Arianna Huffington: I Was Lying In A Little Pool Of Blood! The Huffington Post, A $1 Billion 'Flop'!

30:43For the next opportunity. For the next opportunity. So you're more likely to miss it. Having to impose. Was that the first... Your first big foray into business? Yes. I think this is one of the things that, you know, from speaking to a lot of people in my life, they find exceptionally inspiring about you. It was typically... This is being very intentionally stereotypical. People that build tech companies, which is what you did. They would do their 20s. And their young men in their 20s, typically, especially at that time. You know, it's changing a little bit now, which is great. But especially at that time, which was 2005.

31:23It was very atypical for a 55 -year -old woman to build a tech company. Yes. Did you see that as... Did you feel that resistance at all? I didn't, actually. And I think what happened is that... We made it work. We showed it worked very quickly, despite that bad review. And we kept experimenting. I think the mistake often is you build something successful and you stay there. And we never stayed there. Like we launched with politics and news. But very quickly, we had... It does another verticals. Including sleep. We had a vertical on sleep. We had lifestyle verticals. We had sports verticals with gay verticals.

32:18So we kept expanding. And then we built our journalism operation. We wanted Pulitzer. We launched in 18 countries. So it was a constant expansion. And what happened is that, again, you know, the Clay Christmas and Book, the innovators, the lemma. Yes, one of my favorite books. It's amazing. So, you know, if the New York Times had done then what is doing now so successfully, you know, having a great digital presence, there would have been no room for the having done post. So basically, that's the innovators dilemma. Super successful incumbents, miss the moment, because they're super successful incumbents.

33:06Yeah. And you were young. You were scrappy as a company. So you could, you weren't encumbered by an old way of doing things, an old revenue models. You could come into the market with a fresh new idea and off it went. And it went so far, went to the UK. And I was 18 years old when I applied to write on the Huffington Post. No, that's amazing. And I got accepted. And I submitted how many articles, maybe four or five articles that got published on there. But I want to talk about business. I want to talk about building a business. And what you learned about building a business from the rise of the Huffington Post, what are the most important, if I was one of your daughters and I came to you and said, Mum, listen, I want to build a business.

33:51And I want it to be even bigger than the Huffington Post grew to be. What are the most important things I should be thinking about to be successful? So I would now start with the founder or the CEO, which is put your own oxygen mask on first. Very often, you know, you're a founder. You think I need to stay up. Stephen, is that you? No, we're talking about it. I don't need to. I get a sleep every day. I need to stay up all day and night. Sleep with my phone in case something happens in the middle of the night. And all the science now makes it very clear. That when we are depleted, we are going to make bad decisions.

34:40It's so funny because one night, I was at a dinner and Jeff Bezos, that was when I was writing my book on sleep. And so I was asking everybody about their sleep habits. So I asked him what his sleep habits. And he said, I sleep eight hours a night. And I said, you do. Tell me about it. Why? He said, because I'm judged by the quality of my decisions, not the quantity of my decisions. And I have noticed the difference, because he's very data -driven. When I have six hours of sleep, my decisions are not as good. So I said to him, you must write about it. He said, which I used to say to everybody when I was...

35:25And he said, no, no, no, no. I said, I'm a private man. I don't need to write about it. I said, please write about it. It's not for you. It's going to help so many people who want to be you, to realize that they don't need to be sleep deprived and exhausted. So I literally bugged him, texted him for like three months. Until finally, he wrote about it. I think to get me off his back. And it was amazing. He wrote about it on Thrive, that we had just launched Thrive. It was everywhere, CNBC, the Wall Street Journal. He was one of the first CEOs to write about sleep as a performance multiplier, a productivity multiplier.

36:09Since then, you know, Satya Natala has written about it. A lot of CEOs have written about it. A lot of founders in Silicon Valley now, people have gone from bragging about how sleep deprived they are. I'm wearing my order. You're wearing your hoop and you're an investor. I love you. Fantastic. So everything has changed. But it's changed very fast. 2016, when I wrote the book, people were still bragging about sleep deprivation. You know sleep deprivation well. I do. I mean, I collapsed. But from sleep deprivation and from buying into this collective delusion that in order to succeed it was two years into building the Huffington Post.

36:55I was the divorced mother of two little girls. And I had bought into this delusion that in order to be super founder and super mom, I didn't have the luxury to take care of myself. Take me into that moment. If I was a flow on the wall, what would I have seen in that moment? So I literally walk up that morning, went to CNN to do a news hit, came back, sat at my desk, felt cold, got up to go get a sweater and collapsed, and hit my head on my desk, broke my cheekbone, and came to in a little pool of blood. And that was the beginning of a journey of going from doctor to doctor, from echocardiogram to MRI to find out what was wrong with me.

37:59Because literally people thought that she had a heart defect, a brain tumor, why did she just collapse? And then I was literally diagnosed with burnout. Now 2007, burnout was not a term, much in use. But it turned out to be an incredible gift, because I decided that I really now wanted to make this part of my life, help the world, see that this epidemic of burnout that I started seeing was everywhere, was completely unnecessary, it was unnecessary suffering that we didn't need to bind to this collective delusion in order to succeed. Could you have become successful without that high intensity work?

