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18:18Hold on, hold on, everybody. I've had a 10-girl dinner, by the way.

18:20Courtney Miller:Yeah, the girl dinner was good. The girl dinner was gorgeous. You ever try a bulgogi roll? I don't know what that is. Well, it's bulgogi beef. It's bulgogi. Oh, wait, yes, I have. That's more like Korean food. In a sushi cut roll. It's a fusion. It's a fusion. Wait, I've had it in a beef roll. And it's delicious. Oh, bulgogi rocks. You gripped the beef roll? Oh, yeah, I did. I was like, That's like what that guy wanted. Okay. I didn't get it. Faithful woman. Here we go. Our next girl dinner. Yes, yes, yes. My one-year-long gym crush liked me on Hinge. Oh, a gym crush is spicy because you are working out in tight spandex.

19:02All right.

19:02Courtney Miller:This is far more of a girl dinner here. Okay, okay. Oh, oh, oh, oh. Okay, okay. Tupperwares. We love it. Hummus. and those little cucumbers. Thick cucumber. Uncut. She's gripping the... She's uncut. Uncut, sweetie. So it's carrots, cucumbers, and numbers. And it's one carrot, and what's that other? It's two big-ass carrots, one... No, that's two... Two big-ass cucumbers. But little cucumbers. They're short. They're little, right? They're short and thick. They're like the little ones. Me at the grocery store looking at baby carrots. Look at these huge carrots. Whoa! Oh, you know what's funny? She writes exactly what it is.

19:44Oh, there's, oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, baby cucumbers and baby carrots with hummus. Yeah. That's a nice healthy.

19:49Courtney Miller:We did a good job. We did great. Okay, that's along the lines of my girl dinner because I grabbed like vegetables and I dip them in hummus. Oh, you know what it is? You know why we were confused? Because it's like, wait, why is there two cucumbers in separate containers? In separate containers. That's the lid. So there's two Tupperwares. So she opened this up in a rush. She pulled out all the Tupperware, went... Yeah. Read it. She's freaking out. She's freaking out because her one-year crush. Yes! Oh, my gosh. Here we go. Pre-dinner snack, there's way more food coming, but I'm too excited to wait, of hummus and baby cucumbers and baby carrots.

20:25Courtney Miller:I had a gym crush at my old gym for pretty much a whole year. It wasn't just that he's crazy handsome, unbelievably athletic, and very stylish. Oh, my gosh. No, no, no, no. It's that his form on all his lifts were perfect. My man cares about doing things right. He made 140 kilograms look like thin air. He could do multiple pull-ups with 20 kilograms chained to him in exquisite form. Really, it was like watching art performed in real time. He liked me on Hinge. I messaged all my girlfriends asking if it'd be weird to bring up the gym because I've moved cities and haven't been there since February.

20:57Courtney Miller:They all egged me on to ask and well, he ended up bringing it up. He was like, are you the girl from X Gym? I thought about saying hello a few times but you looked like you wouldn't want a bar of it. And I nearly cried. I couldn't believe a man this handsome could ever notice little old me. Anyway. And he can read the room. Yeah, very good, very good. Anyway, I need to work on the RBF, I suppose. But we are going on a date on Friday. We'll post update with outcome for those interested. This is so exciting. I'm kind of obsessed. The way she said chain to him, my goodness. this woman should write a romance novel you know a thing or two about those yeah I do romanticies yeah oh my gosh that's so exciting and that would not have been weird to bring up at all like oh wait aren't you great are you the girl that yeah excellent icebreaker are you the girl that squatted so well your butt almost hit the ground your butt almost exploded your butt hit the ground and then lifted back up like it was nothing yeah and you went back up not because of your legs because of your butt it was your butt it was crazy Yeah, so is that you?

22:04Courtney Miller:Wait, was that you? Is that you with the butt? I couldn't tell. Oh, my God. Wow. That's amazing. Is that deep? Well. Are you fucking joking? Why even give us that? I don't know. I have to read comments and stuff for me. That's like giving us sauce with nothing to dip it with. Are you joking? That's like someone going like, olive oil, a little bit of balsamic. Have a good night. Have a good night. No bread. Sorry. No bread. That's crazy. No bread. I think him not talking to her at the gym was like a green flag. Yes. Like it sucks. Like, cause you know, you want to be able to like approach people, but like the gym is a tough spot.

22:43The gym is a tough spot.

22:44Courtney Miller:It's a tough spot. I really do not want to be bothered when I'm at the gym. Same. No, I think an RBF is required at the gym. Yeah. There's unfortunately too many annoying people at the gym. Yeah. And I've worked out at so many different gyms. And like, I don't get bothered because I'm a dude. But like, I know women get bothered constantly. Yeah. And that sucks. Yeah, and I think it's even just having that awareness that women get bothered at the gym. It's like, well, but I'm a nice guy. Maybe they'll be cool with me. It's like having that awareness is huge. Yeah. I also work out early in the morning.

23:16Courtney Miller:I'm like, nobody wants to talk at 6 a.m. I'm like, everybody's trying to get to work. I don't know. I used to do Muay Thai very early in the morning and people were chatty. People still do. People were chatty. Muay Thai is different though because you have to partner up with people. So you kind of have to chat with random people. And I always kind of enjoyed it. Yeah, I guess that's a little. It was nice. It was fine. Yeah. No, when you and I talk about our gym experiences, it's so different. It is very different. Yeah, of course. Extremely different. You don't have a butt like her. Actually, that's not true.

23:45Yeah, you do. Yeah. I said I would stop talking about your butt, and I'm done. I'm literally done.

23:49Courtney Miller:No, you described my butt as being like, bow! Your butt's like, bah! Ah! Boom! Courtney's butt is like, bah, yeah. Oh, what's going on?

24:04yeah what's going on

24:07Courtney Miller:um some comments here uh someone posted a photo of a uh like tv pastor praying intensely going jesus i'll see what you've done for other people and i want that for me oh i love that i love that someone said can we talk about the fact that he noticed you and still decided not to bother you That's a green flag right there. The gym is no place to hit on women. Yes. Someone said, my gym crush found me on Insta last year and we've been together ever since and recently celebrated our one-year anniversary. Go get it, girly. Get it, girly. Guys, you can meet people at the gym. Not like directly at the gym, but you can meet people at the gym.

