Nick Smith is Giving Stepmom

28:41When you know each other a little bit. We're making effort to see. because if we're going on a third date like i'm always out of town i'm always busy so like if we're going on a third date it's like we're moving shit around at this point like we're really working on this so a first date really would be like it's like a week night and i have plans later in the evening and we have an early evening drink or coffee situation okay 45 minutes is the plan and then if it goes well maybe the thing i have to go to afterwards is something they can come to or maybe uh i have a two-hour buffer before the next thing and we can like go to a second location but i like i like to have an easy out i like to be like i have something to do after this and it's soon you know what i mean yeah because if it's not a vibe it's like i'm not wasting my whole evening on this totally good great to get to know you had a good time i'll pay for the drinks and we got to go but i don't want to do yeah not a big involved crazy first date.

29:40Save it for once you know them. Save once you know them. And also if a first date's going really, really well, I have on many occasions canceled my thing afterwards to be like, let's extend the first date. Okay. I've turned a 45 minute drinks into a six hour first date because it was going great. That I love that. Okay. But it's nice to have that. Like, it's almost like putting a trip on your calendar and not knowing if you're going to get to go or not. It's like the, you'll know how bad you want to go on the trip or do the thing that would keep you away from the trip based on what your decision is and so it's like if i plan something exciting for after a first date and i want to cancel it because the thing is going so well uh the date is going so well then that means i should because it's you know it's like the feeling will tell you what you need to know yeah yeah but yeah a good a good little 45 minute drinks is a nice move okay and is it in those 45 minutes have you already texted all of the like where are you from or do you like to save that for the date to me that's the point of a first date it's like it's an appointment it's like the i'm not i i don't want to talk on a dating app for more than like a day i want to talk for like a day and then be like when are we meeting up you want to go you really want to go long on the messages because i don't again i don't go on that many dates ever but it's like i would rather figure that all out via messaging before i'm going to spend time to meet you in person yeah i don't know maybe that's the wrong mindset to have i don't think wrong mindset i just also think if it's something you want i want to i want to see it for you but if it's also something that you're like like i would say i didn't spend most of my 20s really dating with any intention because i was like i just have a lot of fun hanging out with my friends and i don't really need that and then at the end of my 20s i was like oh man i really I really, I really, my friends are getting into relationships or I was like, actually just hanging out with my friends forever is not going to cut it.

31:31So maybe I'll get there then in the end of my twenties. Maybe at the end of your twenties. I mean, you're so like, yeah, you're 23 right now. And like, I'm fresh. You have so much to learn and experience. I'm just exploring life at this point. You're practically a fetus.

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35:13Let's practice. Ask me a question. Let's practice. Yeah, yeah, yeah. On your 45 minute. You want to do... Just ask me a question. It doesn't need to play a whole scene. Just ask me a question. So you've done it with Mateo and now you want to try it with me. Yeah, because maybe I'm only combative with him. Okay. Okay. So where are you from? Pennsylvania. Nice. What part? North of Scranton, a very small town of only 700. My dad happens to be the mayor. Your dad's the mayor? He is. Whoa. Republican or Democrat? Democrat, but wins both the tickets because no one else runs against him. Damn, that's cool.

35:46Do you go back very often? No. So there's a lot. I could just say from the jump, there's a lot of dead end answers. Okay. And I hear that. And it might be helpful to return the question. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I hear that. We're early in this. No, we're early. So we're warming up. I hear that. Oh, that's really cool. Where are you from? Missouri. What part? A really small town north of Kansas City. When you say small, how small? Not as small as yours. So it's not small. So that would be, that's where I would. So it gets combative. I don't know. That would be where I would stop you. Okay. Yeah. And I hear that now.

36:22Yeah. I do. I hear that. That would be where I would stop you. I thought that that was being like fun and playful. I would go for connection over distance. Okay. On a first date. So how small? Yeah.

36:35No, that was better. Now, come on now. Yeah, it's like 5 ,000 people. Okay, that is small. Yeah. Do you know the mayor? I actually don't remember who the mayor was, but I'm trying to think of who the mayor was when I was growing up. It's funny because we moved a lot when I was a kid, so I have different pieces of information about different small towns that we lived in. Was your parents in the military? Is that why you moved around? No, we were just poor. question. That was a really good question. Okay. I'm learning. And that was a really good question because also the odds were pretty good that you were going to be right.

