China's "Red Uncle/Sister Hong" Exposed W/ 1600+ Victims But Became The Biggest MEME

27:14The speculation online is that Uncle Red's house becomes a local legend through word of mouth. Uncle Red does social media, gets a few guys in the messages, but these guys then turn and tell all their friends, you need to visit Uncle Red's house. It's basically a steal, you know, what you get and what you give. It's not even comparable. It's basically free. All you have to do is bring a small gift, a household necessity, a bottle of peanut oil from the grocery store. That's$3. A single watermelon, which depending on the season and nudging is$2 to$5 or a packet of milk that you can get on sale, whatever.

27:50Just bring a bag of spinach if you must, which someone does. Just bring something to show gratitude for the host. And most likely what you get in return is what netizens refer to as quote full service. Undoubtedly, a lot of these guys find this to be a practically free exchange. I mean, a lot of the stuff you can find in your own freezer. They put in zero emotional effort, no dates, no paying for dinners, no relationships, no strings attached, and they don't have to pay for the services because Uncle Red is willing to do it in exchange for a half filled Dasani water bottle of peanut oil. In fact, a lot of streamers will barely give their top donors the time of day unless they're dropping thousands of dollars on them, let alone meet up with them in person.

28:30But Uncle Red's fan service, if you will, is so good that Uncle Red will take anyone in. These are how netizens are saying they think that this whole scam started, this whole crime started. Uncle Red won't even make fun of you for buying a$3 bottle of oil and taking half of it and giving Uncle Red only half the bottle of oil. Instead, Uncle Red will guide the men to the tiny thin mattress in the corner and spend about 30 minutes with them. Now, up until this point, all of this is consensual. Like these men are coming to Uncle Red's house. They're not being forced to stay there. They're not being forced to partake in any intimate relations or activities.

29:08So all of this, like no part of this so far is a crime. Some of these men may have realized that the market price and what uncle red are offering is kind of a steal it's it's a good bargain uncle red's apartment is difficult to find but even then still a bargain it's a basement unit and it's dimly lit kind of has a bunker-ish feel to it which is what netizens say i will say it's very sparsely furnished just a collapsible table mini fridge a bed and a built-in closet with a sink next to it and a bathroom off to the side it's not exactly homey but some of the guys have to turn on their phone flashlights to even find the door to Uncle Red's unit.

29:48And we know this because a lot of them are captured on the video walking in with their phone flashlight on. But it's seemingly worth it because right when they walk in, Uncle Red will place pink slippers in front of them. Sometimes Uncle Red will even wash fruit, cut the fruit, make small talk, make the guys feel comfortable and then they get into the festivities for free. Well, for the price of a watermelon. But there is a saying that a lot of people use in marketing, which is if it's free, that means you are likely the product. Because in the middle of Uncle Red's apartment is a tiny little hole.

30:26And hiding inside that tiny little hole is a hidden camera. And when these men leave, Uncle Red pulls out the SD card, starts importing the footage to go through. Even in illegal businesses, there seems to be some sort of quality control because Uncle Red will sort through the footage, cutting out the quote boring parts and the not exciting parts, trim down the hidden camera footage to just the highlights, which includes the men walking in with a grocery store gift in their hand, awkwardly saying hello, Uncle Red saying hello, hugging them. And then And the opening line for almost every single thousand plus guest is along the lines of, did you wash yourself first?

31:03Go clean yourself. They will then be escorted to the bathroom like a stray dog where you hear the water turn on. They rinse themselves, walk out, and there are pink slippers awaiting them. From there, the camera captures them, unzipping, receiving, and then none of their faces are blurred. None of their identities are hidden. And Uncle Red is selling these videos, this massive collection of videos in Telegram group chats, news breaks of Uncle Red's arrest. And suddenly all of Nen Jing and China are kind of going into a meltdown. The only reason I even first heard about this case, I mean, I did start getting hundreds of emails, but the very first time I heard about this case, my husband's sister came over and she was trying to explain the story.

31:49And it looked like it was fundamentally changing the wiring of her brain. Like she was losing her mind at not only the case itself, but also the Internet's reaction to the case. Like it was just everywhere. She said you can't even go on to any Chinese social media platform without this being the main conversation. Like if you don't know Uncle Red, you don't know half the jokes people are making. You don't know what half the people are talking about. It's just it's you could post a video of your dog. And in the comments, there will be references to Uncle Red or jokes about Uncle Red somehow fitted in there.

32:21It's like a cultural phenomenon. The more she knows about this case, the more questions. Like for when, how did Uncle Red even get arrested? July of 2025, a man walks into the police station in Nanjing, China to report very simply that his private, private moments were secretly recorded and they're circulating online. He knows where the videos were taken. He knows who took the video and he's going to lead the police straight to her. That's about all he says to the police. Police head to the basement unit of Uncle Red. they knock on the door and since Uncle Red was not expecting any company, Uncle Red does not have his live stream fit on and they realize, okay, this is a little confusing because the man who reported it to me said that this was a woman in a bunker type style basement unit who took these videos but now I'm looking at a middle-aged man, maybe it's his wife, but it's not, it's him.

33:12They promptly arrest him and they realize that Uncle Red has likely made over$35 ,000 selling these videos in these group chats, which could explain why Uncle Red perhaps did not have a deep yearning to receive expensive gifts from the men that came over. The whole, okay, this is where I, again, get a little bit confused by the internet reaction because I will say the selling of the videos online is reminiscent to other cases that we've covered, such as Enthrum. I don't know if it compares in severity and I don't think it would be appropriate to compare the severity of certain cases. However, the business idea is similar in the sense Uncle Red will join a Telegram group chat or start one.

