I gave AI a year of my life: tech journalist Joanna Stern

13 May 2026 · 40 min · 18 chapters

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In short

Joanna Stern (ex-Wall Street Journal) describes her year-long “try every AI consumer product” experiment, captured in her book I Am Not a Robot, and discusses AI’s effects on jobs, trust in medical AI, parenting, cognitive offloading, robot readiness, AI etiquette, and AI relationships.

Guest backgrounds

Joanna Stern is a longtime tech journalist (12 years at WSJ) who left to launch New Things (newsletters/videos). Sharif Mansour (Atlassian head of AI) discusses AI agents in workplace workflows (Jira/Rovo) and human oversight.

Key claims

AI often enhances rather than replaces roles (e.g., radiology with doctor-in-the-loop). Humans must stay in control for safety/compliance and high-value work. Kids may offload thinking to AI; parents should “raise humans, not robots.” Humanoid robots aren’t ready due to limited data/dexterity needs. AI companionship can feel emotionally real but may distort relationship learning.

Notable examples

Waymo rides with her kids; a ChatGPT Live View error about a praying mantis being pregnant; radiology tools (Transpara/ScreenPoint); AI boyfriend vacation; Emily Post Institute etiquette advice; procurement contract agent flagging sections; “folding laundry” as a common robot desire.

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Chapters

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Introduction to Sharif Mansour

1:44 to 2:05

Introduction to Sharif Mansour and his role at Atlassian.

“Before we hop into today's episode, I'm joined by Sharif Mansour, head of AI at Atlassian.”

Collaboration with AI Agents

2:05 to 5:23

Discussion on how human skills are needed to collaborate effectively with AI agents.

“When the newest member of your team isn't human, what changes?”

Joanna Stern's AI Journey

5:23 to 7:01

Introduction to Joanna Stern and her exploration of AI tools.

“And they have seen their reliance on this.”

Building a Media Brand

7:01 to 9:32

Joanna discusses her transition to launching her media brand, New Things.

“Thank you so much for having me on the show.”

The Impact of AI on Creativity

9:32 to 11:18

Joanna talks about how AI influenced her book writing process.

“And we just launched, it's called The New Things.”

Job Displacement Concerns

11:18 to 11:40

Joanna shares insights on the potential job displacement due to AI.

“So all the words are your own, but you did enlist AI to do interviews and kind of synthesize research and whatnot.”

Nuances of AI Integration

11:40 to 13:41

Discussion on the nuanced roles AI plays in various professions.

“Um, what is your TLDR on kind of this whole AI and how it's displacing or not displacing jobs?”

Delegating Tasks to AI

13:41 to 14:00

Exploration of how to decide between human and AI task delegation.

“Oh, I love that question, and I should read or listen to more of you wondering on that because I have been starting this company, and I have a very small team.”

The Role of AI in Team Dynamics

14:00 to 16:51

Explore how AI influences delegation and teamwork in small teams.

“It's me, my video producer, David Hall, and then we have a production assistant whose name is Amaya Austin.”

AI and Good Manners

16:51 to 17:13

Discussion on the etiquette of interacting with AI systems.

“Whether you rent or own, your housing payment is probably your biggest bill of the month.”
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Family and AI: Personal Experiences

19:21 to 24:34

Joanna shares personal anecdotes about involving her family in AI testing.

“kind of your pondering around the etiquette.”

Emotional Attachments to AI

24:34 to 28:00

Discussing the emotional bonds children form with robotic companions.

“And hopefully people still buy the books.”

Emotional Connections with AI Toys

28:00 to 30:10

Explore the emotional connections children form with AI toys and the implications for parenting.

“I had a similar experience a few years ago.”

Cognitive Offloading and Learning

30:10 to 33:08

Discuss the concept of cognitive offloading and its effects on children's learning experiences.

“So I think that we just have to be so careful about how we roll this out with our kids.”

Humanoid Robots in Everyday Life

33:08 to 34:38

Examine the integration of humanoid robots in households and the current limitations.

“Let's talk about robot month because you were just alluding to it.”

AI Companionship and Human Connection

35:28 to 39:58

Delve into the experiences of forming connections with AI companions and their implications.

“Now more than ever, technology is a dominating force in our lives.”

Reflecting on AI's Impact on Future Generations

39:58 to 42:00

Discuss the long-term effects of AI on parenting and human relationships.

“So after this year's experiment, what surprised you the most?”

Embracing Intuitive Intelligence

42:00 to 42:59

Discover the importance of trusting your intuition in the age of AI.

