Top CIA Security Advisor: Jeffrey Epstein Epstein Was A Made Up Person & They Can See Your Messages!

12:58Gavin de Becker:And ultimately, those pictures were never published.

13:01Steven Bartlett:Yeah, I won't even comment on whether those pictures exist because they were doing a fascinating thing, by the way. It's sort of like selling you land in Florida that's marshland and doesn't exist. They were doing an extortion on a thing they didn't even have, right? So it's kind of a double crime. It's an extortion and fraud.

13:18Gavin de Becker:It's interesting, you know, we start talking here about digital comms and that type of security with everything that's going on at this exact moment in time with all these Epstein files. And there's a big conversation, you know, because now we can see 3 million documents and many of them are emails that people have sent at different times. Some of the most famous people in the world have sent emails to Epstein and now those are all out there in the public to see. I wonder what your take was on all of this stuff. You must be watching this stuff from like through the lens that you've built your career.

13:47Gavin de Becker:and you must have an interesting opinion.

13:49Steven Bartlett:Some of it I don't talk about because I have a fair amount of inside information and I'm just watchful about not getting near the line.

13:58Gavin de Becker:What do you mean by inside information?

13:59Steven Bartlett:I mean information that I might have gotten from, I'm characterizing it carefully, that I might have gotten from government agencies that are clients or that I might have gotten because clients were implicated. Like I learned today, for example, this morning on the way over here, that I'm in the Epstein files. Oh, really? And here's the way I'm in there, is that someone sent Epstein an article that I wrote called Fooling Ourselves Into War. And so somebody sent that article, which is an article I really like, by the way, published in Huffington Post at the time, and they sent that to Epstein. So that's an example of being in the Epstein files and yet obviously never having met Epstein.

14:41Steven Bartlett:But I have a few clients and friends who the Epstein group made approaches on and failed, meaning they tried to get them and failed. I'll give you one story without naming the person, of course. He goes to meet with Epstein in New York to ask for money for a charity. And Epstein is perceived as this big billionaire, which he was not, by the way, I'll tell you in a second. And Epstein is in a robe. And they're across the desk just like you and I are. And Epstein says, hey, they're finishing the meeting. He says, hey, I'm going to get a massage. hence my robe, you want to get a massage. And through the hallway, my friend can see a massage table and a room and a very cute girl who's the massage therapist, right, dressed like a massage therapist.

15:26Steven Bartlett:And so he happened to say no. In fact, interestingly, he happens to not like massage, which is itself, you know, a lot of people would say yes and might even think it would improve my relationship with this guy, Jeffrey Epstein, who I perceive as this rich guy that I'm trying to get money from my charity. Had that happened, what a different world for that person. What a different life. Because in that room is cameras and then eventually audio. It didn't start off with audio, but audio was added later. And then you're getting a handjob, if I'm allowed to say handjob, from somebody who you don't even think about their age, but turns out to be 17.

16:05Steven Bartlett:And you are in the world of trouble for the rest of your life. And that's a big piece of what was going on with Epstein, with cameras in that apartment in New York, and eventually audio, cameras and eventually audio at the island. My take on it, and certainly my public take, is that there was a profound blackmail operation going on to the benefit of probably more than one government, but at least one government. And when I said a moment ago he wasn't a billionaire, he wasn't a billionaire. For one thing, his earning path is highly suspect. I'll first tell you what he was. What he was is a construct.

16:46Steven Bartlett:He's a created construct. Money, wealth, private jet, private island, fun, not married, young girls, lots of things. So he was a construct. The money, $500 million of money came from Les Wexner, who's a wealthy guy who owns or owned, I don't know what he's doing now, Victoria's Secret. Big donator to the state of Israel. And$500 million was transferred to Epstein along with power of attorney to use it and invest it in the ways he saw fit. Quite an unusual, you know, I'm mildly wealthy, but I'm not sending you$500 million. I'll tell you that. The idea that you're doing this is itself extraordinary, but it was probably the funding mechanism for this construct.

17:32Steven Bartlett:While it's a real name, Jeffrey Epstein, and he has a real birth certificate and grew up in a real way, the picture that is presented to the world is not authentic. It is not accurate to who he was. And the more you dig into this story, which, of course, people are doing so much now because of these 3 million documents so far, and videos, by the way, and photographs, there's a lot of material there. It's very interesting to people right now and more to be learned. But, you know, what was actually going on, why in the world would anybody say, well, there are national security implications to some of this content?

18:08Steven Bartlett:That's why some things are redacted. What would that be? Why would the prosecutor who prosecuted him in Florida and provided one of the most unusual plea bargain deals in world history and certainly unique in American history, which is imagine I've got you on a U.S. attorney. I've got you on some crime. And you say, OK, I'm going to plead guilty. I'm going to serve my time. But please let my accountant go and please don't prosecute my wife because all she did was deliver the stuff and she wasn't involved in anything. And so those are called unindicted co-conspirators. So I make a deal with you and I say, okay, you go to jail for the eight months and we will leave the unindicted co-conspirators unindicted.

18:50Steven Bartlett:We won't prosecute your wife, your son, your accountant or what have you. That's a very normal process. It's a bargaining process basically. However, in the Epstein case, the U.S. attorney gave him a deal that said that we would not prosecute unnamed co-conspirators. Holy shit. Who's that? Who's unnamed co-conspirators? Unnamed co-conspirators could be 50 people. It could be 75 people. The guy who gave that sweetheart deal became the secretary of labor. He was at that time the U.S. attorney for Florida. He was asked, why did you give that sweetheart deal? Because the deal's ridiculous. Unnamed co-conspirators will be exempt from prosecution.

19:33Steven Bartlett:And he said, I was told he belonged to intelligence. And then he had to resign because of this. There was a lot going on with Epstein. The person who, I mean, there's so much of this, but the person who sort of brought Epstein into the world of power and got him his job at, I think, Morgan Stanley. I could have that wrong, but one of those big finance companies was William Barr's father. William Barr was the attorney general who was the U.S. attorney general when Epstein was killed or died in prison, depending on your choice of reality. So there's so much there, but I won't be the first guest, Stephen, that you've had that says that it was an intelligence operation.

20:17Steven Bartlett:Why the U.S. government is reluctant to be more transparent. Some of it is national security. Some of it is, let's imagine, an ally of ours is involved in that operation. So there's a reluctance and there's a question. It's a little bit like UFOs. Could the public handle it is the question that's always asked in these cases. Meaning, could the public handle it if, for example, the UK was running an intelligence operation inside the United States to control senators and congressmen and powerful executives and powerful figures and scientists? Could we handle it? Could the US public handle it? My take personally, absolutely yes.

20:57Gavin de Becker:So you believe that he was an intelligence asset, and it sounds like you believe he was an intelligence asset potentially by a US ally.

21:06Steven Bartlett:Yes.

21:07Gavin de Becker:So who is that ally?

21:09Steven Bartlett:Israel.

21:10Gavin de Becker:You believe that Epstein was an Israel intelligence asset?

21:14Steven Bartlett:Yes, I do. And Ghislaine Maxwell, just for additional background, but everybody can find it, her father was an Israeli intelligent asset who was so revered. His funeral ceremony was held in Israel, was attended by the prime minister, by I think the last four or five, by every living head of Mossad attended. and there were words used in eulogies like he did things for Israel that the world will never know about. There's a lot of good connection there and a lot of good connective tissue, some of which I've shared with you because it's public and some of which I'm not sharing. But that is indeed what I believe, yes.

21:52Steven Bartlett:Not just me, by the way. You might already be there, and you've certainly had another guest sit here and a former CIA guy. Kirikow, how do you say his last name? Yeah. Am I close?

22:03Gavin de Becker:You're closer than I would get.

22:05Steven Bartlett:And he was point blank in saying Israel.

22:08Gavin de Becker:So there's no direct evidence, but what people are essentially doing is putting the pieces together to make a picture.

22:14Steven Bartlett:There is direct evidence. There's just not direct evidence I'm sharing at this moment. But there's plenty of evidence that has been public already, some of which I've shared. I mean, I could do it for 40 minutes, but everybody can just go to ChatGPT. And, you know, if you ask ChatGPT, make the best case for. It's a good thing for viewers to remember. Make the best case for dot, dot, dot, whatever it is. If you ask, the first answer you get if you ask a straight question will always be the official narrative.

22:42Gavin de Becker:I've done exactly that, as you said. I asked ChatGPT, make the best case for Epstein being an Israel spy. Here is what it said. The case that Jeffrey Epstein functioned as an Israeli intelligence asset rests on a pattern alignment rather than direct proof. He ran a sexual compromise operation resembling known intelligence compromat tradecraft.

23:04Steven Bartlett:Compromat, yeah, like it's a Russian word that means we compromise you.

23:07Gavin de Becker:Had wealth and access far beyond his formal career and operated with unusual legal protection for years. His close partnership with Glenn Maxwell, whose father had documented intelligence ties, fuel suspicion, as does reporting by journalists who say Epstein's activities were discussed in intelligence adjacent circles. The cameras and the microphones hidden in his apartment and his home. How do we know that they were there and why?

