The Secret Language Of Emotions | Karla McLaren

29:25And you don't have a choice in the matter. If you're there, you're being influenced by that stimuli. Now, you can be aware of the stimuli and how it's making you feel, and you can decide at that point if you want to leave or not, but you will be moved in that place. And when we open our computers, we're exposed to marketing all day long again, which is targeted stimuli to affect us for ideas, products we are being marketed to all the time. So getting that understanding of that default and getting grounded is certainly very helpful in a world where, well, we're sponges. So we need it. Yeah, we're a social species.

30:19We learn from each other. Like you can't have a baby growing up without humans. They don't develop language. They don't develop anything. I mean, we become human by being with other humans. We are socialized animals. We aren't born like animals who know how to walk and who know what food to eat. We don't know nothing. We have to learn from other people. And you're right, John, that is true throughout your entire life. You will be affected by others and you will learn your cues. I also like your point about marketing. Marketing knows that emotions are how we function. Marketing comes into our emotions.

30:58they just I sometimes I will watch ads and I go I see which emotions you're trying to get there and I choose not to my favorite thing in order to combat that because it is something that we have to deal with at all times is to start challenging the adverts so my the first question is who is sending me this ad so you can do some research you can look into the company you can look into who they are and what they're about. And then who is this ad targeting? Because a lot of times I see things and I'm like, why am I seeing this? What did I click on? This has nothing to do with, or I'm like, man, this ad is good.

31:39This is right up my alley. I'm always amazed. So that ad is going to have some sort of stimuli to put you in an emotional state. So the next question is, well, what do these adverts or this company or this advertising marketing want me to feel? So then I will write what the emotions are that they want to invoke in me. And then lastly, what is the call to action? Now that I am upset, angry, happy, whatever it might be in a lot of marketing is fear-based because that's a major motivator, right? Now that I'm utterly terrified, What do they want me to do? Buy this skin cream. Vote for this person.

32:20Buy this skin cream. Make a donation, whatever it is. And for me, having that little checklist, first of all, it's fun because you learn a lot about marketing. You learn a lot about the people who are trying to get your attention and your motivations. But again, everything is marketing, so it comes in very useful. But answering those questions allows me to create distance from that ad and look at it objectively. I can now look at it. We're just disconnected and poke fun at it. You need to create like a group where people meet and just look at ads and then call out the emotion. Call it out. But then I'm seeing ads like one after another, maybe 60 ads in a day, maybe more.

33:10Oh, my gosh. We're just inundated with emotional manipulation. Right. Another reason why people need to learn about their emotions so that they are well armed for the barrage of marketing that is coming their way. It's coming for you. Oh, it's already here. I mean, I've bought stuff that I'm like, why did I buy this? I think it's hard for people to recognize that emotions can actually lead to action, which is why so much of this advertising is evoking emotions first before the call to action. They want you to feel something so then you react in a way that makes the purchase, signs up for the newsletter, joins the group, makes whatever action that they're seeking possible by first evoking that emotion.

34:05Yeah, with a lot of music cues. Music is so powerful. Yeah, so powerful in terms of what we're supposed to feel. So there's another emotion I'd love to unpack with you because I know for a lot of our audience members, it comes up in relationships, and that's jealousy. Jealousy. Which can feel like anger to some in some situations, but let's unpack jealousy for our audience and how to better manage it skillfully. Jealousy is one of our main social emotions, right? A jealousy and envy and anger and shame. These are social emotions that teach us how to be in community. Jealousy comes up, I call it relational radar.

34:50It comes up when there's issues of love, commitment, security, fairness, intimacy, connection, and loyalty. I like to engage jealousy before I get into relationships. because a lot of people just, I like oranges, you like oranges, let's have sex and get married. Okay. This is, this is basically the level of choosing a lot of people do with their, with their love relationships. Okay. And I was like, you would spend more time buying a car than you did getting into that relationship. And so when we don't have good agreements at the beginning of a relationship, we're not really clear why we're getting in when we haven't really seen how the other person behaves.