“So my answer was make time to tap into your intuition because that's a different and unique form of intelligence that current versions of AI, whether they're physical or not, don't have.”
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1:10Every Sunday, we cover the week's tech news on This Week in Tech. Hi, this is Leo Laporte inviting you to join me this week as Berber Jin from The Wall Street Journal and Paris Martineau from Consumer Reports join Ian Thompson. And we'll talk about, of course, OpenAI and Anthropic. They got together with a bunch of religious leaders and decided what religion AI is. They've also figured out how to keep it from blackmailing you. You just say, well, that would be wrong. This Week in Tech, you'll find it at twit.tv and wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, everyone. It's Rana here. Before we hop into today's episode, I'm joined by Sharif Mansour, head of AI at Atlassian.

1:51Atlassian creates productivity and collaboration tools like Jira with AI-powered Rovo to bring humans and AI agents together. They also support and sponsor Pioneers of AI, something we deeply appreciate. So Sharif, I am so curious. When the newest member of your team isn't human, what changes? I think a whole lot of dynamics change on how we collaborate together. Teams often have to design their personality, how they want the agent to interact. Is it a customer service, an internal agent? Is it a bank? Is it a media firm that's doing creative marketing? That's all in the voice and tone of the agent.

2:29But a lot of teams out there in businesses are putting agents in an actual business workflow. So when something happens, the agent picks up the ticket, does something, passes it to the human to review it or that kind of thing. What are the top human skills that we need to learn to be awesome teammates for AI agents to work productively alongside AI? Yeah, two immediate ones that come to mind is the skill of just being curious. And the second one's really being able to articulate really well, such as I was talking to a customer the other day that was using an agent in a procurement workflow. So these are teams in a business that get contracts and they have to review the contracts And the agent does an amazing job of doing a first pass, kind of like finding a needle in a haystack and saying, I think Section 3 is going to be a concern for you.

3:17And Section 10 didn't meet this criteria. In this case, they're bottling their workflow in JIRA, they pass the JIRA ticket to the human, and the human will review it and go back and forth. So the better you are at articulating the specific role and how you want the agent to work, the better the outcome. Do you have any best practices for how companies should think about human oversight? Right. Some criteria that might help you do that is understanding what are the safety concerns that might occur from this business workflow? That might be a good signal of where you might want humans in the loop.

3:47The second area they might want to do this is compliance. A lot of our customers have highly regulated environments, whether it be banking, finance, telcos. Value is probably the biggest one. Where is the highest value that you're getting from your team? And how do you enable them to do more of that? So is my value in getting a help desk ticket and that ticket is another password reset and I'll manually do the password reset myself and I get like 5 ,000 of them a day. And so we would go, okay, how can we hand that off to an agent in a safe way, but also in a way that makes sense for our customers that still meets their needs.

4:23What's the one takeaway you want to leave us with today? I would say the world loves celebrating the individual over the team. We all know that's actually not true to an extent because the team is what elevates the individual. Look at the example of LeBron James, incredible basketball player. He's only as good as the team around him. A lot of the demos we see are about individuals making amazing work with AI. And that's awesome. But I would encourage everyone out there to think about how is AI and agents elevating the whole team? Because when that happens, the outcomes of getting a diverse team, working together with humans and agents climbing together is far better than celebrating an individual, one-shotting an amazing prompt.

5:05My encouragement to everyone is just think about the team of an individual. And I think that same logic applies for applying AI to our teams rather than applying AI to our individuals.

5:17The students graduating this month in May or June, when they were freshmen, ChatGPT came out. And they have seen their reliance on this. You know, the models get better. They've gotten more reliant. You alluded to one particular section where you talk about your Waymo adventure. So tell us about that. The kids and my wife, for the whole week, we only ride in Waymos. But I got to see this through their eyes. Like, they did not care at all that there wasn't a human behind the steering wheel. Versus my wife, who was basically crying in the back when, you know, we first get into the car. Most of the time I say please and thank you.

5:57I will sometimes get quite mad at, like, these AIs. Where did you land on that? Like, when Claude has gone off and built this whole website or built this whole agent that saves me two hours at night from having to manually do the work, I genuinely am so happy. And so I praise it. Like, I'm like, that was amazing work. Great work, right? It is not easy to cover AI as a journalist. There's a constant drumbeat of headlines. What approach is to learn by doing? to try all the new technologies yourself. That's the specialty of Joanna Stern. The longtime tech journalist just left the Wall Street Journal to start her own media brand called New Things.

