Part 1: Self-Help Guru Creates Wellness Company For Women To Receive “Orgasm Massages” By Trained Men

17:52Amanda Lee:It's facing the crowd. and they're laying there just full butterfly legs spread open is nicole day don't standing next to her is a fully clothed man who looks a little proud because i don't know i feel like anywhere else you could maybe mistake this as a person getting a regular massage i mean she's on the massage table there is no sheet to help cover her but she's laying there and she looks relaxed she looks like she's about to have a good time and fully nude fully nude and he's looking like Like he's about to do a job well done. He says, we're going to give you a show. It's a show, but it's a real show.

18:30Amanda Lee:You understand? Sometimes people say things like, you know, we teach demos and we're going to tone it down for you because you can't take it. Well, that's fucking bullshit. And the show starts.

18:40Reese Jones:How many people is in the room?

18:41Amanda Lee:A handful. Less than a dozen. And he leans over and he just starts with his hands manually rubbing Nicole Day-Done down there. and she's whimpering, smiling, crying, moaning, giggling, just like a whole wave of emotions that if you experience in five minutes, you probably should talk to a therapist about it. People say Nicole is like an electrifying orb. Like she is spreading this palpable energy, electricity through the entire library into everybody else. It's like her legs are spread open and there is this energy shooting out of her privates into the room. That's what they're saying. I wasn't in the room.

19:25Reese Jones:Like she's very expressive.

19:27Amanda Lee:Yes, but it's not that. There's electricity coming out of her, honey. It's like spreading through the room and you can feel it. Someone hesitantly walks up to the massage table because it's like they're mesmerized. They're entranced by this and they caress Nicole's leg and it's, she's shaking and pleasure. And it's almost like she's a conduit for electricity because his body starts to shake like he's having a seizure.

19:52Reese Jones:Oh, a guy went up to touch Nicole's leg and he starts shaking too.

19:56Amanda Lee:He starts shaking. Another person from the other side of the library blurts out, I feel a silvery sensation sneaking down my arms. I feel a vibration in the back of my legs. And after about an hour of that, Nicole's hair is very messy and she is smiling and the energy is thick and she explains to everybody. It's because they just witnessed her ome, a female ome, a female orgasm. And that is why she created her Silicon Valley company, One Taste. It's all about feeding female hunger. Nicole says, a modern Western woman has this mantra that we feel deep in our bones. It goes like this. I work too hard.

20:40Amanda Lee:I eat too much. I diet too much. I drink too much. I shop too much. I give too much. and still there is this sense of hunger I can't touch. The solution to female hunger is you have to pay Nicole Daydome, take off your pants, keep your shirt on, lay down, get into a butterfly position, your feet are touching, your knees are spread open, and you just have a stroker, which is a fully dressed, typically a man. They call them strokers. They look like massage therapists. They come over and for 15 minutes, they put a dollop of organic coconut lube on one finger. And they manually start fondling you.

21:18Amanda Lee:It's not sexual. It's therapy. It's meditation. Om is O-M. Orgasmic meditation. It's like you go to a yoga studio and instead of doing yoga, you lay there and the male stroker who is trained by one taste comes over for 15 minutes, performs an om on your privates. You don't even know each other's names. You don't get to know one another. You don't go to dinner first. It's a clinical service that is going to change your life. That's it. I mean, this isn't entirely a new concept. It's rumored that back in the day, women would go to their doctors and get diagnosed with hysteria, which back in the day, that could mean anything from you have a small headache to a full-on psychosis.

21:57Amanda Lee:But the old school doctors would just manually stimulate the patients down there to help them relax, which of course, then comes the rumor that women would start going to the doctor to complain of a headache that doesn't exist because their husbands at home couldn't get them off. So then why not go to the guy in the white coat that can do it for you? Yeah, it was a whole thing, okay? But now in modern day, there really isn't much holding American women in the Western world, maybe like certain cultures and religions aside. There's nothing holding you back from self-pleasure. But Nicole says it can be better.

22:27Amanda Lee:It always can be better. And that is the gap that Nicole Daydon wants to fill. This is the same woman who when she was just a little kid, Nicole said that she had this hunger. It was like this insatiable hunger. She's like five. life and every time she would see a woman in a miniskirt she wanted to run up to that woman and bite the flesh of the woman's the back of the knees like that soft flesh she just wanted to bite it I don't know she just has this crazy itch every time she sees a woman in a miniskirt she just wants to pounce bite the back of their knees she tried it once her aunt told her no good girls don't do that and now Nicole Daydon is giving TED talks and lectures about how females can oom Nicole says you can feel the stroke of the world, the whole world in a single stroke of Aum.

23:19Amanda Lee:All the pleasure and the pain and the joy and the sadness that are part of our intimate lives and our relationships and our lives in general, all of it can be felt in just one stroke. She says that when you have a really good Aum session, which you don't even have to climax. You don't even have to get the big ohm. You just have to sit there for 15 minutes while a stroker rubs you. It's just the laughter. It just wells and wells inside of me. And I became swollen with laughter. And then like champagne pouring over the sides of the bottle, tears began to flood me. My body was rocking. It was the first time I had experienced this sense of being so entirely, utterly uncorked.

