6 Questions to Think About Today | How to Find New Passions When Your Dream Ends

0:00This is the Gary Vee Audio Experience. hey guys before we go into today's podcast the show that you all adore or at least according to my mom is back tomorrow at 9 a.m eastern tea with gary v tomorrow tea with gary v is back tomorrow uh at 9 a.m eastern live on all my socials and now enjoy today's podcast what is the biggest misconception that people have in regards to what it takes to be a successful entrepreneur? The biggest misconception is actually the two extremes. People either think that you have to work super hard every minute and you gotta grind in 10 years or that it's easy and lucky and people stumbled into it when in reality it's a massive self-awareness game of the two which is of course talent but work ethic but then one has to deploy it on self-awareness on themselves.

0:55So I think the misconceptions sit on the two extremes. people got lucky that's why they're a successful entrepreneur or they fucking like worked every second the reality is is what I get done in eight hours is better than other people get done in eight hours so it's not how many hours it's what you do within those hours those are the misconceptions hey Gary this is Adam my question for you is what do you do when you feel like you're plateauing in your business you had success for a while and then you start to plateau how do you motivate yourself to keep going and keep pushing Adam, a couple things.

1:28One, I hate the Patriots and Celtics, so you're sure. Second, but I love people from Boston. It's just a sports thing. Second, there's a lot of things to this. The reality is we have to be humble, self-aware, and honestly, compassionate to ourselves. When you're hitting a plateau, it's not about motivation. I don't want to be like a rah-rah guy for all of you out there. I don't mind it, but those are like little bursts. That's not sustainable. Sustainability comes from clarity. Clarity is like, why have I hit this plateau? Is this only as good as I am? Nobody really wants to go there, but like talent is part of the process.

2:05Back to a lot of themes. Have I gone too hard for too long and I just need a break? Like maybe this is the summer for a lot of you to just enjoy it. Because you've gone too hard for four years and like you've got to a place where you've plateaued and maybe the plateau is happening from you needing a little break. Think about working out. You know, the people that really know shit, they talk about rest days. Like you can't pump iron seven days a week and expect gains. Your body needs rest. Well in the macro of building a business or your project sometimes you just need a rest day and that might just be a rest summer.

2:36Maybe this is 2023 rest summer for the people plateaued. But this goes back to nuances. I want to make sure real quick while I'm making this video for the people that are crushing and ascending this is not rest summer. This is continue to squeeze the living shit out of it because you haven't plateaued summer. Right? And so like where people are not strong as being contextual. To find out why you've plateaued, there's a hundred reasons why. It's nuances. In these split screens, answering these questions, it's nuanced. Maybe you're burnt out. Maybe you're only so talented and you should do something else.

3:07Maybe it's the fact that there's more competition and you need to wait for more demand to come in. Maybe there'll never be more demand and it's a fad and you should jet the fuck out of the whole thing. There's a lot of reasons one may plateau. Maybe you haven't focused on culture and your team is not working as hard for you because now they figured out that you're a dick, not an innovator. Could be a lot of things. There's like literally 900 answers to that. I can literally think of 45 different reasons that a company would plateau. Look at the one that I just used at the end. Maybe it's just your company's plateaued because nobody around you believes in you anymore because they've sniffed out your bullshit.

3:42You're not a genius. You're just a dick face. Maybe you fell in love. Boston boy. Gary, my question for you is, for a lot of athletes, when that dream ends, how do you find a new passion to equivalent that dream? Look, I think this is something I've been very passionate about. I feel so bad for people when a dream dies. And by the way, there's a small group of people in the world that it's around athletics. What about the majority of people who are straight A students or good students and the dream ends the day you're done with college and you're like, oh fuck, good grades in school means nothing in real life.

4:18Like dreams die all the time. And so for athletes, I think you gotta find another competitive outlet. I think the thing that really hurts athletes specifically is how much they enjoyed the competitiveness of it. And so that's why entrepreneurship and business has been so big. One of my favorite things about the last 20 years that entrepreneurship became a thing is it became a place that athletes can go when the dream dies. Or when the dream dies out of retirement. The amount of athletes now that don't have to be in depression at 38 after having a great career and what do they do with themselves?

4:48They don't want to golf. They don't want to coach. They don't want to be a sports commentator. A lot of them are going into business. I know a lot of these athletes and it's been beautiful to watch because I probably went to business because I couldn't be an athlete because they're close enough. You know what I mean? And so I think for all of us, whether it's sports or how I'm making this a bigger video, which is especially for all of you where you realize the dream is over. Like school doesn't guarantee you real life success. You got to reset and you got to find outlets of what you liked. If you loved learning, maybe you should go into strategy and research and consumer behavior because you get to be curious.

5:21So there's a lot of cool stuff like that. What do you say to people who are scared of AI? How can they embrace it and use it for their business? By realizing they have no fucking choice. If you're scared of AI, I have bad news. You lost. AI is not going back into some weird genie. You know, what do I say? I have no interest in confusing people. By the way, all these comments were like, when I'm putting out A-stop, they're like, oh, you're getting supported by the AI. like there is no AI fucking Illuminati. I'm not getting supported by anybody in AI. This is what you all said to me a decade ago of like Facebook, you know, every time, every time, nobody's supporting me.