35:32Our jealousy will need to be up more because we're in a kind of an insecure place. We don't really know if we can rely on this person. When they do step across those lines into some level of betrayal, our jealousy may come up at 15 out of 10 because we don't have that stability we need to understand who this person is or what. They like oranges, but we don't really understand their level of depth or commitment in the relationship. So jealousy will and should come up when there's some kind of betrayal. And basically, the person is stepping over a boundary of the relationship. There is anger in jealousy.

36:15They're stepping over what was agreed to, or they're stepping away from a sense of providing security. tea. So jealousy has a purpose, but most of us have learned of it as the green-eyed monster, right? So when we feel jealous, the only sort of model we have, role model, is a green-eyed monster. And we kind of spin out. And instead of saying, what kinds of intimacy do I desire and want to offer? You know, getting really clear with yourself, is this relationship offering me what I need? or do I need to make other plans, right? And that would be jealousy at a very kind of five level, you know, four or five saying, I see what happened.

37:05Is this ever going to be okay with me? And instead, because we only have monster as the role model, we go ballistic. And I think with jealousy, it's also really important to understand the soft presentation of it, which is like a suspicion, a sense of, is everything right here? This is what needs to be going on here instead of, you betrayer, you infidel. So I think it's a very powerful emotion like anger, right? It's a part of our social survival. We need each other and we need loyal people who are right up close to us. So that level of alarm that you might get with anger is going to be heightened if it's in your love relationship.

37:49because that person has access to your money, your house, your body, everything. So, you know, people would think that I'm in love. Why am I feeling this powerful kind of negative? I'm going to say the word negative. Why am I feeling this powerful negative emotion if I'm in love? It's like because you are also very, very vulnerable to betrayal and other things. The holidays are here. And if you're running a business, you know that's when things get real. Black Friday, Cyber Monday, the biggest shopping weekend of the year. Your platform needs to handle whatever comes at it. That's why over 10 % of all U.S.

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42:13But due to being a people pleaser or not wanting to cause conflict needlessly, you avoid stating the boundary and then betrayal, distrust, peeks its ugly head into that relationship because you weren't an effective communicator of what your wants and needs were and what those boundaries are in your relationship. Yeah, early on. That's why I kind of like to have jealousy there at the first date. It's like, so here's what I want. Monogamy, that's important to me or not, right? Or polygamy is important to me. How do you feel about that, right? That's not something you want to be surprised with later.

42:48That's not a good surprise. Yeah. So yeah, I think a lot of people are sort of like, do you like me? Do you like me? Will you have sex with me? There's none of that sort of, here's what needs to happen before you decide you like me. Or here's what needs to happen before we become intimate. What I like to highlight is that feeling of distrust, recognizing that early on and asking yourself, okay, do I need to communicate something? Have I been clear about my wants and needs in this situation? whereas for a lot of people that distrust is a trigger to unlock their phone and search on their social media and look for more things to validate that feeling of distrust instead of looking internally and saying okay but did I communicate what I want out of this relationship what my expectations are what I'm bringing to the table in terms of boundaries yeah and that's the work of jealousy so doing that you know becoming aware of what kinds of intimacy do you require and what do you want to offer to others?

43:47I think until my third marriage, I never even had that conversation with anybody. I was just like, okay, we like oranges. Let's get married. Here's my credit card. Sounds fun. The green-eyed monster's there. Yeah. And jealousy's like, you could have asked a couple of questions here, okay? Before we got there. Yeah. One piece that I'd love to unpack is the idea that the more that we focus on strengthening our emotional vocabulary, the easier it is for us to develop empathy. And I know we have a number of clients we work with who will oftentimes feel, well, I wouldn't feel that emotion in that situation, or I wouldn't feel betrayed, or I wouldn't feel jealous.

44:33and therefore they struggle with empathy and allowing the other person's emotions and feelings to be validated. So what can we do to strengthen our empathy as a skill now that we've recognized all of these emotions and strengthen our vocabulary? Yeah. Empathy is first and foremost an emotional skill. So if you don't have your vocabulary and stuff and you're like, well, I wouldn't have felt jealousy in that situation. So ask yourself, well, what would you have felt? So use your perspective taking, which is a part of empathy. So in that situation, what would I have felt? Why did they feel that way?