38:51Absolutely. I think the biggest success of the Huffington Post actually happened after that. And let me just make that very clear Steven. Taking care of yourself, it doesn't mean you don't work with intensity. In fact, when we launched Thrive and we're interviewing people to hire, we realized early on that there are people who thought, oh, they could go work for Thrive and it would be like chilling under the mango tree. So we had to explain to them, no, no, we're a very ambitious, high -charging company. And if you want to chill under the mango tree, that's not a good place to be. And we tell everybody, there will be times when you have to deliver a product or meet a deadline and you may have to work late or work a weekend.

39:42But what we do then, we give people Thrive time immediately after. Like if you've worked extra hard to meet a deadline, then take Thrive time to recharge. And you know, Steven, that's actually good for the business. Because very often people get sick or make their biggest mistakes when they are completely depleted. So it's not about lack of intensity. It's about taking time to refuel, recharge and be at your best. Do you think this collective delusion that you described, which I'm defining as this notion that you have to sacrifice your well -being to be successful? Who uses it letting down more?

40:31Men or women? Okay. And obviously there are more men who've succeeded and therefore there are numerically more men who believe and practice that. But I think a lot of women too, who want to make sure they're not seen as being on the mommy track or not being as passionate or intense about their work, have bought into the delusion. But what I found very interesting is to try and see what was the beginning of that delusion. And I trace it back to the first industrial revolution. When people started revering machines and after machines, software. And what is the essence of machines and software? No downtime.

41:29You have sales for us bringing out a new piece of software and saying 99 .9999 % uptime. Well, the human operating system is different. For the human operating system, downtime is a feature, not a bug. And the science is so clear and unequivocal about it. Is that why you called your... You came up with this notion called the Third Women's Revolution. What is the Third Women's Revolution? The first women's revolution was about giving us the vote. The second women's revolution was about equal pay and equal opportunities. The third women's revolution was about making it clear that we can succeed without burning out.

42:24That we don't have to sacrifice our well -being, our relationships on the altar of success. And I believe that as we are doing it now, we are in the middle of it. And a lot of men are a big part of it. That it's good for everybody. I mean, look at the number of men who end up with heart attacks, high cholesterol, hypertension, all because they think that's the only way to succeed. The traditional models don't work for women because women burn out faster than men. Is that true? I don't think women burn out faster than men. Most women, first of all, still do the bulk of work at home in terms of children and child.

43:16We theoretically believe that men are equally engaged, but the day that doesn't bear that out. But what I was saying in Thrive, I see you're holding the Thrive book, is really about that third metric of success. I obviously like thirds. If you think of the first two metrics of success, money and power slash status, and most people think that's life, but it's not. It's like trying to sit on a two -legged stool. Sooner or later, you fall off. The third leg of the stool is everything else. It's our health and well -being. It's our capacity to connect with ourselves and our wisdom. It's our capacity for a sense of wonder and the mystery of life and the small droids of life, and then giving.

44:12So these four other areas are what make a complete and whole life. In Thrive, there's a stat which stood out to me. It says, women in stressful jobs have a 40 % increased risk of heart disease and a 60 % greater risk of diabetes, which is a pretty shocking stat. Yes. And it begs the question, why? One of the reasons is that women internalize mistakes more. What I said about myself is true about many successful women. We are luminators. We tend to go over and over in our minds and in mistake we made. And men have a much easier time just moving on. They have a much easier time being Roger Federer.

45:02So that's a big problem. The other is this perfectionism. And the fact that they still have a larger percentage of work at home. And even if they get a lot of help from their partner, the mind share. You know, they're still thinking, oh, my partner is speaking up the child for the doctor's appointment. But I still think about it. You're still holding that burden, whereas maybe men don't always hold it in such a way. It's interesting that you reference giving as being one of the most important elements of the third metric. I read a study in the book that says 2013 study by the University of Wisconsin found that employees who give back to society, for example, through volunteering are less likely to quit their job.

45:58Which I thought was really interesting as an employer, as a way to drive retention in the team. But I also wondered why that might be. Why is it that when people give them more likely to stay in their job? Well, if you think of what makes a fulfilling life, what gives you meaning and purpose and all the things that make it more likely that the company culture will succeed. If you're in a company culture that encourages giving, I mean, not thrive. We have giving days, we match donations. And this creates a kind of giving culture, which makes it more likely that people working in that company are going to feel fulfilled.

46:43Because fulfillment is not just a function of your job. It's a function of everything around it. Yeah, and so if you feel fulfilled, you'll just be happier in your life and you'll be less likely to want to change things. Exactly. Because very often, if you aren't happy in your life, changing the job might be the easiest thing that you think may change outcomes. When you had your burnout diagnosis, did that change anything for you? Everything. How quickly did it change? So quickly. Really? It's pretty dramatic when you break your cheekbone. And it's equally dramatic when you spend a lot of time in doctors waiting rooms, wondering what's wrong with you.

47:27So yes, it changed a lot of things. The keystone habit that it changed was sleep. Okay. And then as I started the phenomenon of burnout and talked to a lot of scientists and wrote a sleepbook, it became very clear that there are five critical behaviors. Five daily behaviors that affect our health, both physical health and mental health, sleep, food, what we eat, you know, again, just keeping it simple. Can we reduce ultra -processed foods? Can we reduce sugar? Movement, exercise, stress management, and connection, connection to ourselves, connection with each other. So these five behaviors now, Stephen, are more critical to our health and our longevity than genes and medical care.

48:40Genes, you know, there's nothing we can do about it. Medical care obviously is imperative when we're really sick, but health is really what happens between doctor visits. Like what we do every day, because just think of it, the idea that you have your annual physical and that's your health care. What are you doing every day? Are you stressed out? Are you sleep deprived? Are you eating junk? It's interesting because you're speaking from a place of someone who was wildly successful in a monetary sense as well, because you have that sort of breaking point. I think it was in April 2007 when you collapsed.

