Break Free From Limiting Beliefs And Self-Destructive Patterns Today | Vienna Pharaon

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31:52Sometimes other people, though, will choose the oppositional pattern. Well, it can look a couple of ways. Sometimes people swing in romantic relationships. So they choose somebody who is super combative in communication or conflict. And then the next person they date is the total nice guy or gal. right like you said before and then they swing back and then they swing back or you grow up in a family system where high conflict and you know conflict is really charged maybe high conflict means a lot of yelling or it might mean abuse or you know it can mean so many different things to so many people but this idea that i'm go because this was so painful for me i do a 180 right so instead of being attracted and drawn to what is familiar, I 180 it and I am drawn to the person who will never bring up anything.

32:42And even though the latter may be enticing because no conflict, sounds good, looks good, right? But the reality of it is, is that when we are existing in repetition or opposition, we are not existing in integration. And I think it's really important because to the public, I think we talk about repetition a lot. Oh, it's the same thing as when you grew up. And we don't give opposition enough of a spotlight. And so I'd like to just give opposition a moment here with us. You have to look out for that part too, because that is not resolution, right? That's an avoidance of something. And an avoidance isn't the resolution that we're looking for.

33:24And that opposition can come in many forms. So as a parent, you might say, well, my parents abused alcohol, so I'm never going to touch it. Right. So you can look for opposition in behaviors that don't actually heal you, but you're acting in a totally different manner. So you on the surface think, okay, well, I'm not doing, I'm breaking that pattern. I'm not doing what my family did to me. So therefore I'm healing and moving forward when in actuality it's surface level. It's not meaningful to the wound that was caused. Yeah. But it's so subtle, right? Because no one's going to argue with you if you choose not to drink.

33:59Right. They're not going to say, you should be drinking. Right. Like no one's going to be like, oh, that's a bad decision or low conflict. No, tsk, tsk, right? It's like, these are the ones where it can feel like, oh, you can get away with it because you're making a choice that objectively looks pretty good to the observer, right? And so it's so important, right? This is such a nuanced conversation of, no, if you just choose that path without the resolution, right, you are not actually addressing and healing it properly. So let's talk about healing and unpack. Once we've identified an origin wound or two, what steps we can take to heal?

34:37I know you mentioned earlier witnessing either your own or through therapy, or you found witnessing in your husband. What does that mean? And what are some other steps we can take to heal. Before you answer it, I just wanted to connect this for our audience who are more familiar with the terms of breaking these patterns rather than the healing process. So let's link those together so that our audience has that understanding. Yeah, I was just going to say one or two or five. A lot of people are like, is it possible to have all five of these? Checked every box. Yeah, checked every box. I'm so good at this wound stuff.

35:14Um, yeah. And I, I actually love the language, John, of, of breaking the pattern. I coincidentally started our conversation with the unwanted patterns, right? That we don't want to keep having in our lives. And so it is consistent language. I am a really big believer that you cannot heal without witnessing. Obviously we have to identify what our wounds are that pick up the book, read it, see what resonates. We also really have to be in the connection to, right? The feeling of. And when I say witnessing, every single one of us can witness ourselves. That's a great place to start, to move all the distractions and noise aside, right?

35:57To stop trying to minimize it, distort it, intellectualize it, to stop touching it, right? Let it just be, right? And to witness your pain, to see yourself without any of those distractions, without anything that pulls you away from it, and just view it, feel it, connect to it. I do think being witnessed by another is monumental. I don't know that just witnessing the self is enough. And the example that I give in the book, and I'll share it very quickly, I was having a conversation with a family member that was going exactly the way that the conversation goes every single time. It's one of those things where you're like kind of surprised that the thing that's not surprising is happening, right?

36:40And you're like, ah, stop being surprised by this. But hence, we all try to change it in some way. And maybe if I say it this way or do it that way, it's gonna give me a different outcome. But this particular time, my phone was on speaker and Connor, my husband, heard the conversation, the same one that I had over and over and over again. And the call ended and he said, I get it. And it was the first time that anybody else, And again, only child, nobody else. It's like, these are not the conversations I'm having with anybody in the family. And he said, yeah, I see exactly what you're talking about.