24:42Sorry. Yeah, later. What? You can meet people at the gym. Look at Shane. He's so respectful. He won't even laugh at it. Look normal. Look normal. Look normal. Do you know what's happening? do you know where you are right now? Oh my God.

24:59Courtney Miller:Only guy to fail a sobriety test when he's sober. Turns out you're sober, but your vibes are off. Vibes are way off, buddy. We're taking you in. Okay, update. What the hell is wrong with you? Really? You're actually so, I was like, what, why? So, okay, now the garlic bread hits the table and the girls go, why? Okay, we psyched you out, here's the girl. The girls go crazy. Here's a whole baguette. And I just freaking, bow! A baguette? That's not good. No, no. Then the girls would be like, which part do you want? You have to eat it like Scooby-Doo. Okay. By the way, your butt is like, oh, whoa! Yeah, because it's been through shit.

25:43My butt has been through some stuff. Okay. I'm sorry. Meaning I had a child. It's been sitting and, you know, whatever. just move the fuck. I'm grateful. I loved that.

25:56Courtney Miller:So this update comes from four days later. Check out this girl dinner. Hey. New girl dinner? That looks like a bolognese of some sort, maybe. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Why is there three poles? Wait, wait, because they're having a threesome. He's two guys. Another gym guy. Turns out he's two men. Oh, it's a dinner because it's, oh, my God, 24-hour pork ragu by my friends. Oh, my God. What's a friend's? Girls dinner. Plural. The girls are having ragu together. Okay, okay, it's for her support system. Pork ragu. I thought it was like him, her, and whoever else was having the third bowl of ragu. No, it's the friends.

26:33It's the girlies together. And the parsley is about, has yet to be put on. Yeah, a really nice cutting board too. Okay, here we go. We like that. In great detail, we said. By the way, I really loved my butt sound. I really did appreciate it. And I didn't mean like it's been through a lot. It's like, whoa, wow. Yeah, and that was it going like, wow, the world is wild. And whoa, I'm still here.

26:57And I like that.

27:03All right.

27:04Courtney Miller:Dinner from the other night because no appetite because I am sick. 24-hour pork ragu by my friends with homemade linguine by yours truly for three because my support system is elite. Oh, no. Guys, I'm so sorry for the delay. I was honestly tossing up whether to post this or not for fear of being accused of karma farming. and I can't edit the original post, nor do I know how to pin a comment and perhaps someone can enlighten rather than tear me down. I want to keep things very vague because he deserves privacy, so probably no juicy details beyond we had fun, we might meet again, but limerence is an invisible hand that can greatly mislead.

27:38Courtney Miller:Someone commented that I needed to stop idolizing this man and that I was in danger. I'm glad to report I was absolutely not. He is very polite, but I believe at our cores we are very different people and I'm not one to embrace opposites attract, Personally, I'm in a chapter of my life where I'd like for things to fit with ease and I'm not convinced this is the case here. But everyone deserves a second chance. To all the men who called me a slut and berated me for only caring about looks, I hope this proves you wrong. Why were there men in the comment? Because women aren't allowed to be happy.

28:10Why are there men? What the fuck? Get the men out of here! You can call us hot, you can call us too thin, too fat, whatever, but we can't call a man handsome, chained up. Let us live, bitch. Don't eat your fucking six-ounce chicken. Nothing against you, buddy. Them.

28:32Courtney Miller:All them. Them. That's crazy. How much is 20 kilograms again? Computer, tell me how much 20 kilograms. Is that a 45-pound weight? Nice. That's impressive. Can you do that? I don't know. A pull-up with a 45-pound weight is really intense. Yeah, exactly. You can do so many pull-ups, though, that I feel like maybe one big one will be okay. Yeah, do one big one. With perfect form? That's really hard. See, that's what you should say in the comments. Not calling this woman a slut. Men are not supposed to be commenting in Girl Dinner Diaries. Yeah, get them out of here. The only thing would have been funny is if they were all just commenting about, like, form and weights and stuff.

29:04Yeah. All right. No.

29:05Courtney Miller:To all the people who told me I had a whole year to shoot my shot and why did I wait when I could have taken action, you're actually right. I hope to be braver from this point going forward. And most importantly, of course, to all the support I got, which was entirely unexpected, thank you. I do not want this underwhelming update to deter the romantics out there. I believe my big love is out there and I'm bloody 30. Everything that must be will be. And good luck to all the muscle mommies out there. I loved reading your personal stories of connecting with your gym crush, getting married, and living a full life together.

29:32Courtney Miller:May love like that find us all. Aw. Yeah, damn. Wow. That doesn't feel like a type of story that you're, it's like, you need to go in and critique. Why would you go in and critique that? It's like, oh, a guy like, we matched on Hinge. It's like, well, let me critique you. Let me tell you, you little slut. with my insecurities and jealousy. Jesus. Yeah. A little bit of joy. Seriously, and also, while we're at it, we need to get a camera on Emily because I just want a camera to cut back to us and back to Emily being like... Emily came. It's crazy because nothing happened. Literally, nothing has happened.

30:10Courtney Miller:Nothing has happened, girlie. They matched on Hinge. And it's so cool that, like, life can happen in that way where she had a crush on a guy and he happened to like her too. And then, you know, they found out that maybe, oh, we're different people. Yeah, because it's true. Looks aren't the end-all, be-all decider of whether a relationship will work. Totally. So, yeah, the fact that she debated on the update in itself makes sense, especially with how people are responding to her and her one brief nice moment. Ugh. But. Well, I'm glad that she has her bolognese. Her bolognese? That's all you need to solve anything.