49:31And then the Huffington Post continues to grow, continues to become successful all over the world and expands across the world. I think in the year when you had the Euclapse on the desk, you had 3 .5 million users accessing the website roughly around that time. It expands around the world. It's ranked as the most powerful blog in the world in 2008 by 2009, Huffington Post integrated into Facebook. And by 2011, you sold Huffington Post day well for $300 million. $300, 15. Oh, I'm the rest. And the rest. $315 million and making President an editor -in -chief of the newly formed Huffington Post media group.

50:15Now at that point, that's a lot of money, right? However much money you made from the deal, that's a lot of money. And you get the forbidden fruits that many people in their lives right now think they're chasing. You get that big financial freedom win for. What does it change?

50:34Nothing really, because my books have been very successful. And I feel there is a certain amount of money that changes your life. And after that, there isn't really much change. I remember the first time I felt rich was when I could go into a bookstore and buy a book without looking at the price.

51:05You know, when you would go to a bookstore and you know, wait for it to come out and pay the book. And there are different levels like that. Are you happier now than you were then in that bookstore when you didn't have to look at the price? Oh, I'm definitely happier, not because of money. I'm happier because I'm much more connected to myself because I'm constantly growing as a human being. And that's for me the key, you know, that sense of evolution and growth is ultimately what defines my life. It's not my work. I think that's so key Steven, because so many people stay in jobs that no longer love because they're big jobs.

51:48They have a big title. And they feel if I give up that job, where am I going to be? I mean, listen, when I left the Huffington Post, I left a very successful multimedia company all around the world, with 850 journalists to start again, literally to raise money, hire people. But I was so clear that what I wanted to do is to help people lead healthier lives. What age were you when you left Huffington Post? I launched, as you said, I launched the Huffington Post at 55 and I launched Thrive Global at 66. And now, I'm now 74, we launched a new company with some Altman and Oppen AI that is Thrive AI Health to help democratize everything we've been doing.

52:51We've brought to Thrive, you know, about these five behaviors, because that's kind of the ultimate inequality. Like, as you kind of were alluding, people with resources know about these five behaviors. They may not know all the science behind it, but now we see it. We see people prioritizing their sleep, what they're eating, exercise, stress management, listening to Peter Atilla and Andrew Hubermann. And we need to democratize this knowledge and also help people adopt these healthier habits. And over the last seven years that I've been building Thrive, working with a great group of scientists, I really believe we've cracked the code on behavior change.

53:49You know, behavior change is supposed to be very hard, right? But the way to make it achievable is through what we call micro -steps. And interestingly enough, you write in your book about making everything small. The progress principle. And, yeah, yeah, and the one -percent, yeah. Kind of small little improvements. If you think of it, behavior change in our culture was seen as new year resolutions. Yeah. I'm going to go to the gym an hour a day. I'm going to give up all sugar. Two to three weeks later, these resolutions are abandoned. People have a sense of failure. They feel shame. So the alternative is what we're doing, which is micro -steps too small to fail.

54:42We'll never tell people meditate for 20 minutes in the morning. No. We say, when you wake up in the morning, can you take 60 seconds before you go to your phone to breathe consciously? Or to remind yourself what you're grateful for, or to set your intention for the day. The point is, can you break it down into the smallest possible component? And what happens? People build a sense of success. And we see that, you know, working with Walmart. Walmart is one of our customers. They have 1 .6 million associates, as the call their employees, in the United States alone. And we work with them. And they actually give us also a million dollars a year to spend in financial rewards to help people have another incentive.

55:40Because incentives are superpowers. And we've had people reverse diabetes, reverse hypertension. But it was all one little micro step at a time. It's remarkable how small steps done continuously can really change your life. But nobody believes in them because you don't see huge rewards from a micro -step in life. Cumulatively, you do. Yeah, which requires faith. Faith, but also what helps is when you see other people having achieved it. So we, part of it is the storytelling. So we take all the stories and all the companies work with and publicize them. We put them on the platform. So if you see that somebody who has a similar job to you can do it, you feel more optimistic that you can do it.

56:30And also, removing judgments, you know, often self -judgements, getting the way of behavior change. And if we say this is a judgment -free zone, you're going to fall off the wagon, you're going to make mistakes. But one little step at a time, BJ Fog, who is the chair of our scientific board and from Stanford, he wrote a book called Tiny Habits. And it's the same idea, Tiny Habits, micro steps. Making small progress that becomes cumulatively healthier habits. I want to talk to you about mistakes. The Huffington Post becomes, I think, at its peak. And correct me if I'm wrong here. The second biggest news website on the earth.

57:22Is that correct? I don't know, it sounds good. I read in 2014 when you were 64 years old, The Huffington Post became the second most popular news site in the world. That was an article written by the Guardian that it said that in. But it sounds great. But I'm sure along the way, you know, you said you talked about failure earlier. There was a lot of mistakes made in that journey. Now, as a person in business, and I'm 31, so I'm in my... In what are you going to build by the time you're 66? If I'm still alive, I'll start putting that phone away. What are the mistakes that you made in that business?