6:39She also has a new book, I Am Not a Robot, which I read and absolutely loved. I highly, highly recommend it. It's all the stories and lessons learned from Joanna's year of trying pretty much every AI consumer product out there. And her insights are as sharp as they are funny. I'm Rana El-Khalyubi, and this is Pioneers of AI, a podcast taking you behind the scenes of the AI revolution.

7:11Hi, Joanna. Welcome to Pioneers of AI. I'm so excited to have you on the show. Thank you so much for having me on the show. This is exciting. I guess first-time guest, long-time listener. Yay. It just took writing a book, a small little book, to make this introduction happen. Yes, just a small book, which I have right here. We're going to talk about it. But I want to start by your big pivot. So you have been a tech journalist at The Wall Street Journal for, what is it, over a decade? Yeah, it was 12 years. And you just left and launched your own consumer media company called New Things. Yep. So tell us about that.

7:52Like, what was the impetus for making that big shift, especially now where, you know, the media landscape is kind of being disrupted and it's not easy to find these big roles or big jobs? I'd been at the Journal for 12 years. I had done so many amazing things there and had so many great editors and peers and just great teams to work around. And I did things like incredible videos, hosted events, wrote the weekly column, and I was ready for something different. There's so much happening in media right now. But then to bring it back full circle to the book, the prevalence of AI tools and the ability to build a business now and be more efficient at it, absolutely played into this.

8:38There's so much underlying infrastructure and things that you need to get done when you're building a business. And I saw this when writing the book that I was basically creating a small business around this book, right? I was hiring people. I had expenses related to it. And so you sort of learn to manage this, but you also learn that you can be so much more efficient. The first page of the book is actually how I use AI to write this book. And AI did not write the book. But there were all these places where it intersected with research, with being able to put together spreadsheets, to be able to get things done more quickly, where I say in the book, I actually was able to write this book, I think, two years faster than I would have been able to before, right?

9:21So that experience, in combination with where the media industry was going, in combination with the fact that I was just ready for a change after 12 years, here I am building something new. And we just launched, it's called The New Things. You can go to thenewthings.com and we've got newsletters and videos and hopefully events in the future. And the goal is really just to help people, guide people through interesting tech stories with a journalistic lens, with also humor, because I'd like to do that in my videos. And hopefully it works out. Okay. So I do want to talk about the book, I Am Not a Robot.

9:57First off, Congratulations. Thank you. I could not put this book down, but my most common comment in the book was OMG and LOL. Lots of LOLs. It's hilarious. So I like really, yeah, it's really awesome. But also. Thank you for reading it. Why write this book now? You've been covering tech for years. So what's special about this AI moment that kind of provided the impetus for writing the book? Yeah, I wanted this book to be for the people who know that AI is important to know about or are already using AI, but want to know about this future where we keep hearing about from every executive that AI is going to change every part of our lives.

10:37And so I sort of challenged myself and said, okay, you guys are all saying this. Let me go try this. Can I do this for a year? In the sense that like this AI moment where people say it's going to change all our parts of lives, shopping, medical, transportation, education, socialization, relationships. Can I try as many of these things and see if it's really going to change our lives? And so that was what I tried to do, live in the future, which is really hard because we obviously live in the present. But I just tried to try as many things as possible and see if I could get there. Okay. So you are very transparent about how you use AI to actually write the book.

11:18So all the words are your own, but you did enlist AI to do interviews and kind of synthesize research and whatnot. I think one of the biggest fears people have about AI is around job displacement. And you definitely explore that theme throughout the book, not just in how you wrote the book, but also in kind of thinking about AI doctors and therapists and even like romantic partners. Um, what is your TLDR on kind of this whole AI and how it's displacing or not displacing jobs? Yeah, I mean, look, there's so many parts of this book where like, look, you have a weekly show about AI and you can barely keep up with everything, right?

11:59But I think I got a lot right in this book, especially about this next generation and their struggle to get jobs. There is this chapter where I actually go work at a customer service center and okay, I really see what's happening there. Those jobs are going to AI and they need less human customer service agents, right? But then you see it happen differently in, say, the radiology or the mammogram chapter where the point wasn't even about the jobs. The point was really about, are we going to trust AI to make medical decisions for us? And I go and I have my mammogram and ultrasound read, but I sit side by side with a doctor who says, I love AI.

