Husband KILLS Wife For Denying Sex During Her Period

28:01Does it say extend to marriage doesn't guarantee you access to a man's wealth or resources? I love when people just like have imaginary money that they're hoarding from like potential gold diggers. You've never seen the money. We don't see the money. What are we talking about right now? Just like make-believe stuff. But they go on, or is it just your view that sex is the only place you get a choice? Another person has a less polarizing yet differing viewpoint writing depends on what you consider entitled to. Everyone is entitled to be in a relationship that meets their emotional and physical needs.

28:36This includes sex. If the relationship doesn't meet said needs, whatever they may be, then a person has the right to complain, to discuss it, to work it out, or to leave if the needs cannot be met. So while you are correct that marriage does not give you the right to R-word someone by forcing them to have sex, you are entitled to have your emotional and physical needs for intimacy and sex met by your spouse and to be disgruntled if they're not doing so. Another one responds very weirdly. I agree, but I must ask, why the hell would you marry or stay married to someone who doesn't want to have sex with you?

29:09Another person writes, I would say sex is basically part of the marital contract. I mean, you're basically just friends or roommates otherwise, which you wouldn't need all the legal complications of marriage for that. So yeah, You are entitled to sex from your partner. And then you click on like a suggested change my view. A woman who expects her husband to completely devote himself sexually to her yet refuses to have sex with him is both selfish and cruel. If a woman refuses to have intimate relations with her husband, the husband then has every moral right to check out women, flirt, view videos, and even in certain cases, cheat.

29:46A woman has every right to refuse sex if she doesn't want it, but freedom to choose also means a prohibition on a man from having any sexual outlet whatsoever is very wrong. Cheating is a violation of exclusive sexual intimacy, but in a sexless marriage, there is no sexual intimacy had. I will say that aside from people having medical conditions or some sort of psychological reasoning of not wanting to be intimate with their partner, typically your partner not wanting to be intimate with you is usually something wrong with you if that makes sense like these husbands i would say that this is not the majority of married couples or reflective of husbands or anything like that it's just such an odd thing it's weird but there are people that are very serious about it not even just on r slash change my view there are people that will write things on reddit like if you get married you are essentially signing away your sexual consent in exchange for financial and emotional and relationship stability.

30:48If neither party is ready to give up on their autonomy, then they shouldn't get married because breaking those technically voids the marriage contract. Saying no to a husband simply isn't an option unless you're physically incapable, which might be the case after an argument or if you're sick or whatever. With a boyfriend, all bets are off. You didn't say any vows. Do what you want. Remember when, honey, I have a headache used to be something people joked about. That was back when the marriage commitment was taken more seriously and that was only 10-ish years ago. Nowadays, you don't even need an excuse to turn your husband down and it's disgusting that this has become acceptable in society after people have made marriage vows stating the opposite.

31:26The more alarming part is there are a lot of women who agree with this viewpoint and there is a Reddit thread where one woman writes, I told my friends I never say no to intimate relations except for serious illness or injury, which my husband wouldn't ask for intimate relations if that were actually painful or dangerous. But there are times when I'm tired and technically not in the mood. Sure. But I would never say no. My friends felt like that was horrible and degrading. I think a lot of couples are in the never say no camp, not because they're not allowed to say no, but just because like people have good times with their partners and usually your partner will know when to initiate.

32:02And by that point, everybody's in the mood. Everyone's excited. So you don't really end up saying no. But the reasoning that she gives for never saying no this is her life it's her dream but it's interesting she writes the way I see it is before marrying my husband he could have sex with so many women he made the choice to marry me and just be with me as a good wife I want him to feel I'm available to him whenever he wants and needs even if I'm tired I put in effort if he's in the sauna and the other men are complaining about their sexless marriages I want him to be able to say oh my wife never says no a fake imaginary very steamy, hot, sweaty sauna session between a bunch of dudes is like the strangest thing to revolve your life around as a wife, but like here we are.