37:14And it was such a tiny moment that was so big because in that moment, my experience, I see what you see. I feel what you feel was being so validated. And to be witnessed that way, to have someone say, I see what you see. I feel what you feel. I experience what you experience is powerful. It's a profound moment. And what was so interesting about it was that once that happened, I no longer needed the other person to get it. That is important because I think sometimes we cling to this idea that the person who puts the pain there in the first place, or like we need mom to get it. We need dad to understand that what he did was so painful and we don't actually need that person to participate right we just need someone to witness the pain we just need someone to acknowledge it and validate it and yes of course us being able to do that with ourselves without the distraction is is very important and i would always encourage us to start there but to also have an onlooker right somebody else witnessing us alongside of us is huge.

38:28I just want to point out that this is something you can't force upon somebody. You can lay out what you're going through and they're either going to catch it or they're not going to catch it. And if they're unable to grasp it, they're not going to make a very good witness because you're not going to feel wholeheartedly a seen and heard. This goes deep. You have to feel connected where you have to search out like-minded people who are working on the same things that you are. This is why if you're a growth-oriented person, in the midst of other growth-minded people, because they're actively challenging these patterns to accomplish their goals.

39:20So if you have a lot of aspiration in your life and you're looking to achieve those things, you're going to have to come into direct contact with all of these wounds. And you're going to have to defeat them. You're going to have to process them. As Michael likes to say, these are the dragons that you wake up to every day and you either submit to them or you slay them. And as you wipe these out, you will work closer to those goals. And so being around other people who know the challenges, to use that metaphor again, to wake up and fight the dragons every day, well, you know that you're surrounded by people who understand how difficult it is to break these patterns, to witness these patterns, to come to face them and go, oh, I found another one.

40:08I have to work through it. And here's the work that I'm going to do. Hey, I've been there. I remember when I went through that pattern. I remember that exact process. Here's how I went through it. Here's what you can expect. And guess what? When you freak out late at night as you're going through this, shoot me a text, shoot me a call. I'll be there for you. This is often so beautiful to see in our online courses where people for the very first time come into our live Q &A coaching call and the first realization they have is what I'm not alone. everyone struggles with that. I'm not the only one who's a little bit scared to talk to strangers on the street.

40:46Like all of you are like this as well. And we can grow together and also sharing one of their struggles and then everyone else going like, yeah, I get it. Either I'm there as well, or I've been there a couple of weeks ago, a couple of months ago. Let me show you the way out. Let us do this together. But I get it that you're struggling with that. It's beautiful to see how their hearts open up. It's like, wow, I'm no longer alone. These folks get me. Yeah, there's such power in community. And you can't slay without the witnessing. And I think the like-minded part is we can only see others as far as we've seen ourselves, vice versa, right?

41:33And so being around people who are, yeah, actively in quote unquote, the work, you know, whatever you want that to mean, right. But it's like, that is it, right. Whether it's a partner who you are matched with, right. Whether it's community of like-minded individuals or people who are working towards similar goals, whether it's working with a therapist, right. It's like, those are the people who are going to witness you well. And it can also be strangers, I think, to your community, right. That you're talking about. That's like, I just met you, but oh my gosh, you struggle with that too. And there's something about seeing the humanness in a stranger who's able to just hold that space for you, right?

42:14It's like, I've been there before and I'm here and I can connect to this moment with you. Yeah. Life-changing. Life-changing. And along with that, witnessing these patterns, I mean, they're there for a reason. They're going to come up again, right? That conversation with your relative is going to happen again. as you said, they're not going to change just because you witnessed it and now you recognized it. And in the work with my therapist, he said, you know, this is AJ on his white horse coming in to help the family. And then there's like a few months later having another session. He's like, well, there's that white horse again.

42:49Right. And just gave me pause of like, okay, this is still a pattern, even though I've recognized it, even though I've witnessed it, even though I felt heard and seen and validated by my therapist, this is still a pattern in my internal family system that's going to continue to play out because no one else in the group is working on themselves, is working to break that pattern. That's all they know. That's their default behavior at this point. That's their default communication and conflict resolution. I think that's just oftentimes when we see these concepts on social media and we see clips online and people doing the work, we think it's just, okay, I've had this realization.