23:33Steven Bartlett:Well, how I know they were there is a little bit different from how everybody knows they were there. And I don't know enough about the entire history of the FBI piece, but I'll tell you a funny part of the FBI piece. When they went to execute a search warrant at that apartment after his more recent arrest, They found and even photographed a bunch of CD-ROMs or discs of some kind that were labeled, but they didn't take them. They said, we'll get a warrant and we'll be back for those. And they came back after a mere six days, and it was all gone. So where it is, I don't know. Does the U.S. government have it?

24:10Steven Bartlett:Does somebody else have it? I just don't know the answer. But I know from very direct information regarding the island and the apartment. I don't know about New Mexico. I just don't happen to know, another house that he owned, that there were cameras and then eventually audio. Audio was added. Oh, also testimony, by the way, pardon me, testimony from girls who said, girls who worked there and visited there a lot, who said that in a small room to the right of the front door was a whole thing of videos where the recording was done.

24:37Gavin de Becker:And can you explain to me why recording videos and audio of people getting those kinds of doing those kinds of things would be a useful asset for this foreign adversary to have?

24:53Steven Bartlett:Sure. You know, blackmail is not always done by calling you up and saying, you know, hey, Stephen, I'm going to hurt you in the following way if you don't do A, B or C. The other version is far better, which is even alluded to in some of the now-released material, which is he calls and he says, Stephen, I've got terrible news. You remember you had that massage from Cindy? You know, that girl, Cindy. Oh, yeah, yeah, I remember. She recorded something. She had something in her bag. She made a recording. And I got worse news, Stephen. The girl's 16 and a half. And now, by the way, you are stomach drops, diarrhea.

25:34Steven Bartlett:you are in a world of stress right now, just hearing that. And he, instead of being your blackmailer, becomes your rescuer. He says, I can handle it. I can handle it. I can handle it. She's got the recordings. I don't know where they are, but I can handle it. I can handle it. I can handle it. Don't worry. Don't worry. Don't worry. And he owns you now forever. If you were involved in a naked experience with someone who's underage, and there's a video of it and audio of it as well, you will do anything that you are asked to do that is within reason. Very few people would have the character and the stamina to do what you describe Bezos doing, which is that he wrote a public letter saying, a very unusual thing happened to me the other day.

26:19Steven Bartlett:I'm being blackmailed by the National Enquirer, and here's what they said. That's very, very rare. And so, you know, a senator, a congressman, he owned a lot of people. Do you have any skepticism about that?

26:36Gavin de Becker:I don't have skepticism. I just have a lot of ignorance to how this whole world works. Lucky you. And I just have a lot of ignorance to like, you know, because you hear about these things in almost like movies. And it appears that we're all kind of witnessing something we might have regulated just to the movies happen before our eyes. And even when, you know, I saw some of the emails coming up on my feed of things that Epstein had emailed people, he seemed to be continually inviting people to hang out with him. Sure. In a way that is quite atypical. Now, maybe I'm just an introvert, but I'm not.

27:09Gavin de Becker:He was, like, aggressive in his comms to people saying, come and hang out with me. I'm doing this thing at this dinner party. Come to my island. Are you in the area? And he was succeeding in getting a lot of people to come and visit his homes and his island. And, yeah, it's—

27:23Steven Bartlett:By the way, Stephen, in the circumstance you are in today, you might well have heard from Jeffrey Epstein. You might well have had somebody who knows you, who says, hey, there's this guy in New York, loves your show, just terrific. And all of a sudden, you're getting that invitation. And you're getting that invitation through someone you know and kind of like. Like Joe Rogan did. I don't know, but like so many people. Well, Joe Rogan said it. Oh, if he's been public about it, I'm just not going to be the one to say it, but I got it.

27:50Gavin de Becker:Oh, okay. Joe Rogan publicly last week said that, and it's in the files, that a former guest, I think it was Lawrence Krauss, of his show invited him to come and meet Jeffrey Epstein. And the emails show that Jeffrey Epstein was trying to get Lawrence to bring Joe Rogan in. Joe Rogan said, like, absolutely, Joe Rogan's word said absolutely fucking not. Right. I was creeped out about it and never went and was never involved.

28:14Steven Bartlett:Well, the point I was just making is that in your present circumstance with the enormous audience and the reach of this show and all your work, the small videos, et cetera, of course you're a terrific person because now I can call you up and say, hey, will you have this person on? Or I can say, hey, will you be really skeptical about this topic? And will you say, I don't believe it? And will you say, I think it's wrong? Or will you say, I think it's anti-Semitism? Or will you say such and such? And brother, you will. The moment where I started to, you know, really understand the blackmail angle was when I started reading some of the particular emails that Epstein had sent to himself.

28:52Gavin de Becker:One in particular where he sent himself an email regarding Bill Gates. He's alleging that Bill Gates has slept with—he's sending himself an email.

29:00Steven Bartlett:Yes.

29:01Gavin de Becker:Alleging that Bill Gates has slept with someone, some Russian prostitute. Prostitute. And that he got an STD, an extramarital affair, all of these allegations. And when I read that email, then I thought, oh, you know, he was a blackmailer. He was definitely a blackmailer. And he's collected all these rich and famous people, and he has them in his pocket now. Just to close off then on this point of Epstein before we move on, you said they've released some of the files. And you said they hadn't released other files. Yes. And you have implied that was because they basically can't release these other files necessarily.

29:32Steven Bartlett:Well, I don't know what—I think more is coming. I think more will be released. But there are certainly files, including files even right now, even yesterday, though there's a law, as you may know, Congress voted for a law to release everything unredacted. There's still a lot of redacted stuff. So there's more to come. And will some be redacted? Sure. Is anybody going to sit here like I did today and say, hi, I'm the secretary of blah, blah, blah. And let me just tell you what was really going on. You know, I'm the head of the CIA. Let me tell you what was really going on. Not likely. But Trump knows.

30:05Steven Bartlett:He knows who Jeffrey Epstein really was. I would say all senior people in the U.S. government and many, many people in general know everything that you and I have discussed here today. No secret. By the way, what do you think? Let's imagine somebody came forward and said, this country described as our greatest ally. I would say our greatest ally is the U.K. based on history. But Israel is an important ally in the Middle East and it's a democracy and it's more of a Western government. I get it. But what do you think? The country comes out and somebody officially says, OK, let me tell you what was going on.

30:43Steven Bartlett:Do you think the American public can handle it?

30:46Gavin de Becker:I think they either way now deserve to know the truth. Whether they can handle it or not is probably secondary to whether they – I think people need to know the truth. I think the problem is people have been partially traumatized by all of this stuff. And so now I think the remedy is full transparency.

31:07Steven Bartlett:I agree. And by the way, this is close because we got a lot of information. Whereas, you know, five weeks ago or eight weeks ago, people were saying, oh, there's nothing more. That's it. That's all there is. I mean, this is a big step. And I think it's a big step, as big a step toward transparency as probably as I've seen in my lifetime by a government. The exception would be, and it's not a government, what Elon did after buying Twitter, the release of the Twitter files. That was a very impressive thing of letting three journalists come in and just go through everything. I think it would be awesome if the U.S.

31:43government ever, governments don't do this very often,

31:46Steven Bartlett:But if they ever said, OK, everybody, put on your seatbelt, I'm going to tell you exactly what happened with the JFK assassination or exactly what happened with the assassination of Robert F. Kennedy, Senator Robert F. Kennedy, when he ran for president. There are some examples of this in U.S. history where it feels like after about 25 years, we'll start telling the truth about something. 50 years ago, Johnson & Johnson went to the FDA and they said, look, our baby powder, you know, that stuff that you put on the baby and you breathe and the mother breathes, well, it's got asbestos in it and it causes cancer.

32:20Steven Bartlett:And the FDA said, well, thanks for bringing this to our attention. We'll begin to study how much asbestos is an allowable amount. Now, they never considered zero, which is what I'd want on my baby or you'd want on your baby. And they began to study. Then they studied for a while, and they studied for a while, and lo and behold, 40 years had gone by. And they hadn't come out with a ruling to say there shouldn't be any asbestos in Johnson & Johnson baby powder. When did they come out with that ruling, by the way? Last year. End of 2024. After 52 years. So at the beginning, the government is saying asbestos?

32:55Steven Bartlett:No, what are you talking about? Agent Orange, the same story. Agent Orange is a material used in Vietnam for defoliation. hurt people, killed people, and caused birth defects in their kids, including American soldiers, lots of them. The government knew it. They had tested it on 40 lab mice. And lab mice don't have a good life generally anyway. They don't have good life expectancy. But in this case, 38 died within five days. What did the government do with that information? Oh, put that in a top secret file and get rid of that. And then it sits for a long, long time. And the Institute of Medicine says, Agent Orange hurting people.

33:31Steven Bartlett:What are you talking about? No. And they lie and they lie and they lie. And then finally, 20, 25 years later, okay, yeah, sorry, we were wrong. It does cause birth defects. You see that same story with breast implants, silicone breast implants. You see that same story with baby formula, with baby food, which has arsenic in it. I don't want any arsenic in baby food. But deny, deny, deny, deny. And we'll see it with mass vaccination because after some years there will be, okay, yes, there is a good chance that it causes myocarditis, already been admitted, by the way, pericarditis, cancer in young people.