30:45Courtney Miller:It's a ragu. I need some... Shut your mouth. Amanda, get your shit together. It's a ragu. You know what? I'm done. Can we get Shane out of here? This is girls' dinner. Get Shane out of here. Not dickhead dinner. Do we have to bleep all that? For dinner, I'm having dickhead. That's what the first guy wanted. What is the difference between ragu and bolognese? Yeah. A ragu is cooked for a lot longer. It's in a wine sauce, right? and bolognese is more of a meat sauce, tomato. I can't have bolognese. Get this guy a cookie, am I right? I can't have bolognese. They are very different. I don't know what, I'm not Italian.

31:23It's kind of like a square is a rectangle, but a rectangle isn't a square because a ragu is a generic term for meat-based sauces, but bolognese is a specific type of ragu. Ah. So bolognese is part of the family of ragu.

31:36Courtney Miller:Apparently I was wrong. I knew that. We knew you were wrong, Shane. By the way, ragu is the daddy. Oh, nice. This feels like it goes back to the conversation we've had before where I've said that all pasta is the same. No. Get out of here. You need to wash off. Sorry. Go away. Sorry, different shapes. You need to get in a cold shower. All right. Cool. Get in a cold shower and wash it all off. I don't care. I'll eat it all. It's delicious. I'm just saying it's all the same. Oh, my God. I can't with you. Before we strangle you. Done with you. Next, girl dinner. Looking for innovative and slightly quirky nicknames to call boyfriend.

32:10Courtney Miller:What do you girls call yours? Check out, check out. Why did you say it like that? What do you girls call yours? Yeah, what happened there? Next up, we're talking to the next big sensation in this country. We are looking at boiled potatoes for crust, tossed in air fryer for 20 minutes. Pizza. To me, it... Potato pizza? To me, it looks like... I don't know what that is. Like, it looks like kind of like a drunk meal, you know? But it also looks like... But it actually isn't. She tried to make it look cute. Yeah, look at the plating. She's got the sauce run. She has like a sauce run, like a Top Chef sauce run.

32:43That's okay. This is okay. It just looks like a lot of... I think it must be. It is like a... Spices. Yeah. On a crust. On a potato crust with cheese on it. Anyways, good for her. That's incredible. Okay, I'm actually curious about the nicknames that people are providing. I don't really have a nickname for you, a pet name for you. You go, Shane? I literally do.

33:04Courtney Miller:Hey, stupid. Shane! Hey, Shane, come to bed now, stupid. I'm like, okay. No, she would never say that. She'd go, Shane, come to bed. Did she do that? No, she didn't like that. She didn't do that? I go, do you want to know what I do? Yeah. Sometimes when he's staying up a little late, I'll come down and go, stop her bed, Shane. Come on, okay, Shane. Come on, stop her bed, Shane. Stop her bed, Shane. Stop her bed, Shane. You like that? You like an old southern woman from the top of the stairs telling you to get to bed? Stop her bed, Shane.

33:40Courtney Miller:Hey girls, I'm looking to expand my vocabulary of nicknames and wanted to fish for some inspiration here. Calling them different names depending on the mood, sometimes sweet, sometimes catchy, and sometimes a little quirky. Like four asterisks baby, classic but a bit generic, my handyman when he fixes things, my big man, my blank inside jokes. I'm looking for innovative catchy ideas that drive guys absolutely crazy or just make them melt. I really want to avoid the cringe route. So things like daddy are a hard no for me. What are your absolute favorite unique nicknames for your guys? Give me your best, most innovative.

34:15Courtney Miller:By the way, this is my low effort boiled potatoes for crust tossed in air fryer for 20 minutes pizza. I mean, it looks pretty sick. Also, handyman is never going to make your man melt. I'm sorry. My handyman. Hey, handyman, get in here and fix. Sounds like dripping that thing. My man. People do a lot of my man. My man. My mans. My mans. I guess I call my husband baby. Okay. Yeah. H. I do baby. Big daddy.

34:49I'll never do an unironic. Listen, listen. Sometimes when we're like, Cole is there, I'll be like, daddy's going outside. Daddy did that. So sometimes I will call him daddy. Yeah. He does not. You're doing it in the literal place. I'm doing it in that. But if I called him like daddy in the bedroom, he would not go for it. But if I called him my man or handyman, he would not go for it.

35:10Courtney Miller:Yeah. I think baby is that. Baby is good. Yeah. He lets you call him baby when you guys have a real life baby right there? Yeah. I'm like baby. He's like, that's our son. No, that's baby. That's him. Big man. Yeah. I don't know. We've never been big nickname people. No. No. No. Like what's wrong with us? I don't do honey or sweetie or... There's nothing wrong with that. If you want to do that, get it. But like, I just don't do it. I don't know of any unique ones. My pony. My pony. My little pony. My steed. My pony. My mate. My pride stallion. My mate. My mate. My stallion. There's what Rory said on Smosh Mouth.

35:51Courtney Miller:My lover. My lover. Oh, I do love lover. I feel like you... That rolls off for you. I would say lover, definitely. Yeah. But I don't, I'm not like, hey, lover. No. Ever, really. Lover, could you grab me the grilled cheese? Lover, could you pick me up off the couch? Yeah, I don't know. I guess lover, mate. Mate. Honey, baby cakes, sweetie, muffin top. What? Hey, turn to that thing. Get it. Oh, hell yeah. My steed. My seed? My steed. Oh, my God. Jesus. My sperm count. Get over here. finish the job get it done finish the job hey sperm count come on over here buddy oh my god comments say his name is Mitchell and when he's being annoying I call him Bitchel hope this helps someone said most of my names for my husband are food related potato muffin pumpkin I also often call my cat the same names and it can get confusing oh no muffin get in here the cat's like meow someone said we call each other all variations of sugar.

37:01Courtney Miller:Just sugar, sugar snap pea, sugar plum, sugar bean, sugar bear, et cetera. Sugar bear. Someone said pookie. Someone said pants. Someone said mine is Jim, and when he's grumpy, he's grim Jim. Grim Jim. Snap into a grim Jim. Snap into a grim Jim. Someone said beautiful boy, lover, my sweet monster. That's kind of sweet. My sweet monster's too long. It's very long. It's like, my sweet monster, what are you doing on the toilet for so long? Get off. Yeah. Monster. I want something that like I'm not even thinking about. It just comes out. That's why baby is quick. Someone said punk ass, random dumb variations on his name, handsome, et cetera.

