Ep.103 Why Worrying About Someone Puts Evil Eye On Them

0:06Welcome everyone to the David Giam Podcast. This is episode 103 where we talk about the energy of the week. I start by saying thank you for helping bring the spiritual wisdom of Kabbalah to the world. I continue to get messages every day of how this content, this wisdom from the sages is changing your life for the better. My goal is always to bring this in a very democratic way, non-biased way, affordable way, and help even subsidize it with my own means to be able to help you have access to this wisdom. And one of the ways we've been able to do so is through David AI. And I've been receiving incredible feedback that I'm implementing to improve it even more.

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1:37it is truly a remarkable thing it is now today the number one ai coaching platform in the world thanks to you so and i do read all my messages on social media so if you have any feedback or anything you want to share miracle stories please do so all right so what is the energy of this week what might all of us be experiencing as we said before we are in what's called the bain hametzareem which is three weeks where a very intense energy comes down to this world. The sages share from the Old Testament that there are 22 days throughout the year, which are considered chagim, positive holidays, positive days of energy, where what happens is that the upper and lower worlds come together in a very special union, like a light and vessel.

2:35And whoever in the physical world is in tune with those days, and you see throughout the year, I actually create journeys around those days. I don't always tell you that I'm doing that, but around these very special 22 days, we create energetic journeys. And on these days, what's happening is that there is a very powerful connection of light and vessel happening in the upper world. So those in the lower world who are conscious of them, who prepare for them, who know how to access them, will receive a benefit. Will receive like a, best way to explain it is a shift in destiny, a skip over many destinies in a moment.

3:15So let's say, for example, it was deemed that a person needed to do three years of spiritual work, overcome certain things to find their soulmate. It could happen in three weeks through certain shifts that happen on these days. It's like portals or windows in time. we know everything in this world that is positive also has its corresponding dark side so that is true so for every human in this world was a positive human was trying to bring light to the world there will be someone who will have the opposite consciousness who has been chosen by the creator to bring darkness to always have the world be in a place of equilibrium so for these 22 positive days, we have 22 days, which is these three weeks, where the energy is so intense that it can burn us.

4:08Now, what does that mean? As we've learned, there's really no such thing as negativity.

4:18So, these three weeks, which we're in the middle of, there's a great light that wants to be revealed. What is darkness? Darkness is when the light does not have a vessel to hold it. When there is a proper vessel, that light becomes revealed and it's very positive. So during this time, the way we can avoid pain and suffering and chaos is to go out of our way to create more of a vessel for the light, not to go out looking to draw more energy. And I'll explain the difference in a moment. Whenever you're surrendering and letting go, whenever you're choosing to be present in the moment, you're creating a resistance inside of your soul and that resistance creates the vessel.

5:10Kind of like when you go to the gym, what are you doing? You're creating resistance against your muscle. That resistance is expanding your muscle, which is the vessel. And that muscle is not holding energy, holding strength. Hence why people who are exercising and working out have more strength, because they've created the vessel via the resistance to hold that energy. So what is resistance for all of us? The resistance is our lack of being present. If you're feeling anxious right now, if you're feeling like you have so much on your plate, If you feel very stressed, there's so much going on and you're worried about so many things.

5:49And especially if you feel that you're falling behind, this is very customary of the energy of these three weeks. If you feel that you're falling behind, you have to know that it is a complete illusion. You are not behind. You are whatever you believe in your consciousness. The creator is your shadow and will mimic, the upper worlds will mimic whatever is going down in the lower worlds in our consciousness. And this is why I, because I have experienced it as well. So many people around me are experiencing it. Usually if you're on a spiritual path, you desire great things, you desire great energy, there is a sensitivity that you're going to feel this more.

6:35You're going to be more aligned and in tune with the energy of creation. I have felt this too and I'm always reminding myself this intensity that I feel the pain the chaos the uncertainty the worries about my own personal needs and sometimes we're just worrying about other people we're worrying about people that are close to us we're worrying about people in different countries in different places and you must know that all of the worry is actually shrinking the vessel every time we worry about someone we're actually putting evil eye on them and we're shrinking our own vessel to hold the true protection that we're looking for.

7:15So that's the first thing we need to all just know right now. Transform worry into certainty beyond logic. Yes, that is easier said than done because if it was easy, everybody would do it and it would not be called resistance. The hardest resistance is to go from a state of worry and intrusive thoughts about what's going to happen. And it usually hits you at night or first thing in the morning, right? Your cortisol levels are kind of wonky. Right before you go to bed, it's all the thoughts, intrusive thoughts come. Or in the morning, they come. The opponent is very strong at night and first thing in the morning.