34:10Steven Bartlett:It was a bad product. Sorry. But they won't do it a year away from a thing. And obviously, as we can see every day, they won't do it five years away. It's very easy to see and to locate when the U.S. government or any power center. I'm an American. I'm all for America. but all power centers in human history lie. Knowing that they are lying does not tell you the truth, however. Meaning knowing that Oswald did not act alone as a shooter from the sixth floor of the Texas Book Depository, if he was a shooter at all, knowing that does not tell you who was the shooter. So often the best we can get in our skepticism is to know that we are not being told the truth.

34:51Gavin de Becker:When I grew up, I felt, I feel like I was very naive to the nature of how the world really operates. And the more I've done podcasts and frankly, you know, you get invited to interesting things and you meet like rich people and famous people and billionaires. And I went to Davos this year, which I think people think makes me some kind of like, I don't know. If the Illuminati are at Davos, they didn't invite me into that room. But I got to see like really powerful people and world leaders and all those kinds of things. And I've sat here and interviewed so many CIA spies and I've learned that there are things going on out of plain sight.

35:24Gavin de Becker:So the version of reality that the average person has as they go through their life, how has the work you've done over the last several decades of your career shifted your belief about the version of reality that actually exists? How are they different?

35:37Steven Bartlett:So I can answer it easily because I was just like you. I would say I was naive. And in fact, by the way, I want to quickly acknowledge that I'm probably naive today, even with what you've heard, because there may be a level above the level above the level above that I'm not seeing or I'm choosing not to see. I can tell you the exact evolution for me, not dissimilar to you. I grew up in the 50s and 60s. I believe the courts will always come up with a fair decision. I believe that the IRS will only collect money and destroy people with good reason, and they won't do it with bad reason. I believed everything, and a lot of it right up until COVID, by the way, right up until seeing what went on with both mass vaccination and the mass control through fear.

36:21Steven Bartlett:Here's what I want to tell you I've learned. It's not that unusual, I think. I think it's easy to embrace, which is that are human beings the same as they were a thousand years ago? Are human beings the same as they were in Caesar's time? What did Caesar do, by the way? A Caesar, pick a Roman emperor. Whatever the fuck they wanted to do. They had sex with who and what they wanted. Eight years old, 10 years old, boy, girl, whatever it may be. Even in King Farouk's time in Egypt, one of the last kings of Egypt. If you were a house guest, they'd say to you, you know, we're going to have dinner at six.

36:57Steven Bartlett:We can send somebody to your room. Do you want a young boy or a young girl? No shame to it. No problem whatsoever. Rich and powerful people, like the ones you were describing at Davos, often go from, I already have all the money. I've already had all the fame. I've already had all the influence. What do I want to do now? And sometimes they want to do forbidden things. Have an affair. Keep a girl in an apartment. These are easy, right? Right. Cheat on my wife. These are easy still. 14 year old girl. Oh, not getting so easy anymore. But I've done all the other stuff. And that's what the Epstein piece appeals to, which is the forbidden.

37:34Steven Bartlett:I want to be very concise in answering this question about what changed in terms of my view, how I've gotten started where I started. First of all, I worked in government, worked in the Reagan administration. I lied. I did things that were lies that were deceitful several times in my career. I can give you examples in a minute if you want. But, you know, to make a prosecution work, I reached a bit to get somebody, some bad guy who was trying to kill a client, you know, prosecuted or in custody for a longer period of time. I was in many meetings where the questions were, this thing happened, not how shall we tell the public, but what shall we tell the public?

38:16Steven Bartlett:How shall we spin this thing? This is the norm in every corporate boardroom in America. It's not, oh, there's cancer-causing asbestos in the baby powder. I guess we better let everybody know. That's not the meeting. The meeting is let's notify the FDA and say it's understudy. And so if we get asked, we'll get through this thing. Who goes to jail, by the way, in these corporations for the shit they do? Opioids, et cetera. My God, 100 ,000 people dying from heart attacks from a pain pill, for example. Vioxx, for God's sake. I mean, it's unbelievable and nobody gets in trouble. Right? Companies are fined.

38:55Steven Bartlett:Do you know what the fines mean to these companies in that new book I gave you Forbidden Facts? I lay out what all the pharma companies have been fined criminally, what it cost them and what they made nonetheless. Right? And of course, they made the right decision because financially they did very well. But I want to get to the concise part. Look at world history as a pie chart, right? The entire thing is tyranny as a government method, as a control method. Just a tiny sliver is representative democracy, a little bit starting in Greece, Western Europe, the United States. Tiny sliver. So our norm, Stephen, is tyranny.

39:34Steven Bartlett:That is the norm for human beings. And what happens to that tiny sliver that I'm describing? That tiny sliver always moves toward totalitarianism.

39:43Gavin de Becker:What does that mean?

39:44Steven Bartlett:It means that the representative democracy we have, let's say, in the UK, which is pretty stressed right now in terms of freedom of speech, or in the United States, moves toward totalitarianism in that it says it starts with we pass a law. And if, you know, the U.S. Constitution says if there isn't a law prohibiting it, you can do it. And for government, it says if there isn't a law allowing it, you cannot do it. That's the U.S. Constitution. That's the U.S. method. Well, look what it's become. A law gets passed, and then regulators, unelected officials, go fucking nuts on interpreting that law the way they want to and applying it the way they want to.

40:27Steven Bartlett:And so it moves toward totalitarianism. 40 ,000 new laws passed in the United States every year. How many rescinded? Almost none.

40:36Gavin de Becker:So where are we now? Here in the United States, where we both are sat, or in the UK, where are we in the arc of history? Because it kind of does seem to move in sort of cycles.

40:46Steven Bartlett:Now, the we, if you're talking about where are we now, like Western society or the US, empire in decline. And first of all, is it an empire? Obviously, right? We have 760 military bases overseas. 760. We have a larger budget for what we call defense, now called war, since Trump has changed the name to Department of War more accurately. We have a larger budget than every other country in the world combined for military spending. How many overseas bases does China have? I think it's one. I'm not saying China's all lovely. I'm just saying they have a different method. They have a method closer to what we had in the 60s, which was to come in with beneficial help.

41:31Steven Bartlett:We'll redo your roads, et cetera, et cetera. So we're an empire, and we're an empire in decline. And a moment ago when I said that tyranny is the normal state of affairs for how people are governed, how is it exercised? Through fear, always through fear. Fear is the method that causes division, and division is the fuel of power, meaning you want the population. to be divided. You want the left and the right. You want the Trumpers and the Democrats and the forever Trumpers and the never Trumpers. Division is the fuel that all world leaders relish. I give you the example in the cleanest terms. The king and the queen look over the castle wall, and when they see their subjects fighting, they high-five each other.

42:22Steven Bartlett:Because if they're fighting with each other, they're not coming over the wall. And there's always a wall. But if they're not fighting with each other, that's a big problem. Because then they're coming over the wall. Because everybody knows in their heart, wait a minute, these fuckers are living in absolute luxury while I can't afford to feed my kids? They're motorcades today. And in those days, they're beautiful, ornate wagons pulled by a bunch of horses go by and splatter mud on me in the street? What really is the difference? I mean, royalty is such a bullshit scam. So what happens to the Western world if we're in a declining empire?

43:03Steven Bartlett:I'll give you the optimistic version, because I have a dear friend who happens to live in Cape Town who helps me with this sometimes. Because like anybody, when I look a lot at what happens, I can get discouraged. I can get cynical. It's not a good place to live. I think Tony, And maybe even he said it on your show, Tony Robbins, which is, you know, that what you focus on will determine the quality of your life. So I can focus on the pharma companies and all the shit they're doing, or I can focus on the beauty of nature and spend more time in nature and spend more time with my kids, et cetera.

43:38Steven Bartlett:So my optimistic answer, which comes from a dear friend, Nick Hudson in Cape Town, is that even if empires decay, and social decay is outside this studio. It's in London. It's in New York. It's in Los Angeles. It's in Seattle. It's in Portland. It's unavoidable. Take a drive in Los Angeles. You know it. Every freeway on ramp. Not some. Every single one of them has tents underneath it with people living there. That is not good news. And so, but here's the good news part of it, the optimistic part of it, is that survival and thriving always prevails, and it does not rely on these systems. Meaning you are who you are as a, in the spiritual sense or in the scientific sense, whatever way you want to look at yourself as a collection of energy that doesn't need that body, by the way.

44:29Right?

44:29Steven Bartlett:The energy doesn't go anywhere when that body's done. Meaning it's, the energy is still there. It's not destructible. And so it's indestructible. So you are this being, this awareness, this consciousness. And if around us, when we go outside here today, all the buildings are gone and social decay has accelerated, are we going to be okay? And the answer is yes. What happens? Now we're living in the forest. And now I say, Stephen, you're pretty good at carpentry, right? Come join us. And you say, you're good at planting sweet potatoes? We need some of that. Let's do that. And small populations of people begin again, commence again, even after nuclear war, after a variety of things.

45:13Steven Bartlett:And I know it's crazy to some people, but I take my hope and my optimism from that fact, which is that it doesn't rely upon the electricity working. It doesn't rely upon the plumbing working and the sewage system working. that eventually there's enough of the earth, natural earth, for us to do what has happened before, which is start again. Give you a very fast aspect of this. A thousand years ago, there's a thousand little governments. There's shoguns in Japan. There's villages. There's a guy has 300 people and he's the chief. Then it becomes what it was in your life and my life, which is about 190 countries.