33:54He will charge$20 for a video in the group chat. After spending$20, if you want to see other videos or more videos, instead of receiving further payment, Uncle Red will ask that you invite three people into the group chat that will be willing to spend$20. So it seems like a very well thought out business plan. it's a referral program for new customer acquisition which what can only be described as uncle red's blooming illegal video criminal enterprise july 5th 2025 authorities in nanjing release a brief statement that they have put an end to said illegal video sharing by uncle red within hours news of this arrest starts trending which would make sense if uncle red was a famous live streamer that had just gotten arrested but that's not the case because within hours uncle Red's arrest is at the top of the trending list.

34:4289 separate media outlets have started reporting on the case and in just three hours 350 million people have clicked on any article regarding Uncle Red. Someone that the entire country had no clue even existed two seconds ago. 300 million clicks? 350 million clicks in three hours. Whoa. Interestingly enough this is where things get weird and controversial because people have very wild reactions to the whole case. First, people are doing the math. 1691, that's about 2 ,000 men gone to Uncle Red's house in three years. That's about one and a half men per day with speculative reports estimating that there's about five terabytes of footage out there, which equates to about 3 ,000 hours of footage.

35:26That's a lot of activity. And that's not him even. I mean, he's got to lure these men somehow. So he's talking to people online let's say it takes about an hour to at least talk to someone to the point where they can come over to your house and do those intimate relations i mean that's this is like a full-time full-time job most of the videos are also the same which depicts uncle red performing oral activities on the guest and then usually unceremoniously uncle red will turn around without taking off any clothing just lifting lifting up the back of his maxi skirt and then just like backing up into the man in question.

35:59The initial reaction across China seemed to be confusion, shock, outrage, but in the city of Nanjing it's a very different reaction. Now this is the part where I report to you all of the internet reactions regarding Uncle Red. And again, am I saying that these are appropriate reactions to a situation like this? No, that's not at all what I'm saying. I am just here to tell you what people have been saying online, what the general consensus has been, the types of memes that have come out of this, just so you understand the full totality of this case. The initial reaction across China seemed to be a mixture of shock, rage, and confusion.

36:35But with a lot of women, particularly An Doying on TikTok, that are just squinting at the collage of men's faces, praying that they don't see a boyfriend, fiance, husband, dad, whoever. Some even go online to report, hey, so I did find my dad in one of the thumbnails and I don't know if I'm supposed to tell my mom? I need advice. Others say, okay, well, at least yours is kind of a more simple situation where you should probably tell your mom. For me, it's different because I found my colleague. A lot of people report finding their colleague or brother or someone that's like distant enough that you definitely don't want to confront them with it.

37:13You have nobody else to talk to about it. And now you're just stuck with this information. One comment reads, I was here for the drama, but then I found my brother-in-law in one of those pictures. And we thought he was working, but turns out he was at Uncle Red's house and he showed up with a carton of milk. So that's very awkward. On Chinese dating apps right now, and again, is this appropriate? That's not up for me to decide. I'm just letting you know. The biggest red flag that a lot of Chinese women state is that if a man writes that they are from Nanjing, even though it's a massive city with 9 million people, they think it's inappropriate.

37:46One citizen shared her dating profile, which reads, Requirements for boyfriend. 1. Not from Nanjing. too must not have been too stopped by or traveled through Nanjing in the recent years. The comments under her post are agreeing with her, writing, yeah, I'm not going to date Nanjing men in the foreseeable future. I'm also going to abstain from those who have even stopped by Nanjing for work. Other netizens expressed just sudden disinterest in men completely, writing, I've just been uninterested in men these days. When I look at them, I just feel like all of them have slept with Uncle Red. I don't know what exactly that means.

38:20I don't know if it's the fact that 1 ,691, you get it. But another one writes, does anyone understand my pain? When I walk around Nanjing, because I'm from Nanjing, I just feel like every guy I see, I just picture them with Uncle Red instantly. I just look at them. With the consensus being on many Chinese platforms that the biggest diss that you can throw at someone is telling them that their husband or father is from Nanjing. There have been lots of memes that have occurred from this case in this situation. I mean, you know, when you travel to a new city, there is a trip advisor must eat list on there.

38:53Well, on there, the number one must eat list is a 38 year old man, which side note, a lot of initial reports stated that Uncle Red was 60 years old. He's not 60. He's 38 years old. But it is must eat 38 year old man named Uncle Red. and then the red gate banquet list goes viral people have given nicknames and created these ai videos a lot of people have dubbed uncle red and again this is for if you look up this case you're going to see a lot of these references online and i'm not saying that these are appropriate but a lot of people have dubbed uncle red nanjing zero online which i was thinking okay there has been discourse that we're going to cover in a second about perhaps there being not a enough usage of protection and things that can deter you from getting an STD.

39:44So maybe they're calling him Nanjing Zero because they're trying to make some sort of joke or some sort of meme about him being patient zero. And he's like passing on things to other people because they're just all doing it willy nilly, like all 2000 of them. But I came to the very interesting conclusion that zero in China refers to bottoms. Yes. And one refers to tops. Tiffany and I, my sister-in-law and I had a very uncomfortable conversation where she was like, okay, so let me explain. What's funny is, so Tiffany didn't know what top and bottom means. She actually only knew what one and zero means.

40:22So it's like you have to double translate what top and bottom means to her. And then she's like, oh, yeah, that's one and that's zero. And then I had to double check that this was not like an offensive term in China. And then she was like, no, she was showing me these doing videos of guys who are like, oh, I'm a one. And it's like thirst traps. So I was like, OK, it seems like a normal thing that they talk about. But that has become another meme. And there has been, aside from the chaos and discrimination, it's not even just stopping at men from Nanjing, but also fitness men. So remember the one through ten ranking that there was?