24:01Amanda Lee:I was flooded with freedom.

24:04Reese Jones:So is it like a special type of massage versus like self-pleasuring?

24:10Amanda Lee:Yes. She says it's very specific. It's not the same as self-pleasuring. So when you are self-pleasuring as a woman, you are trying to reach the goal of the big OM. You're trying to reach the top of the mountain, but it's about the journey. And so when we, as a society, we are so focused on reaching this destination of climaxing. But she says, you know what I think a climax is? It's a crotch sneeze. That's all it is at the end of the day. It's not that important. It's just part of the process. Yes, it's just a blip in the radar, right? The true meaning is men, they are served all of these intimate things with their partners.

24:51Amanda Lee:They find a partner that they like and they are meant to be served. Women, you never really learn how to feel down there. Everything is so laced with shame. Everything is laced with, I have to reciprocate. Oh, if he does this for me or if she does this for me, I have to do it for her or him. But this, this is true meditation. You lay there for 15 minutes. Nobody expects anything in return. You don't have to sit there and perform and say, oh, you're so good at this. You don't have to scream and pretend that you've reached the destination when you haven't reached the destination. And you just get to experience.

25:30Amanda Lee:And it's almost a meditative getting back in touch with your feminine state. So many people want to hear Nicole Day-Done talk about One Taste, her company and the practice of OM, that she's able to book out a 1400 person conference hall at the Regency Hotel in San Francisco where a lot of mid-sized tech companies hold summits and conferences. Employees of One Taste are walking around with t-shirts that read powered by orgasm. Just walking around. They're forming lines outside the conference hall. Ladies, please find your nest. Everybody find your nest. Gentlemen, walk up to the stage. Please wash your hands and find your supplies.

26:09Amanda Lee:The supplies are a pair of latex gloves, a small glass container of organic coconut lubricant because we're not filthy animals. Of course, it's organic. Then women are guided to their nests. Nest is where you om. It's a yoga mat, typically, covered with a blanket, 100 % cotton blanket. The woman is to lay on her back.

26:30Reese Jones:Wait, this is the conference? Yes. 1 ,400 people conference?

26:33Amanda Lee:Yes.

26:34Reese Jones:Oh, wow.

26:36Amanda Lee:And she is to unclothe from the bottom downward, keep her shirt on, it gets chilly. Then she is about to experience an om for the very first time in her life, or maybe it's the 100th time. It's going to be 1 ,400 people who paid anywhere between$200 to$400 for this three-day summit. And they're all going to be oming together. Everyone received a red card. If you ever feel uncomfortable, hold it up like a little referee and we'll stop. But nobody does.

27:06Reese Jones:So there's 1 ,400 people. So is that 700 women? 700 pairs.

27:12Amanda Lee:Yes, but a lot of men pay to get in too.

27:14Reese Jones:Right. But are people coming in as a couple to do it together?

27:18Amanda Lee:No. There's actually one journalist who went in. And she was writing for the now defunct website Gawker. But she went into the conference to write about Nicole Day-Done. And one day she was a journalist. And they were just like, you want to try an om? And so she was like, that's not what I'm here for. And then she tried an om.

27:38Reese Jones:From a stranger.

27:39Amanda Lee:Yeah.

27:40Reese Jones:Huh. Okay.

27:43Amanda Lee:and it's a it's you know it's a three-day conference they have other things it's not

27:46Reese Jones:just three days of circle jerking i'm sorry how does she describe the experience or what's her

27:51Amanda Lee:takeaway oh yeah we're gonna get into it yeah but it's a three-day conference lots of speakers naomi wolf dr sarah gottfried robbie richman he's the former culture strategist at zappos i think they're the ones that do the shoes right they're all gonna be there to speak brian friedman He's the producer of A &E Show Intervention. I mean, the promotional website for this conference reads, the OM conference is a gathering of like-minded people who are passionate about exploring the power of female orgasm and everything that goes with it. Some people do yoga. Some people meditate. We OM, and so can you.

28:26Amanda Lee:The regular ticket price for this event is$795, but you can purchase your ticket today and you pay only$395. That's a 50 % discount. Take advantage of the special offer today. The ticket price will be increasing soon. by now. To be honest, it is crazy to think that most people don't purchase this ticket with the hopes of oming. And there's going to be this whole delicate dance around it because like, what do you mean you're just going to ome in public and people are around you and there's like another woman just an arms throw away. And these are people that you just met. You're going to find an ome partner in a sea of strangers.

29:00Amanda Lee:One taste staffers are reassuring everyone though. It's not unusual to get stroked by somebody you've only just met because it's not sexual. it's clinical you might even get stroked by someone and then realize i'm so sorry what was your name again but all of this is helping and we have things like safe porting so the strokers a lot of them have been trained or a lot of them have come to this conference and they learned how to the stroke and they will always get consent beforehand obviously but throughout the process the women's are the the person getting stroked all women are the ones leading no men are allowed to get stroked because it's a female practice.