45:09You know, it's like opening the range of your emotional life to see where would you have felt that so that you can get some empathy by moving into a situation where that would have happened for you and not discounting that other people feel different ways. I think that perspective taking is huge. I find so often that recognizing the emotional vocabulary and the range, even if you might not feel the intensity, you can at least directionally with those families get it right and see, okay, well, I would definitely be frustrated. I might not be rage filled. But, you know, when someone cuts my wife off, she's rage filled.

45:48When someone cuts me off, I'm frustrated. But I can understand based on the family and the intensity of how in her shoes she can feel that way. Yeah. Like this is much more important to her than it is to me. Yeah, being on time. You know, like the cause of that. I'm being cut off. Now I'm missing a light in LA and I'm going to be late to something and I like being on time. Whereas I feel there's a little more flexibility on being on time in LA. So I get frustrated and not rage filled when I miss a light due to someone cutting me off. so what else can we do to strengthen our empathy recognizing this is an important part of emotional intelligence you know what's really cool about empathy is you can change you can increase it or you can calm it down depending on where you are with your empathy at any stage of your life it's a skill it's also a trait but it's more a skill and an interaction than it is a trait Drama and fiction are absolutely brilliant ways to work on your empathy because in fiction, you become the protagonist and things happen to you and you're putting on the body and the emotions of another person.

46:55So good movies will do that. Good TV, especially long series where you watch character arcs over a period of time are excellent for developing and honing your empathy. So Korean dramas, here we come. We're going to Netflix. I'm working on my empathy, y 'all. It's a great reason to sit in front of the TV, growing my empathy, leave me alone. Yeah, not for you. Get out.

47:28Yeah. The reason drama plays as well, music, all art is a way to speak with emotion. Music, dance, drama, fiction, all of it is a way to transmit emotion to others. So the more art that you can take in, the more emotions and empathy you're widening your field of view. Yeah. And I would certainly recommend for our audience that they use as many senses as possible to perceive and pick up on those emotions. So not just passively watching, reading novels and seeing how authors develop emotions through a story because these emotions are universal. So, you know, I have not gone on a hero's journey like Luke Skywalker, but I can relate to the emotions that he's feeling in the betrayal and what happened to his family and then going after on that journey.

48:26That's just a normal, natural part of storytelling and why we are drawn to these plays and movies and books and TV shows in the first place. I was thinking for kids, a lot of people look at children's books and say, well, that's just too scary. But kids love that stuff. They love the big emotions. You know, they love the monsters. And obviously adults do too, because of the Marvel universe. We love our monsters and we love our big dramatic stories. And it's good for us. It's good to take time to feel big emotions in a safe way and see how other people do it. Yeah. Yeah. So what's always been fun for Johnny and I in class and teaching emotions and recognizing emotions in others is the question of how much emotions are too much.

49:16It's like, oh, AJ, I can't express overwhelming happiness. It's going to be too much for other people to see me that emotional, especially for men. I feel like that's a real gradient that they are concerned about is not wanting to be too emotional in situations, good or bad emotions. So how much emotion is too much? Do you remember that politician Howard Dean? Oh yeah. And he lost the ability to run for president because he went like this. Emotion sank his entire campaign. That is ridiculous. And now we've got candidates who I don't even want to talk about it. Okay. I do not even want to talk Talk about what candidates are getting away with today.

49:58I wish they would just go, yeah, and we could cancel them all. But there's very much a rule for men with emotions that you have to be cool. You have to hold it in. But even for women, to be extremely joyous in a regular everyday life, people would say, yeah, that's too much. I would say almost any emotion in its intense range would be too much for a lot of people. They would say, yeah, you're too much. I think you want to also surround yourself with people who express emotion in the way that you do or open-minded to how you express emotion. When we first started this company, one of the things that we were helping our clients with was helping men speak with ladies.

50:50And some of the main issues that we were seeing back then, and now it's just, it's the same issues now, just in different surroundings, such as more in career. But it was about expressing themselves in front of women. And the amount of women that have told me, oh, I had to end the relationship or I just wasn't feeling it. And of course, my question is, oh, why so? What did he do? What didn't he do? What turned you off? The answer I always got was I didn't get any emotion. And so if you can't pick up on what somebody else is feeling, you're always going to have this sort of black box in your mind, which results in feeling vulnerable and a lot of anxiety.