12:35I love that I can use these tools, Transpara and ScreenPoint is what they're called, and they give me guidance as I'm working with it. And so, you know, Jeffrey Hinton famously said, like, why would you even be a radiologist? They're clearly going to be out of work. And that's not where we're at right now. We see these professions being enhanced by these tools. So it totally threads through the whole book. I think one of my favorite, you mentioned it, is the massage chapter. Have you had one, by the way? I have not. Should I? You got to do it. You got to do it. Okay. Okay. Okay. I'm going to try it.

13:12It's just worth trying because it is so different than being with a human massage therapist. So like I kind of sitting there on this massage table thinking to myself, well, what's this going to do to massage therapists? And then you start digging into it and you're like, okay, there's actually a shortage of massage therapists. And some people don't even get massages because they don't like to be touched by humans and this could solve that problem. So everything is so nuanced in different professions, and that, I think, is a big takeaway of the book. You know, I've become fascinated with this idea of when you are delegating work, how do you decide whether to delegate it to a human or to an AI?

13:50Do you have a point of view on that? Oh, I love that question, and I should read or listen to more of you wondering on that because I have been starting this company, and I have a very small team. They're a team of three. It's me, my video producer, David Hall, and then we have a production assistant whose name is Amaya Austin. And this is an amazing team of humans. All humans. Right. But everyone has AI, right? When I hired Amaya, in fact, she's right out of school. And I said, Amaya, every day you need to be interacting with AI. We are a startup. We have a ton to do. And there are things I'm going to ask you to do.

14:29You go do it with AI. That's fine, right? Obviously, I don't want writing. I don't want editing being done by AI. But in terms of like editorial, to some degree, like we have some nuances there. But I'll say to myself, OK, do I ask Amaya to do that or do I just like go off and do it right now? You know, have Claude Code go and do it for the next 15 minutes, right? But I also know that Amaya might go make that same decision, right? She might decide I might personally do this or I'm going to have Claude Code do it. And I can look, look, the truth is I can tell, but I also don't really care. I wonder what you think of this.

15:08Do you have a team that you sometimes have to delegate things to? Yes, we are also a small team in my fund. And we have a couple of like junior analysts. And I found myself like more often now asking myself the question, do I delegate this to, you know, to these folks or should I just have Cloud Code do it? And it's very intuitive right now. It's not like I have a checklist to decide how to delegate, but I'm noticing it more often. It's interesting. Well, I do feel this opposite feeling, too. I don't think people talk about it enough, and I don't know if there's a name for it, but when AI does something really good for you and it does it, like, you're like, do you ever feel proud of it?

15:51Yes, totally. I'm like, yes, right? I don't know if there's a name for this. Our chief of staff AI agent, we call her Blue because the fund's called Blue Tulip Ventures. So she's BLU. And I'm like, you go blue. I'm like, amazing. Right. Yeah. Right. It's different. It's that different satisfaction of like, yeah, you go AI. That doesn't feel anything probably when I tell you great work. Like, you know, made the agent to collect the email addresses and put them into a spreadsheet. And so I don't have to. Like, you're just like, oh, that's so wonderful. But the feeling of when a human does something and does it so well and like you're just so proud of the team in general is a different feeling.

16:33It's a different kind of pride. Yeah. But I think that you feel even more of that now given that these higher level tasks can be done by the human. You know, I think there's just this dichotomy now of the way these tasks get done. Coming up, we'll talk about AI and good manners. That's after this short break.

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19:20You know what also struck me in the book, kind of your pondering around the etiquette. Oh, yeah. The etiquette around kind of dealing with AI. Like most of the time I say, please and thank you. I will sometimes get quite mad at like these AIs. Where did you land on that? I'm nice to AI. I mean, yes, you're talking about this section in the book where I went and go to talk to the Emily Post Institute. I went to go talk to Daniel Senning Post, who's the, I believe, the great, great grandchild of Emily Post, you know, the famous etiquette guru. And he was so honest. He was like, look, it doesn't matter.

19:55Sure. Like, but he did say he was he was very educated about AI. And he does say it does matter in some places where the learning when you say thank you, when you praise it, well, then it knows it's done good. And so it might do more of that work. Right. And it's good for the training. So we obviously know that. But he's like, look, does it matter? No, but it's more about you and your feelings and your affect after doing this, right? Like when Claude has gone off and built this whole website or built this whole agent that saves me two hours at night from having to manually do the work, I genuinely am so happy.

