Ep.91 Are You a Builder or a Destroyer? (Most Don't Know)

0:05Welcome, everyone, to the David Ghiyam podcast, where we talk about the energy of the week. And right now, we're in a very special time. This time is called the Omer. And what is happening to all the souls of humanity is that we have received, we should have received, and those of us who are desiring to know the creator and to know our soul, we'll have the experience in the last few weeks, a glimpse of the perfected version of ourselves, the version of us that is free from limited beliefs, from addictions, from fears. This part of us, the knowing of of our perfected self is available during this time.

0:55It has started about a few weeks ago. And the time they're in right now and what's continuing is a process to help us actually create the vessel to connect to our perfection in a permanent way. And one of the things that the sages tell us that we must do every day is, are you in control of your day or is your day in control of you? What does that mean? Most people are constantly reacting and having feelings and making plans based on what their five senses tell them. You see something that's not good and you get emotional about it. You get afraid. You start to worry about your future. You hear something that someone has said about you, or you hear something on the news about something that is happening, maybe in your town or another part of the world, and you start to get anxious, and you start to get tense, and you start to go into movies.

2:06You're on social media, and you see someone that you once had feelings for. maybe it's someone you had a relationship with and you see that they're enjoying their life without you and you start to have feelings and emotions and you feel sad you might feel angry

2:26David Ghiyam:you might feel frustrated if you notice that actually each one of us every day we are feeling experiencing saying things doing things that is a complete reaction to what we see and what we hear

2:45and as a result we are building businesses building friendships we're going out into the

2:51David Ghiyam:world we dress a certain way we function in a way simply as a reaction to all the things that we see in here so what's going to help us create miracles especially in this time are you in control or is your outside world controlling you this is the question that we all must ask ourselves all the time. And when I wake up in the morning, by default, my mind starts to think about my to-do list, about all the things I need to do today, about all the people I'm responsible for, about finances, about relationships, about family, about children, about parents. My parents are getting older. What should I be doing about that?

3:34The business is maybe losing steam? What should I do about that?

3:40David Ghiyam:How do I make sure that everyone's happy? How do I make sure of X, Y, and Z? This is where our mind goes first thing in the morning. And then I have to remind myself. And that's why the very beginning of the day is so important to set the energy and set the tone and set the consciousness. I have to remind myself, one second here, who cares what the outside world is pressuring me to do. I need to ask myself, what does the creator want me to do? What is the energy I want to establish today? And we have learned, and Kabbalah has taught us this, and if you haven't, if you've only heard my podcast, I plead with you.

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4:34David Ghiyam:to the vibration of the creator? So yes, we have all of these to-do lists. We have all of these problems, these open issues. Let's put that aside for a moment. Let's put all of that in a little box. And I want to establish right now, do I have the qualities of the creator? And the first thing we always start with is certainty. Do you have certainty? Everything is good right now. Do you have certainty that you are already in your perfected state? Do you have certainty that you're not looking for love, but that you already have and are experiencing love? Certainty that you're not looking for abundance or customers or investors or a way to pay your bills.

5:14David Ghiyam:You already have that energy right now and so on and so forth. Certainty, certainty, certainty in every bucket of life. And once you establish that vibration, then you can open up your to-do list. Then you can go open up your emails and open up your social media and whatever it is that you have to do and address the problems or address what you want to build or what you want to create, but never from a place of worry, fear, and anxiety because that is the epitome of reactive behavior. And when we are reactive, we're not seeing miracles in our lives. So during this time of the Omer, it says that there's an intensity that is greater than what we normally experience.

5:50David Ghiyam:It began on April 1st and it lasts for 49 days. And in fact, the work that you do now will yield more fruit than any time in the year. The seeds you plant now, the consciousness you have now will yield more miracles and fruit after this 49-day period is over. But do not look for the results now. Now is the time to plant seeds of light, plant seeds of positivity. And I'm going to give you a couple things to really keep in mind during this time. Number one, we already said certainty and wholeness. We say it all the time. I'm going to say it again. Start your day with this consciousness and check in throughout the day when you're not there, when you're worrying, when you're afraid, when you're afraid about the future or you're thinking too much about the past.