57:57I don't think there are bigger mistakes for a founder than hiring mistakes. So I've kind of created a little... A little rulebook about hiring. Like number one, never interview when you're tired. I find that when I interview and I'm tired, I just really want to say yes. I want to just kind of cross one more thing of my to -do list. I don't want to go interview one more person. So that's subconscious. It's not that you're consciously thinking that. But so, increasing the chances of not making hiring mistakes is huge. Also, there were times when I... kind of new instinctively that there was something wrong about this hire.

59:01But mentally, I could not give myself reasons. You know that time when you feel... It's not quite right, but the resume is amazing. The references are incredible. My board likes them. But something in me... No. Follow that. Because it's so much more important not to hire the wrong person than to miss someone. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, there's the phrase isn't there that a bad apple spoils the barrel or something? Yes. And that's certainly the case in business. That one bad apple can really ruin a great culture of people. Yes. And listen, when I was on the board of Uber during the height of the bad culture problems, I saw how a culture is really the company's immune system.

1:00:00You know, there are always going to be bad apples. You know, it's humanity. But if you have a good thriving culture, the bad apples can be removed without infecting the culture. If the culture is not strong, it's the other around. Are there any other decisions that if you could go back in time with Huffington Post, you would have made differently outside of just purely who you hired? I would say that...

1:00:36You're hesitating. Now hesitating because what came to me is an amazing decision that everybody thought I was wrong on. And I don't know how I want to say that because it's also something else that's very important, I think, for anyone starting a business, which is my incredible belief in partnerships. You know, very often when you are building a company, you think that you have to do everything. But speed is incredibly important. Being a first mover is incredibly important. And it's very hard to do that if you want to do everything yourself, yourself as a company. So when the Huffington Post was bought by AOL, the CFO, the board, everybody wanted us to go internationally alone.

1:01:32And I wanted to do it through partners. I felt that we're going to be able to move so much faster. And if we go as we did to France in partnership with Le Monde, that means we don't have to learn about French labor laws, we don't have to find an office space. You know, there's so much the partner would bring, plus of course the reputation. So I prevailed, which was touch and go, and within just over a year, we're in 18 countries. That would never have happened. Everybody who wanted to do it after us, Balsfield Business Insider, it was too late. We had already established ourselves in these countries.

1:02:27Did you sell Balsfield Business Insider at the right time? Absolutely. So a little look at what's happening now. I would say that I sold too soon, but I'm a big believer in selling too soon rather than too late. If you're going to pick something, sell too soon. And also, I'm a big believer in good acquisitions. You know, a lot of acquisitions fail. The acquisition by OL was a huge success, because we suddenly had all these resources to grow a lot faster.

1:03:07What have you come to learn that the point of life is? Because you've lived such a varied life. You've traveled all over the world, you've climbed many mountains. And I wonder now, as you sit here, what is the thing that you know that I don't know? I'm 31, so there's clearly some things that you really, really know well, that I'm going to, unfortunately, have to find out through failure, painful failure. Maybe I can avoid if you tell me.

1:03:35Okay, just a few things. Okay, I'm going to write it down. So I don't forget. But one is not to look over our shoulder for approval. Not to indulge in unnecessary worries and negative fantasies. When I look back at my journals, you know, I like to journal a lot. And when I look back at my journals, so many of my worries were truly negative fantasies. Negative fantasies. Meaning, imagining the worst about the future. And one other little saying I have on my desk is by the French philosopher Montagne, who said there were many terrible things in my life, but most of them never happened. So that's just as depleting, believe it or not, as things, really bad things that do happen.

1:04:33Because that's how we process information. And so trust. One of the things that my mother totally instilled in my sister and me was the sense that we're living in a benevolent universe. What does that mean? It means that life is on our side. You know, there are people who go through life and think that at best we're living in an indifferent universe. That the higher power or God or whatever you want to call it, you know, the order of the universe doesn't care. Yeah. And there are people who think it's a hostile universe. I believe profoundly that it's a benevolent universe. I trust that whatever happens has a reason and a purpose.

1:05:33And that's the Rumi quote, live life as if everything is rigged in your favor. Now that doesn't mean only good things happen. Absolutely not. A lot of bad things happen in my life, starting with losing my first child that was born stillborn. You know, so it's not like bad things didn't happen. But it's like, what is it teaching us? Like life is a school room. And we're constantly learning. And that's for me in the end that sense of evolution and growth. That in one of the books I wrote, I called the fourth instinct. You know, the first three instincts being survival, sex, and status, lush power.

1:06:28The fourth instinct being an instinct for meaning, purpose, transcendence. And that's something which, when it's integrated in our lives, gives life so much more depth and richness. That first moment of struggle you cited there when your child was born still. How old were you? 36. 36. How does one process that? Well, it's enormous pain and grief and staying with it and living with it. And also, 36. I didn't know if I could have a child. You know, nobody quite knew why I lost that child. But also that trust again, underneath a grief, there was that sense that I would have a child that I would move beyond this pain, that the pain would not define me.

1:07:48It's hard to have that faith and that perspective in the moment. Well, the people that I most admire, you know, the writers that I learned so much from are writers who have that faith. I mean, look at Holocaust survivors. Wasn't your father? My father was in a concentration camp because he was publishing an underground newspaper. During the German occupation of Greece and he was arrested and spent the war in a concentration camp in Germany. My mother was in the Red Cross, hiding Jewish girls during that occupation. So they both had this kind of extraordinary life. And faith, you know, that kept them going in the middle of incredible horror.

1:08:56Your mother.

1:09:01Yes. She's beautiful. And strong. She definitely brought us up with this fearlessness. But she would always say, fearlessness is not an absence of fear. It's like going ahead and doing what you think you should do even while you're afraid. It's like a muscle that you exercise.