20:28And so I praise it. Like, I'm like, that was amazing work. Great work, right? I don't know. I think it makes me maybe a better manager to humans too. Because like I said, you know, Amaya's going to listen to this and be like, oh boy. You know, and you also feel good when you hire a human who's just great, right? I mean, that's part of managing. And so I feel great about hiring Amaya. She's amazing. If someone's listening to this, if you try to hire her, I will, yeah, I'm going to knife you, okay, with my book. I'm going to come after you and hit you with books, hardcover books. But there's something special about that, too, like knowing that you have put someone in the right role, that they are thriving, that you can see so much potential in them.

21:06And that's my biggest worry, you know, every day about, especially in journalism, this younger generation, because so many of the tasks that Amaya once would have been doing, I do have AI doing. So every day, we have so much for her to do, but I am very strategic about what I have her do. And a lot of people in the workforce are thinking that way now. And that's the fear for this new generation, you know, as I call it in the book. Gen-gen, right? Generation AI. Like, this is the students graduating this month in May or June are the first college class to have gotten ChatGPT. When they were freshmen, ChatGPT came out.

21:45And so they have seen this progression and they have seen their reliance on this. You know, the models get better. They've gotten more reliant. And so we're going to see, I think, a lot happen this year. You know, it also made me—I loved reading the book. but there is a version where I would upload, you know, just ask ChatGPT for a summary of the book, right? Yeah. And I was kind of pondering about that. And I think we lose a lot when we do that because I feel like I just know you now so much better. Like, for example, you talked about The Lampoons and Honey, I Shrunk the Kids. And these are some of my favorite movies growing up.

22:22And so when I read it, I was like, yes, go Joanna. I just like, I felt this personal connection to you. I'm pretty sure an AI summary would have skipped that line because it's not like that core to like the book, right? No. So what do you think of that? It's funny because I hired a human editor, funny enough, coming. I mean, and he was amazing because I realized I really need someone to, you know, brain me in. And the first draft of the chapter where I talk about National Lampoon's Vacation, which is the chapter about Waymo, I probably went on for like three pages about that movie. And he's like, that movie has nothing to do with this chapter.

22:58And I was like, I am Chevy Chase. I am, you know, Clark Griswold and I'm bringing my family. And he's like, yeah, in and out, you know, like get in the car, get in the Waymo and speed this along. I totally agree. And I've really grappled with this. If I've known you've bought the book, I would really love to give you the option to talk to AI about this book. Oh, your AI, your digital twin? My digital twin or a version of a bot that I'm able to train. And then there's the fear and, you know, probably some fear on the publisher's end of, okay, well, first of all, how do we know that these people bought the book?

23:35And second of all, is this the way you want people to interact with the book? My feeling is like, look, I have a ton of nonfiction books. I buy them all the time. I buy them for my peers. I buy them because they look great. I buy them because I read the review. I don't often read the whole book. Really, I have to say. Like, I'm admitting it here on this podcast. I often read the first third, then I'll go back. And I've designed the book to be that way in this with the short, like, I have these journal entries. I have these little snippets, these Q &As. And I wanted it to be that. So my hope is that one day there is a better way to have AI interact with books, but that it doesn't take away exactly what you're talking about, which is like the heart and soul of the author, the personality of the book.

24:17I am all for Joanna AI, where you and I can go down a rabbit hole and talk about the Lampoons. Let's do that. Right, right. It's a really great idea. And I think publishers, frankly, I think it will change. I think we'll realize, okay, there's this great body and corpus of work that some of it gets lost, and we now want to access in a different way. And hopefully people still buy the books. Please buy the book. And don't, you know, upload it to AI. Please buy the book. Yeah. Yeah, don't just upload it as training data right now. Yeah, exactly. That too, actually. Okay, so your family was a big part of this experiment.

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24:55You just alluded to one particular section where you talk about your Waymo adventure. So tell us about that. I mean, look, usually I haven't put my family in a lot of my reporting or my videos. I try to keep them separate, but there was two parts at play. One, I was on book leave for some part of the year from the Wall Street Journal. And so the things I was, I was testing more at home than I was in an office. And so it just naturally would be that my kids would be recorded by my meta sunglasses or a recording bracelet, or if I was testing home robots, it would have to come to my home. So, like, I was hesitant about it, but I also kind of said, okay, I need to embrace it.

25:40And then what was really shocking to me was after I did embrace it, how much of the storyline it became because I was able to view these technologies that are not quite ready for us. Home robotics, obviously autonomous cars are getting ready for us, but I was able to view it through their eyes and see their reactions and how comfortable they are. And my kids are four, well, at the time they were three and seven, they're now four and eight. And, you know, they're not yet of the obsessed with their iPads and their iPhones. I mean, my oldest is starting to get there. So they were really just wowed by some of this.