6:34David Ghiyam:Bring yourself back to the present, present moment and realize that everything's okay and the creator is with you. And that at any moment that you decide to be with the creator means the creator is with you. The second thing is coming from a place of being a builder and not a destroyer. Builders create unity. Builders truly think about what is best for everyone. Destroyers take things personally. Destroyers create scenarios where I win and you lose. Destroyers have agendas. For example, You could be in a relationship and you're giving to this person that you're starting to like. You're giving love and attention, maybe some money, maybe your time.

7:23David Ghiyam:You're making this other person feel amazing. But if your agenda is you're afraid to lose them. And so as a result, you're trying to control them. You're trying to make them dependent on you. Trying to make them fall so in love with you that they'll never leave you. No, you're not a builder, you're a destroyer. I was talking to a friend recently and he said that after he started to learn Kabbalah he realized that in this relationship he had where years he was giving all of himself his love, his attention he didn't understand why she left him he bothered him he says, ah, she must be unhealed she must not really appreciate and all his friends said, you know, you are such a great guy let it go.

8:08David Ghiyam:She's just unhealed. Well, that's an easy way to just not take responsibility. She's unhealed and didn't appreciate how great of a guy you are. You know, that's not something that necessarily I would tell my friends, even if it's true. I would tell my friend, listen, obviously with empathy and obviously if he's open, don't want to be preachy either, but I would want him to understand she may be unhealed and maybe she didn't appreciate you but the question really is were you giving in that year or were you just so afraid to lose her that you overcompensated you overgave to get her to be addicted to you so you were taking the whole time as well you were manipulating the whole time as well So why did she really leave you?

9:01Because she felt a darkness that was coming from you, not a light.

9:08David Ghiyam:And, of course, her soul attracted you for a reason, and you attracted her for a reason. You attracted someone who will not appreciate your giving to teach you to pause before you give and truly ask, where is this coming from? Am I a builder or a destroyer? A destroyer just tries to do things, put energy out there, whether it's reactive or not, to try to control a result. A builder is thinking about what would the creator do right now? What would the light do right now? What's the win-win right now? What's the way we can have a long-term fulfillment, not just right now? How many times have you promised that you're going to take care of yourself, you're going to go to bed on time.

9:54David Ghiyam:And then an opportunity comes up and it means you're not going to sleep. It means you're not going to sleep, but maybe it's an event, it's a dinner, or maybe you start thinking you get a second wave of energy, you want to work, work through the night. Yes, maybe in that moment, it feels good, it's productive, it's fun. But then long-term, the rest of your day tomorrow, it's going to be destroyed. Maybe because you drank or you slept late or whatever it is. How many times are we making decisions that in the moment feel good, but we know long-term it's going to hurt us? This is the time right now to not choose instant gratification over long-term fulfillment.

10:30David Ghiyam:Always ask yourself, what is going to help me long-term? Not in this moment. The third thing is be careful, be careful, be careful about speech during this time. evil speech which there's seven different categories of is magnified in this time and if we can get to a place where we simply minimize our negative speech and i'll discuss a couple ways about how that happens you will immediately see that your life is improving people are more attracted to you opportunities are coming to you you have what is called the revelation of the face of the Creator. Because the Creator conceals that energy, His energy, the energy of miracles from us when we're speaking negatively, because it says that I, the Creator, such a pure and holy force, cannot coexist with someone who is rolling around in the mud.