37:40Handsome. Handsome's good. That's cute.

37:42Courtney Miller:Someone said, reading these makes me think I need to step up the nicknames. I literally call him boyfriend. He calls me girlfriend. I don't know. It's been like 14 years and it kind of stuck. It's kind of cute. That's cute. I don't really judge people for what they call each other. No, neither do I. I will say I don't call my husband like husband, wife. I don't do any of that. I've called you Shania like since we've met. Yeah. Twain? I've had a lot of singers' names. Shania. You do say that. Okay. I know what Courtney's like in the home now. Shania. Get to bed, Shane. All right. You are the only one who calls me Shania.

38:22Shania. No, some people, I've heard other people call me. Shania is very cute.

38:25Courtney Miller:Shania is very cute. Back before, you know, people would call me Sean Ye. Yeah. That was Damien's name for me, Sean Ye. Shanie. Shanie. Real Slim Shanie. Ugh. Oh, so long. I love it. All right. Sorry. Shania's very cute. Shania's good. But tonight, you should try wife on her and film it and send it to me. I thank y 'all. Yeah. Wife? Wife? Oh, wife. Yeah, I'll see how that goes. What can I call you, though? You can stick with Shania. You just said a bunch for me. You can do Pookie or Pants. Those were... Pants is crazy. Pants. Pants is fun. What up, Pants? What up, Pants? I like the lady who has the same nicknames for her husband and her cat.

39:10I know. That can get confusing.

39:12Courtney Miller:I realize I don't... I definitely call our cats normal stuff, but I definitely call Bones stupid a little bit more than I call Birdie that. I never call Birdie stupid. But Bones will be like, what's up, stupid? I have a million... See, that's the thing is I have a million nicknames for Bones. Yeah. We call Birdie, Birdie. I call her Birdie or Burpee. Oh, lady, like. Lady. I think it's easier to do that with like. Animals, it's so fun. Animals. I also do it with my son too. I'll call him Coley Bear. You'll call him Michael. Michael, get your ass in here. What if Cole was short for Michael? That's crazy.

39:44Cole. Michael. Michael.

39:47Courtney Miller:Wow. Oh, it's not. It's just Cole. Next story. Next girl dinner. They made a separate group chat without me. No! Devastating. Devastating. I think that might be the worst. That's devastating. And that's my kind of dinner right there. Oh, this is. I literally, guys. Courtney had this last night. Yes. Yes. I have this taquitos, and it's the chicken ones. It's the good ones. It's the corn tortilla chicken ones. Those from Trader Joe's are bomb diggity. These are the better ones than Trader Joe's. Okay, heard. Okay, ma 'am. Courtney's a taquito aficionado. Oh my God. Connoisseur. Okay. Connoisseur.

40:26Courtney Miller:Here we go. Sorry. I'm sorry I got mad. Don't ever, ever apologize for being upset about food. This happened a few weeks ago and I've been ruminating. Long story short, my friend let it slip that there's a separate group chat and had an oh shit look on her face when I clarified it. I wasn't supposed to find out. Frozen Walmart taquitos seasoned with tears. I only see one person in my friend group on a regular basis. This friend and I live in the same town. I don't have a car and most of our friends live in the next town over So they all see each other often But I usually can't come because I don't have a car to drive myself there I don't mind at all People are allowed to hang out even if not everyone can make it One time she was telling me about a funny meme someone sent in the group chat I hadn't checked my phone that day so I said I'd look at it later I couldn't find one that was exactly the same But one was similar so I thought she misremembered the details of the joke I didn't think anything of it Then another time she mentioned something about dinner plans everyone made.

41:20Courtney Miller:I said, I don't remember seeing any messages about it. And she said, oh, weird. Maybe we talked about it in person when you weren't there and we forgot to send the details in the group chat. But she sounded like she kind of made a lie up on the spot. She did end up telling me the plans. I was included and I got no obvious weird vibes from anyone during dinner. The time I finally figured it out was a birthday party. I had already bought a gift for the birthday girl and figured I'd give it to her the next time I was in her town. I texted her happy birthday and didn't get a response. I assumed she was spending time with her boyfriend and family, so I didn't mind that she didn't answer.

41:53Courtney Miller:But later that night, I saw Instagram stories and posts. It looked like a really fun party. Tons of food, balloons, yard games, a cake with a funny inside joke with our friend group. Everyone was there in the pictures, even boyfriends and friends of friends. I was the only one not included. I brought this up to my friend the next time I saw her, and she said, I was wondering why you didn't come. It sounded like she was genuinely confused. I said that I didn't even know about it and nobody said anything. She said, yes, we did. We've been planning it for a whole month in the group chat and pulled it up to show me.

42:23Courtney Miller:Homegirl realized her mistake. She got the group chats mixed up. They were similar titles and emojis. Example, Bad Bitch Club versus Bad Bitches. I said, so there's a separate group chat? And she kind of stammered and said, it's because sometimes I can't hang out because I can't drive there myself to meet them. So they made a separate one so I don't feel bad and like I'm missing out, even though she could drive me. We live five minutes away from each other. It's pretty much crickets in the group chat I'm in unless I say something first. Even then, I might only get one or two responses or a heart reaction to my message.

42:55Courtney Miller:They've been strategically planning what I'm included in and what I'm not. Like they're slowly phasing me out until I just quit trying. What the hell? That's heartbreaking. I have a big question. Is she in the Bad Bitches Club or Bad Bitches? We don't know. We don't know. Club sounds more exclusive. She's in Bad Bitches. She's in Bad Bitches, but she's not in the club. That sucks. That's so sad. This is really, really, this would be heartbreaking. I don't think they're phasing her out, but I'm sure it feels that way. Like, that's so sad to not even have a conversation about like, hey, like we feel bad that you can't come.

43:31Do you feel weird being in a group chat where things are happening that you can't always go to? Right. Or are they being honest with her if like that's the reason why she's not in it?