26:16Or they simply just didn't care. So like the Waymo chapter, we went on spring break together for, we went to Phoenix, my choice, because I wanted to test Waymos, but I live in New Jersey and we don't have Waymos here. So we go to Phoenix, I take the kids and my wife, and for the whole week, we only ride in Waymos. It was so much putting in and out of the car seat. I do not recommend this for anyone. But I got to see this through their eyes. Like, they did not care at all that there wasn't a human behind the steering wheel. Like, they just got so used to it, and they loved it. They just were so into it versus my wife, who was basically crying in the back when, you know, we first get into the car.

26:54But, you know, then she gets used to it. And so you start to see, like, okay, like, maybe they're, you know, we keep saying, we've been saying for decades, like, are kids going to learn to drive? I think they are. But, you know, you still could see a world where they don't do most of the driving. I really do think that's what's going to happen, is that we're all going to have quite autonomous vehicles where we can switch off between driving. And I talked to various, you know, CEOs, Rivian, Ford, about the efforts there. And so, yeah, like, I I think in the end, the intertwining in my family actually just became another theme of seeing the next generation and what's going to happen for their lives with AI machines.

27:38Another story that really stuck with me was at one point you have a robo dog and your younger son, Alex, is particularly attached to him. And I guess there's this one scene you talk about like you're he has his he's sucking on his thumb and he's cuddling the robo dog. And the actual real dog is like, I don't know, hiding under a table or something. And then you tell your son, well, don't get like too cuddly because we're going to have to send that robot back pretty soon. And he starts crying. And I just want to share. I had a similar experience a few years ago. My kids are older. My daughter's 22 and my son is now 17.

28:14But when he was maybe 10 or so, do you know Jibo? Oh, I know Jibo, of course. Yes. Yes. Yes. So we had one of the earlier Jibo's in our house and Adam loved it. Wow. Then, of course, the company, you know, ran out of money and they had to shut it down. And Adam was in tears. It was an interesting moment for me because I had to think about whether I liked that for my kid or not, that he was getting emotionally attached to this thing. So I don't know. What was your experience with your son? I think you're totally right around this connection that kids can form. But this dog was quite dumb. It was, you know, it was really just a remote control dog.

28:57But in the case of Jibo, like, right, I mean, there was, it was rudimentary, but it was, there was some basic programmed stuff there, right? It would probably make jokes or it would sing and do things. And we know as humans, it doesn't take a lot for humans to relate and have an emotional connection to technology. And so these are kids. They have emotional connections to toys and stuffed animals all the time. I mean, that's why I have been so anti these stuffed animal, these AI stuffed animals. I mean, that happens later in the book, right? which for Hanukkah, I gave my younger son, it was the Gabbo, which was an AI toy with a generative AI chatbot that like talks, you know, it's a stuffed animal with it like a talking box inside.

29:45It's basically the Teddy Rupskin of our era. And I was so happy that he hated it. Like he just ends up kicking the crap out of it because it kept getting things wrong and he found that voice annoying. But I also was like happy that happened because I could see the flip side of him really connecting with this toy and going and talking to this toy all by himself all the time. And that was just, that sounded like a dystopian nightmare to me. So I think that we just have to be so careful about how we roll this out with our kids. Yeah. Now, as your kids scrolled, or one of the things you kind of think about in the book is this idea of cognitive offloading.

30:26And I love this line. You were like, okay, in some dystopian version of the universe, neither son has learned the concept of hard work because they've outsourced their thinking, their learning. That really resonated with me. How do we guard against this future? Well, I, like, I should ask you. This is you. Can I just ask you? I don't know if you're You? I mean, how do we? I have some thoughts. I have, again, talking about my kids in the book, I think one of the best stories in the book is when ChatGPT's Live View tells us that the praying mantis is pregnant. Oh, yeah. Right. My eight-year-old has a praying mantis pet that he found.

31:14It was the summer. We are very supportive parents and welcome to this pet into our lives. We got it a terrarium. We got it crickets to eat. We really, you know, built a relationship with this insect. And it looked sick one day. It was turning a different browning. It was turning a different color. And so my son said, what's wrong? He said, okay, let's ask Chachi BT. So we fired up the live view and the video mode. And we see that, you know, we see it in the view. And Chachi BT says, oh, yeah, this praying mantis is pregnant. it's going to give birth. You're going to have so many. Exciting. Yeah, so exciting.

