#562 The 24 Hour Rule: Why Waiting Makes You Better at Work

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1:23That's Indeed.com slash podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need a hiring hero? This is a job for Indeed Sponsored Jobs. Hi, I'm Sarah. And in this Squiggly Career Shortcut, I'm going to be talking about the 24-hour rule. So I talked about the 24-hour rule recently with one of my groups of learners, and we were talking about it in the context of saying the hard thing. So when someone says the hard thing to you, it's obviously also hard to hear. One of my top tips was the 24-hour rule. If you give yourself 24 hours to reflect, to kind of make sense of what you've heard, you often feel differently about it at 4pm tomorrow versus 4pm today.

2:05So I was having a look at this to see if there was kind of any research to support what I just thought was practically a good idea. And actually, there's a lot of evidence of why generally the 24 hour rule is a good way of using our brain usefully rather than getting in our own way. so if we wait rather than instantly respond perhaps when we're under pressure we've received feedback we were surprised by um you know that email that has made you really angry that we all get um you kind of have this calling off period like see the 24 hours as calling off and it means that you move beyond fight flight or freeze um none of which are usually that useful and within that 24 hours, you're inevitably going to go to sleep.

2:53And that sleep just helps us to rest, rejuvenate, recover. The next day you always have more perspective. I also think sometimes in that 24 hours, if you think practically about what happens, you know, you go and talk to some of the people, some people who are not as close to your situation, who've got a bit more distance. And that's typically really helpful. And I was generally thinking, you often care less after 24 hours you know in that moment in the kind of the heat of the moment it feels massive and it feels really important and it maybe feels really stressful even a day later things can look a bit different um so three things I think you could do in that 24 hours while you're processing you know so it's like generally give yourself the 24 hours but like what are you going to go away and do firstly top tip on emotions if you are feeling very emotional um and if you're not sure how to make sense of those emotions, name it, tame it.

3:47Comes from Dan Siegel. We know with emotions, the more specific you can be about how you're feeling, the more helpful it is. You don't need to change those emotions necessarily. You just need to recognize them. So are you feeling angry, frustrated, disappointed, disheartened? Like what are the words? Next, facts versus feelings. always really useful um so you know being really objective about the facts and then knowing what are more feelings and actually I think if you've done that first bit of naming it to taming it that will help you a bit with those feelings doesn't mean those feelings are not valid doesn't mean that they don't matter it's just I think sometimes just seeing the kind of difference between those two and then the last one which is a good zoomed out question is will I still care about this in 12 months time?

4:37I think typically nine out of 10 times the answer to that is no, or certainly not as much as I care about it right now. Now, sometimes it might be yes, you might think I will, I will still care about this in 12 months. I do want to share a different point of view. I don't think this is the right thing to do. And I'm going to stand up for that. And I'm going to speak out. But you have, I suppose you've come to that choice. You've come to that conclusion almost in the cold light of day made sure that you've got better judgment you will make better decisions by giving yourself that 24 hours and I know not all you might not always have the 24 hours like I've worked in teams before where that actually would have been a luxury to even have 24 hours you've perhaps got an hour so even if you've got a shorter amount of time probably the best thing that you can do is walk away for an hour so can you walk away from your laptop?

5:28Can you walk away from your phone? Can you actually go for a walk? Can you grab a coffee? Can you just give yourself a little bit of space, perhaps to sort of fast forward some of what that you would have normally done in that 24 hours to again, just have better judgment, better decision making. And I think sometimes it is okay to say to somebody that, you know, can we come back to this tomorrow? I just want to take 24 hours to reflect on it. I was reading some really interesting research about leaders recently where people said they would much rather hear leaders say that than leaders make us sort of feel pressured to make an instant decision.

6:06Which I think sometimes if you're in a leadership or management position, you might think, well, it's my job to make a decision right away. Like I should know the right answer to this. but actually people sometimes find it reassuring to hear you say oh this feels important like but I know we've got to make a decision quickly so I'll come back to you by the end of tomorrow because I just want to sleep on it I know that that's okay to say whether you're a manager or leader or not if you want to do a bit more learning by listening on judgment and decision making episode 364 of the podcast will help you to do that and I do think decision making choices judgment are all really helpful skills both in your day job but also more generally for your development so I hope you're finding these shortcuts useful and we'll be back with another one soon