37:07When someone says they moved a lot, it's often military. Right. Yeah. So connection. Really good. Really good, Nick. I'm fucking nailing this. Yeah. Okay. So I think we kind of just now mastered like the... Not being so combative. We mastered not being so combative. We mastered sending a question back to the other person. Why don't you initiate? Why don't you initiate now with me? Like I'm on the date with you. Initiate something playful. You said you hate small talk. You hate the getting to know each other. So initiate to me something that would be more interesting to you. We've moved past the small talk.

37:40We know everything about each other now. Initiate something that you'd like to talk about. Okay. Okay.

37:48The steak is so good.

37:55It's a really, really good steak. god i can't get over how good the steak is are steaks from kansas what'd you say what's that company with the steaks you're talking about omaha nebraska nebraska yeah okay yeah but they have ranches in kansas right totally yeah i bet there are some really good have you been on a ranch sorry let's take time no that was inquisitive and good it was the way you were looking at me it was the way you were looking at me have you been on a ranch and then kind of the walk-in was really scary um yeah okay yeah but that's the kind of stuff you're dying to get to no okay but you initiated with the steak so i was trying just killing time okay you're right you're right okay i'm gonna initiate yeah yeah yeah okay if you i can't say that yeah you can yeah you can go with your gut it's good we can learn from it okay if you you have to you have to this is how we learn there could be other people out there who need to hear this go ahead i'm gonna go with my gut that's the first thing popped in my mind okay if you were gonna die tomorrow yeah i'm gonna stop you there no hold on no hear me out okay i will I will.

39:18If you were going to die tomorrow, what would be your perfect final day? Oh, I actually like that. Yeah, I like that. Can we make some noise for that? Maybe I could have phrased it differently. Yeah. I think you could just say, what's your perfect day? Sure. Now bring up death. Yeah, but also you could bring up death. I just think perfect day would probably be just as interesting. Okay. Okay. What's your perfect day if you were going to die tomorrow? Okay. Yeah. And then I would answer that's a really good initiation. Okay. Okay. Try another one. now all i can think about is what would your last meal be i don't why i'm focused on death right now yeah death is kind of um okay yeah i get out of the way blah think about life okay think about life we're getting death out okay yeah i do ask this question okay you go to an airport tomorrow money is not an option or not a object object um where would you go Oh, I'm going to the airport and I'm just picking a location.

40:17You can go anywhere. Money doesn't matter. Where would you go? Okay. Do I get to stay as long as I want? You can do whatever you want. Stay as long. Nothing matters. You can just go wherever you want. God, in this moment, it's so cold in New York right now. I feel like I would probably go somewhere warm. Okay. So I'm going to say we're narrowing down to warm spots right now because Asia is really big on my list this year. Genuinely. I know. After everything we said. I know. But just we're on a, it's a fake date. I really want to go to Tokyo really badly. I've never been, but I don't want to go right now.

40:48So warm places that I'd like to go right now. Maybe I'd go to the south of Spain, like southern Spain, or it depends. Because I think if I went somewhere closer, I could get friends to go with me. Okay. So maybe I'd go somewhere like I'd just go to Florida or something. If I could get friends, I'd get a bunch of friends to go with me. because I can't get all my friends to go to Spain. You go to the airport tomorrow and you could go anywhere and you chose Florida. This is what you can't do. You can do that to me on the podcast. You can't do that to me on a date. Why? That's fun and playful. No, on a date, you got to go with it.

41:24You got to be excited because it's a first date. No, it's like ribbing you. That's like fun to do. Okay, go. Go for your ribbing me. You would go to Florida. You were going to the... So just to be clear, you brought up Japan, which I'm not going to lie, a little concerning. Yeah. Southern Spain. and then you settled on anywhere in the world you could fly to, you chose Florida. Yeah, because we didn't say in the rules that anyone else could also make it work. Are we living in a world of reality where any of my friends can also go? I thought I made it pretty clear at the beginning there were no objects or rules.

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43:57Blame to share. There's definitely blame to share. Okay. So it's not just me. No, it's not just you. In this moment, I did not show up in my best in that interaction. Okay. Where in Florida? That's great. That's really great. Where in Florida? Oh, God, I don't know. I just think it would be so easy to get a big house in Florida. What about the Keys? The Florida Keys. Okay. I've never been. I heard it's gay. It's very gay. I've heard. I've also never been. Is that where they made key lime pie? Yes. Huh. Look how good this is. I don't like key lime pie. See, that would be a problem, right? That would be.