45:54Steven Bartlett:But those 190 countries are really about five power centers. There's NATO. There's Brexit. There's the oil-producing countries. And eventually, that five power centers will come to two power centers. The West, U.S., and China is my prediction, but it'll be somebody else's prediction. We can do it differently. And then those two fuckers are standing in a room together, and one has to kill the other. That's the course of history. That's how it goes. That's how it goes in every geographical area in history, which is we've got 30 villages, and if I can find your village, we'll take the women, we'll take the children, and we'll kill the men.

46:32Steven Bartlett:And it's just a matter of math. How many of you are of you, and how many are there of our group?

46:39Gavin de Becker:I think it's somewhat inconceivable, especially for people of my generation, to think that the US is at some point going to be at war with China. Because we've never experienced a world war. But because the stakes are now so high with nuclear weapons, a war theoretically wouldn't be like previous wars. It would be catastrophic. So it's unimaginable. Some people say now nuclear weapons have now stopped us from getting into World War III as easily, and therefore it won't happen.

47:08Steven Bartlett:Yes, some people believe in that general concept of mutually assured destruction, which is that neither side will do it. But you said it's almost impossible for you to imagine, or words to that effect, I want to help you with that imagining. And it goes like this. We are currently at war with Russia. We are not supporting the war in Ukraine only. We are at war with Russia because we are providing satellite information, electronic warfare strategies, drone strategies, providing targeting information. And that is war today. That is war. War is not just the guys on the battlefield with rifles. That's the low end element.

47:50Steven Bartlett:The high end element is supersonic missiles, which Russia has. And the high end element is Intel and satellite technology and the wide variety of things that are going on, some of which aren't even in the news, by the way, that go on in Russia and they say, oh shit, or that go on in Ukraine and they say, oh shit, the Russians have figured out that thing. But the U.S. is so far beyond other countries in the world in terms of technology. And so that is war with Russia. And you could say that our war with North Vietnam was war with China. But now there's just no question about it. So that was a long answer, Stephen, to say, I want to get your imagination closer.

48:31Steven Bartlett:We're already at war with Russia.

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50:14Gavin de Becker:I can create little phrases to automatically do the work for me. I can just say Jack's LinkedIn and it copies Jack's LinkedIn profile for me because it knows who Jack is in my life. This is saving me a huge amount of time. This company is growing like absolute crazy and this is why I invested in the business and why they're now a sponsor of this show and whisper flow is frankly becoming the worst kept secret in business productivity and entrepreneurship check it out now at whisper flow spelt w-i-s-p-r-f-l-o-w dot a-i slash steven it will be a game changer for you speaking of crazy weapons i was um i was reading about a story where you did a tour with the cia and they showed you a mechanical dragonfly Yeah.

50:54Gavin de Becker:With a battery.

50:55Steven Bartlett:What did they show you? Well, I've given a, I've had a lot to do with the agency that's been, that's been public over the years. And I was giving a talk. And then afterwards, they took me on a tour to a CIA museum. They showed me a lot of things. Oh, here's the helmet that was worn by that pilot who was shot down over Russia named Powers. All kinds of interesting memorabilia. And one of them was a little dragonfly, the size of a dragonfly. And it was mechanical. and I looked at it real closely and thought, wow, that's really fantastic. It's very interesting. And he said, you don't have any questions at all?

51:28Steven Bartlett:I said, no, I mean, I get it. And he said, why don't you ask me when it was built? And I said, okay, when was it built? 1967. In 1967, before we had any miniaturized electronics or motorization, the CIA had built that little thing. And it was a little camera that would fly around in here as a dragonfly. and then fly home and I don't know how many pictures it held. But it's an interesting piece I want to share with you about AI, which is people wonder how sophisticated is AI and where is it. My belief is that everything we have access to, like AI, we probably have something that the U.S. intelligence had 10 years ago.

52:15Steven Bartlett:We're probably dealing with something quite old already.

52:17Gavin de Becker:I'm just looking at a picture of this dragon field. Oh, I didn't even know it was public. That's the fucker. There he is. This little thing here. Yeah. You know, this was made, as you say, 50 years ago. So one can only imagine the type of technology they have now.

52:33Steven Bartlett:Oh, of course.

52:34Gavin de Becker:I mean, they don't even need to fly a Dragonfly in because we have all these electronic devices.

52:37Steven Bartlett:Of course. They can turn on our devices, probably your watch if it's an Apple watch, but certainly your phone. And, yeah, we are participating in, I won't even call it an experiment, but a process that you read 1984, I'm sure, and most of your audience did. I was very heartened during the beginning of COVID that 1984 became the 17th bestselling book in the world in the English language, telling me, ah, people are paying attention. They see that what they're experiencing here has a degree of 1984 to it. I think all science fiction stories come true. I really do. I see it time after time.

53:19Gavin de Becker:What advice would you give to my listeners about how to navigate in the world we're living in today? You know, to avoid risk, threat, you know, whether that's of our soft tissue, as you said, or just with our privacy or lives generally. Like, where does the advice start? You said you raised 10 kids. Yeah. What advice are you giving to your 10 kids?

53:37Steven Bartlett:Well, they all know that their dad is a big proponent. and my first book, which is still a very big book, A Gift of Fear, that book is, I think, still the best-selling book in the world on violence after 25 years. And that book is all about intuition and personal responsibility. So the very first thing I would say to your listeners, to you, to remind myself as well, is that human beings did not get the biggest claws or the biggest teeth or the biggest muscles. We got the biggest brains relative to our size. And the nuclear defense system that all human beings have is intuition, much different from logic.

54:19Steven Bartlett:Intuition, the root of it, by the way, I learned when I was writing that book, is inter, which means to guard and to protect. So intuition, when you think about it, oh, I just have a feeling I should go back to the apartment and double check such and such. Did I leave the fire on the pot? And you go back. And you open the door and you didn't leave the fire on the pot. but something else will always be going on that makes you glad you came back. I believe that intuition is always right in at least two ways. One, it always has your best interest at heart. It's not fucking with you. It's giving you real information that's valuable.

54:54Steven Bartlett:And number two, it's always based on something. And so our journey is to figure out when I have an intuitive feeling like, do this show with you, who knows why. But when I have that intuitive feeling, And by the way, I don't do most shows. I don't know what the reason is. I don't know what it'll be. I mean, I can make up one with logic, right? I like that guy. I learned a lot from his shows. I can create a case. I can make a case for anything. But if it's just based on what I feel and everything you've succeeded at and accomplished was based on what you felt, it was based on intuition. In America, in the West, we think we're doing it by logic, right?

55:30Steven Bartlett:I do a big PowerPoint presentation and I say to the board, here's the reason. Here's why. And here's the percentages. and they say, oh, good. The board at corporations in America would actually prefer that I use logic, even if I'm wrong, instead of using intuition, even if I'm right. So when I say to you, no, I just think it's the right thing to do. I think it'd be smart. I think it'll be, it'll really work out like something like Amazon Prime that people opposed. And then it's like 175 million people just in America are using it. Big success. Intuitive process, not a logic process. Logic is weak and plodding.

56:08Steven Bartlett:Logic does A, B, C, D. Intuition does A to Z instantly. And you don't know why. It's knowing without knowing why. I don't feel good about that person. I'm going to back. I said I was going to make this business deal. I'm backing out of it. I said I was going to show up to that thing I'm calling and canceling. And by the way, canceling, one of my favorite things. I recommend it to everybody. I recommend canceling and postponing to everybody I know. You are not obligated to keep your plans. You made a plan three months ago, and you don't know who you'll even be, or if you or them or anybody will even be alive three months from now.

56:43Steven Bartlett:There's nothing wrong with canceling. Now, I don't do it rudely, by the way, but just to finish on, you know, sort of what your viewers and listeners can do is to really fall in love with intuition and to learn the way you communicate with yourself. There's signals from intuition. Curiosity. You just wonder something. Suspicion. Worry can even be a signal of intuition. But the biggest one is true fear. When you feel true fear, I don't want to do this.

57:13Gavin de Becker:I wanted to ask you a question about this. I met with Magnus Carlsen, who is arguably the best chess player in the world. And I met with him after spending some time in Cape Town writing about gut instinct and intuition and all these kinds of things. And one of the things that I learned through my writing was that in many cases, when someone has a really well-trained intuition, their first thought is the right thought. And actually, if you give them longer to think about the problem, they make a worse decision. So when I met Magnus Carlsen as the number one chess player in the world, backstage, we were both on stage together.

57:46Gavin de Becker:I said to him, I said, listen, I've got a question to ask you. Do you basically now just run off intuition or do you think? And he said, my first thought is nearly always right. So actually, I spend the other time just confirming the first sort of intuition that I had. And actually, I was telling him about a dodgeball game where they got dodgeball players, professional dodgeball players, to look at a frozen image of a dodgeball game and said, where would you throw the ball? And when they gave them little time to decide, they made a better decision. When they just went with their first gut instinct, they made a better decision.

58:18Gavin de Becker:They unfroze it, and it was the right throw. If they gave them longer, they made the worst decision. and the sort of caveat, I guess the question for you is, it appeared to me that you almost have to train the intuition. Like areas in our life where we've got multiple reps and pattern recognition, our intuition is valuable. But then in other areas of our life where we haven't trained the muscle yet, we can make bad decisions. One such example would just be like the first time you start hiring people. You don't have a trained intuition yet. So you go, yeah, she seems nice. But then you get, I've probably been hiring thousands of people for 15 years now.

