AI Skills Sprint: How to cage confidence gremlins that are getting in the way of your growth

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1:00So confidence if you are a regular Squiggly Careers listener you'll know we've talked about confidence before because we did write a book called Gremlins so the way that we think about confidence is belief in yourself and other people believing in you too and gremlins are those beliefs doubts and fears that hold you back the things that get in your way and I think the problem with these gremlins is that they're often hidden we don't want to talk about them and they can kind of grow they kind of grow because they sort of hide in our brains and like to take over and at their worst I think gremlins start to influence our actions our behaviors and can even go as far as like becoming our identity and so if that happens it sort of stops you in your squiggly career I think it limits your learning limits your potential it's sort of how we all get in our own way some of the time but when you learn to cage these gremlins I don't think they ever necessarily go away I do think they are just a feature of being human and like that that's okay but if you cage them you get better at finding your way through the inevitable knotty moments that we all have in our squiggly careers things that are outside of our control that go wrong restructures a tricky boss your job changes you get ridiculously busy you know those those kind of tough times I think our gremlins relish they're like this is my moment and we're like no no you've got to stay caged but also I think if you can cage those gremlins you can say yes to those things that will feel scary but they'll stretch you and they're how we explore and discover potential that perhaps we didn't know we had like I really remember a time in my career where because I've got a gremlin around numbers I looked at any job spec that had the words commercial acumen in and straight away I was like no I'm out I can't even though I wanted to do that job even though maybe I could have done the rest of that job I just ruled myself out before I'd even like interviewed or had a conversation because I was like back to the identity point oh I'm just I'm just not good at numbers and so I feel like this is one where if you can get those gremlins caged it's not an easy thing to do but once you start practicing it and I think it is a bit more of a practice you just start to sort of I don't know I suppose you feel a bit freer I think to do the things that you want to do and we've always tried to make this an easier conversation for people to have together so we've written quite a lot about it we wrote about it in both of our books have got a chapter on confidence we wrote about it in gremlins we've always tried to create tools to make it easier but today we've created a new tool which we think makes it even easier and we are really excited for you to play with it and experiment with it.

3:46So we have used the ChatGPT platform but we've created a custom Gremlins GPT as in it is something that we have trained with everything that we have written on Confidence Gremlins. So when you go in and talk to this chat GPT about you and your gremlins, it's going to coach you. It's going to coach you to help you see what gremlins are getting in your way. What could I do differently? What actions could I take? And it takes a conversation that might feel uncomfortable to have with a colleague into one that you can have with the AI in private. You can kind of talk to it about it. And I think it can then sort of be the thing that then builds your belief a little bit so you can go and talk to somebody else.

4:27I do not think it replaces talking to somebody about your gremlins. I think that is an important part of the process. But if at the moment that feels too scary to do, this is a really brilliant place to start. So maybe I'll just talk a little bit about how it works and then Sarah can talk about when she used it, how it worked for her. So we set it up and it's got a few sort of ready to go prompts. If you're thinking, I don't even know how I'd start. but it will say, you know, ask you a few questions about what gremlins might be getting in your way or what worries are holding you back. So you can just open it up and click on any of the prompts to help the conversation go, get started.