1:09:30She passed away before the success of Thurphington Post. And really? Before it existed. Yes. She passed away in 2000. There's not a single day that I don't feel my mother's presence with me. Quote, you wrote on to Thurphington Post. What do you think she would have thought of the having done post had she been able to see the success that it became? You know what is interesting, Stephen? When people would say to her, you're proud of your daughter. She would always say, I don't use that term. I'm not proud. I just love what she's doing and contributing. You know, she didn't see it as a pride. She saw it more as that journey.

1:10:17And that's kind of really important to understand what I learned from her. That it isn't just about achieving. It's about joy while you're achieving. And now that's kind of my barometer. Like, it's not just about being productive. I proved to myself that I can be productive. But if I don't feel that joy, it means there's something off that I need to recalibrate. It's interesting because that's kind of what the mission of Thrive is about from what I was reading when I was on the website. It's not the idea of becoming unproductive, which is sometimes associated with well -being. It's sometimes thought that if you focus on your well -being, you become an unproductive person.

1:11:05Which is completely false. I mean, scientifically false. And that's what I'm so passionate about convincing more and more people about. And that's why I love using examples of athletes who prioritize their well -being because it improves their performance. So if we see well -being as a productivity multiplier, if we see what we're doing now, for example, is optimizing the health of executives in companies. We talk about longevity, we talk about health span. If these are optimized within a company, productivity is going to increase.

1:11:53She was a very interesting woman, your mother, from everything that I read and researched about her. On the day that she died, she demanded that you leave the hospital to go to a food market to prepare lunch for the family. I read that she fell over in the evening, but didn't let anyone call an ambulance. Yeah, in the evening, you know, after she had prepared this feast for everybody, she fell. And she said, let's all gather around with her on the floor. And she said to me, with this incredible authority, do not call the paramedics. And she said it was such authority that I didn't. I called the nurse who had taken care of her at home.

1:12:45And we sat around and she said, let's open a bottle of wine. And we opened a bottle of wine. And we sat there and talked, and my two daughters were scootering around inside the house.

1:12:58And then she killed over and died. She had told our housekeeper earlier that she knew the time had come, and she wanted to die at home, surrounded by her family.

1:13:15How did she know? I believe we know. I believe when we are connected with our own truth, we know.

1:13:29So she fell. She told you not to call the paramedics in the ambulance. She asked all of you to gather around and to bring some champagne. Red wine. And she passed away shortly after they were on the floor. Yes. And the way she said to me, do not call the ambulance. Made me not call the ambulance. You know, there was so much authority behind it that that's what she wanted. And of course, I didn't know she would die. How did you have known, would you have called the ambulance? I would. Even though she told you not to. Yeah. It's hard not to. How did that change things for you? What's the aftermath of the loss of a woman that meant so much to you like?

1:14:23It was incredibly painful because she really was the foundation of my life. And you know, she lived with me. She helped me bring up my children. She was an integral part of everything in my life and my sister's life. But what you just read is true. I mean, I do feel her presence so much. And I really feel that when we integrate death in our lives, it enriches our lives. You know, the Socrates said, practice death daily, not in a morbid sense, but in the sense that the Romans would carve M .M. Memento Mori, remember death on statues, on trees, not in order to be obsessed with death, but in order to put life in perspective.

1:15:26And so often, we just worry about trivial things. We get upset about minor things. And if we kind of remember that life is a terminal condition and that death is the one certainty, it just changes how we perceive what happens in our lives. What else then for me? So you give me two pieces of advice there for my life? I think you're going to be a great dad, Stephen. I really do. And I think having children also puts everything in perspective because there is something magical about these little beings and the continuity of life. And I mean, you are so creative and constantly launching new projects, which is fantastic.

1:16:31But learning also to disconnect from that and fully connect with yourself, your loved ones, your children when you have them, I think is game -changing. And I believe it also makes us better at our jobs because it gives us that perspective. You have these moments, these flashes of intuition and new ideas that are so much easier when we are discharged and not running on empty. In terms of those different seasons of life that we go through, how have you had to show up differently in the different seasons of your life? And I've been thinking a lot about this lately because someone said to me when they likened it to doing a triathlon, they said in a triathlon what you want to do, because there's 400 people jumping in the water for the initial part, is you want to swim like crazy at the start to just get ahead and then you can kind of calm down a little bit once you've got away from the crowd.

1:17:40And he was making the analogy that this is very much like life. And your early 20s you kind of want to go for it a little bit, say yes to a lot of things. And then as you kind of go through these different seasons of life, you play a slightly different game. I don't know if you can relate to any of that. Really the heart of what I want to know is, you know, it's a typical for a, when did you launch your most recent company? You mean the triath... The triath AI health was like this week, wasn't it? I saw it online. Yeah, like two weeks ago. Two weeks ago, right? So you're launching an AI company at 74 years old.

1:18:13I was 73 at the time. 73. Which is... Which is atypical, right? And this is what I want to get to is you're in a different season of life. Yes, but in whatever season of life, you can keep creating. And that's partly what I'd love people to look at. There is definitely something in our culture that makes us think that we have to achieve everything before we are 30, or maybe before we are 40. You know, you have the 30 and the 30s and the 20 and the 20s. And soon we're going to have the five under fives. And the fact is that if you take care of yourself, and that's the big if, you know, if you focus on these five behaviors, and your health is sustained, and you feel vital, then you can keep creating until the end.