7:53Because those are both seed levels of the new energy. At night, it's the seed level of the nighttime, time, which is the time where the soul goes up and receives its new destiny. So the opponent loves to get you right at the sea level of that. If you could go to bed anxious or worried or afraid, then the opponent has won. And so your vessel shrinks as your soul goes up at night to receive its new destiny. And of course, in the beginning of the day, the sea level of the day, the Zohar says. A person should, quote, jump out of bed like a tiger, like a lion with excitement and enthusiasm, even if you have a thousand problems that are on your plate that you have to deal with.

8:37You have a thousand problems, so many issues. Great. Jump out of bed like a tiger with excitement and certainty beyond logic. Your logical mind gives you logical reasons why you should be upset, why you should be afraid, why you should be worried, why you should be anxious. As you're going to brush your teeth, you're worried and anxious. As you're going to take a shower, you're worried and anxious. As you're getting into your car, as you're going to the gym, all these worries come. Yes. And your logical mind has very good explanations about why you should be worried. But you have come to this world to build the vessel of certainty.

9:13And there's no way you can build the vessel of certainty without experiencing the opposite of certainty, which is doubt, fears, strong fears, fears that have evidence, evidence that you can see. And so this is our work. There is no other work, by the way. All the pleasures of life that you want and you desire, all the wealth and love, all of those things will come to the person who's developing their certainty. And it's not certainty about the big things in life. It's about small things. Just can you have certainty in the first five minutes of your day? While you're brushing your teeth, can you calm your mind down and say, I'm just going to focus on brushing my teeth.

9:54I'm going to literally just feel my teeth, taste the toothpaste, be present, and say thank you to the creator that whatever the life I have is exactly the life I want. You see, we always have to, and it's kind of confusing sometimes because we say on one hand, dream big, think big, desire big of the things you don't have. This is true. I've said this many times before. Sages have. We also say, be completely certain that everything you have right now is exactly what you need. That's it. No more than that. And it's perfect. Which one is it? Do I think big or do I just say I have everything I need.

10:35And you must do both because one is light and one is vessel. One is light and one is vessel. When you are having certainty that everything that you will ever need is actually here right now, even though you don't see it or feel it or experience it, you don't have a relationship, but you have complete certainty that you're in a relationship. You don't have the income right now. You don't have the money. It's not here yet. The physical money is not here. The bank account is low, but you have complete certainty as if the billions of dollars are right there in the account. And you feel like it's there in the account.

11:18And you see it like it's there in the account. Experience it. Emotionally experience the money there in the account. emotionally experience what this soulmate relationship is. Emotionally experience giving birth to your first child if you're trying to have children. Take the pressure off of you needing to do something and realize that you already have it. Now, when you've achieved this state of consciousness, then you can think big. And once you think big, expand your desire. You expand your awareness. That then brings you to new people, to new ideas, new opportunities. And throughout that pursuit, guess what's going to happen?

12:07You're going to get anxious again. You're going to realize what you don't have. You're going to compare yourself to other people. And then you go back to the wholeness. You see, this exercise happens back and forth. Notice how you even live. You live through breathing. You breathe in and then you breathe out. You don't just breathe in. You don't just breathe out. You need both. Well, when do I breathe in? Right after you breathe out. When do I breathe out? Right after you breathe in. And that is how the spiritual work is. See, a lot of people, they think spiritual work is just one thing and I just do that one thing.

12:39I just meditate. I just give. I just do this. I just do that. No, it's not one thing. It's light and dark, light and vessel all the time. It's think big, let go. Think big, let go. It's mercy, it's judgment. Sometimes with people, you have to be unconditional and merciful. Someone did something wrong, it's okay. No problem, no worries. Why? Because you know at that moment, it's mercy, mercy is what they need. Sometimes you have to be very strict. And there has to be a punishment. You have to draw a boundary. I remember the kids were having breakfast and my youngest, the son was in his eye and he wanted to put the curtain down.

13:28He's five years old. So the curtain's electric. So he went to hit the electric button. But the problem is the door was also open. So when you hit the curtain while the door is open, it breaks the curtain because the curtain comes down on an open door and then the whole thing malfunctions. We had told the children that before. He didn't realize it. And so when I came to the room, I saw this curtain just crashing down on the floor. I looked at his face and I saw in his face that he knew he had done what he thought was the most horrible thing. He had so much fear because he thought that he was about to be yelled at or punished tremendously.