29:38Amanda Lee:And if they say they don't like something, the stroker must immediately fix it. Also, the stroker is not allowed to complain or say, oh, they can only say, thank you for letting me know.

29:52Amanda Lee:And if the stroker is going to change positions or place another hand on the thigh or to start going faster, they're going to announce it out loud to the woman, such as, I am going to give you some grounding pressure now. You will feel my hand on your thigh. You're also heavily encouraged to speak out what you feel during the OM sessions, even if you're just witnessing it. So it has to be in neutral terms though. So the stroker will say things like, the color is very coral. You don't say pretty. You don't say wrinkly. You say neutral terms because everything about this is neutral. It's not laced with, oh, well, it could be prettier or it could look like this.

30:32Amanda Lee:It's supposed to be just clinical.

30:36Reese Jones:This sounds like a really weird role playing that they're doing. Yeah. Like just because you say it's clinical. Does that mean these guys they're working as a freaking healthcare worker? Like that's kind of off, right? Yeah.

30:51Amanda Lee:It's very confusing. And like you can see, it's very ripe with the ability of abuse, these types of environments. And one person just says, watching these demonstrations, I mean, it felt like my body was getting sunburned. and there was this soft arrow that was stopping my breath. Other people who have witnessed watching other people get owned say there was a moment where I felt like my body was a shell. It was hollow and I felt this white substance filling up from inside of me and inflating my chest up and it blew me up like I was the Michelin man. The three-day conference turns out to be a massive success.

31:32Amanda Lee:Even the Gawker journalist who got roped into doing an om, she says, oddly, it was thrilling. Like it was thrilling. She could see the appeal. And when she got home, there was almost like this feeling of being done from a drug binge because there was so much excitement and it was so, everybody was turned on and there was this energy and she tried to talk to her friends about it and nobody got it. They were all like, is this a cult? Like you're weird. Why did you do that? And so now she just felt so empty. Like she was hung over from like the three day party of her life. And she didn't know how to even operate afterwards.

32:07Reese Jones:How long was like that one session that she did or all of it?

32:10Amanda Lee:15 minutes.

32:11Reese Jones:But that whole thing only lasted 15 minutes.

32:14Amanda Lee:But they have multiple sessions of 15 minutes. Sometimes during the OM conferences, they'll do 15 minutes and then they'll just partner swap. I don't know why. Okay. But they'll just partner swap. and then there's just a new stranger and you're doing another 15 minutes. One woman says, just the idea of like dropping my pants in front of a stranger, you know, I actually almost left. But then at the last minute, I basically was like, fuck it. You know, I'm here. I'm going to do the thing. And once she did it, she said, that was amazing, terrifying and incredible. And then all I knew is like, I want to do this again.

32:51Amanda Lee:Another person says, After my first OM, I felt baffled, confused. It didn't really feel like self-pleasuring or anything I'd ever experienced before. It didn't even feel like... It was just something new. I wanted to scoff at it. I wanted to brush it off and explain it away, but I had to admit that something unexplainable was going on, something great and unexpected. During the group sessions, one former participant says, It was just crazy to hear how many different sounds that the women around me were making. It just felt incredible. I just felt really good about myself in a way that I never had before.

33:23Amanda Lee:Others say that they skipped doing the om with a stranger and just had an om with their long-term partner. And one woman says, at first, I would always rather have been, like, I'd rather have an intimate relation or do something for him that would make him feel good so that he would like me more. And it was very challenging for me to just lie back and feel. I had this fear that when we were oming, he would realize he didn't love me, but the opposite happened. I've never been able to trust a relationship this much in my life because now I don't have to guess how he's feeling I can feel how he is feeling One staff member told a participant I watched you om and you sounded like an orchid blooming for the first time in 150 years Another person says listen, it's not even that intimate.

34:11Amanda Lee:Okay, she says during and immediately after the om I had a sense of energetic movement in my limbs and the core of my body I felt more relaxed more alert at the same time more clear-headed cleared my brain fog gave me energy It's better than coffee Another says I would rather stay in a cave and om for a week than go on an all-expenses-paid trip to paris I just kept wanting to do it again and again and again and again and again One woman burst into tears at the end of the om session and nicole d 'adon walks up to them Why are you upset? because I don't want this to end.

34:45Reese Jones:Wait, so these strokers, are they doing like a, do they have different trainings or?

34:55Amanda Lee:So some of the strokers have different trainings. The employees of One Taste, they paid up to$100 ,000 themselves to learn coaching classes to how to become master stroker. That is the top level stroker is a master stroker. And they work for one taste. And then at these seminars, most of the people that are doing the stroking, they're just people that pay$200,$400 to come to this three-day conference. And they just spent the past 24 hours learning how to stroke. And now they're performing their first stroke on a stranger.

35:28Reese Jones:Fascinating. Okay.