40:58Those are the top 10 men that netizens find the most interesting and or appealing from Uncle Red's guest list, if you will. And they have been ranked. And I just I'm not even going to go on to what it's like to rank victims of these intimate videos being leaked, but it's been done. And these have been circulating and everybody has been referencing them. Number three on the top 10 list for Uncle Red is actually a pretty famous fitness influencer on the app. red note and it's relatively easy for netizens to connect the dots because even when he went to go see uncle red he's wearing this black under armor shirt with a big white bull on the front and a pair of adidas ultra boost that he always wears in his fitness videos and he has a very distinctive look and after these videos leaked online he changed one of his social media bios to just read i've already filed a police report my life is a mess and i'm planning to leave nanjing for another city stop sharing the leaked footage then ranked number two out of the ten is someone netizens have dubbed the four seasons man because a lot of netizens after this news broke out they actually it's like the barbara streisen effect it's what happens in a lot of crimes like this is people will go out and seek the footage afterwards it draws more attention to said footage and people have been piecing together who is who and what is what.

42:21And I will say some netizens do say we have to do this because a lot of these people are not going to come forward. A lot of them are married. A lot of them have children. A lot of them have other partners that may not know that they're visiting Uncle Red and may want to get tested or may not know that they're having other intimate relations. So that's kind of been one conversation of why they're scouring through the videos. Others say it's just for fun, which is a very morally debatable dilemma that we can go down. But there is one guide called the Four seasons man and it is because he has been seen in four different videos and it's in each of the seasons spring summer fall and winter and you can see in his attire in one he is wearing full-on winter gear thermal puffer jacket summer he's wearing lighter clothes and that man is visiting uncle red all four seasons then in first place so a lot of the one through ten they're just called they're just they made the top ten either because they're attractive like the leather jacket guy that cheated on his fiance or because of the unique gifts that they brought, i.e.

43:22watermelon man. But the number one place is I'm already here, might as well. And this has actually turned into a very famous phrase in lots of countries in Asia. That is what this man has been dubbed online. Netizens came up with this name because reportedly in the leaked video, it appears that when he gets to Uncle Red's house, he realizes that Uncle Red is probably an uncle. So Uncle Uncle Red goes by Sister Red online. And so he gets there and he's like, okay, I don't think this is Sister Red. So he starts confronting Uncle Red, asking, are you a man or a woman? Are you a man or a woman? And this is going to be another moral dilemma that we're going to go down.

43:58And lots of people have been having debates about it. But right now, pause on that. He's asking, are you a man or a woman? Uncle Red lies and says, I'm a woman. I'm a woman. He does not believe him. He's like, I don't believe you. So then finally, Uncle Red tells him, well, I'm going to call the police if you keep harassing me and asking me these questions. And he has this moment, reportedly in the video, where he thinks about it. He ponders it. And then he decides, you know what? I'm already here. I might as well. And the next frame of him that people, netizens have clipped from that video is of him in likely a moment of pleasure.

44:35So it's now become a meme. Again, wildly inappropriate. Nevertheless, I'm just reporting on what's happened. A meme shows a screenshot of the video where you can see him pondering, looking very pensive. And then right after, right under it, it shows him looking up at the ceilings with his arms resting on his, his hands resting on his hips. And he looks like he is enjoying the moment. And it says, I'm already here. Something doesn't feel right, but might as well. Yeah, in Chinese, like Lai De Lai De. It's like really, really viral, viral, viral, viral. These have gone very viral. and pretty quickly everyone found out who the might as well guy even is.

45:15He works as a teacher from one of the elite Shanghai kindergartens. And if you're wondering, a lot of people actually travel to Nanjing to meet up with Uncle Red. Oh. Yes. So the kindergarten that he works at, to go there, to send your child there, you have to pay$22 ,000 a year for kindergarten to learn how to count to, I don't know, 26. It costs$22 ,000 a year. But I digress. The most appalling revelation, however, is that he has a wife and children. So he quickly deactivates his accounts. Everyone thought that he was just going to disappear off the internet, focus on his personal life. But no, not long after, a new doing account pops up with who only netizens can describe as being the doppelganger of this man posting workout videos in the similar fashion of the might as well guy before he deactivated his account.

46:04So comments start questioning him. hey did you you know just delete your old account and start a new one with a fake name he has since vehemently denied it stating that you must have the wrong guy which the comments read dude it's totally you same shoes same tank talk same everything way too recognizable you got the same height same build same everything he too has a bit of a buff build and typically like to post his workout selfies and shirtless photos on social media before everything blew up which has now cemented this joke in a lot of netizens' minds that if you post shirtless workout selfies, then you remind everyone of Uncle Red's type, which are young, buff dudes.

46:45So now, under random fitness influencers' videos, there are comments that read, hold on, hold on, let me check my dictionary first. And the new term dictionary means the collage of men from Nanjing. Like a thousand men pictures. Another one reads, please put your shirt back on, we're not in the mood these days. Another one reads, show this to Uncle Red, you're his type. Another one says, what number are you for Uncle Red? Another says, brother, please stop showing off. Everyone is trying to find out which one you look like. Another reads, either put your shirt on first. Currently we feel nothing.

47:17The moment we see someone flexing muscles, all we can think about is whether or not you have kissed Uncle Red. Or another one that simply states, let's not talk about whether or not you are popular. First, you need to tell us if you've been to Nanjing. To which some netizens find the whole social discourse very confusing and they comment, imagine being a fitness guru right now. They write, quote, overnight the thirst trap men watch their skies fall down. It's said that if you post fitness content and you're from Nanjing, you're almost obligated to add in your bio, have never seen Red Uncle. So example, there is an online user, a fitness guru from Nanjing called Chestnut Love Spinach.