51:33So that doesn't allow you to feel comfortable in a relationship. So of course, you're going to remove yourself from that. And now we're seeing the same things as now that our work is more geared to helping people network and their careers, which again, they're now in an office with people who are unable to read them, who are unable to connect through emotion. And that doesn't bode well for getting a raise. That doesn't help out in getting a promotion. If I'm going to give somebody a raise or promotion, I want them emphatic and I want their energy to infect and give me more energy. Yeah. I want to see that enthusiasm.

52:15That energy is what makes the office run well. And the better the emotions, the better the morale in that office. So you want to make sure that that chemistry is good. And the only way that you can do that is by being able to read those emotions. Yeah. It's like table tennis, ping pong. If you can't see what's being served, then you're not even going to see the ball. And that's it. The game's over. It's like to play back and forth with emotion is fun. And I think that's why watching drama, watching or reading fiction is seeing the movement back and forth between people. Well, with that, you know, the rise of stoicism, the poker face at work, not wanting to show emotion, good or bad, or certainly nothing intense can come across as very off-putting and uncomfortable for other people experiencing that.

53:08When you're bottling emotions, when you're withholding emotions, you might think you're doing a good job in withholding them by not verbalizing them. But oftentimes when we see in our video work, well, it's coming through in your body language. It's coming through in your facial expressions. And sometimes it's even painful to watch someone bottling those emotions instead of just sharing them openly. Yeah. And it's hard if you're sensitive within that social group. And the bottling of emotions, it sends such a message to people, but you think you're not doing anything. You think you're not sending any messages because you're bottling your emotions.

53:43You're like, nope, you're loud. You're loud over there with your not emotions. But it can cast a pall on the entire social group, right? I mean, everybody can say, okay, I guess bottling emotions is what we do here because he's doing it. And then it all begins to fall apart. Well, what we find in a lot of our clients is they end up in surface level relationships because they can't get to that trust point. You can't trust another person if you don't know what emotions they're actually expressing, if they're withholding them through stoicism and trying their best to be as even keel as possible. But emotions are a normal, natural human experience.

54:22And if we want to be in relationships, whether it's a work relationship, social relationship, or romantic relationship, we want to know how the other person's feeling. We want to be able to connect on that emotion and not be put at a distance so that stoicism, withholding works against you when we're trying to connect with one another. It really does. And I'm just thinking as you're talking that so many men have been so injured and abused around their emotions, just slapped upside the head every day about their emotions. And it pisses me off. I'm going to tell you, let me go see what I'm feeling.

54:55I'm feeling enraged, livid. And emotions are like our birthright. They are parts of our brain, parts of our ability to make sense of the world. So by telling men that they're not allowed to feel, we're actually crippling them in the social realm. It makes me angry because a deeply feeling man is one of the most beautiful things in the world. And to miss that through social training and abuse, it hurts everybody. There's a lot of emotions tied into a lot of masculine traits, such as loyalty and honor that we need in order to be proper men. Yeah. Well, I know for myself and the way I was raised, those emotions and being emotional and showcasing emotions was frowned upon.

55:47It was seen as not something I should be doing from a young age. And what developed out of that for me was an inability to emotionally regulate. I could not catch any of the ranges. And then on top of it, I could not even get to a place of understanding what my wants and needs were. Because I was constantly modulating my emotional response to please others first and foremost, instead of just trying to figure out, well, what am I feeling and why am I feeling that way? And how can I self-regulate? I was regulating simply to please everyone around me. And then when someone would turn around and say, well, what do you actually want?

56:19I'm sitting there completely stumped. I don't know. What do you want me to want? Exactly. Well, what do you want me to want? Tell me what I should want. Let me know. Give me a clue here. Yeah. And so people talk about the patriarchy being bad for women. And I'm like, it's just as bad for men. It's the arcy that's the problem. Okay. It's not the patri. It's not males being in charge because I see men and especially boys damaged by how we've separated the genders and all this nonsense, both being damaged so much. I'm like, let's get rid of it. Not have a matriarchy because it's going to be just as bad in the other direction.