44:33that would be because it's not necessarily that it's not a problem that you don't like key lime pie do you guys agree with me that that would be weird to say right there i don't like key lime pie is like don't pressure them that's okay it's weird well because i'm not questioning myself on that one but i do think i'm right that like maybe if i say it differently okay did you say is that where they made key lime pie yeah yeah i think that's where it was invented you know i've never really liked key lime pie that's yes that's exactly correct yeah i'm fucking nailing this This is crazy. That's the difference, though.

45:03Did you feel that? Sure. Big energy shift. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's different than what's your favorite pie? Yes. Let's go. What do you do for Thanksgiving? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. This is good. I actually don't like Thanksgiving. So again, I'm more of a Christmas person. Yeah, ish. No. It's just going to be too many in a row. Where are you, Chris? Again, about. it's again about too many things you don't like i think okay that might be focusing on the negative yeah yeah yeah like if you don't care but if you don't like thanksgiving and don't want to hear about it maybe start by asking something else okay you know instead of going down every everything can't be a road to what you don't like sure you know i do want to go to japan we talked about this i know i do too i just can't do a flight that long i know it's really hard i don't fit on planes you don't have to tell me about it brother it's just like when you're tall you're limited try being fat try being tall and fat and I'm telling you I'm uncomfortable no matter what I'm even in those pods I'm up there I'm buying the nicest seats they got and it's not getting much better right and it's like 16 hours or something it's quite a bit better but I can't do that it's too long I get bored and people are like oh just watch movies I'm like do what you would do on the ground I'm like no it's not the same it's the freedom I feel boxed in.

46:25I feel like I'm in prison. I feel boxed in. I feel caged. Like a caged animal. Because you know what I can do on the ground? Go somewhere else. Exactly. Even if I don't, I could. And you will. And I will. And the food. I can't. It's like stuck on there for 16 hours and the only option I have for a meal is what they're serving. Yuck. I can bring some stuff, but it's not going to be right. That I don't mind. The food is not super important to me. See, it's really important to me. I eat the same thing every day. You do. Dunkin' every morning. Dunkin' every morning. chipotle every lunch yeah i've been getting um healthy meals delivered to me oh yeah like the ones mateo does no different ones different what are what are they factor you're doing factor i'm doing factor he has like a whole like yeah trainer this is a different thing what's good what how's factor going do you like it i do i will say it's it's an adjustment because it's not a lot of food normally I only eat twice a day I eat Chipotle for lunch and a big bowl and then I eat a big dinner and because the factory meals are much smaller portions and healthy food also if you want people to eat healthy we have to make it taste better yeah it's finding the healthy things that you actually like that you can eat a lot of right and I'm not saying that factor doesn't taste good like I have found things that taste good.

47:49It's just not a lot of food. So it's been an adjustment because I'll eat it and then I'm starving after still. Yeah. And now that I'm a fitness person, you're a fitness person. You're doing Pilates. You're, uh, I just tried an arm workout with Bob the other day. How was it? What was the arm workout itself or was it working out with Bob? Like what was the, I love spending time with Bob. But you liked working out with Bob? No. Okay. Well, I will never like to work out. Right. Like, I do Pilates. I don't love to do it, but I just do it because I have to. Yeah. But, like, I don't like gyms. I don't particularly like the vibe or environment in a gym.

48:32I don't really like moving my body in that way. Yeah. No. I'm not going to focus on the negative. Yeah. Working out isn't for me. That's not not focusing on the negative, but I think that one's okay. I don't think I would bring it up on a first date, but yeah. Okay. It's just more about the things you love. Is there a way that you like to move your body? Do you like to go on long walks? I love to walk. This is great. I love to walk. Yeah.

49:06Where? Do you like to go to the park? Do you just like to walk? Honestly, just walk. Yeah, just like walk to your next thing or whatever. Or wherever, just go for a walk. Yeah, that's nice. That's honestly most of my first dates are just like, let's just go grab a coffee and walk around. I love that as a first date. I think that's so fun. Yeah, that's about the only movement that I get. Is walking. Walking is the best movement you can get. And now Pilates. I think. And now Pilates. Right. Running is actually randomly like so bad for you. I'm not running. I would like to. I want to get this thing that people are talking about.

