Ep.100 When You Surrender Control, Everything Changes

0:06David Ghiyam:Welcome, everyone, to the David Ghiyam podcast. This is episode 100, where we share the energy of the week and deep Kabbalistic wisdom from the sages of how to create miracles in our lives. I first want to say thank you for all your support. I believe I started this podcast almost two years ago. And in the last 100 episodes, really from no audience whatsoever, because I had just started my platform then, I think we have something over 6 million downloads across all the different ways that you can hear this podcast. So thank you for your support, as always, and for helping to bring this wisdom out to the world.

0:42David Ghiyam:I also want to say for those who are always asking how you can go deeper besides the weekly podcast you can go to my website davidgiem.com i have many different master classes there where i dive deeper into the wisdom of kabbalah surrounding relationships prosperity your soul's destiny reincarnation astrology it's all there and of course david ai which is the premier spiritual coaching platform right now in the world. So far, we've had something like 4 million conversations on David AI just in the last four or five months. So it's been incredible. And it's an incredible way to connect to coaching on demand whenever you want.

1:25David Ghiyam:And I've seen from the feedback that I get daily, 10 to 15 minutes is all you need to be able to solve a problem. So what is the energy of this week, especially this month, because we are starting the energy of cancer. And the sages actually say that there are two months in the year where some might consider them to be challenging months, but we have to always understand what challenging means. Challenging means an excess of energy. So when the amount of energy that wants to be revealed, and energy can be for us, any part of our life where we're trying to receive more fulfillment, whenever the energy exceeds the capacity of the vessel to receive and harness it, we call that stress.

2:12David Ghiyam:We call that anxiety. We call that chaos. So if 100 watts of energy trying to fit into a 60-watt bulb, you're going to have a short circuit. The energy innately is not bad. The bulb innately is not a problem. It's just that when the two try to come together, they cannot reveal one another. And so in the month of Cancer, astrologically, we know that each of the planets are representing two months in the year. But Cancer and Leo are the only months where only one planet or one astrological force is controlling it. So the moon only controls the month of Cancer, and the sun only controls the month of Leo.

3:06So let's say, for example, the planet of Saturn will control both Capricorn and Aquarius.

3:17David Ghiyam:So its energy is split, but not with Cancer and Leo, which means that the full intensity of these energies is contained in one month. So how do we handle this intensity? We have to be the ones that know that this energy exists and we have to do more on our part to create the vessel for that energy. So I'm gonna share with you right now. So these two months can be months of great healing, great manifestation, great miracles. And if not treated with respect, if we are just choosing to be reactive, overly emotional selfish in that we are not going outside of ourselves and really thinking about other people if we don't maintain a consciousness of certainty and wholeness we risk not being able to harness this intense energy and as a result painful moments can occur and again those painful moments are just to expand us just to reroute us we always say like the gps signal on uh on on the Waze or Google Maps, as soon as you make a wrong turn, your GPS will say recalculating.

4:32David Ghiyam:It's going to recalculate your next best route. You're not going to be punished. You're not being judged. You're not being scolded. It's just you made a decision that happened to be a decision to make a turn that was not the most direct path to where you want it to be, where your destination is. And so, the GPS has to recalculate for you. How do we avoid the recalculations this month is really what we want to talk about. And I'm going to share a concept with you that just this one thing alone, if you apply in your life, you will immediately see a shift. You can see miracles immediately just from this one concept.

5:16And that is the idea of who do you believe is in control?

5:25David Ghiyam:Who's really in control? If you think about all the things that make us reactive, reactive by definition is any thought, word, or action which comes from fear or lack. That's what reactive behavior is. Were you reactive today? Did you have any thoughts? Did you say anything? Did you do anything, type anything, email anyone, walk in a certain way, drive somewhere, maybe even go to work because you were afraid, because you felt like you're missing something and you need something? Have you ever been in a room and there's someone in the room who maybe you like or you need their energy or you want their approval.

6:10David Ghiyam:So you start to change the way you behave. You might even change the way you walk. You might even stand up straighter because you want to be noticed. Because you want to be liked. Have you ever posted anything on social media because you wanted the attention? You wanted the validation? You wanted someone to recognize you? Have you ever bought a piece of clothing or even decided to pull an outfit out of your closet because you're like, you know what? it's not about I want to reveal just my energy for myself, for my soul. I know that my ex is going to be at this event and I want them to see what they lost.

