Escaping Comfort: Why Risking Rejection is the Key to a Super Life

0:02Darin Olien:Welcome to Super Life with me, Darin Olien, a podcast where we explore, discover, and share solutions that promote a healthier life and a better world. Together, we'll ignite possibilities, inspire change, and build sovereignty, creating a roadmap towards a super life for you and for all. Get ready to start living your super life.

0:32Darin Olien:Before we get into today's episode, I want to acknowledge the company helping to support this conversation, Alchemist. You know, most of us spend so much energy thinking about what we put into our bodies. The food we eat, the water we drink, the air we breathe outside. But here's something that doesn't get nearly enough attention. The air inside your home. Here's a fact that floored me. conventional paints, which are petrochemical-based, are off-gassing, endocrine-disrupting chemicals for not just days, for years after they've been applied. This means the walls of your bedroom, your kids' rooms, your kitchen, they could literally be releasing toxic chemicals into the air you're breathing every single day.

1:21Darin Olien:That's why I want to talk about Alchemist. Alchemist is the world's first wellness paint. Their paints are mineral-based, VOC-free, and completely free of PFOS, those damn forever chemicals that have no business being anywhere in our environment, especially in our home. And because the formula is rooted in natural minerals, it's inherently anti-mold, anti-fungal, so there's no synthetic additives needed to perform, nature has already done the work. On top of all of that, alchemist paint is class A fire resistant, which I love here in Southern California, because guess what? Rocks, i.e. minerals, don't burn.

2:08Darin Olien:So you're not just protecting your family's health, you're protecting your home on every level. No downside. And here's the thing that really speaks to me. Alchemist is cradle-to-cradle certified. If you're not familiar with that, it's one of the most rigorous sustainability certifications in the world. It means the product has been evaluated across its entire life cycle from the ingredients sourced to make it all the way to what happens when it is no longer needed. Nothing is an afterthought with this company. That's a standard most companies never even attempt to meet, but they do. They've rethought the entire formula from the ground up, so you don't have to choose between a beautiful home and a safe one.

2:52Darin Olien:We put so much thought into the products that touch our bodies or go into our bodies. It just makes sense to extend the same standard to the surfaces that literally surround us. If you're repainting a room or now inspired to do so, building something new, or just ready to make a healthier swap, check out Alchemist. Go to A-L-K-E-M-I-S dot com. Use the code Darren10, D-A-R-I-N 10. Nearly three out of five people today will tell you no one truly knows them. Really? Almost half say their relationships feel meaningless, not deep, not connected. And at work, 79 % of the people on this planet are either checked out or actively miserable at their job.

3:50Only one in five people are actually engaged, actually alive in their workplace. In the thing that they spend most of their waking hours doing. What is that? Is that living? That's not a mental health crisis. That's not a productivity problem. That's this freaking matrix that we are in. And I don't mean the movie. I mean this. Most people are running someone else's program and using their body to run that program for someone else and chasing a version of a life they never actually feel like they chose. They're just in it. And the terrifying part isn't that it's happening to them. The terrifying part is how comfortable it feels just to accept it, that it's happening at all.

4:57This is super life, a world that works. I'm Darren O 'Lean, and in the last episode, I told you why I am optimistic. Today, I want to answer a harder question. One people ask me constantly, actually, what does it actually take to get out of this matrix programming? But it's not thinking your way out of it, not manifest your way out. I mean, truly, get out. and build the life, build the dream, build the super life. And that super life is underneath this noise. I'm not going to give you the normal answers of believe in yourself or just take the leap. You've heard all of this stuff a thousand times and you've seen it on algorithms and you've seen the quotes, but that's not going to get you out.

6:00it's not truly going to do it. And here's what nobody is telling you about this matrix. It's not a system to get out of, and it's not a thing controlling you. It's a system you help run every day, voluntarily, because it's comfortable enough. The comfort is the best disguise fear has ever invented. The matrix isn't your job or the government or your news feed or social feed. Those are just the walls. The matrix is the voice, the one that sounds exactly like your own thoughts. It talks to you. It talks you out of things. It keeps you in a box. The truth, it tells you to not really take that risk.

6:5530 seconds before you want to take a leap and it's this constant communication of your internal dialogue. So let me give you an example of something currently that I experienced and I had to overcome. So, you know, I'm currently doing this Roadmap to Happiness docuseries and we have a celebrity in each episode and we needed one and I've in the back of my mind, I've been wanting to ask this particular celebrity. I'm not going to say the name, but I know this person. And this person turned me down years ago of another project. So even though we're friends, they get asked stuff all the time. So I knew if I were to ask this person, I'd be rejected again.