1:19:17You know, I cannot imagine retiring, because I love what I'm doing, and because I love building. And there is no end to when you build. So the one thing that I don't think I've convinced you about, but I want to have one more go, is that you really think that taking care of yourself is kind of a luxury for later in life. It's like a little bit of a luxury for when you are not launching new companies and being all in swimming really fast. And what I want to at least take on trust for a minute, but explore it is that that's not true. That I, a thousand percent believe that when you prioritize these five behaviors, not in any dogmatic way, we're all works in progress.

1:20:30I mean, I talk about it all the time, and am I doing it perfectly? Of course not. Nobody is. But if you really prioritize these five behaviors, how you sleep and what you eat and how you exercise and how you manage your stress and how you stay connected with yourself and your loved ones, I promise you that everything you're doing will be even more successful. That is an absolute guarantee. It doesn't mean that you wouldn't be successful the other way. Of course, I mean, there are in large number of burnt out people who have succeeded.

1:21:14But what else could they have done if they were more connected with their creativity, their intuition, if they didn't spend as much time ruminating of a mistake or making bad hiring decisions, as I did, or making bad decisions generally, or refusing to delegate, that's another issue. Definitely, when you ask me about mistakes, I think it took me a long time to learn to delegate. And that's partly because we feel nobody can do it as well. And maybe that's true. But then there was one day when I realized, you know, if somebody does it 60 % as well, and I can be freed up to do higher order things, fantastic, let them do it 60 % as well, and learn two more things on the business side.

1:22:10If you are going to build this culture that I know you believe in, that can be game -changing for the success of a company, one thing that we recommend is, and the first day of somebody's new job in your company, have the manager conduct an entry interview. An entry interview? We conduct exit interviews. But what about entry interviews? And it doesn't have to be long, it can be 15 minutes. And the first question of the entry interview, Stephen, welcome. What's important to you outside of work? And how can I support you? Suddenly, you hear about what matters to them. They feel, if what matters to them is to take their kid to school at eight in the morning, or they have a elderly parent they are taking care of, or whatever it is, or they have a flute lesson, they want to go to at seven on a Thursday.

1:23:17Then they don't have to hide. It can be baked into the job. The manager knows it creates more intimacy, it creates more connection, especially since so many of us are in hybrid environments. And the other thing is compassionate directness. These are number one value at drive, which means encouraging people to speak up when they are not happy, when something is a problem. Often people sit on that and it festers. And if they have permission to express it, to express the satisfaction, to express something that's not working, it's so much easier to solve the problem. Amen.

1:24:07You're an icon for many, many people. And specifically when I spoke to some of the people in my company that you were coming, and I was going to speak to you today, there was a lot of excitement from everybody, but particularly a faction of women who are high performing business women and are doing exceptionally well in their careers. And I spoke to one of those women and she said that she really looked up to you because you were able to achieve so much in spite of prejudice. Prejudice, that is inevitably there. It's funny, interesting that you say you didn't really think about it or notice in that way, but a prejudice towards women in business that is still prevalent today, but was certainly more prevalent when you launched the Havington Post.

1:24:58Is there anything at all that we should be thinking about? Whether it's because I'm a, I was a young black kid, or whether it's because I'm a woman that's building a technology company. What relationship should we have with prejudice? Well, there is no question that even though none of that stopped me, the language used towards me or towards some of the women, I'm sure that you are talking to who are building successful businesses is different. Like a man is much more likely to be called bald or audacious when a woman is going to be called pushy or aggressive or bossy. And these are definite prejudices in our culture.

1:25:49The question is, are we going to let them stop us? While we are trying to change the culture for everybody, how can we move on and not let these things derail us? You don't strike me as a person that spends much time caring about things that might stand in your way. Well, that's what I said earlier about not looking over our shoulder for approval. You know, it's been very easy, historically, for women to be liked and admired if they didn't try to build something, if they were kind of pretty and well dressed and...

1:26:39didn't break with conventions. But is that something that we want to do? I think I don't really know any young women who wanted to be in that place now. What kind of leader are you in business? If I asked your team members, if I said what is she like? Because I've got some of them in the back there. We're actually interviewing them as we speak. We're going to get their answers. I'm going to play it against your answers. So they're being interviewed right now. What do you think they're saying in there? I feel that we're a bit of a family.

1:27:16Which means that I'm going to express what I'm going through. They will express what they're going through. We work hard. We celebrate small victories. I think that's really important. We don't wait for just the big breakthroughs. And because everybody's so much younger than me. I do have that maternal sense for the people I'm working with. And a lot of the people I'm working with have been with me since the Huffington Post. Archive Brand Officer joined me as an intern from Princeton at the Huffington Post. He helped me build the Huffington Post. He came with me to thrive. These are sort of very long relationships.

1:28:07You said family can confirm in my earpiece. They've likened it to Gran Tana Moubae. I'm joking. But they're loving, right? They've never choice. That's one time of bay, but great food. Great food. Was there a luck in your journey? Was there moments of luck that you look back on and say that was truly outside of my control? But if that hadn't have happened, I wouldn't have been the success that I am. Oh my god, so much luck. What is the piece of luck that comes to mind? So after my first book, which I wrote when I was 23 and was a big success, I wrote a book on leadership.