43:40Courtney Miller:I think the her not being included because she doesn't have a car, but her friend who goes five minutes away never offers to drive her. This just sounds a little odd. And she wasn't at the birthday party. That's a big, that's like, they don't want to. For them all to be gathered there and not invite her. Not even think of her, yeah. They don't want her, I don't know. This sounds like maybe, not that they're phasing her out, but like. That's devastating that the other chat is like radio silence unless she says something. So like they're not even making an effort her way. I wonder what she's saying, what she used to say in the group chat to make them think that they had to?

44:16Was she like, oh, I can't make it. Oh, bummer, I can't do it. That is so sad. I have so much love for friends who no matter how many times you can't make a thing, they will always keep extending an invite. Like, that will always be me.

44:28Courtney Miller:Yeah, especially, well, especially for her circumstances, like where it's not like, oh, I'm not able to make it. She's like, I can't drive. So it's like, they're not trying to make it work. Like the friend who's, I don't know, this is sketchy to me. I think that she should text it in the group chat. Yeah, I think she should. And, you know, she clearly maybe is, it's, I think it's, I think she's a solid, lock solid person because she's got great taquito taste. Yeah. Yeah, she does. She's lock solid. Lock solid. That's what I said. It's what I've said, though, where like things with friends, like friend, friend breakups, friend deceiving is almost more heartbreaking than romantic because it's like she goes, hey, what's going on?

45:05It's like personality.

45:06Courtney Miller:And if they're like, they're as a group to have decided they are phasing her out, it's like. I'm interested in, like, what is actually happening here. Because I understand taking someone off a group chat if they are constantly like, oh, shit, I can't go. This sucks. And they're like, I don't want to keep hurting her feelings. We live in a different area. Yeah. Or is it the other route of, like, they are actually phasing her out? That's such a fucking shitty way to do it. It really is. Then what are they supposed to say either? Hey, we're phasing you out. Hey, you're out of the bad bitch's club.

45:35You call the weakest link. Yeah. Like, this is tricky. Deleted all.

45:40Courtney Miller:Comments. Yep. So what you do with that information is up to you now, but it should be to distance yourself from them. Someone said, this happened to me too. It hurt for a really long time. I removed myself from their lives entirely. Hurts, but I swear it hurts more to stick around and take that shit. Yeah. It happens. It's so hurtful, but it's almost similar. What can be comparable to like being in a relationship where someone cheated on you is it's just like, do you want to be friends with people who don't want to be your friend? Like, it sucks. it sucks it's so hard to find a group of friends when you're an adult but man do you want to stick around these people who clearly don't want to be with you or don't respect you enough to have a conversation yeah it's like you're living a lie with these people yeah yeah yeah someone said fuck them and when I say fuck them I mean literally do not give a fuck cut them off like leave that shitty little group and go out and do things that you enjoy live your life find your friends they'll like you for you all this mean girl high school BS like we don't encourage violence but someone needs to slap some sensitive than vapid hoes.

46:40You don't need that energy. Her group chat is called vapid hoes. Yeah.

46:47Courtney Miller:Come join us. Someone said, my family did that with me. I finally had them put me in the group chat and they created a new one without me. Sucks. OP responded, your family? Yeah. That's rough. Someone said, I've had this happen before and I used to have those plates. Editing to add one person is the ringleader and they are jealous of you, probably. Yeah. Maybe. They should absolutely. Whoever started the new one without her. That's atrocious. To start a whole group chat to exclude one person. And she's probably like, oh, you know, blah, blah, blah, can't make it to all these things. So I just want to start this so she doesn't feel bad.

47:24And everyone's like, great, yeah, of course.

47:26Courtney Miller:But then they're all just talking there, but then they still talk in the other one. It's weird. Well, only when she initiates. And that stuff can always be like, just like one person doing. Also, it sounds like the girl who kind of spilled the beans is closer friends with her. So like, what's the deal there? Why didn't she say it? I'd be so betrayed though, because I'm like, cool, there could be one person who's a ringleader, but they're all going along with it. And this person only confessed once they were caught in the lie. Like, they're all lying to her. Girl, get out. Find friends that care about you.

47:56Courtney Miller:It's like, these people ultimately do not respect you. Right. It's heartbreaking. I wouldn't like feel like I could be safe and 100 % myself around friends like that. Yeah, nope. Update. We have more taquitos. Taquitos just rained down. Is it more or less or the exact same amount as last time? Four. Four taquitos. Four is a perfect amount. She doesn't put any dressing on them. She doesn't, because you put like cheese and sauce. Sometimes. Whoa. Hey, Shania, slow down. Sorry. Sorry about that. I eat eight to 12. Damn, mommy. Damn. I love it. Not fucking around. Of course. All right. Update. They made a separate group chat without me.

48:35Courtney Miller:The sequel. The sequel. Frozen taquitos again in a bowl this time. I got an overwhelming amount of support in my last post, plus a sobering reality check. It was a slap in the face that I didn't know I needed. I decided to leave the group chat without a word, and my phone was immediately flooding with messages. Two different people saying some variation of, girl, what happened? Upset faces. And one person asked, did you have a falling out with group leader's name? The texts were so performative and obviously playing dumb. They knew exactly what was going on. I wasn't answering anyone because between the texts and trying to respond to everyone on my last post, I was overwhelmed.

49:11Courtney Miller:Then I got a text from the one woman who I would consider my real friend. It was a screenshot of the other group chat that I was not included in. The group leader was saying, thank God she's gone. I thought she was never going to leave. Compared me to a parasite, even though I never asked her for anything. In another screenshot, she said that she knew I was a fake bitch when I stole a client from her in November. For context, we work in a nightlife entertainment industry that's heavily based on sales. I'm sure you can figure out what our job is. She and I had a client one night who dropped a lot of money on both of us, and we both got his number and started a group chat.

49:45Courtney Miller:We tried really hard to get him to come back in, but he never texted back. She even asked me one day if he'd been answering me. He hadn't. He was young, probably regretted the amount of money he spent, and it was a one-time thing. This whole time, she thought I pulled him away from her and was getting all this money without her. Bro, that night we made all that money was the last night I ever worked in that place. It was my last huzzah and I've been working from home ever since. So now it makes perfect sense. Everyone was right about there being a ringleader who started this based on a lie and everyone else just kind of went along with it.