32:47Unfortunately, this seems to be a much bigger sentiment than I thought. SJ falls directly into this group. His friends say, SJ had some unique outlooks on marriage relationships. He would say to us all the time, if I can't have sex with my wife where am I supposed to get it should I go pay for it but like he was drunk you know or he would say things like look if I want to she needs to do it that's what marriage is but again he was drunk so maybe he was he didn't mean it four months before getting married Haeyoung and SJ are on their way back from a big friend vacation in Vietnam this is august of 2024 they land touchdown at incheon airport in south korea haeyong feels odd she goes to the restroom and within minutes there are ambulances outside of the airport she is being rushed out there is blood everywhere it is so much blood because she is she's miscarrying six months into dating haeyong sj and haeyong had gotten pregnant they actually found out a few days before going to vietnam this is like a trip that they had planned for weeks with their friends but Haeyoung who has always wanted to start a family she's so happy about being pregnant she even immediately asked so in Korea you get like the pregnant woman badge and you can use it at subway stations or like on the train or in public transport because a lot of women don't show immediately or during winter you don't see it and it's in Korea it's a big deal you do not sit in the pregnant woman section if you're not pregnant so that's why they hand out these badges she even got that she got all these pamphlets about her pregnancy and she keeps asking her doctor like are you sure i'm safe to travel just to give you some context i think she found out a week before like a few days before she's set to go to vietnam the doctor is like you're gonna be fine i mean everybody is different however you're gonna be fine you're cleared for travel this should not be alarming you're very early into your pregnancy you're gonna be okay it's not even that long of a flight.

34:52Haeyang dots all of her I's, she crosses all of her T's, and then when she touches back in Seoul, the baby that she had wanted so badly, she ends up miscarrying. But this is the part where it's just like odd. There is a text message from SJ to Haeyang the day after she miscarries, and it reads, it's fine as long as you and I are healthy. We can make another baby. I feel so inadequate and foolish. I'm so sorry. Why would he need to apologize? Is he just apologizing because she's going through something so traumatic? Haeyoung's friends say when she was pregnant, he wanted to do it. They did it once after she found out she was pregnant and there was a little bit of blood.

35:34And so she was really worried for the baby. So she kept refusing to have intimate relations after that. They fought about it. And she told us that she ended up having sex again, even though she didn't want to. And then she ended up miscarrying. nurses see a lot that's an understatement nurses have probably seen more of me than my own husband which sounds crazy but my husband has never pried my mouth open shoved a flashlight down my throat to see if there's like a foreign body lodged in my throat after a particularly intense meal okay so these nurses they see a lot and they see a lot about people's personalities especially couples one reddit thread from a nurse writes husbands in the delivery room often do more harm than good In my view, the husband in the delivery room often can't provide meaningful support and may even create more stress.

36:23Many people frame fathers being in the delivery room as a romantic or heroic act, as if witnessing every moment is required to be a good dad. In reality, the practical benefit to the mother is often minimal. A husband who stays outside handling logistics, communicating with family members can actually provide more meaningful support, which you have a lot of people disagreeing. I would also disagree, stating that women are the most safe in medical situations, especially childbirth, when they're relaxed and comfortable and feel supported. However, there are a lot of nurses fighting back saying, yeah, in a perfect world, but most husbands, they're on their phones the entire time while their wife is in labor.

37:02Or sometimes they're causing more distress, making their wives feel more pressure, or they're not being helpful with other family members that are hounding, giving their 10 cents to the wife about how they should approach childbirth one woman writes my husband went downstairs to charge his phone and call his mom from the car when i called him an hour later because i was nine centimeters dilated he said that he was at sam's buying tupperware tupperware another wife writes my husband asked if he could borrow one of my pillows because his back hurt and i had too many the nurse has seen it all and for haehyung it's not just a miscarriage, which is already very traumatizing.

37:43Haeyoung actually suffers from a very rare condition that only one in 30 ,000 women have, where she has a miscarriage, which a miscarriage is when you have a fertilized egg in the uterus and the pregnancy is not going to come full term. So you miscarry, right? But she also has an ectopic pregnancy at the same time. So Haeyong's ectopic pregnancy goes unnoticed for a while because this is really rare. So if you don't know, an ectopic pregnancy is when you have a fertilized egg, but it doesn't end in the uterus. It's outside the uterus. A lot of the times it's in the fallopian tube. And this is very dangerous.