47:54That was his username. Now it's Chestnut Love Spinach, parentheses, I swear I've never seen Uncle Red, end parentheses. It's become a huge thing and people are still making memes out of it. So there's this one incident, including a foreigner, and that incident has since gone viral because when Uncle Red sees his private parts, Uncle Red... It's just interesting, like the amount of discourse that has occurred from this case is vast and it's vastly different depending on where you look. So for these people, they're saying this is almost like a social experiment and we should treat it as such. And a lot of netizens have psychoanalyzed each video and each reaction to Uncle Red's video.

48:37So for example, when this foreigner walks in, people say Uncle Red has finally solved the debate of if size matters. Because Uncle Red puts both of his hands out gasping and says, whoa, it's huge. And after they were done, Uncle Red paid him$14 for the experience. Uncle Red pays him. And the netizens state that even the foreigner looks confused and doesn't really appear to know what to do with the cash with the$14. And then just to add more complexity to things, there are now AI videos that depict industry leaders visiting Uncle Red, including Jensen Huang of NVIDIA, coming and giving Uncle Red.

49:17I think it has to do with the fact that Jensen Huang tech founder has an obsession with black leather jackets, which happened to be from Tom Ford and probably cost lots of money. But that's like his Achilles heel. And it made him one of the more viral AI Uncle Red parodies in China where he's coming to Uncle Red and giving him like an NVIDIA chip. Trump is also one of the AI videos. so people have created lego sets for uncle red's place which shows uncle red and men having intimate relations and a line of people waiting outside waiting to get in some of them are holding watermelons bottles of oil some netizens comment it's not the most realistic stating that there's too much oil because a lot of these guys would only bring half the container of oil yeah others point to the pink slippers and they've made memes of this pink slippers with zoomed in pictures of it saying no one feels sorry for the slipper it has been worn by over a thousand people others have gone to recreate uncle red's quote iconic look by donning a wig with bangs throwing on a mask silky blouse and a long skirt and i will say you know what this discourse is reminiscent of and i don't know again i'm not comparing severity i'm just comparing crime happens discourse that is so big and almost all on the same level of dark humor it reminds me of all the baby oil jokes where it's like the discourse is almost bigger than the case itself and it's generally on the hee hee ha ha side and not the i'm gonna take this seriously side so that's kind of what it's reminiscent of so you have people recreating uncle red's iconic look that's what they call it by throwing on a mask silky blouse long skirt there are fashion tutorials on how to achieve uncle red's makeup some clubs have even started adopting the uncle red memes with giant screens inside the club that read anyone who is late with their round dodges their shot or doesn't focus on drinking is going to be sent straight to uncle red's house that's what it says people have then created AI videos of Uncle Red teaching girls how to get men.

51:30There's just been a lot of reports and discourse and online conversations about the fact that Uncle Red was able to get so many men to come visit them. And in one video, according to reports, a foreigner is using an app. So foreigners will come. Uncle Red will use a translation app to even talk to them. There is nothing barring any guests from coming in and having intimate relations with Uncle Red. Uncle Red seems to be open to anybody and they will be using this app to translate the conversation and at one point the foreigner pushes the phone towards Uncle Red who is talking into the phone near the foreigner's face and netizens believe that Uncle Red has very bad breath because the foreigner keeps looking away sneaking in breaths of fresh air and at one point he just straight up covers his nose with his hand.

52:17But the main comment reads, the way he's gagging and covering his mouth when Uncle Red is talking. To which the next comment reads, but he still didn't leave.

52:37And that is where the nickname that Uncle Red is an absolute manslayer comes about. And a lot of memes have spurred from the fact that netizens joke Uncle Red is eating better than them. They state that a lot of the men showing up to Uncle Red's apartment are young, good-looking, well-built guys that have a lot of people, a lot of people would have dated them. So why did they find Uncle Red instead of them? That's a huge conversation being thrown out. A new meme is where Uncle Red is using his tongue to try and pick out food that is stuck in between his teeth. And the words across the meme are, I'm eating better than you sister.

53:14So people start creating these AI videos of Uncle Red giving lectures, dating advice to women on how to capture quote, good quality men. With the AI video showing someone who kind of appears to be Uncle Red in the same apartment, saying things such as, today I'm going to teach all my sisters how to get high quality household goods. First of all to get a man. I don't want a house or a car or a dowry. One watermelon, a packet of napkins, or half a bottle of peanut oil is enough for me. So don't be a gold digger. This is very important. Secondly, you have to give men a lot of emotional support. Increase their confidence.

53:50That is a skill every smart woman should have. Third, you have to be proactive and make the first move. But the truth of the matter is, no matter how good looking a guy is, when he is hungry, he will still eat trash. Unless he's very rich, then he will only eat Michelin star food. Sisters, follow Uncle Red to learn more. It's never too late to learn. Another Uncle Red lesson reads, Uncle Red teaches that attracting a man doesn't require thirst traps. A face mask, long skirt, long sleeves, and bangs are sufficient. Some netizens have called this a black mirror episode in real life. Others have called it a real life study.

54:26Studying what? We're not entirely sure yet, but a study of something. If you go through Chinese social media, there are pages of threads and threads of online netizens breaking down different types of discourse that is spurring because of the Uncle Red situation. One of them is breaking down the types of gifts that were brought to Uncle Red's house by these men and Uncle Red's reaction to these gifts. Some think that Uncle Red's always positive, always thankful reaction is the most intriguing part of this. Others think that the gifts that these men choose willingly is more insight on the psyche of humankind, they break it down.