11:33David Ghiyam:And when we are speaking negatively about someone, when we are gossiping, when we are talking about people, whether we're speaking lies about them or truths, nonetheless, we are rolling around in the mud. And the creator, which is like the king of this universe, is not going to sit around and hang out, spend time with someone who's rolling around in the mud like a pig. So my question to you is, are you a king? Are you a queen? Are you a pig rolling around in the mud, enjoying the juicy gossip about other people, enjoying putting other people down just to elevate you enjoying just complaining because things aren't going your way but who cares about complaining and all my children come to me and they start complaining about the other person I just look at them and I don't say anything and I'm always asking them what is it that you hope to achieve by complaining about your brother or your sister why don't we really sit and you can tell me the problem but let's also think of the solution and so even at a young age i'm teaching my children don't just come to me with a problem come to me with a solution anytime someone comes to you with a problem and not a solution it's evil speech my employees know you never send me a problem without a solution unless it's so dire that you simply need help.

13:02But complaining, venting,

13:05David Ghiyam:just to get a little instant gratification, this is not long-term fulfillment. So where in your life are you misusing your speech? And here's some more categories. Gossip that is true is evil speech. Gossip that is false is evil speech. Complaining is evil speech. You know, like when you see someone who you respect and admire, so you start talking maybe very quickly or you start talking about cool things you've done and trying to paint a picture of how amazing you are, that's evil speech. Every time you're speaking in a way to try to do PR for yourself to get someone to like you, that's evil speech.

13:47Every time you're not being truthful with someone, but you're lying because you're afraid to rock the boat or you're afraid to piss them off, that's a form of evil speech. Every time you're thinking one thing and saying another thing, that's a form of evil speech. Every time you even bring up a subject, which is not a problem, but that subject then leads to evil speech. For example, let's say you're talking to someone and you know that this person hates your friend Jim.

14:21David Ghiyam:And you just bring up, hey, say, hey, you know, I was hanging out with Jim the other day. and then your friend goes, oh Jim, I hate Jim and he starts talking badly about Jim. Guess what? Because you brought up Jim, the evil speech negativity goes on you. If you know that he hates Jim, don't bring up Jim because you know by you bringing up Jim, he's going to talk badly about Jim. So you were the cause of someone else's evil speech. It's also negative. 95 % of the chaos that's in our lives is because of our speech. Imagine if we just put tape on our mouth and we walked around our families and our towns, we would see miracles.

14:57Maybe we'd look weird, but we'd see miracles.

15:02David Ghiyam:You must have a holy mouth, a mouth that is so divine and so pure that the Creator can rest on your mouth so that when you speak to other people, people feel something powerful. They don't even know what it is. You're saying the same words as somebody else, but the fact that you're speaking, people feel something powerful because you have a holy mouth. Sages say that the breath is just nishima. in Hebrew, is the same words as neshama, which is soul. And every time someone speaks, their breath becomes a chariot of souls. So your breath is actually releasing a piece of your soul out to the world.

15:40David Ghiyam:And when it's negative speech, you're damaging your soul. And when it's positive speech, you're invigorating your soul, which is how you find your soulmate, by the way. How do you find the other half of your soul and fall in love? This person is now 3 ,000 miles away in another country. You've never met her. You've never met him. How are you going to meet her? When you empower your soul. So if you're speaking evil speech all day long where you're in your town, your soul is losing its power. So you're not going to meet your soulmate. People who are single for a long time, I ask you, how's your speech?

16:15David Ghiyam:How's your speech? Are you talking? Are you talking too much? Are you talking negatively? Are you wasting your words? Are you complaining a lot? you're not going to find your soulmate. It's the bottom line. Every time you speak negatively, there are angels that go to your soulmate even if she or he is 5 ,000 miles away and speaks evil speech about you to them. You actually have people going out into the world speaking negatively about you when you speak negatively. These angels, these forces. I've seen great miracles come to the person who reduces their negative speech.