43:26I've had this beautiful moment with my husband and okay, onto the next wound. Yeah. Not enough. Unfortunately, it isn't enough. Yeah. Witnessing leads us to grief, which is the authentic expression of the emotion that's present, right? That like when we actually witness the self, it's going to lead us if we allow it, right? If we're not blocking feeling, if we're not blocking or hiding or protecting, right? Like if we can actually be there, it will lead us to the authentic expression of our emotion. And grief is what moves things. And it's hard, right? People are like, how do you grieve? You know, we love a how-to question, right?

44:08It's like, oh, follow these two steps and, you know, this will be you grieving. And you can't answer it that way, right? It's like it has to be an authentic expression of where you go to, what you allow yourself to feel. because there is a tremendous amount of grief that presents when we start to witness our pain. In the book, you go through the difference between what grief is and what grief isn't. And I think that would help our audience because that word, everyone has a picture of what that means for them. So for our purposes, let's clarify that so everyone is clear on what that is and that'll help them be able to work through it.

44:46But just saying grief, that's a reason why people are We're not going to want to go back into the past. They don't want to see. So let's make sure we clear that up. Oh, yeah, right. Well, we are a grief, I think, what's his name? Steven Jenkinson would say we are a grief phobic society. And so, yeah, to your point, right? It's like no one wants to grieve. That sounds awful. where like, I'm just going to sit in my feelings and cry and be on the floor, you know, whatever it is. And I think when you think about grief, obviously, when we think about death, losing people, you know, grief is something that presents in any transition that we go through, expansion and grief always.

45:34And that's why I say the authentic, right? This, you cannot force yourself to grieve, right? In the same way John would say, like, you can't force someone to witness. It's like, this is not a designed thing that we do. I think I share this in the book. I remember the first time when I started doing this practice, one of the memories that stands out to me quite a bit is as a little girl, I would perch myself atop the stairs at my mom's house. and I would listen in on conversations that my mom and dad were having, not unlike many children. I also got very good at picking up the second line in both of their homes.

46:18If you just wait until they're yelling, they don't hear you pick up the phone. And so I would do this all the time, right? Because I wanted to understand what was happening. Like I said before, there's a lot of psychological abuse and lying and all of this. And I needed to hear with my own two ears what was happening. So I was informed. And when I first started doing this practice, I remember closing down my eyes and envisioning little Vienna, who was like seven, eight, nine years old, somewhere around there, and just witnessing her perched at the top of the stairs and sitting there alone, listening to this as a little tiny human, just taking in all of that information.

46:58and when you don't distract and mess with it, right? It's like then the emotion that is just there does begin to present, right? Like to feel for her. For me, that looked like connecting with my seven, eight, nine-year-old self. For others, that might look like a totally different age or a totally different moment in your life. But it's when we connect to that, right? Grief naturally comes. You might cry, you might laugh. You know, like it's, there's no way in which grief looks for every single person. And so trying to fit into some box is not going to work. Trying to construct, I think grieving looks like me, you know, having tears streaming down my face is not going to work, right?

47:44Grief is just you opening yourself up to feel, right? It's removing the barriers. It's removing all of the constraints that we are so good at putting there, protecting ourselves from. And allowing ourselves to go to this place of seeing and witnessing and feeling what is there for us as we connect to a younger version of ourselves who went through something that was hard and hurtful and painful. I think this also has to do with the phenomena of there's a new social media app that is showing everyone their teenage self. Okay. it's a filter but it's the way it's imposed and everything is very high tech now people are seeing themselves without the wrinkles and and everything but basically being a 14 year old 15 year old again and they're seeing that picture and then it moving in the way they are moving it gives it life and they are overwhelmed with emotion and that emotion has a lot of sadness in it has a lot of joy in it as well, but they're coming face to face with somebody the way they haven't seen in a long time and they have ignored for a long time.