50:17Courtney Miller:Good riddance. That is so sad. It is like the worst of what we thought. Like, damn, she really like organized that. And then she said it in the group chat. Yeah, it's like cool. like her one friend sending her screenshots and stuff but it's like it's like okay so this person was talking mad shit about me and you all just were why are you sending her screenshots though I don't find that to be helpful it's like what does that it's like you're kind of proving like oh so you were hearing this for months and we're fine with it I didn't say anything that shit grinds my gears but actually like in a sad way it really grinds my gears in a really sad way it's really sad I don't think this real friend is a real friend if you're ever in a situation where someone is speaking ill of another one of your friends, be the good friend and check on that friend.

51:04Maybe even ask their side. Yeah. Because it is so devastating to me when that happens. Where like, I've been in these situations where someone will just not check on me or see how I feel or what I'm experiencing. Whether or not they believe what was going on, it's still like, oh, like it's devastating. And it's like, oh, did you just like want to believe that about me? even though it's not true. Yeah. Or like... It's an assumption. They just all went with it. Yeah. Like that's so sad. That is so sad. All about money too. Yeah. And it's like about a thing that, again, wasn't even true and that this ringleader thought happened didn't happen.

51:46She didn't even have the opportunity to stand up for herself for saying.

51:49Courtney Miller:Yeah, she was completely just left in the dark this whole time. Yeah. Our next girl dinner. I said something unhinged. Get it, girl. Check this out. Just freaking sauce everywhere. Okay, poke bowl. With some fish, cucumbers, avocado, mayo, the fixings. Beautiful plating. Look at this. I think they did this themselves. The cucumbers are sliced so thin. The sesame seeds on it or whatever that is. Spicy mayo and the mayo drizzled. Oh my God, honey, to make a homemade poke bowl at home. A kitty cat looking longingly in the background. Mom, are you okay? You gonna cry? May I have the salmon, please?

52:27Wow. Wow. Don't cry tonight. And it's such a cute little ball too. Hell yeah. That's a good girl.

52:33Courtney Miller:Good for them. Okay, they write, I don't date much and I get pretty awkward when things turn overtly flirty or sexual. Last night, I was with a guy I'm seeing. He's genuinely really cute and I like him. We were getting frisky, stripping off clothes. When I saw his pee-pee for the first time, it was so incredibly huge. Stop. I was shocked. Please stop. I was shocked, excited, scared, all at the same time. Please stop. I completely froze and the only thing my brain managed to produce was, what war was this cannon in? Oh, my. Another word for penis, cannon. God. Cannon. I said it out loud in real life to his face.

53:12Courtney Miller:He said it was the best thing he's ever heard. Poke Bowl and cat cannoli did not eat cat. Did not eat cat. Wait, I love this person so much. What war was this cannon in? What war was this cannon in? The guy was probably like, hell yeah. Fuck yeah. Gets larger somehow. The war is tonight, honey. The battle is on. Battle of the Bulge. Come here, soldier. She's like, all right. All right. Slow down. He's like, the troops started drumming in. Uh-oh. Wow. Damn. That's incredible. It's good shit. Glad it went well. I should say that to H tonight. Say it. I dare you. And film it and send me. we'll exchange videos tonight I got you and I just go sorry one second I'm sending this to Shane Shane and I have a group chat Shane and I have a group chat that you're not on you're not on I film it and the light goes on it's a group chat called wives and cannons and it's basically just all that and it's your penis and Courtney and and your penis and Courtney it's your penis and Courtney separate videos Yeah, yeah, yeah.

54:28Courtney Miller:Don't worry about it. Don't worry about it. Comments on this. Someone said, well, regardless of how it pans out, that man will never, ever forget you. Aww. Two thousand upvotes. Someone said, when's the wedding? Someone said, LMFAO, that was a good one, and hey, he really liked it. Someone replied, she really liked it. Someone said, that happened to me once. This guy took off his clothes, and I said, get away from me with that thing. Jokingly, of course, it was huge. Anyway, last October, we celebrated 30 years. Okay. that's a little different the way she said it is a little different get me away from this folder get away from me with that thing it's scary just oh go away you're scaring me 30 years later celebrating 30 years someone said some girls have all the luck little tears girls have all the luck funny you can find what did she say when she saw Her last pee-pee.

55:26Pee-pee. I hate the word pee-pee. Do not like it. I saw his pee-pee. Yeah, I saw his pee-pee. Yes. I'm glad she didn't say that. I like that she said pee-pee and then the fact that it ended up being huge. So I saw his pee-pee. It was massive. It was massive. I don't like it. The pee-pee thing, not my favorite. Okay. But it's okay. Hey, it's okay.

55:48Courtney Miller:It's okay. It's all right. If you say that, that's fine. I don't say it. I fully say penis or hog.

55:57penis hog peace peace huh I say it really quick I say it referring to any penis how many penises are you seeing in a day so you um I'm sorry you try to make it less yeah yeah exactly alright

56:16Courtney Miller:you know any penis you happen to pass by on the street nice piece nice piece nice piece a good piece my max Excellent hog, miss her. Our next girl dinner. My dad, who's 50. No. Is dating a 23-year-old. No! Is that, I didn't read the description. Is that eel? Anyways. Eel. Eonoke mushrooms and rice. Okay, that is a classy girl dinner. Do you like eel? I love eel. Eel tastes long too. I like seeing them in the water. There's a gaminess to eel that I cannot get with. That's fair. Eel's not my favorite, but seeing an eel. Oh, like? Eel sauce? Well, like a, yeah. Let me tell you, they really look like the ones in Little Mermaid.

57:01Courtney Miller:When you see those big green ones, they're scary. Yeah. And did you know they just appear? Yeah, people don't know what they are. They just arrive. Yeah, they do. Here we go. They are engaged. Oh, wait. Her dad is engaged to a... He'll be mistyped to the title. Yeah. Oh. They add a correction underneath their title of asterisk engaged. My dad got engaged to a 23-year-old. I'm 25 for reference. No, no, no. Younger than her? And didn't tell me about it. I found out because I accidentally saw a photo of their engagement. He left my mom after being married for 26 years. He refuses to talk about it and admits that it's weird.