58:50Gavin de Becker:and I get, you know, I get an intuition. So do you have to train your intuition?

58:56Steven Bartlett:Well, I think it happens automatically as you live life that new distinctions are added. But I also believe that it is a natural resource. I could think of it in a spiritual sense. It's very hard to figure out why we feel a certain way. And we do what Magnus said, which is we get our answer and then we backtrack and see if it fits, right? I think the training that's necessary, Stephen, is not the training to improve your intuition, but rather the training to listen to it and to not interrogate it and to not prosecute it. Because I'll give you an example. A woman is working late at night in an office building like this.

59:36Steven Bartlett:She's on the 10th floor. She's leaving. She pushes the button for the elevator. The elevator door opens up. Inside the elevator is a man who causes her fear. She doesn't like it. For whatever reason, obviously she has no opportunity yet to assess all the issues. What's he dressed like? What's he look like? What did I hear three weeks ago about a guy who wore a blue cap and t-shirt? She doesn't have any time for that. Her first reaction was like that. What does she do, most women? They get into a steel, soundproof chamber. With someone they're afraid of. And there's not another animal in nature that will do it.

1:00:14Steven Bartlett:Now, why does she do it? Because the thought comes, oh, I don't want him to think I'm a racist because he's Hispanic. Or I don't want to be that kind of person. Or I don't want this reality to be true. So I'm going to act like it's not true, right? And what I say is let the door close in his face. No problem. If you've got the signal, that's a low-cost decision. Wait for the next elevator, right? That's a very low-cost issue. Now, there are so many examples of this in my work where I interviewed people who had been victimized, and time after time they would tell me I knew when I walked into that underground parking lot that that was the same car that I'd seen earlier.

1:00:57Steven Bartlett:I knew when I met that guy such and such. In fact, there's a beautiful woman who wrote me the most beautiful thing. I think it's in Gift of Fear or it's in one of the subsequent books. And she said that she would look at her lifelong diary. She kept a lifelong diary. And she looked back at it. And it would say, met this guy, feel a little queasy about him, not so sure, dated him, married him. And then what she wrote to me was she said, again and again, I could see. There it was in my diary. Listen to this. The ending embedded in the beginning. And so what I encourage people to do going to your original answer is how people can be safer, is listen to their intuition, know that its function is to protect you.

1:01:43Steven Bartlett:That's what it's doing.

1:01:44Gavin de Becker:When I was reading about your work on intuition and your perspective on it, it got me thinking about people in my life that I… Have to get rid of tomorrow? Well, actually that I have, you know that little alarm bell in your head when you have a little alarm bell intuition? Like, I don't know what the answer is, but I feel like something isn't right. And that little alarm bell in my head, I'm like, so what do I do about that? And I think there was one particular example I was thinking of where I was getting this little vibe from someone that something was just off. And then three months later, we were at this event and they started opening up about their childhood.

1:02:23Gavin de Becker:And in the course of opening up about their childhood, I learned something about their mother and something their mother used to do to them. and they were talking to someone else about this behavior that it's created in them, it suddenly all made sense. That thing that was giving me, was making me feel like the vibe was off, I think now is because of something from their childhood that I didn't actually know, which meant they have this behavior which will make you feel a little bit uncomfortable. And in that moment, and with that, I was thinking about this example before you arrived, because I was like, in that case, my intuition told me something, but I didn't know what it was telling me.

1:02:57Gavin de Becker:I imagine a lot of people have that. They have a vibe of someone. something's not quite right, and that interpreting it to mean X when it could be Y.

1:03:04Steven Bartlett:Yes, sometimes there's a very nice, like in my life, and I suspect in yours too, there's often a very straight line between certain childhood experiences and what we ultimately do. In my case, a very easy one is there was fear. I then come to have a deep understanding of fear, both sides of it and some compassion for it and some insight. And I then study it. There was violence in my childhood. And so I now come now, it's so long ago that I'm 71. So my childhood is so long ago now that it doesn't have a grip on my throat like it did for a lot of my life, where the narrative was very, very important to me.

1:03:48Steven Bartlett:And the narrative of my childhood was important. Go ahead. You were going to ask questions?

1:03:51Gavin de Becker:I was going to say, probably give people the context on your childhood.

1:03:54Steven Bartlett:Oh, you or me? I'll do it. Okay, good. Yeah, my childhood, damn it. I'll tell you. So yeah, a very, you know, very difficult time. My mother was a heroin addict. She was quite violent. She was very troubled. She committed suicide when she was 39 years old, and I was 16. And that was a kind of failure for me because I considered it my job to get us all through this drama alive. She shot my stepfather in front of me. A lot of, in that house that we lived in, I think there, I saw the house a few months ago, by the way. I think there are nine bullets in the walls and floor of that house that I can account for, probably still there.

1:04:34Steven Bartlett:And so while I'm describing this to you dispassionately, it's because of two things, The distance in terms of time, but most of all because of healing. And I want to give you my definition of healing in this context. My definition of healing for all of us is when we stop using any of our energy to manage the past. And this gives us all of our energy in the present moment. And so what do I mean using energy to manage the past? Well, if I'm keeping that story going and I'm saying to my wife, well, because my mama did this, this is why I feel such and such, which I went through times in my life when those things were much closer to me.

1:05:16Steven Bartlett:Today, I feel like I'm not using any of my energy to manage the past, the narrative I told you. This whole series of dramas happened. And any time you hear about a parent or anybody in somebody's life committing suicide, we often think, oh, what a terrible experience that must have been. What you really ought to think when you hear about somebody committing suicide is, oh, what a series of terrible experiences there must have been leading up to that. And I want to tell you real quickly that I had a couple of dreams that my mother was in that were particularly powerful. And I offer this to the audience to know that dream experiences are sometimes all you're going to get, right?

1:05:54Steven Bartlett:Because my mother died when I was 16. So I don't have an opportunity to sit across the table with her and say, what were you thinking when you're such and such? And what was going on in your life when such and such? But in a dream, she came to me once and I asked her, why were you so cruel to me? And she was totally perplexed. And she said to me, cruel to you, I was preparing you for this extraordinary life. And I think that's true. I think that's what happened, is that for you, whatever your experience was, for Tony Robbins, who we talked about earlier, what his experience was, it took those experiences.

1:06:30Steven Bartlett:You take away those experiences and you don't have someone who grows up wanting nothing more than to write these books for free and sell them for free and get them published for free, like Forbidden Facts, the current book, in order to help people deal with these issues of skepticism, of fear, etc. You don't get somebody doing what I do where my ambition is long gone. My ambition for more anything, more money, more houses. Well, houses I might still slip on. But now it's about service to other people. Wasn't always, but it was service to other people because I believe that public life, it includes you, if all you do is give me a bad example, that's service.

1:07:10Steven Bartlett:If you give me a good example, that's a prettier form of service. Maybe it's a nicer job you got. But ultimately, all of it is service. Everything that we can observe of people in public life and people in our private lives, it's all service. You know, I remember a friend of mine telling me he went back home for Thanksgiving and he saw his whole family. And he said he learned to only stay for one day. He said because all the shit happened on the second day with his family if he stayed for two days. And he also learned to stay in a hotel. I said, oh, you're staying at home? He said, oh, fun. No, never.

1:07:43Steven Bartlett:Never stay at home. because here was this group of people. But what he told me that was interesting is he said, Ah, Aunt Charlene, you taught me to speak more quietly because you talk so fucking loud. And he says, Uncle Carlo, you taught me to be more gentle because, man, you're rough in everything you do. Throw the glasses around and the way you engage. Dad, you taught me to listen to people because you never fucking listened to a thing I said, even today. Isn't it a beautiful way of looking at it, basically? These were the teachers in our lives. For my mother, 100%. I'm so far past forgiveness and so far into gratitude for the pieces that were wonderful.

1:08:27Steven Bartlett:And by the way, this is a suffering person, right? This is a person that, you know, that charities are for and social welfare is for. You know, a woman with three kids and no job and a heroin addict, for God's sake, that's not an easy job. And other drugs too, by the way, which helped me as I grew up to be skeptical of pharma. Because some of the pills she took, one of them called Doradon, has now been taken off the market for causing what? Psychosis. Which explains a lot of her craziness. And so all of this teaching that it depends what you do with it. Meaning we all, nobody gets out of here alive.

1:09:08Steven Bartlett:Everybody's got a story to tell. And I remember a case where I overvalued my own ability to predict human behavior, which I say in these books, you can predict human behavior. To drive here today in traffic, I had to predict the behavior of thousands of people based on just the little movements of the big metal objects around them. You know, that guy who starts to move over into your lane and then he catches himself and goes, you never trust that guy. You always want to get way behind him or way in front of him. So we're predicting human behavior all the time. But I overvalued mine. And I thought, oh, I'm Mr.

1:09:41Steven Bartlett:Genius predicting human behavior because I developed these systems of artificial intuition that predict human behavior. And I was at a meeting, and there were a group of people at the meeting, and it was going to start in about five minutes. And a few people were comforting one woman who was really sobbing at the end of the table. And I thought to myself, judgmentally, why'd she even come to the meeting? I mean, if she can't do the meeting, what's she doing here? And I knew it was a boyfriend issue, right? And that's what she's crying about, and they're comforting her. The meeting begins, and that woman speaks first, and she says through her tears, I'm sorry, you guys, I'll do my best at the meeting, but as many of you know, my husband killed my 12-year-old son four days ago.