55:01Some men have come empty-handed. It's been reported that Uncle Red never specifically demands anything to be brought to him, but these men bring stuff out of courtesy and it's kind of awkward to go empty-handed. However, some men do. The others, all of these gifts are just like random household necessities that range from food products like a single watermelon, packets of milk. I mean, you would think that some of these netizens analyzing the gifts are doing dissertations, myself included, I guess, dissertations on this topic because they've broken down the types of milk that were gifted to Uncle Red.

55:34Milk is one of the more popular gifts. And almost every single time, all these men picked out the cheapest milk, the cheapest brand of milk, the cheapest type of milk, the cheapest kind of milk, the cheapest, cheapest, cheapest milk. There's one brand in China that is known for having milk that is cheaper than a bottle of water. A bottle of milk is cheaper than a bottle of water. That's the brand that almost all of them went with. Kind of alarming. Yeah. The milk was still considered a top tier gift on the gift analysis hierarchy with tissue paper being on the lower end. Almost all the men that brought tissue paper would bring like a small packet of tissue paper, like a three pack little Kleenex packet, but they would buy the cheapest one ply tissue paper that if you were to try and wipe water off your hand, it would stick to your hand and disintegrate into white fluff all over your hand.

56:20How do netizens know this? A mixture of personal experience and according to some netizens who have personally viewed the illegal footage, they state that after one man gifted the one-ply tissue paper, another man came over and used it to wipe their private parts but the tissue paper disintegrated leaving tens of little pieces of tissue paper on their private parts and it is reported that this man spent quite a bit of time dusting it off of himself while Uncle Red just stood there watching and waiting. Another man brought a bag of fruit for Uncle Red, but apparently on the way, on the journey, on the trek to finding Uncle Red's place, he got so hungry that he ate half of the fruit.

56:55Like, what do you mean ate half? Like half a watermelon type of half or just like a bag of apples? Yeah. He ate half a bag, okay. But the top tier gift, the most expensive gift being cooking oil. One man was so stingy that he bought a bottle of cooking oil and he decided that he wasn't going to give Uncle Red all of the cooking oil, so he got a Dasani water bottle, filled that up with cooking oil and brought the Dasani water bottle of cooking oil to Uncle Red's house. Or it could just be leftover oil that he has at home. Yeah. Another man brought one of the more valuable gifts. Some netizens have argued it's almost heartfelt, which is a fish, a fish that the man caught himself, uncooked, still attached to the fishing wire, just like a live fish from the river.

57:38And Uncle Red's response in his soft voice was encouraging, wow, you were able to catch such a big fish. Some joke that by this rate after three years, Uncle Red should be able to open up his own grocery store and people have created memes of photoshopped images of Uncle Red in his own grocery store. It is to the point where people say if you're a Nanjing local, it's best not to walk around with a single lone watermelon, a carton of milk, or a bottle of oil. And that has also led to a lot of deep analysis on the men. There have been like, okay, so the moral dilemma, it's tenfold. So first of all, the moral dilemma is, is this an appropriate reaction that the internet and society can have to a situation like this?

58:20Where everything is okay up until Uncle Red illegally films these without consent and then releases them online. Clearly, that's a very bad crime. These men are ultimately victims, but is it okay to have this type of reaction? That's the first moral dilemma. The second moral dilemma comes in the fight of a lot of guys and women are fighting in the comment section. So a lot of girls, they are making jokes about this case. And they're saying, you know what, because I feel like there are lots of crimes against women where men make jokes about it. I mean, take the ditty baby oil situation, for example.

58:57Lots of jokes are being made. And so why do we have to suddenly be so sensitive when nobody is sensitive towards crimes against women? and so it's been like this back and forth almost like a mini gender war at times it's been really intense and then there's also been conversations of why did all these men even go to uncle red's house a lot of men have decided to take this as a teaching moment for women and they are telling women it's because uncle red gives off energy where he will support men and it's because all of these feminist gold diggers are just looking for lamborghinis and not cooking oil it's why women can't get any of these young straight men and uncle red is getting all of them and that's become a whole conversation itself yeah yeah yeah i saw one it was like a guy like the girlfriend was like i want a new iphone and then he flashed back to uncle red yeah like only wanting a apple yeah so one netizen breaks it down of uncle red's allure and he says uncle red's videos actually sneak in a whole crash course on how to treat men the second a guy walks in through the door uncle red greets him like an old friend not with a stuck up like what do you want why are you here face which like i don't know anyone who does that but okay a second yeah the apartment is decent at best but it feels cozy like a home three he even washes fruit hands it over even for a casual fleeing, he gets treated like an honorable guest at Uncle Red's.

1:00:31Four, he takes charge to initiate physical conduct instead of just laying there like a dead starfish. He's fully engaged. Five, when a couple of guys get overwhelmed and get performance anxiety down there, Uncle Red doesn't roll his eyes or pile on pressure. He eases the awkwardness and gets them back in the game. Six, he has thick lips. One netizen agrees saying Uncle Red has proved to women that men are not actually picky. But a lot of women have a lot of things to say about that, obviously, with one comment reading, I want to thank Uncle Red for getting rid of so many red flags for us. And they're not even talking about the men in the videos.

1:01:08They're talking about people saying things like this about Uncle Red. So it's become another moral dilemma. One netizen even comments, his voice is gentler than 80 % of Chinese women, which I'm telling you, Chinese women had a field day with that comment. Another one comments, Uncle Red reflects the emptiness in the Chinese man's heart. Their wives are too fierce. At least Uncle Red is submissive. And then another group of men are just fully outraged that women are not outraged at this situation because the victims are men, stating that women would have been more outraged had the victims been women.