38:20You can die. You can very easily die if you have an ectopic pregnancy because that fertilized egg is going to start growing. and a fallopian tube is not like a uterus where it's meant to bear a child. It's not going to stretch. So what it'll do is it'll burst and then you will be heavily internally bleeding until probably you die unless you get emergency help. It's very dangerous. So she has an ectopic pregnancy outside of the uterus and she had a miscarriage inside the uterus. So with all of that, a lot of the symptoms of the ectopic pregnancy, she thought that it was from the miscarriage so it goes for a very long time that she doesn't realize that she has this life-threatening condition and eventually once it is realized there has been so much damage done that the the doctors tell her that they need to have emergency surgery and remove that fallopian tube wait so when was that surgery or this is before the wedding so this is like a month after so around September.

39:22Wow, so there's so much happening. They came back from Vietnam, she miscarried, and then the surgery, and then the wedding, and then three months later. This is just like... In six months. Wow. So Haeyoung is texting her sister about what's going on. I had surgery with one fallopian tube removed. There were also two uterine cysts when they opened it up, and they were black and about to burst. So in Korea, it's not as common in the United States. I think in the US, a lot of the times it is the nurse's duty to feed patients who cannot eat by themselves. In South Korea, unless you're in very specific like intensive care units, a lot of the times it's up to the family members to feed the patient.

40:07So the nurses, they will bring all the nutritious hospital meals that have all of the requirements and they'll make sure that you're eating and they'll check up on you. But a lot of the times, unless you're in like the ICU, a lot of the nurses depend on the family members to provide care. So family members will do shifts. If you've got work, then someone's doing like a breakfast shift. If someone's doing a lunch shift, someone's doing a dinner shift. It's just a thing that happens in Korea. I don't know if it's embedded in the health care system or if it's just like a societal thing that is built into the communities and the families.

40:36I don't know. But it's a thing. So every time Haeyoung is recovering from the surgery, she's laying there. Every time the nurses bring food, Haeyong doesn't want to eat. She has no appetite. She doesn't want to do this. She's exhausted. And it's up to the family member to airplane that spoon, to beg, to plead, to negotiate that your loved one eat the hospital food. SJ's supposed to be spoon feeding her, but because she doesn't want to eat, he is sitting there eating every single meal that gets delivered. And every single nurse that walks by is judging the shit out of him. Haeyong has no appetite.

41:10she feels too weak to eat and eventually she's getting annoyed by him she's sick of seeing his face and she tells him you know what go home and just feed the dogs he ends up going home she checks the home camera and he's not just feeding the dogs he ordered himself a pizza plopped on the couch and is watching tv and munching while she's recovering from this ectopic pregnancy which he got her pregnant and he's just at home eating pizza so understandably with all of this like trauma and pain and the emotions haehyung tells her friends she just feels really disappointed in him like she just doesn't like this but worse is that one month after this so this is again still before the marriage one month after there are text messages between the two where haehyung is telling him ever since the pregnancy and the miscarriage my body has been so weak everything changed suddenly it's been hard to adjust there's just I'm just exhausted he responds when we're tired we should support and lean on each other yeah what you're saying is right but you only want one form of affection expression and I only have one body so he's saying you and I are both tired and when couples are tired we need to depend on each other and she's like the only way that you think you can depend on me is for sex and I can't have sex right now.

42:31That's crazy. So he's asking for sex. Yes. Basically. One month after the surgery, she texts him, if we tried it once and it hurts, shouldn't you think that maybe my body hasn't recovered yet? It hasn't even been a month yet. The scar on the outside of my body hasn't healed. How could the wound inside my uterus be healed? SJ responds, well, the doctor said we should return to daily life in a month. which by the way that is a suggestion usually I mean doctors are all over the place some doctors I was on reddit of women who were recovering from similar surgeries they say their doctor said two weeks you can return to normal life some people said a month six weeks and these are guidelines usually the rule of thumb is when you want to return to normal life especially when it comes to sex because it's not like, oh, my arm broke.

43:25I can't have sex for a month. It's like you're talking about the exact same body parts. Haeyong feels like this is happening because of an act we did together, but alone I have to suffer. And yet my body is still an object of desire for you. Like it doesn't make sense. She's texting her friends in frustration after the miscarriage and the fallopian tube removal. It hasn't even been a month, but the doctor said it was okay to have intercourse after a month. So he keeps whining and we did it. And I didn't say anything, but it just really hurts my feelings. Her friends are upset. Why didn't you say anything?