57:42Courtney Miller:She's a clear sugar baby. He uses his money to control my siblings and mom so no one can do or say anything. What? I am luckily financially independent. Me and him are so close, it's not like we don't talk. Okay, but... Anyways, eel, enoki, mushrooms, and rice. He did this all last year while my mom was in a mental hospital and made her sign divorce papers over text with no lawyer present while she was in a mental hospital in a psychosis state. She had no idea what she was signing, and he threatened to cut off her medical care if she didn't sign. Oh, but you still keep talking to your father. Oh, okay.

58:15Courtney Miller:Yeah, don't talk to this man. What? Oh, my goodness. That sounds like a nightmare. What? Yeah, he sounds truly like a demon. And you're close with him? Yeah, it's like you're going to say all that and be like, yeah, and I like this guy. Honey, no wonder why you're eating eel. Your dad is one of those. He just arrives. He just arrives. I don't know how people handle their parents dating people even remotely close to their age, let alone younger. That is so embarrassing. I signed up my dad for Match.com years and years ago. Like I said, it was very, it was a journey. Hard to find a good picture.

58:55Man, every picture of him was just him like this with a plate of food. And I'm like, dad. Girl dinner. So I had one with a guitar and one with us. And then I had to do a plate of food because that was just what it was. But he kept saying, he's like, all these younger women wanted to date him and talk to him. and he's now married to someone that he met on Match.com, his age. Age appropriate, great. He was not into it, but he was like, yeah, you know, and sometimes I would, you know, talk to these women and they were just, they were very sad, very sad and they were lonely and they just, you know, they wanted to talk about life.

59:30So sometimes I would message them, but I never wanted to see them on a date. Why would they want to date someone like me? Whoa. I was like, I don't know, Dad. You love Ikea. I don't know. You finished Netflix on Saturdays. Have you gone in there? It's hard to get out. Yeah. The meatballs are very good. Very good meatballs. Interesting parking lot. Is this you being your dad? Yes, my dad.

59:54Courtney Miller:People think of Italy with meatballs, but turns out Sweden, they've really got the meatballs. Swedish meatballs? Oh, my God. Weird. Swedish shows on Netflix? So weird, those Swedish meatballs. Yeah. Anyways, have you seen Disclosure Day? Seriously, though. It's really going to happen. But like he found that a lot of younger women wanted to message him. And I remember him saying that because we're pretty close. And he was just like, yeah, it was. That's so interesting. Yeah. I think that there's a lot of young folk looking for security. No, I'm not judging the 23-year-old. I'm judging the 50-year-old.

1:00:28I'm judging them all. Yeah.

1:00:30Courtney Miller:For getting engaged to the 23-year-old. Kind of awkward when the daughter is 25. Because it's like, it feels disrespectful to your kids. It really just changes the lens on you. Yeah. What I feel most upset about is the whole thing that happened with the mom. Oh, yeah. And it's like, oh, that's a whole other nightmare. And also this horror novel also. How could you treat the mother of your children like that? My dad has the morals of Dr. Frankenstein. I can't help it. I am terrified by that. I would simply run. Comments, I'm just going to be real. Weirdo relationship aside, if someone did that to my mom, I would not be talking to them again.

1:01:08Courtney Miller:Someone said probably some legality issues with what he did to your mom, especially if she was in a psychosis state. Someone said, so divorce papers have to be notarized. I don't understand how this can happen if she is committed. OP said he faked her signature on the notary. I think his assistant got one of her friends who's a notary to forge it because he did it in Staten Island and it was dated on the same day I was with him in Boston. So impossible he was there that day. Oh my God, I'm nauseous for Boston. So fully a crime. Fully a crime. Someone said, my father did a very similar thing. He was 50 and she was 21.

1:01:42Courtney Miller:I was 23. They now have three children between them and have divorced. Obviously, that's where this was headed from the beginning. But now there are kids and I am going to have my own sad dinner tonight. Lastly, someone said a poop emoji and ew. Yeah, that's me. Sometimes it's all you got to say is poop and ew. I just, this seems a very complicated story. Like, I don't know everything that's happening, but regardless, the thing with the mom is unacceptable. Oh, absolutely. And it's just, you know, you grow up and you learn things about your parents and like you kind of accept things, not really realizing the gravity of them because you're like, they're your parents.

1:02:20Like you look up to them, you've learned everything from them. But then like at a certain point in your life, you really, it kind of like, things hit you later in life. That's all I'll say. Yeah, yeah, they do. But this is... That's heavy stuff. Well, this is really hard for her because it's like, what relationship does she have with her mom right now? Exactly. And what relationship is she going to have with her dad?

1:02:42Courtney Miller:Yeah. Oh. Well, her dinner's beautiful. Oh, the dinner's great. Beautiful dinner. Our final dinner. Girls, I come to you from your future. All right. I want to check out this. This is a nice little, this is more of a girl dessert. It's an iced coffee with, I want to say that's like a coconut custard cake with coconut flakes on top of it. It's limoncello cake. It's literally written right. Limoncello cake. I pretend I do not see it. It's limoncello cake vanilla cold brew. Okay, someone likes it. Sweet. Yeah, that sounds delicious. Limoncello cake vanilla cold brew. I'll be 40 tomorrow. My kid just brought me an early treat.

1:03:27Courtney Miller:We're out of town doing our music thing. Let me tell you about my life. I am the bell of the ball professionally. I have more offers than I can accept. Same goes for the gentleman. On the two-block walk from the room to the cafe, three different guys of various age stopped to respectfully hit on me. My kid, graduating high school at 16, creative, deeply decent, and hilarious. My extended family and friends, our relationships are better than ever. Health, my doctor just told me I am wildly improved. I will not get into the particulars, but 2020 was not good for me. I am a modest homeowner, bought myself the gently used car.