35:29Amanda Lee:Yeah. Joanna Van Vleck is a very successful businesswoman. She started the Trunk Club, where you get your own personal stylist to send you clothes via a trunk every month. Her company sold to Nordstrom for$350 million. And she is now here at the One Taste conference. Van Vleck says about One Taste and Oming, at first I was like, ugh, this is gross. I was ultimately scared. It's vulnerable. Sometimes I still lay down to Oming and I'm like, what the fuck is this? If there weren't such incredible benefits, I would not lay down and have a man stroke my genitals. I just wouldn't. But Oming is fuel.

36:06Amanda Lee:We call it, you know, tired and wired. Most women are tired and wired and OM is the exact opposite of that. It's like eating breakfast. That's what we eventually hope. Instead of a latte, women will have an OM because that is what regulates your body. An OM for breakfast, you know? One taste is the whole foods for sexuality. The organic good for you version. The overarching thing, OM, is just part of the wellness. Everybody starts clapping. Next on stage, enter another big name in the business world, Robbie Richman. He was the former Zappos culture strategist, very successful. He's a very well-known guy.

36:47Amanda Lee:Tony Robbins was amongst his client list. Anyway, he gets up on the stage and he says that One Taste told him, you need to get your beast out of you. We got to get the beast out. And everyone starts clapping like, yeah, get the beast out of you. And in order to do that, they told me, you got to turn the heat up. People are clapping. Yeah, you gotta turn the heat up. That's how you get the beast out. I was in therapy for six years for anxiety. And he says, nobody ever suggested to me that maybe you're just turned on. Everybody's clapping. The crowd's going crazy. They're screaming and cheering like, yeah, you're just turned on.

37:28Amanda Lee:He says at one taste, they helped him more than six years of therapy did. Quote, it wasn't just intimate relations. okay it wasn't just that it was i went into the room with this girl and i had this desire to just

37:42Reese Jones:rip her limbs off what's happening right now suddenly the cheers stop and it felt it was

37:49Amanda Lee:interesting because i felt it all she felt it too you know and the interesting thing was i was barely touching her ooh that everyone is like okay what he continues it was this feeling like religion and as a person who studies culture like me, you know, that's one of the highest echelons to religion involves the full body, the full spirit experience. And it's got its articles of faith, the principles of OM that blow my mind, principles that apply to life, not just orgasmic meditation and this lifestyle I was starting to see. It resembles a monastery, except rather than deprivation, it's acceptance, it's desire, pleasure, freedom, it's connection.

38:34Amanda Lee:The cult-like rhetoric right after dismemberment fantasies was very hard to digest for the crowd. I will say there were multiple awkward moments during the three-day conference where everyone is like, Ooh, maybe this is not what I signed up for.

38:49Reese Jones:Was this recorded?

38:52Amanda Lee:There's lots of archived articles about this as well as some small recordings, but not much.

39:01Reese Jones:So what is he doing there?

39:03Amanda Lee:he's not he's a stroker yes he's a firm believer of one taste a lot of huge how does that help him though he's oh yeah what's in it for the men we're gonna get into that there's a whole what's in it for men just you wait okay now one taste marketing is focused on being tight pun intended tight around the edges it's about marketing owned to be as friendly for the masses as possible so dismemberment fantasies that's not as marketable okay they have i mean one taste has all the markings of a cult. They even have communal living buildings where a lot of OneTaste members and employees will live together.

39:38Amanda Lee:Nicole used to live there. A lot of OneTaste members still live there. They call it the warehouse. That's where they eat, breathe, sleep, OneTaste. So they usher him off the stage and they continue with more speeches. And it just feels like a, minus the dismemberment talk, a legitimate tech conference for a startup. Later, when asked about the cult allegations, Nicole Day-Done responds, if I were a person out there and I heard about a group of people who were living together and were doing this practice where they were stroking privates, I would probably think the same thing because I wouldn't have any context to understand because there is no context for connection in our culture.

40:17Amanda Lee:There's no context for any kind of female pleasure. There's no kind of context for sexuality within a rigorous practice. These things, as far as I know, have never really been explored skillfully. Anytime it's been explored, it's just been sort of on the fringe. And that's one of the reasons why I absolutely wanted to bring it to the mainstream. One of the reasons why I want to bring it there is so that we have checks and balances. Really, the model is Wikipedia, where everybody gets access and everyone puts their part in. Not literally. She says the whole arena of female pleasure is so dark and weird and scary, and it needs to just be out.

40:56Amanda Lee:It needs to be out in the open. Nicole Day-Done is a very interesting kind of woman. I mean, I will say that she is a pretty charismatic speaker, more so back during the prime of one taste. That has nothing to do with youth or looks, just like the prime of her career. She writes in her book, Slow Sex, when I first tell people I make my living teaching the art of slow, intimate times, I get to watch an entire weather system cross their face in a matter of about five seconds. First, I see a surprise. then curiosity, then embarrassment about their curiosity, then fear that I can see their embarrassment.

41:28And then finally, courage to proceed.

41:32Amanda Lee:You know, I teach a practice called OM, I tell them. It's a way that any man can bring out the big OM in any woman in just 15 minutes. Nicole says, I teach people that OM is really no different than when my Uncle Bob taught me one summer afternoon when I was 12 years old.