1:10:21Steven Bartlett:So my little journey into judgmental prediction was about as wrong as you could be, and it was a humbling experience for me, because I would have discounted that person in a moment. That's the other side of prediction and intuition, right? You can discount people and quickly toss them away. And so, you know, when you get this intuitive signal, do we have a responsibility to understand it? Yeah, we have a responsibility to understand it. How many people have I met who I thought, what an asshole that guy is? I don't ever want to talk to that guy again. And I didn't. My loss. Sometimes it would have been the greatest person in the world.

1:11:00Steven Bartlett:sometimes it would have been a great relationship and now I apply the the George Harrison rule George Harrison of the Beatles which writes this he writes this unbelievable lyric that's in While My Guitar Gently Weeps which is I look at you all and see the love there that's sleeping

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1:13:19Gavin de Becker:You get to see how they are in the public life, and then you get to see them in their private life. And oftentimes you'll get to see them during some of the hardest moments of their life. Most of the time, yeah. What have you learned from that exposure? Well, probably a lot,

1:13:34Steven Bartlett:but I'll give what answer comes to me intuitively. When I was a kid and I used to watch television, I believed when I was a kid that the television was more real than our lives. And I learned, obviously, through my experience that the exact opposite was true. Right? The media world was unreal and our lives were real. And this, Stephen, is incredibly important today because with AI and social media and other things, we actually are challenged to know what is real and what is not real. Did Trump really make that speech or is it an AI film? Did that really happen or is that real what I'm looking at?

1:14:15Steven Bartlett:The cat really did that or is that an AI film? And we are challenged now to understand and choose, I would say, what's real and what's not real. That challenge has beauty in it because it's making, for me, it's making me question reality itself. In other words, I'm questioning what really matters to me and what will I call real. And I'll give you some examples. I'll call touch real. Hug you. Shake your hand. I'll call that real. Nature. Time in a park. Time with animals. My time with cats and dogs. Unbelievably important to me because I trust those fuckers. Right? I believe that cat. Means business.

1:15:02Steven Bartlett:This is what it's doing. If it wants to be on my chest purring, it wants to be on my chest purring. And if it doesn't, she's out of there. It's a CIA cap. And children are the same thing. I remember my son's meeting a famous client of mine who, let's say, is, was the richest man in the world, et cetera, at that moment. And my son at three years old, how much money do you have? But he held no offense because it's this little kid. All it can be is real. There's nothing but real in the little kid. And so where I think optimistically about AI, which definitely has some problems for the human race, for sure, but where I think optimistically about it is I think it's good for people to question reality.

1:15:45Steven Bartlett:Because what ultimately is it? What is it? If this is a simulation like Elon makes a good argument for, and I think he leans in that direction, by the way, and sometimes I do too with him. If it's a simulation, then we want to make it interesting. And we want to be a bit outside. In a simulation, we're not vulnerable, right? The spirit, the soul, the energy that animates us will continue. It's not going anywhere. And it lets us witness this experience rather than feel victim to it, right? We get to this, a good movie. And we wouldn't go see a movie if we knew the outcome, right? But this movie is really good.

1:16:24Steven Bartlett:And so when I look at AI things, and trust me, I don't know about you. You're younger, so you may have better instincts or intuitions for it. But I genuinely can't tell sometimes. I mean, I send something back to a friend of mine and say, I think that's bullshit. I don't think the dog actually jumped up on the top shelf and did that such and such. I don't buy it. And then you look at it a few more times. But this is good for us because what it brings us to is whatever we think is real, touch, touch, taste, the feelings, tears, nature. Whatever we think it is, I believe that's where I want to be.

1:17:02Steven Bartlett:That's where I want to spend my time.

1:17:03Gavin de Becker:So there's this theory called the dead internet theory where they think that because of AI and us being able to make content, I actually sent a video to some of my team members earlier. It was a two and a half minute video. And it's made with one of these AI tools. And it's the ending of a very famous movie. And someone's just changed it. And it's a kid in their bedroom who's made a new ending to the movie. a couple of prompts they've got a new ending to the movie and I was playing this forward playing this forward and forward and forward and eventually you get to a point where bots will be just spraying content at the internet and in such a world unless we have these sort of retina scanners to confirm that I'm doing the post live you get to this dead internet theory where everything you see is either written by produced by AI therefore our level of skepticism just raises to the point that we don't trust anything we're seeing.

1:17:50Gavin de Becker:You're saying that that's actually a good thing for us because it makes us question what we're seeing again and revert to real things that are irreplaceably human.

1:17:59Steven Bartlett:Yes, I think it's good to, I think it's spiritually good for us to redefine reality as opposed to, take me back 20 years in my life and possibly yours, what did I believe? Everything the government said. Every official narrative. Why wouldn't I believe it?

1:18:16Gavin de Becker:Do you think there's any downside to our lost interest in institutions?

1:18:21Steven Bartlett:Well, I have such a negative view of big centralized institutions.

1:18:27Gavin de Becker:Why?

1:18:28Steven Bartlett:Because I think what happens when you, a very good number of people to live together is about 300. And what I base that on is Fiji, where I live a lot, villages are about 300 people. There's a chief who lives with them. He doesn't get special treatment. He's not carried around in a gold chariot. He's got to eat the same food they do. And he is generally benevolent. And because the beauty of the Fijian village, and I encourage you to go and all your viewers to go, don't all go on the same day because you'll fuck up Fiji, but go anyway. The beauty of the Fijian village is that people will be born and grow up and get married and have children and die all in the same house and all with the same people.

1:19:18Steven Bartlett:That's fantastic. Because what they don't get that I get in my life and you get is the engagement with all these anonymous people that don't matter, right? The waiter is just a snapshot to me, not a real person I'm sitting down with. I like to, by the way, really engage with people at the expense of the friends I'm with very often. I'm really curious about people, the Uber driver. I'm curious. But I know that this is a temporary relationship. In the Fijian village, it's not a temporary relationship. I'll give you a good example. On an airplane, you're on a commercial flight somewhere, and you've got a 10-hour flight overseas to London or something, and there's a baby crying.

1:19:58Steven Bartlett:And you're pissed at the baby's crying. Some people are. I mean, I look at this. When we used to travel, my wife and I, and I remember somebody saying when we boarded with my maybe 20-month-old son, is that baby going to cry? And I said to the woman, what do you think? It's a 20-month-old baby. But the point is, hey, folks, we're together for the next 10 hours. How do we want to spend this time? We want to spend it hating each other. We want to get too drunk and bug the person next to you. How do we want to do this? A Fijian village is like that. In fact, a Fijian village is fewer bathrooms than a 747 and fewer seats than a 747.

1:20:34Steven Bartlett:Fewer people, for God's sake than what we get on an airplane every day. And so I believe in small populations for governance, and I believe in subsidiarity, a word you probably don't know. I only learned it about a year ago from a dear friend in Cape Town. Subsidiarity means government at the most local possible level. So if it's an issue regarding building permit, that ought to be city or county. Nothing to do with Washington, D.C. If it's an issue regarding interstate commerce, okay, Maybe we need a little Washington, D.C. We need a little state involved. But government at the most local possible level so that I can come over to your house, Stephen, and say, why did you not approve my building permit?

1:21:13Steven Bartlett:Or so I can meet you in the restaurant where we see each other every morning where our kids go to school together. I don't believe centralized government works. And I think further that centralized government is our enemy. It is the enemy of citizens.

1:21:26Gavin de Becker:I was thinking about the parallels there actually for business. They get too big? Yeah, they get too big. And a lot of great companies actually break up divisions and departments and give them autonomy. And subsidiary, I can't even say it. Subsidiarity. It wasn't easy for me either. I nailed it first time what you're talking about. Subsidiarity. Bing, bing. Subsidiarity. Yeah. And how even as our company grows, maybe I should think more about subsidiarity. Well, I'll tell you, my company at its biggest was about 1 ,000 people and 26 offices around the country, around the world.

1:21:56Steven Bartlett:And I didn't like 1 ,000 people as a number. I liked where we are now, which is about 600 people. And we're hiring, by the way, so look us up and come to work. We need young people who are physically fit and have good backgrounds, meaning they can pass screening. But my point is that I like to stay in that sweet spot of 1 ,000 people starts to get too far from the individuals. And when it's small, and I don't know where you are now in this podcast organization, but you can walk down the hall and see an employee and say, hey, it seems like you're not doing so well. You don't like to joke anymore.

1:22:35Steven Bartlett:You seem humorless. You seem such and such. In a big organization, well, I developed a method for that, by the way. I'll tell you in a second. But in a big organization, you get farther and farther and farther from the human beings. I want to tell you the method we developed. We have a thing called CARE. It stands for continuous asking, responding, and evaluation. Every day, every employee in my company, when they log into work, gets a question that they answer. And I get the statistical results of that every day. And the questions will be things like, when do you think you're getting your next promotion?