1:01:46And women are agreeing saying, yeah, but when have you been outraged? Last time, the list of victims were women. Like men are never outraged. It's women being outraged for women. And now the men are the victims. You guys go be outraged. We're tired. So that's been another whole collective discourse of like, why are women being held to greater, higher standards than men? And why do we have to be the emotional outrage factor for every single crime that's ever been committed if men don't do the same for women? So that's been a conversation. A lot of women are also expressing frustration that a lot of men are using this to teach their girlfriends, wives, and random internet women lessons on how to be more generous and less demanding in order to get a man.

1:02:34There is also a debate online, a completely separate debate, of whether or not Uncle Red disclosing or not that he is a man to the male guest is a violation of consent or not. with people debating online if they don't know that Uncle Red is a man and they are catfished under the impression that he is a woman, is that a crime in and of itself? Or is that some sort of moral dilemma in and of itself? I think the conversation is tricky because when it comes to disclosure of genders, people that have not had gender-affirming surgery will usually, for their own safety, disclose to their partners prior to intimacy and also because they even state preference for certain equipment has no correlation to any sort of homophobia, transphobia.

1:03:17Like sometimes you're just not attracted to certain body parts. And so you want to let them know like, hey, I might have a body part that you're not attracted to. So let me tell you before we get started. However, Uncle Red is not a member of the trans community. And this is clearly not a normal situation. Uncle Red's main objective here is to profit off these hidden camera videos. And side note, that's another moral dilemma of like, he's genuinely perpetuating homophobia and transphobia. through this case. So it's not good. But the fact that he's not disclosing that he's a man, I mean, it's up for debate.

1:03:51A lot of people are debating whether that goes against consent. Many netizens have gone through the footage and sorted these men into three different categories. The first group being a group of men that do not ask Uncle Red about his gender, likely not even thinking about it. They have intimate relations. And because of the way Uncle Red lifts up his skirt and very quickly moves things along, they may not have even noticed anything about what equipment Uncle Red possesses down there. With some netizens arguing, just because the men don't ask doesn't make it less deceitful. Some saying, well, they didn't know, so it doesn't matter.

1:04:23But then some are saying, maybe if it wasn't for the videos being released, because maybe if they didn't know, it didn't matter to them. They didn't ask. Uncle Red didn't tell them. And then they had these consensual intimate relations. That's fine. But then now these videos are being posted online without their consent, and then add the element that we still live in a society, especially in Asian countries where there is a lot more homophobia that can actually, I mean, even in the US still, even in Western countries that can ruin your life, that can take away your job, that can do all of these things.

1:04:52Does that make it less consensual because of the video element? I mean, you could go down this entire rabbit hole, black hole for like 10 years. And then you have a second group of people from the victims list where they discover that Uncle Red is a man and they don't care with a few even reciprocating oral activities. There's no debate there until you get to the illegal videos. And then you have the third group of people that have their suspicions or they straight up ask Uncle Red, like the might as well guy, any lies to them. There's one video where a man starts interrogating him. Like, is that a, is that any flat out lies?

1:05:28Uncle Red is like, don't be ridiculous. You're seeing wrong. And from there, some of these men will run away. Uncle Red does not hold them captive, but still that's not saying much. And then others are staying and just pushing through the activities. Netizens are arguing whether or not straight up lying is a violation against the men. If the answer is yes, it is a violation, then the next argument dilemma is then what about the ones that continue to stay afterwards, even though netizens claim that you can see on their faces that they don't believe Uncle Red? Is that still a violation against them?

1:06:01Is that not a violation? People are saying it's just very confusing. And I think that everybody has a different opinion about this case. Some are saying you can't have these debates without bringing in the illegal filming and releasing of these videos factor. Because maybe if they knew the whole world was going to find out about it, they would have asked. Maybe they wouldn't have stayed because maybe they're not homophobic, but they're scared of being outed. Maybe they genuinely thought that Uncle Red was a woman. like it's very confusing yeah it's like a moral conundrum i guess is how people describe it and then the there is the morality of doxing the victims so there has been a lot of debate of would this have happened if the victims were women and okay i will say one thing which is when we do a lot of research for these cases i think it's a really good conversation of like two things can be true at once.

1:06:57I think male victims, especially when it's crimes like sexual crimes, especially when the perpetrator is a woman and it's a male victim, they do not get taken seriously. However, I don't think we can always say would this have happened if the woman was the victim? Because I mean, there's so many cases where women are the victims. A lot of cases where women are the victims, they're laughed at, they're mocked, nothing happens, they get injustice. So it almost makes it almost insinuates that if you're a female victim you're going to get justice everyone's going to stick up for you which is not the case at all so I think two things can be true at once however this I might agree with because there has been a lot of social media discourse about the titles of the videos that people are re-releasing these illegal footage videos under so a lot of these websites have taken these videos and started creating eye-catching titles for example one reads Buzz cut anxious guy brother says nothing just keeps taking off his clothes looks like he's getting ready to fight Another one reads milk guy knows uncle red has been working hard taking care of so many people brings milk to help uncle red recover Another one just reads done in a minute another one diehard fan of uncle red returns multiple times Another a carton of milk and a packet of tissues in exchange for red's private time Another watermelon brother brings coolness to uncle red's scorching hot summer who wouldn't love such a thoughtful man so some people are saying if these were illegal videos of women that were taken without their consent would they have been released but then you have some women fighting back and they're saying actually they would have and they would have created titles like this but what's crazy is it happens so often you it actually doesn't make the news and that's why you don't think it happens you know literally as we speak there is a huge anthroon case in china that's happening like at the same time i do think i got some emails about that yeah which like this is getting way more yeah you know everyone's talking about this so it's like just when you think okay that's a good point then someone will come and say no it's because you're just unaware because when it's a female victim it happens so frequently it doesn't really make the news unless it's a massive scale operation.