41:52Reese Jones:You're kidding me.

41:53Amanda Lee:Of how to really taste a tomato. Nicole says she grew up in California. Her uncle becomes a wannabe tomato farmer. And the first basket of heirloom tomatoes, he shows up at her house and is like, hey, sister, Nicole's mom, you got to try my tomato. And Nicole's mom is complaining. Jesus, Bob, they look deformed. Are we really supposed to eat that? Because heirloom tomatoes, they're like all the rage now. They weren't back then. Uncle Bob takes a big, juicy, lumpy heirloom tomato with a wart and all out of the basket, bites into it like an apple. And there's just tomato juice dripping down his chin into his beard.

42:27Amanda Lee:And then he pushes a fresh heirloom tomato at Nicole's mom. Nicole's mom is like, absolutely not. He gives it to Nicole who hesitantly, curiously, cautiously, nervously takes a bite of this tomato. And she describes it like any 12 year old would describe their first experience on ketamine. She says, rich, earthy, dense, words a 12-year-old has never spoken, the taste of minerals, where previous tomatoes have been porous, spongy, common. This tomato was pure saturation. It was as if the tomato itself had a built-in speed limit. It was not possible to eat it quickly and forget about it. This tomato took command.

43:08there was no mistaking it this was a tomato you wrote that in her book yeah my uncle taught me

43:17Amanda Lee:my uncle asked me what i tasted i couldn't speak i didn't want to break the spell what you taste he prodded as if he were a blind man asking me what i saw i wanted to sound very smart to impress him a difficult task when what you're describing is a tomato it tastes warm and a little sour it's kind of like when you lick a penny and it tastes like metal and you feel a sort of a jolt but at the end it makes your mouth water it's sweet but not candy sweet sweet the way skin smells soft said no 12 year old fucking ever okay but she says her uncle was proud of her and put his hands on her shoulders and gave her sage life advice that she will always abide by Nicole, the most important thing you will ever do in this life is really, really to taste a tomato.

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46:20Amanda Lee:eventually nicole grows up she's in her 20s she's living her dream life but she feels horribly empty on the inside when a friend approaches her with exciting news she is going to take a course on intimate relations nicole says i was momentarily scandalized there was you know that was something good girls like me didn't talk about but then i was curious then embarrassed at my curiosity then a little bit afraid then a little bit courageous and I signed up for the class with her. And that was the beginning of the rest of my life. Quote, if Uncle Bob had been there, he would have been smiling. Nicole says it takes a lot of time to get into the practice of OM.

46:58Amanda Lee:You know, you can be not good at being an OM. Like you can lay there and you're not doing anything, but you can still suck at it. She says, we women may be tempted to default to old habits of augmenting our experience, reassuring the stroker that he's doing well. by turning up the volume, breathing, moaning, moving in ways that may not be entirely genuine because you're trying to make them feel better about themselves. But of course, this all takes practice. Nobody gets their first OM right. Many women actually report that they prefer not to reach the big OM during the OM because they've come to enjoy just the massage.

47:35Amanda Lee:It actually increases their sexual energy. Whereas traditional intimate relations with a man is all about, you know getting rid of this excess energy getting you know you feel pent up you release the energy but ohm is the way that we can build up the energy within ourselves and people always say you mean i can actually use ohm to generate energy i can actually use it to increase my capacity the answer is a big enthusiastic yes ohm gives us the opportunity to refill our tank

48:07Reese Jones:think so i mean so far it sounds like a lot of things she said is not bad right it's yeah like it's not like really weird or anything it's like well you're encouraging women to yeah right and i

48:25Amanda Lee:think she's about you know at least on surface level her messages seem on par with female empowerment she says things like the real question isn't whether women should have power But what is power? I'm sorry. Okay. And how does it express itself through the feminine? That is not a question society has ever been eager to explore. For centuries, feminine power has been misunderstood, feared, suppressed. Nowhere is this clearer than in the way that we treat women's sexuality. Feminine sexuality has been framed as unruly, dangerous, chaotic, a force to control, manage, and hide and fill with shame.

49:05Amanda Lee:And all of this is why we need to own. So this is how it goes. A stroker applies grounding pressure on the woman's legs while maintaining eye contact with the woman's down there. The stroker then narrates what he is seeing in neutral terms. A lot of women report that they started crying once their strokers started narrating how their down there privates look in neutral terms because they've only heard it in very sexualized terms. so they've only heard it in very objectifying terms or in terms of like well it could look better so that it could be better for other people to enjoy versus just like hey your thing is kind of slanted to the left and they will say that and sometimes they cry because it's a very crazy revelation this is not a compliment nor is it a judgment it is just a factual observation and then a thumb and index finger get placed on very important spots and the pressure is as strong as the weight of two pieces of paper a almost like a tickling sensation then there's a 13 minute timer and the final two minutes are spent grounding slowing down so that they can come back down from the high of the experience 15 minutes is important because a lot of women have reported initially when they first start oming anything longer than 15 minutes makes their head very cloudy they don't get mental clarity.