49:39I don't do. I've tried a couple times. All I did was hurt my back and my legs. I tried track one time growing up, and I got shin splints immediately, and I only scored one point, and my mother said she had never been more embarrassed of me in her life, and I did musical theater, so that's saying something. Your mom said that? She did. In her defense, I was embarrassingly bad. I limped around the track. The whole audience had to wait for me to finish before they could set up the next event. That's okay. And I don't know why I joined because I don't run. Yeah. But I did it because I thought the shorts were cute.

50:14Yeah. And they are. And I was straight at the time. They're cute. How long were you straight? Till college. I had a girlfriend in high school. Really? Yeah. And where is she? Married with two kids. Shout out, Brittany. Brittany, thank you, girl. Did you guys - She's a nurse practitioner. She's really doing the thing. Did you guys stay - I picked out her prom dress when we went to prom. I knew that. Did you guys stay together when you went to college? or was it over by then? No, it was over by then. Oh, got it. Okay. I came to college here in the city and basically came out that year. Yeah. And did she come to the city too, or did she go somewhere else?

50:49She was a year older. She stayed in Pennsylvania, went to college there. Oh, nice. Yeah. Shout out Brittany. Yeah, shout out Brittany. Really, her life is great. Have you seen her recently? I haven't. We message each other, I mean, like once in a blue moon, but I mean, we follow each other on socials. She really, she has wonderful kids, wonderful husband, a great job. They just bought a huge house. Whoa. She's really doing the thing. Damn. You should have her on your podcast. I should. That'd be a great interview. I did. I chose her prom dress. It was floral and beautiful. Do you stand by it to this day?

51:22100%. Yeah, it was a great dress. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't stand by what I wore, but. What'd you wear? It was like a light gray tux. I looked like Pee Wee Herman. But I had Zac Efron's sort of high school musical hair. No, you did not. I was obsessed with high school musical. Oh my God. I went and saw it nine times in theaters. That's also a tell. Yeah. And I stole the decorations from the movie theater to decorate my locker. Wow. Wow. Should I bring that up on a first date? Yeah. I think that's actually pretty fun. Okay. Don't you guys, I would like to hear that. I think that's nice. You'd rather hear that than things I don't like.

52:02Totally. Totally. And also anything weird or kind of anything, yeah, things you did as a kid are far enough in the past that it's like, yeah, if it's really silly, like going and seeing that movie nine times. Like if you told me right now that you had gone and seen like the latest teen movie nine times last week and you stole the decorations for your house. You'd be concerned. Be different, right? But things you did as a high schooler are like, oh, that's funny. That's cute. Nick, I have a game for you. I'm going to read you 15 statements. You're going to tell me as quickly as you can if what I just said was true or false.

52:35You get 10 or more correct. We're going to give you 50 US dollars. Damn. You ready to play? I'm pretty good at true and false. I believe you actually. You ready? I'm ready. Sometimes people say that and I'm like, I don't know, but I actually think you're going to be good at this. Okay. Judy Garland's real name was Irene Morgan. False. False. Francis gum. Dwayne Reed is older than Walgreens. True. False. The Green Bay Packers won the first ever Super Bowl. What? The Green Bay Packers won the first ever Super Bowl. False. True. True. Human circulatory system is over 60 ,000 miles long. False. True.

53:07What? The baby on the Simpsons is named Maggie. True. True. New Milford, Pennsylvania has a population of 1 ,100 people. False. False. It's 812. Blue whales are the largest animals that have ever lived on Earth. True. True. RuPaul was born in San Francisco. False. False. San Diego. The Tonight Show is older than the Today Show. True. False. The Grand Canyon is in New Mexico. Huh. I've never thought about that. No, I've never been there. Isn't it in multiple states? So I'm going to say false. False. It's in Arizona. Blue Ridge High School does not have a boys wrestling team. False. True. Mercury is the farthest planet from the sun.

53:52What? Mercury is the farthest planet from the sun. False. False. It's the closest. Muhammad Ali was six foot three. Oh, true. True. The Tony and Tony Awards is short for Antoinette. I'm going to say false, but I wish it was true. It is true. Oh. There are no Duncan locations in Italy.