1:09:10So it's been this huge back and forth. And one of the main topics being who defines victim? Like, are these men victims or not? Because a lot of people are also saying a lot of these men, they're here to take advantage of someone. They're here to take advantage of Uncle Red. And yeah, it's consensual, but like, they're not perfect victims. Others are arguing a lot of these men got caught cheating on their wives. A lot of these men have families. A lot of these men have girlfriends, fiancés. So are they a victim? If they came here to do something bad and then something backfires, is it karma or is it victimization?

1:09:48That's been a conversation online. I'm not saying that's my conversation. And some people are even saying that, okay, I will say the meme culture around this case is a lot. People have started creating anime business cards so you know you do like the character it's like it gives you a rating for it's like a video game oh are you talking about like pokemon cards type of kind of but they have it's like a thing now where you do it business style as well so it's almost like characters in someone's office building okay and you describe their personality and you rank them by appearance eq iq overall ratings stuff like that oh oh got it got it like like a chinese um resume i think yeah they have like a bar of their skill levels yeah kind of like that like but they do stars and then they have like a cartoon character that they've drawn out of these guys from the video and so for example one is nicknamed strong work smell guy which is a term for in china where you're just overworked exhausted stressed out and you carry around this scent of work with you like you just never can escape the idea that work is very depressing and everyone can feel it off of you.

1:11:00He comes over to Uncle Red's house. The two of them have their intimate relations. He wraps up rather quickly. Uncle Red asks him for$138 to which he responds, my wife has all the money. If you want, go ask her. And then he runs off. He has his own little character card and people are ranking him like one out of five stars. Others have described incredibly intense psychoanalysis of people's visits to Uncle Red's house with one netizen post reading, this guy never cares about hygiene and always complains a lot. He always looks guarded, looks around carefully, doesn't even want to wash up for Uncle Red.

1:11:37He hates the way Uncle Red looks. He only talks about how he feels and he uses and trashes so many tissues. It's a blatant disregard for others and their belongings. He's selfish, seems to hate Uncle Red, but it's all a facade because he's come back multiple times and this is a reoccurring visitor. Then another one gets a card and his name is just character number two, stingy chubby guy. It reads, came empty-handed, bargained while doing the housework, didn't cooperate well, only did part of the quote chores and left in a hurry. Another one reads, fruit uncle. He's very warm and kind when he visits the elderly, parentheses Uncle Red.

1:12:11He brings fruit and gives him a big hug to show he cares. He's also hardworking so he does the chores. When he leaves he'll even take out the trash. He's really amazing. We are also moved. Then another one, This guy has a hot temper is very straightforward, but the contract is already signed. He's already here He will fulfill the agreement at least he keeps his promises Or another one that reads thermal pants guy Whenever he comes in for a meeting. He wears the same brown outfit with thermal pants Every time he talks about the plan He's very supportive saying encouraging things like if you do well, you'll get a bonus His ability is pretty sharp and he seems to enjoy discussing the plan He shows a strong willingness to work together and collaborate And so then you have people under these saying, is this actually appropriate to make for victims of sex crimes?

1:12:56And then people will fight back and comment, well, are they really victims if they're cheating, if they're putting their family at risk? Because there were reports coming out stating that these men from Uncle Red's videos, a lot of the videos, you can see sometimes that they will find certain fluids around their private parts that seem to be suspicious looking. and it seems like they have blatant disregard for their health, for their intimate health. And if they're married, if they're dating someone else, they could be spreading these things on unknowingly to people that some people on the internet believe are the true victims.

1:13:34Some people are saying the only victims really in this case are the wives and the girlfriends that are dating the men that are going to Uncle Red's house. It was briefly reported by the media that 11 of the men from Uncle Red's videos were tested and positive for HIV, But the police quickly shut that down, saying that's nothing but rumors. However, they later state there are like three people that did test positive for HIV. However, it's unclear if it's connected to Uncle Red. In fact, they cannot release if Uncle Red has any sort of contagious disease, STD or HIV, because that would be a violation of his privacy, which a lot of netizens are upset about because they're like, a violation of his privacy?

1:14:13He violated so many people's privacy. Release that information. Yeah, and then like, you know, all the people that connected, 1 ,600 people connects to thousands of people. Now, the authorities have stated that the thousand plus number is a gross exaggeration. However, netizens don't believe the authorities. Netizens are like, I saw the pictures. I saw the videos. I'm believing the rumors. It's a lot of guys. Maybe it's not 1 ,600. Maybe it's 1 ,500. Maybe it's 900. Does it matter? It's a lot of guys. That's what netizens are saying. People are also annoyed because the government can't do anything.

1:14:47However, they are opening up their health center for a free HIV test if you feel like you are in fear of contracting something. Oh, because of this? Yes. Oh, really? Yes. Oh, wow. So they do think there could be a lot of people that needs to get checked up. Yes. Wow. So some people have used this as, see, these men are not victims. In fact, the only victims are their families that are at home or their wives and their girlfriends. Others are saying, well, they are victims because they're at risk and Uncle Red probably didn't tell them. But then the other argument is, well, they knew what they're going when they're going there.