1:23:11Steven Bartlett:Or have you experienced or witnessed sexual harassment? Have you experienced or witnessed discrimination? Why do I do that? Because I want to know. That's why you ask. Have you, in bigger companies that use our system, like Amazon did, developed a system like it, you might ask a question like, have you ever seen a firearm in the workplace, an unauthorized firearm? Oh, damn it. We want to know that information, right? Does your supervisor know your name? Huge question. Because the supervisor, knowing that question is asked, knows everybody's name, which is what you want. You're influencing middle management behavior.

1:23:45Steven Bartlett:But that system we have care is no different than me walking down the hall and saying, Hey, Stephen, I noticed for the last couple of days you're keeping your office door closed and you kind of shut down for some reason. What's going on? You lose that when it gets too big. And when it gets really too big, like think about government agencies like HHS, the biggest budget in world history,$1.7 trillion, bigger than the Pentagon. Started out at 85 ,000 employees. Luckily, it's down now. You've got to be kidding. You're running a machine. It has nothing to do with humanity. And government agencies have nothing to do with humanity.

1:24:19Steven Bartlett:They have to do with process, bureaucracy.

1:24:23Gavin de Becker:We talked about advice. That's kind of why we started on this train of thought that you would give to your children. And one of the trains we went down was about intuition.

1:24:32Steven Bartlett:Yes.

1:24:33Gavin de Becker:Is there anything else that you think was, you know, if this, God forbid, was your last day on earth and your children said to you, Dad, what do I need to know to live a fulfilling life?

1:24:44Steven Bartlett:Yes.

1:24:45Gavin de Becker:based in the world as we see it today. What would you say if you could only say one thing?

1:24:49Steven Bartlett:For me, and I think it's true for everybody, contribution to others is a key part of coming to believe that you belong here. Those of us who had a tough time, and remember I said everybody has a tough time in some way through childhood, self-love is often missing or is hard to come by. And to believe that you belong here, contribution to others is a key thing. And the second one, you asked for one, but you're getting two. So it's a special today, a bargain. The second one was the hardest lesson for me to come to believe. And that was that what is right for you is always right for the other person.

1:25:31Steven Bartlett:Very hard for me to get my head around this one because I thought, well, wait a minute. I want to break up with this girl who wants to get married and have kids with me. How can my breaking up be right for the other person? Well, A, she gets to be with somebody who actually wants to be with her. She gets to begin her life now instead of I stay with her until she's 45 and she can't have kids anymore. So this idea that what's right for you is always right for the other person, the practical application is that all you need to do, Stephen, is know what's right for you. Which is easier said than done.

1:26:01Steven Bartlett:It is easier said than done. But because in my case, what I would do is say, well, how's this person going to do? When I was younger, I believed everybody that I fired, for example, which was very few people in my career. I employed a shitload of people, but I didn't fire very often. Everybody that I fired, I thought they went from working at this great company that I was the founder of to being on the street homeless and couldn't feed their families. That's not what happened. They went to other great jobs. If they could work for GDBA, they had already jumped through so many hoops. They were presentable.

1:26:32Steven Bartlett:They were intelligent. They were physically fit. They had a great background. They had integrity that we could see. They had all variety of things, and they presented incredibly well because we've got one hell of a screening process. We have a nine-day, nine-day interview, not a one-hour interview. They live, they come and live at our camp for nine days of an interview process. They're sleeping in our environment. We're really getting to know them. By the way, it's 12 days now, but started as nine days. So now I know if I fire somebody or if they leave, they're going to do fantastic. That was a big awakening for me.

1:27:07Steven Bartlett:But this idea that what's right for me is always right for the other person, what does it do? It frees you to know that the only place I have to go to get the answer to this question is in here. You don't want me messing around in your brain, trying to figure out what you want, trying to figure out what you believe, trying to figure out what's best for you. I've hurt more people in my life trying to figure out what's best for them than I've helped.

1:27:31Gavin de Becker:it is um it is remarkably true i was just sort of sense checking it against people where in one particular case where i had fired someone and they were very upset about it many many many years ago in a previous business very upset about it protested you know said some things to me and then years later five six ten years later when i reflect on where they are now and if that was the best thing for them as i kind of assumed it was to be honest they would say it was the best thing for them. I would say it was the best thing for them in hindsight, in part because when held in a situation that's not right for them, they're going to suffer in other ways.

1:28:07Gavin de Becker:Yeah. Under a standard.

1:28:08Steven Bartlett:Including your resentment.

1:28:09Gavin de Becker:My resentment, a standard they can't meet, goals they can't meet, the pressure from everybody, the stress when they can't sleep. Wrong job, of course. And yeah, and let them go and they started their own thing and less pressure, lower goals, less expectation. They seem to be much, much happier. And you. Oh, I'm much happier.

1:28:25Steven Bartlett:And you, yeah. Yeah, that's the, look, God only made you or the universe, whichever word you want to fit in there, only made you responsible for one person, truly responsible for one person. And that's you. And then that has, of course, all the ripple effects of what it does for the rest of the world. Even our children, by the way, are we responsible for them? Certainly not for life, right? Because in my case, I'm an older father. My first birth kid, I had a bunch of adopted kids, a bunch. I had eight. But my first birth kid, I was 52 years old. And so I'm an older father to my 17-year-old son.

1:28:58Steven Bartlett:I don't expect to be around when he's 50. I'll take it if it happens to be that way, but I would be de-fucking-crepit by that point. And I'd rather probably exit before that. But my point is the idea that even our children, we will not find the answer. Do I know what's best for my kids? Of course not. I have a lot of opinions. But, you know, do I really know what's best? No, but I know what's best for me. And that's really where my responsibility has to end. And Stephen, you asked me to boil it down to one. I gave you a special today of two. And I want to give you the third one that you haven't asked for.

1:29:37Steven Bartlett:And it's this. Everything you want is downstream. Everything you want is downstream. Meaning that time when we're swimming against the current and think, oh, if it's important, it's going to take all this work, et cetera, et cetera. There is no swimming upstream. downstream. Well, downstream always wins. Reality always wins. You know, when you swim upstream, you put enough current there and you're staying in the same place. And so the times in my life when I thought it must be this way, it has to be this, this is the only way I was wrong. I was wrong, including hiring a dear friend of mine told me the story of hiring a CEO for his company, big company.

1:30:15Steven Bartlett:And, and the guy said, I'll take the job. And they negotiated everything. And then the guy said, you know, I'm going to go to work for Pepsi Cola. And I'm sorry. And my friend got on an airplane and flew to the hotel and waited in the lobby of the hotel where he knew the guy was. Caught him in the lobby and said, don't go to work for them. Go to work for me. I'll change the offer in the following way. I'll add this equity. And he succeeded. And he got the CEO he wanted. And three weeks later, had to fire the fucker. So basically, when the whole universe says no, everything you want is downstream.

1:30:50Steven Bartlett:Now, you probably have some, you tell me, do you have some resistance to that idea?

1:30:56Gavin de Becker:I would say, I can think of examples where I fought for something and it was, I fought for a person or something, and it turned out to be a good decision. Should I give you the context?

1:31:09Steven Bartlett:I'd love to hear the context. But by the way, that doesn't defeat my argument, because fighting for something is not the same as swimming upstream. You know, swimming upstream is you know which way this river is going.

1:31:20Gavin de Becker:Oh, yeah. Yeah, that makes sense then.

1:31:22Steven Bartlett:Yeah. And so you asked what I would tell my kids is that everything you want is downstream. It kind of, you know, I've been so blessed or lucky, whatever word you want to use, or fortunate in my life that my work, you've got all these books as examples, I loved doing it. It wasn't work. I love, sometimes it's hard. But hard is not the same as like feeling like I'm just stamping something out in this factory, which would be a kind of hell for me, I guess. I loved, I was doing what I was on the planet to do. I think everybody isn't that lucky.

1:31:56Gavin de Becker:The example I was going to give you actually supports your voice. The story, yes.

1:31:59Steven Bartlett:Go ahead.

1:32:00Gavin de Becker:Me and my then girlfriend were dating for a year. We had an issue. I've been very open about this and newspapers write about it and stuff. But we had an issue with our intimate life and we couldn't really see a way around it. Broke up. She flew to Bali because we couldn't see a way to solve the problem. And then I carried on with my life and a year goes past. And I'm thinking constantly, I'm thinking, do you know what? I think actually that was the right person. I think I fucked up. I think I should have, maybe in my maturity, I like should have found a way to work through this problem. so I fly across the world to Bali for 18 hours and I go there to apologize to her for not handling the situation better in a more mature way I apologize I think there's part of me that's trying to get her back actually while we're there she does tell me that in the time we've been apart she's been with someone else and I take it all very very well I'm very mature and then while we're there I've noticed she's not trying she's not trying to like sit next to me so when we go for dinner with our friends.

1:32:59Gavin de Becker:She's like sitting two seats down. She's like, there's no interest in me anymore. So I accept it. And I tell her, I'm going home in two days time. Thank you so much for spending time. I sent her this nice text message. And then in the 48 hours before my flight, it's like we fell in love with each other again. So it supports your point because when I apologized, I came with no agenda. And then I said, I'm leaving. In the 48 hours from the point where I said, I'm off now, sent her a nice message. It's like we fell in love again. She's now my fiance. And that's been it. Congratulations to you both.