1:28:57I was 27. I took a lot of time writing it and I ran out of money. All the money I had made from the female woman, my first book. But I was determined not to write another book on women. After that first book, everybody wanted me to keep writing on women. And trust me, I had said everything I needed to say, everything I knew and beyond on women. And I wanted to move on, as you can see from the topics of my books, I like to move on because I learn through writing a book. And that's very important to me. So I ran out of money and I remember being really depressed, walking down St. James Street in London and thinking, well, you know, maybe my first book was a fluke.

1:29:48This book has been rejected by 37 publishers. So... 37 publishers rejected your book? Yes. Rejection after rejection after rejection. Why don't you give up? I said, maybe it's time to give up and go get it. Go get a real job. And I went... I was going by Barclay's bank in the corner of St. James Street. I don't know if it's still there. And something made me get into the bank and ask to see the bank manager. And the bank manager whose name was Ian Bell came and I told him my story and I asked for an offer draft. I had no assets and he gave it to me. Now that's luck, right? He had no earthly banking reason to give me that offer draft.

1:30:41I still sent him a holiday card every year. But it reminded me of fairy tales, you know, when the hero or the heroine is stuck in a dark forest and then this helpful animals come out to guide them out of the forest. Well, that's back to trust. I believe in life there are this helpful animals in the form of a bank manager or whatever. And you can call it luck. But I also call it part of the benevolent universe who live in St. James Street. Can you influence the benevolent universe? Because you point at these moments and say, look, but in there I see so much intention. And I see also see someone who I imagine from meeting you today and there we've spent two hours together has an ability to win people over.

1:31:32I want to know how you can influence the benevolent universe to people. I absolutely. You influence the benevolent universe by taking action. Like I took action. I went to the bank. The bank didn't come to you. The bank didn't come to me. But beyond that, it was out of my hands. And very often people don't go to the bank because they're afraid of rejection. So when we've overcome that fear of rejection, that fear of failure, we are much more likely to take bold moves. And also, if you look at your life and if I look at mine, there are so many so -called coincidences, serendipity, somebody you meet, I mean, I loved your conversation with Whitney.

1:32:23She was at Adina and they offered her a job. Sure, she called them to follow up on the job. But you could say it was just a coincidence that she met that person at Adina. I call coincidences the miracles that God performs anonymously. And if you don't like using the term, God, it doesn't matter. Whatever term you use, it's basically that benevolent universe. There is a phrase, there is a verse in the Bible that I love, which is not a spiral false, but God is behind it. Like nothing happens, nothing happens, however trivial, that doesn't have some divine purpose behind it. Do you believe that? I do.

1:33:16Actually, Steven, I don't believe. I know. How can you be so sure? I bet there are many things you're sure of.

1:33:30Aren't you sure of the impact you are having with your work? That'd be my list.

1:33:39Am I sure of the impact? No, I don't think it's possible to be. I know that we're doing good work for sure, for sure, because people come up and tell me. Well, isn't that impact? Yeah, yeah. I'm sure that that's a positive force, for sure. But that's because someone has come up and told me. Right, but... Nobody has come up to me and told me that, you know, there's divinity, there's something divine in everything that happens. Because in a minute you say that I think of all the bad things that happen. Yes. I'm just going to be honest. One of the first things that I thought about was what happened in Nazi Germany.

1:34:13I thought about the suffering, I think. Absolutely. And the narwhos amount of suffering. But the question is, do you trust that it's not because there is an indifferent or my level of force in the universe? Yeah. But because so much of our evidence is beyond our understanding that we cannot comprehend the mystery of the universe just through our minds alone. I trust that. And so the more we can connect with our spirit, our soul, the more we can be in touch with meaning and purpose. But if we try to comprehend everything through our minds, they're so limited. What was the advice that you wish you'd got when you were that young woman who wrote her first, you know, around the age 20, in your early 20s when you wrote your first book?

1:35:07What is the advice that you wish someone had given you that you weren't given? Definitely.

1:35:15Definitely not to worry so much. Was that really the sort of pain of your? Because so many of my worries were so unnecessary and so depleting. It seems that you took a lot of action in spite of your worries, though. I did. Kind of comes back to your mother's advice. Yeah, but I think in spite of fear. There would have been more joy if I had worried less, acted as I did. But the rumination that I mentioned and the negative fantasies about the future, these are the things that must depleter to me when I was young. The Diroverseos brought you by progressive insurance. Do you ever think about switching insurance companies to see if you could save some cash?

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1:37:21A really, really interesting application of AI. There's so much negativity around AI. So it's so wonderful to see people doing positive things with the technology, the technology that does down the chance of really changing our lives. Arianna, what is the most important thing that we haven't talked about, that we should have talked about? The one thing we haven't talked about is what you alluded to right now, which is we have the opportunity now to use technology for our good. You know, technology, so much of technology through algorithms and the early, more primitive forms of AI has led to bringing the worst out in us.

1:38:10Well, I actually have this, which I found. Do you know what this is? It's from the Cambridge Union Society, seventh debate on Tuesday, the 12th of May, 1978, 8pm. It's little flyer. And it says, the quote is, this house believes that technological advance threatens the individuality of man and is becoming his master. And I believe, if I'm not mistaken, there you are. Very sure. So speaking. Proposed by Arianna, Stassinopoulos. Very good, Stephen. Thank you so much. So that was a leaflet from the 1970s where you were proposing that that technological advancements threatens to develop an individuality of man and is becoming his master.