54:19It's true. How do you do? Ten. Whoa. And an addendum. An addendum. There is a boys wrestling team. There is. So I did give that to you. I had to go and practice. Thank you. But the school's so small, it was almost impossible to find out. The only reason I know is because when I was there just a couple years ago, it was like the only sport that would win awards. It was like the boys' wrestling team. Awards. It was the only sport that would win awards. Totally. The competitions. Yeah. Actually, your wrestling story is one of my favorite stories. I need to figure out if I'm going to put that in my next hour.

54:58It's so funny. Thank you so much. I love that one. It didn't make it into the last hour, but I feel like I might squeeze it into the next one. You did it at Bell House when I went and saw it. It was so funny. Thanks, Nick. It's so funny. That's so sweet of you. Before you go, I want you to tell me what are three things you're going to do before you come back on the show. So eight to 15 months from now, typically. So you will have me back on the show. Yes, I'll have you back on the show. what are three things I'm going to, I'm trying to start asking people this. Okay. What are three things that you'll do before then?

55:36Okay. Okay. We're going to check in on them. Okay. I am going to, well, I don't want to say go on a date because 18 months from now, I will likely have gone on a date, but I will try to go on numerous dates with one person. Okay. we're gonna try to get multiple dates deep with one person by then yes okay put this down somewhere got it okay multiple yes that's one thing write it down yes um two i'm gonna do a career one i would like to get representation and perform more and audition for more things okay get representation and perform more and audition for more things we're gonna count those all as one Yeah, yeah, yeah.

56:18Okay. Representation and all that it entails. Yes. Got it. And three, I would like to find a vegetable that I genuinely like. Oh, okay. We can work on this. Yeah. I like that. You haven't had any luck with any of them so far? Vegetables. So if you had to twist my arm, I would eat a Brussels sprout. That's a wild. I like Brussels sprouts, but that's just a wild. Usually non-vegetable people. But I'm not like I need a Brussels sprout or I want a Brussels sprout. It's more so like, well, I have to eat healthy. So if I have to eat healthy, I guess a Brussels sprout is the only one that I can like choke down.

57:00Yeah. I would like to find a vegetable because they do visually look good and appealing. Yeah. I would like to find one that I'm like, I really like eating this vegetable. Have you spent much time around the squash family of foods? Does that count as a vegetable? That's a vegetable, right? Butternut, honey nut, squash. I haven't spent a lot of time, but I haven't. I've tried a bite. Yeah, and it wasn't for you. Not for me. Yeah, and broccoli is a no-go. So broccoli and asparagus are the other two that like. Sounds like you've listed three vegetables already that you're pretty comfortable with.

57:44But I don't like them. They're just ones that I'm like, okay, I'm trying to eat healthier. So they're the only ones that I can choke down and are palatable. I want to find one that I'm like, wow, I really enjoy eating this. Corn? You ever get in the corn salsa at Chipotle? So I do get the corn salsa, but I have them only put a little bit in. So I don't know it's there. Okay. Right. Okay. Yeah, that totally makes sense. Okay, so we're going to, and you're not liking, you're not doing the fajita peppers, I'm assuming. No. Right. I can't do spicy. I'm truly trying to think of what they have at Chipotle that we can start with.

58:19Because I'm like, that feels like the easiest. Well, I don't mind onions. That's a vegetable, right? Or is it a fruit? Onions are a vegetable, I believe. Yeah. Okay. Because you know how tomato, they're like, what's not doing? Tomatoes really cracked my whole worldview open. When they started doing fruit with tomato, I was like, well, I might not know anything. I also don't like tomatoes. In any circumstance? I guess a marinara sauce, but like the tiniest amount. It's just touching the noodle. I don't want it like swimming in the noodle. Yeah. But onions I could do, but not always. Yeah, onions aren't a very substantive vegetable.

58:52I'd like to get something that can really like something hearty. I'd like to get into something hearty. Sure. Mushrooms are the devil's vegetable. Mushrooms are not even a vegetable. They're a fungi. So don't talk to me. But are fungi vegetables? I don't believe so. They both come from the ground. That's a great question. Chance, Google. Also, I need a BLT for lunch so bad. Michelle, can we find a BLT for lunch? I want a BLT crazy style. Oh. Fungi, including mushrooms, are not vegetables. They belong to their own distinct biological kingdom separate from plants. Wow. Boom. It really makes you think.