50:30Amanda Lee:They get very confused. And I will say there's a whole silliness to this whole thing because you're doing some of the most intimate acts with a complete stranger in a conference hall filled with more strangers with the goal of it being more clear minded, promoting longevity and mental health. And there is a huge stress placed on the fact that you need to have a hundred percent organic cotton blankets as well as fully organic coconut substances to rub. and nicole says what this does is it creates so like how is this feminine power empowerment interrelated so first of all getting to know the female body is very important getting to know your own body and to be serviced without the need of servicing others in return she says is very important but also on top of that she thinks women need to be horn dogs okay so like basically the underlying message after i have read i want to say at this point i've read four nicole day don books that she published that she wrote i've watched like over i want to say like 30 hours of footage they have a whole youtube channel with podcasts where they just yap to each other she has multiple different conferences that were filmed i have watched she's still doing this Well, no, because she's at MDC Brooklyn in prison right now.

51:50Amanda Lee:But she was she was doing this for a very, very long time. And I had to consume all of that. And I will say it just this is the underlying message is women need to be horned dogs. They need to be turned on and they need to be horned up. And she says that's how you get things that you want in life, because that is your greatest power as a woman. That is your greatest energy is to have turned on energy. and men will just bend over backwards and do whatever you want if you have turned on energy. This is your only power as a woman, really. So you need to harness that power and stock up on the power.

52:27Amanda Lee:It's like you're battering up when you're owning, you're charging yourself with this power. She says, my challenge as a woman is that fundamentally any expression of appetite is shameless. I'm supposed to be small physically. I'm supposed to be small in expression. I'm supposed to be demure. If I have too big of an appetite, then I'm, I don't know, money hungry or gold digger. Although, you know, those things aren't the more challenging desires that women have, or I'm greedy, or I'm all the things that we think women are who have any kind of appetite that makes us go to the other side and pretend that we're demure and we have no appetite.

53:01Amanda Lee:So as a woman, when desire arises in me, the shame silences me. As a man, when desire arises in you, it gives you a lot of gusto. So we need to do that.

53:18However, however, the biggest clientele

53:22Amanda Lee:for one taste seems for the longest time to not be women, but to be men.

53:28Reese Jones:I wonder why.

53:30Amanda Lee:Exactly. And it's very hard to cater to a male clientele in a place like San Francisco when all you do is say, hey, women are better than men. It's very hard to have men walk in and pay you money. It's a very small niche group of men who still will do that. So Nicole then starts catering to her male demographic.

53:51Reese Jones:Wait, so she literally started a company to do these sessions, group sessions. That's it. That's her whole startup business.

54:01Amanda Lee:Yes. Then she headed into the wellness space with podcast books, you know, coaching sessions.

54:08Reese Jones:Okay.

54:09Amanda Lee:Yeah. She became one of those online course gurus.

54:12Reese Jones:So like a lot of like tech founders, tech people.

54:15Amanda Lee:Yeah. A lot of tech guys would go because when you're in San Francisco, you're an SF and you have a bunch of software engineers who are probably very intelligent, more intelligent than I will ever be. Maybe, maybe not. just kidding i shouldn't put myself down with these guys okay but they have not touched a woman because they spent a greater part of their lives studying right right so there is an appeal for yes certain demographics so they all show up and that leads to a very big problem in one taste which is how do you get women how do you get women for these paying men to stroke and that is partly the reason she is in prison right now wow huh nicole see like when i'm hearing this right it sounds

55:04Reese Jones:like yeah i can see how some women are does want to solve these problems or feel these feelings or so it makes sense but then when you say okay all the guys are joining okay i guess reality is that you can say whatever the hell you want to say people just gonna come in with their own whatever

55:28Amanda Lee:i know what you're trying to say because everyone has been thinking it people are gonna come in just trying to see a vagina basically yeah yeah like we could say all these things and make it pretty but ultimately the main clientele are just dudes who want to see a body part yeah and and

55:43Reese Jones:And the question is, most women, are they here for the reason of what she's promoting?

55:52Amanda Lee:So from what I can tell, after all of the rabbit holes that we've gone down from OneTaste, if I had to break up their clientele and who's joining OneTaste, is you have a group of large group of guys, older, younger, doesn't matter, all probably from the tech space, primarily in SF. and they don't know how to talk to girls. They've never really known how to make a girl feel pleasurable. They don't know anything. So they go here almost rather than like a pickup lesson. They go to this course. And then you have some older guys who genuinely think that it's a great meditative practice or you sometimes have like a huge group where couples, but they don't really stay in the one-taste sphere for long.