14:17And I thought to myself, even though I was upset about it, I had to pause. As we've learned, you cannot react no matter what's happening. You cannot come from a place of lack or fear. I paused and I asked myself, what is the best way to communicate with him right now? Is it mercy or is it judgment? Mercy would be much more compassion, making him feel like it wasn't a big deal. Judgment would be more strict. Again, not coming from a place of anger, but there's a strictness. So often punishments that have to happen. I don't even like to use the word punishment, but there's a boundary that needs to be set.

14:57At that moment, it was clear that what his soul needed was mercy. And he was already giving himself enough judgment. You could see it in his eyes. And this happens a lot. We don't realize that, especially happens in female energy. One of the sages says that it is important to be very careful not to criticize women. criticize a woman why because a woman comes from the left column which is the vessel which is the moon which is like a vessel doesn't have light of its own so a woman is always seeing what's wrong with herself she's always casting the female energy is always casting judgment already on herself So when someone else is also judging her and criticizing her, it can be very destructive.

15:47It can be very destructive because she's already judging herself so much. Often, we have to balance the judgment with mercy. Someone is very hard on themselves, we have to balance it with mercy. Someone is very merciful with themselves, they just do whatever they want and they feel like they can get away with anything, so then we have to balance it out with more boundaries. That's how the universe works And that is often what leads to the best relationships. Now, again, I don't want to make this a relationship podcast, but just the concept of balancing energy. You always have to make sure that your intention is what's best for the other person and what's best for the relationship as a whole.

16:26It's not what you want to do because you're trying to become powerful or show them that no one can hurt you or control you, right? It's all about the intention. What's best truly for their soul? What's best for their soul? So bringing it back to the energy of this time, if you're feeling intensity, do not worry. In fact, it is an opportunity for great, great energy to be revealed. More energy can be revealed in this time than any time in the year, in fact. But you must be very careful. So a few other things that I have learned from the sages during this time is also to minimize evil speech, right?

17:08One of the most reactive things, the main cause of all the chaos in our lives and in the world comes from speech. Think about it. If people just didn't talk or only spoke when it was constructive, where would the world be? Where would we all be? Where would every relationship be? Speak only when it's constructive. I have gone so far as to not even meet with people for fear that it may lead into evil speech. Of course, when I say meet with people, I'm meeting people that I need to meet. But you know, there's people that, there's a friend that you know that if you went to dinner with them tonight, inevitably, you're gonna talk about your ex, their ex, their situation.

17:50There's gonna be some complaining, maybe venting. Sure, of course we need to be there for our friends. I'm not saying not to, but even if a friend said, I really need to talk to you, I would pray and meditate for a few minutes before I called them. And I would ask the creator, help both of us. Only speak in a constructive way. It's okay to vent if it's constructive. It's okay to vent if your reason you're venting is because you want to get the poison out because you want help to become better. It's not okay to vent just to put someone else down because they hurt you. So everything just has to be more intentional.

18:28And when in doubt, don't talk. Don't speak. Leave it alone. Be in silence. I, I, I'm someone who was telling me today, you know, I look forward to the day that you have more community on your platform. And by the way, community is so important and I do intend to find ways to do it, but I myself have been part of communities, built communities for the last 25 years. I've seen every kind of community. You know what? Community is powerful because it's a sense of belonging and love and support. That's what community gave me. But because it is so powerful, it also comes with its corresponding darkness.

19:14So many communities around the world that I'm part of or I've joined or I've visited, it could be religious groups. I remember teaching at a Catholic church once. I remember teaching at a mosque once. I remember teaching at different Orthodox temples, Jewish temples, different communities, the Syrian community, the Persian community, the Armenian community, an Italian community. And you know what's interesting? A lot of these communities, they say, we love each other. We have so much unity. We would do anything for each other. I say, well, what's the biggest issue you're all facing? They say, everybody speaks badly about the other person.

19:53if there's a divorce if there's something going on it roars through the community and we all speak badly about each other and we tear each other down to their face we will be happy and we will say nice things and we will support we will even help finance things that they need help you know someone lost their house we were all there for them helping them pay their mortgage whatever but we also behind our backs spoke badly about them. It is chaos for us. Every word that we say, and I want you to be conscious of it next time you realize the words that we say, they are not constructive truly from an intention of construction, not destruction.