6:00I want to be historically correct. You know who's supporting me? Me. I'm supporting my fucking self by being right historically. And so it's not a very tough bet to think AI is going to be a big part of life. It's the easiest bet I've ever made. It's a profound technology. I'm a human being. I'm plenty scared like all of you are. Like what does this mean? and deep fake videos and I've got plenty of anxieties. I have anxieties about everything. Just like any other human being. I just don't let them control me like so many people. They sit equally to my optimism. The internet scared people. Cars scared people.

6:36Tractors scared people. Everything scares people. Social media scared everyone. You know, like, so there's pros and cons to everything. You can choose to make it a con and be cynical or you can choose to make it a pro and be optimistic. You decide, but what do I say? I say nothing, I really don't actually care. I don't talk, I don't try to convince any individual person on this. I put out content to be historically correct, but I'm like, what do I say? Nothing, like, you don't wanna use AI, good. People didn't wanna use the iPhone, they eventually did. I knew people that told me they wouldn't use the internet, they did.

7:07People didn't wanna use email, they did. Technology beats you every time, all your hot takes always lose to actual technology. AI's actual technology.

7:20Hi, Gary, Max here. I have a question for you. So I really love what you say about patience, right? And I think that I'm quite a patient person. One thing that I can't quite figure out for myself is that my impatience comes from my desire to impress my grandma. And that's been kind of my driver since I was a kid. So even though I am patient for myself, I'm impatient because I want to see her, I want her to see me win and like do well and know that I'm like not a failure and I'm cool and I have impact and all these things so I really can't figure out what to do I love it what a great great great question cool news legit grandmas and when I say legit grandmas I mean grandmas who are wonderful and have good intent not or hurt themselves and are hurting a family really don't give a shit about these accolades you're chasing they only want you to be healthy and happy and you chasing your dream is the happy not getting the trophy for what you think you need to accomplish.

8:20She's already proud of you, bro. She's already proud of you. You already accomplished what you're trying to accomplish. Parents and grandparents and great-grandparents that have great intent are wise. They've lived. And you know what they know? The trophy of winning the race doesn't impress them as much as the training for the race and the running of the race. That's real life. And so good news, brother. You've already impressed your grandma. You've already accomplished it. She already knows you're good. Promise. It's real too. It's not only good, it's real. We all, we don't even realize it's actually selfish.

8:53We even subconsciously or consciously know that what I just said is right. But we create a thing within ourselves. No, it's not for me. I want my grandma to see I made, no you don't. And it's not in a bad way. You just don't realize that's what you're doing. Your grandma doesn't need to see your Mercedes or your Rolex or your$10 million bank account. She really doesn't. what up G I'm in the office right now my question for you is working with family as someone that is a younger brother what advice would you give me bringing on my older brother to help me with my content creating and media production company any advice let's go my guy this is a fucking tough one like for a million different reasons family dynamics are real so you know even being the older brother bringing in a younger brother comes with a ton of baggage you've got an extra one because the natural way of things the older brother's gonna have all sorts of feelings even if he's the most humble dude of all time there's still some sort of like animalistic like I'm the older brother what the fuck kind of thing going on so A bro you have to and this is the answer to everybody the only way family businesses ever work is when everyone in the equation has empathy and compassion for the other people's feelings when the kid comes in and actually has like understanding that your parents grinded this for 30 years and came from nothing and you can't just walk in because you went to college and think you run shit.

10:20And make sure you're empathetic to the employees that have been there for 20 years and like you come in and now you're their boss. Like they fucking built that place. On the flip side, parents in that scenario have to be like, yo, the kid's coming in with fire and wants to like prove themselves and you gotta give them a little room. If you're micromanaging, they'll never, and so for you personally, A, you have to have empathy for your brother. It's gonna be a challenge. B, for everyone listening, you have to love your family more than the money C, all of you are gonna have ego and feelings all of you and you need to understand that and calibrate it D, no matter how much you fight try to end every night with like that was fucked up but fuck it we're family let's like be better tomorrow right like that like you could have had the biggest fight of all time but before you both go to sleep this is good relationship advice but definitely in family businesses I think it's even easier than like personal relationships even if it was like the worst day and you literally like fuck you, no fuck you at work, before you close your eyes that night, even if that fight happened at 4 p.m.

11:17and it's 11.30 p.m., just like muster up being the bigger person and texting and be like, yo bro, I know today wasn't great, but like we're fam over this. Like we don't even need to have this business. We're fam. Like understanding that, like that's really real. So like, you know, being patient, you know, when you're the leader and you're bringing in a family member, you gotta teach them. If this podcast has ever meant anything to you, please go to Spotify or Apple right now and leave a review. by the way, even if you give me a one star review because you think it's shit, I respect it but just leave a review, an actual review four or five stars and the actual details of why yeah, that would mean something for me so thanks