1:39:00Yes. That was your proposal. I've changed my mind. You changed your mind. You're building an AI company. 50 years later, you're building. It isn't funny that you had pre -sharns speaking from the cross -bentures, meaning neither side. Because that was the Royal Prorogative. His Royal Highness, the Prince of Wales, will be in attendance. He actually spoke. Oh, wow. But because he was at King's College at the time when I was there. But I actually believe that we now have the opportunity to use what AI makes possible, which above all, in terms of health, is hyper -personalization. Like, it can have what they call a context window of billions and billions of data points.

1:39:52So it can know everything about Stephen. Not just your biometric data, your lab data, your medical data, but your preferences. What foods you like? How you like to sleep with your phone? And how are we going to change that? But also, what poems do you like? Are there any sacred texts that you like? Is there any music that you love? Any nature? And at the right moment, give you the right nudges and recommendations to move you towards the best version of yourself. And one of the things I'm focusing a lot now at Thrive, this company I found it after I left the Huffington Post, was how to help people make that connection.

1:40:38And one of the ways we're doing it is through the 60 -second resets. 60 seconds. Second resets. Stress is an unavoidable part of life. Like there is nobody who doesn't have stress in their lives. But cumulative stress is avoidable. And the way to avoid cumulative stress is to read the neuroscience that tells us that in 60 to 90 seconds, we can go from the sympathetic to the parasympathetic nervous system. The sympathetic is fight of light. In 60 to 90 seconds, Stephen, that is kind of amazing. And the reason that is true is because we all have that place in us. We don't have to invent it or create it.

1:41:31And our breathing is a superpower. You know, most of us forget that we breathe all the time. So how do we breathe consciously? So we now have hundreds of resets on our platform that focus on conscious breathing, gratitude, images. But my favorite thing is creating our personalized reset. Well, as you say that, I am... I've actually found your personal reset. I have it here on my iPad, which is a video that I guess, which is this video here, I can put it up on the screen for anybody that doesn't have it. This is the video. And it's 60 seconds, exactly. 60 seconds long. Yes. Did you make this video yourself?

1:42:18Yes. We can make it very easily on our platform. It takes five minutes because everybody has pictures they love, stored together, music they love. And we also offer different quotes if you want to use quotes. So I'm going to put this video on the screen so everybody can see it. I'm watching one video. But this video, could you explain it to me then? What is it? So basically, it has pictures of my children at different ages. My dog. It has favorite quotes, like Be Willing to be a beginner every single morning. That means something to me. It has music that I love. And it ends with my absolute favorite quote, which is Rumi.

1:43:08Leave life as if everything is rigged in your favor. Love that quote. And how many times have you watched this video? I would say hundreds and hundreds. It could be a thousand times. And it never fails to have that impact on me. Now a lot of people create multiple videos, different music, different moods. But the point is bringing together things you are grateful for. And based on the science that gratitude and stress and anxiety cannot coexist. Interesting. So what I love about this is that it may sound warm and fuzzy thing. But it's based on hardcore science. And that's very important to me, because if we are going to help people adopt this healthier habits, we need to convince them that they are based on rigor and data.

1:44:11And they are not just random things that we came up with. We have a closing tradition where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest, not knowing who they are going to be leaving it for. And the question left for you is, when was the last time you were so proud of yourself that you could have thrown a parade? Hmm. Well, that's an amazing question.

1:44:37I think actually very recently, and we talked about it, but I was proud that we were addressing a big, hairy problem, which is healthcare. That so often, this problem seems so intractable that we shy away from looking at solutions. And so the fact that we brought together a great team, the fact that we found a great CEO and that we convinced him to leave Google to run this project, that he's building an amazing rock star team, and that we may be able to have a real impact on the lives of people who don't have their resources to actually take care of themselves in a way that so many people with resources are already doing.

1:45:43I'm just really excited about it. I don't know if my mother would like me to use the word proud because she didn't like that word. But I'm really excited and I want to devote the rest of my life to that. I'm so excited to watch that journey play out, and for you to be the spearhead of such an exciting project along with me. At 74. It's the most incredible thing. And I want everybody listening and watching to realize how much time, guys, you have left, and how much you can do during this time. Do you think people realize that? I think a lot of people feel that they're deadlines, that I have to achieve X by 30 and Y by 40.

1:46:31And that creates a certain pressure. And I know you say pressure is okay, and pressure is okay, but not when it comes with a lot of stress. And not when it robs us of joy. I'm going to ask you to finish on your favorite quote of all the quotes that you've, because you're a fan of quotes I can tell. But you can't use any that you've used thus far. It can't be the one about life being rigged in your favor by Rumi. It has to be a different one. What is your favorite quote? Well, in there. So it can't be a room in. It can't be maintained. So it's got to be a beginner every single morning. The fact that we can start every morning fresh.

1:47:14So, you know, every day is a mixture of good things and bad things. And often wake up in the morning and we carry the burden of the bad things that happened the day before. So if we can wake up every morning and have that sense of new beginnings, you know, like the first morning of creation. Whatever time you want to use, fresh. Ariana, thank you. Thank you for being such an inspiration to me and so many other people. Thank you for your wisdom. And thank you for your unrelenting energy towards solving some of society's biggest issues. And maybe society's biggest issues, which is our health and our happiness, which is exactly what you're doing through the work you've done with Thrive and continue to do with Thrive AI now.

1:48:05And it's a service to humanity that is very much needed at this particular time as we find ourselves in society. So thank you so much, Ariana. You're an absolutely wonderful force in the world. And I'm so honored to have met you today. Thank you so much, Stephen. And thank you for all you are doing to have this remarkable impact.

1:48:43Thank you.