on it all i'm fucking glued to it in the evenings and the weekends so in the day during the week that's fine if i need it for work and also normally because i'm busy i'm not on it anyway because i'm actually physically doing a job or somewhere or something so anyway i feel like i'm boring and banging on now but i think i've just got to be disciplined and show an example to the girls because otherwise they're and turn around going you're on your phone all the time yeah and all of a sudden we just all give in and four of us are on our phone all the time well yeah and i suppose the problem is you you you've said this you feel like lou's on her phone all the time don't you rob no comment no she's not she's on the phone less than i was but um and the girls just use any excuse to wind up the parent don't they especially if one's doing something the other one's not oh yeah if one's holier than thou yeah i know and i even if i'm not doing it the kids will jump on that as mum's on her phone all the time aren't you mark because they're just like the windups they're massive windups and they're good at it god and they're my daughters so lou's like you know getting it hardcore yeah yeah anyway um but that's what i'm up to um our small business shout out now it's time for your small business shout outs brought to you by vista print your expert print partner to help bring your ideas to life for example shopping bags get branded shopping bags basically free advertising because as parents they're constantly carrying snacks toys and random bits of rubbish around in them now here we go josh hi rob josh and michael i only found your podcast earlier this year late to the party i've binged every single episode since and i nearly caught up that is insane jesus nearly caught up to the final spirit good on you don't you stop scrolling she's gonna have a real cold turkey situation when she has to go down to two a week plus the football one well siobhan siobhan siobhan there's a football one for you so you can crack into that yeah um and and the good thing about the football one is you do not need to keep current with football because we haven't for 15 years no exactly we love the past i'd have a small new and scary business shout out for my four edge painting book edge painting business i've finally taken the scary decision to try and make my dream and hobby into full-time job i'm yet to make a sale and i'm terrified i've made the wrong decision i paint scenes onto the edges of books either by inspiration or commission these are beautifully created books to sit on your shelf and admire also create other commission work on canvas and wall murals go to coddy Coddy Wampler.

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