56:59But something where we're not being pressured to be either for men unemotional and kind of dead inside or for women to be hyper emotional. And it's like we need to balance with each other. We need to come to some middle place where we can all just be human beings with normal human emotions. Well, I'd love to talk about that balance because one of the questions we get is, okay, I know that I'm going to be walking into high stress anxiety situations. I have a job interview. I'm going to a networking event and I'm an introvert. I'm going on a first date and I know I'm going to be high anxiety in that situation.

57:39It's going to be stressful for me. What can I do in those moments to regulate my emotions in a manner that allows me to communicate effectively and connect with the other person? Anxiety is a beautiful emotion that most people hate. But its job is to help you prepare for things you're not prepared for. And so with anxiety, it's doing your prep work, writing down what you're afraid of, writing down the worst case scenario, and then planning for it. There were some studies done on students who were told they were taking a calculus test and they have 30 minutes. That was the experiment. and some were allowed to go and meditate.

58:23Some were just allowed to sit for 30 minutes and some were allowed to write down what they were afraid of, right? And you would think, don't write down what you're afraid of. It's going to break your courage. Well, we were all wrong because the ones who were allowed to write down what they were afraid of, which means they were being honest with their emotions, their anxiety was coming out and saying, okay, you do not know the cosign. You do not know how to use a cosign. They did well on the test and the ones who meditated did not and the ones who sat there did not. So being emotionally honest with anxiety is really the most important thing and have some time to write down, I think I'm going to just say all the wrong things and then find, go to Google and say, how do I say the right things?

59:09It's like, fill yourself. There's some professionals of anxiety actors, because they're going to go on stage live. Lord, anything can happen. They can forget their lines. And their rule is preparation, preparation, preparation. And so with those fears, it's not to treat them as like, oh, that's never going to happen. You're just being silly. Listen to each one of them and prepare. I mean, it takes some time, but it's better than being overwhelmed and unable to speak because you don't actually know what you're afraid of or what your anxiety is trying to point out. Yeah, I think it's a more effective way to use the signal that anxiety is giving you than to withdraw and avoid anxious moments and get further in your comfort zone instead of stretching yourself.

59:57Yeah, another thing is a lot of when I did my book on anxiety, it's called Embracing Anxiety. And I asked everybody, tell me your anxiety stories. They were to a person, including psychiatrists and psychologists talking about panic. They weren't even in the right emotion. So anxiety is about preparing for a future that you're not prepared for. Panic is about saving your life. So if there's any dread or danger in your anxiety, panic is there too. And that's not a bad thing, but it's important to know the difference between your emotions, okay? Because with anxiety, you prepare. With panic, you have fight, flee, freeze, flock to safety.

1:00:37It's a very fast emotion, very intense. So it's important to say, okay, what about going to this blind date is so threatening to me that my panic has come forward, which is the emotion that saves your life? Well, there could be a lot of things, right? It could be a lot of things about this blind date that feel life-changing or life-threatening, or at least, do you know what I'm saying? It's like Yeah. Panic is there for a reason. But when anxiety, which is very forward-leaning and has lots and lots of information, and panic, which is a very powerful emotion, when they're together, you can sort of lose yourself, right?

1:01:19You're just being pushed forward. So working these two emotions is really important. It's like, is my life physically in danger, panic? And they're like, well, maybe not at the date, but I'm just looking out for you. Yeah. So gleaning the information from these emotions, knowing what part of cognition that they hold for you, is a way to begin working with them in different ways. And it's not that you won't be overwhelmed by emotion, because sometimes emotions need to come up at a really high level. But that you'll at least have some idea of what's happening inside you. You know, when you're feeling rage, it's a boundary.

1:01:57So what's the boundary? instead of a lot of people, they're feeling rage. Where's the weapon and who can I hit? Like, that's not exactly the question you want to ask rage. You want to get in the ballpark of what it's doing. And understand what is the signal that created that emotion. Yeah. What is that emotion responding to? It's real. So find out what your entire organism is sensing here through the prism of anger. Well, thank you so much for sharing the language of emotions with us. Where can our audience find out more about the work that you do? You can come to my site, CarlaMcClaren.com or my educational site, EmpathyAcademy.org.

1:02:38Wonderful. Thank you for joining us, Carla. Thank you so much.

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