44:00Someone else is responding. God, this must be really hard for you. Haeyoung texts SJ. Stop whining. And like this, I will say it's like, it's like, okay. Usually there are different Korean words. Sometimes there's not like the exact word that you can use in English. when you have someone who is complaining, like a husband who is complaining, it's a very different vibe. But the word she uses is like, 징 징. 징 징 거려. It's like, very much like, like when kids are like, 징 징. Like, I want to do this. I want to do it. That was his energy. That's the word she uses. Otherwise, you could use, stop complaining, stop nagging.

44:41Like, there's other words you could use. But 징 징 거려 is very infantile. It's like what kids do. Like you really only use it. I would say that my parents treat me like a giant child still, but they still don't tell me don't 징징 거려 because it's such a specific thing. Right, like stop being a baby. Yeah, it's very like, it's not just whining. It's like very... Yeah, that's so weird. It's like that rhythmic tantrum usually. Because 징징, it's almost like an onomatopoeia. It's like a sound.

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47:56And he responds, if I don't initiate skinship first, we never have skinship. Skinship, by the way, is like the Korean term for touch and sexual activities. They call it skinship. I'm just asking you to love me as much as I love you or even just a little. There's a famous Pilates studio in South Korea called Diana Pilates. It's a 6 ,000 square foot. It uses the entire ninth floor of a glass down building. I mean, you see the whole view of the other buildings, the mountains in the back. It's beautiful. A lot of good K-dramas were filmed inside of this studio. I feel like it was really popular during the Pilates hype during COVID.

48:34And then they started doing some reinvention. once the reformer pilates started slowing down they went into flying pilates which is when you get like put on the bungee cord and you just oh yeah the one that you hop around yeah it was really popular in korea i think that it's probably not a tried and true tested form of working out in the sense of i'm sure you get a lot of results but it becomes like a thing where people don't know about it or they have to find out about it it almost feels like a trend you know how there's always trends for workouts. So they switch to this, a lot of the flying Pilates, and eventually the membership does take a dive with Diana Pilates.

49:16And then this definitely makes it worse. There's a new notice on the front door that reads, following the traffic accident, the director, SJ, his spouse has passed away and SJ remains in critical condition in the ICU. The current owner of the building who knows of the director's sincerity has arranged it so that the members can continue using the facilities without any inconvenience or charge members may rest assured and continue using the premises as usual we will continue to repay you with a better environment and service we ask for your attention and your support wait is he the owner or he's the yes sj is the owner of this pilates branch interesting yeah and this notice goes up after haehyung dies but there was no car accident.

50:03Haeyoung did not die in a car accident. SJ is not in the ICU. In fact, he's getting arrested as the main suspect for Haeyoung's murder. Oh, so they're trying to hide it. Hide the fact, I see. SJ is defensive. He's asking the officer, what are you saying, that I did this? We didn't say that. But was Haeyoung sick? And these are direct quotes. Why are you asking me? What did I do wrong? SJ tells the police, I have no idea what happened that night. He explains they came home after drinking, and even with drinking, Haeyong has really intense insomnia. So the typical routine is that he sleeps outside on the couch until she can fall asleep inside the bedroom, and then he'll quietly go into the bedroom and sleep.

50:45She has trouble falling asleep, but once she's asleep, she's not a light sleeper. He goes into the room a few hours later, and he knows for certain she's knocked out. He's like, which by the way, I'm not like awake for all of this. I fell asleep with the TV on outside in the sofa. I woke up early in the morning to go use the restroom and that's when I was like oh she's definitely asleep let me go sleep in the bedroom I moved back into the bedroom I lay down next to Haeyang and then I wake back up to go to work and she's still asleep so I'm letting her sleep in he explains that when he gets to work however normally Haeyang will wake up a little bit after that even if she had been drinking the night before but she doesn't text he calls her four times around 2 p.m she doesn't pick up how are you still asleep till 2 p.m he's like this is weird he runs home she's dead on the bed he calls emergency services and that's all he knows he doesn't know anything else i mean to some degree this is all very trackable there is cctv footage of him leaving the apartment to go to work at around 10 in the morning his body language looks nonchalant 10 a.m in the morning he goes to work yeah but she was um you know she has passed since six yeah right okay and he looks really relaxed he starts walking in the direction that work is But when the police ask his employees if he got there as he normally does, they say, well, no, March 13th was weird.