6:49David Ghiyam:I want them to see what they're missing. Have you ever had these kind of thoughts? All of these thoughts, all of these words, all of these actions which come from that place, a place of manipulation, fear, lack, emptiness. This constitutes reactive behavior. And so why do we become reactive? Well, obviously we've learned that our soul comes to this world with negativity that it must transform, but let's go even deeper than that. We are reactive because we do not believe that the creator is in control. We believe that people are in control. we believe that people are making decisions and so sometimes when someone makes a decision that i don't like or that's not in my favor i get upset at that person we don't really believe that the creator is the one that is telling them to make a decision or the creator is the one that is telling them not to make a decision we believe it's the person we believe it's personal We believe we need to convince that person to do something.

7:59David Ghiyam:Imagine you're in a negotiation. What are you thinking? You're not thinking that the creator is in control. You're not thinking that the creator is the one putting the words in that person's mouth. The creator is the one that is guiding even the attorneys that are on the other side of this negotiation. We believe it's the person. And so we end up dealing in life in a very bipolar way. On one hand, we're like, yes, we're very spiritual. It's all about the light of the creator. We're transforming who we are. But then also, business is business. People are people. If I don't control this person or control this situation, it's not going to happen.

8:40Or you may be thinking, someone left you.

8:44David Ghiyam:Someone broke your heart. Did they break your heart? Did they decide to leave you? Ultimately, no one is making a decision on their own. If the light of the creator didn't want that person to leave you, that person would never leave you. And if that person wanted to stay with you forever, but the light of the creator had other plans, the light of the creator had a bigger picture both for you and them, the creator will make sure that that person leaves you no matter what, even if they don't want to leave you. Think about that for a moment. Every single thing that has happened in your life and will happen in your life is not coming through the people.

9:27David Ghiyam:It is coming because this universal spiritual GPS that we call the creator has a higher design and that design is specific towards how to bring you the greatest level of happiness and fulfillment. It's hard in the moment, I agree. It is hard in the moment when we feel so crushed, when we feel that we don't have resources, When we feel unloved or we feel we're getting older, when we feel that maybe you feel now you're a single parent, just went through a divorce, you have to start your life all over again, you have a lot of stress, you have a lot of bills. You're not the person you once were, so who's going to love you?

10:12David Ghiyam:Who's going to want to be with a single parent, let's say? That's what you're going through. Everyone has their own specific challenges. but know that it is not statistics that determines your life it's not even historical data someone could tell you well statistically a person at this age or in this situation it's harder for them to find their soulmate i beg to differ in fact i have seen in my 25 years of coaching couples and coaching individuals that there is no statistical significance find someone who's 20 years old, 30 years old, 40 years old, 50 years old. I've seen people in their 60s find love faster than people in their 30s or their prime.

10:56There's actually no statistical

11:02correlation to miracles. So whatever age you are, whatever moment you are in your life,

11:09David Ghiyam:you can tap into the world of miracles any moment. Why? Because it is not our society that determines who is wealthy and who is not. It is not the public that decides who shall find love or not. It is not even these dating apps. It is not even the way you look that determines if you fall in love or not. Everything is determined by the universal GPS of the creator. So what is our free will? That's what you're thinking. Well, if everything is determined by the creator, what is my role? Imagine this. Your only free will in this life is to know what I just shared. You came to this world to know that you have no free will.

11:53David Ghiyam:It takes a lifetime to realize actually that you have no control. The creator is fully in control. Think of how much work you actually have to do on yourself to get to that level of consciousness. Because it sounds good right now. You're listening to this podcast and you're like, yeah, I agree with that. That feels right. I resonate with that. And it also feels very calming to know that I don't have to try to control everything. The creator is in control. But what's going to happen 20 minutes after we're done here? A challenge is going to come up. Someone's going to say something you don't like.

12:23David Ghiyam:Someone's going to, your partner, someone you love so greatly is going to touch a wound and you're going to take it personally. Right? We all do. We all take it personally, myself included. We all react because we forget, or at least we haven't fully achieved that level of consciousness, which is called ruach. It's a higher level of the soul. It's the second level of the soul. When you reach the Ruach, the way you know you've reached the higher level of your soul, which means a higher level of a destiny, is every time something happens, you believe the creator is in control and it's not the person.