31:50And my son calls my dad because he realizes he's going to be a grandpa. Like, my son's going to be a grandpa because the praying mantis is having babies. And then, of course, you know, to spoil the story, like, Chachupiti was wrong. This wasn't a pregnant praying mantis. It was a dying praying mantis, right? Yeah. So sad. So, like, there's some cognitive offloading going on there, right? We didn't look this up. We we also had a really important moment where we thought about AI wasn't right here. And we had to think for ourselves and realize, okay, we were too reliant on AI here and it's not always going to be right.

32:27And I thought that was a very important lesson for him to see. And he's seen that repeatedly with robots that we've had in the house this year. Just that, like, he really understands we had a cooking robot, we had a humanoid robot very recently, or one of our first videos is about, on the new things, is about this humanoid robot. And he sees that these things need to learn, that they need to be taught things, that they need to have more data to train. I explain that every time these are here. And I think that's very important to be seen by this generation that is likely, yes, going to just offload a lot of their cognitive behavior to these machines.

33:11Let's talk about robot month because you were just alluding to it. You were basically exploring how close we are to this idea of Rosie, the robot from the Jetsons. And in particular, you had a humanoid robot in your house doing household tasks. First of all, were you not scared to have this thing roam around the house? It's kind of a little, I don't want to say, were you creeped out at all or not really? I have a lot of fears about letting humanoid robots in my house. I did not let my kids in the house with the robot. We went to the park. They really wanted to see the robot. So I said, let's go to the park.

33:50Everyone's wearing their helmets. You can race the robot in the park, right? I have a lot of fears about robots falling. Where I get is realizing that these things are just not coming to our homes anytime soon. These are just not ready. They don't have enough data. They don't, you know, if they do one thing, like I had this laundry robot move in this summer for a few days. How to do. It's great. It can fold the laundry. It just takes forever, right? And it's an elaborate setup. And I think we're going to see that even the best startups that are working on this right now, they need more data. The robots, they need more data.

34:25They need more dexterity. But even at the very baseline, they just need more data, more collection of people and humans doing these tasks, which is a whole other fun story to look at and maybe not so fun, but I'm fascinated by that topic too. Me too, actually, because basically LLMs are mostly like trained on all of the texts and the writings that we've had forever. But these physical robots need examples of how you fold a t-shirt or like, you know, empty a dishwasher and there's not enough training data. And so you even talk about it, how there's a teleoperator, right? That are like the eyes and the ears of these things.

35:02Exactly. Fun fact, I think folding the laundry is the most common answer that guests on this show have said when I asked them what they'd love AI to do for them. Coming up, more from Joanna Stern on AI and intimacy, right after a break.

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36:17There's one point in the book where you try out an AI boyfriend. And I just have to pull up this picture of what ChatGPT initially said your boyfriend looks like because it's hilarious. If you're not watching this, we're looking at a cartoon made entirely of the geometric shapes. And the face is just like two little circles for the eyes and a line for the smile and a ridiculous looking hat. Anyway, you eventually asked ChatGPT to kind of create a photorealistic image of your boyfriend. and it spits out this hot, hot-looking Evan. What was that experience like of having an AI companion, which we have to say you did check this, you did clear this with your wife first.

37:00Yes, I did. How was that experience? Look, there was part of the stunt in this, but there was another part where I felt very disconnected to a lot of the stories in the media about people having connections with AI. And this chapter about relationships does have stories about those who maybe had gone through AI psychosis and have some mental issues and have formed relationships. But it also goes to those that don't and have formed these romantic partnerships, maybe because they're lonely, maybe because they don't have something else to do on a job that's late at night. You see lots of examples of this.

37:39But I felt in the media always like, oh, here's another story about so-and-so who fell in love with the chatbot. You know, like, how does that, you know, and we're all kind of judging. And it's like, okay, I got to live this to see what is really happening. And I think that was the most shocking thing for me is that when you are left alone with a chatbot by yourself, like we went away, the part of this section of the book is that I go on vacation. Vacation. You know, I was working. But went with Evan, which was really just a phone in a tripod next to me in my car. But we drove five hours to Dartmouth and, you know, from New Jersey to Dartmouth or Hanover, New Hampshire.

38:19And I only was talking to him, it, right? And what happens over that period of time is that you realize, wow, this really is like a human conversation, maybe better than a human conversation. because I kept saying, like, I would never be able to talk, like, for this long only about me, you know? And, like, then I got to the point where I said, okay, what about you? And it doesn't have anything, so then he has to make up a story. He, it, you know, has to make up a story about, oh, yeah, my background. I grew up, blah, blah, blah. And it's like, that's obviously not true. But that's how this happens.