52:04He didn't come in. He usually comes into the studio by 11, but he wasn't there. He did text me, though. So one of the Pilates instructors is like, he texted me around like 1.30 asking me about my paycheck. It was just like a normal conversation about the pay step. That was it. Then he calls his wife four times. She doesn't pick up. He rushes home and then calls emergency services. this. Haeyoung's friends have problems with this because it's very nonsensical. What do you mean a completely healthy 30 year old woman who, by the way, she has been very health conscious. She's not the type to notice something wrong with her body and hope for the best.

52:39She's getting a checkup. What do you mean she just passes away in her sleep? She didn't drink heavily the night before. And when she, it's not like she threw up. There's no evidence of throw up. There's no evidence that she was so drunk she couldn't get up and she choked on her vomit, which is a very real concern. she just passes away peacefully there's just no way looking at the autopsy results she has a bruise on her upper lip on the left side a faint very faint bite on her lower lip so again these are all things that she could have self-inflicted as maybe she's choking or asphyxiating or you know something but one thing you can't explain is this very faint red line around her neck are we supposed to believe that she was wearing a scarf when she went to sleep or that there was a random string on the bed that she laid in rolled over somehow tied it around her neck to asphyxiate on by herself it doesn't make sense one of the neighbors in the building the one right below hae-young and sj they say that night they did hear something weird so much so that they even reached out to hae-young the next day to make sure everything was okay what did you hear we're light sleepers pretty sensitive so we normally actually just block out normal life sounds so if we hear someone thumping or someone it sounds like someone dropped their phone or stomping you kind of learn to disregard it living in an apartment but that night it was a strange and unfamiliar sound it felt like something dragging like heavy like if you were to drag furniture but it doesn't make like the you know how legs furniture legs will make like the squeaky sounds it's not that it's like if you were to drag a mattress it's like fabric or like just something heavy and soft what and then we heard this really weird flapping sound it was kind of like

54:33like a bird okay so the word is like like the bird wings trying to flap but you're holding onto the bird that's kind of the feeling it's like a flapping noise it's not like a thumping noise it's like a flapping noise it's like a very specific noise and like that that you just don't expect that to hear from a neighbor in the middle of soul and then a strange like noise like almost as if someone is like breathing out like that's really like clear they can hear very clearly and it sounded like a woman it didn't sound like a man and that lasted maybe about like 30 seconds they didn't think much of it i mean they might have thought if it was something else maybe but the next morning they see a bunch of police officers so they start freaking out and that's when they text haeong and they find out that she's gone the flapping noise how long did you say it lasted that they don't know but they said it lasted a while like all of this and then it The ugh sounded like choking for like 30 seconds.

55:38Yeah. Now, this is where it gets weird. There are home cameras inside the house, which is typically odd. People don't really like to have home cameras inside, especially with a lot of recent developments. So this was earlier in 2025, but recent developments of a lot of South Korean home cameras getting hacked for intimate websites, like illegal websites. But Haeyoung had these two dogs, and they were 15. She's had them for 15 years. So she just wanted to make sure they're okay when she's out at work. Her family is like, we got to look at the house cameras. If we don't know what happened in the house, just look at the house cameras.

56:14They get Haeyong's phone. Not only is the footage gone, the app for the house camera is gone. It's like if someone has a ring camera, you get their phone and the ring app has been deleted. Wow. What do you mean? So eventually SJ changes his story because none of this is adding up. the asphyxiation, the way that she died, the evidence. There's no evidence that an intruder had entered the home. The home cameras had been deleted. He is the only one that could have done something. He changes his story and he says, fine, I killed my wife, but it was an accident. He says that they had gotten into a drunk fight and all he did was push her because she was trying to get physical and that led to her hitting her head and passing away.