12:59David Ghiyam:The person is just an avatar. The person's a robot. That's also what astrology is, by the way. Sometimes you say, well, the planets are controlling this and that. The planets aren't controlling anything. They're just conduits of energy. The only reason I use astrology is, well, one, the sages used it. Abraham the patriarch was the start of spirituality in this world. He was the first astrologer. And you know what Abraham said? He said, here's how astrology works. And your purpose is to rise above all the astrology.

13:32David Ghiyam:Meaning, astrology is there to show you where your baseline is, to show you where your tikkun is, to show you what energies are affecting you. Your free will is to say, well, the creator's in control. Not the stars. Not other people. Not the society, not the economy, not politics. The president's not even in control. When you reach that state, now you rise above the stars. It says you reach the level of what's called 13 because we have 12 signs of the zodiac. As long as you're under those 12, you're always going to be limited. It's important to learn about the 12. It's important to know astrology.

14:07David Ghiyam:Know your personal astrology. you know what's happening in the world, only so you can rise above it. I always say, I'll never get into a business that I don't fully understand. I'll never invest in something that I don't fully understand. Why? Because I need to fully understand the business, the whole, all of it, A to Z, because then you have to rise above it to be successful. You have to then break through the status quo of what that economy is, what that business is, what that sector is. You have to rise above all of it. and the whole purpose of learning Kabbalah for me was to learn as much of it as I can so that I'm not reacting to it same with any other business that I'd be in what happens when you rise above 12 you reach what's called 13 13 is one of the most positive numbers Kabbalistically it's the same numerical value in Hebrew and Aramaic as the word which means oneness so when you're one with the creator you reach 13 which is you rise above all the astrological influences.

15:06David Ghiyam:So yeah, the things that make a Scorpio reactive or a Cancer reactive or a Leo reactive, they don't apply to you anymore. You've risen above your sign. Sometimes I'm with people and I ask them, what's your sign? They say, guess. I'm like, okay, we want to play the guessing game. If I can guess your sign, it means you haven't done enough spiritual work because the whole goal is to rise above your sign that no one would ever know you are that sign. So if I get it right, it's an indication that you still haven't risen above your sign, you haven't reached the 13. 13 is also the numerical value of the word ahava, which means love.

15:43And that is why love conquers all. When you love someone, and there's many degrees of love, but the highest degree is unconditional

15:56David Ghiyam:love, which means that no matter what they've done to you, no matter what they've given or haven't given to you. You've risen above taking it personally. You've risen above emotions that are reactive. You've risen above your anger, your pain, your shame. And you say, what can I do to still care about this person? And by the way, caring could mean blocking them. Caring could mean not talking to them anymore. Caring could mean being very direct with them and letting them know what they've done wrong, but always from a place of care about them and not about vengeance from you. Think about your child, your own children, if you have children, or one day you will.

16:41David Ghiyam:No matter what they do, even if they do the worst things and they go to prison, God forbid, you're still going to show up at prison. You still care about them, right? You don't write them off and say, well, I don't care about you because you don't care about me. No matter what they do, you still find a way to care about them. Even if they do the worst things, you still find a way to recalculate as a parent how to help them become the best version of themselves. And so that is what 13 is all about. And truth is, we could throw all these books away. We could throw thousands and thousands and thousands of hours of content away and just focus on love, of course, right?

17:22David Ghiyam:you've heard this so many times before, but the reason why we need to study all these books is just to even have the strength or the tools or the wisdom of how to get to this consciousness called love, unconditional love, which is not easy.

17:38David Ghiyam:So going back to the concept we're talking about, the one concept that if you can keep in your mind as long as possible throughout the day, the chaos will go away. Who's in control? If you're waiting for a deal to close, If you're waiting for someone to call you or text you, maybe you went out on a date and you enjoyed spending time with this person and you're wondering, will they ask you out again? Or maybe you're in a relationship and you're wondering, will they propose? Where is this going? Or you're wondering, should you stay in a relationship or not? These are all questions we have. You want to know how you get to the answer in the fastest way?

18:21David Ghiyam:pause, take a step back, and say, one, wait, one second. I'm not in control. They're not in control. The creator's in control. If the creator wants them to text me, they'll text me. If the creator wants this deal to close, the deal will close. Now, does that mean that you do nothing? Of course not. We must always do whatever we can to manifest something. You have to put in the work, the time, the energy. You have to work on yourself, on your belief systems about receiving. As we've learned, you have to work on your anger. You have to work on your reactivity. You have to do all those things. And the cherry on top of your spiritual work that manifests everything ultimately is, now that I've done all that, it's just to get me to a point where I realize I still don't have any control.