56:36Amanda Lee:They come trying to spice up their marriage. They learn the techniques. they do like a one-day course and then they go home and then they apply it to their home life right and then you have a group of young women a lot of these young women seem to come from a little bit more vulnerable backgrounds a lot of them have been essayed and they don't know how to feel comfortable with their bodies and nicole convinces them that she is the path and the light and these young women end up becoming the biggest commodity of one taste right that's what i feel like they are being taken advantage of and then you have older wealthy women who are just i don't want to say like the men but they kind of fit in that sphere of they give one taste a lot of money and they also want very young attractive male strokers and they're here for the pleasures of

57:27Reese Jones:one taste and she probably knows all of these she knows everything so she's playing five different games with different people yes wow and she knows exactly how to talk to whoever she's talking to now in terms of the the payment that like these tech guys or whatever is it all the same amount

57:49Amanda Lee:that she charges is it monthly or okay so it's ten dollars for a one night like get to know each other session and you don't own you it's like a ten dollar mixer there's cocktails there's fun It's like a community event, you know, that a lot of people will go to. And this is so manipulative. I'm going to go into it more later. But they have something called the hot seat. And these are people, again, that this clientele that they're attracting, a lot of people that are coming to this mixer, they're not typically, and I say this with love because I'm not a very popular person either. I don't have a ton of friends.

58:25Amanda Lee:They're not popular people. So they sit down in this chair, and all the OneTaste employees put their attention on one person for like 30 minutes. And this one person feels a high because usually when they try to talk to their coworkers, they try to talk to people. Everyone gets distracted halfway. They're looking at their phones. They're just maybe not the most entertaining people, but for 30 minutes, they had 10 people just captivated by them. And in the very back, there's a salesperson taking notes down of every single person's biggest insecurities.

58:55Reese Jones:They'll ask you during the hot seat.

58:57Amanda Lee:They'll ask you, what do you want? And then you'll say, I want to be successful in life. What do you want? They keep asking you, what do you want over and over and over again until it boils down to your biggest insecurity and your biggest desire in life. And that salesperson in the back is typing it all down in a laptop. Then you leave after paying$10, you leave. Then they call you and they say, Hey, didn't you have so much fun last night? Well, why don't you come back for a one day course instead of$10? It's$200 and you can spend like eight hours with us. It's like, okay,$200 is not that bad.

59:31Amanda Lee:They go pay$200. They learn how to stroke or they get stroked. They do own sessions and they have such a high because this is so exhilarating. Anything taboo is going to feel very exhilarating. It's going to feel like drugs because it's against societal norms. You don't just like go to a yoga studio and see a bunch of naked people and like touch a stranger.

59:51Reese Jones:Yeah. By the way, the hot seat is, do they force you? They have marks. Oh, so they're looking in the room. They're like, I want to target that new client.

1:00:00Amanda Lee:Who looks like they have money.

1:00:03Reese Jones:Oh, it's always a wealthy person.

1:00:06Amanda Lee:Yes, or someone who has like a pretty cushiony tech salary. Because you can tell. It's like when you are an SF, it's like, hey, what do you do? I work here versus I work at Meta and I'm a product manager. it's like, okay, maybe this person has a cushier salary.

1:00:23Reese Jones:Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, okay. So they're converting these people. I see.

1:00:27Amanda Lee:So then you have a$200 day pass day course where you learn how to stroke and you're so like exhilarated from this experience. And before you can leave, you get signed up for a$3 ,000 weekend course. And then you've already invested$3 ,000 in the weekend is so exhilarating. Then you sign up for a$16 ,000 week long course. Then you sign up for the master your coaching program that's sixty thousand dollars sixty thousand dollars there are victims who are like a hundred thousand dollars in debt in debt and they are considered employees of one taste but they they don't learn how to be an employee of one taste for free they're in debt

1:01:06Reese Jones:that's why they call it a cult yeah wow yeah and she starts catering to the men as well

1:01:15Amanda Lee:and she'll meet in the middle. She'll say things like, women are trained to see men as projects to fix men, right? We're taught that men are dumb and fundamentally these fumbling, bumbling guys and they need us to fix them. But what ends up happening is then all of a sudden you hear these women who say, I feel like I'm a mother, I'm mothering him and then they lose their turn on. They lose their turn on and this is like a noun. They lose their turn on and so we begin to worry about guys. oh, he's not feeling good and all these things. And they're usually just projections onto them rather than lighting up the kind of turned on masculine power that they need.

1:01:54Amanda Lee:She's got these very weird takes that she'll do during these one day seminars. This is how she ropes in the masses because when you go in too strong, too fast, it's a lot. So she'll slowly lead the men in. You know, I meet so many fantastic women, women who are smart and sexy and and winning and charming and women with charisma and who work a 10 hour day and then throw a dinner party for eight without as much as a nap. I mean, women, it seems who can do anything except find and keep their man. They watch the man that they desire fall desperately in love with women who aren't as smart, who aren't as sexy, who wouldn't know the first thing about choosing the right wine to go with the chicken.