59:27It makes you think. So that's the third thing. We're going to get a vegetable that you like, and mushrooms don't even have to be in the picture. Yes. Okay. I love it. I love it, too. Oh, you know what we need to know before you go? My so true. What's so true to you? I keep forgetting to do that. The name of the show. Truly. What is so true to me? I feel like we did a lot of so trues this episode. Yeah. Okay. When I was very little, one of my grandmothers would say this constantly, and I quote it to this day, and I find it to be so true. You win some, you lose most. Most. that is really interesting you win some you lose most what does that mean to you it means most things that you do will not turn into anything or not be good or anything but there will be sprinkles of things that really are do you find it uh like motivating energizing to think of most things not working out and some like how does it does it feel negative or positive to you?

1:00:34I think a little bit of both. I think it's a very real thing. I mean, that's life. Not everything is going to work out. Even the most successful people in the world that you see, not everything worked out for them. So odds are, if you go in with the mindset that you win some and you lose most, I think you're managing your expectations. You're not going in being like, I'm going to win most and only lose here and there. So that if it doesn't turn into anything or you fumble at something, then it's like, well, you win some, you lose most. I think I have the thing you were talking about. Going into things and thinking you're going to win most and lose a few, that's, I think, my thing.

1:01:10And interestingly, that's Bob's thing as well, and you two are some of the most successful people I know. So maybe I need to change my mindset. No, but I like them both. I think I tend more towards the idea that I'm going to win most things and just lose a few. But I think it's also, and it doesn't even necessarily have to do with like events or functions or anything in that sense. I think I use it towards even like people and fans. I mean, you know, some people, they genuinely, like if someone doesn't like them or someone leaves a bad comment or something, it has ruined their entire week, day, month, year.

1:01:50Yeah. And to me, I just constantly go with the mindset of you win some, you lose most. the likelihood of everyone liking you is never going to happen yeah so i don't care if people don't like me yeah in the comments they can say the meanest things they want to me makes me laugh i don't give a shit yeah yeah you win some you lose most yeah i read something recently about the way that all these like looks maxing right-wing guys are actually submissive like they're submissive to the expectations of other men and like, like the way that they're like trying to shape and form and form and mold themselves into being what other men think of as good looking men.

1:02:31And I was really interested by that. And I've been thinking about it a lot. The number of people in the culture right now that are supposedly trying to take up this like powerful, tough person persona. And then they're just so weak and hollow that it's like, I mean, Donald Trump's a perfect example. JD Vance is actually a better example of just, insert Republican man. Right, totally. I mean, but the purest example of it is somebody like J.D. Vance, who's like, he tries to posture as this like tough guy, like we're not having this bullshit from the Democrats, you know, thing. Ron DeSantis. Yeah, and then just hollow, flip-flopping, morally vacuous, like fucking loser, pathetic.

1:03:09Like J.D. Vance flipping on Trump just so he can get a position is like the most pathetic, weak shit I've ever seen in my life. And then they try to posture like they're like the new authority on manhood. It's insane. Lindsey Graham. Well, Lindsey Graham's a different example. Lindsey Graham's a different thing. He's flip flopping. All right. But it's, but it's not on the issues. He's lubed up in a San Francisco alleyway getting fucking turned into a Muppet. Truly, truly. And then the next week we'll be in Congress being like, this is what men should be. Yeah. It's insane. It's completely insane.

1:03:45Yeah. But he, yeah, there's, yeah. it's an interesting split. A lot of these newer Republican guys are really obsessed with the manliness, manhood, protect our men and boys thing. And so are the women. Well, yeah, but they're, yeah, they're, I mean, like you talk about like Lauren Boebert and Marjorie Taylor green and those people, it's like, I don't, their particular pathologies are beyond me. Um, I don't understand enough about what's going on with, I don't understand how a woman gets that far gone. Cause I have so much, I think like women are so much more naturally, uh, empathetic and smarter than that, then it's hard for me to process a woman being that callous and stupid.