49:02And I think that avoidance of that person has a lot to do with that. And in reading the book and hearing in this discussion, I think it's a neglect of that person and avoiding some of those patterns that connect us to that person where those emotions are. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. You know, it's interesting to hear. I had not seen that app before. I'm curious about it. I think sometimes photos or videos, right, from the past can provoke something in us. And, you know, exactly this, right, is to see ourselves in that way when we have, you know, banished it for so long, right? It's like to avoid what that person went through and to allow ourselves to connect with what that person, us, went through at a very different point in our lives.

49:51Now, when we think about connection, obviously it involves relationships and other people. So I'd love to talk a little bit about how understanding and healing from your origin wound actually impacts your current relationships and future relationships, the way you show up in conflict, the way you communicate, the boundaries that you draw. So we've talked a lot about recognizing our past and growing from our past, but if we start to look towards the present and the future, how does this help and serve us in our relationships? If we witness and grieve, that's the thing that helps create more space between stimulus and response.

50:30I think many of us are really familiar with the quote that's attributed to Viktor Frankl about between stimulus and response, there is a space, right? It's a pause, right? We want to really respect this pause we talk about. And in that pause is our opportunity for freedom. And yeah, freedom, breaking our patterns. That's what that is. It is like, I want to break the breakdown in communication. I want to move through conflict differently. I want to set or lift a boundary with the people in my life. I cannot expand that pause without witnessing and grieving. That is the thing that makes that pause longer, right?

51:16Because in the moments where our relationships present all of our activation, right, communication, conflict, boundaries, it happens in those spaces all the time, is that when we have an understanding of what is showing up in that moment, it's like, oh, my worthiness wound is activated right now, or my prioritization wound is activated right now. And when we have spent time witnessing that and grieving alongside of that, then that space, that pause is longer, which means that we have an opportunity to choose differently based on our understanding of ourselves. Also, ideally based on the understanding of the other person, right?

51:54We have more access for the self, but if we're moving through this with a partner, for example, or a dear friend or a sibling. It's like, hopefully we know a lot about their story as well. But that's it, right? It's like, we need that space to expand so that we don't just automatically move to the same old response, right? To the same pattern. To Michael's point before, now that I realized that I have this wound, right? In that pause, if I take a little bit of time to be with it, right? If I can witness it a bit and if I can be with whatever the grief looks like, then I have an opportunity to move from being a passive communicator to someone who's going to express the self, right?

52:40Where I'm going to actually bring something forward that I would normally hide. I will actually share how I feel instead of pretending like I'm fine. I will allow somebody to be disappointed if that means that I'm being authentic with myself. It doesn't mean that it's easy, right? But the space allows for us to begin to choose differently because we know what's on the other side of that, right? Which is a stronger relationship with self, right? Which is authenticity, which is our healing. and you end these i think all of the all of those exercises the healing exercises for each particular origin wound with uh this question that's based on the miracle question and it goes something like if i didn't have a belonging wound then what i would be doing right now is x which is you know behavior you have your pause you've created this path you've elongated this pause through grief.

53:38Now you have a little bit of a pause between stimulus and response. And where does the change come from? It comes from different behavior, walking a new path, trying something out for the very first time. Something that we do in our Unstoppable program is all about building your own confidence and dealing with your inner critic. And the first question we ask participants is, if you had unlimited confidence, what would you be doing? And what they very often find out is that, well, there's, you know, this is what I would be doing is this and this and this. And it's actually not that difficult. I've just never, ever done it before.

54:20But it's just taking a step to the right instead of taking a step to the left. And so we start with behavior. And then we borrowed this quote from Dr. Russ Harris, the toward and the away move, because unstoppable is built on acceptance and commitment therapy, which is all about bringing that behavior about despite the difficult stuff that's going on. I saw so much of that in your pivoting move. This is what I would be doing if I were my best self, the future self that I want to be, this is what I would be doing. So let's go and do exactly that. And learn techniques, of course, on the way, just because we decide to now be a better communicator, we decide to now set better boundaries, doesn't mean we instantly know how to do it.