1:02:31Amanda Lee:Women who have accomplished nothing at all with their lives. Why her? And when the men come up here and they start talking about their feelings and women ask this question, they are momentarily stunned by the men's response. It's simple. The guys point out the woman they go for is the one who is nicest to them. So she starts encouraging all the women in the class to be nice to men. Start with one moment of genuine appreciation and feel your way from there. She says, you know, at the end of the day, men, if you're listening to this, women only want one thing which is quote i don't know competence no i'm just kidding it all comes down to one sweet request be more you that's it that's crazy show yourself to us

1:03:20Reese Jones:it's all we've ever wanted so okay this is like straight up take uh tailoring to to the guy yeah

1:03:27Amanda Lee:because every sane-minded woman listening is like that's actually like on the bottom of the list okay we just want you to know how to do one thing one chore around the house do the dishes do the laundry don't leave your socks outside i don't know women were like i will say the comments were

1:03:42Reese Jones:crazy on this one what do you mean comments are crazy this is like after she goes to jail though

1:03:46Amanda Lee:a lot of people are like yeah okay well that's actually fucking insane tell that to the prisoners at mdc yeah it's just kind of not what a lot of women want it's a little pick me energy i don't know how to describe it. It is what women want. Yes, I want my husband to be more him, but I also like want the world to be better too. Like it's just, it's not that easy. And a lot of people have a hard time wondering why men were going to one taste seminars. This is why. Also, some men say they were never in relationships and they don't know how to talk to women. And so Nicole will guide them through it.

1:04:19Amanda Lee:She'll say things like, tell her that tonight you will use her body like a magnet. Every part of her body is going to come alive. One former male member says, one of the exciting things about the organization was, you know, compared to men teaching other men how to relate to women, you got it straight from a woman's mouth. Nicole would break down the dynamics of relationships. The man dilemma, what happens for men? They get all these ideas in their head about how to get access, get access. So first of all, the idea is you're entering the conversation with a separate sense of self. I don't know what she's talking about.

1:04:52Amanda Lee:The most powerful thing you can do is get in rapport with another human being. That's what OM is. You're syncing up nervous systems on a biological level. When you sync up nervous systems, these magical doors open and you won't know until you have the experience and then you will know. There's all these programs that are put into men about how to get a woman. First of all, tends to be precisely what blocks you. You may get the body, but you won't get the woman. You won't get the goods from that. She says, look, woman wants to have intimate times as much as men, just not what's on the menu. She likes what's on the menu, which is regular intimate times.

1:05:29Amanda Lee:She's just not hungry for steak every day. Women crave variety and surprise and spontaneity. We want a seasonal menu, a specialty menu. We want items that arouse and nourish and satisfy every part of us. It's basically that TikTok about wanting omakase. Okay. That's what she's saying. Women have as much intimate energy as men. It just freezes more easily. You know, women have less of, it's because we get frozen from body image. We have, we were turned on. We're just frozen from body image, previous relationships, something her dad said to her when she was 11. And by the time that you meet her in her life, she may be so iced over that only a trickle of that desire is getting its way through the ice without fuck ice, without regular access to the warm heat of a big ohm, the freeze gets deeper and deeper until she has no more access to get her desire at all.

1:06:23Amanda Lee:But really, a lot of the testimonials from men that have joined One Taste, it's all about the finger. One person says, I was really surprised to discover how much energy I could feel coming through my finger. I hadn't really believed it was possible. Some just say it helped their relationship. quote, since we've been practicing Aum, my girlfriend is so much more turned on. I cannot believe how different it is to have intimate relations with a woman who is truly fully turned on all the time. Yeah. And it just feels like Nicole is playing both sides. She tells women it's all about them while she caters heavily towards the men.

1:06:56Amanda Lee:And if Nicole is anything, she is a walking contradiction. And maybe that's her appeal. Before Nicole becomes an Aum coach, she was ready to become a Buddhist monk. Nicole was ready to join the Zen monastery in San Francisco. The only thing that she said that she would miss doing is doing it. I'm not kidding. So like any normal aspiring Buddhist, a monk, she does the same thing. She decides I'm going to go out on a one week binge. I am going to go to the craziest parties and all of SF and I'm going to just like do everything and do everyone. And then I'll never do it again. I'm going to be a monk.

1:07:32Amanda Lee:Okay. She's going to do it all. It's at one of those parties where she's looking to do things that she runs into this guy named Erwan and he's at this party. So naturally within a few minutes, Nicole tells Erwan her dilemma. She wants to be a Buddhist monk. She thinks that life will be really good for her, but she's also kind of like horned up all the time, you know, and he smirks and he tells her, I would like to introduce you to a practice that I've been doing. He introduces her to a practice that will soon become one taste signature, the Aum. But back then, they called it the D.O., the deliberate O.

1:08:07Amanda Lee:So after her first taste of a D.O., where it's basically the same thing as an Aum, Nicole ditches the whole Buddhist monk life and makes Aum her entire personality, her entire life's work, until she ends up at MDC Brooklyn in the same prison that Diddy was in, the same prison that Luigi Mangione is in, and the same prison that Ghislaine Maxwell was in. And that is where I leave you with part one of the One Taste cult. The audio part for part two is going to be up ASAP, and we're going to dive into all of the things that she made young female members of OM do in the... She almost became... I mean, I want to say she's like a cult leader in the sense of like she starts with this whole easily packageable ohm wellness for female empowerment and then she starts diving into the psychology she would tell essay victims the only way to get over their essay trauma is to get turned on by it and she would have them recreate their trauma so that's gonna be all deep dived in part two so with that be safe and i will see you in the next one.

1:09:15Bye.

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