1:04:23Yeah. But yeah, with men, it makes so much more sense. I mean, I have theories of how they got over, but... Right. Well, mostly QAnon, I think is... Sure. Yeah. Your comments usually love you, right? I don't really read them anymore. Every once in a while, one will make it through to me. Like, it'll get screenshotted and DM'd to me a bunch, and I'll happen to catch it when I'm viewing my stories or whatever um but for the most part i don't read i don't care i don't care what i just don't care i read them because i find it funny yeah truly nothing offends me yeah i did see some people got genuinely mad at me um when i did trixie's makeup because i didn't do a good job some some a couple of her fans got genuinely mad at me like someone so someone was like um someone someone commented and was like it looks like caleb's never seen a person before which was funny and not a big deal and then somewhere pride and was like actually he really enjoys making people look stupid and once you realize that it's hard to not see and it's like i feel like i was just fucking around with my friend actually right i don't think how did we get from me doing a bad job at makeup to the here crazy but this is the thing of like strangers on the internet who have no power in their lives making like crazy wild drawn out assumptions about these strangers that like that person has a parasocial relationship with both me and trixie 100 trixie in a positive way me in a negative way and so yeah sometimes the comments that's why you have to i can't read anymore i don't see almost any of it yeah they genuinely i again we mutually know some people that comments really i know send them but for me i i don't know why it truly nothing i mean i genuinely i had famously lizzo make a video calling me the failure of the u.s education and every comment was our fans being like yeah nick might not know anything but but he's ours.

1:06:15Yeah, yeah, yeah. He's ours. Yeah, and it might be an idiot, but he's our idiot. All right, well. Yeah. And she's not wrong, but it's like... She's not, but... No, I think she is. I don't think you're a failure of the US education system. Who's your favorite musician right now that you're, like, obsessed with listening to?

1:06:38Been listening to a lot of Amber Mark. Been listening to a lot of Orion Sun. been listening to what else have we been listening to Michelle those are the big ones Olivia Dean oh I've been putting Michelle through hell have you listened to Sienna Spiro I was on Sienna Spiro a long time ago I was on Sienna Spiro before the Redbone cover I was there I've been putting Michelle through hell with the Olivia Dean oh my god what's the um the fucking let alone the one you love oh let alone the one you love I have been putting Michelle through the ringer with let alone the one you love we've been listening to it five times a day minimum I'm on that she's just one and I feel the same about Sienna they're just artists that you can listen to multiple times in a day because it's just so easy yeah yeah god damn I really am listening to Olivia Dean.

1:07:39But I was with Olivia Dean also a long time ago. I've been so happy to see her blow up because I was back like when she had the album cover of her in the little jean shorts, the white album cover, or like the purple one where she, the record that she put, I Could Be a Florist. Do you know that track? No. Really. She's been putting out great music for a very long time. Can I actually say something that maybe I shouldn't admit? Tell me now. I don't really listen to much music. that's okay like i don't have a spotify account apple music none of that if i ever listen to music i pull it up on youtube wow but that's the hardest way to do it but that maybe that's why tova my manager tova doesn't listen to music at all yeah i don't and i have an opera background i performed almost my whole life but we sing opera for us right now i won't i did on anderson cooper's talk show why would you do it for anderson cooper and not me well it was rant i wasn't supposed to.

1:08:34Yeah. I, my boyfriend at the time I was here for college and we got tickets to Anderson Cooper's very short lived talk show. And the opening comic was like out in the audience, warming people up. And she came to a spot and she was like, this is Anderson's favorite spot to stand. And it happened to be right next to my chair. And I was like, Oh, this is cool. She's like, so let's practice. If he talks to you, you just stand up. So she turns to me, I stand up and she's asking me questions. She was like, what do you do? And I was like, I sing opera. And she's like sing for me and i was like it's seven in the morning you guys didn't provide coffee i'm not singing yeah so then they went and got me coffee they made me sing yeah i didn't think anything of it the show went on halfway through the show they came up and they go what was the name of that aria you sang and i told them they're like oh okay show goes it's the end of the show i see anderson walking out to the audience to end of the show he stops right next to me the producers come and they go, Nick, we need you to stand up.

1:09:29And I go, Oh, okay. And they go, you're going to sing the episode out. I go, what? And they go, you're on in three, two, one. I was like, what? And Anderson was like, every day we learn about our audience and Nick here's going to sing an aria. And I just stood there and sang, but you want to hear the really beautiful part? Yeah. My grandma who's passed and one of truly my favorite people ever to exist, um, never watches the Anderson Cooper talk show and that morning happened to have it on in the background she called me and she was just like were you just on the anderson cooper talk show i never have it on all of a sudden i heard in the other room your singing voice and i go i know who that is no that's so sweet that makes me want to cry i know that's so sweet i never knew he had a talk show by the way it was one season yeah no worries yeah yeah oh and i sang on live with kelly and michael you sing on every show but mine.

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