1:04:02Courtney Miller:I always wanted. I have what I call a normal amount of rescues, which when delivered deadpan in response to, oh, you have a cat? How many do you have? Is hilarious. I am telling you all of this because there was a time I was making Reddit posts about the absolute worst treatment from the worst people, hoping to make sense of what is nonsensical. If you are reading this and you are excusing, justifying, contorting your very self in order to stay in a relationship with someone, based on these posts, some dude. I am here to tell you, stop. It feels bad because it is bad. It feels wrong because it is.

1:04:36Courtney Miller:You feel belittled or used or ignored or unloved because you are. From that person, you are not unlovable. They are unable to love. You do deserve and can have and will have better. But first, you have to stop hanging out with and pouring yourself into the bad. You have to stop. They will let you spend your whole entire life engaged in loss. Loss after loss after loss They will not wake up They will not suddenly understand the error of their ways They will not validate or love you And sometimes it's not just you they won't love But the children you share I know that's hard to accept But acceptance can be liberating There is no day it will all have been worth it And you will be repaid for your suffering That day is never coming It stops when you stop it What feels impossible to you now Peace, happiness, safety, success Is actually just on the other side of this person's bullshit I see it again and again on here, and y 'all have to know there's a better way.

1:05:31Courtney Miller:You're stronger than you think, and all those lies you've heard so much you started to believe them are just that, lies. I have been where you are. It can be so much different. I just realized today, wow, there was a time I couldn't even imagine how happy I'd be today. I wish the same for you all. Whoa. Damn. Wow, she had a big— Hitting everybody with a sledgehammer. A big sledgehammer of like her own positive reflection. Like that's really cool that she like had a moment where she's like, holy shit. Like I am so glad to be where I'm at and to have made the decisions I did. Sounds like decisions that can feel like really scary.

1:06:09Like leaving something. Because so many people like we heard people stay in relationships out of fear. Fear of being alone or anything. But like it like because the idea of being alone, it's like, well, that's the unhappy option. right? It's to be alone, but she's not alone. She's also so right. It's just kind of like, if you feel like you are getting, you know, being taken advantage of or anything, you are, you are. It's like, I don't know why we do it. I do it too, but we tell ourselves this isn't happening. This isn't happening. I think because it's like, it's really challenging to work through it when it is happening.

1:06:46You have to like restart everything and it's really hard and you have to kind of accept the reality. And I love that she's just like, if this is how you feel, that's what's happening. And it sounds like she's been through a lot. And also cake. Yeah. Hell yeah. Sounds like she's got some cake too. The way people will be hitting on a walk.

1:07:08Courtney Miller:Hey. Oh my God. Yeah. I think it's also really something to say about like how long life is, right? I think like a lot of people that are in these relationships, especially when we read stories where people are like 25 or something. And they're like, yeah, he cheated on me, but like, we're trying to make it work. And I'm just like, you could put a lot more years to this. And man, it's a long time. Like, I know it sucks to break up and to take on the challenge of being single again, but it's like, it's a long time, man. You have a lot of life. Like it keeps going and like - Life is long. It really is long.

1:07:42Courtney Miller:People say life is short, but life is actually long. Life is so long. And I think if you look at it as like seasons, every you you're in different seasons of your life and and the past is not supposed to be you know your passport it's not supposed to be something that you take with you everywhere like it's a season that you can close the chapter on yeah and in order to do that you kind of have to like grieve it and work through it and and moving forward in each season and i i think it's amazing when someone just consistently reflects on the seasons of their life totally because those are the people that I want to be listening to.

1:08:19Courtney Miller:Yeah. You know what I mean? Like, those are the people that I want to hear is people like, shit, this happened. My gut told me it. I will listen now. Yeah. You know, I'm very glad. Like, I know it's tough. I am so glad that people nowadays, I do think are being better about like choosing to be single over being in a bad relationship. Right. Yeah. But I feel so bad for people who are in horrible things where they're being so mistreated and they're so scared of being single. And I guess it, to me, it's almost, almost speaks to like, oh, you don't want to be alone with yourself. That's how you feel about yourself almost in some ways.

1:08:56Courtney Miller:But I also know it's like treated like being single is like failure or whatever, but it's sometimes when you're in a bad relationship, it's hard to get out because that's them. They are bad the relationship is, is because they're like, I'm the only one. Maybe they've manipulated you enough that you don't talk to your family or your friends, or you have any outside people being like, hey, this isn't good. I think it's very brave to go, this isn't working for me. This hurts me. I'm leaving. Right. And I think it is really scary for people to be alone. For sure. But like, yeah, listening to this person, it sounds like they've been through the works and they're like, I'm so much happier now because I'm listening to my gut.

1:09:39Courtney Miller:Right, right. And valuing herself. Absolutely. As herself. Yeah. And limoncello cake. And limoncello cake. Have I ever had it? No. Sounds amazing. Does it sound awesome? And vanilla cold brew? We have one comment. They just write, thank you. And apparently that was most of the comments. Aw. Now I'm like, I need to get it on the subreddit. I kind of do too. It's a good one. I'm going to take pictures of my girl dinner. Yes. I don't even know what it is anymore. Like, what do I even eat anymore? Whatever my son doesn't eat, I guess. Man, I'm eating some weird stuff lately. Let me just be real. What are you feeding your kid?

1:10:17Courtney Miller:Good stuff. I've seen what you got. No, we came over one time and like, he's eating better than. He's eating better than me. Better than me. Completely better than me. I was like, holy shit. He's eating like lamb chops. I'm like, what the hell? It's incredible. It's amazing. Gnawing on bones. That's great. Okay, so that sounds like a dog. Yeah, he's a little, my little doggy. Well, thank you both for joining me for Girl Dinners. I want to do it again. I know. I want to do it all over again. All right. Thanks for having us. Yes, say that again. Thanks for having us, Shania. And thank you for joining me.

1:10:54Courtney Miller:And thank you all for watching, listening, and we'll see you next Saturday. Goodbye. Bye. I felt so far away from you this whole time on this couch. Oh, sorry, because I was just leaning and it felt really good. Don't cut it. Don't cut it. Don't cut it yet. Keep it going for another hour. Thanks again to DoorDash for sponsoring this episode of Reddit Stories.