55:06But those are techniques that are fairly easily learned, I would say, compared to all the work that has gone before to make the decision, okay, from here on out, I'm going to set more healthy boundaries. let's learn how to do that. Yeah. I love that point, right? That it's that what we would be doing is actually not that far off, right? That it's not so far out of reach. But if we don't understand what the constraints are, we'll just keep spinning those wheels, right? Like we'll just keep finding the reason not to set the boundary because if I am so afraid of being rejected if I stand up for myself and rejection hasn't been addressed because there's a wound there.

55:49It's like, we're going to continue to avoid it. Because it makes sense. It makes so much sense to repeat that. It makes total sense. Yeah. Like our systems are brilliant. They are trying to protect us, but oftentimes they are protecting us with outdated measures, right? Outdated tools, the things that helped us survive back in the day, right? It's that we don't need the majority of that today. And so, yeah, this approach to, I love that question. It's like, what would I be doing differently if this weren't here? Okay. So then what do I need to do to lift the thing that is here? Right. That's the question, right?

56:26It's like, if this weren't here, oh, here's what I would be doing. Here's what I'd be saying. Here's what I'd be going after. Beautiful. Great. That's not that far out of reach. Got it. Okay. But that thing is there, right? So you have to look at that thing. You have to address that thing. You need to be with that thing so that You can lift that thing and go after the life and the relationships that you have been desiring for however long, decades probably. So when it comes to communication, conflict, boundaries, all of the dysfunction that's there, it serves something, right? Why do we communicate in the way that we do?

57:01Why do we engage in conflict in the way that we do? Why do we set or keep boundaries in a certain way in the way that we do? It tries to protect us from something, right? It tries to protect us from something. If we can accept that our systems are brilliant and they're working for us in the way that they think is right, right? And we can get curious about that. That's going to help us. I'll share a story to try to make this clearer. I was in a fight with my husband. He wasn't my husband at the time. We were dating. We were not engaged yet. And I have no clue what we were fighting about, but I know that I could not stop trying to prove my point over and over and over again.

57:40And Connor was like, I got it. I understand. And I'm doubling down. I'm tripling down. I just keep going. And he's like, I got it. I understand. But I'm in this moment, right? I'm in this moment where I can't stop. And I have a bit of an out-of-body experience where I'm seeing myself engaged this way. I'm like, Vienna, stop. It's like so unattractive. This is not good. And finally, it comes to an end. And certainly for a moment, I had shame and embarrassment. I'm like, I don't know if he's going to want to be with me if I'm engaging this way. This isn't good. And then I replaced shame with curiosity.

58:20Okay. Why did I need to be right? Why did I need to keep proving my point? What does that behavior serve? In what way is that trying to protect me? And that line brings us directly to my childhood again, which is growing up with a father at the time who was psychologically abusive, manipulative, gaslighting, not towards me, mostly to my mom, but seeing that and seeing the, like, it was quite literally crazy making for her, right? And seeing that is a lack of safety, If you allow somebody to do that, because not being right means you're wrong in that context. And being wrong in that context means you're unsafe and unwell.

59:01And when I was able to tie those things together, I was able to have so much more compassion and grace for myself. To be like, oh, I'm proving my point. I'm needing to be right because this is me trying to protect myself. I'm not aware of it in the moment. This, again, is not an excuse for the behavior. In fact, I really needed to step into my partner is a safe person. He is not trying to do those things. I cannot bring this behavior into the relationship and expect that it's going to be successful and that it's going to work, right? It's like there are conditions for us being in a healthy, thriving relationship.

59:38But to have that awareness and that understanding is so important and so powerful. And to be able to bring that to him and have a conversation about that was so opening for us. And that's why I say when you reflect on where you have the breakdown in all of these areas, instead of just living in your shame, living in your embarrassment, doubling down on it, this is just how I am, right? Instead of going to those things, bring curiosity forward and understand what your behavior is trying to protect you from because I guarantee you it is connected to a wound somewhere. And if you can start kind of circling back around addressing those wounds, then we can address these behaviors that are dysfunctional, right?