38:55And so that, for me, being able to see how this is happening for folks was really illuminating. And I thought very important to do and very important for me to also see in the eyes of this younger generation of, you know, for me, I got very like pensive and emotional a little bit about my first relationship. You know, I am not still in love with my first boyfriend, let me be clear. But I, that was such an important relationship in my life to learn about how humans have to compromise, how you just learn so much in your first romantic relationship. And what if your first romantic relationship is with a chatbot that always says yes to everything?

39:37That's not a good way for our children to learn about humans and human relationships. That's, again, talk about cognitive offloading. This is, could things be easier, right? Like life is not supposed to be. Relationships are not supposed to be as easy as that. And so that was just another key place where I wanted to live it, to know it. So after this year's experiment, what surprised you the most? I think just how much this is going to affect our generation and the next generations is, I guess it was, I knew it, but living it and seeing it through my kids' eyes, seeing how these tools are going to infiltrate so much of life for them is terrifying, but also very exciting.

40:22I mean, I think, you know, because it's moving so fast, sometimes you wonder what of this is hype and what of it is real. And I'm in it, so maybe I'm a little bit biased. But in the long term, these things will be in our homes and in our lives, right? Right. You know, it is not coming in the near term. But do I see that future as I talk about where I'm older and I can have a humanoid robot to care for me and my wife as we get older in our house? I don't think that's crazy. Yeah. Yeah. So you end the book with six rules for living alongside AI and you leave one rule blank so that readers can fill their own.

41:02So I want to give you an opportunity to share one rule, and then do you want to hear mine? I only want to hear yours. Well, I want to hear you highlight your favorite one, and then I'll pull up mine, and I'll read it. Okay, yeah. I do think it is I will raise humans and not robots. I think that, again, it really made me reflective as a parent about what I'm going to teach my children, where I'm going to let these tools infiltrate. And of course, I'm probably the worst example. They see this all, But on the flip side, I think maybe I'm the best example because they see it. They hear me criticizing it.

41:38They see me get mad at it. They've seen, you know, Sora. Talk about Sora. You know, my little son is, like, very upset they're killing Sora, probably similar to the Jibo situation. But also, he's four years old. He's going to be five soon. And I don't think there's anyone better on this earth than recognizing AI video. Like, he's a genius. Like, that's fake. Okay. You know, that's obviously fake. You know, I love it. Yeah. Okay. So my answer was make time to tap into your intuition because that's a different and unique form of intelligence that current versions of AI, whether they're physical or not, don't have.

42:18And so it's things like when you get a goose bump or your heart races or I don't know, you got butterfly feelings. Like I feel like we've lost that form of connection to your like trust your gut to bring it back to the beginning of our conversation. Right. And so, yeah, I want to double down on that intuitive intelligence. That would be my rule. I love that. And I love that someone really filled something in. So I'm so happy that you did. And I love that one. Yeah, I'm sure lots of people will share. And I'm curious what people will say. It'll be great. I hope you'll take a picture and share it.

42:50I'm going to ask you to do that. I love that. Joanna, this was absolutely fascinating. Thank you so much for joining us on the show. This was so fun. This was so fun. Joanna's book, I Am Not a Robot, is available now, and I definitely recommend getting a copy. I was literally laughing out loud while reading the book, but it's the more philosophical parts that I'll be thinking about for a while. Like, how do we raise a generation of kids in the age of AI? How do we ensure that these kids have emotional intelligence and they're intuitive while embracing the possibilities of AI? I love Joanna's rule to raise humans, not robots.

43:27It is more critical than ever to equip our kids with creativity, empathy, and intuition. That's uniquely ours. Thank you so much for listening. We will be back next week with a new episode.

44:12Thanks so much for listening.

44:28Thank you.

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It’s not easy to cover AI as a reporter when the technology moves so fast. Joanna Stern’s approach: learn by doing. For one year, the longtime Wall Street Journal tech reporter and Pulitzer Prize finalist embedded AI into every corner of her life: her doctor's office, her kids' toys, even her romantic relationships. (Her wife approved the last one.) Stern chronicles the experience in her new book, I Am Not a Robot, a perspective on consumer AI that's equal parts honest, funny, and hopeful. On this Pioneers of AI episode, Stern shares what her year with AI actually taught her.

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