56:58The injuries don't line up with that story. She doesn't have any lacerations on the back of her head. How do you explain the marking around her neck? How do you explain the fact that her cause of death was manual asphyxiation? And what's crazy is he starts blaming Haeyoung. He says that she was looking down on his family. So he actually got upset, not because he is a volatile, violent man, but because he had to defend his family. This is like family honor. He had to stand up for them. SJ will later try to claim that he had read messages on Haeyoung's phone where she is talking to her girlfriends about his disabled mother and that because of his disabled mother, Haeyoung did not want to have kids with him because she was concerned this is a condition that could be passed down to their child.

57:39Authorities go through their chat logs. This is what they find. Haeyoung texts her friends. So he's saying she's like a filthy person. She's evil. She was shit-talking my disabled mother. Right, right. She texts her friends. My mother-in-law can hardly speak or walk. When I go there, I just end up sitting with her for a while before coming back. But Esri says he's happy that I talked to her and I make her smile. Then later in the group chat, Hye-young texts her friends, why did I marry this piece of shit? So it's like no one really responds. And then she texts this. He's trying to argue it's because of his disabled mother.

58:16She's texting that. But just listen to the rest of the messages. Why? What happened? I'm not getting pregnant by this motherfucker. I'm not going to have his baby. Huh? Huh? Actually, I would rather get pregnant and not have to have sex with him for a whole year. He actually argued with me saying, you promised twice a week. Why aren't you keeping your word? Wait, but it's not like you guys aren't doing it. Exactly. That's what I'm saying. It's not like I refused for a whole month or anything. We did it. And then the next day, the shithead just keeps starting again. He's just completely obsessed with sex.

58:48I feel like he's lost his mind. why did you even marry him then another friend chimes in i mean you must have married him because there was something good about him right i thought he would be a good husband i didn't know he was sex obsessed clearly she still wants to have children with him though because later she writes the doctor said it would be better to remove my other fallopian tube too but they told me that they could go ahead in the surgery and get rid of both but i told them i would discuss it with my husband first and then get discharged. Either way, I think I'm going to try IVF. But as the police go further down into their text logs, they find more messages from Haeyoung to SJ because, I mean, none of these motives make any sense.

59:32It's clear that he did not accidentally kill her in a drunken fight, which not that that would absolve anything, but it just doesn't make any sense. Haeyoung's messages to SJ read, but we always end up fighting because of physical contact. He responds, I want to be close to you because I love you If two people love each other and feel good together, isn't it natural to have sex? I don't want to right now If this keeps happening, we really can't keep seeing each other Okay, I won't push you anymore Then right before they get married, SJ texts Haeyoung Why do it if I'm the only one who enjoys it?

1:00:06It should be something that we both want Fine, from now on, we're not going to fight about sex anymore Haeyoung is upset by this She's like, we already had this conversation before about the same exact thing. Then another from SJ to Haeyoung. Don't say that you want to break up. There's nothing wrong between us. Haeyoung is agitated. You know, this is the first time I've ever told you that I want to break up, right? It's because I don't respond to your physical affection the way you want. And I can't match the level of affection that you expect. Let's just stop here. Honestly, it would be better for you to meet someone who fits your needs because I can't do it anymore.

1:00:43The police investigate and they find that in the toxicology reports, there were sleeping drugs in Haeyoung's system when she died. She would never take these drugs, these sleeping medications after drinking. She was really big on that. She thought that any sort of medication mixed with alcohol was like a surefire way to die. She would tell her sister, like, if you drink and take anything, like any sort of medication, you will die. The prosecutors believe that SJ approached Haeyoung in the morning, asked for intimate relations. She is having a very heavy period. So it's kind of complicated in the sense of she was not actively miscarrying when she passes away.

1:01:23But it seems like there are lots of complications that were occurring after the miscarriage, after the ectopic pregnancy, after the surgery. And this period, it wasn't just like, oh, I'm just having a rough menstrual cycle this month. It seems like this is the after effects of everything that's happened. she's having really heavy bleeding she's feeling unwell he approaches her in the morning asks for intimate relations she denies it and then he decides that he is going to impulsively kill her that's how he describes it but that impulsion lasts 12 hours later so that's in the morning she denies having intimate relations that's after the night out no so earlier before the night out he asks for intimate relations yeah she says no yeah so then they go out they have a good time and then he's very upset he ends up killing her that night she come back fell that night yeah it's just this is premeditated yeah so is that what they that's what the police come to and there is a whole like a behavioral psychologist that works for the police they stated i don't think this is a matter of sexual desire so a lot of people are saying okay is this like a sex addict that is mixed with someone who has murderous tendencies not that we're finding excuses but we're just trying to understand the concept of this because how does somebody how does a husband murder his wife because she doesn't want to have intimate relations usually you hear of husbands who are having affairs you hear of husbands for abc and DE reasons, this feels a little out of the norm.