1:15:27Like they're not just going there to show up. So it's just been this carnival ride loop around of debates. Side note, some netizens also believe that this case is weeding out the not so bright men from the bright one. one boyfriend proudly texted his girlfriend that he bought a self-test kit at home since he had recently gone on a business trip to Nanjing and he proudly stated that he tested negative and he was very proud of him he proudly he proudly stated that he tested negative and he was very proud of himself for thinking ahead and his girlfriend's response was obviously very cold and detached and he says you're so cold I'm safe baby are you not happy to which netizens think this is the epitome of an empty mind that was probably up to no good with one comment reading a business trip so frightened you took a test immediately if he didn't cheat on this business trip why would he need to take a test to begin with yeah it's not like you catch it through the air wow the girlfriend posted that yeah wow and with this hiv scare that's happening a lot of people in the lgbtqia community are upset because it's like again are we really going to do this again where we are creating these homophobic fear-based situations of the correlation between gay men and HIV and it's just I can see how infuriating that is specifically because I do think Uncle Red got off on duping straight men into believing that he was a woman I think that was also part of the quote allure for selling these videos yeah I think the people that were purchasing these videos that was a huge element so it just it's very annoying there have also been conversations on whether or not this is a comparable situation to bonnie blue bonnie blue if you don't know is i think she's based in the issue british i'm not sure but she's an only fans model who recently broke the record of sleeping with like a thousand men in 12 hours in a day a thousand men and she got a lot of hate i mean it made news internationally people hated her versus uncle red i think he's almost become a meme to the point where i don't think people hate him per se they just make fun of him i don't think there's this like deep rooted i despise you you're setting humanity back whereas that was the case with bonnie blue and there has been this debate of, wait, why is a woman who does it consensually with men that are consensual, with men that know everything about her, and she's very proactive about STD health and preventing STDs, why does she get hate, but this man who's doing it is almost become a legend?

1:18:13So there's that conversation, and it's just, I mean, then a lot of guys come in, and they're arguing, oh, Well, you know why? It's because in Bonnie Blue's situation, the real victim are women, because women feel like she's perpetuating negative stereotypes about women and creating this stigma that women should be open and available for men and are obsessed with just like anyone on the street. Whereas in Uncle Red's situation, he's only victimizing men. And so these men are saying that's why women don't care. And that's why the world hates Bonnie Blue, because the ultimate victim is probably bonnie blue and other women and whereas for uncle red it's just men but then there's been a lot of pushback on that as well there's even been pushback on uncle red's name so a lot of chinese female netizens are really upset because initially he was called uncle red and then people started calling him sister red or like a red auntie also just for clarification Some people call it Uncle Hong.

1:19:13Yes. So H-O-N-G is the Chinese word for red. Yes. That's why people call it Sister Hong, Uncle Hong. It just means red in Chinese. And a lot of Chinese female netizens were upset. And they were stating, stop calling him Sister Hong. Like there are zero women involved. This is a man's crime. Don't drag women into it. Like this is a man targeting men, harming men. And why do we have to call him a woman? And I think it has to do with the fact that he never states that he is trying. It has nothing to do with the trans community. It genuinely just seems like he did this because it's part of the allure.

1:19:56It's part of the videos. It's part of maybe a kink that he has is to trick straight men. So a lot of people were upset about that in China. And they're saying it doesn't make sense why we have to make him Sister Hong. With a lot of female Chinese netizens fighting back and saying, if a woman had genuinely secretly recorded and leaked footage of her sleeping with over a thousand men, sold the footage without the men's consent and profited money off of it, she would have been eaten alive online. But Uncle Red has become a meme. So this is not a woman. Like, this is Uncle Red. He's never identified as a woman outside of committing these crimes.

1:20:34So what are we doing here? That's been a huge argument. others are arguing uncle red did nothing wrong except for the videos they're saying having sex with men is not wrong as a man and everyone's like wait but we know that so that's just been like a weird conversation but some people are commenting justice for uncle red he did nothing wrong those men wanted it i mean i think that has a deeper meaning than just the words on the screen though because those men wanted it that sounds like a play on when female victims want it with one netizen also writing i think apart from the secret filming and cheating there is nothing to criticize there's nothing wrong with being gay being bi but there's nothing wrong with dating or hooking up there's nothing wrong with liking uncle red's appearance either which a lot of people are like well now you're just boiling it down to this like random argument that everybody already knows it's like of course nothing's wrong with being gay we already knew that but this is like a really weird situation to be like there's nothing wrong with being gay when everyone's like yeah we know there's nothing wrong with being gay you're the weird one for thinking like this is your coming out moment of like there's nothing wrong with being gay like no we've been there we all know did you just catch up so there's been that argument of people fighting back and forth and then some people are saying people who are saying that are just trying so hard to be woke that they're like no no guys this is a victimless crime and then some people it's just been such a fight yeah there have also been some memes that some people find funny some people will find very offensive but some netizens have gone on to photoshop uncle red's face onto buddha statues the buddha statue that depicts uncle red standing resting both feet on the heads of two young men and in one hand is a watermelon in the other hand is a bottle of oil others are making cakes of uncle red's face with words that read i wish you have 1691 men pursuing you this new year it's supposed to be a celebratory cake and so people are like that is crazy that this is happening and it just seems like the deeper that you go in if you pass like the first layer of memes and people joking around it becomes this black hole of moral dilemmas and arguments and it seems like no one seems to agree on any aspect it seems like at some point people start diverging in their thoughts and their moral opinions of like, okay, well, maybe some people think it's okay up until this point.

1:23:00Some people are like, it isn't okay up until this point. And it just goes on and on. What are your thoughts though? Side note, Uncle Red is, if sentenced, which he likely will be, he will probably spend at least 10 years in prison, if not more considering how strict the justice system is in China. But what are your thoughts? Let me know in the comments.