19:15David Ghiyam:because you don't know whether you have control or not until you've done everything. Because if you just sit on the couch and you're lazy and you say, yeah, the creator is in control. There's no point in doing anything. You don't really mean it because you haven't done it all. Rav Ashla, the greatest Kabbalist of our time says, the reason why we need to put maximum effort physically and everything in this world, maximum effort spiritually in this world and everything is to do the max and see that the max doesn't work and then we surrender and say, wow, the creator really is in control because I've tried everything and it hasn't worked.

19:50David Ghiyam:Austin though, actually the most successful people in the world, I promise you this, they didn't just do something and become successful. Let me tell you what they did because it's the parts Austin we don't see. They did everything and then it didn't work and they had more stress and they almost went bankrupt or they did go bankrupt. and it almost all fell apart or it did fall apart they did the right thing and then everybody was still against them they had the best product the best marketing and still it failed and then they said consciously or unconsciously i need help from the universe it's really not about me anymore i'm gonna still push forward and put my maximum but i know it's not about me and then the miracle came if you ever if you go look at the 10 richest people in this world you will see at least in the very beginning of their process they were overwhelmed, broken, and then rebuilt.

20:49Nobody just, like a hockey stick

20:52David Ghiyam:which just went up and to the right on the chart. No one just continuously made money or continuously had love and continuously had blessings and there was never a down. There's a lot of effort that was put in and then it felt like the effort didn't work or it actually didn't work and then they still pushed through. every athlete, every entrepreneur, every founder, and that is you. Where are you on this journey? You do have to put in the maximum. You have to do everything in your power to be successful in every department of life, in your health, in your wealth, in your relationships. Yes, you have to be romantic.

21:31David Ghiyam:You have to go out of your way. You have to be thoughtful. With your health, you have to go to the gym. You have to eat right. You have to sleep right. When it comes to your career, yes, you have to think that you have to optimize the marketing. You have to optimize the supply chain. You have to optimize the compliance. You have to have good culture. You have to check in on all your employees. You have to make sure people are happy. You have to have good pay. You have to have good incentives. You have to work on yourself. You have to be a good leader. You have to learn what it means to be a leader.

21:56David Ghiyam:You have to cut the fat. You have to let go of the B employees. All this stuff is true. And at the end of the day, realize that after you made all that effort, you're not in control. Take a moment and see what that feels like. That is called the Shabbat. Everyone talks about Shabbat or the Sabbath. Every religion celebrates it differently. Shabbat is a code for the moment after you've done everything, now you surrender. It says in the Bible that on the seventh day God rested. It's kind of foolish to think that an infinite force of energy that has no lack whatsoever was so tired that it needed to rest.

22:40David Ghiyam:The way we think rest, right? For us rest is like, we're laying on the couch, maybe just watch a little TV and rest. The creator doesn't need to rest. There's no lack in the creator. So what's the code? On the seventh day, he rested means

22:59David Ghiyam:no movement is necessary because everything's already done. everything is already whole and complete and when you surrender to the creator you're basically saying I'm rested it's Shabbat everything is whole and complete there's nothing left for me to do now it's all the creator I have done my part and my part is only to get to a place where I know that my part is insignificant now it is all the creator so you cannot say that before you do your part you cannot do that say that before you you try your maximum and everything every moment of your life and i remember i was doing a meditation this morning before i took the kids to school how about they were having breakfast so i stepped outside it was just a beautiful it was beautiful here in los angeles the weather is really perfect right now and the sun just came out and i told myself all the things that i'm working on right now even sharing Kabbalah really all the things that I'm doing am I really in control if the creator wants Kabbalah to come to the world it's going to happen, if the creator doesn't want it, it's not going to happen if the creator wants it through me, it'll happen, if it doesn't want it through me, it'll be somebody else but I need to know that that is the reality do not think that you are the one orchestrating everything what you are doing is you're just creating the vessel for the creator to come in and reveal itself fully but the creator is in control let's do a meditation now that will actually help us live this that will help us understand fully what manifestation is really all about i want you to find the place of quiet in a moment to quiet your own brain and sit relaxed so that there are no other forces that are bothering you or distracting you.

24:58I want you to take a deep breath in. Just hold it for a moment. Feel the oxygen in the blood throughout your body and feel the tingling sensations in your fingers, in your toes, throughout your mind, and release.