16:49If there's a big project you're working on,

16:51David Ghiyam:if you're trying to push something to the finish line, if you're in a sensitive moment right now, if you're in a legal issue, if you have a big surgery coming up, if you're praying for something to happen, know that one of the most powerful ways to actually manifest the good and avoid the bad, one of the ways to protect your blessings is to reduce your speech right now. Reduce your negative speech. Increase your positive speech. Make people feel good. Not in a manipulative way, but empower them. Come from a place of happiness. And right before this podcast, I was just having breakfast with two people.

17:26David Ghiyam:And this one woman who was sitting there, she had such a positive energy. At the end, we said to her, I said, you know, you are like sunshine. You're just positive. Doesn't mean her life was perfect, but she just knew to be positive at the table. She was smiling. She was asking questions. She wasn't in her own world. How many of us are sometimes just in our own world with our poo-poo face? You know, people have poo-poo face. just like sad and just resting poo-poo face. Snap out of it. Get out of your poo-poo face. You're just sucking energy from everybody around you. It's a black hole. Don't be a black hole.

18:02David Ghiyam:Be sunshine. Be a ray of light, because that is the quality of the creator. That's what creates affinity, a form with the creator. That is how we create miracles in our lives. So in this period of the Omer, the three biggest things are, be present right now. Yes, there are things going on in your life. Yes, there are problems. so many problems put it in a box you connect with the light you connect with certainty you connect with certainty that everything is good right now oh my logical mind says it's not good who cares keep saying to yourself i have certainty that everything is good i have certainty that everything is from the light of the creator i have certainty that right now all the miracles are with me the second thing tell yourself i am a builder not a destroyer how can i build how can i build in my relationships?

18:49How can I build with my family? How can I put my ego down right now? How can I have more humility? How can I just lower my ego in order to bring a great result? How can I really care about people? How can I compromise? How can I create win-wins while still staying strong and true to myself? If I don't know how to do it, creator, show me how to do it. creator i don't know what to do i know i want to build i know i want to not destroy but i don't know how show me guide me protect me in any language you want say what i just said you will be shown and guided as to how to have a builder's consciousness there's so many times so many disputes i've had in my life legal challenges issues negotiations you never go in with the consciousness of how to win for yourself pray to the creator and say how can all of us win show me the path i have one plan they have another plan maybe show us the third plan that brings a winning solution and the third thing is slow down your speech truly ask yourself is what I'm about to say needed?

20:18Is what I'm about to say going to help or hurt? Am I just wasting my words? Do people actually want to hear what I have to say right now? Always, if you don't know what to do choose silence. Be patient.

20:40And one of the things that I do for myself, and if you need a support system to learn about evil speech, you can obviously listen to this podcast again, but those of you who have access to David AI, you can ask David AI, teach me the laws of evil speech. help me understand how today I can go about my day for this meeting this other meeting I'm seeing my friend and tell me what I need to know to protect me against evil speech so often because I've trained David AI and all the laws of evil speech it will tell me based on the meetings I'm having interactions I'm about to have what I need to keep in mind and what is or is not evil speech you could even record a conversation of yours put it in David AI and say what of this conversation was evil speech or not, you'd be shocked like I shared this with you once and I'm about to do it more, I recorded myself talking all day long, I had a recorder on and then I programmed I created a program that analyzed speech based on all the spiritual laws of evil speech according to the sages and I said give me a score even though I was conscious it said that 83 percent of my speech was evil speech for that whole day so whatever 15 ,000 words 83 percent once I saw that and I saw the examples of how my speech was broken down and what I was doing I tested it the next day.

22:18My evil speech score dropped to 17 % because I was conscious. And this is already me thinking about how not to speak evil speech. Can you imagine? That delta going from 83 % to 17, that's miracles right there. That's millions of dollars in blessings. That's love. That's passion that's certainty that's health that probably killed million cancer cells that are dormant in my body and that is the power that each one of us has yes even though these podcasts are inspiring and courses are inspiring i am working hard to create tools more tools for you and myself really i create the tools for myself that i'll share with you how we can get our consciousness and our and our existence to a place of miracles and yes one of the places we're going to all start is around speech.