1:33:29Gavin de Becker:I don't know, it's been seven years or something. But it actually goes to show what you said. Now I thought it through. Because I thought flying was me fighting for something because of the example you gave. But actually, it was I apologized and I'd given up. I, like, stopped fighting.

1:33:40Steven Bartlett:That's the best. When you let it go. I let it go, yeah. And suddenly it happens. Yes, it does fit everything you want is downstream. In fact, that's not, you know, even getting on a plane is downstream. You didn't get on a plane that flies backwards or has no engines. That's what I'm talking about, is when you find yourself, and I certainly have in my life, find myself doing something that is so difficult to do and so unrewarding, and it feels like I'm trying to swim upstream, which I can tell you from experience in lots of rivers, some of them in Fiji, it doesn't work. You don't get a lot of mileage swimming upstream.

1:34:17Gavin de Becker:I was just going to ask, because this was such a smash hit bestselling book nationally, and I was just going to ask you the question, why? What is it that resonated with people that made this book so successful, The Gift of Fear, survival signals that protect us from violence? What is it?

1:34:34Steven Bartlett:That's a very good question. I mean, a good question in that it's a new question. I'll give you what I hope. I think if that book had been about Chinese pottery or about spices or any subject, carpentry, it also would have worked well because it had, by a number of blessings, it had some core truths in it. Like you didn't, one of the things I'm saying to them is forget about experts. You don't need an expert to be telling you things that are in your own body. If this story is resonant to you, if this experience from all these people that I interviewed is resonant to you, and if that works for you, then, you know, you'll find value here.

1:35:14Steven Bartlett:And there are some practical reasons why it was a bestseller, like Oprah doing it. I mean, everybody did it. Time Magazine, Newsweek, everybody did big things on the book. Why at that moment did that work out? I have a theory, which is that a lot of people in media knew me or knew of me, but I never had done anything public. And it took a lot of courage to do. And when I, for me, I talk about things that were very personal in that book and in the other books as well. And it took a lot of courage. In fact, I went and met with two authors beforehand who had told really hard stories about their lives.

1:35:51Steven Bartlett:And I didn't know them. I just asked for meetings. One of them was in D.C. And I got some encouragement. I also remember, by the way, meeting with a group of law enforcement officials who were at my company for some reason. And I told them a couple of stories from that book, childhood stories. And they were kind of aghast. Everybody was like, oh, it didn't stimulate any conversation at the table. I knew I was in a kind of territory that most people run away from. And that, too, helped me because I thought denial, denial, denial, denial, denial all around the table because every cop and every FBI agent has a story about why they are doing what they're doing, just like every doctor does, just like everybody does.

1:36:39Steven Bartlett:There's a reason that they're doing what they're doing that usually will be discoverable in childhood. And when they discover it, like who do you want, for example, for a heart surgeon? Do you want the heart surgeon whose grandfather died of a heart attack in his arms when he was 14 years old? Or do you want the one who said, heart surgery? Oh, the earnings look really good on heart surgery. I'll take heart surgery as my major. You know, you want the one with a core, with a story, a personal story.

1:37:08Gavin de Becker:We have a closing tradition where the last guest leaves a question for the next. And the question left for you, not knowing who they were leaving it for, is where do you think the origin of your purpose and meaning comes from objectively?

1:37:23Steven Bartlett:Okay, give me 25 minutes of silence. This is, I guess it's somewhat of a spiritual answer, which is that I believe in, I tend to go with everything is predetermined. Meaning down to the smallest tree, in the smallest town, in the smallest place, it's going to be, that's how it was going to be. Now I have a scientific version of this, which is that if you're, I remember one day I was in Fiji and I was swimming in front of my house and the water is just four feet deep in front of my house because it's on a reef, so you can walk on it. And then you get to the end of the reef, you get to the deep water.

1:38:09Steven Bartlett:And I was standing in the four-foot deep water, and suddenly a massive rainstorm came, just like the bop, bop, bop, you know, hitting you in the head, and then it stopped immediately. And immediately after that, this massive school of fish about this big just started jumping out of the water in front of me, and it's noisy. It's like, bop, bop, bop, bop, bop, bop, bop, bop, bop, as they were going around. And they go in a whole circle around me, and then they're gone. And immediately after this, the tide, which was rising, it goes up and down, as you know, twice a day, the tide really got strong where I was standing, and it was coming in as opposed to going out.

1:38:48Steven Bartlett:And so I was really like standing there like this. And I was looking around, and I thought, this better be enough stimulation for you, brother. Like I'd just seen the giant rainstorm and then the sun. the fish going nuts, and then this giant tide thing. And as soon as I thought that, a whale breached right off the reef, right? And I thought, holy shit, man, you are seeing one hell of a movie here. And then I thought, in fact, I dreamed that night that I was as if somebody had typed in, show me what it would be like to be standing on a reef in Fiji. There was no AI then, but to be standing on a reef in Fiji and have a massive school of fish go jumping up around you, have a huge storm begin, have it quickly get sunny, and then see a whale breach in front of you as you're trying to hold on to the reef is so strong you can barely stand up.

1:39:47Steven Bartlett:Show me what that's like, Google, and that I, Gavin, was like the eyes of God, universe, whatever it may be. That you could, like, what is it like to be a 42-year-old man who's had this diet this day, this trip out to the reef, this childhood, this experience? Is it all predetermined? And I do believe it is. And so the answer to that question is I believe it's out of my hands. I may get the choices, you know, is there free will? Something is presented to me, go left, go right. I might get the choice, but what is presented to me? What is presented to me is not up to me.

1:40:30Gavin de Becker:Are you telling me that life is consciousness trying to understand itself? Someone said that to me once and it was quite a compelling thought.

1:40:36Steven Bartlett:The idea was dropped into my skull so quickly like it was a journalistic report that said, here's the way the world works. something or somebody or everybody or everything types into Google what it wants to see. And occasionally you are the body that it works through. Because if the rest of the universe, and by the way, kind of interesting, this very moment we're in, Stephen, because that experience I had is now being relayed to a few million people courtesy of you and your question and that question in this podcast. So now you do know a little bit about what it's like to stand in the water with the current trying to pull you over and see a whole school of fish go around you and see a whale breach right in front of you and see this massive rainstorm come and go in a matter of minutes.

1:41:25Steven Bartlett:Now you get a little piece of that experience. Now do I think – here's the punchline. Do I think I created that experience? No fucking way. I don't. I think it's predetermined. And I think I said to you the scientific version is you're going to ask me this question and that's the answer you're going to get. That's what I believe. Based on what I ate today, based on what I ate 40 years ago, based on childhood, based on who you are and who I am, that's the answer you're going to get.

1:41:53Gavin de Becker:And who left the question.

1:41:54Steven Bartlett:And who left it and how their day was and what they ate that day and everything else. I believe in predetermination. It comes from a teacher of mine in India, my best teacher in life, Nisargadatta, wrote a book called I Am That, recommended to everybody. And then his student, who's now died, Ramesh Bhalsikhar, who I got to go see and spend time with in India, who was an important teacher for me, who basically said every day at 9 a.m. he had satsang in his house. Basically, people could come and ask questions. And he happened to be Indian, but it was sort of Buddhist in nature. And somebody said to him, well, are you just saying we're all robots?

1:42:33Steven Bartlett:And he said, yes, exactly correct. We're all robots. And then the person said, well, why should I even get out of bed in the morning? And he said, try it. Try and stay in bed. And he said, after a few days, you'll be up and about. You'll be doing something. You'll be motivated to do something. So that is my answer to your question, which obviously I only heard this second, and the answer only came this second.

1:42:59Gavin de Becker:Kevin, thank you. Thank you for opening my eyes in so many ways. You've written so many of these great books. All of them I'm going to link below. The newest one here is called Forbidden Facts, Government Deceit and Suppression About Brain Damage from Childhood Vaccines. There's another book about children here, Protecting the Gift, Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe and Parents Sane. The Gift of Fear, Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence.

1:43:18Steven Bartlett:And I think those are the only three you need to link. And my reason is these are kind of specialty books.

1:43:23Gavin de Becker:Okay, fine. So I'll link these below for everyone to see. I highly recommend checking all of Gavin's work out. And these are going to be in the comments section below if anyone wants to read more about some of the things we've touched on. You've touched on all these books today. But if you want to go deeper on any of these subjects, this is your opportunity to do so. And is there anywhere else people can go to find you if they're interested in your...

1:43:42Steven Bartlett:I mean, our website is gdba.com and probably gavindebecker.com works. The website is, I don't even solicit new clients. We don't have any marketing or anything like that. The website is there for one purpose, which is attracting candidates for employment because we are hiring a lot of people all the time. So that's what the website does. But there may be other information there that's valuable for people. I don't know.

1:44:05Gavin de Becker:Well, if anyone's young and fit, strong, and wants to work with Gavin, then I'll link the website below as well to see all of the jobs available. Gavin, thank you so much. It's certainly, I mean, there's so many things that have blown my mind, but one of the most important things for me is actually just this lesson about intuition. And that to listen to it more and to be more upfront with people when my intuition is telling me something. Because you're right. I think we're all very good at tuning the volume of our intuition down. And society kind of teaches us to gaslight ourselves and double guess.

1:44:40Gavin de Becker:Gavin, thank you.

1:44:41Steven Bartlett:Thank you, too. And thanks for what you're doing. You are one of my teachers as well. Young man. I get to say it's 71.

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