1:03:10The behavioral psychologist says, I don't think this was a matter of sexual desire. If it's just really high sexual desire, he could have been sexually obsessed with other women as well. But that doesn't seem to be the case. This seems to be about control. Always. Yeah. They found other messages where he would text Taehyung like, don't ever think about cheating on me because I will track you down and I will kill you. Now, I know a lot of people love to victim blame and they're gonna be like oh well she should have left and not gotten married if he threatened to kill her but i will also say that even in english i think that there's miscommunication of like i'll kill you like uh like i'll kill you if you do something like i guess some people could think it as cute but in korean it's even more so because um like the term is it like yeah or like oh it's like people say that a lot like if someone is late for something it's very common for family members to be like oh it's like i'm gonna kill them so it was probably texted in that format but i mean there were some alarming things about him and i again this is not me saying like oh she should have left he's the problem clearly but there is one time where haehyung's friends said they were in the car driving and this is in seoul they get into a fight he just stops the car in the middle of the road there's cars honking behind him and if you've ever driven in seoul if you've taken a taxi in seoul i mean it's like new york city people don't play yeah they're honking he just stopped and will not stop fighting the psychiatrist comments from the perspective of someone like the perpetrator the victim leaving and becoming another man's wife was unimaginable so it seems like she had brought up divorce in february they don't end up getting the divorce but things are progressing worse and worse she rejects his advances he decides okay she's definitely going to leave me then and then decides with the lack of control the anger and his bizarre feelings towards having intimate relations with his wife he kills his wife and they write you know in other words if i can't have her i will destroy her the case goes to trial he's sentenced to 25 years in prison a lot of people think that there could be more to the case um in terms of he was alone with his deceased wife's body for hours people are suspicious of what he could have done yeah what are those sounds him choking her and i don't know where the dragging noise is though if she was fighting and then she ended up on the ground and they're dragging in a tussle i don't know if maybe he choked her somewhere else and then dragged her to the bed but hae-young's mom still keeps photos from the wedding day in her house but she has cut out sj out of all of them and hae-young's friends say it's been really hard and also this is a thing with sj we don't know his name we don't know what he looks like because of the identity protection rules in south korea in fact we weren't really supposed to know who hae-young is what she looks like or anything about her but her parents wanted her to be revealed because they said you will never understand what was taken from us if you don't see like the beauty in our girl if you don't know who she is that's so rare yeah and i think a lot of a lot of haeong's friends see this as a way to prevent i think it's different so i think everywhere but especially in places like East Asia, marriage is seen as like, you have to get married.

1:06:58It's the next step of your life. And so a lot of people are using this case amongst other cases to be like, Hey, you really don't have to get married because if you marry the wrong person, you could also be dead.

1:07:14Haeyoung's friends say, whenever I'm struggling or I'm frustrated or I'm happy, I want to call heyong and i can't call her and i think about her every single day of my life and that is the case that recently went viral on instagram where it was just like a headline of like husband in south korea kills wife because she said no to sex during her period but it's just so there's so much going on aside from that what are your thoughts in this case let me know in the comments be safe and i will see you in the next one leviticus is this summer's horror discovery of immense power that critics are hailing as haunting and heartbreaking you see anything that looks like me don't go near it when a curse is inflicted on two teenage boys they must escape a violent entity that takes the form of the person they desire most each other i know it's not you critics are raving that it is a bone-chilling horror that's biblically scary it's gonna kill him leviticus rated r in beaters june 19th and get tickets now still figuring out father's day we can arrange that skip the tie skip the last minute panic with edible it's easy to send a gift dad will actually want order online in just a few clicks and choose delivery or easy in-store pickup from fresh fruit arrangements to chocolate dipped strawberries and decadent treats edible makes it It's simple to celebrate dad with something fresh, delicious, and beautifully made.

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