5:02Or you could say, a worry I have at work is that I don't feel like I know enough. Or a worry I have at work is that I feel like I might get found out. So it depends where you're starting from. Click one of our prompts and it will go for you. Or start with a worry that you've got at work and then just it will ask you questions and you just follow it through. so how did it work for you um well firstly you know when we were you were talking there about like you're having a conversation with the ai yeah i think actually what you're doing is having a conversation with us because i said to you i was like i really like the tone and you were like of course you do because it's our tone and i've done our work i was like i'm so like egotistical i'm like oh i really liked the phrase the way that it phrased things and you were like well yes because it's it's our stuff so actually i think what you're having a conversation with is is us and actually we'd all we'd love your feedback so when you have a play with it by you all trying it out you will make it smarter for us so we can be more useful the thing that stood out for me was I loved the idea that as you go through you can create your own visual of the gremlins and we often say by bringing them to life it just makes them loads less scary actually I did it twice and the first time it said would you like me to create a visual of your gremlin and then it asked me some really good questions like um so what color do you see your gremlin as um you know it was like what shape and it just gave me some like because I think maybe if you just said oh do you want a visual what do you want it to look like I'd be like well I don't I'm not really sure but it gave me these like quite specific prompts and then the second time I did it it didn't ask me for that and I don't know why what the difference was so I just asked it to create a visual and it was it's quite fun just seeing the things that you are that actually are quite big often like self-doubts you have about yourself suddenly turned into something visual well it's kind of playful this thing that's quite yeah can feel like a lot of pressure we will put because both of us got visuals we'll put them in their summaries so that you can see what they look like and then i we were talking about what else might we do with it um and prompts that you could then come up with for yourself so sort of once you've done the initial playing around so then i was like what happens if you asked the ai to act as your gremlin so it works well as a prompt to ask it to ask an ai to act or take on a role so I was like well it can just be your gremlin and that works really well this is fun and I think particularly here you can ask your gremlin to respond in maybe a situation that you find hard where your gremlin often grows so sometimes I think our gremlin grows because of certain people or in certain places or just based on our kind of past experiences so for me I've got a gremlin of conflict and actually some of the time that gremlin doesn't show up so like when you and I disagree it's it's fine like I'm very used to that and I it's not like a universal gremlin for most of us I think there are specific situations so I find it hard if I'm not expecting the disagreement and actually even if that was with you so even if this was someone I know really well say I thought we were both going to be we're both going to agree about something and then actually you surprise me I'm like that always takes me a moment or if someone is very direct so just has maybe a very different style to me so I just said like act as my conflict gremlin what do I do when I'm surprised by someone disagreeing with the idea of squiggly careers in a meeting nice because I'm like well that that can happen and that's valid right but I think my instinct there would be to be like oh I've become more introverted and I stop talking or maybe I panic but also it's something I really care about and that works really well because I mean the gremlin gets quite aggressive at you but essentially it sounds like the inner monologue yeah that's in your mind that's the chatter right but then you start to fight back I think you can go well maybe maybe not everyone uses the word fight but I did I was and you've sort of found the same you sort of go well no no gremlin no no I don't want that chatter I don't want the unhelpful chatter I actually want to replace that with something more useful I think it's the most unique way we have found to help people both know what their gremlins are and then get to grips with them in a really safe way and if you've got the free version of chat gbt it might kind of limit you at some point with how many questions you ask but you can maybe go again the next day if you've got a paid version you can kind of just keep going but just just be aware of that when you're when you're playing with it but definitely definitely give it a go and then after you've done that on your own so i think this is a really useful thing to do on your own we would like you as we said to talk about this with other people so we've got a good idea for how you could do this together as a team and this is something that we've done i'm like all over the world we've done this exercise which is to create a confidence gremlin gallery you can do this if you've got a virtual team you can do it if your team's together in person but you just grab a bit of paper or a post-it note is often what we use we're probably known for these giant post-it notes that we use and you just draw your gremlin out so what does it look like to you you put it on a wall or if you are virtual you just hold it up to the camera and then you just talk about it and it's because it's a little bit playful like you know most of the drawings are a bit crazy you're like what does that what does that mean and you you know you start to create connection understanding and a bit of empathy and they are connection understanding and empathy oh my gosh they are the ingredients we need so that we can all tackle our gremlins together if any of you do that please send us pictures of your gremlin helen and sarah squiggly careers.com we would love to see your drawings if you do it together as a team send us your gallery it makes us really happy to see those confidence gremlins getting a bit exposed and an obvious point but you could even use the gremlins that have been generated from using the tool you could so if you don't want to do the giant yellow post-it note thing um you i because i've actually everybody on our team tested this yeah and so everyone in the team in just in our team's chat just started to share their visuals and actually that was really fun it prompted loads of conversation and i think the outcome from this is you just you feel really reassured that you're not alone yeah everybody has gremlins we're all kind of working hard to cage them and then you also just start to think about well how you can you be supportive for each other I think 10 ,000 people on this sprint 10 ,000 people caging their confidence gremlins I mean that's a win squiggly careers have got to be better because of it yes oh it's exciting um so that is the end of day three of our sprint so so far we've done strengths we've done values from confidence and tomorrow we're going to be talking about networks and building your career community so see you then