7:42And I was like, man, I don't want to be another person that's asking this person to do something for me. So my mind was bringing up a thousand things. Don't do it. Don't be a loser and ask this person. They're just going to reject you again. They're going to think of you differently. You're going to be that friend now that's always asking them something. A million things going off in my brain. So I had to do something different. I had to come from a different place. instead of asking as darren to this person i had to go well what is this project about this project is about looking at the world differently sharing something with all of you about what we're discovering around contentment and joy and happiness so i had to come from that place a way of being why i was even doing this project so i approached this person going hey man i'd love you to be in this project and this project is to put something in the world to help change people to help create difference and to highlight amazing people doing amazing things from around this world and I think you can contribute to it in a powerful way and dare I say it's probably going to contribute to you too.

9:06So I came from that place. And guess what? They said yes. So I overcame this brain wanting me to not do this, to be comfortable, to not risk. And if I were to listen to that brain, that story, that fear, I wouldn't have been able to ask at all. And instead, I was able to ask, this person said yes and we just filmed it so we filmed it finished it in the country and it was amazing amazing for me amazing for the crew amazing for the people and amazing for this celebrity so we get constantly this inundated with this thing between our ears and it's our choice is that us is that the truth or is that the matrix is that the fear the anxiety this the whatever is going on so am i going to listen to that no i'm going to know what my vision is i'm going to come from that place i'm going to create my next steps as being a source of possibility And here's the part that should actually disturb you about this.

10:23The matrix doesn't need to be cruel to keep you in it. It just needs you to be slightly comfortable and mildly distracted forever. Does that sound familiar with social media, media, all of this stuff? Well, that's it. That's it entirely. That's the whole mechanism. Say this last sentence out loud to yourself right now. this is just the way it is. So I'm just the way I am. Hey man, it's just the way it is. Life's just the way it is. The government's just the way it is. There's corporations just the way it is. The system's just the way it is. I'm just the way I am. What does that feel like? What does that actually feel like?

11:08Does that feel empowering? Or does that feel a little bit like a victim? Guess what?

11:13Darin Olien:It's the latter. And most people don't even know they're actually saying this over and over and over again. It's what's going on inside of you right now. So what do people need more than ever to bust out of this dream, this daydream, this disempowering idea? They don't need more information actually we are drowning in incessant information not more inspiration necessarily you can get inspired for four seconds you know on any algorithm here's what actually breaks the pattern permission but not just from anyone else from yourself revoked from everyone else. You need to give yourself permission. Most people are waiting around for someone else to tell them, hey, it's okay.

12:08You can do that. And if you have friends that give you permission or support your permission, then great. But you don't need it. You need to say to yourself, I give myself permission to live powerfully. Here's the extraordinary version of this. Before we continue

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14:03Darin Olien:Go to manavitality.com. That's M-A-N-N-A vitality.com. Use the code DAREN20 and you get 20 % off your order. This isn't about health. It's about living in harmony with your greatest and highest potential. Here's the extraordinary version of this. Stop waning for permission and start noticing every place you've quietly outsourced it. Who did you hand the keys to of your life and you get to take them back? You get to take them back today. And I'm not saying symbolically, literally name the person, the thing, the government, the institution that you gave your power away. It is who it is. The person in office is doing this.

14:55So therefore, I'm going to give my energy to, I'm going to say this is the way it is, or I'm going to fight against it. All the while, you're in your life not choosing what you know to be true that you could choose for yourself to create your dream. The dream that can contribute to yourself, your family, and to others. Number two, a vision powerful enough to break this inertia. Not a vision board, necessarily. Nothing wrong with that. Not, I want to be happier. a vision so specific and so alive, it makes your current life uncomfortable to keep living it. Do you want to just wake up every day and just, ah, is what it is, just going to a job?

15:48That makes my skin crawl. Just saying that out loud makes me feel gross inside. A gentle vision won't move you, won't move you. That's why my vision is a world that works. Super life is a world where you live powerfully, where we create solutions for this world. Water, power, food, shelter, health, and so much more. That's my super life. And my super life is also connected to you for you to listen to this, take action on your life and go for it. uncomfortable move in and through the uncomfortable that keeps you away from your dreams that's what i want for you because that fuels me to continue and fuels the super life world beyond the brand i'm saying truly a world that can work the world that does work the world where we stand united for sovereignty, power, unity, love, connection, and contribution.

17:05I see it. I feel it when I say it. That is beyond the comfort of just going through life for me. What's yours? Give yourself permission to live it right now. Name those institutions, those people that you've given your power away, and then choose something else. Number three. All right, everyone. I'm going to pause right here just as we're getting to number three. We've already covered taking back the permission you've outsourced to others and creating a vision that is powerful enough to break your inertia. But we are just getting started. I'm about to dive into number three, which is all about why you need proof stored in your body instead of just cheap belief stored in your head.

18:00Over in the second half of the episode, I'll be covering how to find your chosen family of warriors and how to create enough silence to hear your own true signal and why taking an irreversible act is necessary to break out of matrix to get the rest of these steps. You have to join me over on Patreon. Head over to patreon.com forward slash Darren Olean right now. That's patreon.com slash Darren Olean. Let me just spell that out for you exactly d-a-r-i-n-o-l-i-e-n click the link in the show notes and i'll see you over there right now to finish this incredible deep dive let's go build a super life together