20:32They drain your soul. They destroy your vessel. I can tell within the first 10 minutes of talking to someone or just watching the behavior of someone, the way they speak. I know how much chaos they have in their life. I know how difficult it's going to be for them to find their soulmate. I know that this kind of person probably attracts lawsuits or has financial issues. Why? Because within the 10 minutes that I saw, 98 % of what came out of their mouth was useless words or destructive words. Words that had no use, brought no happiness, brought no joy, brought no construction. Literally, this person just wanted to hear themselves talk or they were trying to take energy by putting other people down.

21:18I know. I know with that because that's just cause and effect. In that 10 minutes, they said 1 ,000 negative words. Guess what? That's just like 1 ,000 cancer cells that eat away at their business or their love life. They'll go home that night to their partner, their wife, their husband, whatever, and they're going to get into a fight why because you came home with a thousand negative angels surrounding you so that is one thing that i will say be very careful of during these three weeks the second thing is say thank you and not just thank you like you know everyone talks about gratitude gratitude much deeper understanding is what i'm sharing thank you meaning you're saying thank you to the creator because you're saying i agree even though i cannot see even though i don't know why even though i have my my my my mind cannot even grasp what's happening and how it is good thank you i agree and the sages say in hebrew and aramaic what is the name of a person who reaches a very high level of consciousness This person can, it says the time of Jesus, actually.

22:36Great sages, 2 ,000 years ago, they were called the Tanayim. And they were all considered what's called a Sadiq, righteous. That's what I mean. Sadiq means righteous. They could all resurrect people who were dead. They could heal people at will. They could change physicality. And we heard these stories of these great sages. It's called a Sadiq. Why is it called a Sadiq? Why are they called righteous? There's a code. The code is, it comes from the word matzdiq, which means person who justifies, person who believes that this is just, no matter what. No matter what you think is fair, unfair, you say, this is just.

23:20This is coming from the creator. There's a verse you say, when a person dies, you say, Baruch Dayan Amet which is blessed is the truthful judge. That's the first verse that the sages would say if somebody died. Baruch Dayan Amet which means I even though death is the worst thing that can happen we don't want it to happen it seems unfair that it happened still if it happened we know that the creator has a plan and Matzika we justify the situation beyond our logical mind. So this is a time we say, thank you, have certainty. And don't listen to your stupid logical mind that says, but the evidence shows otherwise.

24:08Don't worry, creator will redeem. The lights will be revealed and the darkness will go away. The person with the most certainty wins. The person with the most certainty wins. Let's do a meditation. Let's take a deep breath in and then exhale. And as you exhale, I want you to let go of all the tension. The tension is just all the control. Let go of all the control. What is it that you're holding on to? what is it that you feel you need to control if you don't control it it's gonna fall apart if you don't control it you'll never earn it if you don't control them they're gonna hurt you you feel like you have to helicopter life what if now is the time where you had the permission really just to let it go and let the creator be your partner.

25:27Create some space. Create a little space for the light to come in. The creator wants to give you so much, so badly, but we have to create the space. It is amazing that you work so hard. It is amazing that you put in so much effort and time and energy, your thoughts, so invested in making something happen and it is not going unnoticed in the upper worlds. But now, just pause. Give yourself permission to let go. Let the creator come in and take over. This is the time that by doing less, we reveal more. by doing less we reveal more by speaking less by moving less you do not need to fix everything don't need to fix everyone you don't even need to become spiritual and heal we're always so anxious to become something new and become something else what if you're already there what if all the spiritual work is just to realize that there's no need for spiritual work everyone is always rushing to some destination what if the only destination was to know that you already got there

27:17that is the lesson for this time and yes once you internalize this lesson becomes part of you you feel it you see it you believe it there will be a new lesson but we cannot skip we cannot rush to the end

27:43there are certain steps we must follow to bake this cake and so in this season in this time the greater the intensity the greater you should let go let the light come in you have nothing to lose it's just your physical body anyways it's just your money it's just physical things it's not your soul so what if it's all gonna fall apart so what if it's all gonna be taken away you think you have control over them you only have control over your consciousness in fact by letting it go is the way you get to keep it so what are you holding on

28:34what are you being so rigid about

28:40take a deep breath in and just let go give yourself permission to have grace for yourself

28:54think of someone right now that maybe we're being a little hard on judging them, speaking badly about them standing our ground well, just let go let's just let go send them light send them energy don't fight anymore don't fight it's okay what's yours is yours no one can take it from you just keep your consciousness keep your certainty the light will take care of you the light will protect you it's a lesson for all of us all of us imagine a world where everybody has a little more certainty and just let go