1:00:19These behaviors that are not actually allowing for our highest performance in life and love. And you brought this up earlier, which is being able to reach a certain amount of freedom. And in order to do that, there's certain restraints that must be removed. There's external restraints, and some of those we're able to take responsibility for and figure out how to undo them. Some of those we're unable to, but then there's also the internal restraints and that's being imprisoned in our own mind. And this is the work to be able to get through that. And that freedom, what comes with it is being able to relax, to not have all this anxiety because knowing that subconsciously you're in another pattern and you may be conscious of it or not, but you, but because subconsciously it's, you're recognizing the triggers and the pattern coming up, there's an anxiety coming on that is going to have to deal with you knowing what's coming.

1:01:16So gaining consciousness of this, naming it, witnessing it, creating that space, and then to be able to pivot into new behaviors and actions that free you of those patterns. When we can make meaning of something, that's where the freedom is. And I think when we're not able to prioritize connection, it means that we are prioritizing protection. And we can sit here all day and I think most humans would say, no, I want connection, right? We know like at the other side of it all, we want connection. But if you can't prioritize connection, right? If like something is getting in the way because you're screaming or because you're being passive aggressive or because you are doubling down like I did, right?

1:02:07It's like when those behaviors are happening, your wall is so high up and you won't let anybody get close to you, right? Whatever it is, that's you prioritizing protection. And if you are prioritizing protection, then you have your resolution there. And when we say connection, it's not the swinging pendulum, right? It's not like the 180 is like, I need to stay connected at all costs. And that means no boundaries. And that means I'm never going to say anything that I think is going to hurt somebody's feelings because I don't want them to leave me. The intersection of connection and protection is what we're looking for.

1:02:41But I think I trust that we can have a nuanced conversation and that our listeners can too, is that if we cannot prioritize connection in a healthy way, then it means that we are absolutely protecting something. And that is the big star. That's the light going off, what are you protecting? Because if you are in protection mode, there is something that is in pain or fear, right? And that needs our attention. Because again, breaking patterns, liberation, having the life and love that you want in your life, we all want that. Those goals, those things that you're chasing down, right? It's like, if that stuff is getting in the way of that, you have to, or I would encourage you, you have the choice, of course, but to look at this in order to get to the outcome that you've been saying you want.

1:03:33Beautifully put. We love asking every one of our guests what their X factor is. What do you think makes you unique and extraordinary, Vienna? I would say my integrity and my commitment to excellence. There's a few pillars in my life that feel very important to me always. My integrity is one of them. And being committed to operating in the world and in relationships, my work with excellence is the other. I could throw a few more in there, but those are the two that feel like, yeah, that is the thing that lets me stand out. And I think I have a way of talking about this for people that gets through and hopefully feels clear that it takes sometimes hard and complex issues and topics that we don't necessarily want to lean towards and offers a way to do that that's maybe a little less scary and hard.

1:04:32Well, it definitely came through in the book, The Origins of You, How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. excellent exercises, questions to ask yourself to work through the book. Where can our audience find out more about the book and all of your work? Yeah, you can find me on Instagram at mindful MFT as a marriage family therapy, New York couples counseling.com, Vienna Farron.com. All the things that I have going on are on the sites in my bio. The book is sold wherever books are sold. And yeah, just honored and grateful to be here. And thank you for having me on and this conversation.

1:05:12Really powerful. Thank you. Thank you.

1:05:27Johnny, it was great to finally sit down with Vienna and chat a little bit about not only her book, but how much overlap there is with our coaching programs, Unstoppable and X Factor Accelerator. Yes. And she's also married to Connor Beaton, who we've had on this podcast, and we even had the opportunity to be on his show too. What a lovely couple and so much great information in this episode. We certainly know how much childhood patterns and family systems can hold us back from the relationships that we want and the person we want to become. And her four-step process is so simple that it's easy for you to break free of those chains and finally start reaching your full potential.

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1:07:50Join us today at unlockyourxfactor.com. All right, and before we head out, a huge thank you to our producers, Michael Harrold and Eric Montgomery Guys, girls Go out there and crush it Yeah, I remember you You were the bad boy You threw your love away Like you were just a toy And you sold the world You're a song of the tragedy Cause you had your taste I'm back on the yesterday Yeah, but I remember you Oh, yeah, I remember you You were the best, best, best I remember you